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Covert disrespect by women usually is most common in passive aggressive behaviors. The " I forgot's" or " I didn't realize " or gaslighting to make you believe you're making a mountain out of a molehill for a legitimate complaint. In my experience if it's not nipped in the bud ( and sometimes it will be necessary to leave to do that) what will usually occur is the man will start to have a brooding resentment of the woman. And as Freud said about unexpressed emotions never going away and just coming forth in uglier ways, this will usually cause the man to be overt in his reprimands and comments. Believe it or not, this was the womans goal. Because it simultaneously allows her to leverage your " monstrous " temper as an issue, while also getting to play victim. The best solution is to leave. If a woman doesn't respect you, she most likely never will, and if she does, only under duress. And then your implied demand for respect will breed resentment in her, and magnify her passive aggressive behavior. Its basically a circle of dysfunction. Only solution is to leave. When a woman respects you as a person you could be drunk in an alley and though she may pity you, worry, she won't disrespect you. If she doesn't respect you, she'll be ungrateful by the pool in your mansion.
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Indifference makes a person question their value. Once a person questions their value they will try to prove their worth, only if your opinion matters to them. If they have 0 interest, your indifference will be met by their indifference. Not caring or forming emotional attachments is the best way to go. Life is a lesson in letting go. So indifference facilitates this. Most love, infatuation, and obsession is ego based. The easiest way to seduce someone is to create doubt about their worth. They will use you to stop the doubts , however this doesn't mean they love you. It just means their ego needs soothing. The reverse is true as well. If you want to avoid emotional attachments, reduce the ego. This will allow you to not be upset if they don't respond soon, if they don't show gratitude, if they date someone else. Your ego will just shrug it shoulders because it won't take it as a blow to self worth. Just view it as business, limit as best as possible to taking things personally and that includes rejection especially. Your mind will trick you into thinking someone else should love or admire you for who you are. That's ego talking, ignore it to get ahead.
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I agree this would be the best route to go and as you pointed out its difficult to do when we've been hurt or not felt appreciated or love reciprocated. There's always a sense of hurt when a relationship ends unless we are the ones that wanted it to end and I think that's also a part of the secret to letting go. We also should tell ourselves it should've ended not because of the good times , not because of the loving moments of course, not because of who they were, but rather what they've become. And often for reasons out of our control they have become someone who's changed and that change is someone new internally and someone we are no longer compatible with. I've been hurt, angered even obsessive when someone I loved ended it, even in friendships at times. But with time I learned to say it was for the best because just as the years change so do people. The woman I loved in 2018 no longer exists, just as 2018 doesn't. Yes technically she's still living, looks mostly the same, but 2022 is a different year, and she is not the same as she was in 2018 either. Excellent video. Love is often the answer and forgiveness from afar , yet so hard to do at times. When love is replaced with indifference than the heart is usually healed.
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Anne Frank once said " more flowers are given at funerals because regret is stronger than gratitude " I think this is the problem with most interpersonal relationships. The people we often respect or admire often don't appreciate us in the same manner, and there are people who look up to us or value our presence more than we value theirs. Ive often wondered why this is the case, and have not arrived at any reasonable conclusions. It seems any relationship with two people one will always like one more than the other likes or appreciates them. There's an element of power involved. And power takes various forms. A person's power can be beauty, intelligence, money, charm, fame, social skills. And whatever a person admires the most, they will be subjected to being the " fan" to whoever has that quality. Celebrities can love their fans, appreciate them but beyond an ego blow, the fans absence will not be as missed as the celebrities absence. And it seems in all interpersonal dynamics one person is more the fan, and the other is more the celebrity.
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Manners should be genderless. If a man or woman is coming in behind me, I hold the door. It doesn't imply a helplessness on their part, it implies manners and empathy on my part. if you see someone struggling and can help them, do it. If you're struggling or someone holds the door open, don't feel entitled or let pride obstruct it, just be grateful and thank them. Manners: it's not a Male or female, young or old thing, it's a people thing, practice it and it'll take you further than intelligence, hard work, or looks ever will. Why? Because it's much more rare.
