Comments by "" (@modickens1272) on "When You Miss Someone (An ex, a friend, a family member)" video.
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@chelseyf0wler I understand Chelsey. It does seem odd in that respect, sometimes there are clues in hindsight. Your comment caught my attention because something similar occurred to me without the ghosting aspect. I was friends with a woman for about 3 years, talked daily about everything, sometimes well into the night, 2am type stuff. Use to tell each other goodnight, etc. Sometimes we'd argue and not speak to each other for a few days, maybe a couple of weeks at the most but always ended up talking. However 6 months ago we had an argument and quit speaking to each other. Neither have reached out. Part of the reason I don't reach out is because she ended the friendship. Basically " I wish you the best, take care" so if people don't want my company I won't try to force it on them. Do I miss her? Yes, reread old messages? Yes. And yet I realize some things happen for a reason. Some people no matter how close we were to them are not meant to stay in our lives. Sometimes the closeness was one sided, meaning we valued the bond more than them. Sometimes we wondered if we did something wrong, or if they think of us. I'm sure they do. In your particular case, ( I don't know all the details) but if you never had his number or email and he deleted all his social media after you mentioned your feelings for him, then most likely it wasn't anything you did wrong. As a man, to me it sounds like he may have been married or in a relationship, but kept that hidden. Many people I know in relationships have 0 pics with their partners for this reason. They like to still get attention from the opposite sex. Once he perceived it might cause issues, he couldn't admit to being deceptive so it was easier for him to quit speaking and delete any way to communicate. People are complicated. I will say this, I promise he'll one day regret his actions. Its very rare to meet people who make us feel understood, get our humor, share secrets etc. And when a person loses that either by ghosting someone, or by ingratitude and ending the friendship over a petty squabble, rest assured they'll miss that person. We're missed even if pride or fear never allows them to say it. Time tends to heal things, one way or the other. Either they reach out in time, or we move on emotionally, but either way time will get us through.
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