Comments by "Leo" (@Leoo117) on "Big Think" channel.

  1. Well, not making eye contact has to do with an insecurity, not one's gender.
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  2. ok lol. Good point. I'm speaking from personal experience here. I had a girlfriend who was uncomfortable making eye contact. She eventually started overcoming her discomfort and starting practicing it after I mentioned it. I've had another girlfriend who made constant eye contact. Some male friends I have like to make lots of eye contact, and I know one guy that literally looks pass me when we talk. I personally like to maintain eye contact to help me really listen to what someone is saying. It took practice to get there though, because I used to feel uncomfortable with a longer period of eye contact. That ultimately was an insecurity or discomfort with intimacy. I knew another guy who used to view eye contact as disrespect due to where he grew up, and he eventually learned that was not the correct perspective. So it really just varies among everyone due to their comfort with intimacy or closeness. Eye contact is kind of a bonding and intimate thing. It isn't necessarily romantic or sexual. Many people are not comfortable with bonding with another person or feeling that type of platonic OR romantic intimacy with them because of how they grew up. It's something that can be practiced and learned though. She mentioned how people evolved with these habits, but she basically explained that people were raised that way due to their environments, which means if the very next generation was raised differently, their eye contact habits would be different. Also, she didn't exactly offer proof herself. She spoke from her own experiences and beliefs and things that she noticed herself.
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