Youtube comments of Blah Smith (@LittleMew133).
-
518
-
273
-
222
-
205
-
104
-
82
-
73
-
68
-
67
-
54
-
49
-
47
-
46
-
40
-
35
-
33
-
32
-
30
-
28
-
28
-
28
-
27
-
27
-
27
-
26
-
26
-
25
-
24
-
23
-
23
-
22
-
I am ok with being excluded. I preferred being left alone by mean people. But even when I'm just minding my own business being the weird loner, they still come after me trying to ruin my life. Their actions directly impacted not just my esteem / happiness, but also my work and personal relationships.
They say I'm ugly like real hideous beyond recognition, incompetent and lazy, all the difficult things I accomplished were all faked, that I have sugar daddies that supported me, or I'm a serial dater, that I'm a theft, or I secretly threaten people outside of the group chats. They pinned all of their negative traits and ugliness onto me. But I'm nothing like them??
"THOSE ARE YOUR TRAITS, NOT MINE????" I have solid proofs to prove that each of their accusations were their actions. They did all of those things AND some. But they pin their ugly traits onto me. They even try to steal my identity by acting bubbly and cute, even mimic the little quirks that I do, like forgetting simple silly things. "I DON'T WANT THIS TRADE, YOU FKING PSYCHO!!?"
When I got angry after finding out, they were like "haha why so angry?" ... "WHY DO YOU THINK?? WHY?? You tell me why. How was ANY of that acceptable behaviors?! Were you raised by wolves??" ... They just try to brush everything under the rug like nothing happened, especially since the pieces they bet on didn't win out over me & now I have more power by pure associations. They now pretend to wish me well, as if they were rooting for me all along. I'm not blind. My Dad was in a real political warfare; I have seen your type around.
20
-
19
-
18
-
17
-
17
-
17
-
16
-
16
-
15
-
15
-
15
-
14
-
14
-
14
-
14
-
13
-
13
-
13
-
12
-
12
-
11
-
11
-
11
-
11
-
11
-
11
-
10
-
10
-
10
-
10
-
10
-
9
-
9
-
9
-
8
-
8
-
8
-
8
-
8
-
8
-
8
-
8
-
8
-
8
-
8
-
8
-
7
-
7
-
7
-
7
-
7
-
7
-
7
-
6
-
6
-
6
-
6
-
6
-
6
-
6
-
6
-
6
-
6
-
6
-
6
-
6
-
6
-
5
-
5
-
5
-
5
-
5
-
5
-
5
-
5
-
5
-
5
-
5
-
5
-
5
-
5
-
5
-
5
-
5
-
5
-
5
-
5
-
4
-
4
-
4
-
4
-
4
-
4
-
4
-
4
-
4
-
4
-
4
-
4
-
Idk if Middle Eastern kings are different from East Asian kings, but the kings depicted in our stories and TV are no players, more like kidnappers of young women. You could be 12 years old, walking with your mother on the street 1 day, and the king carriage with the 50 year-old king went by, he glanced at you and went like "I want that chick to add to my 2,000 concubine list". And before you knew it, you were taken against your will, locked into the castle, never to see your family ever again, likely die a lonely death with no actual status and being stepped on by more powerful women in the kingdom. Or worse yet, the king got drunk after 1 of the endless parties, me-too-movemented you, an innocent maid in the castle. You birth his child, just for the child to be taken away from you forever, and you still die a lonely death with not even the measly concubine status. At any point in time, you can piss him off for no apparent reasons or the holy men said you're bad luck, and your entire linage of 9 generations get tracked down and executed. End of story.
4
-
4
-
4
-
4
-
4
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
Here's a little biscuit of wisdom: "Type 4’s vice is envy. 4's often compare themselves to others, contributing to their sense of lack and shame. 4's tend to believe that others have what they themselves do not and they also believe that things come more easily to other people. This vice keeps Type 4' heavily focused on what they believe they’re missing. They spend considerable time yearning for something outside of themselves that they feel would benefit them—often the love and approval of others. Type 4's are sensitive, creative, and expressive people who are interested in finding and understanding their own identity. But this search for identity can be a major source of stress because Enneagram 4's want to know they have a special purpose in life, and they want other people to recognize that as well. It’s important to be yourself, even when you’re facing stressful situations. Trying to act like someone else or pretending that you’re not overwhelmed as an Enneagram type 4 is not going to help. Understanding who you are and what causes you stress, however, can help you to find the peace and fulfillment you’re looking for and avoid those situations that get your head spinning. As Type 4's move toward personal growth, they start acting like a healthy Type 1's, the Perfectionist, a serious, responsible, organized person who seeks to make the world a better place for others. Enneagram type 4 needs to feel valued and accepted for who they are and to recognize their own unique identity. By taking time out to reconnect with themselves and using their talents and drives, they can leave stress behind while they become the compassionate, creative artists they were meant to be".
