Comments by "Heather Whatever" (@heatherwhatever7714) on "Dr. Todd Grande" channel.

  1. You really handled this is a fair, unbiased way. After hearing this, I don’t know either. I didn’t see the movie. I don’t think I want to. Thank you.
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  2. The dishonesty hurt so much. I’ve survived. Now two years away from it. It’s been a grief unlike any other. Thank you for your wisdom.
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  3. ❤️❤️❤️👏👏👏
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  4. You did good. You didn’t pass it on.❤️
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  5. A prize is better than a rock.
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  6. I come from such a jaded view of Alec I couldn’t be on a jury, based on what he called his daughter years ago. I know there is nothing that should affect my view to that extent today but I do take note when I see him in news and nothing has changed my view. He seems to feel more important than others. When this was advertised I thought Alec has to get the last word.
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  7. Thank you. You have helped me sort out the extra painful memories that pop up in my grieving. I took things very personally. I defended my children and eventually detached to some degree but I didn’t understand that the pain dealt out was not personal. I’m going to listen again because I might not fully understand it. In fact, I’m going to save it and maybe listen to it many times. I can’t tell you how hopeful I feel about your message. The deepest pain was around this issue. Thank you so much.
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  8. theresa gargett-lyons No one can take away your power if they were ever told they had any. I’ll never forget being with a friend and introducing them to my Mom who started in on me. My friend said, “What’s wrong with her just they way she is?” It was an amazing and bold thing to say. It never had occurred to me to think that way. I empowered my kids and treasured them just as they chose to be. That’s the best we can do is break that passed down abuse thing. It’s very healing to do that. It’s a process to shake off the feeling of not being loved and it helps to talk about it in a place where someone finally understands. Going forward you are right about our actions. A time does come when we can step out of being a victim and try and support a safe place for our dreams and our family and friend’s dreams. I’m very grateful that you listened to this and read responses when you can’t relate. You seem to be a very involved student of new information. Mostly I didn’t know other people had similar home lives. I saw good parents everywhere. When I think of the world as getting too angry and abusive these days I’ll remember you and those you described and try not to paint everything as all good or all bad. Peace. ❤️🌸🌷🌺💐🌹👍🏼
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  9. The negatives were almost criminally hidden going in. Then I have to ask myself how much I participated in not seeing. No matter the answers, I think I’ve proved to myself that my people picker is broken. I’m nice to me. That will have to be enough, especially with the help of canine buddies and outside friends.
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  10. Mine never took care of me after hysterectomy or while I was to have bed rest when pregnant etc. He came home from speaking with a group last summer (he slept on the couch and turned up the tv if I attempted to speak to him.) He said the group gave him a standing ovation when he had described our relationship. I said, “Who do you think you are telling this to?” meaning maybe he forgot I was the human in the marriage he had described. He isolated me but didn’t really want to put any energy into even caring if his partner just wanted to hang out if that was all he had for me. The truth didn’t show up until we were married, and then in stages. Over time he shut everyone out. I hope life brings you great joy and no repeats of what you experienced.
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  11. I didn’t drink enough water when running in the summer a few years ago. It was maybe 85 degrees. Later in the day I thought I was getting the flu or something as I was throwing up. I was not thirsty. I got to the ER and was checked out and sent to another hospital because my kidneys were shutting down and then they worry about heart etc. I’ll never do that again. The scary part looking back was the not feeling thirsty thing. I think a lot of people know not to drink river water there or the Sierras as you can get giardia but I would think you’d at least get wet or something. Sad. We carry water filters for those areas and they are little but slowly work.
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  12. She’s pretty full of herself. Every thing she mentions as important are things that don’t necessarily show your heart, spirit, sense of humor, level of kindness or ability to bring yourself and others joy. I’d say not a fun date. . Also, isn’t it a bit sexist to label one sex as one thing or another?
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  13. I didn’t hear this term 35 years ago. I did look up (not on the internet) passive aggressive and choleric. So since I know this exploration is only helpful to me (or so he would think if he thought about it at all,) I’m thinking it’s a conversation that if brought up now will only backfire on me. Could he point out behaviors of mine in the past especially and get me with that? Yes. He uses any ammo I give him, twists it and throws it right back. He would never go to counseling. It’s been suggested before. Will he accept responsibility for anything? No. I think I’d better listen to this one again. You really got the wheels turning. Thanks.
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  14. I think you are handling different subjects in a fair, diplomatic way while teaching about different issues.i like the dispassionate approach. It makes sense that it’s the only way to get at truth without bringing other events or feelings into it and twisting it a little..
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  15. I started to learn about narcissism while observing this story as it unfolded. It maybe didn’t apply fully to Chris but it completely described my husband. I finally understood but it was a tough acceptance for me. He had been sick all that year and I did get to forgiveness before he died. The covert part sure is hard to come to grips with. Half of my grief is remembering pretty bad things but he didn’t kill me.
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  16. I just struggled finding the right cards that weren’t a bunch of baloney as it related to parents. I did luck out with in laws though so getting them a card was fun.
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  17. You perfectly described what so many unfamiliar with domestic violence miss-that this happens many times. I don’t believe this was a freak small handful of happenings for the couple.
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  18.  @matilda1505  I love people. I just don’t want to pursue a romantic relationship. I had a lifetime of that eggshell-fear thing and being at peace is just amazing. I have grown kids who had to come home for the lockdown so everyone gets to feel this house in a new way.
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  19. Right on to both.
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  20. It’s been my whole life.
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  21. Thank you. This talk was really helpful. I had to back it up a couple of times to make sure I understood the complete idea but it was worth it. There are things I understood somewhat before but didn’t know why certain problems existed like why the person wasn’t learning and maybe didn’t even feel the need to. I feel like I’m on the right track hearing all you have to share on the subject. Unlike some who insist that you get away from the narcissist, you seemed to understand that that is not always possible.
