Comments by "Leo" (@Leoo117) on "Dad Saves America" channel.

  1. It's not that it was mundane or boring. The quiet and peace makes us think and self-reflect on things, so she was probably afraid to self-reflect due to the pain she felt might come with that. Bugging out helps prevent thinking or self-reflection. It's an unhealthy behavior that keeps us in a state of suffering, all because of a fear of potential emotional pain. They don't know this, but the pain that comes with that self-reflection is very brief. It really just ends up being a relief for us.
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  2. You're missing the balance and are going into an extreme yourself. Giving a child a plastic cup is essential so they don't get hurt. When you as the parent NOTICE they are not clumsy anymore, you can start letting them try using a glass. Too early means getting hurt, and too late could potentially cause a phobia. Words hurt people like crazy. You ever heard people say they don't feel like they're "enough"? This is because they were torn down with WORDS as kids. Not protecting them from disrespect doesn't teach resilience, it enables trauma, which makes them WEAK. Now, you can teach them the proper way of how to deal inside with the emotional pain that comes with put downs in order to make them strong, but subjecting them to more put downs makes them weak. And permission is important, but taking initiative to do things on your own, is much different than asking for permission for something that doesn't belong to you or you know will result in consequences if you break the rules. So the premise on this is wrong. You meant, "take initiative". Safety is important, but being safe in general is different from being "safe" emotionally. One is being caring for yourself and everyone around you, and one is not truly saftey, its actually fear, and we have to be careful not to accidentally instill fear of emotional vulnerability. Many parents teach that because they are fearful of vulnerability themselves. The emotionally vulnerability to try something new on their own for example even though it could go wrong. This doesn't have to involve breaking laws or being a rebel. You definitely got it right with the lesson on not seeing people as good and evil. That was awesome. The issue with that is there are many forces at play in this world that like to instill this mentality in adults so they are easy to manipulate. You see a lot of that all over the place in politics as an example. On all sides. So thats something that we as ADULTS must still be careful to not accidentally adopt such a mentality.
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