Youtube comments of Leo (@Leoo117).

  1. It's super easy as a man to attract a woman when you aren't truly interested in her, because you don't care what she does, so you're being more of your usual masculine self, so you effortlessly give her enough room for her feelings to grow. When a man is truly interested in a woman, or adores her, he has to actually exercise some self-control and self-respect, because he tends to treat the one he wants a little differently than the others by reaching out too often and by other little things when interacting with her. This causes her to lose attraction and it gets in the way of the growth of her romantic feelings, because he essentially acts more feminine than her. This is why it seems to us men that the ones we like don't like us, but the ones we don't like always like us. Its due to our behavior. So with a little self-control and self-respect and being conscious of vetting the woman and seeing if she is good for us and treating her the same as we would any other woman, we can indeed have the woman we adore while also being adored by her. It's possible. Adoration doesn't equal pedestalization. It just has us acting less than our authentic selves sometimes without realizing it if we are not careful.
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  2. He wasn't. He just corrected them on a few things. They called him disrespectful in order to distract from the fact that he was correct and they were being dishonest. It was a desperate and common move many haughty and irresponsible people make when they don't want to admit they are wrong.
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  3. I think this idea of "outgrowing" a relationship is a fallacy. Its ultimately a lame excuse to just give up. Giving up is really what it is. I say this because we all literally constantly change. The couples that last forever learn to accept each other, compromise and always make room and time for each other. In other words, they consistently put in effort, and they both keep seeking peace with one another, so any lows don't last too long. It takes self-control and learning how to actually be a healthy partner and to look out for your partner's interests instead of thinking only of your own. Granted, in the cases of a partner growing into a more healthy partner while the other partner is still stuck on consistent unhealthy and hurtful habits like drugs or a lack of self-control or something would actually be considered outgrowing them. That would be a legitimate use of the word. I just think many people use this term as an excuse, when really they just didn't want to put forth effort and figured it would just be easier to leave. Or they value something else more than their partner at the moment like a job or money or a place or being single. People are allowed to do these things, but its better to be honest about it, rather than call it outgrowing.
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  4. Goes to show that if someone is rude enough to not close their door when they know you're there, you really shouldn't insist on parking next to them because they are already treating you bad from the beginning. Better to just swallow your pride, humble yourself, and go find another spot. It's that pride that causes unnecessary problems like this and causes us to put ourselves in bad situations. So just let it go. You're stronger for letting it go.
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  5. He is actually right about that. Believe it or not, women who feel comfortable in their femininity are willing to let their man lead them in a healthy and loving way, because its natural for them. This does not make them less in any way, and their input, opinions, and voice still have immense value. Also, this doesn't mean that same woman wasn't independent before, so she isn't depending on him for happiness, but rather just wanting to feel feminine with him, as long as he is willing to take a healthy lead which is masculine. This, in turn creates sexual polarity, as long as it is done with deep respect.
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  6. ​ @dr.jenniferma3914  I believe women feel extra hurt when rejected because they take it to mean something personal about their attractiveness. It's an insecurity. Women initiating is probably the best and most natural thing. Any man that doesn't like a woman to initiate is also suffering from an insecurity.
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  7. A woman or a man that is open to another romantic prospect while still in a relationship belongs to the streets. That is basically a disloyal person that has no integrity. The only real value they are following is what their heart feels in that moment, and our heart is not necessarily the best guide to follow.
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  8. It's true that people are generally superficial. It's good to take care of ourselves, and the ones that do not only are more attractive, but it also speaks to a certain kind of discipline they have about them, which is NOT superficial. It's ok to look at the outside superficial, but when a person completely gives into that and makes their decisions mostly based on superficial things, that is when they tend to have issues. That woman who rejected you due to you not having an apartment couldn't see your value, because she was so focused on a superficial aspect of you. You were a man in college actively pursuing his goals and her not having the discipline to look at other things besides the superficial caused her to miss something that wasn't superficial and was actually awesome. So she actually filtered herself out of your life, because you don't want someone that only knows superficiality anyway. It's similar with a man focusing only on a woman's beauty, and completely missing all the red flags as a result, then complaining later when she treats him bad. So eating right and keeping oneself in shape is not insignificant or petty at all, because it says a lot about a person. It just isn't the only thing that matters, and focusing ONLY on the superficial things on the outside causes problems for us.
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  9. In other words, this describes lust vs. love. Giving into lust is basically allowing ourselves to be led around by our libido like a wild animal. We have to keep that lust under control, because that is how we hurt others and hurt ourselves, and prevent ourselves from finding a true connection.
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  10. I wouldn't blame "Modern dating." The real problem is how many of us are raised. Many of us are raised without proper love and attention and being taught the proper values. Therefore, we adopt the wrong values and look only for ways to make us feel better, and that can lead to very toxic perspectives and allow us to take in toxic teachings, and sometimes, we end up putting our worth entirely on our partner. On top of that, most people refuse to be humble in adulthood, and humility is required to heal the issues that caused toxic perspectives in us in the first place.
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  11. The only true way out of it is to humble yourself, and admit that you don't know everything, or that you could be wrong about your beliefs when an honest challenge comes up that makes sense. Face the fear that you might not know as much as you thought you knew. Do not run from that discomfort and that fear. I guarantee that this is literally the only way out of the constant projection of our beliefs and its the only way to truly step into reality. Humility leads to true wisdom. There is a saying by Confucius that says "real knowledge is to know the extent of one's own ignorance". In other words, the prideful and the haughty keep themselves blind and cannot truly learn anything. Thats why pride really does come before destruction, and a haughty spirit before stumbling. That's a proverb from the bible that backs that up. Thats why the issue you mentioned is so prevalent. Most people in this world refuse to humble themselves.
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  12. Well women can't FEEL attraction to a man over a dating app. They can only feel an attraction to a man in person, because her attraction is mostly dependent on the man's BEHAVIOR. This is why men don't get as many likes frim women. The people that complain about this haven't made the effort to humble themselves and look at the fact that its their own behavior that is getting in their way. Also, lots of men depend too much on dating applications and don't overcome their fear of talking to a woman they like in PERSON. So the solution to this problem is to look at one's own behavior and how it effects their romantic prospects and not just blame all women or all men. Basically, take responsibility for oneself.
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  13. It's not really a tool. It's more of a subconscious thing everyone does that shows what is in their own heart. For example, if you know you always have good intentions to always do the right things, you will be more inclined to believe that about others also. So sometimes we all have to make a conscious effort to view reality as it is, and not just project what we would do or how we feel, because thats the natural thing to do.
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  14. You can only get bored of each other if one person or both people stop putting in the effort toward one another and choose to only self-indulge. Taking an interest in your partners things and doing the things that they like with them, is part of actual love and being in a relationship. If someone doesn't do this, it's not because they got bored, its because they selfishly stopped putting in the effort. Relationships take effort toward one another on both people's parts to maintain in the long-term. If they end up leaving for someone else just because they get that initial new attraction with them, then this is due to the fact that they are impulsive and don't value loyalty at all and don't know how to be in a lasting relationship.
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  15. That's a case of bad association. Some people put other's down to make themselves feel better about their own sadness. It's the wrong thing to do, but all you can do is stay away from people like this.
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  16. That was a self-fulfilling prophecy. What you focus on, comes true. So you focused so much on your fear, that your behavior subtly showed up in ways that make your fears come true. The solution is to face the fear. The fear you run from gets bigger, but the fear you look at disappears. I know it's not easy, but picture yourself getting rejected. Sure it doesn't feel good at first, but you'll always recover and you'll always be able to try again with someone else, and you'll be proud of yourself for trying.
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  17. ​@Anne Smith Hang around hateful people, and you'll develop hateful and bitter mindsets. This includes the internet. There are actually healthy people out there that actually LIKE other people and have compassion and goodwill. It'll be extra hard to find them if you keep associating with hateful people and inadvertently taking on their mindsets.
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  18. Any woman that has a plan B belongs to the streets, man. That is an integrity issue. Women like that have never truly committed to the relationship in the first place. Also, it's extremely unhealthy for anyone to get into another relationship so quickly, so that particular woman that jumps from one to another is not ready for a healthy relationship. This is not all women, though. This goes for men as well. The solution is learning to properly vet your romantic interest. Men always have options, they just don't know it, because they don't understand the power they hold. Also, women are generally the ones being chosen and approached, so this makes it easy for them, whereas the men are doing the approaching. It takes more effort to do the initiating, and if they do nothing, nothing happens for them due to them being the leaders. Also, women leave most of the time due to a loss of attraction for an extended period of time. The man gets complacent, stops being his masculine self that she fell in love with, and she loses attraction because of it. Most people don't understand that actual love and loyalty transcends romantic attraction for men and women. Love isn't just the feelings. It includes loyalty. Love is the actions that are taken, EVEN when the feelings are not there in the moment. This is not an excuse to be complacent and let ourselves go. It just means that actual love cuts through those imperfections that we all have. Most are not taught this, so they don't understand it, and they don't have an example of it. We are taught to follow our hearts in this world, and that isn't good advice. Our heart gets us into trouble, and often has us regretting our decisions. It's like being feral without any guidance. At the end of the day, we are only human. Even when we know better, making the right choices can be hard, but that is where we decide on how much integrity we have.
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  19. @Javi Lo  I threw in self-respect, because we have to respect ourselves first in order to make sure we are being treated properly and with respect by all others. If we treat ourselves with respect, we won't hang around others that treat us less than we treat ourselves. It takes self-respect to notice when a woman isn't reciprocating your interest and you aren't being treated how you'd like to be treated. You HAVE to have respect for yourself in order to not continue going forward in that situation. Going all in to chase a woman or ask her out on a date, even when she shows very little enthusiasm to talk to you, is putting yourself in a position to be treated bad or with disrespect. A person with self-respect would notice the low enthusiasm or low interest, and decide not to take things further. A person that respects themselves will be able to properly vet a woman by noticing her behavior toward him and others, EVEN when he feels strong romantic feelings towards her. Women tend to notice when you won't accept any bad or low effort treatment, and this tends to raise their attraction to you, so thats why it makes you more masculine. It's like you are someone strong and sturdy that they cannot push around or treat however they want and still expect to keep your attention, which helps them to feel safe with you.
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  20.  @rorytriscuit  Its a learned behavior to initially avoid abuse that is currently happening, which is basically trauma. It becomes a disorder because that behavior gets carried into adulthood and applied consistently, even with people who are not abusers. That mindset gets applied, even when there is no reason to apply it anymore. So good relationships end up being sabotaged because of it. The good news is that with some work, it can be unlearned, and proper boundaries can be set.
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  21.  @JenLovesBenz  Your exhaustion likely is a result of stress and feeling overwhelmed. My wife has this issue also. Now, when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. For example, you said that your life cannot start yet. This is a negative outlook. A more positive outlook and the truth would be that your life is happening right now. It has already started. You are now a good mother of beautiful children that you get to raise. This is a lovely life to have, because you get to be with them and teach them things and show them love and talk and listen to and connect with them. Also, if you allow your child to sleep with you, don't allow him to kick you off of your bed or take the majority of it from you. Its YOUR bed and he needs to know that. If he wants to sleep with mommy, he has to share appropriately. Wake him up and move him if you have to, but allowing that is kind of like giving him authority over you, which isn't good. Subtle stuff like that makes a difference. You'd just be teaching him to be considerate of others around him.
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  22. You got it half right. Good man. Gotta let people be free to go. Although, you actually DO want people to feel "too safe" as you put it, because then they show their true colors, which makes it much easier and faster to vet them and their true personality. Fear is not the basis of respect. Thats a dictatorship. People cannot feel free by feeling fear. True respect is given freely without being scared or forced.
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  23. Fear does not equal respect. If someone is treating you well only because they are afraid of you in some capacity, they are not respecting you. They are FEARING you. A person that truly respects you is going to respect you at ALL times, even at your weakest and most vulnerable. It's toxic to yourself to hang around those that have to fear you in order to treat you correctly. This way, it's not a paradox.
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  24. It's better to just stay away from these people or don't even argue. Just say the truth once, and walk away. They ignore reality, and as a result, they make themselves more unhappy. If you let them pull you in to their unhappy and argumentative world, you'll be unhappy also. A person can ignore reality, but they cannot ignore the consequences of ignoring reality.
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  25. That mindset will get you rejected. You believe that, so your behavior acts in line with that belief, and you subconsciously exhibit behavior that keeps you from bring liked. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy. So change your mindset to a learning mindset and start learning how you might have shown up in the wrong way.
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  26. This whole experiment is just a case of bad association. We are all influenced by those we associate with. So if someone does bad things, or is rude and mean, and we hang around them a lot, we are likely to ruin our good habits and pickup their bad habits. Its almost inevitable. I remember a bible scripture that says that bad association spoils useful habits. So its important for us to be careful with whom we associate with. This is really what his experiment proved.
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  27. Don't know about this one doc. The impurities you mentioned do indeed stand in the way of love. They are basically a result of insecurity and fear, but they are present in both women and men. Its a universal problem we have to individually address within ourselves. Also, i think your tree analogy is a little off. Small trees somehow get the nutrients and the sunlight they need to grow big in the first place. So really, its as if the rest of the forest shares its nutrients with the smaller, softer and weaker ones. So really, we should be more like the forest where we show love to one another, no matter how soft or weak, in order to help one another grow strong.
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  28. It's extra sad, because Trevor won't actually ever acknowledge the corporate greed, because him and his team work for these type of people, similar to all of the politicians. So in a way, Trevor is selling his integrity for a paycheck as well. Although, if he refuses to sell his integrity, he'll be kicked off the air and replaced with someone else willing to sell their integrity. Not that this makes it ok or anything. Don't get me wrong, he is a funny guy, but it's basically guaranteed that there are certain truths like the one you mentioned here that he will never bring up. He basically lies by omission to maintain his career. Similar to politicians.
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  29. In other words, they were traumatized and they dealt with that trauma in the wrong and toxic way, because they went on to traumatize others with their new and skewed world view. Therefore, he keeps himself from finding a healthy woman that shares his values. The solution is to not let a person's bad treatment of you completely dictate your moral compass and your life choices.
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  30. "Most people don't listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” –Stephen R. Covey. People that do this prevent themselves from improving and learning and growing.
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  31.  @angiep8708  Femininity is not only in deference to men, but it mixes very well with masculinity, beautifully in fact, and it was the topic of the comment that I responded to.
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  32. I think you have a point, but it's not defined enough, and can be taken too many different ways. I think roles in romantic relationships are built in, and it's mostly natural to follow those roles. I believe what you are referring to with not being ourselves is our imperfections and our tendency to want to slack, be lazy, or think of ourselves and not consider the other person. Sometimes, it's just pride that gets in the way or the fact that we feel uncomfortable with a certain vulnerability that we aren't used to showing. These toxic things can be natural for us and are part of who we are due to being imperfect and raised certain ways. The good news is that we can change these things within ourselves. So overall, being our natural selves is a good thing, because we aren't exhausting ourselves by putting up a facade, BUT we have to take into consideration our imperfections. For example, I've decided years ago to make an effort to practice being myself at ALL times, wherever I go and with whatever I do and around ALL people. Ever since I've began doing this, I've felt so much happier and more free and more energetic and more confident. It works wonders. Now, I have to hold my tongue sometimes though, because perhaps a leader at work might be extremely inefficient and unwilling to listen, which angers me. Or maybe my natural inclination is to be lazy at work that day. Or perhaps I don't feel like spending time with my girlfriend, because I want too much alone time to focus on other things. To your point, THESE are imperfections that are natural for me that I have to be aware of and exercise self-control with in order to maintain my happiness and my relationships. So be ourselves, but be aware of and temper our imperfections. Not doing this and just following our hearts carelessly can lead to disaster. It really takes some humility.
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  33. So did sending the picture work the way you thought it would? You went from speaking in the past tense as if this already happened, to the present tense as if it's happening now, and then the future tense as if it hasn't happened at all.
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  34. The ladies meant that she loved you when she WAS with you. Not now. They say that because of her strong emotional response to not being with you. She wasn't loving you when she was antagonizing you. She was acting out in anger because she couldn't get what she wanted from you. This is an improper, unhealthy and low self-control response to anger. It isn't love. Also, the comment above had interesting advice. Act feminine with her and be all over her with too much affection like she is your only priority in life, and you'll turn her off to the point of her being glad she isn't with you. I've never thought of that. What a simple way to deal with that type of thing lol. Its manipulative though and it requires dishonesty, so there is no guarantee that would work, and if she has a scarcity mindset or has an unhealthy attachment or is just extremely loyal to you, she might just stick around even though she is turned off and doesn't like your behavior. So you'll be taking a chance. Then she'll be even more mad that you left because she stuck with you, even though you turned her off. So I think honesty like you've been doing is actually best.
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  35. People you have to walk on eggshells around don't make good relationship partners. The problem was the personality of that particular woman and her unaddressed insecurities. The problem isn't with women ingeneral. Like men, they have different personalities. The good news is that you can be more aware of that behavior and choose someone that doesn't freak out when you're honest.
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  36.  @jebediahrage8273  She is self-aware. She just called herself an elite. At the end of her talk, she said one of those things apply to her, but in reality, both of those things are actually linked. So they BOTH apply to her. This is why she brought up elites in the first place. She is just generally dishonest, but she was actually being honest when she called herself an elite at the end there. It shows her haughtiness also.
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  37. They don't normally don't know the answer to that question. What actually attracts them is simply masculinity. Masculinity means drive, purpose, mission, overcoming obstacles, succeeding, achieving goals, being decisive and being sure of yourself, and sure of who you are and boundaries. Basically, getting your stuff together. They have to NOTICE this on their own. This is generally what causes the initial attraction, and then they look for more things. You cannot be trying to flaunt it, because that would be unattractive, because thats feminine. So you literally just getting stuff done and enjoying yourself while you do it is what attracts them. They tend to put themselves in your orbit. It's like you are driving a fun bus and know exactly the direction you're headed, and they want to be part of it. So it really isn't based on looks as much for them. They also like patient men, and men that go for what they want and are ok if they don't get it.
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  38. Being able to self-reflect and admit something like this means you are not a narcissist. Narcissistic people end up sabotaging their relationships, but they refuse to look inside and admit it to themselves, because it scares them to actually take responsibility. While it sounds like you may be unwillingly sabotaging your relationships also, you can at least admit that you may have an issue. Also, if that is what is going on with you, you may not know how to process certain emotions and could be avoiding them, or you might be suffering from a type of depression. Either way, therapy would be a good place to figure that stuff out.
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  39. I think its great to be open about sexual fantasies with our partner, but like anything else, there has to be a limit and a balance to how far we go. Going too extreme in anything is always unhealthy for our bodies and our psyche. For example, if you try different positions, you've taken one step. If you try it rough, you've taken another. If you introduce toys or bdsm or anal, you've taken another. Then there is introducing other people and then straight up orgies. The more steps you take, the more psychologically damaging it is, because we can become more numb the further we go. Then it will be harder to really enjoy normal sex. We'll HAVE to take it super far just to get our fix. Its similar to how drugs work on our bodies. I think it starts getting dangerous around bdsm, anal and toys. Thats what I've noticed with how it works with people around me and it makes sense. I bet there will be a study in about 10-20 years proving this correct, because its not something that most people want to admit is unhealthy.
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  40. He either has a hypocritical stance on this like the rest of them, or he hasn't thought it through. Or maybe he thinks cheating is ok at all times for everyone. Either way, this type of stance suggests that a person thinks only of themselves and their own pleasure.
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  41. @K H  Yeah, you're definitely already doing the right thing. Genuine compliments are the best. If you feel like complimenting her, absolutely do it. Genuine compliments are upbuilding for all of us, and women especially love it from their man. It makes her feel like she is special to you, which is important, because it makes her feel closer and more attracted to you. Don't hold back. The only time a compliment is bad or screws up attraction is when your compliment is not genuine, and you come off as a manipulative robot, or when you WAY overdo the compliments and completely smother her with them, which also makes the compliment feel disingenuous.
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  42.  @bromixsr  No way, man. An alpha would have divorced her the moment after he knew she clearly and consistantly didn't want to be there or proof that she was even just talking to other men romantically, let alone cheating. There would be no need to get involved with the other guy or with her drama at all. An alpha only stays with a woman that obviously wants him as much as he wants her, and he never stays with or dates women that clearly don't want to be there with him.
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  43. I guarantee you it's a way to cover her pain up from hearing all those things. She is like a child that doesn't know what she is doing, so she pretends to be strong and unfazed, when really she is in a ton of pain. This is what causes a person to develop narcissism and other personality disorders.
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  44. Probably femininity. A feminine woman is simply more attractive to a masculine man. Women that are generally known as "hot" tend to have tons of insecurities that they haven't yet conquered, which prevents them from relaxing in their femininity and causes self-sabotage. The pretty ones seem to suffer more trauma, which creates more insecurities that need to be addressed. Less femininity makes it harder for a masculine man to be with them. Also, very pretty women tend to attract more men that just want to use them for sex, and leave. So they have it harder in some ways. Some women just don't know how to properly vet a man.
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  45. @Primavera Verano  Makes sense. I think that is the right thing to do. You sound like a woman with self-respect. When I said to treat a woman the same as any other woman, I meant to take it just as slow, and be aware of her interest, and don't overdo things like calling her a lot because we want to talk to her so much. The treating her like she is special part still happens by asking her out on a date, setting aside time for her, and just enjoying himself with her unlike he would be able to with other women. Treating her special comes naturally if he really likes her, because she IS special to him. A man just needs to take care not to jump in so quickly, or overwhelm her with attention that she isn't ready for yet, simply because he likes her and she is special to him.
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  46. Well, shes well intentioned, but she isn't perfect. She implied that women can multi-task, and men cannot, because of her experience with her husband. She also thinks that women have the power to make a man feel like less of a man. No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.
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  47. True, but people also settle for someone that they don't really want, because they have a deep seeded untrue belief that they are not good enough to get what they want. Sometimes, they are just impatient, and want someone NOW, instead of waiting until they meet someone that they like. Sometimes, they just don't want to be alone. Even in all of those situations, the theme that you mentioned of them using you still applies to all of them.
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  48. Its good to mention that courage is basically a trait that is healthy for both men and women to have. It definitely makes us all more attractive and just happier within ourselves. Granted, it makes men more attractive in a different sort of way, so I get your point here. This explanation is just vague, so its open to many interpretations that you didn't intend.
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  49. Well, by definition, Sadie didn't actually manipulate her friends. She gave false information that had no bearing on their lives. So she only lied to them, which is not the same as manipulation. She didn't do anything to influence or try to control Thomas's decision to tell her ex-boyfriend. He did that all by his own volition. The only manipulation that happened in that story was Jessie toward Sadie, because he kept actually trying to influence and control Sadie's decisions.
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  50. Maybe you are putting too much pressure on yourself to make big impacts in people's lives. Just hanging out and enjoying the other person's company in the moment should be our main focus.
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  51. Yeah, he is definitely a beginner at this stuff and has no clue what he is talking about. Goes to show that in this world, you can literally be absolutely wrong, pretend to know what your talking about and even write a book with misleading and toxic information in it, and if you are good at merely SOUNDING like you know what you're talking about, people will still buy into it and you can make lots of money. It's kind of sad. Granted, Orion is amazing at business and making money. He is truly a pro at that, but when it comes to relationships, he is barely a beginner, and he will stay that way if he isn't open to learning.
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  52. ​ @ericclayton9080 This sounds more like he settled for a woman he wasn't really romantically interested in. Think about it. She had to grow on him. In other words, he wasn't interested in her but he found some things he liked about her after a while. Taking her on as a responsibility and was fun. In other words, she was kind of a burden to him because he didn't really want her there, but he could still have fun together with her when she was there. She became a duty and he didn't want to be bothered with her. In other words, he has no motivation to put effort into the relationship because he just has no real romantic interest. It just sounds like he had trouble attracting the woman he truly wanted, and just gave up and settled down with a woman he kind of liked. This is an issue for many men because they don't figure out what they've been doing wrong.
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  53. So the man actually knows that he is talking to scammers, but he is trying desperately to convince himself otherwise. The wife has very low self-esteem, because her husband basically said he is planning on cheating on her, and yet, she sticks around. Shes focusing on the fact that he is talking to scammers as a distraction from the fact that he is trying to cheat.
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  54. There is more wisdom in this comment than in this entire conversation.
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  55. @Lilith  No, I'm saying that we men should definitely be with a woman that we truly care about and adore. The video says otherwise. I'm saying that men often chase too hard too early when we really like a woman if we don't know any better. We can come off too strong and needy due to fear of losing that rare woman that is actually special to us, and acting out of fear is not love and causes that fear to come true. We should never pretend we don't care and we should never hide our interest. That isn't love either. I'm basically saying that we need to be authentic, while not falling into a fearful mindset. There is no fear when talking to someone we aren't interested in, so by bringing that up, I'm basically saying to use that example as a way to remember how we treat someone when we aren't in a fearful state. We make the things we focus on come true. So if we focus on our fears, which we unintentionally do sometimes, we can make that fear come true. So basically, we as men need to switch our focus off of the fear of things going wrong, and onto just making dates and hanging out and having fun like we would when there is no fear. And also to face our own fear of losing this special woman, so that we can actually be ok with her not being interested, so we can be our usual calm and authentic selves, and not come off too strong and needy and chase her away.
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  56. @MetaRunner#514  I see. Well, as much as you can help it, hang around those that treat you how you want to be treated. And for the ones that mess with you, it's good to be unbothered in a way that allows you to have fun with it. So, for example, if they call you and turn away, you can say something like, "what was that sqeeky sound?". Or something like, "my name is Cletus", or some other weird and unusual name like batman and change the name you say everytime. Just for fun. This allows you to lead the interaction with a light heart and have fun seeing their reaction to you saying ridiculous things. If they give you weird looks, say, "That's right, I said it". This is how I've handled things like this, by just having fun with it. You can come up with your own ways to have fun, but people tend to respond better when they see you aren't offended and you like to play around. In many cases, they kind of start to follow your lead a little bit and play around, too. If they are outright disrespectful, you can't play with that. You have to tell them that you didn't appreciate that and to treat you with the same respect that you treat them with. Walk away if they continue to be disrespectful.
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  57. "Game" is disingenuous. It suggests you have to put on a fake personality in order to get what you want. Its manipulative and fake. He even compared it to being a conman. If this is what you have to resort to, then you are giving up your masculinity and your genuineness. If you really want to be successful, then learn to be more of your genuine self. This is an experience a person you're with won't get anywhere else. Do not be approval seeking and know your values and your boundaries, and stick to them no matter what. Know who you are so you won't be moved emotionally so easily or feel the need to control an outcome. Also, genuinely being interested in a person without wanting something in return goes extremely far.
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  58. @kathrynhaught630  Exactly. It's only the men that blame women and act as if everything is owed to them that have this problem. The men that actually take responsibility for THEIR part in everything actually learn how to solve these issues, understand how to attract their wife, don't try to force things and they pay attention to what shes feeling and learn how to properly respond and they don't complain and blame and relinquish responsibility like this.
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  59.  @staytuned2L337  I wouldn't assume the responsibility of parenting them like that. It's not your place to do so, and that can be extremely stressful to be a parent to your own parents. It's better to just state your reasoning one time, and not bring it up again unless they ask you about it. Trying to convince someone who just doesn't want to be convinced always ends in anger and never goes well.
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  60. You over complicated this to oblivion. First, calling something game is to call it disingenuous. Gaming a person means you are putting up a temporary act to get what you want. Bad way to go, because people get hurt this way. Second, what you describe as play when it comes to the child's example is a good example. Play is just ultimately having fun. The example you gave of play when it came to adults is not actually play. You can describe that as being uplifting. Being uplifting to people is something literally everyone enjoys and its a good thing. Although, you don't have to appeal to some hidden fantasy of themselves in order for uplifting to feel good to a person. Third, overall, have fun and don't take yourself too seriously and don't take offense easily. The only way you can do this is by having a humble attitude and being able to reflect on your own behavior once in a while. You can in fact be genuinely playful and uplifting to people without intent to use them or seduce them. That just being part of your personality just makes you more likable by everyone. Your uplifting words and playfulness should always be honest and genuine. Not used to get what you want. If you're genuine, you'll find that actually getting what you want will come easily without too much effort or gaming anyone. This is also how you find that special romantic prospect and have it last.
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  61. Orion says truth and directness are not your friend when it comes to seduction. This is why he is always wrong, but sounds right. He gets a little truth mixed in with a lie. Truth and directness are in fact the most attractive. It is only NOT attractive when your goal is literally ONLY sex and you don't really care about the person at all. Its that exact mindset of his that focuses only on sex that is actually extremely unnattractive. Thats the nuance that he constantly misunderstands. So he focuses on superficiality to explain away what he doesn't understand.
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  62. "High hopes, and low expectations." Bad way to go. If you expect for things not to work out, your actions will align with this limiting belief, and you will inadvertently act in ways that make you less attractive. This belief enables low confidence. Its a self-fulfilling prophecy motivated by fear of rejection and pain. You should go in expecting that things will work out, and be ok if it doesn't. THAT is the mindset that is the true confidence maker. This allows you to be ok with any outcome, but with a belief of confidence in yourself. Also, being in the present moment is not about avoiding potential pain. That would actually discourage vulnerability, which allows no confidence. The present moment is about not being worried about potential pain by staying in the present moment when you are on a date, and not letting your mind wonder to the future about how your date might react to something you say, which would stop you from being yourself, which stops you from being confident. This is the true wisdom doc. This way, its not a strategy, its literally just changing your mindset of who you are as a person to a mindset of a confident person. So you can just be your natural attractive self without being strategic.
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  63. Its hubris and haughtiness on their part, which also makes a person more vulnerable to manipulation and fear. True christianity teaches humility, which is the exact opposite of the behavior in this video. The God of the bible values life. So a mask during these times would actually be in line with that.
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  64.  @amtraktohell  Wow. This is an amazing comment. You summed it up so perfectly and accurately. This is exactly what is happening. If anybody says something like that, it's a huge red flag. They're basically telling you that they are not relationship material without realizing that's what they're communicating.
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  65. This is because when you show good behavior, it is basically a mirrored reflection of how the other person is showing up. It inadvertently makes them look at their own behavior, and most people try to avoid that, because it makes them feel shame. So in order to avoid feeling shame, they try to bring you down to their level to be like them, or they just try to get distance themselves from you or try to chase you away. Keep being your good self with integrity and don't settle for any place that doesn't appreciate that about you. Most of this world doesn't have integrity, but there are some places that still have decent people that do appreciate kindness and integrity. Don't stop until you find a place like that. In your work life and your personal life.
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  66. "When people tell you who they are, believe them the first time." That's a quote by Maya Angelou, and it can be applied here.
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  67. I've noticed that they are only allowed to tell the truth when it is too late to actually make any real differences. It's intentional. They aren't stupid. Their bosses just tell them when it is ok to share their actual point of view, and when it isn't. This explains why they did their best to make Bernie look bad during their interview with him while he was running, and then changed their viewpoint months later and now to completely agree with everything Bernie said. They were not wearing blinders. They just sold their integrity in order to keep their jobs. So they are really no different than just about every politician and practically every media outlet. They are the same. If they don't sell their integrity, then they get fired and replaced with someone that will. It's pretty much the way of the world.
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  68. If she is going out with you, it's because she LIKES you. It's not because of a fantasy. Perhaps you meant to say she has a feeling of anticipation of seeing you, but that is much different than a fantasy. Saying it's a fantasy takes the credit away from who you are and the points about you that initially attracted her. You don't realize it, but you are promoting a scarcity and approval seeking mindset by telling men to appease a fantasy. Approval seeking behavior is extremely unnattractive. Granted, you should be genuinely interested in another person enough to ask them questions about themselves.
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  69. Its true. Believing a lie is on us. That goes for everyone. That is why we have to focus on people's ACTIONS. If a person's actions do not match up with their words, it is a LIE. So if a guy says he wants to marry, but doesn't after at least 2 years, he is a liar. Men know when they want to marry way before the 2 year mark. A woman just needs that knowledge, which most don't have. Also, if a dude commits to a woman out of guilt or pity, that's a man with a scarcity mindset that just doesn't believe he can get what he wants, when in reality, he can. In that case, the responsibility belongs to the man for willingly settling for what he does not actually want.
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  70. This is called being genuine and kind. You aren't running "game". You are literally being yourself and not needing anything from them. Just being genuinely interested in them. This is basically showing general love. Many people are not use to this and it makes them uncomfortable even though its upbuilding, which explains the people's negative reactions you get.
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  71. It doesn't mean that at all. That's Orion's insecurity. He feels bad when being rejected, so he came up with a story to explain that bad feeling away, but this story is rooted in the insecurity about not being good enough and it only promotes this false belief even further. In reality, a woman rejects a man because she isn't feeling that romantic interest in him. That's it. It's that simple. It has nothing to do with how she feels about his right to reproduce. If Orion would properly face his fear instead of coming up with excuses for it, he would be able to see the truth, which would truly free him of any negative feelings associated with rejection.
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  72. Really good points. The things that people often call outgrowing is usually just a lack of effort. Relationships take effort from both sides to maintain. Without that, they wither away. It's that simple.
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  73. True. You picked up on that. I think they admire him for having the courage to stand up for the things that they are too afraid to stand up for due to fear of the loss of their careers.
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  74. I really think you're overthinking this, and unnecessarily complicating it as a result. I get what you mean and it makes sense, but they're not talking about the literal definition of it when they say that, so you aren't addressing the same thing. They're basically just talking about small acts of kindness that makes them feel more feminine. Like a man helping to carry something heavy. Also, their statement of chivalry being dead is broad, but it's really just about their own experiences.
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  75. Not only that, but morale would go through the roof, which would make the workers feel good, which increases productivity, which leads to profits going way up. Sadly, most leaders don't understand this, and they often make things harder on themselves.
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  76. So true. It's crazy how people are fooled just by how he sounds smart when speaking. It doesn't sound so smart though when you actually listen to his message. Hes a blamer. It sounds like he makes excuses to use women for sex and move on, but he won't be honest about that because he knows thats awful.
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  77. Her dad is so concerned with pleasing others, that he cannot even answer such a simple question honestly. Thats a stressful way to live. The problem in this instance is actually with him and his insecurities, and not his daughter. His ability to answer questions has nothing to do with her.
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  78. There are sexless marriages generally due to the man not acting like a man and acting more like a little boy. For example, the way you allow your children to disrespect you without proper discipline. This is a huge turn-off to a woman because that's acting like a little boy who doesn't know what to do. You have to take initiative in your household to get things done. Take the lead. And don't forget to take your wife on dates because the courtship never ends. Make her feel special and sexy. These are the things that make your wife desire you sexually. We are often taught to do the opposite while growing up, and this results in sexless marriages. Its not just Japan. Its most of the world that has this issue.
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  79. Your irritation is reasonable. He really doesn't understand women at all, and he projects his own motivations onto them. He misleads people with his wrong mindset and refuses to seek the truth. It's most likely an insecurity developed from some type of trauma he went through himself.
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  80. Awesome description of that scripture. Basically, return evil for evil to no one. I've put this into practice, and it works beautifully. If it continues, then I'll outwardly say that its not ok and I'd appreciate it if they treat me with the same respect that i treat them with. If it still continues, I just won't associate with them anymore, and let the reason be known. I think people usually treat you in the way they've been treated, and expect the same reaction that they themselves would give. When they don't get that reaction, it really challenges their belief system, and I believe it actually gives them hope deep down that things can actually be peaceful, and that there is another way to deal with such an offense. Basically, you would be passing along the same hope that Jesus himself gave to us.