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
3
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
Type Four—Levels of Development
Healthy Levels
Level 1 (At Their Best): Profoundly creative, expressing the personal and the universal, possibly in a work of art. Inspired, self-renewing and regenerating: able to transform all their experiences into something valuable: self-creative.
Level 2: Self-aware, introspective, on the "search for self," aware of feelings and inner impulses. Sensitive and intuitive both to self and others: gentle, tactful, compassionate.
Level 3: Highly personal, individualistic, "true to self." Self-revealing, emotionally honest, humane. Ironic view of self and life: can be serious and funny, vulnerable and emotionally strong.
Average Levels
Level 4: Take an artistic, romantic orientation to life, creating a beautiful, aesthetic environment to cultivate and prolong personal feelings. Heighten reality through fantasy, passionate feelings, and the imagination.
Level 5: To stay in touch with feelings, they interiorize everything, taking everything personally, but become self-absorbed and introverted, moody and hypersensitive, shy and self-conscious, unable to be spontaneous or to "get out of themselves." Stay withdrawn to protect their self-image and to buy time to sort out feelings.
Level 6: Gradually think that they are different from others, and feel that they are exempt from living as everyone else does. They become melancholy dreamers, disdainful, decadent, and sensual, living in a fantasy world. Self-pity and envy of others leads to self-indulgence, and to becoming increasingly impractical, unproductive, effete, and precious.
Unhealthy Levels
Level 7: When dreams fail, become self-inhibiting and angry at self, depressed and alienated from self and others, blocked and emotionally paralyzed. Ashamed of self, fatigued and unable to function.
Level 8: Tormented by delusional self-contempt, self-reproaches, self-hatred, and morbid thoughts: everything is a source of torment. Blaming others, they drive away anyone who tries to help them.
Level 9: Despairing, feel hopeless and become self-destructive, possibly abusing alcohol or drugs to escape. In the extreme: emotional breakdown or suicide is likely. Generally corresponds to the Avoidant, Depressive, and Narcissistic personality disorders.
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
The research led by Yaling Yang and Adrian Raine, both of the USC College of Letters, Arts and Sciences is published in the October 2005 issue of the British Journal of Psychiatry.
The subjects were taken from a sample of 108 volunteers pulled from Los Angeles’ temporary employment pool. A series of psychological tests and interviews were conducted + structural MRI.
The liars in Yang's study had on average 22-26% more white matter in their prefrontal cortex than both the normal and antisocial controls. Yang speculates that the increase in white matter means that people who lie repeatedly and compulsively are better at making connections between thoughts that aren't connected in reality — like, say, "me" and "fighter pilot."
Research also shows that they have a deficit of -14% gray matter in the prefrontal brain, which is the part of the brain that is responsible for the restraints against lying.
Individuals with a higher level of moral reasoning skills showed increased gray matter in the areas of the brain implicated in complex social behavior, decision making, and conflict processing as compared to subjects at a lower level of moral reasoning, according to new research from the Perelman School of Medicine and the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania in collaboration with a researcher from Charité Universitätsmediz in Berlin, Germany.
Some traits of a pathological liar may include the following: lies even about insignificant details, tendency to contradict themselves, appear to have little to no regret regarding how their lies affect others, may become defensive or angry if confronted, even if there is proof.
2
-
If that friend REALLY likes you, they create environments for you to hang together. Like "hey, wanna go to the bar or gym together?" Unless they just like solo time, if they invite others and not you, then you know where you stand. Humans are not rational creatures, never, not even a little. There is a study on patient who damaged the feely bit of their brain, and he was unable to make the decision to turn left or right, since left or right have the same rational weigh. So if you can still turn left or right, congratulations, you are not (completely) rational.
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
2
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
My 2 cents:
The orphanage should have not lied to her for her to adopt this child, who is obviously not suitable for her and her family. Some parents can handle violent children, some cannot, and if she specified that she cannot handle the violence, don't give her a violent child. The boy is in the orphanage long enough for the caretakers to know his core personalities. Secondly, just because there were abusive US parents in the past doesn't automatically make her the one at fault here. Given that there's over 1500 adoption per year and there were only 3 prominent cases over the course of many years, the rate is so damn low for a generalization to be made. Let's look at it in a different light, how many Russian parents are abusive to their Russian children? Should they too be banned from having/adopting children? That aside, the mother is not completely right either, letting a 7 years-old child, who is supposedly mentally unstable fly alone to Moscow - that is a very long flight. If she didn't order him online, she shouldn't have wrap him up and return him through "mail". He is after all, a child. When it comes down to international business like this, it gets a lot more complicated. If the countries already are at conflict with one another, the littlest spark can start a fire, and maybe this is the case. The mass audience might never really know the whole story. To better understand who is "lying", mental-stability tests should be given to the boy. The results can answer some questions, and hopefully, the situation would then clear up a little bit.