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  22. Going for that new license driver’s test. Don’t show up that agitated.
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  23. Great analysis. I was concerned that there might not be enough evidence to pursue full charges had they caught him. Also, had he been on the run he could have been dangerous to others. So maybe him not harming others is close to justice although for families it will never feel right.
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  24. Wow. I have heard many things but you just put together my innermost thoughts, things I would not have connected to this relationship. I don’t think it’s normal though. In the beginning my idea of normal was displayed but over time that was stolen back. I’ve done my best to be my own hero,my own friend and to give those loving feelings I would like to share to family members, friends and pets. It’s pretty healing.Thank you for being a great teacher.
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  25. Watch out...they get even.
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  26. Sad. Her Grandmother died of a heart attack early. I think her Dad dying and seeing him there would be so very far away from getting everything she wanted. Her son’s death would be so hard. He looked like her Dad too. I wish she had an action filled 12th step experience so she would know freedom compared to bondage and know some recovery in a co-dependent program too. May she Rest In Peace.
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  27. Your tribute through his work was spot on.
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  28. My former husband had asked me to go somewhere and I couldn’t. My kids were home from college. He started shouting extra loud like he wasn’t even talking to me, saying all we ever do it fight. We never fought. I kept saying why are you doing this? We never fight. What are you talking about? This was one of my first clues that he was doing something behind my back to create some narrative. My sons later told me that he had always told them “if anything happens, stay with me.” I was so shocked it didn’t occur to me to film it. That is a protection of sorts. Thanks.
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  29. You must have said 4 to 6 feet. I heard it wrong. Andy Williams brought some power to it also, especially that they had been married for a fair amount of time and had kids. He also was one with a squeaky clean reputation and annual Christmas music recordings so had that old fashioned cred while she had the little pretty girl thing.
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  30. Giggling following scaring and killing his babies. Shocking.
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  31. Thank you for the smiles too.
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  32. There was a lady in a park that was going to get a man in trouble regarding his dog and I believe this is the origin of the term Karen? If she had succeeded it would have been very dangerous for the man. Is that different and what you are talking about only applying when people are calling attention to themselves?
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  33. These days you just have masks in your vehicle for the perfect disguise.
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  34. Wow. I remember the case but I never heard the 46 feet or him facing away. Surprising.
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  35. Wow. I remember how beautiful she looked.
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  36. There was a hug story I heard on the radio from the subject involved. It was Michael Reagan discussing his Father who in the last months did not recognize him when he went to visit. Michael always hugged him. One time he had to leave early. When he got to the car with his wife waiting inside, she motioned towards the front door. There stood the former President with his arms outstretched. He was waiting for his hug. I think that could be a different kind of hug.
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  37. You got this one right. People back off some because they don’t want the “getting even”part.
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  38. Years ago a friend took me to an introductory presentation for EST. The guy wasn’t mean but his response to my question about how my faith would be viewed if I attended the seminar told me all I wanted to know. I don’t think he called anyone an ______. That’s what they told people when they paid money for the seminar. For months my friend would come to gatherings and talk about how he was an _______ and everyone else was an ________ and while there’s nothing wrong with doing self inventory, it seemed rather pointless. I can see how harmful that atmosphere would be. Maybe it was like a YouTube troll seminar.
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  39. It’s a good thing these two are off of the street. Thank you for accurate and fair descriptions. Your point about them being future thinking 🤔 is a good one.
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  40. That was a very hard hit. I think he gambled his entire career on hoping this would make himself more attractive to Jada. Jada has expressed interest outwardly to tougher men. Will has had to contend with the Hollywood rumor mill. I think this was an opportunity. It’s sad he doesn’t feel loved as he is.
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  41. Congratulations. Amazing.
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  42.  @christianpulisic7784  Thank you Christian.
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  43. This could bring a new complication to jury selection.
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  44. Thank you for really caring about people.
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  45. Yes. He also had a record in Nevada
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  46. Hector said “Hey! I’m walkin’ here!” and hopefully has switches places with Achilles so he could once again be center stage.
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  47. Thank you. Very understandable.
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  48. Chris Watts used them, but so did Shanann. Shanann did clearly express her thoughts though.
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  49. A smile in the middle of this. Thank you.
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  50. Your list makes sense. Thank you.
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  51. Might there be a chance that their water source was well water? They didn’t try to make alcohol from the berries? In the U.S. places with well water (at least businesses) have to take water samples to be tested once a month. Could runoff from farm animals get into groundwater?
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  52. Here is how I address people who don’t leash their dogs. I don’t and my dog has been attacked. I stay away from selfish humans and people appearing to have mental problems whenever possible. My leash now has pepper spray on it. Laws may be different there. I’ve never had to use it but I will if I have to. Some dogs won’t stop. Some humans won’t stop. I’m not suggesting pepper spraying the woman. Filming her was a good idea but would it have helped if the two were in the area when police arrived? I doubt it unless police had dealt with her before. Why is false reporting a misdemeanor? Is that narcissism that will lie like that? How would that compare with the false accuser in To Kill a Mockingbird? Police need more training-that takes money. Humans maybe in middle school need a clue on not being a jerk because sometimes they don’t have that training in childhood. Maybe reading, writing, arithmetic and role playing. I suggest not underfunding teachers and first responders when times are weirder. Times have changed. People on the front lines of society need to be better equipped as problem solvers and excessive force needs to have 0 tolerance. If a person in authority can’t diffuse a situation or makes it worse that should result in suspension or firing. There shouldn’t be a reason a person like Karen thinks she can pull that crap.
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  53. It was so sad…
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