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  81. It puts too many "ideas" of how things "should" be, and you end up not being able to relax and have fun. Plus, he teaches superficiality, so you'll end up focusing on all the wrong stuff because of watching his videos.
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  82. "Women are attempting to secure as many resources for as little sexual opportunity as possible." This quote is a major limiting belief that will literally only attract gold diggers to you and have you living with very limited happiness and fulfillment, if any at all. Men with this belief based on toxic behavior will miss out on an amazing woman that actually wants YOU over your resources and will literally be trying to secure as much sex as she can from YOU just because she is crazy about you. Also, a date is only to set actual days to get together and gather data on the person so you can decide whether or not you want to marry them. Also, a woman getting upset because you refuse to meet halfway is reasonable, because it really is selfish. If she unilaterally ended a prior relationship with you prior to that date, THEN it would make sense to do that, but doing that from the beginning is just being selfish. And trying to justify it with logic and reasoning of you being the one to pay is no good, especially if you were the one that invited her out on a date. Also, being that focused on sex will have you come off as desperate, which is unnattractive. You're much better off focusing on having fun and enjoying yourself.
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  83. It can, but only if the partner shares those same values and that same mindset. It's pretty rare to find someone that applies that mindset by principle no matter what. I believe that's why the doctor said that we should basically be careful not to project our fantasy of a relationship on someone and instead, just see them as they are.
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  84. I think this data only suggests that men usually finally grow up and get out of a scarcity mindset around 30, which makes them more attractive. Women have the "advantage" at a younger age, because most men haven't learned how to be in their natural masculinity yet, which makes them not attractive, and chasing constantly, keeping them in their feminine. Once the men grow up and finally start acting masculine, this is what makes them desirable, and why it seems like they have the "advantage" at a later age. At that point, its easier for a woman to fall into her feminine, and become the chaser, because the man is finally acting like a man. So men that understand this in their early 20s or even their teens, will have a much easier time attracting women. In other words, he'll have that "advantage", which is really just him being masculine. Of course, understanding this must come with responsibility. Otherwise he'll just go around abusing his power and breaking people's hearts and playing with their feelings and causing trauma all in the name of "feeling good". Part of being a man is not going for women you don't have a true romantic interest in.
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  85. ​@cosmictreason2242 Exactly. Jacob learned the lesson that he needed God's approval in order to be truly happy, not his own. I don't think the doctor is ready to make that kind of change in his life yet, which is why he didn't take the proper lesson from those scriptures.
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  86. You screwed up. That was her throwing herself at you. She just wanted to say it was your fault that it happened. It was obviously on her mind. You should have just smiled and said ok. She called you again, because she liked you. It turned out for the best though if you really were not interested in her. Don't date women you have no interest in.
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  87. They both need love and respect. That saying came to be, because sometimes men, in their imperfection, tend to get wrapped up in logic and ambition, and sometimes forgets that the woman needs to be shown that tender and vulnerable love. While women, in their imperfection, tend to be much more emotional. So when they are upset and extra emotional, they sometimes forget to exercise self-control and respect, and sometimes say disrespectful things. So that saying is just a reminder to help a man and a woman to strengthen their particular weak points in a romantic relationship. I forgot to mention that it's actually mentioned this way in the bible also.
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  88. This is actually good advice. Basically, face your fears and do not be avoidant. We suffer when we don't accept reality, and we wish things were different than they actually are.
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  89.  @ColinFox  He is not advocating for the abolishing of capitalism. He is telling us that most people don't have an accurate definition of the words "left" and "right" when it comes to politics. If you like capitalism, then you are mostly "right". That is most people. There are those like Bernie and AOC who want to balance out capitalism a little by having the government deliver a helping hand in society for a few things. So because of the fact that AOC and Bernie approve of capitalism, this technically makes them more "right" leaning. Most people don't want to admit this, because it means that they have to admit their entire understanding of politics is wrong and they would have to admit that they have been believing lies for a long time. This scares people, so they make replies to avoid the truth like "this is America", like one of the comments in the thread mentioned. When people have different definitions of the same words, they tend to have unnecessary disagreements and that keeps them from realizing that they actually want the same things as each other.
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  90. Sounds like you stopped having fun with her due to wanting to save more money. There has to be a balance. The couple that has fun together stays together. Assuming both people value integrity.
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  91.  @ladyofthehills5489  Interesting. Well, we can probably go on talking about this for a while lol. You're pretty cool and really smart. I appreciate the comments and the genuine conversation. Thanks for speaking with me.
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  92. People project how they feel about themselves onto others. So all rude and disrespectful comments tell you a lot about what that certain person has gone through in their lives, or what they are currently going through at that moment. So when they say hurtful things, it's actually a statement about their views on themselves and their life. They aren't actually thinking about how the other person they are talking about feels. They are actually just thinking about how THEY themselves feel, but they are unaware of that. It's subconscious. "Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks". That's a bible scripture that basically describes projection.
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  93.  @rcpmac  He isn't the problem. We live in an oligarchy. The oligarchs are the problem. They want you to believe that the dude in the comment section is the problem, so you don't look at what they are actually doing. It doesn't matter what the people in office call themselves. They will all always obey their true employers. The sooner we accept that, the sooner we can find another source of hope.
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  94. Actually, if you have humility, you cannot be humiliated, because you are already humble. It's the ones who are prideful and haughty and irresponsible that get humiliated all the time. Its because of these qualities, that they will rarely admit to being humiliated, even when they obviously have been.
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  95. It happens. My wife's mother passed down many of her traumas and insecurities to all of her kids. The kids didn't get it quite as bad, and with effort, the kids can conquer the trauma. They just have to want to do it. The mother can even get better if she put in the effort.
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  96. The woman at the end rejected you simply because she lost attraction to you. She told you all those things in order to not hurt your feelings. Women usually are careful not to hurt your feelings, and that lady was definitely good at not hurting someone's feelings. Also, she lost attraction to you, likely because you showed up in a way that caused her to lose attraction. I wasn't sure at first, but you saying you TEXTED for another date, instead of calling her completely solidified that guess for me. Next time, call. That way is perceived as more confident and therefore, more masculine. She ended up being the masculine one in that moment because she CALLED YOU after you texted. You left room for her to be the more masculine one in that interaction one by not just calling. That tells me you did other subtle things that made you come off unattractive. Anyway, that's why there is no competition for people that understand this stuff, and that's why I'm trying to tell you that superficial things like OUTSIDE success doesn't matter at all. Stop focusing on the outside superficial things. It's blocking you from noticing the truth. Stop thinking of people as a marketplace. This leads to superficial thinking. They are people. Not bought commodities. Also, a scarcity mindset is just that, a MINDSET. You can have all the success in the world, and still cause self-fulfilling prophecies for yourself because of this mindset or fear. Adversely, you can have NO success, and still have an abundance mentality. It's about how you SHOW UP. NOT about what you HAVE. Your life does not result from what you have. Thats actually a bible quote, and I've found it to be as true as ever. There is nothing wrong with being happy with our success, but nothing genuine and meaningful results from only that. That woman rejecting you, even as successful as you are, is your personal proof of that. Also, it's a good point that we should all strive to be kind and respectful when we reject someone.
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  97. He doesn't fully understand attraction. He mentioned how a woman pretends to have a "headache", but never stated the reason why, which means he doesn't know. You are no less valuable of a person at 40, and the man that truly likes you will notice you, because he will see you as different from other women. Initial superficial attraction is based on looks, but LIKING someone with romantic attraction is based on getting to know them, even for a man, whether they know it or not. This is not to say we shouldn't take care of our bodies, because we absolutely need to for ourselves. Its just that there is more to attraction than age and looks. Just like a woman can be attracted to a broke dude due to non-superficial reasons. Until he factually understands why this can happen, you cannot take his opinions as wisdom. He is too focused on superficiality. The truth would never be so superficial. So take heart, because you are more free than you think. You are 40, not 90. Get yourself together, be your authentic self, seek truth, be humble, strive for healthy perspectives, and keep your chin up. Don't give up, even when you feel down. It's going to be ok.
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  98. @Quincy  Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. This means that, where you cannot see her value, someone else absolutely will. Her age doesn't matter to someone that meets her and likes her. If your only focus for romance is on the superficial things and youth, you'll always go for the younger one and look past her, but not everyone has those same values. Those with different values will notice her. I got nothing against looksmaxx. Sounds like an awesome way to live to me. I strive to do those things, and when I meet a woman that has the same mindset, it definitely intrigues me. It'll definitely help, and she'll likely attract someone with a similar lifestyle if she does that, but there is still more to a person than that, and a man that likes her will notice that. It's possible. You say she can't have "the one", but that's really another way of saying that she must be with someone she has no romantic interest in. She'd be better off staying single if that's the case, because that defeats the whole purpose of a romantic relationship. It's also really messed up and basically an offense to the partner who is being settled for. It would be wrong. No one has to settle for what they don't want. That's a limiting belief. Although, she should never try to rush into anything, because that creates unnecessary problems. You mention the word bargain as if she'll have to bargain for what she wants like she is a business trying to profit. This is the wrong way to look at things, because relationships are not transactions. The purpose of a relationship is to give FREELY, because you want to do that out of loving or caring for someone. This might sound like a fairy tale to you, but it's actually how healthy relationships work. There is no bargain or transactions involved in genuine relationships. Granted, it's hard to find genuine people who are not trying to "profit" in a sense, so I can see why you'd feel like it's a fairy tale, but genuine people are out there. If you look at relationships as if it's a bargain, you'll likely attract someone who views relationships in the same way, and while you may get your desired bargain, you'll miss out on a true connection that way. A fairy tale would be something like the popular romantic movies of today, where the woman rejects the man, and he does something nice or brings her flowers, and suddenly she realizes she loves him. This doesn't happen in reality. Actually, that sounds like a transaction, too. THATS the true fairy tale, because life doesn't work that way. Movies and TV shows like that mislead us since childhood, and it teaches us things that don't work that we need to unlearn.
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  99. Pretty cool. Never heard it put this way before. I heard a quote once by Wayne Dyer that said, "When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change". Its similar to us deciding what the cat is. My personal cat is doing nothing, not showing up for myself and others, and not taking care of the things I know to be more important and feeling the regret that comes with that feeling later on. So to avoid that cat, I just have to be responsible, and put the more important things first, and I'll always stay close to the cheese, and I'll never have to worry about the cat.
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  100. That's a fact. It's nice to see someone else recognizes this, despite how intelligent he sounds.
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  101. This is not just women, man. This is the state of the world in general. Stuff like this is the cause of all unnecessary problems.
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  102.  @joshzzygaming  Great advice, man. I'm sure people will learn from your comment. The woman in this was being feminine, and the man was being masculine. It's exactly how we were designed. Your comment is like a light shining through the darkness.
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  103. It happens a lot amongst politicians and dishonest people in general. They tend to answer a different question than they were actually asked, and then make it a long answer in hope's that the person asking the question forgets the original question or just lets it go.
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  104. You couldn't be more wrong. What you call self-respect is actually self-disrespect. Always fighting others and engaging in problems in order to protect yourself is not respecting yourself. That is basically allowing others to dictate your actions. Self-respect is not trying to control people into respecting you. Truly respecting yourself means to walk away from these issues, and not getting involved and not even feeling like you need to explain yourself or fix things. Self-respect means to let go so that you can have peace in your life. It means you walk away from those that refuse to be nice to you. This is a position of strength. Anything else requires you to give up your integrity, which causes you to not feel good about yourself, which makes you extremely unnattractive. Self-respect makes you a more attractive and mature person. Giving up potential deals or positions or relationships so that you are not treated bad is the only cost. Those that allow themselves to be treated bad to obtain something always end up regretting it. Its never worth it.
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  105. Well you had a bad example of how to actually show love, so you became comfortable with being cold, while warmth now feels weird. You just have to practice warmth, and find a good example of warmth to emulate. It would be good to start learning and practicing being comfortable with showing affection and warmth toward your husband, so that you can provide an actual good example on how a good relationship works and feels between romantic partners. It's uncomfortable and it takes effort, but it's worth it so that your kid doesn't learn the same coldness. It's also worth it for yourself, because it helps you feel more fulfillment.
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  106. So true. They will never ask the reason "why" because that would mean they have to take responsibility, which they refuse to do. That whole "women are not held accountable" thing we hear on the internet so much is a projection of themselves. It's depressing, because taking responsibility means keeping the power to create actual change in one's own life, and they would rather give that power away in order to avoid the discomfort of having something be THEIR fault.
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  107. @Anders Nielsen  Thats really just an excuse to be disloyal and hurtful to your partner. It's blaming your base desires rather than taking responsibility for your decision to not exercise self-control. "Sorry for breaking my promise and devastating you and betraying your trust, honey, but I had no choice because I have a brain." If you aren't going to exercise self-control and you know that ahead of time, it's better if you don't engage in a monogamous relationship or commit to someone in that way at all.
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  108. You're only talking about a toxic woman with no standards, principles or self-respect. This type of person isn't actually loyal. They are guided ONLY by their heart, because they have no principles to adhere to, and they don't value loyalty. Men and women all over the world do this, and they usually end up miserable for it. An oath and duty isn't limited to men. Anyone can make an oath. Holding to that oath is based on the person's loyalty. Loyalty has only one definition amongst everyone. If you're in a marriage, and you are currently not feeling the same feelings as you were when you first started the marriage, a loyal person will still show love based on PRINCIPLE. Women are capable of this too. Granted, most people, including men, don't value loyalty at all, and they follow their heart or their feelings immediately and make rash decisions. Also, a man or a woman not showing love to each other after marriage, but staying married is another form of disloyalty, because they are not honoring the promise that they made to love their spouse. I understand your point about learning from one another, and men and women are indeed different, but loyalty means the same thing across the board. I think what you are talking about is the things that men and women have a harder and easier time with in general when it comes to being loyal. This doesn't change the definition for anybody though.
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  109. ​@Dustin Quinton That scripture is there, because those are the areas where men and women tend to become complacent. Women, because of their more intense emotions which can lead to disrespect if not being careful and reflecting on their behavior, and men because of tending to focusing logically on what needs to be done and forgetting to take into account his wife's feelings and not doing the little affectionate things that help her feel loved by him and has her feeling special to him. Overall though, Sarah is right. Both men and women need love and respect. You can't really have one without the other.
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  110. I wouldn't call this disappointing women. Truly disappointing them would be to give in to them by compromising who you are, which would be unattractive. Losing attraction for you because of YOUR behavior is a true disappointment. A more accurate term would be "having boundaries" with women, but this should be with literally everyone. Not just women. It should be who you are in general. Basically, be yourself at all times with everyone and develop boundaries that you enforce by not giving your time to those that refuse to respect them. A woman can feel safe with a man standing up for his own preset boundaries. She can also feel loved by a man who meets her needs without him going against his own standards.
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  111.  @shawna1278  I believe you. In this instance though, she was a little too prideful to admit that she was wrong. When Sunny was stating the truth, she started to talk over Sunny, so that she wouldn't have to acknowledge the truth. She might not be too similar to Megan overall, but the way she handled that conversation was very similar to how Megan would have handled it. It's hard for most of us to admit we were wrong, and it's even harder to admit that we bought into lies, but if we don't humble ourselves in that way and acknowledge the truth, we can't improve and we can't learn anything.
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  112. ​ @marieaude3685 You are the one looking at things objectively. When people say things like that, it's often a projection of their deep down feelings of themselves.
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  113. Bottom line their actions. They left because they weren't feeling that attraction to you anymore. Simple as that. Thats your answer. And you don't want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you. That's all you need to know.
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  114. @Yumirow  Her vengeful attitude is certainly not love. That's her uncontrolled anger. Assuming he left her, her anger comes from him leaving her, which hurt her. It hurt her because she loved him, and she thought he loved her and she figured things would stay that way. So breaking up with her is like throwing a huge wrench in all of that, and changing her whole life path around. So the anger is understandable, but the immature and vengeful actions are not. If she had no love for him, she would have been unaffected by the breakup because she would not have been hurt, and therefore, she would not have been angry.
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  115. Dating is not a job. The doc wants to see it that way because he is good at getting jobs and making money. So he figures that if he transfers those skills over, he is an instant dating professional. The truth is that having a partner is supposed to be a plus. Its supposed to be fun and not feel like work. Notice the doc never focuses on actually ENJOYING yourself in a relationship. This is because he has no clue what he is talking about. He tries to skip all the time it takes to understand attraction by comparing it to something he is aready good at. Thats lazy and haughty and a bad way to go and he misleads people because of it.
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  116. The man is basically saying that when he has a wife, he will not value her opinion or input at all. He just wants to feed and clothe her. That's not a relationship, that's a business deal. The man should indeed take the lead, but in a loving way where the woman feels free to be herself and is valued. Leading in a repressive way is not loving at all.
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  117.  @samb123078  Yes, its true that actions do in fact speak louder than words. She is dating because she would like to find a decent man. This doesn't mean settling for one that basically tells her he will not value her opinion or her input at all. She actually has a healthy standard. She doesn't have to please her parents and lying is a bad way to go. Honesty about oneself is an attractive quality. Lying is a red flag and very unattractive. Also, there are in fact lots of men who are in fact threatened by a woman who makes more money or are smart. Not physically threatened, but psychologically threatened, because they have insecurities within themselves of not being good enough, and a woman that is doing better than them in certain areas ends up bringing those insecurities to the surface, and they end up pulling away, or say something to somehow undermine the woman's success. If a man can humbley face those insecurities and conquer them, he will understand that a successful woman actually speaks to good and attractive qualities about her like being responsible and having courage to go after what she wants and being able to take care of herself. Being successful doesn't automatically mean she would make a good girlfriend, but it does say something good about her.
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  118. ​@Peeko_luxX It's just a fad to talk crap about marvel movies right now. Eventually, people will go back to saying good things about them after getting permission from someone else. It's surprising how easily most people's opinions are influenced. Honestly, I don't think most people are even sharing their true opinions. They just follow and say what's popular at the moment.
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  119. This is why he is wrong at least 90 percent of the time.
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  120. ​​ @keithcommins No, just the ones that speak on it without understanding how attraction actually works. Granted, I wouldn't call him an incel. Just a misguided person.
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  121. @keithcommins  The correct and healthy way to attract and vet each other 200 years ago hasn't changed. That's a fact, man. To say otherwise is to make excuses and blame something outside of yourself, which is weak, and that is unnattractive. And yeah, his "What you did to keep them" quote is reminiscent of his mindset. Meaning that isn't the only thing he says that is literally the opposite of wisdom. If that's wrong, then everything based on that is wrong, too. On his channel, he has told women to give up sex faster, which leads to misery for them. This contradicts him, saying that a woman who has had fewer sexual partners is more valuable. He wouldn't give this advice to have sex faster to his daughter if he had one. He has said that the more you do introspection, the closer to narcissism you are. That's a huge lie because people only step into narcissism when they do NO INTROSPECTION AT ALL. When they constantly avoid themselves and discomforts. He said himself that he used to be avoidant, which explains a lot of his views. He is clearly still avoidant. Yes, being in shape is good advice, but behavior has a larger effect. Lots of in shape dudes have talked women out of liking them. Having charisma is good advice, too, but that's vague and generic advice. Lots of people with charisma also talk women out of liking them, and they don't know what happened. Now, focusing on one's purpose is excellent advice, and he gets that part right. As far as what you're asking about competition. He often just mentions that people are competing. Like at 1:52:5 in this particular interview. You might think this is nothing, but he mentions it in a small way often, and even SAYING it means he has an insecurity of other people outclassing him. It's the MINDSET that makes this unnattractive. The other people that actually outclass him in some way have no bearing on his personal attraction. You say I'm pearl clutching, but you don't deny that statement. And yeah, lies are dangerous. They lead to hopelessness, which leads to a lack of enthusiasm for life, which leads to the lack of a will to live for many. Minimizing this fact doesn't make it less true. Also, I absolutely hate politics. I would never align myself with any of it due to the fact that literally all politicians lie and have to give up their integrity at some point in order to keep their job as a politician. And yeah, I have thought about making a channel. I don't know more than everyone, obviously, but I'll probably make one eventually just because I enjoy these topics.
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  122. Everybody who focuses on things being allocated in a certain way is robbing themselves of a truly fulfilled happiness. This includes both men and women. You end up focusing on transactions for things to work, rather than giving and accepting from the heart. Focusing on transactions has it feeling more like a business relationship and promotes fear and insecurity, and it only gets worse when one person becomes complacent and imperfect for a time. Whereas giving from the heart has it feeling like a true and loving relationship, and that's where things truly become fulfilling. Of course, most people in the world are not like this because we are not taught this in this world sadly, so it is very hard to find someone that isn't focused on material things or bargains or transactions. Giving freely is what love and relationships are actually about. Thats what really works, and finding someone that shares those same values will allow you to truly experience a fulfilling relationship.
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  123. It's hard for many to notice because of the eloquent way he speaks. Also, he actually validates many people because they have similar issues and similar toxic beliefs to him. Not only that, but lots of his audience validates him right back, so it's a cycle of believing and teaching false and toxic beliefs. And if they're looking for validation for their beliefs, they usually are not open to hearing the truth.
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  124. Because that reinforces your current behavior. Its like giving yourself permission to keep living with your parents and not grow. Plus, it's not true, because you actually are capable of getting up and moving. Telling yourself that just ends up being your excuse to do nothing and it keeps you down. Whereas if you changed your self-talk, you might just motivate yourself. The actions come from the belief and the self-talk, not the other way around. Your self-talk is your belief system. You'll always act according to your belief system, whether that belief is true or not. Change your self-talk, and you change your belief system. Change your belief system to the truth, and you can do anything.
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  125. Well his worldview is that romance works like business. Whether he knows it or not, thats basically believing that true romance is not real, and prostitution is all there is. So all of his ideas centering around romance are going to always be based on transactions, which is prostitution. Hes convinced himself thats how everyone operates.
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  126. Phenomenal explanation. Amazing comment. There really is nothing good about porn. Its all bad. Even her explanation of how it's somehow not so bad was actually another example of how its bad. It's basically a dangerous drug. It's a misleading comparison to compare it to online shopping addiction, because buying something online one time is ok and causes no problems. Watching porn one time causes problems, like doing meth one time causes problems. She was either trying to justify it, or she doesn't fully understand it.
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  127. Man, so true. When I was a teenager, I realized that playing video games online and driving were very similar, because people had a sense of anonymity, and therefore were unlikely to experience consequences or immediate shame for their actions. So they were less likely to exhibit self-control. As I got older, I learned that angry and rude online gamers and rude drivers are actually miserable in their own life, and have likely often been treated in an abusive way themselves, which is the same way that they are treating others. This obviously doesn't make their behavior ok, but it does cause me to feel sorry for them before I get upset with them. It helps me to stay calm and keep being nice also, which can potentially calm them down. THEN I learned that either I can allow their rage to influence me, which causes me to get mad, or I can stay calm, and let my calm and kindness influence them, which helps them calm down without even saying the words "calm down". It can be hard to do, but it really works. In some cases though, you just have to walk away.
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  128. ​@Vindicador01 Resist porn and practice your social skills by talking to people and asking questions and being interested in them in your everyday life. You'll be surprised about how much you learn in general, develop yourself, and how easy it is to find a partner if you do all those things.
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  129.  @pycellesbeard9728  Yeah, I'm willing to bet Rosy has had a tough time growing up and has been traumatized as well. Everything that Kristin and M M said in the earlier comments is true though. To be honest, I think that if Rosy and Trump sat down and had a genuine heart to heart, they would find that they had lots of similar experiences and traumas while growing up.
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  130. Well pick up artists are disingenuous and are genuinely only good at the pick-up. So they ultimately don't fully know what they are doing. Disingenuousness and manipulation is generally disgusting to everyone. Men included. Most men don't understand women. I'd say most men want to improve, but mostly find manipulative advice, which doesn't work. There is lots of manipulative advice out there for women too. Few people know what they are doing WITHOUT manipulation, so they can't give proper advice. The truth is that manipulation is NOT REQUIRED to get what you want. The mistake in this video is the focus on sex. Focusing on sex is needy behavior which is ultimately unnattractive.
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  131.  @zakosist  I don't think we should ever fake our interest. I'm just saying that if we care about our partner, you'll care about what their interests are. It might not be your thing, and you might not do it all the time, but you can just join them sometimes if they want to share it with you, because you care about them. You're right that we ideally want to find someone that shares our interests, but people's interests tend to change over time, so if you never make an effort to take an interest in the things your partner cares about, you won't be able to maintain your bond as strongly over long periods of time. Remembering that we care about our partner makes this easier. I say "Remembering", because sometimes, we get complacent, and might take them for granted at times. Obviously, you don't have to force yourself in their interests, or act extra excited, but you showing you care about the things that they care about is doing a lot for them and the relationship. It's good to do that for one another.
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  132. ​@SarahUsrey How is it a delusion if Jesus literally is the one that taught about it. It doesn't mean anything bad.
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  133.  @revheavygandpinto  Well it's definitely pure rudeness, but your way is actually enabling the behavior by engaging in the exact same behavior. You end up validating their use of force with your own, so now they are validated in believing they are just doing the same thing as everyone else and fights are normal. That's why walking away and finding a different spot sends a message of promoting peace and it shows how bullies will never even get a little bit of your time as long as you can help it. People like that have been having altercations and fights their whole life. You can show them a different way of behaving by not putting up with it by WALKING AWAY.
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  134. You have a subconscious hang-up on women being the problem for everything, which causes inaccuracies and shortsightedness. Sure, there are many women out there that have no clue how to be a parent, but there are just as many men out there that have no clue also. Many times, the parents just abandon their kids to those who are even LESS capable. These are awful influences and clearly cause emotional trauma. We also have tv shows, sitcoms and romantic stories centered around men being a goofy fool, or a stalker, and somehow still "winning" the woman over as they often call it with their scarcity mindsets. These shows and movies are written by people that don't understand attraction, and only write from their personal fantasies. They may be entertaining, but these are often awful influences on us all. Not only that, but there are a shortage of decent men AND women with integrity. So this isn't an issue caused by women or mothers. This is an issue that is caused by an entire world that has no clue what they are doing, which causes all kinds of emotional trauma, which gets passed down to the next generation, because most people are not humble enough to self-reflect, identify, and root these bad habits out of themselves, and most are quick to BLAME others for their problems. If our issues are always someone else's fault, then to us, there is nothing to fix or change, and so the cycle continues with all of the broken teachings.
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  135.  @keithcommins  Sure, but don't come at it with a cynical attitude because that's why the doc can't pick it up. So the thing women find most attractive is confidence. Confidence comes from the willingness to be vulnerable. Being vulnerable means to be YOURSELF without feeling like you have to cover something up. Men that employ a bunch of strategies and are focused on only sex cannot be themselves, which makes them unnattractive and stops them from just having fun. And having fun is attractive. Women like when men have boundaries. So you having your own high standards makes you attractive. This means reasons that will make you walk away, like disrespect or being used superficially in some way. In other words, self-respect. Women are attracted mainly to your behavior as a man. This creates raw attraction. Body and looks help, but your behavior wins out with women. THIS is why women are not giving tons of likes over dating apps. They cannot FEEL your masculine behavior over pictures. Men that understand this don't complain, but instead, will just meet a woman in person and be ok with rejection. Also, a woman likes a man willing to take the lead, but while also keeping her interests in mind. Women also like to feel heard and understood and they like patient men with self-control that are not easily offended. This helps them to feel safe which raises their raw attraction to you. Men that understand this or are willing to learn this actually experience being with a woman who wants sex more than them. There are toxic women out there that make it hard. For example, ones that constantly compete with you for taking the lead, or one's that try to gaslight you into relinquishing self-respect. You just have to be a man who is willing to do proper introspection and face your fears and insecurities and conquer them directly in a healthy way in order to spot unhealthy women and become a more attractive man. Our success all starts within ourselves and how we decide to view things. Basically, be humble.
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  136. To be honest, all of those things are extremely unhealthy. I'm surprised, but also not surprised that you didn't mention this. Horror in general is psychologically unhealthy for all of us. I think that is an obvious truth that most know deep down, but prefer to avoid due to getting some type of enjoyment from it. The enjoyment is not authentic fun. It's almost masochistic or self torture. It's basically trauma that we inflict on ourselves and on whoever we show it to. Horror entertainment is just a really bad way to go. It's not clean.
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  137. @smokingcrab2290  Really awesome point. That makes sense. Although, I'm afraid that isn't the doc's point of view. The doc thinks you can only respect someone who has the power to hurt you but chooses not to. Orion promotes manipulative fear. He has different videos on this specific topic expressing his inaccurate views on it.
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  138. How can you not see that story is about SURVIVING an evil environment, not attracting a man. It also shows that abusers and those that view others as BELOW them are easily manipulated because Scheherazade manipulated the king's interest in order to survive, and it worked. This is actually closer to what happens with people who are traumatized, because they had to use tactics similar to Scheherazade's tactics in order to survive or at least lighten their abusive upbringing. As a result, they develop bad habits as adults that prevents them from finding good people UNLESS they do the work within themselves to self-reflect, take notice of the issue and actively make a change within themselves.
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  139. @SamanthaRoe-vj8wg  Well, he is right, saying, "Women want to care for you," but he is completely wrong saying that if a man isn't giving you something to do, he isn't into you. That's not an indicator at all. A ton of problems will plague any woman that applies that across the board because it's simply not true. That's what I mean by he always mixes truth with something extremely misleading. That makes it seem like he is never wrong because it makes the misleading statement hard to detect.
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  140. She asked you because she knew deep down that it was inappropriate. If she threw a temper tantrum because of your "no", and called you controlling, that would have been an example of her lack of integrity, which would be a character issue. Good women know that would be inappropriate. People can indeed be controlling, but not wanting your partner to put themselves in a position of possible sexual chemistry with someone else in not controlling, but reasonable. A good partner would not put themselves in that position.
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  141. She could be nervous and shy around you, and therefore scared to take a very real step like a date. She could be liking you, but just wanting to stay single at the moment for any reason. She could be testing to see if you lose your composure somehow, making her feel unsafe, which most guys do, which makes it a legitimate test. There are tons of reasons man and its impossible to know. Whatever the reason, just keep your composure, be your usual cool self. Treat her the same as you always have when you see her. If you've already asked her out, she knows you like her. Nothing else matters. If she's interested, she'll bring it up, because a self-respecting man won't keep chasing or flirting after he has been rejected. In other words, the reason doesn't matter. All that matters is that you went for who you wanted, and now you know the outcome, so you have no regrets.
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  142. This is a limiting belief, man. Hypergamy is not how attraction works. Hypergamy is a lifestyle choice for toxic women. The world in general does not understand how attraction actually works, which is why they gravitate toward superficial explanations like this one. Whether they know it or not, women are attracted to MASCULINITY. Masculinity is not defined by status or amounts of money. Those things are superficial. Masculinity is not superficial. You or I can attract just about any type of woman regardless of her "social status". Masculinity is drive, purpose, mission, succeeding, accomplishing, overcoming obstacles, chasing goals, boundaries, being direct and decisive, taking the lead, and getting stuff done like taking care of himself and his household, and also having humility. These qualities will beat out money every time. The reason why men aren't attracting women in those stats is because their parents don't know how to teach them. TV and movies teach men to be stalkers and act more feminine. Then you have videos like this that validate men in not self-reflecting and learning and continue to blame women for their problems. Not that I think you are doing this intentionally, because you seem like you're genuinely looking for answers, but there are tons of videos out there that blatantly tell men to blame women for everything. Its counterproductive and just as toxic as an actual hypergamous woman.
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  143. Having a mission and goals, and going after what you want and breaking down barriers for yourself and leadership are masculine qualities. She, as a feminine woman is saying that she is attracted to these masculine qualities. Just like a masculine man is attracted to feminine qualities such as submissiveness, and bonding and connecting and being open to receive love. In the same way, this doesn't mean you want her to work for you or never share her opinion. Granted, many people have many issues that get in the way of actually showing these natural qualities, but when you can acknowledge your issues and fears, and learn how to deal with them, you'll do much better with showing the qualities that come natural to you. This goes for both men and women.
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  144. Better to walk away and let it go, man. No point in allowing things to escalate. Let them believe what they want. You can't force anything on anyone. When you try to do that, it never works out. In other words, you cannot convince someone that refuses to be convinced. You're basically causing yourself stress at that point.
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  145. So true. I'm happy for you. This is what leads to being romantically fulfilled. Orion has made himself a part of that societal pressure that you're talking about that your wife had to ignore to maintain her healthy mindset and self-respect and to find a good man.
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  146.  @ladyofthehills5489  I'm on board with what you're saying here. We can all exhibit both masculine and feminine qualities, but we all have only one that is more natural to us, and that is the one that we feel the most comfortable and happy in. We can't be happy if we are in the opposite of what is natural for us for too long. Now a man may not be in his masculine all the time, and a woman may not be in her feminine all the time, but masculinity does indeed naturally include leadership, and femininity does also include submissiveness.
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  147. You described this so well. This video basically shows how the doc doesn't understand women. And instead of accepting them for who they are and trying to understand them and WHY they might do what they do and say what they say, he tries to change them by convincing them to be how he wants them to be. That's a guaranteed way to make yourself more and more frustrated, which is what motivated this venting video.
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  148. We definitely can mess ourselves up when we focus on our fears. I think in that scenario though with the guy picking a fight, the self-sabotage was the fact that he started a fight, because, he could have gotten jail time and lost his job and went downhill due to that one decision to start a fight, or gotten serious injuries or possibly death. The guys holding him back was his safety net, because he didn't really want to fight deep down, but that part wasn't the sabotage. Self-sabotage comes from our own fears, and we make the things we focus on comes true. So if we focus on our fear, we will make that fear come true. The solution would be to actively change our focus to something else or something upbuilding for ourselves when we notice ourselves focusing on our fears. So if the guy starting the fight would have decided to stop focusing on how weak he feels, or how he doesn't care about anything, and changed his focus to how strong he is for making it to where he is, or how there are still things worth caring about including himself, he wouldn't have started that fight. In other words, he would be ok if he stopped focusing on his insecurities and started focusing on the truth.
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  149. True. It's like taking a page from the manipulator's book. Although saying "no" is ok. There are kind, yet stern ways to walk away from manipulators. We don't have to return the toxicity. That would be basically validating the manipulators behavior and making them feel that behavior is ok.
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  150. @Maybe 1000  Yeah. You're right. People that are choosing based on "timing" are actually choosing based on a fear. Usually, a fear of being alone, and they tend to want to rush things and are impatient. That's a big red flag.
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  151. You did something awesome for him, and you know it. That's what matters. He probably blocked you because he has some issues or misinterpreted things. Anyway, that doesn't make him worthless. That makes him fearful. Similar to bullies, who are also bullying others because there is something depressing and fear inducing going on in their lives and they don't know how to properly handle it. Your actions of helping him feel better hold the utmost value, whether people realize it or not. That remains the truth.
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  152. ​@StudioSouster No one is born a monster. We're shown how to be one while growing up and we perpetuate the issue in adulthood. Some of us just do it to ourselves as adults.
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  153. It's so true that they try and change the way you feel in order to forget things and move on. This isn't just a woman's problem, though. This is a human issue. Some men do the same thing. People don't apologize for these reasons: 1. They are either too prideful and don't like to admit they were wrong. 2. They think it shows strength. (It actually shows weakness). 3. They view being wrong to mean something bad about themselves. They might think it means they are stupid, or they might think it makes them an awful person. They are afraid of these feelings that aren't even rooted in truth in the first place. It's a fear they've developed or learned, so they operate from this place of fear and find ways to distract themselves and others from the fact that they owe an apology. All in an effort to not feel something that isn't even true. Also, good on you for sticking to your integrity and not sleeping with that woman when you knew you didn't like her.
