Comments by "Brian Meen" (@brianmeen2158) on "HealthyGamerGG" channel.

  1. Guys get this OUT of your heads! I’ve heard many women over the years complain to me that men don’t approach them more! In my 39 years if life I have never talked to a guy that got accused of being “creepy” for just approaching a girl and talking to her sensibly .. now if guys are sweating and can’t form full sentences and they are approaching women in dark parking lots at night then you will come off as creepy
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  2. You are correct and I’ve noticed many people are like this. They want an audience to ask them questions and listen to them speak. They aren’t interested in good back and forth conversations . They want you to be interested in them and ask them questions but rarely return the favor. Then you have the friends that call you Only to complain about their life and cry on your shoulder - when you try to get that in return from them - they are nowhere to be seen..I’ve cut a few long term friends off due to this.
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  3. I’m a guy on the spectrum and it definitely makes good relationships very difficult - the older I get the harder it is to just maintain casual friendships. So very few people have any understanding(or patience) when dealing with autistic people. In the west if you aren’t outgoing, social and engaging then people look at you differently. I’ve found I have to mask constantly around people
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  4. And technology has only worsened this problem. When I was growing up we didn’t have the internet so we could only read so many books and play Nintendo for so long before we had to go outside for entertainment. Todays generations can literally stare at their phone and be entertained by thousands of games or apps. Very unhealthy
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  5. Yeah dysthymia is just long term chronic depression. It’s not extreme depression where you are suicidal but instead it’s an almost constant feeling of meh. You have very little if any Enthusiasm or motivation and rarely enjoy things. It really sucks the soul out of you as you get older. I can’t remember the last time I wanted to do something - I force myself to do basic shit.
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  6.  @basteagui yeah I’m very good at talking to and attracting women right off the bat but pretty much everything after that I find difficult. Tbh I cannot envision how a long term relationship would work in my situation. I do highly recommend all you guys in your 20s to try your best at meeting someone soon because it’s a horror show when you hit your early 30s.. the available single women out there dwindle big time .. I cannot imagine being in your 40s and 50s and trying to date lol
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  7.  @IaconDawnshire  I hear you as I have experienced the same problem. I’m a guy on the spectrum and I’ve found very few women want to deal with a guy with autism - they want guys that are social, confident and engaging. I tend to attract women fairly easily and I mask very well so women tend to like me but they are only seeing the masked version of me. If I didn’t mask it just would go nowhere and yet if I mask it’s very artificial and it’s beyond draining. So yes lots of strangeness for us autistic guys when it comes to dating NT women. Often I don’t think serious relationships are even possible for guys like us
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  8.  @Tpoleful  what definitely muddies the waters today is the fact that the terms neurodivergent, narcissism and autism are thrown around so easily that they are reallly starting to lose their meaning . When the experts talk about it it’s fine but when the average Joe public gets ahold of them then it gets messy really quickly
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  9.  @EternalBeatbox that is unhealthy. You shouldn’t be “snapping” around others - learn how to regulate your behavior better
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  10. I’m just curious about the folks that don’t NEED any caffeine .. I’m back on caffeine and it does get me going but I know people that work a lot if hours and have a busy life outside of work yet do not take any caffeine. They aren’t really healthy eating people either. Seems like we all have different baseline energy levels - some have a higher baseline than others
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  11. @@canis_lupus_canus true but you are downplaying depression and Anhedonia. With anhedonia you don’t enjoy life. Or if you do it’s rare
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  12. Yep and add in swing shift and overtime and your body never gets acclimated . Caffeine or minoxidil is almost a necessity which then causes other problems. But yes I doubt our ancient ancestors struggled with insomnia
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  13.  @33Jenesis do you miss people? I have found I don’t. I can go very long periods of time(months even years) and not Miss friends or family. I’m not sure if this is an offshoot of my introversion or if it’s something else…? If friends and family never reached out to me I’m honestly sure if our relationship would still exist
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  14.  @mateoslab  my advice - get offline more often! Seriously, have a dog? Take it outside for walks and leave your phone home! Smile and say hi to people and it will be uncomfortable at times but it’s the only to break the cycle
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  15. I don’t get that comment at all.. I mean, if a guy in his current firm isn’t attracting women then he needs to change things and work on himself .. I don’t see a good option b and seems many guys just resort to feeling sorry for themselves which only makes things worse
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  16.  @tehdiscordian83 but many guys are making excuses and they keep obsessing about looks. If they only understood that 90% of the guys I know are very average looking with average jobs yet have gfs or are married. Then you have guys on here that act like they’ve worked in themselves for years and don’t have any girls looking at them…? Something is off or they are lying - I bet most of these guys are not even going out socially and instead relying on dating apps
