Comments by "Mark Zuckergecko" (@markzuckergecko621) on "Why Are Young People So Miserable?" video.

@jayc342009 same here, it's a tricky situation because I believe people deserve a second chance, I don't think a woman is damaged goods because she's been abused. But more often than not, women who have been in abusive relationships are emotionally abusive themselves, I know that sounds like "victim blaming", and maybe it is to some extent, but men don't typically just hit women for no reason, they usually do it because the woman makes them feel like shit. That doesn't mean it's ok, a man should never hit a woman, but it's also not ok for women to abuse men to the point that they lash out with violence. You have to be careful with women who have been abused. It's usually a pattern, and they will usually abuse you if you're nice and treat them well. They don't want to be treated well. They want drama, they want to feel important, and they crave a destructive form of importance rather than constructive.
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Very true, I work with several single moms in their 30s, they all have a revolving door of new boyfriends they meet on dating apps, they constantly complain about how stupid men are and how they can't find a good man, there's constant drama, cheating, abuse, all sorts of other shit. And in between all that they'll be talking about a guy they lost interest in because "he was too nice". They don't want a good man. They want drama. They want to complain to the other girls about how much men suck, and they actively avoid men that don't suck.
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@jayc342009 it took me a while to understand this, and it took even longer to stop blaming myself for being so stupid and falling into that trap. Because it's not stupid, and I'm not stupid, I'm just a normal man who wants a good woman, and when you first meet that toxic woman she presents herself as a victim who wants a chance to have a loving relationship, they're very convincing, and they probably are genuine in that moment, when they're still in the post period of an abusive relationship they think they want something normal and stable, but when they get it, they get bored. They really are victims, but they also really are victimizers, whether they're consciously doing it or not. It's sad, I don't like it, nobody likes it, but you can't save them. They have to help themselves first before anyone else can help them.
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There are an increasing amount of jobs where you don't actually do anything of value, at least not in the immediate sense where you can see your labor having a positive impact. Work isn't the only way to have a purpose, but it's the easiest and most common way. You work in a warehouse for some giant corporation, you never actually see the positive impact of what you're doing, there's no person to person exchange, you just punch in and do stuff until lunch, and then you punch back in and do more stuff until you punch out, and you get your paycheck on Friday. That's not meaningful, nobody feels good about that.
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@josephfisher426 we also had a stronger sense of community several decades ago, even if your job was a dull and drab, impersonal factory job, you probably lived in a neighborhood with your wife and kids, and your neighbors had a wife and kids. Maybe he was a jackass, but you still smiled and waved when you were taking out the trash or getting the mail. Now practically everyone is divorced, practically every kid is raised by a single mom and by day care and school, everyone is on the internet 24/7 arguing about nonsense with strangers. Our sense of community is broken, and most people don't even seem to notice it's a problem.
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@solan7978 religion is another common way to have purpose, but it doesn't have to be religion, or a job, it just has to be something. Purpose is a fundamental necessity of existing as a person, but it's intangible, you can't quantify it, you can't hold it in your hand, it's just something you feel. And leftism teaches stupid and vulnerable people that only the tangible matters. So no matter how much stuff they have, they can never be happy. They will never be fulfilled, they will never have a meaningful life. It's sad because they are technically people, there's a part of you that feels bad for them because you know they can't ever be complete as a person, but you also have to understand that they're more like a parasite than a person, they want to harm you, they want to take everything you have.
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@MeanBeanComedy I might have finally found a good one, she had a shitty marriage and has had shitty boyfriends, but she's been straight forward and said she could have been better. And we've been dating for a few weeks and still haven't had sex. I respect that, because she's taking accountability for her past mistakes and she wants to make me work for the fun stuff, she respects herself and wants to make sure I respect her too. I'm still being careful though because she seems too much like a unicorn to be real, we're both being cautious.
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We have too much stuff to do. There was a guy who did a documentary about secluded tribes, it's been a while since I've seen it, but it was really fascinating, I remember him talking to a fisherman in the middle of nowhere Africa, and he asked him about depression, the guy is just like WTF is that? I fish, my wife maintains the house, my kids are cool. That's it, that's life. What else do I need? Why would I be sad?
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@imamuggle03 well everything I said is a generalization, not a rule.
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@mrg7405 why don't you ask someone from an older generation?
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