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  154. They can be open to dating while simultaneously working. It happens all the time. Constantly, in fact. The ones you've talked to may SAY they aren't interested in relationships early on, but they almost always end up in one. Look at their actions doc. Not just their words in the moment. You ignore this reality for some reason, and you try to place these unnecessary limits on people. Also, 40 year olds date and get married all the time. You miss out on a lot when you ignore reality, Orion.
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  155. You said, "If you can't beat out your competition". Worrying about competition is a limiting mindset. It makes you insecure and trying to compensate to "beat out" the competition, which is unnattractive behavior. It keeps you in a state of fear. Physical attractiveness and being a good person definitely help a lot, but these things are not what truly creates that raw attraction. Also, social status literally doesn't matter at all. The fact that you think these things matter a lot tells me that you don't understand how attraction works and you have MANY limiting beliefs that holds you back a ton. With respect, because of this, your advice gets it right about 5 percent of the time. Also, introspection can never be narcissistic. Narcissistic people literally NEVER do introspection. This is how they end up being narcissistic. They are constantly avoiding themselves and how they feel deep down inside. The fact that you think this tells me that you might lean more toward narcissistic and/or avoidant behavior because that belief is an excuse for you to avoid introspection. You mentioned being rewarded by the other side. This is like looking at women as if they are your mommy. Your focus on a rewards system for your accomplishments or you doing well or showing something that should be attractive is actually VERY unnattractive and the wrong thing to focus on. It definitely points to your own current limiting beliefs and knowledge gaps. But the world propagandizes us to believe these things. So you aren't the only one.
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  156. Your compromised position of cynicism is not the best you can do. Thats the story you tell yourself so that you don't have to do the work, self-examine, admit your faults and ultimately humble yourself. Any emotional pain you endure while doing so is very temporary, and therefore, an extremely low price to pay for being free of cynicism the rest of your life and being more open to the truth. You telling yourself that cynicism is the best you can do is what is actually NOT GROUNDED IN REALITY. You, in fact, are capable of more. And you are using your intelligence to convince yourself that you are not. Your ultimate message here is to give up and stop looking for a solution. This, in itself, is cynical. Your teleprompter debacle, for example, just was not the solution. The only solution here to not having to look away from the camera is not more technology. The solution is just to memorize your point, and practice not accidentally repeating yourself. Its possible to develop yourself in that way. Don't get me wrong though, I see your point of how looking down isn't even a problem in the first place, because such a problem doesn't actually affect the entire course of your life if not changed, BUT being generally cynical about something completely DOES effect the course of your life HEAVILY, and therefore can literally cost you true happiness and fulfillment in your own life if not addressed.
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  157. Pride is a human problem. Not just a woman problem. Men have literally the same issue. It takes humility to admit that.
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  158. You say it isn't petulant just because you sound calm, but it is. You would basically be like a little boy throwing a quiet tantrum, because he can't get his way. It's not attractive to a healthy woman and it's a huge red flag. By doing this, you'd attract very fearful and insecure women that cause unnecessary problems and that will use similar type of tactics, because those are the only ones that will put up with that type of behavior.
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  159.  @exiledfrommyself  That is due to the bad leadership of the supervisors. The main part of union contracts is that employees have to WORK in order to keep a job. If a supervisor is so lazy or complacent or afraid that they don't want to administer discipline to people like that, then it's the supervisor that should be disciplined. A union won't be able to defend a worker that refuses to work. I understand your point though, because despite all of this, the people in charge just ignore it and pretend that it's not happening. I've learned that I cannot control others, so there is no point in worrying about it, and I just focus on bettering myself. This is part of what helps me to stay calm.
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  160. I don't think people are concered that you don't care about them. I think they are more concerned that toxic advice is being given. You say you are just saying how some successful people operate, but most people look at what you say as advice due to your position as a psychiatrist. Also, paying for services as transactions is normal and getting along with that person is normal. No one has an issue about that. Being in fully PERSONAL relationships and looking for them to be fully transactional is not normal or healthy and would be toxic to the personal relationship. This is because they require love to thrive. And in order for actual love to be shown, affection and time has to be given freely from both parties. If its not free, then its not love. Granted, giving love does spark others to do the same, but it all still has to be given without expectation of something in return for both people to be and feel free and to show love. It's the only way a person can FEEL you caring for them in a personal relationship. Now, there are those that would take advantage of your affection by taking it while not truly caring for you or treating you bad. This is why you have to have self-respect or self-love in order to recognize it and walk away from that person. THIS is the only healthy contingency.
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  161. Wow. Such a good example showing that what the doc says is backwards. I wonder if the doc would change his perspective if he had your experience. With his twisted thinking, he would probably say that the reason the man is rich is because he doesn't tip lol.
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  162. Beautiful comment. He doesn't think about the reasoning behind a loss of attraction, because he only focuses on getting his own needs met. You just can't have a healthy relationship that way.
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  163.  @carlospita6442  You think looking into the reasons for something is simping?
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  164. @Morgy Orgy  I completely agree with you. I'm saying that people like her are still capable of feeling love. They can feel it for someone, but not know how to properly show it due to never having a proper example. She doesn't know HOW to love. That's why she could not properly let you go in a loving way. She likely saw others be vengeful and scornful as she was growing up. She wasn't taught self-control, which is a big part of love. I'm not making an excuse for her. What she did isn't loving at all. It's still not ok no matter what. She just didn't know how to show love, especially in that situation. She is basically a feral person when it comes to these situations, because she was never taught correctly and was likely inadvertently taught the wrong things. That doesn't mean that she cannot FEEL it. Everyone is capable of feeling it, but feeling it and showing it are two different things. So if she said she loved you, it's not that she was lying about that. It's just that she had no clue what she was doing. Many people have this problem due to many parents not knowing what they are doing either, and we have to apply ourselves and learn these things as adults if we are willing. Her upbringing or her ignorance does not excuse her actions, though.
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  165. True that men don't want a challenge when it comes to romance. False that men prefer to chase. He only initiates the chase or the courtship. Chasing overall is submissive. Therefore, it is feminine, which means that it's unattractive when a man does it aside from initiating the courtship. This might explain why you have issues with keeping women attracted despite your material resources. I really hope you can understand this someday so you can stop misleading people. This is why it's all about your behavior, not transactions. This is why any man can be attractive, but not with the insecure and weak transactional mindset that you teach. Also, this does not mean a woman should give up her body immediately because they will repel the good men by doing that.
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  166. He's wrong most of the time and he is learning as he goes. The discrepancy you noticed is a perfect example. He also used to think money mattered and now he knows that isn't true. Eventually, if he keeps learning, he will stop saying relationships are like a business and he'll say that women should have self-respect and not give it up so easily. So just be careful of the advice you take from him, because he is barely learning this stuff.
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  167. You shouldn't have to suggest getting something in return. A relationship is about giving. Both are supposed to naturally give. There are some people who don't know how to do this though. Many times it's due to a lack of self-esteem or self-love. If someone doesn't love themselves, they won't know how to properly love someone else, or in other words, they won't have anything left to give. It's like they are running on empty. There are so many people that experience this issue, amongst both men and women. We can get passed it though, but it requires work and self-reflection and humility.
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  168. True. This video just seems like he is looking for reasons to dismiss legitimate criticisms of himself. Which is pretty normal for most people because most people are avoidant like that. Or I could be wrong, and maybe he just genuinely feels like hard work equals the answer to everything. But I just feel like he says stuff like that so he could avoid looking at different perspectives. Because if someone criticized his workout stats, that would be wrong because he is literally working on it the proper way, but if they critiqued some of his advice, it would be legitimate because much of his advice is literally toxic and he isn't doing the work to look at things in a more healthy manner.
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  169. I get what you mean, but you still technically trusted someone with your heart, and they broke it by unilaterally ending the relationship. Perhaps you can say that YOU invested all of that in the wrong person and gave your heart to the wrong person. That helps you learn from your choices, but ultimately, they chose to break your heart. You gave it to them after all. It's ok to allow yourself to feel the pain of it for a bit. Gotta feel it to heal it, right? Then, keep moving forward.
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  170.  @samb123078  Hey man, I understand wanting to go out with a beautiful and young woman. If that is your only standard to chose a woman though, I won't judge you for that. It's your choice. Yes, we do have that physical desire, but we are also programmed with the ability to reason and to have a deeper relationship that goes beyond just physical attraction. We can't possibly have that though unless we raise our standards. Yes, that will considerably lower the amount of people to date, but we have a much larger chance of having a fulfilling relationship. I agree that her family wants the best for her, but their version of the best is to rush it and settle for someone that they are not in love with. She knows that we can all do better than that, so she won't settle for it. We can only raise our standards though if we can get to a place where we are happy with ourselves and hold ourselves to a higher standard first. Higher standards do not necessarily include education and money by the way.
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  171.  @christopherpekel6096  No. I'm a man.
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  172. Orion is all about the fleshly desires, sadly. He literally teaches the opposite of the bible all the time. His entire channel is about giving into one's fleshly desires. You can tell that he knows he is wrong on some level because videos like this one show his thought process on how he uses his intelligence to rationalize NOT changing his mindset of superficiality and transactions, thus enabling himself to keep his current outlook. Giving himself an excuse and then teaching those excuses to others. That's avoidant behavior. Notice how he said that spiritual people tend to be envious of materialistic people. Well, that tells you that he is having trouble brushing off certain criticisms because he knows they're right, so it's easier to call them envious in order to dismiss them. That's avoidant behavior also.
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  173. Doc, based on your story and your worldview, it seems to me that you have psychopathy. The personality disorder where you are incapable of feeling empathy or remorse. It's basically a disability you were born with. I say this because even now, as an adult, you literally can't understand that your mother felt sad for your younger sister. You think that she was just trying to avoid dealing with a crying kid. This is because you don't understand empathy, so all you can see is the competition in front of you. Even now. It was your empathy that your mother was trying to appeal to, but she didn't know you had a disability in that area. All of your videos make so much sense now because the main thing that all of them are missing is empathy and remorse. And THATS why you promote manipulation and THATS why you look at EVERYTHING as a competition. And THATS why you thrive in an actual competitive environment. Because people with psychopathy tend to hyperfocus on competition. Those are common things for a person with psychopathy to do. Anyway, I think it would do you a lot of good to be aware of this about yourself.
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  174.  @camerongeorge456  Its pretty amazing to hear that you've broken free of the pattern and now understand how to be happy. I'm happy for you. It takes lots of strength and humility to get to where you are now.
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  175.  @camerongeorge456  It makes complete sense. I'm glad you've been able to get some clarity on it. It's a huge step though. Most people don't even want to admit they have an issue, let alone get help and look for answers.
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  176. @Mark Patterson  Practicing being myself included saying what was on my mind out loud, instead of holding it in as only a thought. Making a joke that came to mind even though there is a chance no one would laugh or care, voicing my disagreements, no matter how unpopular my opinion might be, and not being afraid to smile and wave at people when I want to, or compliment a stranger or anybody really, or being honest about embarrassing things about myself, or say "no" to people when appropriate for myself, or tell someone that I do not appreciate something said about me, and not just laugh it off if I didn't feel good about it. Even something like doing random stretches and exercises when I wanted to around groups of people, even if they made fun of me for it. Also, not laughing at jokes I didn't like, such as jokes at someone else's expense or jokes that I felt were shallow and gross just to make the one making the joke feel more comfortable. Or just not changing my demeanor when speaking to someone with lots of power or a woman I felt was extremely beautiful, or a man that looks like an extremely rough gang banger. Treat everyone the same and keep the same boundaries with everyone. I'm still working on this stuff to be honest, but I've gotten much better. The practice just consists of those little things that I think anyone can start practicing one at a time if they really wanted to, and if they were willing to honestly examine their own behavior.
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  177. This is basically a bribe for sex and you are desperately trying to convince them to accept. You won't get anywhere like this and you'll keep turning women off with this mindset. Women are not repulsed or disappointed by men, they are repelled by men with mindsets and behaviors like this. Wouldn't you rather have a woman thats crazy about you and is passionate for you? Its impossible to get that by viewing them this way.
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  178. I acknowledge that you're getting better, Orion, especially with understanding that your behavior as a man matters, BUT you're not there yet. You don't have to be more competent than her, and you don't look at it as giving orders. THIS viewpoint of yours will get you rejected because worrying about her competency COMPARED to yours is motivated by fear, and you will over compensate out of insecurity. The truth is that you don't have to be better than her at ANYTHING. And you don't have to give her orders. Stop worrying. Relax. All you have to do is TAKE THE LEAD and give her the freedom to follow. This means to go first. This means you plan dates, pick the place, and have a genuine interest in what she would like and be thoughtful about your choices. You don't give orders. You INVITE so that she has the option to REJECT. This means that you need to be literally ok with rejection. That is true confidence. This is the loving way to lead.
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  179. What about just crying when you're alone? You wouldn't have to worry about making someone uncomfortable and you feel better afterwards. Crying personally helps me a lot. I feel better after a good cry. It's like a physical release of our emotions that we are feeling. You feel stronger afterwards too. Although, I usually just do it when I'm alone. I'm currently still trying not to hold it back in front of those close to me. Right now though, I prefer to be alone while I cry.
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  180. ​​​​I can help. So you say he gets women just fine, yet the doc never once talks about actually causing desire in a woman because he really doesn't understand women at all. Then you said that he doesn't find the inherent nature of women that great, and thats literally because he doesn't WANT to empathize with them because he doesn't understand their inherent nature at all to begin with. It's easier for him to think of them in a cold way so that he can keep using them for sex without feeling guilty. Not just that though, he likely has had experiences where he felt used and women were actually cold toward him, so I'm sure his views also come from the wrong lessons taken from his experiences. The man is definitely capable of empathy, though. I'm sure of that. He just speaks from his own insecurities, and he formed inaccurate beliefs based on them instead of just addressing them.
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  181. This is a beautiful appeal to him, but I don't believe he is looking for balance at all. In this video, he said that women should give up sex, whether she knows the man is truly interested or not. She should just take a chance and give it up. So he actually already considered the risk of being used for sex and he doesn't care. Then he literally said that women just need to make themselves useful to men. So his whole message basically amounts too, "Just let me use you for sex". He just masked it in a complicated sounding way so that it's harder to detect how awful and horrible and unhealthy the message is.
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  182. It's only true IF you are exaggerating or perceiving something in someone that isn't there, OR if you are unnecessarily hyper focused on that one flaw of that person and you keep thinking about it and feel the need to constantly shame them for it. The truth is that you're allowed to not like someone and decide not to associate with them based on your own integrity and boundaries, not because it means something about yourself. The doc either didn't know how to articulate this properly, or he doesn't know how projection works.
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  183. Why did you get offended? Was there some type of argument? Because not NEEDING a man is very different than not wanting one. Apparently, you were her man. It's better to be wanted than needed.
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  184. Accepting and acknowledging our imperfections is the best way to go. This way, when we know what our weaknesses are, we can have a better chance to avoid doing the wrong thing that we are prone to doing. That is a humble mindset. Completely rejecting ourselves in any way is a more haughty mindset, which is toxic and hurtful to ourselves and basically guarantees that we will do the wrong thing much more often.
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  185. You do need your own things to do and some alone time, yeah. Although, you speak as if you aren't even truly interested in the woman you're with. You said to see her as little as possible? Then why be with her if you don't enjoy your time with her? Also, its never been said you must spend all of your non-working hours together. Just learn how to have fun with your woman when you are together. Also, you make excuses as to why you don't have to listen to her or try to understand her saying its impossible, but its literally not, because she is a human being just like you. Helping her feel heard and understood actually ignites her attraction toward you making her want sex more, yet you advocate against this. No wonder you feel you must try to convince a woman to have sex because you refuse to do the things that actually cause attraction. Also, you're right that sex helps with the emotional aspects, BUT you focus on sex FIRST, instead of just having fun and getting to know her first WITHOUT sex. This doesn't work and that's why you come off as sex crazed, because you put sex first. Its the wrong order.
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  186. Keep in mind that it's basically people focusing and speaking from their fears and insecurities. This video enables those fears and insecurities.
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  187. Orion's words are the words of a man that doesn't understand women and doesn't understand how to get along with them and makes excuses as to why so he doesn't have to learn. He literally thinks it's impossible to understand a woman, so he gives up. All the things required to be happy with a woman, he discouraged in this video. It's no wonder he can't spend much time with her. He has no clue how to hang out and have fun with a woman. Anybody with this type of limiting perspective will never be able to enjoy the kind of relationship you have with your wife. You are not an anomaly. You just have the proper view on things.
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  188. Men monkey branch when they are currently with a woman they are not truly interested in, and women monkey branch when their romantic feelings are gone or has gotten very low. This is what I've learned. Basically, its wrong to monkey branch. It requires a major lack of integrity, because a person would have to start lining up other prospects while not leaving the current relationship. That is dishonest and a violation of one's own commitment.
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  189. You're just hanging around the toxic places. Dr. Orion doesn't realize it, but he has a toxic belief system around romance, which attracts men with toxic and negative views that they want validated. So you are just going to the wrong places if you are looking for emotionally healthy men.
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  190. The moment you noticed her avoid answering questions about her past was the red flag you need to know she had something to hide that she knew you would disapprove of. Also, anyone avoiding answering any question at all is a way to let you know that person is not trustworthy and has something to hide. The only exception is if that particular question is too personal and is trying to elicit obviously private information.
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  191. Feeling like you aren't good enough can come from multiple things. Its not necessarily from a negligent mother. The doc is wrong about this being the only cause. It's actually only a potential cause because people cope with it in different ways. If you have feelings of not being good enough, it can come from anybody putting you down or not giving you recognition at any point in childhood or even adulthood. This becomes an insecurity that stsys because of putting yourself down and being too hard on yourself. At the end of the day, it's just a perspective you have on yourself, and you have the ability to change that perspective to the truth by giving yourself permission to be a beginner and learn slowly and be patient with yourself and stopping negative self-talk in it's tracks when it comes up. And remember the truth, which is that you are good enough for anything just like everyone else is, and just because you can't get what you want sometimes doesn't necessarily mean something about you.
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  192. @Anders Nielsen I didn't mean to offend. I wasn't talking about you. I was speaking in a general sense.
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  193. Yeah, the doc has a very limited and depressing and inaccurate world view that holds him back from fulfilling relationships. He won't take responsibility for himself when it comes to relationships, which is why he can't learn anything past superficiality. He also focuses on toxic women and projects that behavior on all women.
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  194. @BAsed_AFro  It can be recovered. Neuroplasicity is a term that refers to the brain reorganizing itself and recovering functions lost. It's possible, and there is always hope. It just takes the correct type of practice and effort to look at things from a different perspective and practice behavioral changes. Gotta be humble for that type of change, though, and take responsibility for your own recovery as an adult and not focus on blaming the parents. You can fix what your parents messed up when they didn't know what they were doing.
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  195. Hang out and have fun. Plan dates once a week or once every two weeks. Something small. Doesn't have to be expensive. Also, just talking. Asking her about her opinion on things or asking her what type of stuff she likes to watch on the internet. Like what type of stuff she subscribes to on youtube. Overall, just be interested in her, and let her tell you and listen without being judgemental so that she feels comfortable being herself around you. And don't force any answers out. It's ok if she doesn't feel like answering at the moment.
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  196. Lying doesn't work because things don't work that way. Good women can detect your BS and will move away from you due to how your disingenuousness is making them feel. It's like if you were telling the truth about wanting only sex that night. You'll likely get rejected for causing the same feeling alarms to go off when you're lying. This only includes women with healthy perspectives, by the way. Desperate women with no boundaries like you will notice the disingenuousness and will go forward with things anyway. So your desperate mindset showcased by lying will, in fact, have you attract others with the same disingenuous lying mindset. The way around this is to stop allowing your lustful urge for sex to control your decision-making. Have some self-control and focus on other things so you don't have to lie, and you don't have to come off so desperate and disingenuous. Just trying to help, man. Because you are inadvertently making the world worse by telling people to be a liar.
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  197. What an amazing post. Great assessment and beautifully articulated. It's that mix of truth with lies that is especially dangerous because it makes the lies or just toxic information more believable. In this video, for example, he tells the woman to think of the other person, but the extremely toxic part is that he also tells her to forget about herself. In this video, he basically just did his best to manipulate a woman into having sex with him. He has so much to learn, but he thinks he knows it all. And also because he is so well spoken, many people buy into the toxicity.
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  198. ​@metsfanal Thats because he doesn't know so he can't truly help. The doc says stuff most of the time but never gives the "how" or the "why." There is no reasoning, and he says very generic things with no details for actual advice. In other words, the man isn't really saying anything.
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  199. ​@marcusmcgraw3519 Bad way to go. Taking it personal is basically choosing to be in unnecessary pain, and gives an excuse not to try again and go for who you are interested in.
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  200. ​ @Psych2go  I believe bad association is only one major factor. The encouragement of one's environment is also a factor, but that would fall into association. I don't believe anyone is innately evil or is born this way, but if we are not careful, or don't know any better, or don't have our own set of principles, we can fall into it. Whether that'd be because of coping with a fear and insecurity in the wrong way, or a loss of hope, or just fostering a thought that we know deep down is bad, we can all be susceptible to bad deeds. I think that being humble enough to know that we are not impervious to it and accepting that we need to take our own steps to avoid getting caught up in bad behavior is a good first step to protecting ourselves.
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  201. GOOD men offer safety and intamacy. The empathy gap only grows with toxic individuals who don't know what they are doing. And men don't have to be someone with high status or whatever in order to attract a woman. That's a limiting belief by men who who are motivated by their fears and insecurities. It's not rooted in truth. The doc here constantly speaks from a place of fear, and that's why he is wrong at least 95 percent of the time.
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  202. ​​​@xsophia22x You're right. Women don't need men. They really can be ok on their own. If they are with a man, it should be because they WANT to be, not because they need to be. And yeah, I can believe those studies because most men are toxic and bitter like the doc here. Most refuse to humble themselves and learn how to show up in a healthy way. You're job as a woman is to learn how to properly vet a man so you'll know how he will show up in his relationship. And to also exhibit the kind of kind behavior you'd like to see in your partner. Just following ONLY your heart will only get you so far. You have to look at the man objectively.
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  203. My wife would say the same exact thing about herself, because this is what her mom would tell her. She was doing so well for a while, so I know how sweet she is deep down. When she felt overwhelmed is when she would put herself and me down. She eventually felt overwhelmed all the time and left. There was nothing I could do. She didn't want the healthy way out, because she was too afraid of feeling emotional pain. She stopped trying and went into full distract and self repress mode. Now, almost 6 months later, she is always intentionally staying busy, and I know it's just to keep herself from thinking about things, but that makes her feel more sad and angry. So, I want to commend you for still trying. Keep it up. You are showing courage by being here, by watching this and by posting that. You are certainly not alone in this struggle.
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  204. Holding back something doesn't mean you are hurting your authenticity. Sometimes, you have to be able to read the room and understand what is appropriate at the moment and when something is appropriate. True authenticity requires that balance and makes you more civilized and mature and even more likable. To just NEVER hold back and ALWAYS let loose with no self-control no matter what is just going to make you a disrespectful wild animal that thinks of no one but themselves and as a result, no one wants to be around. So the truth is that the only healthy option is to be a balance of holder and sniffer. Because a 100% holder will not be themselves and never have any fun, and a 100% sniffer is inconsiderate of others and not kind at all.
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  205. You definitely dodged a bullet there. Good call. That was a major red flag telling you that he was not willing to accept responsibility for his own actions, and that he blames everyone else, except himself for everything that goes wrong in his life. Also, in that story, Adam willingly disobeyed God and ate an apple from the tree also, but then shamelessly tried to blame Eve for his own action, as if he hadn't made the decision himself to eat it.
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  206. That issue that you had with those women being afraid to give up their "sexual liberation" was a difference in values that you had with them. You did not vet them properly or you ignored red flags. Either that, or that was just their excuse for leaving, and they really left because they lost attraction to you, because you stopped doing the things that made you attractive in the first place. Its pretty much guaranteed to be one of those two reasons. You cannot blame society. You have to take responsibility for your own choices so that you can learn to choose and do better next time. You blame society, then that means you have nothing to change, which means you'll keep getting the same results over and over again.
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  207.  @axandoaldria7439  Good man. It's true that a man doesn't need a woman. When a guy feels like he needs a woman, that is when he is in danger of picking a bad one, because he becomes desperate. And I commend you for not being pressured into losing your virginity, despite what the world will tell you. It's not something that should be rushed either. I would recommend learning the signs of a good woman and what the red flags are of one that isn't ready for a relationship, so that you know what to look for if you eventually find a woman that you like.
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  208.  @eddenoy321  Alpha doesn't mean being a tough guy. Tough guys feel like they have to prove themselves to compensate for their insecurities. That's the opposite of alpha. It basically means being emotionally Intelligent. Like setting boundaries and having high standards and having self-respect. And you can't be emotionally intelligent without being humble enough to genuinely self-reflect and be able to honestly admit your mistakes and taking responsibility for one's own life direction. So even a broken person can become whole by doing this. You have to feel it to heal it.
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  209. That principle goes against healthy romantic relationships. A woman wants romantic love from her man, not just any kind of love that she can also get from her child. If you encourage her to accept any kind of love from her man like she does her child, she will lose romantic attraction to her man because she begins to see him as her child, and not her man. If a woman tells you to please listen for a bit without offering solutions, that means she acknowledges you as her MAN and she is only trying to help YOU help her feel heard, understood, and safe like her man should help her feel. A good mother will NEVER ask this of her child, but instead, will actually help her child feel heard, understood, and safe, because the mother is the leader and protector of the child. You see how the design works? This is showing love. So the original comment was right. The doc just doesn't understand women yet or how to properly show a woman love as the leader of the relationship.
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  210. ​​ @Straga_Severa_ There's no guarantee he will stay because she gives up the s3x. So if he leaves because he wasn't truly into her, which happens A LOT in this world, and then she keeps following the docs advice and keeps giving up her milk to the next guy who might leave, now she potentially has all these men she's been with and according to the doc, her purity goes down which means she becomes less desirable. His advice to a woman is extremely contradictory. It's like saying 10+10=10. He excludes or ignores very real factors. His advice is catering to the temporary lust of the man, and it completely disregards the health of the woman. In other words, it's toxic advice that promotes misery.
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  211. ​ @allanluis3696 She didn't agree. She said she did both. The doctor says to do one at a time. MOST women have relationships with men WHILE working or going to school. It happens literally all the time. Look around you. The doc is just unnecessarily ignoring reality and trying to make his own fantasy land where he feels more comfortable.
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  212. @dustyflair  Ok, but Elon never wears one either in the important meetings. All of a sudden, it's an issue for them. That tells you they were reaching for something to say. This type of stuff is why Donald's daughter didn't want to be involved in politics anymore. She said it's all dark and it ruins your happiness.
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  213. In other words, competitiveness is toxic. Haughtiness is everywhere and it's toxic. Humility leads to peace.
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  214. Your experience is a great example of the type of person to avoid and how waiting to have sex can be beneficial to determine a person's character. If he was actually in love, he sure didn't understand how to show it and how to show self-control. He was like a child unable to control his need for candy. It's not manly or mature and will always be a turn off. He may have been successful with money, but that kind of success doesn't equal wisdom or authenticity. It's also possible that he just didn't care and wanted quick and easy sex and used "love" to try and manipulate you into giving him what he wanted. Either way, it was a major red flag in that it showed he had no self-control, and that definitely would have showed up a lot more in other toxic ways if you had continued with him.
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  215. "What works to maintain won't work to attract." This statement of yours defies common sense. If you attract her from the beginning with who you are, you will UNNATTRACT her by not MAINTAINING who you are. So, in other words, if you stop maintaining the person you are from the beginning in which she had attraction for, you'll obviously lose her attraction. Also, you FINALLY are understanding how masculinity and femininity create romantic attraction. It's refreshing. Now what you DON'T understand yet is that these things are due to BEHAVIOR. NOT superficiality. The more feminine a man acts, the more he loses her attraction, but that can be turned around with a BEHAVIORAL adjustment. Its that easy. Also, you've spoken out against boundaries before which is why you are wrong so often. Well part of that "negotiation" is for a man to HAVE PROPER BOUNDARIES and maintain them. This makes him attractive. This takes self-reflection and humility. When you finally eventually talk about this, I'll believe you finally FULLY know what you're talking about. Because i can really see you learning and slowly changing your mindset, and it's so nice to see it happen.
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  216. Ultimatums are a bad way to go. Its manipulation with the hopes that losing them will make you do what they want. Ultimatums come from a place of insecurity. Ultimatums mean they don't truly believe they deserve what they want. It also means somewhere deep down, she knows you aren't really interested, but she doesn't leave because she doesn't believe she deserves to have what she wants, so she tries to force things with an ultimatum. The men that get the ultimatums are usually the men that date women they have no romantic interest in. So its better to break up with her when you know you aren't truly interested. So she can be open to find someone that really wants her.
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  217. Shows his bitterness and envy. He can't see reality correctly because of this.
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  218. Well his definition of self-respect means to fight back and engage in more problems and potentially get hurt in order to protect yourself. He thinks engaging in more stress and drama is the only way to show self-respect. His definition is wrong. This is why it's confusing. True self-respect means you walk away from those that are treating you bad. It means taking actions that lead to no stress and more peace. You don't give your time to those that refuse to be nice to you. You don't associate with them unless they agree to be kind. The doc doesn't understand how a person truly shows respect to themselves, which is why he is against it in many cases.
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  219. Wow. You're about the first comment I've read that understands that all three of them share the same viewpoints. They all basically just validate each other's cynical and superficial mindsets. So a conversation with all three of them would be repetitive.
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  220. He has likely pulled the wrong lessons from his own experiences, and he figures no other explanations can possibly exist for him getting rejected by a pretty woman. Just that pretty woman hold power over him, and that's all there is to it. What a depressing and limiting belief he has settled on. For sure a belief like that would make a person bitter. It's like he doesn't believe he holds any power in his own life. In other words, he won't take responsibility for himself because its easier to blame others for his problems.
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  221. Literally anybody who complains about their ex on a date is definitely NOT over their ex and isn't ready to date other people. Even if they have only anger for them, they still are not finished emotionally with that person. The best thing to do in that case is to tell them that they seem to have some stuff to work out emotionally, and get in touch after they've figured it out, but you don't want to be in the middle of that. If you continue with someone like that, they'll likely use you as a rebound, or they will disappear like that lady did. It's a recipe for pain to stay involved with people in that position.
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  222. I'd say love means kindness, upbuilding, respect, discipline, calm, teaching, and honesty. All of this is necessary from both mothers and fathers. Holding back any of these things or doing the opposite of them is what creates trauma wounds that must be healed. Its really that simple. Irresponsibility of either parent can cause the trauma wounds you speak of. The main difference of mothers and fathers is really just about who leads the family and who the calm rock is and who the softer one to go to is. Also, you really shouldn't teach that there is some kind of negative aspect associated with failing, because thats teaching fear. That may be an insecurity or fear that you personally have. In reality, failure is simply a means to learn and adjust. Its important that we teach kids AND adults that we must give ourselves permission to be a beginner. This mindset takes the pressure off and allows us to focus 100% on learning and improving with no fear to get in the way. We teach our own values and beliefs and boundaries to our children, even if we don't realize it. It happens no matter what, so the most important thing to do is to humbly self-reflect, so we can make sure we have things right with ourselves before we go and teach things to our kids.
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  223. This makes sense. I really hate humor that involves putting others down, even though I grew up with it all around me.
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  224. "For whatever reason". How can you make a whole video on it and not know the reason? Because everything else you said here is common sense. I mean, the take is interesting, and I can see the sense in it, but it's really just repeating the problem in a different way. No solutions. Also, don't enable how this is a "difficult experience" for a man. That is promoting codependence. Sure, rejection isn't nice, but it's only difficult if you have the wrong perspective on it, which most of us do.
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  225.  michael piro  You said Jesus's disciples are not defined by their works, but by their faith. Do you know the bible basically says the exact opposite of your statement here? James 2:26 says "Just as the body without spirit is dead, so also faith without works is dead".
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  226.  michael piro  Ok. I acknowledge the scripture you've shown me here, but you did not acknowledge the one I showed you. We are not saved SOLELY by our works, this is true because we need faith like you said. Now James 2:26 says that we cannot have one without the other. Faith without works is dead. In other words, words without actions to back them up are meaningless.
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  227. True. He is trying to make himself feel better about paying for it by basically saying he is "above" everyone else. There would be no need for such a rationalization if he truly thought there was nothing wrong with it. And if any dude is spending 15 grand on a date, EVEN if its a super rich man, he is coming off as a desperate man that has no clue what he is doing and is setting himself up to be taken advantage of by a toxic woman.
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  228. When it comes to money, you have a true abundance mentality. When it comes to women and your romantic life, you have a major scarcity mentality. I know this because in truth, you don't have to pay a ridiculous amount of money to date a woman you are attracted to. Thinking you do have to spend hundreds or thousands is a scarcity mentality, even for a billionaire. It also sets you up to be taken advantage of and you lose out on an actual connection with a genuine person. Business does not translate to romance at all. You have to accept they work completely differently if you want a chance at fulfillment in romance. Also, maybe it was just a saying, but you mentioned your brothers in Christ as if you are following the Christ. If you truly were, you wouldn't be promoting such principles. Christ would tell you that you are spreading the opposite of what he teaches, which is basically satanic.
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  229. Wow. Never thought I would see the rest of the world catch up. I remember people making jokes about how I listen to video game music, but now it's becoming the norm. It's definitely a surprise.
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  230.  @keithcommins  Well one thing he said in this interview is, "what you did to get them is not what you do to keep them". Literally the opposite of that is true. Lots of men attract a woman by having fun with her and planning dates periodically. Tons of men out there grow complacent and stop doing this and often wonder why the woman doesn't want to have sex as much. He thinks dating has changed. And granted, there are different avenues to go like dating apps, but the things that women and men are attracted to remain the same and have never changed and never will. The things I said are rooted in behavior and being genuine and focuses on ourselves. And while he never explicitly speaks against these things, he never mentions them. He says things rooted in superficiality like status and money and top ten percent bs, when in reality, any man can attract a woman. He has many limiting beliefs rooted in fear around this subject. The main thing is that here and on his channel, he never talks about what creates raw attraction, because he doesn't know. Instead, he often focuses on trying to talk women into why they should be giving up sex more. This is common amongst men that don't understand women. Although, I hear him say something true every now and then, but it's dangerous because mixing truth in with misleading information makes the misleading information sound more believable. Not that I think he is doing that intentionally. Oh, and he focuses on competition a lot. This is a negative mindset because it will have you subconsciously over compensating in your behavior in order to be the best "competitor". Which makes us more unnattractive. That mindset is rooted in fear. Men that know what they are doing don't think about competition, and have no competition as a result.
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  231. You'll have to start putting in the effort to take the lead among your family if you want to feel happier. Your kids must listen. They can cry for 4 hours straight to get their way, but don't give in. You are the leader. Kids like it better this way and its healthier for all of you. Stop being so akward with your wife. Take an interest in her and ask her how her day with the kids went. Plan a simple date with her. Take the lead. Have fun with her. This is how you gain freedom.
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  232. It doesn't work in the US either or anywhere in the world. The doc just doesn't know what he is talking about. The only time it would work is with very extremely desperate and insecure women or disingenuous women like gold diggers who don't really care for you, and its those desperate and disingenuous ones that are more likely to be bombs as he puts it, because they tend to develop lots of anger because of not having respect for themselves. So he doesn't realize that while he says to stay away from unhinged women, the very next piece of advice he gives leads right to those same unhinged women.