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  17.  @Leonhart_93 I didn’t even know what introversion was until I hit 24 or so .. damn I wish I would have had someone tell me about it earlier and also that it’s perfectly ok to want to sit home and do things by yourself. I tried to be extroverted when I was young and it just did not work and ended up with Me feeling strange and detached
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  18.  @goldenknowledge5914  the internet cannot come close to replacing human connection though .. you don’t want to turn 50 and look back and see you spent your entire life watching YouTube videos lol
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  19.  @p.s.224  unfortunately I can already tell that the term ‘neurodivergent’ is going to start to lose its meaning as folks are overusing it. Same goes for the terms narcissism and racism
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  20. I’d love to know just how big a part social media plays in today’s depression..? It has to play a big factor - it makes people much more sedentary, the anonymity allows people to be very toxic and people compare their lives to others on insta or Facebook and they cannot measure up. There are times where I sit on YouTube scrolling for a few hours and feel like shit . I don’t want to know how much time people waste on here
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  21. I don’t Mean to offend anyone but if you are a 36 year old male virgin then I guarantee you that a decent % of men and women definitely have judged you for being a virgin. I’m not saying that they will Immediately dislike you or slander but they will definitely see you in a different Light for being a virgin. It is what it is .. I actually think it’s instinctual to look at 36 year old virgins a certain way - it usually says something about that person
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  22.  @dylansmith6078  you need to try and not think of the attention women gets through her DMs though. I guarantee you that 99% of women(if you approached them sensibly in person) would be delighted and would not see you as creepy.
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  23. Haha there is much truth there. One of the more frustrating things when dealing with women in relationships is they tend to not talk directly.. I’m trying to help heal a broken relationship between two women and it’s torture because they refuse to talk directly about the issues .. instead they keep nit picking and finding faults in the other .. very hard to fix anything when they behave like this
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  24. People(especially younger people) spend much more time watching other people live than living themselves. It is tragic
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  25. “Overly nice to women for bad reasons” For bad reasons like companionship or sex? You do realize all relationships are transactional right? Guys have needs that must be met and so do women .. sex us not a “bad” reason to be nice to women. I swear many of you seem painfully naive about human relationships.
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  26.  @robbiemedica2652 but what’s tragic is it’s not hard to get laid these days. I’ve heard plenty of women complain that guys don’t approach them Anymore! Fewer guys are working out and in shape so if a guy does that he is already a step above other guys that play video games all day. I think so many guys have completely psyched themselves out if even trying to approach and talk to women. It’s truly baffling to me . Any guy that is in decent physical shape and has good social skills will do pretty well with women . Period
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  27. Same situation for me. I’ve always been introverted but I can be very engaging and charismatic with people but it drains me quickly. Friends and family have never understood how I can be so social around others yet very rarely if ever want to go out and socialize .. they don’t understand that I tend to not enjoy socializing as most is small talk and it always drains my energy. Sadly I have found 75% of conversations are useless to me but there will be occasional gems hidden. Problem is, to me it’s not worth expending all that energy to get an occasional gem .. I have to be honest - as I get older the more introverted I have become. Small talk has gotten harder for me even though I’m great at it .
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  28. I see that often. I see posts by supposed introverts that act as if they are scared to go get the mail or look people in the eye .. or they’d never go for a walk by themselves and I’m like “that’s more than introversion - that is social anxiety!”..
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  29. Caffeine improves my workouts in several ways but overall it’s a negative in my life.. it makes me more irritable and anxious - my sleep suffers and I “crash” at times in the day in terms of energy . I wish I could go back To being young and never start taking it in the first place .. I feel much better off it but then I hit ruts where I don’t sleep and have to work OT and go right back to the caffeine.. sucks
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  30. If you want to get better at socializing you have to practice it! It’s like any other skill - you need to practice it regularly to get better at it. You do not want to waste the rest of your 20s without developing your social skills
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  31.  @void-deal  can you imagine trying to have worthwhile conversations without ever generalizing?!? I mean come on 😭
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  32. Same. I just cannot care about local drama or gossip. Growing up I tried to blend in and pretend I was interested in these things but it just drained me.. now I just walk away from it .. what’s unfortunate is I find 75% of conversations to be small talk or drama/gossip bs
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  33. “It was the single most draining thing I’ve done in 2022” I’ve always found relationships to be very draining. I don’t understand how do Many people get into them and make them Flow effortlessly
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  34. Obviously career is important but your teens and early 20s are vital years for making friends and maintaining them. I know guys that are in their early 30s that have never had a close friend and they are clueless as to where to start ..