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Totally agree with this. Ive known guys that live in the gym and want to act like they're tough yet some C grade woman at home bosses them around and if she initiates a breakup, they beg and plead. The gym is often an external overcompensation for internal weakness of some kind. Charles Manson shows dominance is psychological. He was 5'2", skinny, didn't go to the gym for " gainz" yet had plenty of women and much bigger men doing his bidding. Jim Jones another example of psychological dominance. Women though, if also dominant will tend to avoid such a man. Her gaslighting tactics and guilt trips won't work on him, which work on most men. So she'll seek prey in greener pastures so to speak. And with such women I have learned, that when arguing with them the best course to take isn't to use logic, reason, or defend yourself. These will all be ignored by the dominant woman and manipulated into gaslighting. The best course is to insult her ego in some way, bruise her pride, cleverly if possible. She'll quit speaking, but she'll respect you, albeit from afar.
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What Ive observed, based on my own experiences is a combination of things. I actually went to a female therapist once and when she asked the purpose of my visit I told her " Ive been told I'm crazy and if so, I want it in writing" I noticed after the once a week visits for two months that there were drawbacks and also insights into it. I would observe her and ask her questions occasionally and most times she would either try to avoid answering or give vague answers at best. At any rate we became intimate at some point outside the office and when I moved we remained friends occasionally writing, I learned 5 years after my encounter with her she was murdered by her only son. The drawbacks I observed was its almost impossible for either patient or doctor to remain objective. The doctor can often point out problems but only the patient can truly fix them. I also think it can lead to self absorption on the patients part, talking so much about themselves can cause them to neglect others in their orbit, and self fixation long term is never good in my opinion. The insights I came away with was aspects of my personality that was always there but I never fully saw them. Such as antisocial tendencies, paranoia, contempt for authority etc. We often tend to think our behavior or outlook is rational but sometimes it takes an outside observer to point out things we can't or don't want to see about ourselves. So therapy was good for that. I asked for tests to be administered such as IQ and personality tests to get insight into myself. I learned things from it, and though some may argue she was unethical I didn't see it that way. I think the only time it would be unethical is if the patient was unable to make their own decisions due to mental illness. This was not my case. I think men avoid therapy because it's a vulnerability, and also men tend to want to solve problems on their own. Also there is an aspect in society that people don't care about the problems of others. What's that saying " don't tell people your problems, 80% don't care and 20% are glad you're having them" women in general don't care due to evolutionary reasons. Briffaults law explains this. And most men in society are competitive with other men so subconsciously they're not going to be too interested in helping someone who is a competitor for resources and mating options. Another aspect rarely brought up is the " don't you have friends that can listen?" So just by paying a stranger they often feel like a loser in the eyes of society, the same as getting an escort. The stigma of paying to have emotional needs or physical needs gratified lingers even if on a subconscious level with society.
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I believe a person should always ask themselves why they do certain attention seeking things ( desire for fame, adoration) but not just ask, they must answer sincerely. That's where the problem lies, because lying to oneself causes most of the problems. If they say " so people will want to be like me, or tell me how great I am" they'll realize it's a futile goal. Fame should be a byproduct not a goal in itself. I'm 43 and I've noticed that no matter intelligence or talent or looks, ones recognition excluding a few exceptions slowly evaporates. This is why top music sellers from 10 years ago are often reduced to playing casinos in middle America even if their voice is still as good. Getting older is a slow process in invisibility and the key to having everything you want in life is to not want much. A soft bed, good physical health and emotional well being, enough to eat, an occasional dirty joke, a good book, that's good enough. And truth be known, most people just aren't worth impressing even if possible. And impressing people is fleeting anyhow. How many people in divorce court at one time were really impressed by each other? That says all you need to know about impressing people or their approval. It's all momentary
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I understand the concept , but I think it's more complicated. The chess board is a good example, however there's less mastery wisdom required for many things that still would go unrecognized. A person may not know how to compose a piano solo but can audibly tell if it sounds good to the ear. A person may not be able to paint, yet still know they find something beautiful. Yet in these examples the musician and painter still may go unrecognized. Why? In my opinion, envy and jealousy play a role as you alluded, but also because self absorption is so rampant nowadays that society at large views it as a burden to compliment or recognize another person's achievements/abilities, because it takes away from self preoccupation. Life has become one big class reunion so to speak. " oh you climbed Mt. Everest on one leg? So cool! Now let me show you pictures of my dog skippy and son Kermit" essentially, even when recognition is given, its usually on a superficial level. Not that they don't recognize your ability, nor are they always envious. It's far sadder: indifference, if it's not about them, they just don't really care.