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  233. Your mom just doesn't know what to say, so she comes up with an excuse to not deal with it. My sister does the same thing to her son, except her excuse is that he is just looking for attention. Many parents just have no clue on how to deal with some things, and because they are prideful, they don't want to admit that. So it's a good thing that we have videos like this to help us address these things.
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  234. It takes actual humility to overcome insecure attachment styles though. Also, pride is a HUMAN problem. Tons of men suffer from it too. The doc just doesn't know any better.
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  235. ​ @Kritikanbringer Yet having discipline makes you more masculine. You can either give in to all of your natural urges like an animal or an undisciplined child, or have some boundaries and standards for yourself and have some self-control and be a more attractive man as a result.
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  236. FINALLY DOC. You FINALLY advocated for a man to actually take RESPONSIBILITY for himself instead of blame women like a weak man. You finally taught STRENGTH. And notice the only time you've done this, you did NOT make the usual mistake of comparing relationships to business. You deserve many commendations for this one. Awesome job, doc. Also, a slight correction. Giving in ALWAYS has the same negative result, no matter how soon or late you give in. It signals you won't stand up for what you believe in all the same. By the way doc, you just taught how to be more HONEST AND GENUINE in this video which is finally correct. Instead of the usual bad advice you give to be dishonest.
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  237.  @Sataneal42069  "Your life sucks and it's getting worse, so you might as well as just take my offer now or you'll be alone and miserable because NO ONE will want you!" That's his message. It's trying to instill fear in the woman so she will say yes to you. It's manipulative. This will only work with very insecure women with low self-esteem, because it's easier to take advantage of them, because they already live in a state of fear. But giving into fear does not cause passion or true desire for the man. So he still won't experience actual romantic fulfillment like this. So it's just a bad way to go.
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  238.  @robbb416  There is no answer man. The people in charge are extremely disingenuous, and they only look for their own advancement. This goes for all of them. They are motivated by fear, insecurity and as a result, they are extremely selfish. All the worst possible qualities in a leader. This world will only get worse. If everyone got together and decided to be kind to one another, there could be hope, but most people will not cooperate on that level. Your best bet is to separate yourself from it. Be humble and kind, and better yourself and effect your surroundings in a positive way. This is the best answer. I personally stick to the bible which says to be no part of this world. Don't think of yourself as left or right or any of these useless worldly labels. Just think of yourself as a good man trying to better himself, and a good human that can uplift others if given the chance.
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  239. At this point, you're just not paying attention to the world around you, and you prefer to make up your own reality. Young working women are getting into relationships and getting married all the time WHILE in a career. Pay attention to the world around you, doc. You're always trying to put limitations on people when reality constantly defies the limitations you pretend are there. And tons of older women still get romantically pursued. Thats the reality you seem to have a hard time accepting.
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  240. ​ @donjindra  What a phenomenal comment. So well worded and easy to understand. Your comment is the truth. So few people refuse to try and understand what you are saying here, and therefore, so few people experience that type of fulfillment. I think thats why people develop limiting beliefs that make things easy for them. It helps them to justify not doing the work to address their insecurities, because frankly, it's not fun to address our fears and insecurities and it's easier to find a way to go around them. It's a bad way to go, though.
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  241. ​​​​Its only life for those with no integrity and those who don't care about the feelings of others. It's a depressing mindset that makes the world worse. Its a scarcity mindset full of struggle and avoidance. We can choose to be better than that.
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  242. Yeah. Its generally due to a human insecurity. It's not exclusive to women or men.
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  243. There are too many things that are just factually wrong in the way that he decides to look at things, and very few things that are correct. He thinks that limerence means romantic interest. Thats wrong. Limerence means an obsession with someone and not letting go even though your feelings are not reciprocated. Its holding on to a fantasy. Thats unhealthy. Limerence is generally the result of some type of trauma. For true romance to take place, both people have to reciprocate the same feelings and look at the REALITY of the other person. He literaly thinks that romance is an invention by the poor. This is basically a cope for a man that refuses to understand woman and understand how healthy romantic relationships work. Even RICH men and women need to understand how romantic relationships work in order to find and keep genuine romantic relationships. He has a blamers mindset and refuses to take responsibility for his knowledge gaps in certain areas. Instead he makes up worldviews where he doesn't have to admit he doesn't know something. He thinks the bible discourage marriage, but it literally tells you how to have a happy and good marriage. He think romance is a tragedy simply because of tragic romantic stories made up for entertainment. He also uses movies as an example of real romance. Thats a bad way to go, because most romantic movies are factually incorrect with how they portray romance. Applying what they do in movies to real life will get you rejected really fast. His learning from movies partially explains his inaccurate outlook. His mentor taught him a limiting belief. High hopes and low expectations is the belief of a man with no confidence. Its giving up before you've started because of a fear of disappointment. Pre-supposing it won't work out is setting up a self-fulling prophecy for oneself, because that effects your behavior. He bases many beliefs on personal experience and comes to wrong conclusions, and the things he says men would do is what he would do. He projects himself on the world a lot. He literally said that he has to pretend to care about a woman so he can sleep with a woman, because he feels he deserves it because he could be working and making more money. This is an entitled attitude from a man that has no problem using people. He also bases all of his outlooks on women on toxic women who are also disingenuous users. He also thinks having a healthy upbringing and a healthy mindset and a healthy relationship dynamic is considered boring. This is a justification to keep having a toxic mindset and to not make a mindset change. This also tells us that he might not actually understand what being healthy actually is or what it looks like. He got it right when he said our childhood experiences with our family can shape our decisions as an adult if we aren't careful. He was also right about how some men can get divorced, and get lost in the sudden options open to them. That could create problems. Overall, Orion doesn't understand women and is stuck in his own limiting beliefs, which seems to be derived from trauma responses. So, taking his advice when it comes to women and romantic relationships will end in disaster and emptiness and no true fulfillment.
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  244. @roses6564  That makes sense. Still, worrying about fertility and eligibility is also a fear. And making a decision based on fear leaves us all vulnerable to settling for someone we don't want. As a matter of fact, fear is the sole reason for settling for someone we don't truly want to be with. So, facing our fears and becoming ok with that outcome we once feared is the solution. It makes us more calm and not in a rush, which actually makes us more attractive.
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  245. You'll need some healing from your trauma wounds. It's hard to see past it. Red pill just keeps those wounds open. Thr crappy childhood fairy and Corey Wayne are good youtubers that might help you move past your trauma and learn ways to detect healthy women.
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  246. She was looking for you to be direct and decisive like a man so she can feel an attraction to you. You should have just answered the question honestly without the sarcasm. "Because I think you're cute, but I'm not trying to date a woman who is already taken. A man's just gotta make sure." An answer like that shows self-respect on your part and boosts her attraction for you. So her "why" was her subconsciously giving you a chance to attract her even more. You'll notice women do that a lot, especially when they like you. At least you'll know for the future if you come across a seemingly common sense question like that again, which you likely will. Just don't be sarcastic and answer honestly to stuff like that. It will make a huge difference with how people respond to you.
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  247.  @emhu2594  Its the way people were raised. There tends to be some type of abandonment issue, or their parents didn't pay much attention to them or show them much love. So they grow up, and basically behave the way they were taught to behave by the example of people around them. It's a sad thing that happens everywhere. They are also enabled by the people around them, and are misled by their choice of association. If we don't take responsibility for ourselves, we can never be happy.
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  248. This is something Orion will always do his best to ignore because he can't explain it because he doesn't actually understand how attraction works. He understands like 10 percent of it but then makes up the rest of it while ignoring how reality constantly proves him wrong.
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  249.  @lambertricalde1218  It's Ephesians 5:33. Perhaps this is where that saying originated.
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  250. You're not overthinking it. You just caught on and can see past the smoke and mirrors, which I think is unintentional. He also says a lot of extremely obvious common sense stuff like, "a woman won't date you unless she likes you." And many times I find that he usually gets a little truth mixed in with extremely bad and misleading info. Like here, he says not to brag about winning, but he promotes it as a "strategy" instead of actually promoting it as a personality quality of being humble that would be good to practice within ourselves. So by calling it a strategy, he maintains an air of manipulation and haughtiness, as if he is above others and must tame them. It's just patronizing and disingenuous, but I don't think he realizes he comes off that way, because he ultimately is always trying to avoid being vulnerable by using his intelligence to find a way around having to be vulnerable. This issue with that is a person can never truly be confident if they aren't willing to be vulnerable, and you end up being manipulative instead of genuine.
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  251. Yeah, taking his advice is actually dangerous. It's mostly dangerous because he mixes a little truth in with his false beliefs, and mixing truth with lies is the most effective way to mislead people. Not that I think he is doing it on purpose. He really just doesn't know what he is talking about most of the time.
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  252. It can't be transactional because it won't work. When things are going well and both of you are showing love and consideration for one another, it's easy, but what if one person becomes sad or down or angry for a time and does not show the same affection? Your relationship will end if you treat it like a business and just hold back your love and affection and start returning the same treatment. A big part of love is continuing to be loving, even when your partner isn't being loving. This is why treating relationships like a business will ultimately fail. That, and it would feel unfulfilled, because you would think your partner doesn't love you, but only loves your "product", which is a bad way to go. It would be like being a prostitute.
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  253. ​ @fernandocalifornia It's not so confusing. When kids are abused, they learn that as the way to treat themselves and others. It's just learned behavior. The ones that break out of the pattern are the ones that actually humble themselves, because that allows them to actively seek out and learn a different mindset than the one they were originally taught.
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  254. Not bad. One major issue, though. You MUST already believe in yourself and know that you can do it. This is how you can be much more likely to pass the test and know that even if you don't, you'll still be ok. Waiting until you've actually done it to know you can do it is to remain uncertain, and uncertainty is low confidence, which results in not getting what you want and being less likely to pass those tests. Also, the notion of having to "prove yourself" is approval seeking behavior. That results in a lack of confidence and needy behavior. You should already know that you are capable. There is no need to go out of your way to show off. If a job asks that of you, maybe, but definitely NOT in a relationship. This is why relationships and business are not the same. Also, tests from women are things like to see if you can keep your cool, making sure you don't have a short temperature, seeing if you are really interested in her, and checking if you can handle not hearing from her for a little bit or if you'll flip out. Women do this so they can feel your calm masculinity so they can feel attraction toward you. These things have to already be developed in you as a man. If you go LOOKING to get her approval, that will show, and you'll come off as a little boy, and a woman can't be interested in little boy behavior. This is why all your talk about status and money and success is awful and misleading advice, because thinking you need that to be attractive is another form of seeking a woman's approval. One day, I hope you finally understand this and have the courage to admit that for a long time, you really didn't know what you were talking about.
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  255. This is why men who make the effort and do the inner work on themselves tend to be more confident and therefore, more attractive and have no problem attracting the woman they truly want. They don't need a woman's validation. Sadly, you can see how the doc has a perspective that requires validation from a woman. This is because he thinks that doing introspection, which is required to do the work on oneself, is narcissistic. I've heard him say this on his channel. Its an excuse to avoid looking inward, which keeps him ignorant. The opposite is true, actually. NEVER doing introspection leans more toward narcissism. So the doc is just misleading everyone and teaching how to be miserable.
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  256. Awesome comment. Few people notice the constant inaccuracies and unhappiness in Orion's business to relationship comparisons. Also, I notice how you refer to in this video how he literally called women stupid for not following exactly what he said to do WITHOUT even bothering to address the woman's feelings in that example. Which is much like your ex-girlfriend that you mentioned. Selfish and uncaring, and he teaches others to be that way. Also, him calling a woman stupid without seeking to understand the reasons for the answer also shows his personal general bitterness that he refuses to address within himself.
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  257. ​ @kldimond True. His perspective misses that balance and nuance a lot. He doesn't necessarily seem like a bad guy, so I don't mean to tear him down either, but it's not tearing a person down to just be honest about they're mistakes and the things they say. If someone doesn't tell them, how will they know they were wrong?
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  258.  @kennethkunz2449  Competition and one-upmanship is definitely something that hurts relationships in general. It's toxic. I understand where you're coming from.
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  259. ​@msSerene55 Good points. It's not because he is a man, though. Based on his story and how his view of it as an adult is the same, it's safe to say he has been dealing with a psychopathy disability without realizing it. This is why he can't understand that his mom had empathy for his sister. He doesn't realize his mom was looking to appeal to his empathetic side. He thinks it was pure manipulation. Even now, he doesn't realize that was the real issue. Being hyperfocused on the competition, even as an adult speaks to how he literally can't feel empathy. This also explains his worldview.
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  260. That was a projection. He has problems differentiating the truth from lies, which is why he literally teaches lies here and on his channel. Also, he is the one who cares about other things more than honesty, like money and sex. If he cared about honesty, he wouldn't be putting those two things as the main priorities on his dating advice videos so often.
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  261.  @user-jy3zl2vp4b  You don't have to have blind faith though. You can just honestly apply some of the scriptures to your life to prove it to yourself. You have to be humble though. If you go into it with a haughty attitude, you'll never be able to get anything from it. The willingness to truly be humble is what makes the difference.
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  262.  @mickygarcia4251  This will help you understand. This quote has always proved to be true; "No one will ever say or do anything to you that is not a direct reflection about how they feel about themselves in a moment". In psychology, they call it projection. We all do this. Especially if we are in a state of heightened emotion. Even if we lie or are being disingenuous. We basically accidentally leak out how he feel about ourselves in our hearts all the time. If you can keep this in mind, it'll be much easier to see through all of the deceit.
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  263. It's a sign of a personality disorder. Namely, psychopathy. It's an actual disability where the person can't feel empathy, or remorse and can possibly be antisocial as a result. Notice that he never fully understood WHY his mother wanted his sister to win. He thinks it's because she didn't want to deal with the "consequences" of a crying kid. He is literally incapable of understanding that his mother felt empathy toward his sister. Even now, as an adult, he is hyperfocused on winning the competition and still doesn't fully understand his mother's actions. Psychopathy is basically a disability by the way. It doesn't mean he is crazy and insane like movies and entertainment make psychopaths out to be. And I think it's safe to say he has psychopathy because that would actually line up with everything else he teaches on this channel. That would completely explain his worldview.
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  264. @SAM WALKER Keep in mind that this is YOUR mindset, not theirs. YOU would allow yourself to be convinced, because you have the humility to admit that you don't know everything, thus you can learn. People with different mindsets than yours would rather stick to their beliefs, simply because any other belief takes them out of their comfort zone, or because they are too prideful and haughty to admit that they might be wrong. This mindset puts a wall up to the path of being convinced, so they literally CANNOT be convinced. They refuse to be, no matter what you say. After you notice that this is their mindset, the better thing to do is to end the conversation and walk away. Better to do this respectfully though. If you feel like they can potentially infect others, your only peaceful option is to stay away from them. You have no control over their mindset. You only have control of your choice to stay away from them.
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  265. Jehovah's Witness. This is the only religion I've found that actually makes sense and has a realistic explanation for everything using the bible. Questions are actually answered, and not just avoided with something smart sounding.
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  266.  @ibrahimouhamou9732  I don't. Unless you're talking about Jesus's return.
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  267.  @ibrahimouhamou9732  I see. I appreciate the detailed reply.
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  268. Think of this video as a projection of himself. This is not the truth, but instead, this is how the doc views himself. Which, by the way, is a false and limiting belief that he holds of himself. He can, in fact, be all three, but he either feels like he can't be when in reality he CAN be, or he has just developed this worldview in order to enable himself to be disloyal.
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  269. ​@voccessbg5396 You got it right. Orion is basically always projecting his personal desires and his toxic attitude and wrong conclusions toward women that he developed after his experiences. We know this because he is wrong about most things and he literally told a story in this video about some of those difficulties with women that has led to toxic videos like this. Those stories only showed that he doesn't know what he is doing. He literally caused an argument before the first date. He doesn't realize it, but HE is being the red flag. The women that argue with him in the story just don't realize it, because otherwise, they wouldn't argue, but instead they would just cancel the date.
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  270. You don't have to lie and pretend doc. Thats a weak mindset. Be genuine about what you want, especially when called out. Being honest and genuine makes you 50x more attractive as a man, it keeps you from acting like an akward little boy, AND you have a much better chance of finding a woman that shares your same values. You'll speed up the process of finding a woman like that, actually.
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  271. @Mark & Vicki  That's true. I think you summed it up well. Balance is super important.
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  272. @LaciRae  Wow, thank you for that compliment. I read a little about those personality types, and yeah, I would say that they both describe me pretty well.
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  273. @Anne Boyer  Beautiful explanation. Many people are not taught this, so it really does need to be spelled out. The doctor doesn't seem to understand love, because he constantly uses superficial business analogies to explain deep personal relationships. There is no actual relation between the two. This tells me that he looks at relationships as transactional and superficial, and not loving. So you'll only get extremely superficial advice from him when it comes to relationships. Granted, he is clearly a master at running actual businesses. That logic alone doesn't directly translate to relationships though. The truth is that respect for most people is determined by a person's viewpoint of themselves. They will treat you in the way that they view or feel about themselves in that moment. Although, this only applies to people with a low level of self-control. I will say though that he has a point when it comes to a man standing up to his woman though. It's just more attractive to her when he is willing to enforce his boundaries by walking away, and not giving his time. Also, if a woman is not genuinely respectful at work, this would ba a huge red flag about how respectful she would be in her personal life. You can glean some information by looking at it from that perspective, but that really goes for both men and women.
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  274. Their definition of it is different than yours. Your definition is the original, and that's pretty much reached its goal. Their definition is basically what has been invented through the internet from complainers and haughty people. Since no one is ever on the same page due to different definitions of the word, it breeds nothing, but fights and complaints, so there is no point in discussing it or focusing on it.
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  275. ​@voccessbg5396 There are few people out there who are genuine truth seekers. Even though its hard to do, they'll drop their beliefs if something else is proven to them to be the truth.
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  276. ​@Elizabeth Jetter So it's super dangerous to do activities that tire your body out while holding your breath, because the heart needs to pick up the pace in order to keep up with the movement of the body, so if it can't get the oxygen it needs to go faster and pump everything around that the body needs, and is forced to slow down instead, that's when the body basically has to shut down. And that is the black out. Is that right? Kind of like an engine trying to rev up without the extra gas being pumped into it to fuel that increase in power.
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  277. This is the truth. Even in the docs example, he just wasn't interested in the ladies that told him that. Telling him that was just their way of coping with his rejection. Seems like he was just overthinking the reason why they would tell him this, or he was just looking for an excuse for himself as to why he is continuing messing with those particular ladies, even though he isn't romantically interested in them. Granted, perhaps some men actually are afraid for various reasons, but usually, he is just trying to use the woman he won't commit to for quick sex.
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  278. It's likely due to the way you are showing up. You as the man have the power to elicit desire within her.
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  279. You can't do anything about that. All you can do is make yourself more attractive. Not just physically, but mentally and emotionally. Get back to the man you were that she was attracted to at first. Plan dates, have fun with her, be playful, open her up with conversation showing that you care. Do not be perturbed if she doesn't respond favorably sometimes. Set goals for yourself and have things to work toward. Do not be complacent and lazy. Make sure your words ALWAYS match your actions. Make sure you keep all of your promises. Keep your household up on your own, and let your wife help as she pleases. Be consistent. Make sure your words to your wife are often upbuilding. Don't be afraid to respectfully, but firmly tell her when something is inappropriate. Take the lead and get stuff done. Don't seek her approval or commendation when you do things you know she'll like. Just take the lead. Lead by your own example. Keep your emotional center. These are all masculine traits that will cause feminine women to be attracted to you and feel safe with you. This can make things easier on her. Love in a way that allows her to feel free.
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  280. He literally spoke out against authenticity and loving yourself in another video. He thinks it's pointless. This is why he still struggles so much, and this is why he promotes inauthenticitity and lying. He thinks it's the only way. He is determined to have an inauthentic, and therefore weak mindset.
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  281. She definitely has cptsd, and she clearly hasn't properly addressed these issues. You can hear the results of her cptsd in the recordings. She gets disregulated a lot, and that is a major sign of cptsd. By the way, cptsd often leads to narcissistic traits if not addressed.
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  282.  @alainvosselman9960  I haven't interviewed her, but she has clear abandonment issues, and that can be learned from the recordings. She may have had good parents, but we still don't know what really could have happened, because we weren't there. We only have her current behavior to go on. I wouldn't doubt she was abusive in her former relationship, because she is the same person with the same issues that she hasn't addressed and overcome yet. Sorry to hear you've been suffering from it too. You are definitely right about all of the problems that you listed about cptsd. It's just that if those symptoms are left unaddressed in healthy ways, people can start coping with them in very unhealthy ways, such as taking out their frustrations on others, or somehow blaming others for their feelings, and trying to get others to fix it for them which results in control issues.
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  283. If you were able to notice all of that, your IQ is definitely not low. Most people won't notice any of those things. Jordan sounds smart, but he doesn't have the humility to actually learn and improve. Mr. Peterson seems to be having a crises of where to find hope and answers, and he seems to be lost, and he isn't humble enough to admit that he is struggling, which is why he continues to struggle. The first line of his manifesto at 3:29 is a clear projection of how HE has actually been feeling lately. These feelings result in fear, and that is what is currently driving his behavior. Of course, I'm sure he isn't the only one feeling this way, but he refuses to humble himself, which just results in more projecting and trying to control others to make oneself feel better. It's a path to misery.
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  284. ​@RussellDeacon That's because material success or literal hard work isn't what determines someone's bad or critical attitude. Orion's advice about that is incomplete. It's their own fears and insecurities that they have not addressed, and people like that like to make themselves feel above others by putting them down in order to make themselves TEMPORARILY feel better about themselves. Thats that guy's issue. So you are doing the right thing by setting a boundary and just not associating with this man who refuses to respect you.
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  285. There is a cure, but they have to be willing to apply it to themselves. That's the only way. They have to humble themselves. That's the cure, which I understand is hard, but narcissism is a taught mindset and a string of coping mechanisms for that fearful mindset, so it's possible to teach yourself another mindset. One that looks at fears and faces them rather than look for ways to avoid them.
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  286. Solid advice. Although, if we are single and we have things figured out, it's healthy to keep our urges under control and not let them run wild. Whether it be with pronography, or just by sleeping around with people. While we should never judge one another for those things, those things are definitely unhealthy for all of us. Also, while it's good to have an understanding of what we like for our bodies, sex with ourselves can really dull the feelings of actual sex with another person. Those happy chemicals being released under the wrong circumstances is similar to taking drugs and forcing our reward systems into action prematurely.
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  287.  @tenshimoon  I've seen those articles, but professionals are not all knowing. They are learning just like you and me. If pronography has been PROVEN to be detrimental to us, then mastrbation isn't far behind, because prons purpose is to prematurely stimulate our rewards center in our brain, which is what mastrrbation does, which is similar to drugs. Frankly, not mentioning this in those articles is irresponsible and is what is actually damaging. There really is nothing to disprove the benefits of abstaining from mastrrbation either, so what I said isn't actually wrong. It's just not popular. They may have found some benefits to doing it, but that isn't the end of the story. We should acknowledge everything.
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  288. @Kazeshini25663  Because we all deserve it because we are all capable of achieving the things that make us happy. Anyone that says otherwise is coming from a fearful perspective that says they will never get what they want. When any of us don't feel good enough, it's a fear deep down that we are experiencing, and if we give into that fear, we give up, and therefore make the belief that we are not good enough valid for OURSELVES. We validate our false belief. That's called a self-fulfilling prophecy. If we FACE that fear and realize that it's OK if things don't work out, we'll be able to accept it and keep going, and learn what we might have done wrong, and then try again with a new opportunity with our new adjustments until we get it right. Having the humility to do that will help us adjust our perspectives also, and find that we are good enough to get the things we want, and it was actually always within our grasp. Even if we fail at first, we just learn and adjust our approach for next time. Everyone is capable of this. We are all good enough because we are all capable of growing and changing. Those who choose to stick to that fear of not being good enough will prevent themselves from growing. It takes a humble attitude to free ourselves from that.
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  289. Yeah. It's a projection of how they feel about themselves. Very few people will pick up on that though. Notice how they never actually defined masculinity. This is because they don't actually know what it is.
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  290. Of course. A man that is really interested in you will find time for you. He will do it without ignoring his responsibilities. You don't want a man that will give in to unreasonable demands and turn his life upside down for you, but you want one that lets you know how special you are to him by making time for you out of his busy schedule. There is a balance there. No one should withhold affection, but everyone must have boundaries around their time and choose carefully who they give it to, even with romantic interests.
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  291.  @andersnielsen6044  If our nature tells us to cheat or be disloyal, then only the ones that value loyalty and integrity and are congruent with those values will resist such an imperfect nature.
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  292. You started doing better in relationships, because you became less attached to your outcome, and became more accepting of your partner. This belief may have helped you get to that point, but this belief isn't rooted in truth. You aren't taking into account a woman's FEELINGS. That is the most important variable, and you aren't taking it into account, because you are only thinking superficially. A genuine relationship is nothing like pursuing a career, because feelings are involved. If a woman is leaving you, its not because there was a better option, its because her feelings for you are no longer there. Women don't leave men they are in love with. Her feelings fade or grow due to how you show up as a man. The more consistent you display masculinity and have fun and help her feel safe and comfortable and heard and understood, the more her attraction to you stays. Granted, if you are going through something, or grow complacent for a period, and she leaves just because her romantic feelings aren't there for a time, then she isn't a loyal partner. That would be like a man leaving, because the woman gained weight for a period of time. That said, having someone loyal doesn't give us an excuse to stay complacent, or stay not taking care of ourselves. Now if a woman literally leaves, because she found a man with more money, and he met her goal better in that way, not only was she not in love, but that is a toxic and superficial woman that is not suitable for romantic relationships. That would be no different than a superficial man leaving his relationship for a woman that looks really good to him in that moment.
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  293. Women are indeed responsible for who they allow into their lives, but men are also responsible for their attractiveness. Buying a woman flowers before she deserves it from you is UNATTRACTIVE. Constantly texting and calling a woman before the actual date is UNATTRACTIVE. Accepting friendship when you don't really want it is UNATTRACTIVE. You can always reject those terms and walk away. Losing your center when a woman does something unexpected like cancel a date is UNATTRACTIVE. This is what they mean by "nice guys", but they just don't know how to explain it. These behaviors are NOT manly or masculine, so they're not attractive.
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  294.  @BAsed_AFro  I've never taken the ACE test. Sounds like it's worth a try.
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  295. @stoneneils  Neuroplasticity can even occur in older people. It's never too late to heal.
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  296. Well, they just told the truth. Even in this video, he basically said he has no clue what they are. Although the bible says there will be signs in the stars before God's kingdom comes and the world will not know the way out. I know most people aren't interested in the bible, but it's the only thing that explains all of this.
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  297. You realize that she meant that YOU were a challenge FOR HER when it came to attracting YOU, right? That statement was about how SHE liked the challenge. You completely misinterpreted her. The doctor will probably never understand this, but women are actually the ones that like the challenge of attracting a man. This is why the girl that liked you told you that.
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  298. Navigate this by not sending nudes. A man that is truly interested in a woman will still be interested WITHOUT her having to send naked pictures, because a good and confident man knows that day of sexual stuff will eventually come anyway, so there is no need for him to rush it. The actual good currency she can give to a man she likes and likes her is her TIME. Thats the most important thing you can give someone, and a good man knows this.
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  299. She didn't actually say she regrets leaving though, but she is definitely making decisions for all the wrong reasons. Having children based on one's biological clock rather than being emotionally ready to love and take care of kids is the absolute wrong reason to have kids. She calls herself naive, and says she loves too hard, which means she doesn't know how to set boundaries and doesn't know how to properly qualify a man. This is due to her insecurities. So she clearly wasn't ready for marriage or even a relationship at all. Also, not all women lie about their relationships. You literally have no proof if she has lied about this. Frankly, she called herself naive, so it makes sense that she would choose a low quality man, because she has no clue on how to pick a decent man. This is based on her own description of herself.
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  300. Yeah, he has this pretend confidence that's based on making his ignorance or lack of integrity sound cool. He plows through without considering actual reasoning, and people fall for it so easily. He is a successful politician because of this. Its like a first time chess player talking confidently about how he can win over a pro, but never actually plays the match.
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  301. You don't have to have a degree to understand the issue. The ones deciding on the prices for college overcharge intentionally, because they are greedy, and they'll never be satisfied. Enough people still enroll, which enables them to keep raising prices. They are way above normal profits levels. Greed just ruins things, but the greedy ones don't really care about anything, except themselves.
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  302. So true. He basically makes up what he WISHES counts as psychology. All so that he doesn't have to actually examine his own actions and take responsibility for his decisions in life. Its avoidant behavior. Then, he uses his intelligence to over complicate it so it sounds smart and legitimate. It's like hiding the truth in a maze.
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  303. I admit you definitely learned so much more than you used to know and preach in your older videos. You finally understand that money doesn't matter. Seems like you have some humility after all. It also sounds like you've been listening to Corey. Your bit about emotional engagement was vague, which tells me you don't fully understand how it happens. Also, the contextual alpha bit is wrong. Thats a limiting belief. You didn't have more women attracted to you due to being praised and recognized and being the lead in a play. You had more women attracted to you because of your drive. You had a true passion for something, which created a drive within you that you actively pursued. This is masculine and a big part of being alpha in general, and thus, attractive. Also, you were not so focused on women back then, which helps. Now, you are very focused on women, which makes you less attractive. True alphas encourage women to have self-respect and can love in a way that allows a person to feel free.
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  304. ​ @Princessbubblegum567 It's not about his tone or his level of calm. It's his message. He is smart enough to know that being calm is how you come off like you know what you are talking about. The things he says though give no hope and is fully based in business and transactions. He basically thinks that emotions do not relate to relationships. He likely wasn't always of this opinion. This is likely due to him being emotionally hurt at some point. So instead of learning how he can take responsibility by making better choices and vet better, he decides to superficially protect his heart by deciding that relationships must all be superficial and that there are no genuine women on the planet that will actually like a man and will only like what he provides. That is having a bitter attitude toward women. He doesn't take feelings into consideration and that is something super important in order to have a good relationship. That is being cold and calculated. He even tries to convince women to basically forgo self-respect and to give it up before committing. That's basically begging a woman for sex, but in a more manipulative way because he is "calm" about it. If he were truly calm, he would address actual points like this instead of just saying that he makes people uncomfortable. It's a projection. He becomes uncomfortable when someone ruins his worldview by telling him that love is different than he thinks and good relationships are not superficial. This is not an ad-hominem attack by the way, because I am only addressing his viewpoints and perspectives. I'm not saying anything personally hurtful, but a person might FEEL like this is an ad hominem attack because it's explaining a truth that goes against long held and comfortable beliefs, which is why it might feel hurtful to some.
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  305. "The idea that you just want to be nice to somebody is kinda BS". This quote from you is a projection of how YOU feel, and it doesn't speak for everyone else. Tons of people really enjoy showing others kindness. "For whatever reason, your efforts are creating an awkward interpersonal dynamic..." This quote from you tells us that you don't understand the reason why kindness doesn't always have a favorable response. So you are coming up with a solution without understanding the reason for the problem. This is why you are wrong in understanding how to address it. There are actually a few different reasons for why kindness doesn't get a favorable response.
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  306.  @MikeLeed Definitely, in that particular context. But to be honest, looking at personal relationships as winning and losing is a mistake anyway. That perspective gets in the way of pursuing peace with your partner and paying attention to how they are feeling in the moment. Good leaders have to notice that stuff. Thinking that you have to win in a personal relationship is just trying to force yourself to stay above your partner, which is a haughty mindset, which is ultimately unnattractive.
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  307. Well, you could always just break up with her and leave. They might see you as the villain, but thats their problem for deciding not to acknowledge the truth. That's not your problem. You have to think about your own health.
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  308. I'd say when it comes to physical fitness, it is pointless to correct you because you are already doing the hard work and literally living the solution to get those better stats. You've successfully removed any beam you might have had in that regard. When it comes to the advice you give sometimes though, you haven't done the work in order to see if you have the truth or not, so you mislead people because that beam remains there in that regard. Self-reflection is what is required to remove that beam, and you yourself have literally spoken out against self-reflection. Thats worth thinking about.
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  309. Well he didn't teach to punish. He taught the man to stand up for what he believes in and not to give in on his beliefs. If anything, he finally taught a man to be more honest. And believe me, this is my first time defending him, because he is normally wrong on everything he says, but not this time. Also, any man that shuts down when you try to communicate your feelings is not ready for a relationship. Thats different from standing up for his beliefs.
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  310.  @exiledfrommyself  I say they refuse, because if they really wanted to, they can learn, but choosing not to learn and using the "I don't know how to do it excuse", is basically a refusal. They get away with it, because the leaders don't understand this or just don't know how to handle it. Also, its messed up that they let the good workers go. I understand your frustration on that, and it happens so often. Its backwards and it's why many companies waste so much money.
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  311. You're going to have to stop trying to SHOW stuff and just BE. They either like you or they don't and you need to be ok with either outcome. Trying to show certain things comes off as approval seeking behavior, and having that mindset makes you feel like a little boy to them instead of a man. That's why you're getting that ick.
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  312. That's what you call a projection. No one will ever say anything to you that is not a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves in a moment. So from that, you can gain insight into how Ruby felt about herself deep down. With no self-control, we can end up projecting our flaws onto others and hurt them in the process if we aren't careful.
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  313. Good stuff in the beginning about a bomb. A person that blows up easily, especially when you barely know them, is a major red flag. That said, your interview analogy and picture test is bad because it requires an entitled mindset. It's as if you are entitled to all her availability and some pictures just because she likes you. Sometimes, a person genuinely can't do weekends, and they aren't being strategic. Also, you basically said you are entitled when you mentioned how you are above her and not equal to her in the courtship. That's the wrong mindset, and it will get you rejected by good women and have you attracting the ones with no self-respect. And those tend to be the bombs because a person with no self-respect tends to be angry because they are not treating themselves correctly. Also, that picture thing is extra bad, because from her perspective, it seems like you are only interested in sex, because there is no way you can glean any part of her character from her picture. Consider that ask from HER perspective, not yours. You'll get farther because that's actually a more humble mindset and not an entitled one.
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  314. How can you not see that you just basically begged for sex in this video by trying to manipulate women in general into giving it to you?
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  315. ​@rahulterwade Well, I'm not sure if you have a daughter or a sister, but if she is an adult, he basically just told you to endorse this video to her so she can be more easily convinced to have sex with him or any guy immediately if he ever dated her. I mean, that was his whole message in this video. It's not really a matter of arguing against it. It's more a matter of whether you approve or not approve of him telling you and your family that.
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  316. Well not just that, but he validates other people's bitter worldview. He makes them feel better about blaming women for their problems by being a blamer and not taking responsibility himself. It's like that bible scripture about people wanting their ears tickled. 2 Timothy 4:3-4. Basically, They'd rather hear lies from Orion rather than listen to the truth of things.
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  317. Those "rules" like money and status will only attract superficial woman more interested in money than people. What really attracts them is masculinity. Masculinity is not superficial. Trying to attract a woman with money and status is approval seeking behavior. Its weak. Like a little boy wanting to impress his mommy. Approval seeking is more feminine, which is why it doesn't work with GOOD women. Women want masculine men. Masculinity is purpose, drive, mission, going for what you want without fear, including the woman you want, but being ok if you don't get it. Masculinity is calm. Masculinity is direct and decisive. Masculinity takes the lead. It takes the initiative. So you can literally attract the woman of your dreams with your behavior. This is NOT superficial. The doc teaches superficiality which is the opposite of what works. He teaches how to be weak with no integrity. Superficiality is misery and turns to approval seeking behavior. Honestly, the doctor learns from all the wrong sources, so he is clueless as a result. That's why he still struggles.
