Comments by "Pat I" (@PatI-zg9gm) on "Women Hitting The WALL - Loneliness Crisis" video.

There is not one woman who is better off single, and very few that are happy without children. This was understood, until about 50 years ago.
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@mol4805 You went into detail, and took responsibility for your decisions. I admire that. Thank you for the exchange.
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@barbara-anndonatelliperry You are then equating a relationship with “lack of freedom”. That mindset is self absorbed, and just leads to materialism and hedonism. Life is not about serving ourselves. At some point, you are going to want a relationship correct? Do you think you will just hit a switch, and become this ideal wife and mother, after years/ decades of “freedom”?
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@barbara-anndonatelliperry Indeed. I appreciate your perspective.
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@mol4805 Fair enough. Please provide an example of a woman that is better off single( not temporarily).
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@mol4805 Catering to one’s man was never an issue, until about 50 years ago. I think you would agree that children are best served with their parents, in a family structure. The reasons that men and women find themselves single are primarily due to poor mate selection, or because they leave for frivolous reasons. We can choose to have a good spouse, and to be a good spouse. I respect anyone that takes pride in their children, as you do. But I reject this notion that couples can’t resolve their conflicts like adults. Children would benefit greatly by seeing their parents do so calmly. No one forces people to argue, and most of the arguments are petty and unnecessary.
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@barbara-anndonatelliperry My condolences. It just makes sense that a life shared, not just with our children, but with a spouse, is fuller and richer. Are there some sacrifices with it? Of course, there are tradeoffs regardless of your lifestyle choice. But it is unrealistic to think that single people are going to be able to maintain these long term friendships, as adults will relocate, get married, have children, etc. If you have five women, who have been friends for years, and four of them get married and have children, where does that leave the fifth? Is she now the eccentric aunt? The dynamics will shift, and she will feel the imbalance of their lives, and hers. This isn’t just a reality for women. Men also “benefit” from marriage. Our children will occupy us when they are young, as they should, but it will not be their onus to address our adult loneliness.
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@barbara-anndonatelliperry I appreciate the exchange, and I am not saying there are not exceptions. There are likely many, I just fight back at what I see as an agenda( not that you represent it) to keep people single, to divide the genders, and worse, convince people to avoid marriage and children. What if the majority of the population, even half, just decided to remain single, and likely childless? For hundreds of years, this country thrived on fully formed families. It was a template that didn’t need to be fixed. I simply do not agree that a good life is not better when you are sharing it with someone. I also am dubious when I hear that people are single “by choice”. When that is said, there never seems to be an explanation as to “how” they live as a single.
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@barbara-anndonatelliperry I concur. There is no reason that adults can’t engage in a respectful discourse, regardless of their differences. My name is Patrick by the way. I hope your day goes well.
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