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Excellent analogy. I tend to view it similarly. More like a movie, we decided on our characters, sometimes we play the villain sometimes the hero, sometimes the killer, sometimes the victim, but no matter the role, we are all apart of the film, and whether or not the film is worth seeing, or playing in, is subjective . It is up to each viewer, and participant to decide that.
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The problem is men take women and love way too seriously. They strive, work long hours, fight other men, go in debt for big houses and cars etc. Because their ego wants a wife and kids in most cases. A mans ego is his own worst enemy. If you view women as prostitutes, you'll become indifferent to their behavior and certainty won't jump through hoops to placate it, nor will you get hung up on if she loves you, if she leaves etc. I learned this in my 20s.
Yes, you may still have emotions, but part of being an adult is not reacting to them. I'm 44, never married, no kids and most of my relationships have been drama free. Even the ones that ended usually ended amicably. Why? Because I never took them seriously. And had 0 desire to have kids so there was no bargaining chip there for her. Once again, reduce ego and expectations through practice and life is easier.
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Technology, credit cards, restaurants/fast food, pornography, social programs have all made relationships more obsolete. However even the ones you see today are usually resource motivated on the womans part. Our grandparents generation weren't more moral or loving, it was simply necessity as you mentioned. Human nature doesn't change, only the times do. However once men no longer have the incentive to provide for a family, society will erode. Men as a whole will not take the risky high paying jobs as much, nor attend colleges or trade schools. There's no point really if you don't have to provide for a family, as men in general are totally fine with sparse furnishings, basic clothes, small dwellings and an older reliable vehicle. The effects of this societal shift will really be seen in 25 to 50 years, perhaps less. When infrastructures began to collapse, fewer homes are built, less airline pilots, oil workers, construction, plumbers, doctors, etc.
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But it's all about perception. Being better or of great value is subjective to the individual doing the observing. Brad Pitt, Channing Tatum, Johnny Depp, Elvis Presley all had wives file divorce. So no matter your value, looks etc. Its the perception of the other person of you that determines outcome. Not objective value. You can look like a star, millionaire, intelligent and be dumped for Charles Manson. Yes, in the womans mind Manson might be her better option based on current emotional state, and so she'll choose that. However for a man to assume he can logically be a better value in regards to looks and status and come out ahead is often not true. Using logic rarely applies to humans but even less so with love and women. The high value man has more options short term only. When it comes to romance women are pure mercenaries and previous loyalties, shared memories , histories or mutual interests, mean 0 when she's found someone she PERCEIVES as better.
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The key is just refusal. They issue a fine don't pay it. They want to arrest hope they plan on a life sentence because as long as a person refuses these tyrants have no power. If the want to murder the disobedient then they'll have to be direct. This stuff of banning, fining, mandating stops when we quit bending over. We outnumber them, their only power is fear if we allow it. Doing the right thing means , not considering consequences. Ignore all morally wrong mandates, laws, threats, etc. Segregation once was law, but it was morally wrong. And this current attempt at segregation is just as morally wrong. Theres not one ounce of science behind these rules they're trying to force, and since this is the case that means the reasons are not good, and must be refused and defied.
