Comments by "" (@modickens1272) on "Dating for SHARED INTERESTS: why this is a terrible idea" video.

  1. Mutual tolerance is optimal but most often, especially nowadays, different interests are viewed as an insult to the other person especially in the matters of politics or religion. Many have a my way or the highway attitude nowadays. My most successful relationships were by being with women that I didn't idealize. Meaning if she had a different upbringing, politics, religion, tv choices, hobbies etc. I didn't care because I was already indifferent when the relationship began. They could've worshipped satan for all I could've cared. But if they had more attraction to me than I them, they wouldn't force their beliefs, lifestyle on me. Mutual tolerance. Plus because I always viewed relationships as temporary, I was more tolerant. We all can deal with the nutcase at the bus station more when we know its momentary. The minute a person starts viewing relationships as " forever " their tolerance decreases excluding arranged marriages where divorce is impossible. Then they look for compromise. When compromise is not required and a person wants forever, they'll often try to mold and power struggle with the other. Just view every relationship as temporary and it has a better chance of lasting.
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