Comments by "Blah Smith" (@LittleMew133) on "What people FAIL TO UNDERSTAND about DEPRESSION: your life could be better" video.

  1. Idk if that's related to aimlessness. I'm not motivated by external things like admiration, fame, money, status, etc. But I respond pathologically well to goals. Like just give me a goal, directly or indirectly, and watch me get there in world's record times while ending with a triple back flip, metaphorically speaking. I think the whole working towards something keeps big questions like "is life really worth living?" away. Apple a day keeps the doctor away.
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  2. I think the whole "where am I compared to other people" is prevalent for SO dominant and secondary. If you're SO blind, like I am, it doesn't affect you in the same way. I was bottom of my class for a while because I transitioned into fully speaking English classroom and "er me Enrish wusnt gud" you see. Many others who were not SO blind expected me to feel 1 way or another, like ashamed or self-pitying, about that. But looking back, I was more blind than a bat - apathetic in every which way. All I really cared about was to learn as broadly, deeply and quickly as I could. I gave 0 care about my rank within the class or whether or not everyone else understood that paragraph and I didn't. What I notice SO dominants do is that they care a lot, like ALOT LOT about their images; it's more important for them to APPEAR admirable than BE admirable quietly, if that makes sense? They rather place themselves into a tiny pond to feel like they're the best, than venture out into the ocean and realize they aren't. Ain't me, never was me, never will be me. I am SP dominant so I do care a lot about my bodily health and security. Gladly go live in the woods like Henry David Thoreau, where there are no people or scale to measure yourself against - completely different value system.
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  3. P/S: I moved myself slowly but surely to the top of the class. And soon enough, I was on par with and bested native speakers. Got scholarship and invited into academia societies. When you focus on you and the race with yourself, you will surpass pretty much all other people who are simply trying to talk themselves up, instead of actually doing the thing.
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  4. But overall, I do agree that taking actions towards concrete external goals is the best route. Even if social recognition ain't really your jam, doesn't really hurt.
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  5. SO dominants are usually pretty obvious to me, especially compared to a nearby SO blind. SO blinds usually say these things to SO dominants "bro, nobody cares about you THAT much??" or "why do you compare everyone and everything??" or "all this drama is exhausting, don't you get exhausted??" If you have thought about or said 1 of these things to someone, congrats you are in the presence of an SO dominant while NOT being one. Sorry for your loss, truly, because you will never experience peace ever again.
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