Comments by "kristine Sharp" (@kristinesharp6286) on "The truth about Jewish Hasidic matchmaking | Rare testimony from a community matriarch" video.

  1. I am very pro Israel. I’m shocked. But I understand in the decades after the war how scary some would feel about it. Israel has saved many Jews in various parts of the world. There were Jews there before the 1940’s and those descendants certainly safer. It seems almost survivalist. Don’t attract attention by wearing dark clothes. Make sure to spread out geographically and have a big family. There is a beauty in serving God generation to generation for over 5000 years with the same energy.
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  2. Everything is nerve wracking as a parent. Whether introduced or not matches and marriages fall apart sometimes.
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  3. Mrs Pearl is sweet to share.
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  4. She is an elder in the community, she was asked. She answered.
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  5.  @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  I can understand waiting. I can understand refraining. Self control is good and people who have it tend to be better off. All marriages including outside the community have a time with ‘closeness’ needing to be on the back burner due to health, recovery from childbirth, separate needing to care for a parent, travel for work, etc… But every hug does not lead to ‘closeness’. That is just in the movies. LOL. When my father was sick I needed to cry and be hugged from time to time. When I wasn’t pregnant and my cycle came I was sad and so was my husband, we could not hug in that moment? Does it really take 7 days sometimes plus for the 5 days worth of a period for all the lining to empty? It seems like a form of birth control that can backfire on a few people with short cycles and many days of flow. In a perfect world of 28 days the month ‘moon’ is the perfect time to conceive. The person with a 25 day cycle or with spotting is out of luck.
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  6.  @beans4853  I’m glad to hear you were verbally able to comfort and be comforted.
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  7. Non Hasidic communities are not immune to abuse. Divorce is permitted in Torah. It’s not in Catholicism. She can also only talk to her experience.
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  8. I’d ovulate after. I understand during. I would need a hug.
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  9.  @anonymousanonymous-qx7mv  I mean I would need a hug from my husband.
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  10.  @anonymous-io6zg  Hashem didn’t say in the Torah not to hug your wife on day 10. That is custom some extra stringency placed by human beings just doing the best they can. He said not to have intercourse during and for SOME days after to make sure the cycle stopped, and prohibited sharing some bedding items. Humans are not logs but they are not dogs in heat either. I thought all could learn Torah and that guys alone learned Talmud? And if life happens cause even the best efforts things still sometimes don’t go as intended and a husband passes the potatoes on the wrong day he is ritually impure. There is a manner for him to regain purity as well. If she can be ritualistically impure for 12 days why can’t he for 30 hours after the required time and a Mikva visit? They say women are exempted from the time commandments but all this counting days and checking for discharge seems related to time to me. But Pearl is right about two adults being able to self regulate themselves probably will be successful in marriage and in life. There have been studies. You put a kid alone in a room with a cookie and tell them not to eat it, they will get a second cookie when they come back if they don’t eat it. The kids who don’t eat it usually are better off than the kids who ate the cookie alone in the room. I don’t think that is taught so much as what is already the character of a person. Some are more impulsive. Some people are huggers. And some people can’t stand being hugged. So it won’t really matter to them. If I were to miscarry a baby that was told 40 days before conception it was about to be conceived it would be a loss not just for me but also my husband. Obviously can’t do ‘everything’ for medical reasons nor desire but the same skin contact that made the baby could help one another heal and increase the bond between spouses. Why would my female neighbor be the one I would hug and cry with and not my husband?
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  11.  @thedislikebutton7389  you have been reading it wrong.
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