Comments by "" (@modickens1272) on "Women PUNISH the men they LIKE: how women get in their own way" video.

I agree I also think it applies to men with women also. Ive noticed in my own life the women's behaviors that annoyed me most was the women I liked, yet if it was some woman I had no feelings for, I not only didn't care if she ever texted, I didn't care if she was mad at me for not texting her. I didn't realize until later I was being hypocritical and applying double standards. Classic example, if some woman I didn't like posted some provocative picture I might roll my eyes and think she was sad. Yet if it was a woman I liked, even if I didn't say anything I'd feel jealousy and also a much more judgmental attitude towards her. And you're right, it will push that person away. Ive noticed this aspect with even friends versus strangers. If for example some random person you barely know buys a new house or car you might think cool, looks great, etc. However often with friends we become judgemental. " how'd you afford it" " you should save for a rainy day" " looks like too much house for me to clean" " I never was into shiny things " its been said but we do hurt the ones we love. It's a difficult but necessary step to overcome on the path to self awareness because nobody wants to be the villain in their own stories.
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@Eans_urban_jungle I understand. And ironically those are usually the most successful relationships in my opinion. When a man is in a relationship with a woman he's infatuated with it usually turns the woman off and she sees herself as above him. When a womans in a relationship with a man shes infatuated with it keeps her in a submissive role and more feminine. In either case someone won't feel as passionate but when it's the woman that isn't passionate about the man it rarely will last.
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@janedoe3648 yes but rarely is it mutual. Ones usually more into the other person than the other.
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@ace9848 completely agree. Men by nature are more romantic. How many love songs were written by a woman? Hardly none. And yes it's best to spin plates, because rest assured you are never the only man she's talking to.
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@MelModica I understand. Sometimes jealousy originates in feeling not in control. They say its insecurities but dig deeper and the insecurity lies in feeling not in control of the person's behavior/feelings. People may ask " what about people jealous of your car, looks, or status" the same applies. They feel they don't control their looks, or not in control of finances/job etc. Jealousy is always about not feeling in control of something. Ive learned to just view all people as temporary. Be it 10 minutes or 50 years. This allows me to not form attachments. So if they quit talking, break up etc. Theres maybe some sadness for a few days, then just indifference. Our Lives themselves are temporary so it would only make sense everything in it is as well. That includes feelings such as sadness etc.
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@ca5236 high key misandry pshh
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