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  318. You're thinking along the lines of superficiality here. Relationships are not the same as money in any way. It's impossible, because relationships go deep, and money is on the surface. Men are with multiple women, because they want feminine attention and are just following their libido. They are using the women for these things. Perhaps also, because they just don't want to be alone. A woman they actually like comes along very rarely, and they know pretty quickly when they actually like a woman enough to want to eventually want to take things further with her. It's also impossible for someone not to take that personally, because they are being genuine and vulnerable with their heart, while the other person is not truly interested in them, yet is doing personal things with them. I think you're right about men having to practice confidence, but women are also overcoming insecurities, and they also have to learn how to actually choose a decent man. They have work to do too if they want to improve.
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  319. I googled it. There is a negative and a positive connotation to it. Which do you think it is?
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  320.  @treeaddict  It's different, because there are genuinely actual problems that are getting in the way of her sex drive. A woman generally isn't interested in sex due to some type of circumstance. Whether that'd be because of depression, feeling overwhelmed, or just because the man is behaving more feminine than masculine at the time, which happens with tons of men and they don't realize it. So it's good to be aware of these things and know what to do in order to make her load feel light and help her feel secure, which makes things easier for her, which helps her sex drive be naturally high, because there would be no obstacles to it. So if we as men are only focused on getting our own needs met, we don't even think about any potential things we can do to facilitate a better relationship, let alone show up properly which increases her sex drive. Also, as men, we are the leaders. So focusing on our needs in response to her focusing on her needs is to follow HER example, which in turn is making her the leader, which means we would be becoming submissive to her, which throws off the sexual polarity even more, which makes everything much worse. Now, if she is just withholding sex as a punishment, or as a manipulation tactic or for some other disingenuous reason, that is wrong and an unnecessary strain on the relationship. Still, the proper response is not to threaten to cheat.
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  321.  @eddenoy321  Agreed. Labels like that imply someone is better than or above someone else, when that is never true. I don't like using it. Although, I used it here in response to someone else's use of it to help them understand that being a good man is not about being a tougher man like the world tells us.
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  322.  @MWeems-eh3po  I agree. You can be there for them as a good friend if they choose to talk about it, but thats it. Anything else will be perceived as you trying to be a homewrecker and meddling in their business. Often times, they've already noticed it themselves anyway, but don't want to do anything about it.
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  323. A man that shows up correctly in his relationship is going to have a woman that wants more sex than him. Changing one's behavior is good, but telling a man that he doesn't have to understand is going to lead to even less sex and probably a break up. A woman needs to be heard and understood by her man. Thats part of love, thats part of taking the lead, and thats part of masculinity. You can try to convince women they should just forget about being heard and understood all you want, but that isn't going to change them because that isn't how they are designed, and you'll only end up chasing away the woman you truly want by ignoring the issue. Sure they can always improve their behavior and self-reflect, and them being understanding too helps immensely, but so should the man. And the man MUST learn to be understanding for things to work. The men that "logically" put it solely on the woman like you mention here are the men that experience basically no sex. That's what happens when sex is your ONLY focus. Thats a problem. The men that take responsibility and seek to help their woman feel heard and understood and don't focus on sex are the ones that get more sex than they could ever even want. In other words, you're going to have to learn to show genuine love. And focusing only on sex all the time and having sex be your main end goal is not genuine love.
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  324. @IfSemper  It's ok if a woman WANTS to help her man feel like that once in a while, but not too often and if he keeps seeking those things from his woman, he would basically be painting himself as her child and making her his mother, and she would experience a loss of attraction. That's just a fact. Then she wouldn't come to you for feeling heard and understood anymore, just like she wouldn't go to her child for that. As a man, if you seek to feel heard, understood and safe, thats normal, but you are much better off going to a good friend you can trust, or your father or your actual mother, or God. Or even a therapist. Basically, just someone that knows how to actually listen.
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  325. @BOSSDONMAN  The advice he gave to men wasn't horrible, and it made sense, but it should have been stated as a mindset. Not a true comparison to getting a job. It's true that you are gathering data, but with relationships, there is a deeper portion of it that is NOT superficial that he always pretends doesn't exist. This is why you feel less interested. I'm convinced that he is just avoiding it because it makes him feel uncomfortable in some way, or he just doesn't understand it or both. Also, his advice to woman was more of a plea in order to make his life easier, rather than learning why he keeps suffering the same interactions and attracting the same type of people. A person cannot realistically expect them to not vet a man as well. They cannot healthily submit to just anyone.
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  326. It's not that it was mundane or boring. The quiet and peace makes us think and self-reflect on things, so she was probably afraid to self-reflect due to the pain she felt might come with that. Bugging out helps prevent thinking or self-reflection. It's an unhealthy behavior that keeps us in a state of suffering, all because of a fear of potential emotional pain. They don't know this, but the pain that comes with that self-reflection is very brief. It really just ends up being a relief for us.
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  327. It's toxic and full of people who decide to remain in their anger, because they have no solutions, and they don't know where else to go or what to do. Basically, they are lost. They want you to dive deeper into it, because deep down, they are looking for a real answer. On the surface, they need validation for their beliefs, because they don't really believe that stuff deep down. They have a haughty attitude, and not a humble one, which is why they stay angry, and never learn the solutions. It doesn't matter what color their skin is. At the end of the day, they all stay in a blaming type of attitude, which only serves to keep themselves down and angry and depressed. Its hurtful to themselves and misleading to those that listen. Thats the bottom line.
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  328. Yes. You got it. Comedy requires the truth. If there is no truth, no one can relate. Truth is the basis of comedy.
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  329. The bible says the wicked one, meaning Satan, currently rules this world. Some people say that humans had help making the pyramids. There is a pyramid or triangle, on the dollar. UFOs are sometimes spotted in a triangle formation. When she mentioned the symbol, I knew she would say triangle because of all of this. The illuminati symbol, who is said to rule the world, is also a triangle. Anyway, the bible says that God's kingdom is going to come to the earth and fix everything eventually. So this stuff won't keep up forever, but that's what the aliens are. They are demons, aka, the angels that rebelled against God and were confined to the earth. They are the source of all alien and paranormal experiences. The God of the bible, Jehovah and his son Jesus, said to not associate with them because associating with their things invites them into your life. And one of the things that belong to them is astrology. Astrology is derived from spiritism. And the bible specially tells us to stay away from spiritism. Her husband is interested is heavily into astrology, so I think that contributes to her experience with the demons.
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  330. I think if you dove further into it with an objective mindset, you'd realize that there is nothing good about porn, and that its all bad. No one is trash for viewing it, because we are all still people worthy of respect and kindness, but porn is 100% bad for us. The comparison with the shopping addiction is misleading, because buying an item online one time is not harmful. Viewing pronography one time is harmful, similar to how doing meth one time is harmful.
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  331.  @FWCaptain-kv6sm  I like peace too, man. I didn't even advocate for anything, so you can't possibly know my position on anything. I just observed what happened during the conversation and can relate. Most of us have talked to people that have completely changed the subject or went into something else about us when they didn't want to admit they were wrong. There are so many people in this world that do that. We may have even done it ourselves. I'm willing to bet even you have experienced it.
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  332. Well, not making eye contact has to do with an insecurity, not one's gender.
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  333. ok lol. Good point. I'm speaking from personal experience here. I had a girlfriend who was uncomfortable making eye contact. She eventually started overcoming her discomfort and starting practicing it after I mentioned it. I've had another girlfriend who made constant eye contact. Some male friends I have like to make lots of eye contact, and I know one guy that literally looks pass me when we talk. I personally like to maintain eye contact to help me really listen to what someone is saying. It took practice to get there though, because I used to feel uncomfortable with a longer period of eye contact. That ultimately was an insecurity or discomfort with intimacy. I knew another guy who used to view eye contact as disrespect due to where he grew up, and he eventually learned that was not the correct perspective. So it really just varies among everyone due to their comfort with intimacy or closeness. Eye contact is kind of a bonding and intimate thing. It isn't necessarily romantic or sexual. Many people are not comfortable with bonding with another person or feeling that type of platonic OR romantic intimacy with them because of how they grew up. It's something that can be practiced and learned though. She mentioned how people evolved with these habits, but she basically explained that people were raised that way due to their environments, which means if the very next generation was raised differently, their eye contact habits would be different. Also, she didn't exactly offer proof herself. She spoke from her own experiences and beliefs and things that she noticed herself.
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  334. What you describe is looking for a mother, not a partner. The dudes that cry at the wedding and the woman is completely stoic? Yeah, thats that motherly dynamic going on right there. Its backwards and doesn't work because its not how we are designed. Watch your next wedding with this in mind. True, lots of men are subconsciously looking for that due to their personal fears, but thats not what women want. Women want leaders. THEY want to be the one getting a parent in a sense. THIS is what elicits attraction when a man takes the lead, whether they know it or not. Thats just a fact man. Thats why some women leave when the man gets complacent and STOPS leading, or hurt and CAN'T lead. This stops her from feeling that romantic feeling toward you. Its all about behavior, Orion. So when a woman actually STAYS with a man despite his laziness or his inability to be the man he was before, THAT particular woman is not simply making decisions from her feelings like most do, but instead she has true love for the man that goes beyond that and she sticks around. Thats actually what the bible reminds both men and women to do. You mentioned God, so if a person actually cares about God's approval, they will act with integrity and will not leave as soon as the feelings become not as strong. On that same note, the man needs to get his stuff together, and not remain down and out just because he has a good woman. He needs to show love also, which makes it easier on her, which helps the relationship to thrive and stay healthy.
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  335. This has nothing to do with money. This is because men don't know what they are doing and are displaying unattractive behavior. Just listen to all the limiting beliefs, all focused on money and work and constant superficiality.
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  336. Denial is NEVER wise. It's the opposite of wise. The fact is that you can ignore reality, but you cannot ignore the consequences of ignoring reality.
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  337. Well thats just emotional manipulation. Validating a lie. Its disingenuous. And to tell you the uncomfortable truth, you basically just projected what you do for men and for yourself. You are positively reinforcing the toxic beliefs of many men by literally blaming women for all of men's romantic relationship problems, which means they don't have to self-reflect or take responsibility, because nothing was their fault. Notice how you very rarely tell men to do something different with their behavior. This might be because you don't know what to do, but they flock to you because of it. Keeping it all about superficial things keeps you and others in their comfort zone. So you do the exact same thing for men that you said the grifting good looking men do for women. You just do it in a different way. One way is by directing your advice at women to basically change themselves without truly knowing the motivation of their behavior in the first place. Therefore, the men who won't self-reflect listen and cheer while never looking at their own behavior and figure they do nothing wrong while you validate their constant complaints and lack of introspection. That's something to think about doc.
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  338. Not a good way to think about it. Thinking of yourself as two people gives you excuses to behave a certain way that you ordinarily would not approve of. This can create problems for ourselves. Also, a truly enlightened man would never be envious, as you say, even if he were dirt poor, NOR does he go out LOOKING for challenges or to make things hard on himself, because he is already content. He would also be happy for you and your success and even be willing to learn from you about how you achieved success. An enlightened man knows that if he doesn't work, he doesn't eat. In the bible, Jesus taught us NOT to be worldly because the world focuses on all the wrong things, but he also said to take care of our families and ourselves and work at things with all our heart as if we are working for God. Overall, you can make money without giving up principles or separating yourself from who you are.
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  339. That's basically just wanting a romantic relationship. That's the basic stuff that literally everyone wants. It's just that some people go too far, and they try too much and end up needing more and more stimulation and different types of stimulation just to satisfy them, until it gets to very unhealthy places. Kind of like abusing a drug. So where you are is a very healthy place. Try and stay there. The simpler you are, the more satisfied and happy you'll be.
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  340. Seriously. This man is just not paying attention to the world around him at all.
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  341. I believe it's basically haughtiness. They like to feel superior in order to make up for the needs that they are lacking. Then this becomes a habit of the subconscious that they have to identify if they want to stop looking at others this way.
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  342. Doubt it. Corey gives details on how attraction works, and he has an abundance mindset, and he encourages and promotes integrity. Orion has a scarcity mindset, gives no details because he doesn't know them, and he discourages integrity.
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  343. @urdadshusband781  I'll explain. The doc believes men NEED novelty, and as a result, it's natural to cheat, enabling the bad behavior. No integrity in that. Corey says a good man keeps his word and never cheats. This promotes integrity. The doc has promoted hiring prostitutes and treats relationships like transactions, as if all women are prostitutes in some way. Corey never says anything like this because he knows there is no need for that because he can just attract a woman without any cost to himself. The doc will tell you common sense stuff like a woman will treat the man they have an attraction for differently, yet give no details on how attraction actually works. Corey always immediately gives details on how attraction works and will literally tell you the specific behaviors that attracts and unnattracts a woman. This is because Corey knows, and the doc doesn't. The difference is clear.
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  344. @urdadshusband781  Yeah, I've seen the doc hit the mark a few times. And you're ultimately right on that. I've also heard Orion basically quote Corey. And yeah, it would be better for him to give credit to the person he learned those particular things from. It's just surprising to me that he has listened to Corey, but still has this scarcity mindset. But it is what it is, I guess. Some people just refuse to change their perspective.
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  345.  @robertdiez3854  Well, her mom dying wasn't the ONLY way she could heal. She could heal if she learned to get herself out from her mom's controlling grip. Healing can happen if we distance ourselves from the toxicity. Its just that the initial guilt of distancing one's self from someone that always guilt trips you is extremely hard, especially when that person has been grooming you and wiring you to basically be their slave. It's possible to distance yourself though. If the toxic person dies from natural causes, it's like an automatic distance has been placed, and there is no one to guilt trip and manipulate you, so you don't have to work up the courage to create that distance, which is one major step you can skip and don't have to worry about. I remember knowing someone who wished their mom would pass away, because she didn't know how to escape the unsettled feeling that came over her every time her mom would contact her and guilt trip her. I remember saying how they shouldn't say that, but now I completely understand the feeling, and I now would sympathize and acknowledge the feelings.
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  346. ​ @SarahUsrey How is it a delusion if Jesus literally talked about it. By the way, the end times just means the time before God's kingdom comes and steps in and takes over rulership. It just refers to when the way this current system is ran is about to end and we'll be ruled by God's kingdom.
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  347. You're perceptive. I think that's exactly what it is. Olivia's remarks hit a certain truth within him that he has yet to face. Of course, he isn't going to say that, because he clearly isn't ready to talk about it.
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  348. @lettiebeethezadok  There is also Luke 21:25, which talks about signs among the stars and nations not knowing the way out. That definitely relates. If i had to guess, I'd say its the fallen angels making themselves more known because time is running short before Gods kingdom comes. They've been known to shape-shift, so its not unusual that they would make themselves appear as drones. That would explain why they can't be detected by thermal imaging.
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  349. ​@AmeliorateAhmed Not necessarily. I've seen many people take the absolute wrong lesson from their experiences and keep making things unnecessarily hard on themselves as a result. Guidance from someone who actually knows what they are talking about is the best teacher I'd say.
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  350. @Toni  I think you're right about being excited, having an interest, and believing in your potential being necessary. I also believe that you will not achieve any of these states of mind without humility. I think we just have different definitions of humility. I look at it as being the opposite of a prideful and haughty mindset. If you are haughty, then there is no reason for you to feel excited or interested, because you already know everything, so you feel above all that and like it's unnecessary. Also, you think you've already reached your potential, and you think there is nothing left to learn, therefore you block yourself from learning anything else, because you leave no room for it. Being humble just allows you to leave room to grow. That's what I mean. Perhaps you are not on the same page as me when it comes to the word humble, but you seem to agree that we need to leave ourselves room to learn. That's really the main point I'm making.
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  351. Not at all. If their god was the God of the bible, they would be more peaceful and humble and actually promote peace. Their actions show that they are just another part of the world that Jesus told us to not be apart of.
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  352.  @W.K.F7  I look at scriptures like John 13:35 that says by having love amongst yourselves, all will know that you are my disciples. Or Romans 13:8 that says the one that loves his brother has fulfilled the law. Or 1 John 4:20 that says anyone saying "I love God", but is hating his brother is a liar... It seems to me that the people who are actually fulfilling these things are the ones that are considered God's people. That doesn't seem to be happening in Israel. I believe that the Israel that the world will turn on is anyone that is showing the actual kind and humble and honest conduct that God wants us to have, and not the actual country named Israel of today. I could believe that if their country fell in line with those scriptures of loving your fellow man, but that doesn't seem to be happening with them or any government on this earth.
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  353. That really is a first for him. He is usually a weak blamer and gets it wrong, but he showed some strength this time.
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  354. Thats not a good perspective to have. People tend to make their perspectives on life come true subconsciously. You basically attract what you believe. I attracted a woman I wanted, and I was literally a janitor at the time. I hid nothing about myself and was completely honest, because my perspective was focused on the fact that I deserve to have a high quality woman. So I settled for nothing less, and my job title didn't stop me one bit. If a woman didn't like that I was a janitor, that would tell me that her values were superficial, which is a red flag. That perspective makes it really easy to filter the bad quality ones out.
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  355. @Koroar  Good point. Well, it's really something you have to prove to yourself by being willing to try out a different perspective, which comes with different behaviors. There are a few healthy channels on youtube that can serve as guidance to accurate and positive perspectives. Two that I like are Crappy Childhood Fairy and Coach Corey Wayne. The childhood fairy is about how our trauma affects our mindset and how we can overcome it, and Corey talks about romantic relationships generally from a male perspective and explains well how our limiting beliefs get in our way and how we can change those beliefs. Those two channels approach the perspective from very different places, but ultimately land on the same healthy perspective and mindset.
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  356. Wow. You got it. So few people understand this. They are all just two sides of the same coin. This will always be their behavior, because thats who they are. The sooner we accept this, the sooner we will stop getting frustrated and can move on to find real solutions for ourselves.
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  357. You'll find it's not really based on psychology, but instead it's based on his personal unaddressed trauma and the conclusions he came up with based on that trauma. Once in a while he will have a video that involves actual psychology and he'll say something good, but most of his stuff is inaccurate and serves only to validate other men's unwillingness to self-reflect.
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  358.  @samb123078  Fair enough. I'm with you on how a man needs to feel some type of attraction, and that's what he often notices first. That doesn't count 40 year old single women out though. They're still attractive. At least in my opinion. Personally, when I first met my wife, I thought she was a beautiful woman, but I didn't have a reason to like her romantically until I began talking to her and got to know a few things about her that I really liked. After that, I started getting the urge to ask her out. That's only because my standards had changed. Beauty is good, but it was no longer the standard to get my attention romantically. Anyway, it sounds like you have standards as well.
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  359. There are pain-free paths. Pain is not a requirement of life. Orion believes this because he speaks from his own trauma based experiences. Granted, all of us experience pain at some point, but the humble ones learn how to sidestep painful experiences, and teach others how to do the same. This is the point of having boundaries and standards. The proper boundaries and the proper outlook prevents the usual painful experience most people go through because they don't know any better and most just are not open to learning.
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  360. People that don't have the truth on a subject and yet pretend to be confident on that subject anyway tend to contradict themselves a lot.
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  361. Hang out and have fun. Thats it. "Status" and money doesn't matter. Your comment is proof of that. You aren't being judged by the way. They are being honest. Honesty helps you. If they are saying you are too boring, this generally means that you aren't being fully yourself with them.
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  362. You sound like a 3% man mostly. I will say though that a woman isn't smart for choosing someone for their money and a pretense for using them. Thats a lack of integrity and its self-sabotage. No one can be happy that way.
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  363. @sunhawk1751  I understand how you meant it, and I think you're right. He definitely properly rationalized with good reasoning as to why a person might choose an escort. It's just that his reasoning is from the superficial perspective of someone that doesn't really care about healthy and fulfilling romantic relationships at all, and cares only about money and quick sex. In that case, a prostitute is the way to go. Its bad advice for someone that desires more than superficial things.
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  364. True, but it's insecure and fearful men that share this man's perspective. Not just men in general.
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  365.  liam Millman  Just google the definition of fascism and socialism, man. It's there for anyone to read. The national socialists in Germany back then lied about being socialists in order to get the people on their side. They were actually fascists. We know this because of their actions, not their words. This is why there is so much confusion about the terms. This doesn't make communism a good thing by the way. Too much socialism leads to communism. Communism always leads to fascism. This is why communism is bad and doesn't work. Full capitalism and full socialism both lead to fascism. There needs to be a balance. Some social programs like public school and police and firefighters, but also a capitalist society so that the government doesn't own everything. Now, societies are never really able to hold that balance for very long, due to greedy and selfish people. The corporations that are supposed to be separated from the government always end up working WITH the government, and basically end up running it, due to their financial influence, and people's lack of integrity when it comes to money. So the big club that the original commenter was talking about is the corporations and the government. So honestly, humans will never be able to successfully rule themselves long term. So why even advocate for one side or another? That balance cannot be held for very long. That is if it is even reached in the first place.
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  366.  liam Millman  Yeah, basically. They never would have gained so much popularity if they were honest and told everyone they were oppressive murderers and planned to rule with an iron fist. Politicians lie all the time. I'm sure you can agree with that. Many times they even lie with their title. Also, you don't have to be rude, man. I'm not being rude or insulting to you in any way.
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  367. Yeah, he has this pretend confidence that's based on making his ignorance or lack of integrity sound cool. He plows through without considering actual reasoning, and people fall for it so easily. He is a successful politician because of this. Its like a first time chess player talking confidently about how he can win over a pro, but never actually plays the match.
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  368.  @camerongeorge456  lol I can imagine lol. You really did the work though to figure it out. Bringing information to the doctor is a great idea that I may just use for myself lol. I agree that people tend to be afraid of feeling emotional pain and avoid their issues, but I never thought about people using their issues to define themselves. That's really interesting. Also, I just read a general description of it, and cptsd sounds a lot like my wife's issues. She startles very easily also.
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  369.  @camerongeorge456  Thanks. Good talking to you. I feel more informed. I hope you continue to conquer any personal issues you've got like you have been doing. I know you will.
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  370. Well, he can't teach something he doesn't know.
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  371. So for the future, we have to just listen to the police, stay calm and do what they ask, even if we think they are racial profiling. He is a pastor, so I'm sure he is aware of the scriptures where we are instructed to be humble. Things usually go much easier when we do this. He finally started humbling himself a little bit at least at the very end.
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  372.  @hissyfitz7890  What happens when you try to sleep? Do things run through your mind? Or do you just lay there.
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  373. ​ @Kritikanbringer True, you don't need someones else's approval to live your life however you want or even to believe whatever you want. I'm only sharing an objective and universal truth I've learned.
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  374. Think about what you are saying here. "Its healthy until the transactions suddenly become visible". This is basically another way of saying that relationships begin to FAIL AFTER they become TRANSACTIONAL. People in healthy relationships give FREELY. By definition, this literally cannot be transactional, because a transaction is always and constantly an unemotional trade. Like you basically said, you start looking at things as a trade, your relationship begins to go downhill. Now if one person is doing more for long periods and is tired, this is because the person is not feeling like the other CARES or LOVES them, because they are allowing one person to hold all the weight for too long WITHOUT putting any effort in, showing that they care. People want to feel genuine love, man. If a person with a transaction mindset does things for a person with a healthy and genuine mindset, the healthy person can FEEL that it isn't coming from the heart, but only to get something in return.
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  375. A man with no integrity will date a woman for a long time and not marry her, but then marry the very next one really fast because he wasn't truly interested in the first one. He was just going through the motions because he didn't want to be alone. He married the next one because he was truly interested in her. Now in your case, with the one who was willing to cheat on his girlfriend, he probably just wanted to be with another woman before he got married, but then decided it was a bad idea. OR, he actually was truly interested in you, but he didn't have the courage to leave and break his girlfriend's heart. We'll never truly know, but if he didn't consistently go for you, by his actions, you should assume he had no real interest and move on.
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  376. It's not just cops. It's the entire world. I've met so many people like this. This could have been a much simpler situation if just one of them was willing to be humble and kind. So many problems in the world start this way, and many of them do not include cops. People have egos. Believe it or not, an ego with a hard exterior can be softened with humility and kindness.
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  377. Definitely projection. He did those things for the wrong reasons.
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  378. You've been listening to all the wrong stuff then, or just not applying it. No one is actually boring. Literally no one. When you have a genuine interest in people, you inquire about things about them so much, that sometimes you get them thinking about things they themselves haven't even thought about. Either you haven't actually found a woman you truly like romantically yet, or you have a fear that you yourself might be boring, which wouldn't actually be true by the way. Or you're actually just looking for an adrenaline rush, and not a woman you might really like.
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  379. True. I'm glad that at the end, he at least acknowledged that it's not a healthy mindset to have.
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  380. ​@mrmitchell4089 True, and I've met many people like you describe that don't care to have basic respect. I just limit or stop my interactions with those type of people if they don't show respect, but I will call out the disrespect in a respectful way. And I will continue to be respectful if I must interact with them, and I'll still take their feelings into consideration. You'd be surprised how they react when you don't adopt their same attitude. You're taking the lead and conquering the bad with the good when you show the kindness and respect they don't show. Then, without you having to say it, they realize they were the ones that had some growing up to do.
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  381. Well, that theme is based on his personal experience and probably the experience of some of his clients. And having this be a theme in his videos shows that he doesn't understand how to attract women. So he'll have trouble even getting to the orgasm part if he doesn't know how to turn them on in the first place.
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  382. The answer is in the bible Goobie. Even your takers and leavers example is found in Nimrod's story. Eventually God's kingdom will come to the earth and fix things in the healthy and correct way that we were originally intended to live. The bible even talks about how even the ANIMALS will live peacefully WITH US.
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  383. He doesn't really need the muscle or the height. He needs to take the lead and be more assertive in life in general. Thats why you feel like the man. When the man isn't stepping up and being masculine, the woman naturally has to make up for it, which ruins the sexual polarity and turns both people off. Especially the woman. So all he has to do is make an effort to take the lead, but sadly, it sounds like that just isn't who he is and he will likely never put in the effort to make the change. It sounds like you've accepted this, which is good because it helps you not get angery and stressed out about it.
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  384. It's sad because this is a limiting belief of a man that literally has absolutely NO idea about how attraction works for men OR women. So instead of actually learning the truth, he makes up his own beliefs that falsely explains away why he got hurt. Thats why this is sad. The TRUTH is actually happy and easy and gets us the things and the people we actually want in our lives. But we have to humble ourselves in order to actually find the truth.
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  385. ​​​ @rayrwyr The doc doesn't understand how women work either. At least not yet. And he basically said that romance is for broke dudes, not betas, and rich guys don't need to engage in romance because they got more money and less time. That's a foolish mindset because it's not true. That's like a lame excuse to not have to put in effort in one's relationship. And making excuses to do nothing and blame the woman for the problem is the true beta mindset. Which is what Orion does a lot. Romance is required. It let's the woman know you care. And it's what most of us guys do in the beginning, and get complacent and stop doing sometimes. No one is perfect, but we need to recognize it and jump back on it if we want to maintain a good relationship and keep her turned on. Take the lead, show caring love, be interested in her and have fun with her and be humble.
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  386. Worrying about the worlds opinions on things is a mistake. The bodybuilders who can talk about crying haven't earned anything different than you. They are just ok with any negative feedback they get, and they don't feel perturbed by it, and they don't allow the critics to change their course. The critics see this and are then empowered and inspired. That's what really happens. You can have the same mindset as them at any time.
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  387.  @thewhitene9746  I have heard of that happening before. Honestly, the only way to guarantee that something like that won't happen is if you wait until your married before you engage in sexual activity. Waiting until marriage prevents all kinds of issues. That gives you lots of time to properly vet her to see if she is an honest person with self-control, and not someone who acts rashly when she is feeling regret.
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  388. It depends on if that person has integrity. The commitment is generally made when the feelings and connections feel strong. Sometimes, those feelings may fade a little due to complacency and imperfections. Those are the bad times, but they can always return upon making the effort. Proper commitment means the couple stays together and makes the effort toward one another in order to maintain those feelings or get them to return. Now, those who get involved in a commitment with someone they have no interest in are just doing it wrong from the beginning. There is a scripture in the bible that says, "The heart is treacherous, who can know it?". This basically means that it's not always good to follow our hearts because sometimes it can lead us to something unhealthy or something we regret. In regards to relationships, it means don't leave your partner immediately simply because the feelings are not as strong as they used to be.
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  389. Nice. You posted an accurate solution to the problem Orion brought up. Most men grow complacent and stop being the man they were, and put her in the lead of everything as a result and then wonder why the woman lost her sexual desire. She can't desire a man in his feminine all the time. She can only desire a man thats mostly in his masculine. Contrary to what Orion's advice is, what a man does to get her, is what he does to keep her. Hopefully Orion grows to understand this so that one day, he can give the proper advice.
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  390. Those were actually the interviewers own fears that she was projecting onto her. They are fears that many people were inadvertently taught to have sadly. It's not only China though. This type of fearful and limiting belief system is all over the world.
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  391. It seems that sometimes people are so intelligent, that they over use their intelligence to the point of losing sight of common sense.
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  392. Well said. Thats a very healthy message in which you articulated very well.
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  393. Believing you cannot attract a woman because of her status is a limiting belief. This belief causes one to feel intimidation. You literally limit yourself. This is the limiting belief you are preaching, which actually promotes intimidation, anger and sadness. People are just people just like all of us. No one is above you or below you. Thinking that they prevents you from going for what you want, and it causes unnecessary freak outs if you don't get it.
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  394. The doc is just trying to convince a woman to take him and stay with him even if she isn't feeling it. Because he doesn't understand how attraction works, which is why he can't understand why a good woman might say her relationship is boring. That's really what this is about. Just like the movie he mentioned. The woman in that movie had issues in that movie because she was pressured into an arranged marriage to a man she wasn't in love with. Valid reasoning for her behavior that the doc ignores. Anyway, she started noticing his good qualities and started liking him, which is why she calmed down, which can happen. But also, in real life, if the man has no clue what he is doing, he won't be able to spark her romantic interest and actually turn her on. Dudes who refuse to LEARN how to do that like the doc here just keep trying to use logic and intelligence to talk the woman into being with them and doing what the man wants, and that rarely ever works out. Men with this mentality usually mess up with the good women and end up picking the women that cause problems, which further validates their worldview. I can say he is one of those men for sure because lots of his videos give advice that will drive away good women and attract problematic women.
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  395.  @AEH-df7ho  Part of the definition of incel is being angry with women, and men who are confident with women. That anger comes from jealousy. Jealousy comes from blaming others, instead of looking inward and improving on oneself. In other words, true incels lack the humility to learn and improve, and they refuse to develop that humility. Jordan has an issue with humility as well, and perhaps he feels lonely. There is something in Olivia's words that touched on a truth about himself that he hadn't faced. That's what brought him to tears in that moment.
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  396. Bad way to go. He basically just said for women to be useful to men right after saying just give up sex without even knowing if the man is truly interested. In other words, "Just let me use you for sex". Do not subject your daughters to such a self-disrespecting message.
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  397. Beautiful comment, and you sound like an awesome boss. You can tell the doc only bases his worldview on his bad experiences, and, as a result, he thinks all of life works this way. He has a hard time seeing beyond his own experiences and gets so much wrong as a result. If he had you as a boss, his outlook would definitely be different.
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  398. Phenomenal post. You explain things so well.
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  399. Lisa is right. You're the man. Take the lead. Any games that ensue are because you are allowing it by not being direct and decisive and just going up to her. Tell her you've seen her around lately and ask if she would like to walk together with you. And be OK with a rejection if it happens. Following her like you have been is guaranteed to creep her out. So unless you decide to actually be the man and be direct and decisive and go up and talk to her, stop paying attention to her. Because all that passive behavior and following will be misinterpreted and will get you in trouble.
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  400. I wouldn't even say it's outdated, because It's never even been in-dated. His way of thinking has always been toxic throughout history. Even hundreds and thousands of years ago. It's only insecure men who don't understand how attraction works that have ever had beliefs like this guy. It's basically the easy way out in their mind for haughty men who don't want to humble themselves enough to understand how things actually work. This way, they don't have to admit they are wrong or do some introspection and do the work to make a change within themselves.
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  401. @M-iy4tf  Women are attracted to confidence. The confidence that a man has to be his authentic self. They like when a man has boundaries and takes responsibility for himself. They like when a man has enough self-respect to walk away if his boundaries are crossed. They like when a man has the strength to show self-control so she can feel safe with him. They like when a man helps her to feel heard and understood. They like when a man is willing to take initiative and goes for what he wants, and is still ok if he doesn't get it. They like when a man allows them to be free to come to them at their own pace. They like when a man is light-hearted and doesn't force things. These are the things that create genuine attraction and desire in a woman. It's always been this way. Dudes like Orion are not ready to see things this way because they aren't willing to do the introspection and look at their own behavior. So, instead, they complain and come up with their own reality of how they wish things worked.
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  402.  @M-iy4tf  He never actually speaks directly against these things, but he never mentions any of them, and he always says other things that are completely WRONG. In this interview, he said, "What you did to get her is not what you do to keep her." The literal opposite of that quote is true. He thinks women want the "top 10 percent of men." This is a limiting belief. If he understood how attraction works, he would know that all men have the ability to attract a woman. He focuses so much on transactions because he doesn't understand what causes genuine desire. Much of his channel is focused on trying to talk women into having sex, instead of looking into what causes genuine desire. It's like he is using his intelligence in order to compensate for his insecurities. It sounds smart, but it It doesn't work.
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  403. So basically, all of these people are projecting onto others exactly how they feel about themselves, and this is a toxic way to cope with one's issues, and they don't know how to actually help themselves in a healthy way. They have no answer or solutions, so they blame others for their problems. They don't actually understand masculinity. They are afraid to dig deeper, so they stay on the surface. This is really all that is happening. Of course, this is a result of the messed up trauma constantly inflicted on the world. Those that project their issues, instead of addressing them, go on to traumatize other's. This is basically the state of this world.
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  404.  @cyndis3942  This is a phenomenal comment. Thank you for sharing this. You are correct. The president is a haughty man. The bible says that God does not like haughtiness. He has only ever chosen kind and humble people to work with that can admit their sins and faults. Also, Jesus said to stay out of the world. So any church that is advocating for worldly politics in any way is not following the bible and are misleading people and can be considered to be false. Also, regarding abortion, God does greatly value life, so he would not be ok with abortions, BUT he also gave everyone free will. So to force ones own policy on another is a violation of that God given free will. They will be held accountable for their sins by God just like the rest of us. It's not for us to decide for them. Also, there is a scripture that talks about how people give ear to false stories because it validates their belief system, so they just want their own beliefs to be validated, instead of searching for and wanting to know the truth. Its 2 Timothy 4; 3 and 4. Some people have just been misled, but some are just looking to be validated.
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  405.  @HelloWorld-cq1sq  So you're talking about flirting, but knowing how to do it in a way that isn't creepy and knowing when it's appropriate to flirt, but you're still being honest with your words. Basically, being smooth. Yeah, I get that. I can see how one can call that game, but I think a more appropriate word for that is sociable. Someone who has gone out of their way to learn social skills, because thats basically what that is.
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  406.  @HelloWorld-cq1sq  Good point. That does explain the heavy usage of that word.
