Comments by "" (@modickens1272) on "How to show your partner respect: The surprising wisdom of ESPN" video.

  1. What you're describing is the push pull method of ' love' it can work. You see it in examples of adults always trying to win the approval of a cold parent, always trying to win love and praise and the more frustrated the harder they try. However, this type of dynamic only works " successfully " in primarily insecure individuals with codependency issues. Doesn't matter if the person is attractive, wealthy, has a million things going for them, they'll be drawn to someone cold and somewhat dismissive, if they have feelings of inferiority. This doesn't just apply to men. Women are equally susceptible, but in both situations in my observations, for this manipulation tactic to work successfully, the " cold" partner must truly love less. If it's an act it'll eventually collapse and the admirer will be turned off once they actually get reciprocal love and respect. Someone with positive self esteem would never tie up with a cold partner long term in the first place. So this primarily will only work on low self esteem individuals. The catch is, that the " cold" partner will actually behave the same way as the admirer once they actually meet someone they admire. As the saying goes " everybody's somebody's fool"
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  2.  @PharmacyTechLabs  wrong. Men use it too. Just look at pimps and prostitutes. It's the same dynamic albeit on a more overt scale.
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