Comments by "Brian Meen" (@brianmeen2158) on "Psychology with Dr. Ana" channel.

Definitely. Plus, having no friends makes it much harder to network . This cannot be understated. People with many friends can Navigate hardships in their life so much easier than others without friends
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“Having friends would be so overwhelming” The fact is friendships are very difficult for those of us on the spectrum. The social dance that must be performed to not only make but maintain friendships is confusing and exhausting for those with autism. The very limited social battery that we have is a big part of the problem. I mean, basic 10-15 minute conversations can drain me .. oh and the older I get the harder it seems to become as ‘burnout’ is very real
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Ahh yes I as a pretty introverted person was always stigmatized by friends and even family for not wanting to go out more and socialize . Thing is, when I was younger I did try my best to go out as often as my social battery allowed but even that wasn’t enough for most people. Like I said, even family members would guilt trip me in ways. After I got into my mid 20s I basically got quite frustrated with this and just started dropping people out of my life. Ultimately I find most people to be way too needy, emotional or self absorbed and it’s very hard to find someone that you not only vibe with but where they will also respect your social boundaries . One of the biggest disappointments I’ve had with people in general is their shocking inability to respect basic social boundaries . Rant over 😲
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Gotta be honest though, there are tons of videos of feminists getting crushed in debates .. I’ve been asking where are the most respected feminists at these days? Do they refuse to debate? Are they too comfy in academia? In the 70s and 80s there were quite a few feminists that were highly intelligent wordsmiths .. does academia not produce them anymore?
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@heightdevil Ana seems downright offended by EP which I find bizarre
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My biggest problem is finding a nice middle ground .. I do truly love and prefer solitude yet I also realize I do need quality social time as well. Thing is, it’s very hard to find people that I vibe with - folks that are into the same things I am but also respect my social boundaries.. I do not want or need to talk to someone more than twice a week .. if I go out with someone all day and night Friday then I don’t need to see them again for many days afterward. What I’ve found is most people want and desire much more social contact with me than I do them. I’ve tried to stretch my social boundaries to appease them but it only leads to me getting frustrated and drained
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I’m autistic too and I see Gen Z and am puzzled by their social behavior. From young guys that have no idea how to approach girls and talk to them to the rather large % of guys/gurls that don’t have any friends offline. That is just disturbing to me I live in a small and safe suburb. It can be a nice summer night and kids are not outside - it is dead quiet out.. kids aren’t walking around or riding bikes or at the park or even in their yard. That is so strange to me lol
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@uniqueusername22337 . Yes it is in a way. If someone is say 43 years old and are still so heavily weighed down by what happened to them as a child(even though they’ve been to decades of therapy) that they can’t trust or build connections - yes that is a mini red flag . I get how destructive trauma is but it needs to be worked past to some extent
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I’m sure David bus or Gad Saad would love to talk to Ana about this but I don’t think Ana would be willing to do it for obvious reasons
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@UltraVega924 yep there is a big lack of social skills in the younger generation. I’ve seen many comments from people in their teens and early 20s that truly don’t seem To have any friends or any Idea how to make them. It’s alarming . These folks need to put their phone down and go outside without it.. smile and learn to talk to strangers - we are over complicating This issue to the extreme lol
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@trinketmage8145 but homosexuality doesn’t help the individual or society he or she is in. So it’s not exactly a part of evolving from the way I see it
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@brezgatnik the best you can do is make your surroundings better . Get offline more and don’t watch mainstream media .
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@ST-rj8iu wait can you explain that? You think the majority of people cannot rely on their spouse for support or assistance? I don’t find this to be accurate .. granted spouses cannot fulfill all of their partners needs but they do fill a few.
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@carltonpenaloza1395 What is keeping you from socializing and connecting to others in America? Capitalism?
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@Jazzmaster1992 showing up late or flaking occasionally is not a terrible thing though .. now if someone is constantly flaking then yeah you need to drop that person .. that said, I notice these days that folks are too quick to drop friends if they disappoint them a few times. That is not healthy as friendships are going to be messy at times. Friends won’t say or do exactly what you want them to do all the time and will most likely do things that really piss you Off at times. It’s part of it
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“Half the time” That’s it? About 90% of the time I’d rather be at home .. going out is getting harder and harder lol
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@thepunisherxxx6804 I prefer my house to be for me and my dog. I would like to have a relationship but I know I could not live with someone full time. I remember spending the night with girlfriends in the past and I needed quite a bit of space after that. I did not have much success trying to explain This to these women lol Oh and yes I will not be friends or partners with someone that will judge me. Or with someone that will try and change me. Nope
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@jfrydom exactly. Friendships technically are easier to form now than they’ve ever been. Now you have access to hundreds of thousands of people in your area at the touch of a fingertip .. in the days before the internet you really only were connected to small groups via school or work or sports club .. so it’s interesting that loneliness is now an epidemic of sorts when the ability to connect has never been easier
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