Comments by "Leo" (@Leoo117) on "The SUPERFICIALITY of DESIRE: we're shallow and we can work with it" video.
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It's true that people are generally superficial. It's good to take care of ourselves, and the ones that do not only are more attractive, but it also speaks to a certain kind of discipline they have about them, which is NOT superficial.
It's ok to look at the outside superficial, but when a person completely gives into that and makes their decisions mostly based on superficial things, that is when they tend to have issues. That woman who rejected you due to you not having an apartment couldn't see your value, because she was so focused on a superficial aspect of you. You were a man in college actively pursuing his goals and her not having the discipline to look at other things besides the superficial caused her to miss something that wasn't superficial and was actually awesome. So she actually filtered herself out of your life, because you don't want someone that only knows superficiality anyway.
It's similar with a man focusing only on a woman's beauty, and completely missing all the red flags as a result, then complaining later when she treats him bad. So eating right and keeping oneself in shape is not insignificant or petty at all, because it says a lot about a person. It just isn't the only thing that matters, and focusing ONLY on the superficial things on the outside causes problems for us.
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