Comments by "" (@modickens1272) on "The three goals of human interaction: lessons from dialectical behavior therapy" video.

  1. I find that self respect being prioritized above the other two does lead to isolation. I am considered friendly when interacting with others briefly but in general I have no long term friends. The reason being is self respect/standards mostly. I had a former friend tell me once " you're destined for loneliness with your attitude, I'd rather have friends than be right" the thing is, if you are someone with specific standards as to what you will or will not tolerate from people it is of utmost importance to cultivate being happy alone with your own company, because it will eventually occur. Accountability is not something most people want to be confronted with long term unless they too have standards towards themselves. I don't have really any friends but few people actually do. Most have acquaintances, coworkers, extended family etc. And these are usually superficial relationships at best. Friendships mean a lot more when younger. As I am in middle age now, I would rather read books on a Saturday night than hear a bunch of chatter. In reflection of my life I have concluded the less people one has in your life, the fewer problems and more peace you have. Nothing beats a genuine bond and connection with someone, but except in rare instances does anyone have it. What we believe we perceive and most people believe they mean more to others than they actually do.
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