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Mutual tolerance is optimal but most often, especially nowadays, different interests are viewed as an insult to the other person especially in the matters of politics or religion. Many have a my way or the highway attitude nowadays. My most successful relationships were by being with women that I didn't idealize. Meaning if she had a different upbringing, politics, religion, tv choices, hobbies etc. I didn't care because I was already indifferent when the relationship began. They could've worshipped satan for all I could've cared. But if they had more attraction to me than I them, they wouldn't force their beliefs, lifestyle on me. Mutual tolerance. Plus because I always viewed relationships as temporary, I was more tolerant. We all can deal with the nutcase at the bus station more when we know its momentary. The minute a person starts viewing relationships as " forever " their tolerance decreases excluding arranged marriages where divorce is impossible. Then they look for compromise. When compromise is not required and a person wants forever, they'll often try to mold and power struggle with the other. Just view every relationship as temporary and it has a better chance of lasting.
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@chelseyf0wler I understand Chelsey. It does seem odd in that respect, sometimes there are clues in hindsight. Your comment caught my attention because something similar occurred to me without the ghosting aspect. I was friends with a woman for about 3 years, talked daily about everything, sometimes well into the night, 2am type stuff. Use to tell each other goodnight, etc. Sometimes we'd argue and not speak to each other for a few days, maybe a couple of weeks at the most but always ended up talking. However 6 months ago we had an argument and quit speaking to each other. Neither have reached out. Part of the reason I don't reach out is because she ended the friendship. Basically " I wish you the best, take care" so if people don't want my company I won't try to force it on them. Do I miss her? Yes, reread old messages? Yes. And yet I realize some things happen for a reason. Some people no matter how close we were to them are not meant to stay in our lives. Sometimes the closeness was one sided, meaning we valued the bond more than them. Sometimes we wondered if we did something wrong, or if they think of us. I'm sure they do. In your particular case, ( I don't know all the details) but if you never had his number or email and he deleted all his social media after you mentioned your feelings for him, then most likely it wasn't anything you did wrong. As a man, to me it sounds like he may have been married or in a relationship, but kept that hidden. Many people I know in relationships have 0 pics with their partners for this reason. They like to still get attention from the opposite sex. Once he perceived it might cause issues, he couldn't admit to being deceptive so it was easier for him to quit speaking and delete any way to communicate. People are complicated. I will say this, I promise he'll one day regret his actions. Its very rare to meet people who make us feel understood, get our humor, share secrets etc. And when a person loses that either by ghosting someone, or by ingratitude and ending the friendship over a petty squabble, rest assured they'll miss that person. We're missed even if pride or fear never allows them to say it. Time tends to heal things, one way or the other. Either they reach out in time, or we move on emotionally, but either way time will get us through.
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What you're describing is the push pull method of ' love' it can work. You see it in examples of adults always trying to win the approval of a cold parent, always trying to win love and praise and the more frustrated the harder they try. However, this type of dynamic only works " successfully " in primarily insecure individuals with codependency issues. Doesn't matter if the person is attractive, wealthy, has a million things going for them, they'll be drawn to someone cold and somewhat dismissive, if they have feelings of inferiority. This doesn't just apply to men. Women are equally susceptible, but in both situations in my observations, for this manipulation tactic to work successfully, the " cold" partner must truly love less. If it's an act it'll eventually collapse and the admirer will be turned off once they actually get reciprocal love and respect. Someone with positive self esteem would never tie up with a cold partner long term in the first place. So this primarily will only work on low self esteem individuals. The catch is, that the " cold" partner will actually behave the same way as the admirer once they actually meet someone they admire. As the saying goes " everybody's somebody's fool"
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@exchangAscribe it can affect the satisfaction one receives perhaps but it minimizes the significance of break ups, etc. Yes, there may not be as many highs as others but also, far fewer lows. It's a matter of which one you prefer. I was diagnosed as having antisocial tendencies so perhaps I have an advantage in regards to implementation but rest assured it's the best way to go through life. You can use logic in just about every situation and not let emotions override them.
I'll give you an example: there are people from time to time I had a falling out with, or who may have been lousy, that I emotionally miss at times. However, logic reminds me that it had to end. People at their core rarely change. So instead of following a momentary emotion saying " text them its their birthday or Christmas " my logic overrides it saying " ok you text, and after the niceties you're still dealing with same person as before, so what's the point?" Logic is objective, emotions are subjective. Err on the side of objectivity when dealing with people especially, would be my advice.
