Comments by "Blah Smith" (@LittleMew133) on "COUPLES therapy (almost) NEVER WORKS: you are not the client" video.

I think the more you like someone, the smaller the compromise looks, even if it's the exact same compromise. So if you don't like your partner AT ALL, something small like not getting your favourite dish for dinner becomes a HUGE deal to throw tandrum over. Because you feel like you already compromised to be with them, someone you don't authentically like, any further compromise feels like too much. On the flip side, if you like them, being with them is more akin to a privilege and not compromise, so your compromise box has lots of room for other compromises.
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@cosmictreason2242 I agree with this approach actually. Compromise should result in overall greater gain, even if not equal for that moment. I think people mistake compromise for meeting righr in the middle, which might be worse for both.
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