Comments by "Brian Meen" (@brianmeen2158) on "Einzelgänger" channel.

Honestly a life lived solely for oneself is a good way to be miserable .. you might be able to still enjoy it in your 30s but your 40s will probably be different and then when you try to meet women you will realize just how slim the pool of single women are .. very few men or women can truly live out the rest of their lives without a partner of some kind
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@dannymoneywell you should go to a nursing home and talk to the staff there - many of the elderly there don’t get visitors
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Yeah I noticed when I hit 30 that trying to make friends was much more difficult. If your job doesn’t have people you can meet then it’s even harder. If you are childless it’s even harder because kids are a great motivator in terms of getting you out and about amongst other parents. Being truly on your own and trying to build a friendship from scratch(outside of work) is so damn hard. I’m 39 and am Pretty close to giving up friendships too
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@DavidAndrews9412 yes and some I know are middle aged and pretty much trapped in their marriage - they are scared to death of getting a divorce and risk losing a lot of $$. Oh and the daunting thought of having to start all Over as a guy in their late 30s or 40s. Scary stuff
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“I find that most people are emotionally draining” I’ve come to this realization a few years back. I find most people to be too needy, emotional and/or self absorbed. They want to cry on your shoulder endlessly and yet don’t want to return the favor. They get emotional when you do this or that .. oh and most people just like to talk about simple everyday things or gossip. I cannot do that as it’s not fun and it’s draining
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“People exhaust me with their superficial chatter” They sure do! I’ve had to give up on a few friendships as they were almost constantly draining me as they craved so much attention and loved to talk about drama or other petty crap. It’s so damn hard to meet people you click with on any level
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Yes but let’s be honest, vast majority of men(or women) just will not be able to truly live a single life(no casual dating or hookups) for the rest of their lives and be fine. Most people need a mate to share their life with. Oh and casual hook ups lose their luster as you get into your mid 30s . That said, I completely get not wanting to date as it’s such a headache these days
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@tianikane3312 you can’t switch on extroversion or introversion. Being introverted doesn’t mean you can’t be charismatic and very social - it just means that socializing drains you .. extroverts gain energy from socializing
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@KJ-pu8dw marriage is not peace but it usually Means companionship
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Agree I think many different factors play into the spike in depression. It really cannot help that our society currently rewards victimhood though. I’m now seeing middle class men striving for victimhood - that’s a sure fire path to unhappiness
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The problem with the atheist worldview is it’s much more bleak than the religious worldview. I’m not religious but I definitely understand why people are. Atheists(especially the militant ones) aren’t nearly the joyful, well meaning people I thought they were .
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@ems7623 if the “pursuit of pleasure” is your meaning then you are most likely going to be very unhappy .. pretty everyone in the mental health field would agree with me. The hedonistic lifestyle just doesn’t work long term
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@imchl no, many people derive deep meaning by helping others, having children or building things to better mankind.
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Big introvert here too - I’m 39 and realize at this point that most people are too needy, emotional and self absorbed. Most need almost validation and just love to tell you about their problems.. I don’t need that in my life
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@lorenzog7811 I just think many of us as a kid were enthusiastic to grow up and get into the work force. Then we go into the work force and realize that it wasn’t what we expected - factor in the absurdity of having to work 50 hours a week for the next 40 years only to retire and feel achy and tired. Oh and then you have the various hardships that come along the way(sickness, depression, death) and it definitely makes you think twice about it all.
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To the folks that think religion is negative - just say you were driving across country and your car broke down in some random city .. a group of young men approach your car - would you be more or less relieved if they were carrying bibles..?
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@vanizorc “schizoids are perfectly Happy being completely alone” That isn’t accurate. People with schizoid personality disorder often struggle with motivation and suffer from Anhedonia which is the inability to feel pleasure .. they are more content being alone than normal people but to ever claim that schizoids are “perfectly happy” is just wrong
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Carlin was insightful but he was a pretty bitter guy. I can only take him in small doses ..Biden is just a zombie at this point
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@Superbiam-1 I’m not sure. Throughout the years I noticed the people that complained about life being meaningless were NOT the poor farmer or day laborer - it was usually the middle or upper class individuals that had a relatively easy life in comparison. In my 39 years of life I don’t think I’ve ever heard a truly poor person sit around and talk about how pointless life was. Your experience may be different than mine
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Can one find true lasting purpose in doing good for others?
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“Dreading everyday” How long have you been dreading life? If it’s been with you for a long time then why haven’t you seen a doctor? And why bring a kid into the world when you yourself are miserable?
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I’m familiar with Viktors work and I still find life to be empty. There’s just no lasting fulfillment in anything .. may sound strange but accomplishing more or being highly successful can be the tipping point into a very dark place - reason is, if you achieve everything you wanted but are still empty then what…?
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