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@melaniecampbell7055 Amen!! Couldn't have said it better myself. These people due to cognitive dissonance don't want to see the truth. Because they'd have to admit they've been duped. So they come up with excuses for their cowardice " it's to keep others safe" , " it reduces symptoms " , " so we can get back to normal " theres not an ounce of science or critical thinking with these types. They'll sip some fancy coffee and read some obscure author and think that makes them intellectuals when really, they're spineless and gullible. The fact they allowed a government that performed Tuskegee experiments, sprayed agent orange on troops, approved thalidomide, put native Americans on reservations and intenterned Japanese , has had countless FDA drugs recalled ( the same FDA that approves cigarettes) inject them with something that has no long term studies is mind boggling. If depopulation is the true agenda ( and based on government behaviors worldwide, it is) then they're thinning out the gullible , and if based on intelligence, people who's parents are related by blood .
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@sweetbeep you lessen ego by reducing/eliminating expectations and entitlement. Take romance for example. You may expect that text message, phone call, etc. because you've been a good date/partner, etc. If it doesn't occur your ego is wounded. It doesn't mean your feelings aren't valid or fair, it just means, in order to get to indifference, one must shed expectations brought about by ego. Now a balanced ego is necessary to have personal boundaries and normal self esteem. However when it gets into entitlement or expectations, the risk becomes an inflated ego. People will wrong us at times, let us down, however by not taking it personally and accepting they have free will no matter whether their choices are rational or not, over time the ego reduces and settles into indifference while also maintaining balance and boundaries, because we also have free will and can choose not to have those people in our lives. Not from the anger of a wounded ego, but from the indifference of realizing our happiness does not rely on them, unless we allow our ego to run the show.
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@melaniecampbell7055 I understand, I think excluding his particular mantra, there were some due to pressure or just " they said on tv" mentality that were deceived due to not seeking truth, and blind obedience. A person must want to learn the truth if they're to find it, and use deductive reasoning, critical thinking, and plain old common sense to detect conflicting interests, government mandates not backed by science, or common sense for that matter, and to question everything but especially government and corporate interests. Most people will not or cannot do it. As long as they have enough credit for black Friday sales, and can keep Netflix on, and scroll Instagram they'd get injected with strychnine if told to. Now, granted there are enough people like us that can make a difference. Our numbers are larger than we think. Hence the dislikes no longer shown,they don't want the freed slaves to realize how many of us are out here.
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@junipersnow1 I understand what you feel. My parents quit speaking to my siblings and though initially it hurt, they over time was glad to not have the stress. I'm not on speaking terms with most of my family. What happens is most people chase their investments ( time, money, etc.) What I do, is judge the individuals behavior, actions etc. I learned to ignore the relationship of the individual ( ie. Friend, lover, family)because its irrelevant. Some folks are no longer worth any more time or investment. Some people are just no longer compatible. And past history are irrelevant. Its like sitting at a slot machine. You may have put a thousand dollars into it, it may have even paid a few wins, but once you continuously lose, don't chase and walk away. People should be viewed the same. It'll hurt, but not as much as trying to change an ungrateful person.
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I agree. A womans greatest asset is her ability to manipulate the mans ego. And to also use guilt to get compliance from a man. Women by default are gas lighters. Most men get manipulated by their sense of empathy and honor. Women in general do not have such a handicap.
The male feminist is an automatic red flag to a woman as far as desire is concerned simply because he denies his nature and own self interests. A woman though repulsed recognizes she can benefit from this and control him. A man should always separate his biological impulses to mate or be protective of a woman when she's trying to manipulate. The easiest way is to ask " would I do the same favor for a man?" If the answer is no, then he's letting impulsivity guide him instead of logic.