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  407.  @andreiboambes3356  As long as a person doesn't show disrespect, they are being respectful. They don't need to go over the top in order to show respect.
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  408. He likely has the personality disorder of psychopathy. Which is basically a disability where the person literally can't feel empathy. That would explain why he didn't respond to his mother's attempt to bring empathy out of him. And it also explains why, even to this DAY, as an adult, he still doesn't understand what his mother was trying to do. Him having psychopathy explains his worldview in many of his videos also.
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  409. I wonder if he is aware of this and is just taking advantage of people, or if he is just one of them and has no clue what he is talking about, is unwilling to learn the truth and only wants to keep blaming someone for his issues and gains validation for his limiting and toxic beliefs through his comments. Pretty sure he is the ladder.
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  410. Just make sure to vet them properly and make sure you share similar goals and values with the one you end up with. There isn't anything wrong in your approach necessarily. The only thing wrong is your rushing mindset. It's hard to find a good person that shares our values. So slow down, enjoy your life, and you'll meet someone as a result. Have fun, and "game" will be natural. Despite popular belief, money doesn't create attraction, so don't flaunt it or depend on it, because that only shows desperation, because it's approval seeking behavior.
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  411.  @hannesklemp  That's because you're in a hurry. Nothing good happens when you rush it. Relax and get to a place where you enjoy being single first. A place where you feel like a woman would only be a beautiful addition to your contentment.
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  412. You can't logic your way through that question, man. Most men make that mistake, because we are inherently logical, but women only ask that question because they FEEL in that moment that you dont truly care about them. Usually, something you did or didn't do got them feeling that way. It's like a natural defense built into them to detect and avoid the dudes that don't actually care. You need to properly address the feelings in order to resolve this issue. Trying to logic your way out of it will just end up in frustration, assuming you actually care about her anyway.
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  413. Its not really evolutionary programming. If the step-parent was raised in an unloving home, that step-parent is likely to be just as selfish as the people that raised them because thats how that person was taught. And a selfish person is going to be a selfish BIOLOGICAL parent also, but likely an even more selfish step-parent, because they feel an even smaller sense of responsibility. Healthy people will always make good parents and step-parents. And the ones that humbly do the work on themselves can overcome the trauma and learn how to show up in a healthy way. This is all basic psychology. They unnecessarily name this "evolutionary psychology" and unnecessarily complicate the already understood facts about why and how these things happen.
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  414. "Because he knows no other guy is going to do it." Do you realize that you basically said that you need other men's approval in order to commit to a woman? Thats really a bad way to go and a bad way to make your choice. That's basically a form of codependence.
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  415. You're not boring. You're not noticing the lack of integrity red flags in the beginning. Thats why you're getting cheaters. And you turn them off by whatever complacent behavior you show as the relationship goes on. Healthy women would just break up with you, not cheat.
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  416. ​@Dale Redpath That's not it. His professor treated women differently than he treated people in general. He put them on a pedestal no matter what and without even knowing them. Men like this have no boundaries and get taken advantage of by women very easily. That professor had no self-respect, which is why he had no true standard or empathy across the board. He was basically selfishly following his libido, and cared for nothing else. It's a feral way to live.
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  417. You are 100% correct and your view is balanced. This doctor doesn't really understand psychology or people in general, has limiting and toxic beliefs born from his own unaddressed fears and insecurities, and he teaches and spreads and validates toxicity and fear as a result. His unwillingness to humble himself prevents him from understanding this, so he will continue to accidentally mislead people.
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  418. @WillieFungo  OK, but think that through. In order to know if someone is projecting, you have to base that information on something. Ridakhan's comment made a lot of sense, and she mentioned how the doc isn't taking all factors into account. She mentioned those factors. Even in the video, the doc literally said he is going by his OWN perspective based on his own experience. He looks no further than that and takes nothing else into account before forming a conclusion. That right there tells you that Doctor Orion is projecting with everything he says in this video. At the end, he literally felt he had to say that his perspective ISN'T pathetic, because deep down, he knows it is.
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  419.  @WillieFungo  The information she provided in her comment IS the information.
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  420. "Behind every proposal is an ultimatum." This is a limiting belief and a projection of those beliefs. Everyone will act according to what they believe to be true, whether that belief is actually true or not. So if you think this is how life is, this is what you will do, and it is what you will attract. It limits you from the fulfilling experience of what life can really be. Overall, ultimatums are toxic, because it is an attempt to force a decision, therefore taking away a person's freedom. Its manipulative. Only one may take the lead, but both are still equals. Options don't matter either. It's not the same as getting a job or a business deal. A person with self-respect cannot be moved by another's "options", and will stick to their principles and won't be manipulated by the showing of these "options". That goes for men and women both. I can get behind your comments about competence being more attractive, but that won't cause a person with self-respect and principles to be controlled or overpowered in any way. Being less committed also has no effect on men and women with self-respect, because a self-respecting person will notice the lack of commitment and will walk away from and not settle for someone who isn't truly excited about them. So, what you say about these things can only be true IF the other person WILLINGLY gives their power away. And a person only gives their power away and allows these things when they suffer from fear and insecurity, which improperly dealt with can lead to limiting beliefs. Granted, most people are suffering from these things, but you'd basically be taking advantage of people with these things or victimizing yourself because of them. Also, everyone has the power to decide what they will and won't allow into their lives. That is true for us all. We all have the power to decide to walk away, or accept.
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  421. Nah, it's just things you do to turn them off by either accidentally acting more feminine or like a little boy. She calls it a pet peeve because she doesn't fully understand the reason. For example, constantly asking the woman where she wants to go on a date, instead of just taking the lead and making one. She would consider that a pet peeve, because that turns her off, because you are putting her in the lead, which is making her the masculine one.
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  422.  @susanli7149  Well, I don't entirely disagree. As a man, I can be humble enough to let someone else take the lead. That's super important to be able to do that. With fitness stuff, I have no clue what I am doing, so my wife leads and teaches me the workouts. Also, I've had a woman at my place of work lead a team and she did an excellent job. Now, when it comes to relations in a romantic relationship, there has to be one person who feels natural in their femininity, and one who feels natural in their masculinity. Romantic relationships are like this no matter what, otherwise it doesn't work in a healthy way. Two people trying to lead won't work, and two people trying to submit and hope the other person will lead doesn't work. There is no sexual polarity in those cases. For example, my wife might lead in certain interactions with things she accels in, but overall, I generally take the lead. If I grow complacent, and start relying on her to make all the decisions and to always take the lead, she can completely do it, but she won't be happy about it, because it would force her into her masculine, which is not natural for her.
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  423.  @artaquino6388  Not at all. We were talking about femininity and masculinity and how we feel about it.
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  424.  @andrescaiced4695  Well, I wouldn't consider it an argument. It's more like we are just sharing our views on the subject. Also, I believe that they do understand what I'm saying, even if they might not agree.
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  425. ​ @toxicgracie3772 Exactly. The government has no clue about them. I personally believe the only answer is in the bible for that.
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  426. They didn't take anything. They just made it LOOK like they were doing something in order to mislead people. God isn't allowing the hybrid nephilim to be around anymore after he wiped them all away with the flood. Thats why the bible describes them as the mighty ones of OLD.
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  427. @James Kamotho  Warmth would be physical and verbal affection. Like hugs and uplifting and kind words. A smile is considered warm. Also, being able to listen to another person and take a real interest in what they are saying can be considered warmth. Taking the time to help a person with something is considered warmth, too. It could just be something small.
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  428. @GiantBeauty  Yeah, we have to be vulnerable in order to love and trust. As a loving and caring woman, you have something beautiful to give. Like the guy who responded to you said, you just have to be careful who you share that with. You have to learn how to properly vet a man, and notice these red flags early on, so you can tear yourself away from people that don't deserve that beautiful and vulnerable part of you before your feelings deepen even further. Sometimes its hard to detect those red flags, because of things we were taught or got used to in the past. There is a lady called the crappychildhoodfairy or Anna Runkle that I've seen address this exact issue with other women, and she gave actual solutions to this recurring problem. She might be worth checking out.
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  429. @chrisherber1635  I can only guess that she felt that way because you just didn't show your interest in a way that helped her to feel it or be able to see it clearly. Sometimes, you have to go out of your way and be vulnerable and do intentional romantic gestures to help them feel loved by you.
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  430. @chrisherber1635  Oh, ok. Im sorry to hear that. Clearly, you loved her. Well, I know that a woman would never move away from a man when she is in love, or at least it's extremely unlikely. So that tells me that before she moved, she had already lost lots of attraction to you, even though on paper she knows you're a good guy, which would explain why she still spoke highly of you. You probably did some stuff to unnattract her over time without realizing it because feelings don't instantly disappear. It sounds like she kept her loss of attraction to herself because she was just afraid to hurt your feelings until she absolutely had to tell you because she met someone else. Hiding how she felt was not ok on her part. And yeah, if you made it obvious you wanted her, her acting as if she didn't know that was definitely just a made-up excuse for ending it so suddenly without saying anything before. I think on some level, she knew it was wrong to not mention to you how she had been feeling.
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  431. @olu5181  It's absolutely possible. When that happens, that just means you've been acting more feminine than her. And that usually happens to us guys because we start operating from a place of fear or complacency. You can turn it around by basically being the confident man you were when you were first dating. How has your behavior towards her changed? I can pinpoint the issue and give you the solution if I had a few details.
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  432. @olu5181  Well, at least you already know everything you did to mess up the attraction. All of those behaviors of yours made her feel less safe with you, which also messed up the sexual polarity, which is why you started to feel like you were more into her than she was into you. All of your behaviors that messed up the attraction came from a place of your fear of losing her. And since you kept focusing on that fear, you made it come true. What you focus on, you make come true. It could be turned around, but you need to recognize in the moment when you are in a fearful state, and take a few minutes to calm yourself before you make any decisions. And understand and ACCEPT that even if your worst fear of losing her came to pass, that you will still be ok. That's how you face that fear and get your confidence back.
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  433. @ivor000  I never advocated for winning or losing because it's not a competition or a game. Not sure how you picked that up from my comment. And the only strategy I talked about was a strategy to employ on OURSELVES regarding self-respect so that we can conquer our own fears and be our authentic selves as a result so that NO strategies are needed. If you're using strategies all the time, you're not being yourself, and you won't be able to sustain it. I'm not single. I have a partner. She knows I'm interested in behavior and psychology, and I've talked to her about these things before because this type of stuff comes up for all of us in different areas of life.
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  434. You're jaded and haughty. You speak some truth mixed with lots of lies, which is misleading. You'll never fully understand how attraction works until you humble yourself.
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  435. ​@donaldturner5124 What a phenomenal post. I really never thought I would see true wisdom on this channel like this. I'm glad you answered because Orion literally never says any of this stuff in ANY of his videos because he doesn't actually know any of it, but has somehow misled himself into thinking he understands it.
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  436. Just being yourself is what will help you attract a good man. Don't lie. Lying repels good men and attracts fearful and insecure ones like Orion. The truth attracts the kind of man you want and scares away men like the doc here. Its hard to find a non fearful man, so be patient and be ok with being single so you don't rush it and good men will notice you're able to be happy on your own first which is a good thing. The other piece of advice I can give you is to allow the man to take the lead. Good men like to take the lead in the relationship. Prompt him to take the lead and make decisions while making your desires known on what you like to do. Men who understand attraction and who are confident in themselves will love that. This is different from a controlling man, by the way. Controlling men are selfish and don't take into consideration your wants and desires.
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  437. You're missing the balance and are going into an extreme yourself. Giving a child a plastic cup is essential so they don't get hurt. When you as the parent NOTICE they are not clumsy anymore, you can start letting them try using a glass. Too early means getting hurt, and too late could potentially cause a phobia. Words hurt people like crazy. You ever heard people say they don't feel like they're "enough"? This is because they were torn down with WORDS as kids. Not protecting them from disrespect doesn't teach resilience, it enables trauma, which makes them WEAK. Now, you can teach them the proper way of how to deal inside with the emotional pain that comes with put downs in order to make them strong, but subjecting them to more put downs makes them weak. And permission is important, but taking initiative to do things on your own, is much different than asking for permission for something that doesn't belong to you or you know will result in consequences if you break the rules. So the premise on this is wrong. You meant, "take initiative". Safety is important, but being safe in general is different from being "safe" emotionally. One is being caring for yourself and everyone around you, and one is not truly saftey, its actually fear, and we have to be careful not to accidentally instill fear of emotional vulnerability. Many parents teach that because they are fearful of vulnerability themselves. The emotionally vulnerability to try something new on their own for example even though it could go wrong. This doesn't have to involve breaking laws or being a rebel. You definitely got it right with the lesson on not seeing people as good and evil. That was awesome. The issue with that is there are many forces at play in this world that like to instill this mentality in adults so they are easy to manipulate. You see a lot of that all over the place in politics as an example. On all sides. So thats something that we as ADULTS must still be careful to not accidentally adopt such a mentality.
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  438. From a broad perspective, things are very similar. You tend to notice different and smaller details as you get closer. Also, when you mentioned how masters tend to speak vaguely and in generalities. Thats the mark of a fraud. Someone that does that is only pretending to be a master and is using vagueness and generalities to fool people into believing that they know what they are talking about. Its ok to not know, but its not ok to pretend to know. Your solution to this to learn more is good, but its impossible to learn more if we can't admit to not knowing something in the first place.
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  439. Sorry to hear you went through that. I think it's awesome that you're giving your parent respect and independence though despite everything. That spare the rod scripture is actually figurative and metaphorical. It's not literal. So many people misinterpret this, and end up traumatizing and hurting their children. Sometimes, I feel like some just use their misinterpretation as an excuse to do whatever they want.
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  440. Gotta have some discipline and not just allow your sex drive to lead you around. You don't have to be like the rest of the world. Also, its very rare that we find a woman that we really like and are truly romantically attracted to. Not just sexually attracted to. This seems to be what you are experiencing. You just won't have any real interest in most women. Maybe once or twice a decade. That goes for all of us men.
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  441. Not true. Good relationships never have to be boring. Toxicity obviously isn't the only way to shake things up. Good and peaceful relationships can easily be enjoyable and fun, too. Wholesome fun and conversations exist too. Not only that, but you seem to forget your psychology training. When someone is causing unnecessary problems like in the movie you mentioned, its usually because they are still harboring the anger or sadness from the trauma they've experienced and they have yet to properly face it and address it. So it shows up in other ways, often toward themselves or the people closest to them. Doesn't make it ok, but this is usually why. Also, the lady in the movie was mad because she was forced to be in an arranged marriage. So, while it was an awesome lesson for her to focus more on his good qualities, which helped her calm down and accept him, its also good to take away the lesson that as a man or a woman, its not good to marry someone that clearly isn't in love with you, because that will obviously cause unnecessary issues. I should add that if a woman is calling you boring, it's because you aren't being yourself and you aren't taking the lead like the masculine man you are. It could also be because you have gotten complacent and stopped the courtship all together or because you talk about yourself and your accomplishments too much and rarely show interest in her. It's never because you are healthy or wholesome. If you're called boring by a girlfriend doc, these are the things you are doing wrong.
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  442.  @oliviavanallen9935  Yes, but it is also the man's choice. If he doesn't want a kid, then she may want to find someone else if having a child is very important to her. Relationships mean you are in it together. She will carry the baby for 9 months, but they will BOTH be parents for the rest of their lives. So they both have to come to an agreement, at least in a healthy marriage. Nobody should ever pressure someone else into doing something they don't want to do, but instead, there needs to be an agreement before any action is taken.
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  443.  @00B.  Good point. Well said.
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  444. You should probably stop listening to Orion. You are feeling more miserable because of this transactional mindset. You are not just some economic status taxi. The only people that would see you as that are toxic people like gold-digging women and people like Orion. Viewing relationships as transactions causes you to subconsciously seek it out because that's all you see. THAT is a psychological fact. Its called a self-fulfilling prophecy. So this perspective will have you attracting gold-digging women and watching videos like this one to validate this toxic and false perspective. Healthy people don't care about your socio-economic status. Thats a fact. Healthy people choose to be around you because of the PERSON that you are. Healthy relationships give FREELY, which is NOT transactional by definition, and the only way to do that is to stop VIEWING relationships as transactions. It will be hard to find the healthier people when you have the opposite perspective from them. You'll repel them with this transactional belief system. Orion literally met couples that tell him that their relationships work because it is NOT transactional. He is so prideful and unwilling to listen, that he refuses to admit there is a possibility that he might be wrong, and he goes on to say that they just can't SEE it, but when you do SEE it, its BAD. He doesn't realize it, but thats just another way of saying that WHEN RELATIONSHIPS BECOME TRANSACTIONAL, THEY FAIL. He just over-complicates it in his mind so that he can maintain his worldview and won't be wrong.
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  445. Yeah, they are basically complaining constantly. They don't understand how healthy relationships work at ALL, and they definitely don't understand women. This conversation is just them both validating each other's toxic worldview.
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  446. Orions story of his dad and James' story of his son explains their worldview so much. Orion told his dad that he wishes he was there more, and like James, Orion's dad didn't address the problem Orion brought up. Instead, he ignored Orion's complaint, and he doubled down and made excuses about how he actually DID show love, but in a different way. This sounds logical, but ultimately thats avoidant behavior because he didn't address the love that Orion is telling him that he didn't show. James avoided the same concern from his kid in a similar avoidant way. This similar mindset seems to be passed along in their families, which is why they share the same worldview. Orion even said that he didn't feel SEEN by a girlfriend of his, which is basically the same complaint he made about his dad. These things can make a person feel lonely. So maybe thats why he adopted this superficial worldview of how relationships work. And maybe thats why he says love is not involved in relationships. Its literally what he experienced and learned from for one thing. Also, it's easier to believe this, because no pain is involved, and if all you care about is sex and money and resources, you can't get hurt. Yet this is still hurtful to ourselves because we can't feel truly fulfilled by thinking this way. I think they are both super smart guys and know a lot of stuff in a lot of areas, but when it comes to relationships in general, especially romantic relationships, they are both coming from very limiting belief systems in which they validate one another. They had a few good points mixed in there, but as far as how to find and maintain authenic romantic relationships, they don't truly know how. At least not yet.
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  447. The Christ takes after his God. That's who he learned his way from. The lake of fire is an illustration for second death. Which just means a death that you will not be resurrected from. Death is just sleep. Unconsciousness. Worshipping the God of Christ only means to follow his commandments, which keeps us humble and healthy, which helps us to accept and acknowledge that shadow self of ours, which helps us to be a complete person.
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  448. Yes, we have free will. Its one of those common sense topics that people over think to the point of unnecessary ignorance. Your actions affect you and others around you.
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  449. Indeed. The doc doesn't understand. You cannot escape badly behaved people by going to the other side of the planet. That's a worldly problem. It doesn't work that way. You actually have to self-reflect and do the inner work on yourself so that you can learn to vet and spot badly behaved people early. Constantly looking to blame others for your problems results in constant confusion like the doc is experiencing.
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  450. I believe everyone can experience it. I think the ones that say they can't either have at some point, but just don't realize it, or they just have trouble allowing themselves to relax. For example, if someone is trying to experience it, but they are being skeptical and looking for issues, or if they feel self-conscious and weird about it for some reason, they won't be able to relax enough to feel it.
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  451.  @alainvosselman9960  Definitely. Depp has some issues for sure. People usually get on drugs because they don't want to deal with some inner problems. The drugs are basically a distraction, or a toxic and temporary coping mechanism. I think you're right about his character deteriorating after drugs. It makes sense. I've seen people end up super angry and disrespectful and act way out of character because of drug use. It just makes people's problems so much worse than they already are. They can recover from it, but not before it takes a toll. Amber has issues, but so does Johnny.
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  452. There is no point Nancy. The root word of "Socialism" is "social", right? The word "social" refers to community, interactions or companionship. So socialism is basically something that helps the community as a whole. It's in the NAME already. So it doesn't matter what you call it, the people who want to keep all the money to themselves will still act as if helping people is a bad thing. Also, they will be able to convince people just as easily, because most people in this world are brought up in a volatile, hostile or neglectful household devoid of the type of love a child and a family needs, so they basically adopt the same type of volatile mentality that they were taught as children. I've chosen to advacate for the bible, instead of getting involved in politics, because the bible has a message of peace and hope for everyone, including those families. You just won't get that from this world or this system of things.
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  453. @Midwest GBFM I'm not advacating for socialism. I'm just defining the meaning of it in order to show how the titles create a divide and creates needless competition. I stated in my comment what I'm actually advacating for, because its pointless to promote these worldly ideas that everyone fights over.
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  454. My mother had the same experience as you when it comes to forgetting a language as a child. And for the same reasons.
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  455. So rarely do I see an essential truth on this channel and its comments. There is more wisdom in this comment than all of Orion's videos combined, yet this comment is likely to be rejected by most due to how it does not validate their fears and insecurities. Also, you are promoting self-examination like a genuine person, rather than promoting the manipulation of the OTHER person and the teaching of constant codependence.
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  456. So, in other words, don't be with someone you aren't truly interested in. Also, love can fade due to our imperfections and mistakes, but having the humility to notice those things within ourselves helps to get the love back. And having the integrity to stick to your commitment, even when you feel unnattracted to them for a time, is also a part of being loving. The feelings are amazing, but love goes beyond just a feeling. Love is ultimately shown in our actions. Also, acknowledging boundaries is always important in a loving relationship. Someone that does not respect boundaries is not showing love.
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  457. I think you already have a good handle on the situation. The only thing I would add is to make your first priority to separate them. Even if this means telling the accused guy to go behind the counter or in another room or something, which will help him feel safe, thus calming him down. Then telling the lady that you have an idea that can prove he has it. That would grab her attention, because it makes her feel like you are on her side and want to help her, which could help to calm her down. DO NOT try to calm her down by telling her to "calm down", or by telling her she is acting like a toddler or by mentioning her bad behavior. That will just upset her more. Most people don't understand this, which is why things sometimes escalate even more. The first thing you need to do is ACKNOWLEDGE and speak to her about her concern, and agree to help. People just want to be heard, no matter who it is, so that would likely get her to look to you to lead the situation. Most people judge before they acknowledge, so when someone sees that you are actually acknowledging and are concerned about what they are saying, they'll get a good feeling from you. In other words, you would basically be showing them the type of love they probably rarely got in their childhood, and that has a powerful affect on people.
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  458.  @nathandurant2825  Yeah, those are terrible values. The commitment part wasn't too bad, but overall they don't know. Masculinity is just going for what you want, being direct and decisive, being emotionally centered, having the strength to be humble and the willingness to take the lead. It has nothing to do with violence. Violence as a last resort to protect your family perhaps, but ultimately, masculinity helps to maintain peace, and helps others around to feel safe. Masculinity does not have to unnecessarily prove itself to others with outward and intentional displays of strength. I don't think Jordan is a bad guy, but he doesn't have the humility to find an answer to something he doesn't understand, which makes him easy to manipulate. I think Shapiro is just disingenuous and even further from any kind of humility.
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  459. In some cases. Sometimes they are actually busy too. If the man wants to avoid relationships with insecure women and he notices the red flag, he will back off, no matter how much he likes her. Now, there are tons of men out there that don't know that this is a red flag. Also, lots of men will notice the red flag, but just ignore it or in some cases, they just accept it. The men that want a happy and simple relationship will not be ok with that though. Although, the man should be honest and say that he isn't interested anymore, and not just ignore her. It takes courage to do this, and it could help her adjust her approach with the next guy she dates.
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  460. Also, looks don't matter so much. When a man actually truly likes a woman, that woman is 20x prettier to him. So I'd say that women have nothing to worry about.
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  461. Nah, that's just Orion and whoever shares his fears and insecurities. He is projecting his own problems onto everyone as usual. And if he wants to be lied to, that tells you that he has no problem lying to the woman he is dating as well. Basically, good men who don't have these types of insecurities and fears will want to hear the truth. If you lie to them, that will make him feel like he can't trust you, and then he'll be much less likely to date you. THATS the truth. Also, when you tell the truth, you help yourself filter out fearful and dishonest men like Orion because the truth tends to scare them away.
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  462. Single mother's aren't necessarily horrible. It's just that your ex-wife has absolutely no boundaries or rules for herself, and as a result, she lives kind of like an animal where anything goes that feels good in the moment. And because she has no boundaries and values only fun and feeling good so much, she teaches that toxic mindset to her kids. Wheras YOU are a force for good. Not because you are the father, but because you have actual boundaries and value health and actual self-control and good habits. You have a much healthier mindset than your ex-wife. You did a good job staying calm and teaching your son by having a chat and NOT yelling and not leading with anger. You taught him a lot just by the way you showed up. THAT is the proper way a person teaches and shows actual love to their children. You corrected him firmly, but also with kindness and respect. That's how both mothers and fathers are supposed to be. You did an amazing job and your kids are much better off for having you in their lives.
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  463. Nah. Don't listen to him. That's the doctors childish mindset. HE is the one that keeps trying to gain a woman's approval, and thats exactly why he has problems with them. As an actual masculine man, you need to have your own goals for yourself. If you meet a woman along the way, then awesome. But trying so hard to get a woman to approve of you like the doctor here is a weak mindset that repels women.
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  464. That hard times quote is just a way to be trapped in misery. It's foolish because it's basically saying that you MUST suffer in hard times in order to be strong. Yet we know that when people suffer, they tend to develop insecurities and fears from all the trauma. Unaddressed fears and insecurities cause us to create problems for ourselves and others to make up for what we feel we lack, which would mean that hard times is more likely to weaken us. Then it says good times create weak men, which literally encourages us to NOT RELAX which could result in being perpetually stressed out. And it creates a fear in a man that he will become weak, which potentially could cause him to create hard times out of fear of being weak and wanting to be strong. That saying is just bad and inaccurate all around.
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  465. ​​​​Adam followed Eve's example, despite being the leader and then blamed the woman for HIS actions. Similar to what you are doing now. He messed up too. Solomon went against his God Jehovah's command and accepted a woman that worshipped a different God. That was Solomon's own actions that got him into trouble. It also sounds like Elvis didn't know how to pick decent women. Most of us are not taught how to properly choose a partner. We have to learn as adults. At the end of the day, men and women both are responsible for our own behavior AND the people we allow into our lives.
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  466. ​​ @goa93  Money doesn't matter. As long as the man is masculine enough to help her stay in her feminine during personal time, things can work out. Only men who have a major insecurity within themselves will have an issue with a woman making more money. These are the ones also focusing on money constantly. There are some men out there that don't have an insecurity like that. They are just hard to find. The insecure ones just try to normalize and validate their insecurity in order to make them feel better about having that insecurity, rather than actually trying to CONQUER that insecurity born from fear. That is why superficiality becomes increasingly popular and why you got the results you got when you searched it. Its ultimately a "I'm not good enough" type of insecurity. In reality they are good enough, they just have trouble seeing it due to how they were raised or even just misled. Anyway, so the solution for you is to find a man that likes you, and can actually be happy for you in what you do no matter how much he makes and that shares your values. You just have to be patient enough to find one.
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  467. They mix truth with lies. This is why it's hard to catch the propaganda. For example, he casually said Ukraine started the war. Well, he is smart enough to know that's a lie. He also avoided the question when asked about Putin installing his own puppet in Ukraine when they have an election. And a person only avoids a question like that when they know the truth won't have people's approval. At the end of the day, it's all going to happen whether you detect the propaganda or not. There is nothing we can do about it. That's why it's much better to place your faith in God rather than man.
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  468. Listen to your self talk. You are giving up before you've even figured it out. You don't have to find your passion immediately like the world says. Just find something that's important. That matters. That you feel is making a difference. You can even look at how you make a difference in your current job. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. Many of us out here have a lack of drive, but we can develop that drive by finding a compelling reason for something we want. It takes time and lots of thought and searching to find this, but you have to put effort into finding it. There is no rush on this. Don't just give up. You are naturally masculine, but it's up to you to unlock your own potential. If you want to be good at something, then practice something. Also, you may not develop a drive after all of that, but all that means is you have to get up and force yourself to get things done anyway. Show up for yourself. You don't need an actual FEELING of a drive to be masculine.
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  469.  @cvrki7  Fair enough. Some women can really appreciate it, but usually if its simple and genuine like in your case, and you didn't poor tons of money into it. When women get it all the time though from men that barely know her, it comes off as more of a bribe for her to like them. Usually its because they go overboard with a big bouquet. I've heard women say, "he barely even knows me". Its like complicating things too early. Your approach makes much more sense, because you aren't actually complicating anything, and you're keeping it simple with a simple gesture.
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  470. @BAsed_AFro  That's like saying you know nothing about parenting because you have no kids. You don't have to experience the worst of it to know how to heal from it. That's a fact. And most of this stuff has been validated by those who have actually been through it and healed from it and literal research also.
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  471. @BAsed_AFro  I'm sorry to hear that you went through that type of stuff. Well, I checked out the ACE test after you told me about it, so I do have a clue. There is a YouTube channel called the crappy childhood fairy. She and her community have been through trauma of all sorts. She explains well how to start the recovery process after such trauma and she gives healthy ways to cope and even talks about what happens to our brain when we have a trauma reaction and how to deal with it in healthy ways. It's very comforting to listen to.
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  472. @BAsed_AFro  I'm sorry to hear that you went through that type of stuff. There is a channel called the crappy childhood fairy. She and her community have been through different types of trauma. She explains well how to start the recovery process after such trauma and healthy ways to cope with the effects. She still has some issues from her own trauma, but she's managed to overcome many of its effects. It's very comforting to listen to.
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  473. Don't know about that original definition of "woke" he gave. He basically is saying it never changed. I remember being on the internet back in the day, and when I seen people use that word, it always referred to being awake to how literally all politicians are lobbied, or take bribes from companies in order to have laws swayed in a direction that benefits them, and how ultimately votes don't matter. Basically, being woke or awake meant being aware of how things truly work and how we live in an oligarchy and how, despite pretending to be divided, the politicians all share the same bosses and show their unity or division when their bosses, or lobbyists need them to. This means that giving up one's integrity is a requirement in order to be a politician. Then, suddenly, politicians, democrats and republicans alike along with their pundits started using the word with a different definition, which referred to culture instead. This served as a distraction from their usual underhanded actions, and that distraction obviously worked pretty well. Looks like he is caught up in that distraction.
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  474. Coming up with new things constantly is not the secret to longevity. Thats a fearful mindset. And affection is only a pain in the butt if you are with a woman you aren't really interested in or you fear vulnerability or you prioritize unimportant things first. Man, you will exhaust yourself with such weak and limiting ways of thinking. Gratitude actually goes a lot farther than you think. It requires you and your partner to be genuine, though, which seems to be something you have trouble with. Also, your clients have a hard time maintaining interest long term because they get complacent in their behavior like any other man. Not because they don't come up with new stuff.
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  475. ​ @croissants1280 That doesn't work either. You can see the conclusions Orion has come up with by thinking for himself. We need a foundation to teach us. I've personally found that the bible is a trustworthy foundation to base one's wisdom off of. Things proven in psychology often validate the Bible's advice.
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  476.  @alwaysmarcy9428  Yeah, but true Christianity supports God given free will. True Christianity tells you to avoid bad association. It doesn't tell you to control other's decisions. This world is not currently ruled by God, which is explains why everything is backwards and ruled by hypocrites.
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  477.  @aliamjon2550  C'mon man. We should obviously reject these things, but we can only reject these things for OURSELVES, not for others. I didn't say it was acceptable in any way. God judges them. Not you or me. "He that is without sin, let him cast the first stone", remember?
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  478. There are solutions. Thinking of things as tradeoffs is a major limiting belief. Also, men don't approach due to fear and focusing on the wrong stuff.
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  479. Keep in mind that the only good things about porn are temporary. Similar to drugs. It feels good in the moment, and it helps you be distracted from and avoid other problems that need to be addressed, but it's ultimately bad for the mind and body. You don't need porn to realize fantasies, and you don't need it to understand your body. So there is nothing truly good about it. Even a couple using it to spice things up is basically a mental way to go outside the marriage. It's unnecessary. There are other ways to raise the attraction of partners and throw in spice. And they didn't really say anything bad about nofap, except that you should ween yourself off of it, similar to drugs also.
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  480. Sounds like you just need a willing man that knows what he is doing and is willing to figure you out. And also a masculine one so you can consistently feel desire, not a complaining one like Orion and his community. For example, if my woman doesn't orgasm from foreplay and penetration, then I'll make sure I get her that orgasm another way every time, and it took a few tries to fully get to a place to where I could get her there every time. Also, if you find a masculine man, and his imperfections flare up for a while and you feel turned off for a few months to a year and you know he is a good man, it would be in your best interest to honor marriage vows if married and stick it out. I say this because my ex-wife left me when we were at a low period. My behavior wasn't the best for a few months, so she was turned off for a long time and left. Well, she regretted this because I figured out my problem and became an even better boyfriend to my next girl after learning from my mistakes. Before she left, I told my ex-wife to stay because I learned a lot and I wanted to have it all figured out and learned with her so we could both still benefit from even the low points, but she gave up so soon.
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  481. I really don't think we can use animals to properly gauge how a human being would react. I know they're similar in some ways, but they're still animals at the end of the day. There are tons of rich and high "status" people out there that are still depressed, because they don't know how to, or they refuse to address their issues. Their material needs are just one less problem. Although, they are more likely to fill their life up with temporary pleasures or distractions from their real problems. Plus the example of the primates contradicts your second point. Also, it's nice to hear you acknowledge how superficial things cannot solve inner issues, but I don't believe we have to be disappointed in order to learn. To your point though, I suppose some haughty people just won't listen to others no matter what, but humility will allow us to listen to those that have been through it and learn, so that we don't have to waste time or the emotional energy going through the same disappointments. So I guess it would be fair to say that you're aiming your advice toward the hard headed people that think they have it all figured out. They would be happy to hear it though, because its validation for them. At least until they watch this video lol.
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  482. Some truth here, but not all of it. You took the wrong lesson from that experiment. It's true that you must make sure you're taking care of yourself before you take care of others. But this does not necessarily mean in a materialistic way. Because on that same note, tons of people out there who have lots of money also have a scarcity mindset. That's a fact. A mindset of abundance comes from your perspective. You can have this even when poor. For example, the people who helped the man when time was short were the ones who knew deep down that everything would be ok no matter what. They knew that even if they failed, thats ok, because there will be more opportunities. They know all will never be truly lost, so they were able to focus on the more important thing. Whereas most people have a scarcity mindset, focused only on completion or winning, and therefore forget the more important things. Overall, the ones that did help the man have a true ABUNDANCE MINDSET. They maintain their patience through anything, even time constraints. The percentage was so small because this mindset requires humility and self-examination, which most people refuse to do.
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  483. @anacorreia8058  You mention how emotions are based on evolutionary instincts, but the doc advocates for business transactions and doesn't give advice based on emotions. You mention how personality is how a woman falls in love. THIS is a correct statement because, unlike the doc, you are advocating for something deep and meaningful and not superficial. Money is understandably needed, so I understand looking out for that, but that doesn't make a woman FEEL anything. The part that makes her feel something is the part of the personality that LEADS to the money. Like motivation and ambition. The doc finally kind of figured that out because even he mentioned that money is unnecessary in a recent video. Looks don't matter. Tons of women get together with men they never thought they would get with due to the man's looks. It happens all the time because they end up FEELING something for him for different reasons.
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  484. You're a complainer, man. No solutions. Your whole youtube channel is self-affirming for men who are having trouble with women and refuse to look at their own behavior. You help keep people stuck. You're not helping.
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  485. His takes are based on his fears and insecurities. Instead of addressing them, he makes up his own rules for how the world works so that it fits into his distorted and fearful perspective. So a comment like yours that makes a good point will likely be dismissed, because he isn't willing to listen to reason.
