Comments by "" (@modickens1272) on "Don't fight to keep people: you lose when you win" video.

  1. Less people is less problems. Also realize that a lot of motivation to chase is ego based. Its the percieved rejection by the other person that implies one is flawed and so to avoid this hit to self esteem and self worth, one may be tempted to prove their value. Reduce ego, and indifference will be second nature. Indifference to both admiration and rejection. Finally, never care more for people than they allow you to care. If they don't care to leave, you shouldn't either.
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  2. In time, and that time is different for everyone but it will happen.
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  3.  @junipersnow1  I understand what you feel. My parents quit speaking to my siblings and though initially it hurt, they over time was glad to not have the stress. I'm not on speaking terms with most of my family. What happens is most people chase their investments ( time, money, etc.) What I do, is judge the individuals behavior, actions etc. I learned to ignore the relationship of the individual ( ie. Friend, lover, family)because its irrelevant. Some folks are no longer worth any more time or investment. Some people are just no longer compatible. And past history are irrelevant. Its like sitting at a slot machine. You may have put a thousand dollars into it, it may have even paid a few wins, but once you continuously lose, don't chase and walk away. People should be viewed the same. It'll hurt, but not as much as trying to change an ungrateful person.
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  4. A healthy love of oneself
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