As far as matching a woman verbally in a fight, the easiest way is to gaslight her, and also when necessary, wound her ego in a specific way that implies she's less than. Most men make the mistake of name calling, that stuff doesn't even register with her. But if you say something vague that implies she's not smart, implies her family is poor, implies she aging, or would look better if she did x,y,z, essentially anything she is insecure about, it will have a greater effect. She may hate you, but I promise she'll avoid crossing you again and respect you perhaps at a distance.
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As long as a man has decent looks, money for lunch, and an internet signal, he has options. Not necessarily marriage/long term options ( which is totally not necessary) but he'll have bedroom options. Fact is, many women are boring. So not only is there no point in talking daily or frequently, why would you want to? You'll get the same dry, dull conversation about some lame coworker, what she ate, the trip to see her parents, her bad hair day, her hopes for the weekend. Just totally useless chatter.
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No matter what a woman looks like, she'll have at least 3 or more men wanting her. Ever been to Walmart and seen an obese woman with a child in the cart? Someone impregnated it.
The key to removing jealousy, is practiced indifference. Because no matter how great you are, there's someone else that might get her heart racing. And also, there's not much you can do about your face looks wise, nor height. So practiced indifference does not try to remove jealousy, it recognizes it but does not react to it.
Think of it like holding in gas. You may really want to let it rip in church or an elevator but you don't. You may want to react to what your stomach is doing in the elevator, but just as you control that, you can control emotional outbursts too. And over time it will become second nature. Jealousy is an inability to accept what you can't control. And when it comes to romance, all the money, gym memberships, logic and looks can't override a womans emotions. She may leave you for the 300 lb screen jockey. With practiced indifference it will not matter.
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@LP-km7gj I understand the thing about opinions, especially on YouTube and social media in general. Often the reason for this in my opinion, is a person's beliefs/opinions become their identity. So if an opinion or belief is challenged or scrutinized, the person will take it as a personal judgment against them. An implication so to speak that they're " dumb" " close minded " " horrible " etc. For believing as they do. And when a person feels that way, the walls come up and they become defensive. I truly believe the greatest desire a person has is to feel understood. It validates their self image and desire to matter. I know what you are saying about how any type of situation can cause potential cheating depending on the individual and scenario. I think it's more prevalent nowadays or at least more open, due to Facebook, Instagram etc. Use to in order to cheat a person was limited to who was in their proximity radius, ie. In their town. Nowadays a person could talk to someone in another country and do it. Plus, unless one went to their class reunions there was no seeing old flames, but now they can log on and chat with billy bob or betty lou from high school all day long. And cell phones make it easier than the old land lines. 😂 back then, you know something was up because they'd sit near that phone when possible and run like an athlete to answer it. Thanks for the insights. Do you think relationships in this modern era, with technology, mobility have a chance to last?I read recently where the average relationship be it marriage or bf/gf only lasts 2 years and 9 months on average.
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@LP-km7gj All of that makes sense. I'm glad that you have been able to maintain a long term relationship/marriage for almost 20 years. That is rare indeed. As far as your ex boyfriend cheating before cell phones and social media it's TRUE 😂 people found a way even in horse and buggy days when letter writing was the only way. I think being raised with traditional values helped shape your values indeed and that's a good thing. I'm no expert on relationships, I am 42 so I remember things as well before internet. Ive been cheated on in some relationships and I too did it when younger, now I've been with the same woman for 9 years, and we basically give each other space, sometimes take trips alone, etc. So Ive been on both sides of the issue and understand its dynamics as far as the motivations and in most cases the sexual component is only a part of it. Most of the time people do it out of a lack of emotional connection or boredom and believe it or not, on a subconscious level a fear of mortality. Wanting to still prove they're desirable and doing what makes babies so to speak as if to say " I can't be getting older , people still find me desirable " I agree with your husband about social media, I have none of it , but mainly because it's one big competition mostly. Who ate a fancier meal at the restaurant on friday night, who took the lousy vacation they're proud of, who adopted a pet goldfish or some other mundane junk. You know how it is, Lucille from 3rd shift has to take a selfie of the new hair do, Timmy from sales has to show off the fish he caught🙄 Anyhow it's all fascinating how people tick and what makes them tick.
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