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  35. That is true but those of us that are listening must be heard also. Any time we encourage guys to exercise or limit their social media time - they immediately scoff at it
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  36.  @ela1058 . We want to be talked to ONLY if the conversation is meaningful. We introverts have limited social batteries so we cannot stand around and talk about gossip or other small talk. We like to have deeper convos Btw you can’t really become more interested in socializing - either the desire is there or it isn’t .. I’m like your friend in that people enjoy talking to me as I can seem engaged and charismatic and am good at “back and forth” conversations.. it really drains me though and I will never seek it out. This has many friends and peers not understanding my Behavior
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  37. Yep. Everyone I know that complains about bad anxiety the first thing I tell them is to reduce and then eliminate their caffeine intake. Every time I quit I notice my anxiety being cut by at least 50% plus my energy levels are much more steady and no crashes. The biggest problem is I run into long shifts and shitty sleep so I go right back to it. Bleh
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  38. I’m not an incel but I cringe at what my parents taught me about most things .. I mean, my dad gave me very little if any advice on anything and my Mom gave me a more neurotic view on things . In my late 20s I realized just how off or wrong she was about most things and I’m still trying to unlearn that garbage .. Parents teach your children well
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  39.  @matt566 confidence is interesting as it’s sort of complicated. Someone can be very confident in certain areas but not others. I know some guys that have been able to build confidence over the years but others have only slipped further down The ladder.
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  40.  @Andrew300082  “being nice to women” on its own isn’t simping but when it goes along with “being nice to women that don’t show any interest or attraction in you at all” then it’s simp behavior. It’s tragic how many guys don’t know how to tell if a woman is remotely interested or attracted to them. They have more info available to them than any Previous generation yet they are more clueless.
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  41.  @tdf_worldkey6666  I would love to see a large study on married couples where one gets in an accident and is disgusted and/or paralyzed and how often do the spouses stick around and which gender has a higher % of sticking around. I honestly cannot predict what the results would be. I’m not going to lie - it would incredibly difficult to stick around if your mate was paralyzed .. it would be harder the younger you are
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  42.  @bufficliff8978 plus very few people exercise! It is shocking how sedentary(and overweight) people are these days. We have an obesity epidemic and it isn’t talked about much
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  43.  @Kanye2028 where do you guys live where you are constantly being bullied by girls?!? I have enough life experience to recognize that only a really small % of men and women are bullies .. most people are pretty decent to each other. We have to get away from the tired “all Men do this and are bad” or “all women do this and are bad” as it’s not helping anything
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  44. I really do not understand the constant gender comparisons .. the constant search for victimhood that both genders strive for is bizarre as well
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  45. I see so much simping around me that it makes me sad. These guys have no clue how to attract women or how to talk to women so they just flood any attractive woman they see with compliments. That or give them money on OF or twitch and all it does is make it harder for men overall when it comes to dating .. I know guys that are 40 plus years old that simp and I just don’t even know
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  46.  @NerdyCatCoffeeee Jesus that is pathetic . Guys like that are hopeless imo
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  47.  @keylanoslokj1806 what?!? You think a man will get respect after he gives a woman money?! The fact that you think that tells me you know little about women. Here’s a hint: if you have to pay for a woman to pay attention to you - she will LOSE respect for you! Ask any woman . Cmon guys you have all the information available to you online and you still can’t grasp basics
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  48. Interesting as I get nothing from affection .. a hug is meaningless to me
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  49.  @badabing3391  you might be surprised at how wealth doesn’t necessarily make people happy. This goes double for people born into it. Granted you have security(this is huge I know) but there’s a lot of negative factors that come with it too .. just imagine being the son of someone that is highly successful and wealthy - there would be a lot of Pressure to live up to certain standards
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  50. I’ve honestly always had this problem. I’ve had friends I was close with over the years but bring around them never filled the empty or lonely core. Many people seem to feel relief(from Their loneliness) just by being around anyone. I’m not like that at all
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