Comments by "Leo" (@Leoo117) on "Being right doesn't matter: winning the battle to lose the war" video.

People you have to walk on eggshells around don't make good relationship partners. The problem was the personality of that particular woman and her unaddressed insecurities. The problem isn't with women ingeneral. Like men, they have different personalities. The good news is that you can be more aware of that behavior and choose someone that doesn't freak out when you're honest.
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You're not overthinking it. You just caught on and can see past the smoke and mirrors, which I think is unintentional. He also says a lot of extremely obvious common sense stuff like, "a woman won't date you unless she likes you." And many times I find that he usually gets a little truth mixed in with extremely bad and misleading info. Like here, he says not to brag about winning, but he promotes it as a "strategy" instead of actually promoting it as a personality quality of being humble that would be good to practice within ourselves. So by calling it a strategy, he maintains an air of manipulation and haughtiness, as if he is above others and must tame them. It's just patronizing and disingenuous, but I don't think he realizes he comes off that way, because he ultimately is always trying to avoid being vulnerable by using his intelligence to find a way around having to be vulnerable. This issue with that is a person can never truly be confident if they aren't willing to be vulnerable, and you end up being manipulative instead of genuine.
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@MikeLeed Definitely, in that particular context. But to be honest, looking at personal relationships as winning and losing is a mistake anyway. That perspective gets in the way of pursuing peace with your partner and paying attention to how they are feeling in the moment. Good leaders have to notice that stuff. Thinking that you have to win in a personal relationship is just trying to force yourself to stay above your partner, which is a haughty mindset, which is ultimately unnattractive.
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@MikeLeed It's just for the entertainment factor which doesn't apply to personal relationships. Imagine if you were the one who lost and he kept rubbing the win in your face every time he talked to you. You'd eventually get annoyed. You'd start to feel like you were talking to a child that needs this brag in order to feel good about himself.
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Well you're basically saying to be humble. If you become humble as a part of your personality, you find that life is so much easier and getting what you want comes easily. Part of humility is NOT bragging about your win like a desperate child in need of validation. Part of humility is having the courage to say what you believe to be correct, but also giving the freedom to the other person to believe what they want and being OK with it. A humble person is also ok with being wrong and completely ok with it. You would be surprised how much smoother life goes for you when this is not just a strategy you employ, but it becomes your default mindset. Your personality.
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