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
I think the whole "where am I compared to other people" is prevalent for SO dominant and secondary. If you're SO blind, like I am, it doesn't affect you in the same way. I was bottom of my class for a while because I transitioned into fully speaking English classroom and "er me Enrish wusnt gud" you see. Many others who were not SO blind expected me to feel 1 way or another, like ashamed or self-pitying, about that. But looking back, I was more blind than a bat - apathetic in every which way. All I really cared about was to learn as broadly, deeply and quickly as I could. I gave 0 care about my rank within the class or whether or not everyone else understood that paragraph and I didn't. What I notice SO dominants do is that they care a lot, like ALOT LOT about their images; it's more important for them to APPEAR admirable than BE admirable quietly, if that makes sense? They rather place themselves into a tiny pond to feel like they're the best, than venture out into the ocean and realize they aren't. Ain't me, never was me, never will be me. I am SP dominant so I do care a lot about my bodily health and security. Gladly go live in the woods like Henry David Thoreau, where there are no people or scale to measure yourself against - completely different value system.
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
ALSO ALSO, stop trying to craft intricate complex social thesis, hoping to be proven false. You could have just said "I say to you today, my friends, that in spite of the difficulties and frustrations of the moment, I still have a dream. Now is the time to rise from the dark and desolate valley of segregation to the sunlit path of [gender] justice. I have a dream that one day this [planet] will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed — we hold these truths to be self-evident: that all [humans] are created equal. Let us not seek to satisfy our thirst for freedom by drinking from the cup of bitterness and hatred. The whirlwinds of revolt will continue to shake the foundations of our [planet] until the bright day of justice emerges. We refuse to believe that the bank of justice is bankrupt. When we allow freedom to ring, when we let it ring from every village and every hamlet, from every state and every city, we will be able to speed up that day when all of [universe]’s children, black men and white men, Jews and Gentiles, Protestants and Catholics, will be able to join hands and sing in the words of the spiritual: “Free at last! Free at last! thank God Almighty, we are free at last!"
Because isn't the weight of cognitive dissonance so very heavy?
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
A therapist support you via you paying them. You give them 100% of the money, as in they give you 0% of their money. And they in turn, give you 100% of the advice, as in, they don't go into a session expecting advice from you. That's impersonal; they in fact, gives 0 actual fudge if you die tomorrow or not. Hopefully, HOPEFULLY, you want a partner for personal reasons and not for the transactional side of things. You want to share in burdens and duties, regardless of the specific resources, in your PERSONAL lives, because who knows, stock market is going to burst tomorrow and HOPEFULLY, your partner won't dip on you like your therapist you haven't been paying.
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
I have been thinking about this topic for a bit, backburner kind of thing. And I think this whole obsession with virtues is a very Enneagram 1. But the problem with this line of thinking is, there is no nuance; everything is black and white. And the black and white-ness is very ... arbitrary, a lot of the time. Enneagram 1, or at least in my case, cares broadly and equally. Like I care about people and humanity, and am willing to make certain sacrifices to be in line with my beliefs. But if you really think about it, that's really very fudging stupid and idiotic. My Mom told me this when I was in middle school: "okay, that's nice, but about how people who love you and me, who raised you??" The inability to think and act in a simple-minded, tribal-istic way is both a pro and a con.
The flip side of 1 is maybe 8. 8 can also champion people, but not entirely indiscriminately or equally. They are willing to "wage wars to make peace". Enneagram 1 thinks "oh, you are another consciousness, I treat good", but 8 is more "you prove yourself trash, no deserve".
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
@ProCoach2373 If they have at least average intelligence, they understand to budget the $20K per sale over the months instead of spending it in 1 go. Better yet, invest it to get interest. Basic understand: lump sump now is always more valuable than getting dripped over time. What do you think happen to the psyche working 18-hour shifts and seeing patients die and announcing the news to family members? "So sad I only make $20K per sale, and have to wait a few more months to get another $20K. Boohoo". Name me which 5 walk in the parks are easier, have to meet these criteria - no college degree, no in-depth knowledge or handyman skills required, only basic literacy, no 9 to 5, can take off whenever, no lives or infrastructure hanging in balance, any others I have missed.
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1