Comments by "" (@modickens1272) on "Why the people YOU LIKE DON'T like you BACK: how attraction messes with your head" video.

  1. Indifference makes a person question their value. Once a person questions their value they will try to prove their worth, only if your opinion matters to them. If they have 0 interest, your indifference will be met by their indifference. Not caring or forming emotional attachments is the best way to go. Life is a lesson in letting go. So indifference facilitates this. Most love, infatuation, and obsession is ego based. The easiest way to seduce someone is to create doubt about their worth. They will use you to stop the doubts , however this doesn't mean they love you. It just means their ego needs soothing. The reverse is true as well. If you want to avoid emotional attachments, reduce the ego. This will allow you to not be upset if they don't respond soon, if they don't show gratitude, if they date someone else. Your ego will just shrug it shoulders because it won't take it as a blow to self worth. Just view it as business, limit as best as possible to taking things personally and that includes rejection especially. Your mind will trick you into thinking someone else should love or admire you for who you are. That's ego talking, ignore it to get ahead.
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  2.  @wyleecoyotee4252  not always. Sometimes they will continue to fight for approval. It depends on their attachment style and parental dynamics growing up.
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  3.  @exchangAscribe  it can affect the satisfaction one receives perhaps but it minimizes the significance of break ups, etc. Yes, there may not be as many highs as others but also, far fewer lows. It's a matter of which one you prefer. I was diagnosed as having antisocial tendencies so perhaps I have an advantage in regards to implementation but rest assured it's the best way to go through life. You can use logic in just about every situation and not let emotions override them. I'll give you an example: there are people from time to time I had a falling out with, or who may have been lousy, that I emotionally miss at times. However, logic reminds me that it had to end. People at their core rarely change. So instead of following a momentary emotion saying " text them its their birthday or Christmas " my logic overrides it saying " ok you text, and after the niceties you're still dealing with same person as before, so what's the point?" Logic is objective, emotions are subjective. Err on the side of objectivity when dealing with people especially, would be my advice.
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  4.  @michelledehaen8997  nope, have emotions just don't react to them. It's like feeling the need to fart in public, not always wise to let it rip!!
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  5.  @ady6837  thanks!
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  6.  @maylin1986  what I meant by that last part is that our own egos can trick ourselves into believing we should be loved and admired and in so doing expect others to do it. This causes us to become angry if we get rejected, or ignored by someone we like. Which is the opposite of indifference. It's ok to believe we are special, the problem arises when we expect others to believe that about us too.
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  7.  @sweetbeep  you lessen ego by reducing/eliminating expectations and entitlement. Take romance for example. You may expect that text message, phone call, etc. because you've been a good date/partner, etc. If it doesn't occur your ego is wounded. It doesn't mean your feelings aren't valid or fair, it just means, in order to get to indifference, one must shed expectations brought about by ego. Now a balanced ego is necessary to have personal boundaries and normal self esteem. However when it gets into entitlement or expectations, the risk becomes an inflated ego. People will wrong us at times, let us down, however by not taking it personally and accepting they have free will no matter whether their choices are rational or not, over time the ego reduces and settles into indifference while also maintaining balance and boundaries, because we also have free will and can choose not to have those people in our lives. Not from the anger of a wounded ego, but from the indifference of realizing our happiness does not rely on them, unless we allow our ego to run the show.
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  8. What most people call racism is merely a modern label for pattern recognition. Without the ability to recognize certain aspects like danger, no matter its source. The species would not have survived. Pattern recognition is evolutions quick way of assessing things to increase survival, avoid danger, and increase potential reproduction. And yes commonality does occur. Darwin's cattle experiment proved self segregation occurs
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  9.  @jennam2867  Thank you
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  10.  @LordPrutsikas  get lost
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