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  486. This only applies to people that do not take care of their emotional health. Which is actually most people. They tend to stay on the surface of their emotions, always looking for distractions, instead of truly diving deep and getting curious about their emotions and feelings. So they stay disconnected from themselves as a result. If they do not connect to their authentic selves, then they cannot truly connect with others on a deep emotional level. Red flags are constant with these type of people. You just have to learn how to spot them. They are not bad people, they just are not relationship material, because they don't know how to connect, because they haven't done the work on themselves.
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  487. Good job doc. Well said.
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  488. Secretly only caring about sex is only a quiet part for YOU, because thats your worldview. Having to pretend to care isn't necessary if you have a true interest in the woman. Make no mistake, you aren't the only man out there that cares only for sex, but thats just not a healthy mindset to have. In order to believe this is normal, you have to believe that all people are just pretending to have dignity. Your problem is that, to literally quote you from this video "you've bought your own BS." That was a projection, man. You're avoiding the fact that the relationshipy stuff might just be genuine, and not a cover-up. Lots of men out there want more than sex and lots of women out there want more than resources. That's the truth, but your chosen worldview won't allow you to reconcile this. When someone says that they are giving more than they are getting, this is because the other person stopped putting forth effort in the relationship, and effort shows that a person CARES. You can't just throw resources and sex at that kind of problem. You have to actually care about the person so you can show love. Like spending time with them. That could be something as simple as planning a walk in the park together or showing more affection or doing a chore she normally would do because you see that shes tired. You might call those things transactions because that inspires her to do more for you, but if you really cared, you would do them for FREE, which means without expecting anything in return. Thats how relationships thrive. A business would fall apart if you always gave away your product for free. Thats why business and relationships are not the same. Even if you look at the effort you put in as a long term investment, this is still expecting something in return, which will make you bitter and angry when you don't see the results you were expecting, which will cause you to sabotage things further. People can generally feel when something is expected of them, whether you say it or not, and that turns them off, makes them feel bad, and makes them want to distance themselves from you. Also, you should know that the term "romantic relationship" implies a sexual relationship. It just means it's the opposite of a platonic relationship.
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  489. ​ @MikeLeed It's just for the entertainment factor which doesn't apply to personal relationships. Imagine if you were the one who lost and he kept rubbing the win in your face every time he talked to you. You'd eventually get annoyed. You'd start to feel like you were talking to a child that needs this brag in order to feel good about himself.
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  490. @DBTwister  Oh, ok. Thanks for clarifying.
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  491. Their explanations are always different, because they are all trying to figure it out with nothing to base their beliefs on. So it makes sense that people are all over the place. There can only be one truth, and it's easy to understand and will make sense when you've heard it. I personally take my beliefs from the bible, because it makes sense to me. The God of the bible has proved his existence a lot. He has been perceived for me through the bible. With things that I'm going through, I always find the right scripture to help me, especially after a prayer. That's how he talks to us.
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  492. ​​ @Psych2go  Lust is pure sexual desire without love or true interest. The best way to distinguish between the two is to hold off on sex. Sexual desire is temporary and doesn't need to be satisfied immediately. That desire goes away and comes back. If you have the discipline to hold off and let the temporary desire go away, that'll help you see clearly and understand what you are feeling. That's the only healthy way to distinguish between the two. Love or even just a true romantic interest in a person is lasting and doesn't go away along with the sexual desire. A toxic way to know is to have sex with that person, and you'll know if an actual interest remains, but the potential damage has already happened by that point. You mentioned this method at 4:28. Another toxic way is to masterbate. This gets rid of the sexual desire immediately, and you'll know, but then the masterbation becomes like a drug to quell the sexual desire. It could become addicting which is like an abuse of orgasms, and you could become addicted to the thought of that person to get the fix.
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  493. True. Women actually prefer to chase most of the time. Over pursuing a woman turns her off. Although, in the very beginning, the man generally chases, because he usually initiates the courtship.
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  494. That only applies to the men that lack genuine self-respect and self-confidence.
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  495.  @seekingpathways1045 , I would agree with that under healthy circumstances, but in this particular case, the woman has been lying a lot, and putting down her daughter and is very jealous, and he validates all of that behavior. He is likely afraid to stand up to his wife and correct her behavior. Either that, or she has successfully manipulated him into always agreeing with and validating her wrong doings. Or its because he is the same way, and her behavior validates him.
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  496. Don't take your advice from movies. They might be entertaining, but the ones writing them do not understand how attraction works. In real life, that situation in Jack Reacher would have been a display of how he deep down doesn't believe he deserves to have what he wants. So he sabotages himself with limiting beliefs that he has developed to ensure his false view on himself and on life comes true. It would be a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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  497. ​@Jamie Holmes If he fully believed his own belief and wasn't afraid of the truth, there would be no fear in answering her questions. Also, anyone seeking the truth and not just validation will want to know where their reasoning might be weak.
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  498. Partly true, but your definition of love is incomplete. Love is also FUN. Love is also PLAYFUL. Love is LIGHT-hearted and easy to carry and easy to feel. Love is kind and honest and vulnerable and looks out for the other person's interests. Love is self-control. Love is humble. Love is mildness. Love is enjoyable to show and enjoyable to receive. Love is impartial. Love is allowing others to be free to choose to be with us or choose not to. Love is also showing these things to YOURSELF. All people are, in fact, looking for these things, which is love, whether they know it or not. Even you. Even me. You can even see that in the comments of your videos. They yearn to show it and have it be appreciated as well as feel it themselves. We'll all have to acknowledge these things of what love actually is if we want any chance at filling fulfilled and lifting the heaviness that plagues many of us. In this world, most of us are not shown what love actually is, so we don't know how to find it, and sometimes it feels foreign to us when we haven't experienced much of it. That's why so many of us yearn to FEEL it. We have to be properly shown it before we can properly show it to others. It's just hard to find the correct way to show it in this world. That's why the bible is a good place to start. The bible creates a good foundation for us in an otherwise almost loveless world.
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  499. Swearing isn't good if you do it all the time though. You'll end up wearing out it's effect, then it becomes bad for us. It's better to leave swearing only for certain occasions, but refraining from doing it constantly.
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  500. He only ever has complaints. No different than red pill people. He doesn't mention solutions, because he doesn't know any. He won't be able to find any solutions as long as he keeps thinking in such a haughty and superficial manner.
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  501. @John S. ジョン・サラ  He isn't dealing in only appearances. He is dealing in only status and money and transactions. This is superficiality. Superficiality literally cannot create true attraction. There are no true answers in this. Focusing on superficial things is also a good way to attract other superficial people like gold diggers. The haughtiness is how he just absolutely focuses on the superficiality, believes all the answers lie in that, and goes on to teach everyone this is how things work. Also, he is trying to tell women how things should be, while not taking the time to understand women and why a woman may have made the choices that she may have made. Ultimately, he leaves no room to learn anything new, because he prefers his superficial answers, and that is the opposite of humble, which is haughty. The truth tends to escape haughty ones. His biggest shortcomings were not only focusing on superficial things and equating them with high value, but also focusing on the initial two complaints that he says some women have. Thats a bad place to start, because the women that complain about that don't understand what truly attracts them, or don't care about actual attraction and focuses on superficial things like money and status just like he does. The solution is to first understand how attraction actually works if one is going to teach it, learn and apply healthy boundaries for ourselves, and learn to vet individuals so that we can find someone that actually shares our values and goals and that actually cares about us. Also, focusing on learning how to make the proper choices for ourselves, rather than telling people how they need to behave to suit us or make society better.
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  502. @John S. ジョン・サラ  It's definitely reasonable to want a woman to commit and put her full effort into the relationship like yourself. That is the only way a relationship can actually work in a healthy way. That is part of having the same values. That's where we have to learn how to vet properly. We can't go into a relationship expecting to be benefited, though. That would be transactional, and love isn't transactional. We go to relationships to give, and if we find that other person doesn't have the same mentality, then that person doesn't share our values in that way and we can move on from them. No need to change them or convince them to be different. Just accept how they are and make our choice to move on from them. This "modern woman" you speak of that won't invest in the relationship is not exclusive to modern times, and it isn't just exclusive to women. There have always been women AND men that use people and don't completely commit their all to the relationship. That selfishly take, but refuse to give. Frankly, some just don't know how to give. These men and women that go around breaking hearts and using people are low integrity people with a very different set of values than you. You cannot ever expect these type of people to all of a sudden be reformed and start behaving with maturity. That's like trying to move a mountain. You'll always be frustrated by focusing on these types of people. Switch your focus to learning how to find decent people and learning how to filter out the low integrity ones. And don't go into it expecting certain behaviors to be traded for certain things from you. That isn't loving and thats a good way to find someone that isn't loving in return. It's basically a bribe for sex. It's unattractive and genuine feelings do not work that way. Love isn't transactional. Love is giving without expectation. We just have to find someone that also understands that fact and holds that value. Granted, it's not easy to find people like that in this world, but it is possible. The doc is stuck on bargaining and transactions. He completely disregards or doesn't understand the things that spark genuine feelings, and he doesn't even consider what love actually is. He has clearly been consuming all types of misleading content.
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  503. I don't believe that story about Jesus is the same. The coin originally belonged to Ceasar, similar to how you wouldn't have a life without God having given it to you. With a woman, the man did not give her her body so she has no obligation or responsibility to give it in the same way. Thats even more so why it has to be given for free, of her own volition. Nor does a man owe her affection, which means this also has to be given for free. Also, I'd say men and women both like naked pictures and affection and connection. At least, only after you are well established into a relationship. And focusing on genitalia for pictures is generally a bad way to go. Also, be careful who you send pictures too. Its not recommended. Most people can't be trusted with stuff like that.
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  504. The professional level doesn't matter. And yeah, it's not easy to find a dominant woman because women are generally designed to be submissive, so they are turned on and fall in love when the man takes the lead. If a man wants a woman to lead, it generally turns her off, and she loses attraction.
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  505. ​ @kathrynhaught630 That's the issue right there. They don't take responsibility at all and they put everything on their partner. And they wonder why the woman isn't turned on by them or craves physically intamacy with them like she used to. Them as men are not SHOWING UP like they used to either. It's only the men that refuse to look at their own contributions to the problem that actually HAVE this problem.
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  506.  @markaurelius61  Not at all. He seems to be learning a little, like saying it takes more than money and status, but the fact that he thinks money and status is a factor at all blocks any potential wisdom he might learn on the matter.
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  507. True. The doc is actually the one being illogical in this video, but he doesn't realize it.
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  508. Well, it has to sound complicated in order to hide the basic message here. When simplified, he is basically saying, "Please let me use you for sex". He literally said that women must make themselves useful. It's basically a desperate plea for women to have sex with him.
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  509. Good examples of why there is no competition out there for men that actually know what they are doing. These are the ones that had the humility to admit they know nothing, and took the time to improve and fill their knowledge gap. Most men don't know how to be genuine when approaching a woman, because they refuse to humble themselves enough to learn. Although, the last guy that you were too in a rush to talk to actually sounded genuine. This fear of being creepy is what MAKES A MAN SHOW UP CREEPY. They'll either learn how to conquer the fear, or just give up and do nothing. They also inadvertently focus too much on the fear, which makes it come true. It's something that can be overcome, but so many men are looking for validation for their fears, rather than ways to conquer them. Many want the women to somehow be different, but that's literally giving away their power to improve on themselves. Its a bad way to go. Also, the men that complain about online dating are the ones that refuse to practice building up the courage to talk to women in real life. Nothing, but complaints, but no one has the humility to admit that maybe THEY are lacking in something, so therefore they don't feel they need to search for solutions or feel the need to improve anything about themselves. Even these depressing articles provide nothing, but complaints and absolutely no solutions.
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  510. ​@GearZNet It's not passive because he is being direct in what he thinks the issue is. "Who hurt you" is a very disrespectful and disingenuous way to say it. This person said the truth in a respectful way without implying that it's somehow unusual to feel that way when treated horribly. We just need to be careful not to adopt that type of mindset when we do get hurt, because it could happen to any of us.
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  511. Good video, but it was extremely foolish to say it is cowardly and fragile to take other's advice and never fail on your own terms. This promotes preventable mistakes, and some mistakes can get people severely traumatized or even killed. So it is wise to listen to other's advice. At least those who know what they are talking about. Also, one kernel of truth in a book is not a book well read because many people give out one kernal of good and truthful advice, but then have hundreds of kernels of foolish and misleading advice that leads to unnecessary pain and problems. Mixing truth with lies is how people become easily misled.
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  512. ​@shin-ishikiri-no Nah, you stop watching porn as a man, It gets easier to filter out those social media addicted ones because your mind is no longer clouded by the drug. And you're treating yourself better, which means your standards raise, which means you'll notice women's bad behavior easier and faster and it gets easer to find good ones.
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  513. Super useful. Thank you.
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  514. ​@TiffanyBottomsHunter Well, Jesus said that we would see signs in the stars and the people would not know what is going on as we get closer to the time before Gods kingdom comes to the earth. Thats Luke 21:25. That pretty much lines up with everything happening today. These signs are now happening around the world with these orbs and "drones". Reports of them are everywhere and nobody, not even the government knows what is happening. So I'm guessing these things are the fallen angels just making themselves known. Either way, Jesus said there will be signs. But we don't have to go insane or be afraid because Jesus also said not to be afraid and to basically have confidence because Gods kingdom is now much closer.
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  515. Exactly. He doesn't realize it, but his advice is telling men to act like women and women to act like men, which will never work in real life. Also, that story he told in this video is about SURVIVAL. The woman used manipulation to survive an evil man, and it also shows how people that use and abuse and discard others are easily manipulated. He will never give advice to men on how to select a GOOD woman because he doesn't know how and he refuses to learn because he thinks money and charisma is all that matters. He just doesn't know what he's talking about and he misleads people as a result.
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  516. True. You don't need a woman. And a woman does not need a man. Those are facts and good things to keep in mind, BUT you also don't need to settle for expense, difficulty, headache and inconvenience when you have a woman. What a limiting perspective. You gave your client a better perspective in one way which is good, but another of his issues is learning how to properly vet his partner, and learning how to show up correctly so that he doesn't cause problems from his end. Your client's blaming attitude suggests that he has some behavioral changes within himself he needs to make in order to even attract a woman that doesn't cause headaches and so that he doesn't cause headaches from his end.
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  517. That was definitely a red flag, but he should have just told her he wasn't interested anymore, and not ignored her. That's the decent thing to do. At least he apologized for it though, and that was humble of him.
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  518. Bingo. His videos are a big projection in hopes that he can convince the women HE dates to give it up to him. It's how he WISHES reality was so that he doesn't have to actually try to understand women. He is truly the one with a scarcity mindset and limiting beliefs. And he doesn't have the humility to admit he is wrong and change his belief system.
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  519. Of course. It makes complete sense that you feel that way. That's how you know the information doesn't make any sense, and it is, in fact, inaccurate. The actual truth does not discourage. Truly understanding women enables you to love them, and it makes things easier. The people that say different are looking for validation for their limiting beliefs and cause discouragement as a result.
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  520. Ok, so here is the truth. The true God is perfect and loving. He created us only as perfect humans with no sin, or in other words, no evil. Adam and Eve messed up and sinned, passed down that sinful imperfection to us, and that is what happened. Now it's literally in our DNA to sin, which is why bad things that we need to resist might come natural to us. God could have aborted everything like you mention, but he decided instead to fix it. That's why he had his son die for our sins, so that we could have a chance at perfection again. Basically, the perfect man Adam sinned, and Jesus remained perfect without sin and died a perfect man, which redeemed us. So God promises us that things will be back the way he intended, with no evil and a literal paradise earth with no death and actual everlasting life, and he'll resurrect many that have died in this world. The bible says that this world is currently ruled by the wicked one. That is Satan, the angel that first rebelled and lied to Eve. He is now known as the devil. He says that we don't need God and that we can rule ourselves. Well, we can see what happens when humans rule themselves. It doesn't work. Also, there is no hell. The bible says the wages of sin is death, not eternal torture. This is all from the bible, and I absolutely believe it, because it is the only explanation that makes sense to me. It just covers all bases and explains why evil exists. So if you reject all evil, then you actually have that in common with the true creator.
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  521. It's definitely demons. They are definitely more advanced because they are capable of more things than us. Also, they only SEEM like they move between dimensions because of how fast they can move and how they can make themselves invisible and look like just about whatever they want. Its all happening in the same dimension. She said her husband was interested in astrology, which is a form of spiritism, which the bible tells us to stay away from because spiritism is associated with the demons. This is likely what caused or at least contributed to her experience. Also, demons are just angels that rebelled against God. This is why they do stuff like this that goes against our creator.
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  522. You're referring to dishonest, disingenuous, and immature men. The honest and genuine and mature men won't do foolish and awful things like that and they will find a mature woman more attractive.
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  523.  @indigowendigo8165  It kind of is toxic to ourselves to do that. It's stressful and causes unnecessary avoidance. Putting in the work to be yourself no matter what you do or where you go would help you be relaxed at all times, no matter who is around.
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  524. How does that make sense? You don't think one man can have integrity, and a different man can be the opposite and have no integrity?
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  525. There are no solutions in the red pill stuff. It's basically a place to seek validation for limiting beliefs. The actual solution is to become the type of people we want to attract and focus on learning how to properly vet. This makes us more attractive to those we like. Red pill enables self-fulfilling prophecies, because they tend to focus on all the personality types that they don't like and ultimately just complain.
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  526.  @Vunomic  He said he didn't do it because of the security camera. He wasn't thinking about his personality or his integrity. He didn't return it for the reasoning of it being the right thing to do. He returned it because he was afraid of being caught. So he was willing to steal it. That's why he didn't feel good about accepting their praise when they called him a hero. He had a guilty conscience. At least he was very honest about this story, and returning it (no matter the reason) helped him avoid tons of regret I'm sure. Stealing isn't good for our psychological well being.
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  527.  @DeejaySLAM  She did actually admit to doing drugs, because she thought that would make her the cool girlfriend, which makes sense, because that's the kind of thing that insecure people would do. So she did admit to something at least.
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  528.  @JM-ot8ux  I didn't say that he introduced her to anything for the first time. Your mind went there somehow. I said that she did drugs with him in order to look cool. This is just what she said. This does not imply that she has never done drugs in her life. Only that she admitted to doing it.
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  529. It's always better to try to understand people. It makes you more likable, and you have a better idea of who you are dealing with. You can listen to people's agendas and ideas, but you don't have to participate in it or agree to it.
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  530. Ever watch supernanny? You come to realize that spanking isn't actually necessary and is really just a form of physical abuse.
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  531. @peterelz4600  Don't be disrespectful. I maintain my respect for you. I would appreciate it if you did the same.
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  532. @DancinJim  If Putin broke his promise of a ceasefire once before, this means he can't be trusted, and diplomacy is not possible because Putin would have to hold to his word for that to work, which he has proven that he won't. This is where Zelinsky was correct, and Donald and Vance knew it. Would you trust Putin to maintain another ceasefire AFTER he broke it once already? Donald and J.D. are telling him to trust Putin again with no guarantees of help, but we know Donald and J.D. are smarter than that and know trusting Putin after he already broke his word is a bad idea, so that's how we know they are being disingenuous.
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  533. His videos seem fake because they are based on superficiality. He always avoids talking about emotions and emotional depth, likely because he doesn't understand it and/or it makes him uncomfortable.
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  534. Well you're basically saying to be humble. If you become humble as a part of your personality, you find that life is so much easier and getting what you want comes easily. Part of humility is NOT bragging about your win like a desperate child in need of validation. Part of humility is having the courage to say what you believe to be correct, but also giving the freedom to the other person to believe what they want and being OK with it. A humble person is also ok with being wrong and completely ok with it. You would be surprised how much smoother life goes for you when this is not just a strategy you employ, but it becomes your default mindset. Your personality.
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  535.  @pikasnipe1  So for the future, we have to just listen to the police, stay calm and do what they ask, even if we think they are racial profiling. He is a pastor, so I'm sure he is aware of the scriptures where we are instructed to be humble. Things usually go much easier when we do this. He finally started humbling himself a little bit at least at the very end.
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  536. You're correct. You're one of the few people that understands this. People keep looking for reasons of why this happens. It actually has nothing to do with education. It basically boils down to people looking for reasons to hate others simply because they enjoy it. Nothing more. These people grow up with families and parents that neglect them and don't know how to show love. So they grow up with trauma after trauma and they end up hating themselves, because no one showed them the love a child needs. They then project that hatred onto others as a way to cope. Its obviously a super unhealthy way to go and there are actually ways to heal from these emotional issues. The amount of families around the world that don't know how to show basic wholsome love is just growing in number.
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  537.  @DevinJHiggins  Sorry to hear that, man. I hope things are going well now, and that you've been able to treat the bipolar disorder.
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  538. He meant that as a way of explaining that even though you have a lot more wisdom than others, random bad things in this world can still happen to you like anyone else, like death for example. We're all headed there. Solomon was noticing that having all the wisdom in the world and even attracting all the women in the world could not make you truly happy and didn't actually matter at all IF you do not fear the true God and keep his commandments, because thats where we find true happiness and fulfillment. So we remain unhappy and experience sorrow if we acquire lots of wisdom, yet still don't follow God's commandments, because following God's commandments is what ultimately matters in life. All the other stuff is just a "chasing after the wind" as Solomon puts it. And from my experience, that is absolutely the truth.
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  539. So if testosterone goes down in married men, and then up again when single, wouldn't this suggest that testosterone is determined by our own mindset and the actions we decide to take? Married men tend to get complacent, but divorced men tend to put much more effort into their lives again. So testosterone seems to be based on the effort we decide to exert toward our lives and toward the things we want. Which means we have full control over our own testosterone levels.
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  540. Well, all you would be doing is accepting reality. He left, and to accept that means to accept honest reality. When we want reality to be different than it really is, we suffer unnecessarily more than we have to. Also, accepting that he left sooner will help you recover sooner, which means that if he ever decided to come back, you can approach it objectively as a woman with self-respect, which can help you look at his intent with a clear mind. To know if he is genuine or not.
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  541. Your definition of love is incomplete. Thats why you feel this way about it. Love is kindness and respect, love is uplifting, love is self-control, love is patience, love is mildness and love is joy and love is indeed humble. Showing all of these things in relationships will be as a constant boon to all relationships. The opposite of these things causes dysfunction. Love is indeed self-sacrificing, but not to the point of a lack of self-respect. If a woman wants to be with another man like in that movie, all you need to do is walk away from the relationship. If you know you have issues and cannot currently be a good partner, then you walk away just the same. That is the proper sacrifice. It would take a lack of love for yourself to actually pay for her to be with someone else. That isn't love. Allowing her the freedom to make her own choice and accepting it is love. To not settle for someone who obviously isn't all in and fully interested in you is love for yourself. Love being sacrificial means more like sacrificing your free time to spend it with your mate or your children. That is a true and realistic and healthy sacrifice, because our time is the most valuable thing we have. Showing real love takes a conscious effort, because it doesn't always come natural to us. Love is not just a feeling, its an action. We also need to have love for ourselves in order to have the self-respect to not hang around someone if we are not being treated properly, and it takes a loving attitude to properly communicate that. The issue is that most people don't know what love actually is, and they don't know how to show it, because they were not taught. They were often taught the opposite. That is most of us, but we can always still learn. A lack of love is the reason for all dysfunctional relationships, trauma and problems. Oh, and by the way, what a good singing voice you have. That was definitely a nice surprise lol.
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  542. He assumed the president knew, but that was an assumption based on nothing. Basically, it was a lie. None of them had any clue. If I had to guess, I'd say the answer is in the bible.
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  543. None of this matters when it comes to actual attraction. You're only talking about superficial things.
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  544. ​@cleverusername1894 So why does he ignore those numbers and why is he against vaccines? Has he ever given his reasoning?
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  545. Ramani says that you have to be superficial to handle a narcissist, but this simply isn't true. One can genuinely learn to be more humble, and kind and put their standards and boundaries in place, because this helps immensely to deal with narcissistic people. These qualities help to produce a genuine response while still promoting peace. It works. It may take some work to get to this place, but its completely possible.
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  546. Most women don't understand how attraction works either. The lady you were talking to didn't understand why women would say all men are the same. When women say that all men are the same, they aren't talking about their job and hobby. Its more about how the men show up, because this is what sparks feelings within them. It's usually in a way where they are too worried about what the woman thinks of them, so they hold their true selves back, or become approval seeking or relinquish the lead to the woman. Also, taking a risk is good, but only the type of risk of going for your goals or getting rejected. Not exaggerating yourself or showing off. Thats approval seeking behavior. Its unattractive for a man. Thats what women tend to do. Like wearing makeup for example. Its feminine. You're actually at your most attractive when you can be fully yourself at all times and have your own boundaries and standards that you uphold. This can also mean having the courage to be yourself and dress how you genuinely like to dress for yourself WITHOUT worrying about the judgment of others.
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  547. Its pretty clear the government has no clue as to what is going on. They likely just don't want people to panic. The same stuff with drones and orbs is happening worldwide, and no one understands it. I believe the answer is in the bible. Jesus said we would see signs in the stars close to the time before Gods kingdom comes. He also said the world would have no clue about it or not know a way out. This all seems to line up with exactly what is happening right now.
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  548.  Piscesempress  I believe you, and maybe your mom couldn't distance herself for some reason. So maybe it was a different circumstance. You can't leave in those situations. If you can distance yourself though, and you don't, then you are accepting misery in your life for a very long time. Why do that when you can take back your power by moving away from them and blocking them? It might be hard, but if you're an adult, you can move out and completely block them on everything, and have absolutely no contact. Reject and block anybody else who tries to guilt you on your toxic parent's behalf. Until you've had the time to heal. It's possible. I've known people that have done this, and have felt so much better afterwards. I also know someone that didn't walk away completely, but puts serious limits on the association with their toxic parent, no matter what the parent says. It gives them time to recover for a while without the toxicity.
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  549. ​ @SarahUsrey How is it a delusion if Jesus literally is the one that taught about it. It just means God's kingdom is about to come. Its nothing to be afraid of.
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  550. ​ @SarahUsrey How is it a delusion if Jesus literally is the one that taught about it. It only means God's kingdom is about to come.
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  551. C'mon man, be reasonable. You cannot actually believe that kid knew of this quote from history or the Hindu scripture, especially if he probably played fallout. A child literally being raised on adult video games instead of his parents had to have learned SOMETHING from the games. Obviously his parents are fully to blame, not the games, but the parents obviously did not care what he was exposed to as part of their neglect. I like games too, but it is only reasonable to acknowledge that a child can be influenced by literally anything they are associated with, ESPECIALLY if their parents are not guiding them in any way. By the way, it is the horrible lack of love, attention and guidance that this kid went through that ultimately caused this.
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  552. Keep in mind that scripture is about receiving GOD'S blessing and not your own. In order to do that, you have to work toward the things that God approves of. So sometimes, you must wrestle with your OWN fleshly desires. Like sex outside of marriage, for example. You'd have to actively resist or wrestle with that. Or wrestle with forgiving someone who has offended us or sinned against us. Or wrestle with putting our own selfish desires ahead of what we know are more important priorities at the time. Looking to be approved of by God is all the healthy stuff we mentally and emotionally need to be happy, and that's actually how we find true peace.
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  553. Definitely a rookie take. You basically make lame exuses for why you don't want to show vulnerability, which you need in order to be confident, which is essential for attracting a woman. This is why you still struggle. If you genuinely hate showing a woman you care, then you're most likely dating women you don't really like, or you are incredibly lazy and selfish and would rather always focus on yourself, OR you're making excuses for being rejected. Also, its true that the woman you were on a date with said something ungrateful, but she might have just been having playful banter also. The fact that you called it "invalidating" and took it personal shows that you need a woman's validation in order to feel good about yourself. That's an insecurity that you need to do some INTROSPECTION about. The truth is that you don't need a woman's validation, and if you knew that, you could have had some fun with it by saying something like, "ok, well lets see where this goes for now, but whats your favorite flower", or, "I'm busy enjoying the pretty flower in front of me at the moment". But instead, you make up this whole "romance is for broke people mentality", as a way to cover up your insecurity. Its an avoidant perspective and its self-sabotaging. And as a result of this perspective, you said something rude to your date. I'm not trying to upset you. I'm just telling you the truth you need to hear, because you'll just receive validation for your avoidant outlook from most people, and you won't learn anything that way and you'll continue to have the same problems.
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  554. ​ @MrSuperhoben He thinks relationships work similar to businesses. So in his mind, somebody always HAS to lose and everyone is disingenuous. None of this is true and a person just cannot find true happiness with such an awful mindset. It's a hopeless mindset. He basically constantly projects his made up worldview on everyone. Ironically, he correctly defined projection in this video, but he doesn't realize that is what he is constantly doing. I don't necessarily think he is a bad guy, but he doesn't have the humility to learn what's actually true, because he believes he already knows it all, which leaves no room to learn.
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  555. There is also Luke 21:25, which talks about signs among the stars and nations not knowing the way out. If i had to guess, I'd say it was just the fallen angels, also known as demons making themselves more known because time is running short before Gods kingdom comes. They've been known to shape-shift, so its not unusual that they would make themselves appear as drones, which is something we would recognize in this day and age. That would explain why they can't be detected by thermal imaging. Well, those signs are pretty obvious right now, and the government or the nations, or anybody that has no interest in the bible won't have a clue or find the answer they are looking for. Hopefully, Goobie picks up the bible again sometime because I remember him saying that he just wasn't interested in religion due to lots of hypocrisy from those who preach it but don't apply it.
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  556. There is also Luke 21:25, which talks about signs among the stars and nations not knowing the way out. If i had to guess, I'd say it was just the fallen angels making themselves more known because time is running short before Gods kingdom comes. They've been known to shape-shift, so its not unusual that they would make themselves appear as drones. Not actually being a drone would explain why they can't be detected by thermal imaging. Well, those signs are pretty obvious right now, and the government or the nations, or anybody that has no interest in the bible won't have a clue or find the answer they are looking for. Hopefully, Goobie picks up the bible again sometime because I remember him saying that he just wasn't interested in religion due to lots of hypocrisy from those who preach it but don't apply it.
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  557. So true, but keep in mind that this is the perspective of a man with an unhealthy mindset that has trouble seeing reality as it is due to whatever bitterness within himself he hasn't addressed. Men with healthy mindsets know better and can see the distortion in this guy's thinking. Like you can.
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  558. Thats not it, man. Women are attracted to masculinity. "Nice guys" hold back their honest thoughts, let down their boundaries and treat the woman differently than they would someone else, and they are in a fearful state, so they chase way too much. Therefore, they hold back their natural masculinity because of this fearful state. Whereas the "bad boys" don't care. They don't change themselves or let down boundaries to accommodate the woman. The woman either likes them and goes with them, or she doesn't. This allows the bad boys to retain their masculinity. So basically, you can be a good, kind and loyal man, but still retain your masculinity. In other words, be yourself at all times, and you'll be super attractive. That is what most people don't understand. Most therapists don't even understand this.
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  559. Ok, so you just made up stuff about the woman in the first clip's past. You don't actually know what type of person she is, and you refused to acknowledge the legitimate complaint that she had. The woman in the second clip is actually just like you. She wants to believe all men are the same, and wants to talk crap about them. Similar to how you are always looking for reasons to say all women are awful, and will always talk bad about them. The woman in clip 4 really has no clue what she is talking about and is extremely superficial. She is similar to you as well, because she gives bad advice concerning the the opposite gender. You literally said that men shouldn't have to have these conversations with women, yet men need to do this in order to vet the woman he is going to go out with. Not trying to attack you man, and I have lots of respect for you. I'm just being honest with you.
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  560. He clearly has some inner issues that he isn't dealing with. I honestly believe he was moved to tears, because Olivia's words touched on a truth that he has been struggling with, but wasn't ready to face. I hope that one day, he truly and honestly opens up about how he truly feels, and what is really going on with him, and that he eventually begins showing true vulnerability.
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  561. Being triggered into this type of behavior is not the same as what this video is talking about. This video is talking about when this type of behavior is consistent throughout the entire relationship when there is no trigger.
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  562. You want to know how to find the truth? This is how I personally do it. The bible says you have to prove the truth to yourself. "Prove" is a verb which means its an action. This means you work toward the truth until you find it. So this is how you know something is true. Like the bleach. You can know by how it destroys germs and eats away things. Well that means it will destroy all your good germs if it gets in your body. You can't prove the space laser thing, so no need to believe it. Thinking that some people have telepathy has been proven by that lady, yet everything known in science disproves that. Well I've realized the bible has the answer. Telepathy is similar to talking to the dead, which is considered spiritism, which means telepathy is considered spiritism. The bible tells us to stay away from spiritism, because that stuff is inspired by the rebellious angels, or the demons. They can be invisible to us and can fool us into thinking we have abilities by passing the information to us that we wouldn't have on our own. This is how the lady proved it, but science disproves it, because its not possible, but the lady had help that she didn't know of. I personally think the bible also explains the ufo drones that people are seeing all over the world all of a sudden because the bible talks about signs in the stars before God's kingdom comes. You can't believe planet niberu because there is no way to prove it, but there is a way to prove to yourself that a man lived 2000 years ago, died for our sins, was resurrected and then ascended to heaven. You just have to actively LOOK FOR how that can be true and prove it to yourself. If you just give up, you'll never find the proof you need. 2 Corinthians 13:5. Proverbs 14:15,17. This is also how I know that all the things you've talked about regarding the medical system and health and nature is true. You're a humble man who thinks things through. I can tell you have a good grasp on truth, and you are trustworthy as a result. This is why you've attracted so many honest hearted and kind people. I know you are not a bible guy, but I'm like you. A truth seeker and I've found it to be true. Although the bible says that talking about its contents will for sure make you unpopular in the world, but you'll have explanations for things that baffle the world.
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  563. Bad way to go. You don't get to experience true sex that way. Being with a woman you don't like is like glorified masterbation. Better if you like each other.
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  564. @Toni  Sure, you'll probably always be challenged, and you can do lots of challenging, but its worth it to get to the truth if you are genuine about it. I understand time and resources potentially being an issue though. We can't deal with everything at once. When you find the truth, challenge tend to be much easier to deal with and not as time or resource consuming, because it becomes simple to understand and explain. Also, willingly humbling yourself is the path to rid yourself of uncertainty, insecurity and lack of knowledge, because you are willing to honestly admit these things about yourself to yourself, which allows you to address them and fill your knowledge gap and conquer the insecurity and become certain. Admitting one's long-held belief might be wrong when in the face of obvious proof or something that makes sense can be scary, which is why so many are unwilling to do it. Humbling yourself is just being modest, and saying "perhaps I have more to learn", which helps you to look at yourself. It allows a person to examine himself inside, which is the opposite of projection. Or, in other words, drop one's puffed up pride. When we are learning anything, we are being humble in that moment, because we have to first admit that we have no clue. So it's just ADMMITTING that we are uncertain, so that we can start down the path of eventually becoming certain. It's not that you base anything off of your ignorance. That saying just means that you are leaving yourself room to continue learning, and you aren't afraid to do some honest introspection and find the areas in which you have knowledge gaps or uncertainty. It's basically also saying to be modest.
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  565.  @W.K.F7  I understand why you would say that, but there is that scripture at 1 Peter 3:9 that says for us not to pay back evil with evil or insult for insult. That's something to keep in mind in such situations, as hard as that may be for us to do sometimes.
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  566.  @EvaLasta  Are you implying this to be true about me? If so, I'm not sure how you came to that conclusion, but this is not a belief I hold.
