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Anne Frank once said " more flowers are given at funerals because regret is stronger than gratitude " I think this is the problem with most interpersonal relationships. The people we often respect or admire often don't appreciate us in the same manner, and there are people who look up to us or value our presence more than we value theirs. Ive often wondered why this is the case, and have not arrived at any reasonable conclusions. It seems any relationship with two people one will always like one more than the other likes or appreciates them. There's an element of power involved. And power takes various forms. A person's power can be beauty, intelligence, money, charm, fame, social skills. And whatever a person admires the most, they will be subjected to being the " fan" to whoever has that quality. Celebrities can love their fans, appreciate them but beyond an ego blow, the fans absence will not be as missed as the celebrities absence. And it seems in all interpersonal dynamics one person is more the fan, and the other is more the celebrity.
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@psychacks Thank you Dr. For the other video suggestions I will check the ones out I haven't seen yet. I agree with you and that makes sense. The admired has no power without the admirer. And you're absolutely right, its impossible to have equality in romantic relationships. One always loves more than the other. I'd also say that this is often the case in friendships also. How often do we say " I helped them with a flat tire, attended their kids graduation, and they can't even wish me happy holidays, yet they always make time for others" I read once in a book at '' selfishness is apt to cause love from others " its contradictory yet isn't the admired person always a little more self centered than the admirer?
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@samreplete1842 Thank you!
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