Comments by "Leo" (@Leoo117) on "The beam in your own: you're not working hard enough" video.

  1. True. This video just seems like he is looking for reasons to dismiss legitimate criticisms of himself. Which is pretty normal for most people because most people are avoidant like that. Or I could be wrong, and maybe he just genuinely feels like hard work equals the answer to everything. But I just feel like he says stuff like that so he could avoid looking at different perspectives. Because if someone criticized his workout stats, that would be wrong because he is literally working on it the proper way, but if they critiqued some of his advice, it would be legitimate because much of his advice is literally toxic and he isn't doing the work to look at things in a more healthy manner.
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  2. ​@RussellDeacon That's because material success or literal hard work isn't what determines someone's bad or critical attitude. Orion's advice about that is incomplete. It's their own fears and insecurities that they have not addressed, and people like that like to make themselves feel above others by putting them down in order to make themselves TEMPORARILY feel better about themselves. Thats that guy's issue. So you are doing the right thing by setting a boundary and just not associating with this man who refuses to respect you.
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  3. I'd say when it comes to physical fitness, it is pointless to correct you because you are already doing the hard work and literally living the solution to get those better stats. You've successfully removed any beam you might have had in that regard. When it comes to the advice you give sometimes though, you haven't done the work in order to see if you have the truth or not, so you mislead people because that beam remains there in that regard. Self-reflection is what is required to remove that beam, and you yourself have literally spoken out against self-reflection. Thats worth thinking about.
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  4. ​@AmeliorateAhmed Not necessarily. I've seen many people take the absolute wrong lesson from their experiences and keep making things unnecessarily hard on themselves as a result. Guidance from someone who actually knows what they are talking about is the best teacher I'd say.
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  5. Well, all you would be doing is accepting reality. He left, and to accept that means to accept honest reality. When we want reality to be different than it really is, we suffer unnecessarily more than we have to. Also, accepting that he left sooner will help you recover sooner, which means that if he ever decided to come back, you can approach it objectively as a woman with self-respect, which can help you look at his intent with a clear mind. To know if he is genuine or not.
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