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  567. Astrology is spiritism. The bible tells us to stay away from spiritism because all spiritism belongs to the demons. Your husband being into astrology invites them. Hypnosis also attracts them because it takes you out of your right mind, like heavy drugs. It's easier to influence you. The part about angels was demons also because they told you to talk about them through acting, but the bible tells us to spread the word with the BIBLE. And the short you did helps to mislead others into believing they talked to angels. Also, you mentioning the morphing is consistent with what the bible says also, because we know the demons have the ability to shapeshift into things. God doesn't allow them to change into people anymore, though. Also, the demons are rebellious angels. They rebelled against our father Jehovah, which is why they try to mislead us into believing they are good or act like angels of light, as the bible says. Also, the triangles associated with them is consistent with many other UFO sightings and the dollar and the pyramids and the whole illuminati thing you hear about. This seems to be a symbol they've chosen for themselves. The bible says that the wicked one, meaning Satan and the demons, currently rule the world because Gods kingdom hasn't come yet, so triangles showing up like that is consistent with this scripture. Also, hybrids of half angel/demon and human people are called nephilim. God isn't allowing this to happen anymore since the flood. So them taking an embryo out of you was just a show they put on in order to mislead you, and mislead the public. This is the truth. These are the only explanations that actually make sense.
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  568. ​​ @camillejamesharmanactress I don't believe the angels appear to people because in the bible, the angels only ever appeared for a short time to do God's will, and the test against the bible never holds up. 1 John 4:1 says to TEST these inspired expressions against God's word to see if they originate with God. For example, in the bible, the angels always elevated God, and not themselves. In YOUR situation, they did some stuff showing an embryo and told you to act in a show that depicts more of themselves. That stuff has nothing to do with the message of the bible. The bible never taught us to call upon angels or look to speak to them. Jesus specifically said to pray to our FATHER in the heavens in Mathew 6:9. Paul said to let your petitions be made known to GOD in philipians 4:6, not his angels. Galatians 1:6-8 warns us of not just people, but literal angels/demons from heaven actually giving us a false good news that is NOT from God. 2 Corinthians 11:14 says that Satan transforms himself into an angel of light in order to deceive us. So ultimately, when I test these experiences against what the bible says, they always end up going against the scriptures. Thats why I don't believe the angels are appearing to people in today's age. And we already have the bible, which tells us all we need to know about God and his wisdom and how he operates and his plans for us. And he can speak to us through the scriptures in the bible if we are willing to listen. And I don't believe in the trinity because of scriptures like Jesus praying to his father, his father speaking to everyone saying this is his son the beloved when Jesus got baptized, and Jesus literally saying NOT to worship him, and that worship belongs ONLY to his father. Plus, Jesus never once mentioned the trinity. Not even the word, "trinity". I've heard many arguments of people who believe in the trinity, but they can't explain those particular scriptures of things Jesus has said. So the trinity is just another deception from the demons. So if they get people to believe in the trinity, and then represent themselves with triangles, thats an easy way to get many people to believe they are angels of light, which makes it easier to deceive people even more, which ultimately keeps people AWAY from the true God. Also, God said not to use symbols or carved images to represent him. Deuteronomy 4:15-18. So the triangle symbol, or ANY symbol for that matter doesn't represent the true God.
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  569. It's interesting because everything he says about women is a projection of himself. In reality, HE is a greedy man because he focuses so much on success and status and money. He literally tries his best to convince women that they will only be attracted to him if he has material wealth, even though reality constantly disproves that. Also, all of his issues with women are actually his own fault for allowing himself to adopt this superficial and toxic mindset.
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  570. ​@Alex Exactly. And self-control is a huge part of love. So if people actually showed love, or knew how to do that, their relationship would actually be functional.
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  571.  @Alex-bl8uh  True, but while it may be easier for some of us, some people might struggle a little more in that area. It's not that they want to inflict emotional damage, it's just that they have a hard time resisting temptation in the moment. Depending on their integrity, they either show self-control, or just give in to the temptation.
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  572. Nah, they just like the confidence. The women without self respect put up with toxicity because of that. If you are a healthy person with confidence, you'll be a million times more desirable than the toxic bad boys who don't really know what they're doing.
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  573.  @vondahe  Take away everything, including his personal space. By that, I mean go into his room and sit with him until he talks to you about how he is feeling inside. Stay there in his room every day for weeks if you have to while reminding him that the only way to make things better is to open his heart to you, but you have to be compassionate and willing to listen when he does decide to talk to you, and validate his feelings, no matter what they are, and do not get defensive, even if he blames you for something. Just humbly acknowledge. That show supernanny has great examples of how to deal with teenagers and she shows the common mistakes that parents make without realizing they're making them.
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  574. Speaking in tongues means to speak all necessary languages in order to preach the word to literally anyone back then. God gave them the ability to do this back then to spread the word. Tounges is not gibberish to just make noise amongst ourselves. So many Christians get that wrong and literally speak gibberish for no reason. Doesn't that make more sense? Especially when you consider those passages in the bible. Also, passing out is not something the bible talks about. I would stay away from churches that have people pass out. Jesus dusted off his feet and moved to the next person when someone didn't want to listen. He never forced anything on people or guilted them about anything. Also, God hates violence. Christians that force their beliefs on people are misled or only care about power and not what God approves of. They are hypocritical, similar to the pharisees back then. The bible promotes dignity and boundaries and integrity and honesty. This is self-love. So the bible teaches to treat yourself right while also treating others right. Loving God means to take into account what God would approve of and live your life that way and to speak to him and open up to him as your father. The bible literally says that we only know how to love because God loved us first. God's name is Jehovah. His son is Jesus. Most Christians don't like to talk about Gods actual name for some reason. You're a humble man, and it seems you are willing to accept things that actually make sense, rather than just stick to man's cultures and beliefs that make us comfortable. It does matter though what we believe spiritually, because you want to give credit to the correct God for the things you enjoy in this world and for promoting integrity within us so that we can be happy.
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  575. Thats because he isn't being honest, and he is trying to distract from that. Understandably so though, but telling the truth is the only thing thats healthy for us. Based on his convoluted answer, I think that Olivia touched on a certain truth about him with her statement. That truth being that he is lonely. He just wasn't ready to face that truth within himself. That would explain his sudden emotional reaction.
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  576. ​@tamigreene2709 No, not victim blaming. I'm saying that in some cases like this one, you actually have the power to prevent yourself from becoming a victim by making a different choice.
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  577. If I had to guess, I would say that you have an underlying sadness that music helps you to be present with, or you just enjoy a good emotional story because you can empathize with the singer. I asked myself a similar question a long time ago, and I found these reasons to be my answers.
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  578. Exactly. Its all literally made up by people who don't know any better and like to make excuses for their bad behavior. The true psychology of people has never changed. It's always been the same. Thats why they can never provide any proof of their assumptions. They make money and gain attention just from a bunch of empty talking, though.
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  579. ​ @AEH-df7ho  If everything burns, that defeats the purpose of gaining anything. You don't have to be a jerk to be masculine. That's what people do not understand. That percentage of men you mentioned does not understand this, and neither do the jerks.
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  580. You're actually asking questions that lead to the truth. Hypergamy is obviously not actually attraction and is not how attraction is sparked. It is a mindset. A toxic mindset and lifestyle choice. That is not the answer to how attraction works.
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  581.  @morganfreeman5260  I wasn't thinking about that type of stuff at all, man. I was talking about EVERYONE. Humans beings in general. Not a particular race or nationality.
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  582.  @alexloftus8892  That's a fair point.
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  583. Wow. It's nice that someone actually remembers and actually knows this. I'm sure it was the people involved in the corruption who made sure the definition was changed to culture stuff as a distraction. This man is all caught up in that distraction and is propagating that distraction as a result.
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  584. The telepathy tapes are explained by the bible. The doctor that did that research had real findings, but science also proves its not possible, but the bible explains how it is possible with the help of a third party that the research doctor was not unaware of. Something the bible acknowledges and something we are instructed in the bible to stay away from for good reason. Most of the world won't accept this, and thats why no real answers have yet to be discovered by the world about this woo woo stuff.
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  585. It just seems like a bad idea to take anything that isn't extremely necessary. Finding natural ways to achieve what a pill would force on your body would be the best way to go.
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  586. Agreed that we need to look inside. It's interesting though, because looking inside is exactly what the bible promotes. Humility and self-reflection. The ones that you know that are wearing a mask of deciet likely are not applying that when they know they should be, which is probably why they are wearing that mask. We tend to experience shame when we consistently go against what we know to be right. Efforts to hide that shame is usually why people put on a mask.
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  587.  @timothygibney159  Yeah, but you would only love her money, not her if your intent is to seek out money first. Also, society is often wrong about what actually makes us happy. Also, a woman will get turned off if you BELIEVE and therefore act like you are not on her level. If you view yourself like that, she will view you like that. It's a limiting belief based in fear that can have us unintentionally sabotaging ourselves and causing our fears to come true.
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  588. @ThePS101  My mistake. Thanks for the correction. Even so, this is basically urging a woman to give her body to him faster with the excuse of, "I could be making money right now, so you owe me." That is still a desperate and entitled attitude. He feels entitled to quick sex even though it was HIS decision to forgo money so he can go out on a date, not hers. So, in truth, she owes him nothing. And it's desperate because he is only thinking about sex and is in a rush to get there as if he is an animal. That's also a scarcity mentality. All of those are turn offs to self-respecting women, which will inadvertently get him much less sex and absolutely no healthy relationships. Because of this desperate and entitled and scarce mindset, he promotes prostitution, and twists it around in his mind so that he can pretend he still has an abundant mindset. Granted, when it comes to making money and business, he truly does have an abundance mindset. That is clear. Although, when it comes to women and romantic relationships, he definitely has a scarcity mindset.
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  589. This only applies to the men that lack self-respect and self-confidence, and have very low self-esteem.
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  590. I think he is ignoring the true psychology. True psychology goes deep and delves into the matters of the heart and emotions. Here, he stays on the surface and doesn't go deep to find the true reasoning. He uses a very superficial version of psychology here.
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  591. Orion is all about the fleshly desires, sadly. He literally teaches the opposite of the bible all the time. His entire channel is about giving into one's fleshly desires. You can tell that he knows he is wrong on some level because videos like this one show his thought process on how he uses his intelligence to rationalize NOT changing his mindset of superficiality and transactions, thus enabling himself to keep his current outlook. Giving himself an excuse and then teaching those excuses to others. That's avoidant behavior. Then, the comments enable him, which helps him avoid even more. Notice how he said that spiritual people tend to be envious of materialistic people. Well, that tells you that he is having trouble brushing off certain criticisms because he knows they're right, so it's easier to call them envious in order to dismiss them. That's avoidant behavior also.
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  592. Orion is all about the fleshly desires, sadly. He literally teaches the opposite of the bible all the time. His entire channel is about giving into one's fleshly desires. You can tell that he knows he is wrong on some level because videos like this one show his thought process on how he uses his intelligence to rationalize NOT changing his mindset of superficiality and transactions, thus enabling himself to keep his current outlook. Giving himself an excuse and then teaching those excuses to others. That's avoidant behavior. Then, the comments enable him, which helps him avoid even more. Notice how he said that spiritual people tend to be envious of materialistic people. Well, that tells you that he is having trouble brushing off certain criticisms because he knows they're right, so it's easier to call them envious in order to dismiss them. That's avoidant behavior also.
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  593. Orion is all about the fleshly desires, sadly. He literally teaches the opposite of the bible all the time. His entire channel is about giving into one's fleshly desires. You can tell that he knows he is wrong on some level because videos like this one show his thought process on how he uses his intelligence to rationalize NOT changing his mindset of superficiality and transactions, thus enabling himself to keep his current outlook. Giving himself an excuse and then teaching those excuses to others. That's avoidant behavior. Notice how he said that spiritual people tend to be envious of materialistic people. Well, that tells you that he is having trouble brushing off certain criticisms because he knows they're right, so it's easier to call them envious in order to dismiss them. That's avoidant behavior also.
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  594. He literally teaches the opposite of the bible all the time. His entire channel is about giving into one's fleshly desires. You can tell that he knows he is wrong on some level because videos like this one show his thought process on how he uses his intelligence to rationalize NOT changing his mindset of superficiality and transactions, thus enabling himself to keep his current outlook. Giving himself an excuse and then teaching those excuses to others. That's avoidant behavior. Notice how he said that spiritual people tend to be envious of materialistic people. Well, that tells you that he is having trouble brushing off certain criticisms because he knows they're right, so it's easier to call them envious in order to dismiss them. That's avoidant behavior also.
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  595. Yes, because it's the stuff that leads to sex that causes attraction. Sex isn't the cause of attraction.
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  596. True. He has given at least two examples of how his dates went bad on this channel. He thinks he was making good points about the women, but in reality, when you listen to the stories, he was the one that messed up the dates. He definitely over analyzed their actions like you said and he refused to analyze his own actions. Thats how he keeps himself from learning to show up correctly. A person can't improve if they refuse to self-reflect on their own behavior.
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  597. ​@SafeADude Nah, that makes you a woman and less attractive as a result. She is testing him because he keeps losing it. He needs to chill. Relax. Be calm. Handle the issue while being calm, and the tests will stop. Women sense that chink in the armor and won't stop picking at it until you repair it. In this case, it's a bad temper that he needs to fix. She wants more masculinity from him so she can feel safe and attracted. Thats why women test. And masculinity is calm.
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  598. Wow. Phenomenal points. You're absolutely right. It's more like she doesn't really know who she is or what her values are, so she associated them with liberals. When she found out that they weren't perfect, she decided to associate herself with conservatism. In truth, she doesn't really have her own value system. She is lost. She is just associating who she is as a person with these worldly concepts. She really kind of is a victim of her own beliefs, but she won't admit that, because she doesn't know what else to believe in, sadly. She remains haughty, instead of humble, in order to hide her pain, her doubt, and how lost she really is.
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  599. That's because the red pill offers no hope based on being genuine. It's a bunch of lies made to validate people that don't want to take responsibility for themselves with a little truth mixed in so that it's easier to accept.
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  600. Red pill content contains false information that leaves people with no hope. This is why people get depressed. It doesn't hurt because it's the truth. It hurts because it leaves people hopeless with the lies that they start to believe. There is a little bit of truth mixed in there in order to make the hopeless and false beliefs more believable. The actual full truth is full of hope, but it requires humility and self-reflection and changes in comfortable and limiting belief systems. THAT is why any truth is uncomfortable.
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  601. "Unpleasable" is a human condition known as codependency and avoidance. It's when a person avoids their own problems and actual needs and looks to everyone else to fill their temporary needs and make them feel good. It's a recipe for unhappiness. It could happen to anyone, but especially those that develop cptsd from childhood.
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  602. It's more accurate to say that the language is entirely deceptive. The word liberal means to be open to new ideas outside of the norm, which NONE of them are. The word conserve means to save or protect, but all they do is spend irresponsibly and get themselves into more debt. Democrat means someone that supports a democracy, yet they do not care what people want. Republican means someone who supports a republic, yet they tell the republic what they should want, instead of finding out and representing what the republic wants. All of them are the exact opposite of these definitions. None of them are true to the actual meanings of these titles. The whole system is basically designed to keep people in perpetual competition with one another, instead of promoting collaboration and helping one another. It's a characteristic of this world, and it causes unnecessary stress. That's why it's better to just stay out of it.
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  603. This is only men with a lack of integrity. They know it's wrong deep down, but they don't want to stop because it feels good. That's why you hear so many poor excuses as to why it's supposedly ok.
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  604.  @Dora-wc8be  Well said.
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  605. You need a balance, which very few know how to accomplish, which is why you get such bad advice all the time. Money is useful. You need it, just don't over indulge and base your entire life on it. It's only important to keep you housed and fed. Everything else is extra. Thats a fact. Anyone that attacks you for wanting more or less is just uncomfortable with themselves and they are lost with no answers. Attacks like that are often projections of how they feel about themselves. You don't actually need sex. It's unnecessary. It's actually a bonus thing we get to enjoy when we find the woman we actually love. When you find a woman you like, ask her out, only if you really want to. If it works out, awesome. If it doesn't, that's ok too. There is no need to rush any type of romance. You don't even need it if you don't want it. That is a fact. When people attack you on this subject, it's a projection of how they don't know what is truly valuable. They haven't grown up in that way yet. Overall, the world usually doesn't know what it's talking about. That's why it's so frustrating. Also, you don't have to make major mistakes for years to learn these things. Be yourself. Personally, I learn from the bible. The advice in there differs greatly from the world on these subjects, and I've learned from experience that applying the advice in there is extremely effective and fulfilling.
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  606. I cannot believe how much this applies and how much this video represents this scripture. Thank you for the reminder.
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  607. He doesn't realize thats what he is teaching. Good men know you don't have to drop even a dime to attract a woman.
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  608. The doc doesn't know what he is talking about. You are more insightful. Hypergamy is a toxic lifestyle choice. Its usually motivated by some type of trauma or taught toxicity like you eluded to. Its not biological. Saying its biological is an excuse for men that don't understand women and are having trouble attracting the type of woman they want. Instead of humbly trying to understand what the issue is in his own behavior, he arrogantly blames women by making up stuff about how hypergamy is biological. Its just an excuse to not have to self-reflect.
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  609. They call him an incel because he blames women for most relationship problems, and he often tries his best to convince women to give themselves up sexually faster. All of this instead of just trying to understand how genuine desire actually works. This is a weak and desperate mindset that literally keeps you unnattractive, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Thinking this way keeps your from understanding how your own behavior as a man can make you attractive. I wouldn't call him an incel, but he definitely doesn't know what he is talking about when it comes to romantic relationships. While many can't articulate that, they can FEEL something is off about the things he says. Granted, there are some things he says that are true, which is a small part of why he has become so popular. And that's why it's dangerous to mix lies with truth. Also, he thinks superficial things are the basis of attraction, when in reality, that's only about 10 percent of it.
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  610. That's why he can't find fulfillment, and he has so much trouble actually attracting them, or rather KEEPING them attracted. Hopefully, he changes his perspective to an accurate one some day.
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  611. @fourfurrypotatoes  I'm sorry that happened and you had to go through that. Although, the good news is that you didn't get stuck with someone disingenuous who likely would not have treated you correctly in the long run because he wouldn't have been happy with himself.
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  612. Exactly. He doesn't understand anything. He is always so far from the truth. It's a worldly problem. The only solution is self-reflection, so you can learn to vet and choose appropriately. The doc only teaches to blame others, which causes more misery, not happiness.
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  613. ​​ @MegaAvalonn Women do like men. They just like the men that ACT LIKE MEN. The men with the mentality of the doc here in this video act more like entitled little boys trying to trick or bribe women into being with them. Women will never feel attraction to that desperate mentality, because there is no confidence or strength in it. And THIS is the mentality of the average man, which is why they have so many issues with women. The doc is spreading this mentality and passing it off as "smart". I know that sounds harsh, but thats the truth. Men that attract the woman they want have confidence in who they are as a person, because they have principles and boundaries that they live by, and are honest and genuine and humble and not afraid to go for what they want in all aspects of their lives while being ok with rejection and failure, and have the motivation to learn from those failures and keep moving forward. Attractive men take the lead, but don't force it. Attractive men help women feel heard and understood. An attractive man would put out the fire as quickly as possible, and expect nothing in return, even if his offer to buy the home was rejected in the past, because he thinks of more than just himself and his wants. Also, women have to FEEL your strength and confidence as a man IN PERSON in order to begin to feel a raw attraction to you. Dating apps do not allow them to feel anything from you with a picture or a description. That's why women only swipe yes on 5 percent of profiles. Their initial attraction to you works differently than how your initial attraction to them works. Most people don't understand this, which is why they become frustrated.
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  614. ​ @bananashiprepublic7022 That's been a saying for decades and way before the internet came into existence. It just recently got popular again.
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  615. Thats because you don't have the same limiting beliefs holding you back that the doc does. This subconsciously effects his selection process and his behavior.
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  616. That's a limiting belief. It's completely possible to keep, bring back up, and maintain.
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  617. ​@HaloDude557 Patriotism is like being part of a gang. It's absolutely selfish. It FEELS good to chase a goal, but your goal is only good for a few. Not everyone. That's extremely selfish. It feels good to be supported by "friends", but those pretend friends turn on you immediately as soon as you learn something new. They are not true friends. It's all toxic and filled with pretenders who are actually only out for themselves, even if they don't realize it. They just want THEIR way and their way only as if they are toddlers. It's very selfish. They don't know any better. Much like zod. Open to nothing. No humility.
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  618. With all the reporting you do, and all the knowledge you take in, how are you still saying stuff like, "you have to know how to play the game?" You know that almost all of the politicians are bought and paid for. They all basically have the same bosses. So you should know by now that it's not that they are bad at the game, it's that they are doing their part. And they're doing it well if they convinced you that they just don't know how to play the game.
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  619. Movies are often written by people that don't understand women. Don't take information from them. Any dude, no matter how good looking is likely getting arrested for doing something so stupid in real life. Looks won't matter when his behavior starts out like an awful stalker like that.
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  620. Don't know about this one, man. You basically said the red pill is about enlightenment and understanding. That isn't really a definition. Those are just generalizations. No specifics and no solutions. This is because that is exactly what all red pill people teach. Generalizations. There are no solutions and no reasons as to WHY this is "reality". This is why people get angry. Red pill is unreasonable and takes away hope as a result. It is basically just complaints masquerading as reality. It's few correct things mixed in with lots of toxic things, even amongst the non-angry people. Its not true wisdom. It's ultimately validation seeking for those that don't want to take responsibility for their choices. For the ones that do want to take responsibility, it is where hope goes to die. They can feel something isn't right with it because of that.
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  621. How so? You cannot control other's opinions. Unless you mean to not influence people's opinion about you by being a complete jerk.
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  622. I noticed that he doesn't truly understand love. He has mentioned it before in other videos, but he compared it to transactions, and he also compared it to missing someone and mourning them after they die from a movie he seen, which to be fair, is a much better example than his usual "transaction" explanations, but it was an incomplete definition that he gleaned from that. He doesn't fully understand love, and he is too haughty to actually give any other ideas about it some thought and potentially admit that he might be wrong. He just won't humble himself enough to learn in that regard. It's sad, because he places limits on his own happiness without even realizing it. By the way, your story is beautiful and warm and I'm sure it has given many people some hope just from reading it.
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  623. ​@C3-fd8hn In a way, it does. He blames women, which makes him unattractive because he gives away all of his power and masculinity by doing that and that basically makes all women responsible for him, which means he views women as his mother which is how he makes himself unattractive to them. Then he teaches other men who look for advice to view women this way, which makes those men unattractive also. Then people get stuck in his same self-fulfilling prophecy. All because he refuses to acknowledge that he is wrong and has lots of learning to do before he teaches this stuff. He is misleading people that trust him and hurting them as a result.
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  624. Videos like this show that men who know what they are doing have an easy time attracting the woman they really want because so many men have no clue what they are doing.
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  625. @Johnny-g5k2x  The doc is so focused on looks as a man. Listen to him. He sounds like a woman, and he projects that on all men. How can a feminine woman feel attraction to that. There can be no sexual polarity when a man has the mindset the doc has. That tells you that his behavior in relationships is likely more feminine, which is the true reason he unnattracts a woman. Worrying about money and age and generalizing everyone is an avoidance of his own unreasonable fears of not being good enough and his refusal to self-reflect on that. Then he teaches others this is normal. He WILL NOT be able to change this as long as he is too busy looking for ways to blame women for his problems, rather than reflect on how HE is showing up. It's a man's BEHAVIOR that attracts a woman. That beats looks by 90 percent at least. This means that literally, all men have the power to attract a woman WITHOUT being rich or older or having status or being super good-looking. Thats just a fact. People like the doc call them outliers, but in reality, their the ones that simply reflect on how THEY SHOW UP. They reflect on how their own decisions affect their lives. They take full responsibility for all results they get in their lives as adults. Even choosing a toxic woman that used them. They find out how to make the proper adjustments and then apply them to their choices for next time. They don't become blamers like the doc here. Basically, you can make the changes you want in your life by properly addressing your fears. You can become more attractive by looking at your own behavior, learning where you fall short. It's that easy. There is always a way. You're a man. You are the initial chooser because you are the leader and the masculine one. You always have tons of choices, whether you know it or not. You just need the proper mindset to bring it out of you. You won't find this with the doc here. The doc's tendency of focusing on wealth, status, and looks is a scarcity mindset. The truth is that you have the power to shape your life into the one that you want with the people you want, regardless of the looks you were born with. This goes for women also.
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  626. True. Someone who truly understands something can explain it in the simplest way so that anyone can understand. People that can only explain something in the most complicated way usually don't fully understand the subject they are trying to explain.
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  627. So interesting. Although, a couple in a marriage must actually put effort into their marriage in order to stay in love. That part of the brain will not stay activated on its own without any support from ourselves.
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  628. Well there is a balance to that. We do need to be happy on our own before we enter into a relationship. At the same time, everyone does deserve love, but we won't know how to properly accept that love if we don't learn how to be happy on our own first.
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  629. You have to address everything she does. Address the good things with praise and the bad things with correction. If she refuses to accept that correction, then you discipline her in a loving way, and also a firm way. There is a tv show called supernanny that teaches you how to properly discipline and love your kids. Its one of the only shows in the world that correctly shows you how to treat your child so that they grow up to be healthy and happy.
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  630. Whoa, good man. I'm impressed by this beautiful advice. Promoting responsibility for our own behavior and reactions. Good stuff from the doc. I will say though that walking away if disrespected shows that the disrespect wasn't ok. Also, many times, a woman is trying to communicate her feelings to you, but they aren't always wording things properly. If the man can detect the feelings she is trying to communicate, you'll always be able to calm everything down and help her feel better. Men that understand women don't argue with women.
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  631. Good example of a man who doesn't understand women.
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  632. Revengence? Have you really played metal gear rising? Or was that the writer, Josh Munoz? I wasn't expecting that at all lol.
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  633. It sounded way too controlling and uptight. Instead of just going out and enjoying herself, she has to have control over what type of date it is. It's a turn off. It's a red flag that tells us that nothing a guy in a relationship with her does will be good enough for her, and as a result, she will always try to control things, instead of just relaxing and enjoying herself and her guy. That kind of attitude just takes lots of the enjoyment of the relationship away.
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  634. @roses6564  Well, you don't have to follow any particular religion, but the things that work as far as having a healthy relationship remain the same. Religion or not. Since forever. The 21st century and everything before and after. It hasn't changed. People doing it wrong throughout the years doesn't change that. I'm not saying an emotional connection is needed for marriage because people do that all the time, but that doesn't make it healthy. If you want to have a fulfilling relationship and you know better, you aren't going to commit yourself to someone that you have no interest in. Would you ever do that? And regarding following your heart, it's not necessarily a bad thing. It's ok. We have a heart for a reason, and we get enjoyment from following it many times. That scripture is only referring to people who love someone or something that might be bad for you. For example, if a woman feels lots of love for someone who is always abusive to her, and continues following her heart in that case and being with him, then she'll be subjecting herself to more hurt and trauma. Whereas if she resisted her heart in that case, she could free herself of all the hurt, and as a result, she could return to a healthier and happier state.
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  635. That was a projection of how Jordan is afraid to look inward. You have to self-reflect first in order to even BEGIN to find answers and make improvements like you said. You literally feel better and gain true freedom when you can identify your issues and the reasons for them. Jordan gave the literal opposite of wisdom when he said that its not good to self-reflect. Self-reflection PREVENTS misery. Being self-conscious through insecurities and being hard on yourself is much different than actual self-reflection and simply understanding yourself. I think Jordan has those mixed up. They think this somehow results in gender confusion. Gender confusion only happens when the actual ideas of gender fluidity are introduced and pushed constantly. That is trauma. That is not simple self-reflection. This is different than the actual mental issue of gender dysphoria. That's like a disability that they are born with. This DOES NOT go away. It needs to be acknowledged in order to properly deal with it. A person with actual gender dysphoria needs to acknowledge the feeling of wanting to be the opposite sex, but must accept the reality of who they really are, and resist the temptations to be someone they are not. This is a balanced way to deal with it. The world only seems to have 2 completely different opposite unhealthy extreme ways to deal with it. They say to ignore it and it will go away, or they say to lean into it completely. Both are unhealthy ways to deal with it. In order to overcome gender dysphoria, we have to self-reflect, acknowledge, and not give in. Things would be easier if everyone understood this.
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  636. No one beats the oligarchy, man. That's why things are messed up and will continue to be messed up. The whole world has been an oligarchy since imperfect humankind started making cities and governments of their own. Money rules. Simple as that. They just like to pretend that's not the case, so they get no resistance. Both parties are the same in this regard and always will be. No one is going to beat that system until God takes back the planet.
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  637. You know, you don't have to use dating apps. They really are a bad way to go, and you get caught up in this negative culture. You start to develop limiting belief systems based on those apps, which inadvertently makes you less attractive. Better to stick to real life.
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  638. If a man doesn't text her back for a few days, is still dating other women after a long period, and doesn't have the enthusiasm to see her, then it's safe to say that man doesn't have a romantic interest in her, and that is a reality that the woman must accept if she doesn't want to be unnecessarily irritated, frustrated or stressed out with his behavior. She just has to have some self-respect and look at reality as it is, and not try to force a certain behavior from him or change the meaning of his behavior.
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  639. ​ @chipsteve That was because he didn't know what he was doing wrong like most of us. He doesn't understand women, and he acted more feminine without realizing it which turns them off. All he needed was a simple change in his BEHAVIOR and someone that knew what they were doing to teach him that. Instead he looked to money and superficiality and people that had no clue and went the whole "value" route, which only helped to validate his knowledge gap, instead of fill it. He still doesn't understand why he had issues back then.
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  640. ​ @chipsteve They won't even want the finished product if they don't feel an attraction toward him. Same as you not wanting a woman if you FEEL no real attraction to her. For women, it's your behavior that creates attraction more than anything else, which is good, because you literally have the power to change your behavior when ever you want.
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  641. It's his perspective. He has an extremely toxic and limiting mindset. Therefore, he consistently allows women with similar mindsets in his life. He will never be self-aware enough to understand this until he decides to humble himself and self-reflect instead of just consistently blaming others for his problems.
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  642. You're right, and there are very few like you in the world. There is a religion out there actually dedicated to the actual truth, and not seeking validation. The best thing to do is to pray to the God of the bible to find it. If you're truly serious and humble about it, he'll help you find it.
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  643.  @cynthianeighbors7288  You know, he may be misguided, but you don't have to be so horribly rude to him. He has not insulted you at all, despite your awful disrespect toward him. I commend him for that. Tyler Murphy's comment is a good example on how to handle things like this. If that goes nowhere, then just let it go, because there is nothing you can do. Insulting people pushes them more toward the things that are misleading them and it's just hurtful.
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  644. ​ @patrickrada2923 I don't think Dr. Taraban is being purposefully evil or malicious. He is just avoidant. On one hand, he is trying to help, but on the other hand, he is always trying to enable his own outlook because he is comfortable and doesn't want to self-reflect. This is why he always mixes in some truth, with misleading information. For example, it's true that partners should strive to look for the good qualities in each other, but it's misleading to tell people that boredom is what they have to look forward to. Those other videos you mentioned where he talked about entertaining adventures contradict his talk about boredom in this one, but even in those OTHER videos, he went too extreme, because all you have to do is have fun with your girl and make dates every now and then. And it doesn't have to be super extravagant or costly or spontaneous. You don't have to lie about planning them because women just love that you're taking the lead to make a date. Pretending that it was spontaneous is unnecessary, and lying is exhausting. Worrying about being perceived as boring is exactly what will drive away your partner and good people in general. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy. Also, he doesn't fully understand emotional maturity. A huge part of an emotional mature person is always being willing to self-reflect on your own behavior and outlook, but the doc has spoken out against self-reflection in one of his videos.
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  645.  @allenlin7333  I've always known game to be a set of rules people go by. "Do this in order to get that." Even if what you have to do is not congruent with who you are. It's approval seeking. Your definition of game is basically my definition of being genuine. Showing one's true intent in general. Honesty.
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  646.  @psychacks  I get what you're saying, but don't you think it would be better to be your full authentic self from the start in personal relationships? Not being yourself is a result of fear, and being what you think someone else wants is approval seeking behavior, which is ultimately unattractive.
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  647. @ladilaja6451  I do believe many people operate this way, but it isn't healthy. If they need to fear losing you in order to treat you correctly, can you really call it respect? I think so, but it's more like they have an unaddressed trauma wound and don't know how to treat people properly. So you'll always have to threaten to walk away to get them to treat you properly, which is a toxic thing to do, and it's only a temporary solution, because it won't work forever with someone that refuses to respect others on their own without outside motivation. Its not preferable because you'll likely have to walk away from someone like that in the long run in order to keep disrespectful people out of your life.
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  648.  @mjmulenga3  This makes sense. I can get on board with this because this comes from caring about another person. That's different than what the doc suggests, though.
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  649. @ObiAmajoyiSrMD  Is what I mentioned not the type of fear the doc mentioned? He literally said you have to be able to harm others to be respected. I'd say that is an extremely juvenile perspective. That is the very same perspective that a juvenile school bully has. The doc is just saying to look and be tough like a school bully, but don't actually bully anyone. Going out of your way to develop a way to exude potential harmfulness is to display an insecurity that you feel unworthy of decent treatment and that you think you need to DO something to earn someone's respect, instead of knowing already that you are worthy of respect because you are a human being, and you too are respectful. All you have to do in order to communicate that you want respect is to WALK AWAY from those that disrespect you. That's it. That's how you reject disrespect. This way, people learn they cannot get your attention without actually treating you properly. You can always voice your reasons for walking away and you should, but its something that literally all of us can do. It's that simple and it keeps those that would treat us bad out of our life.
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  650.  @xenonuxes3837  Not saying that at all. We are basically saying that it's very feminine for a woman to find reasons to put herself around a man she likes and be all passive about it. That's why it's ok and not creepy. It's natural for a woman to do that. A man can ask his crush out on a date, but he just has to be direct and decisive about it. Talk for a sec, but get to the point and don't waste time. This is the masculine way to go, so its not creepy, and it's more attractive. When a man acts all passive and just hangs around a woman without just directly talking to her and immediately making his intentions known, he acts feminine, which is not natural, and that's why it comes off as weird.
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  651.  @Luvarby  I don't know man. The bible literally refers to the earth as a circle or a sphere. So if people are getting this idea from christianity, then they are not paying attention to the book that the religion is based on, but instead are just paying attention to what others tell them.
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  652. They are not children, but similar to them in a sense that you need to TAKE THE LEAD with them just as a parent leads, but you still have to acknowledge and respect their adult agency. You don't have to keep her emotionally stimulated, but just keep being the more masculine one by taking the lead and going FIRST to take care of things around the home and being willing to help her feel heard and understood. Those simple things are enough to keep her emotionally stimulated on her own. You don't have to overcompensate for that. Spinning plates (having multiple women) is a fool's philosophy. The one's who think they have to do this just don't know what they are doing and are overcompensating in a toxic way in order to protect their hearts.
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  653. ​@cheekymonkeygirl3378 Nah, she's a cute one. I'd approach her. And with her kind of confidence, it would likely be easy to enjoy her company.
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  654. Well you've got the same problem as him. He thinks all women are the same way. In reality, good men and women both exist that are NOT selfish. In order to find that, you and Orion have to be humble enough to change your worldview so you both can see reality. If you think everyone sucks, that's the only kind of people you will subconsciously look for.
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