Youtube comments of (@AnaPsychology).

  1. Psychologist OWNS feminist with LOGIC and FACTS!
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  2. I'm so sorry, that's awful! :(
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  3. I know all the censored words are annoying—trust me, they annoy me too—but unfortunately I just can’t say certain things on YouTube without getting de-monetized and dinged in the algorithm. I wish we could speak openly about these topics, especially when it’s to raise awareness about such an important issue, but I hope y’all understand.
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  4. Evy’s stoic attitude reminds me so much of my grandma, a fellow Eastern European woman☺️ this is the type of no-nonsense distress tolerance we all need!
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  5. "His eyes darkened. The tip of his tongue slithered across dagger-sharp teeth--a surefire sign of aggression." 😂😂😂
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  6. I just went and checked her page again, and it looks like she uses the hashtag #emotionalhealthcoach in several of her videos. I wish I’d caught that and mentioned it in my video, cause it’s exactly the issue with unregulated coaching that I talk about. “Emotional health” falls under therapy. You need to be licensed or under supervision to practice therapy. People practicing what’s basically therapy without the proper qualifications and ethical guidelines leads to abuses like this one.
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  7. Really good point!
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  8. I'm so sorry, I've had a professor do the same thing to me and it left a really bitter taste. The last thing an introvert needs is to be publicly shamed for it
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  9. Clearly this video was filmed about 2 months ago, hence the Christmas sweater and talking about the “new year coming up” 😂 Moving forward that will be pretty much the norm since my videos are planned pretty far out right now
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  10. I wanted to add another sad anecdote about this topic. The other day I was talking to a friend who is also a psychology student, and she mentioned that her professor said she would be assumed incompetent based on her high-pitched voice. We had a discussion about how no one would ever tell a man to change his voice in order to be taken seriously, and the implications around that.
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  11. I don’t think that’s controversial to say! You sound spot-on to me
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  12. Many of you are saying that the contents of this research are making you sad and angry, and I hear you. When I first stumbled upon one of these studies, it was late in the evening after a 12-hour day of work and I just started crying. After my partner saw this video today, he also said it was sad because it rang true to everything he had witnessed in college. If you weren’t participating in hookup culture, you weren’t seen as a real man. Please remember that knowledge is power. Ultimately, this research only empowered me, and I am confident that you can reap the same rewards. ❤️
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  13. Thanks for sharing! I was rolling my eyes a bit at how heteronormative the literature on this topic is. When it comes to same-sex couples, the power dynamics are already so different from straight couples, so I think it would be worth looking at this from a same-sex lens too.
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  14. Naan Bread hahaha she knew
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  15. Being alone and being lonely are two quite distinct things!
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  16. "We were on a break!!"
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  18. Also! I completely forgot about this until after I recorded and edited the video, but there was a huge meta-analysis that actually debunked the idea that men and women go after different things in partners (respectively, good looks and high SES). The study found that, while people say they want a partner in a way that’s consistent with gender patterns, they actually don’t follow through with those mate choices in practice. The difference in men vs women choosing based on different types of “hypergamy” was small and nonsignificant. I went into this topic in depth about a year ago: https://youtu.be/XtRPrpy1sfo?si=iY5BJWJOj3KNOrYr
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  19. THIS🙌🏻 I completely forgot to mention this in the video itself, but it’s so interesting how this phenomenon only happens with attractive women and not attractive men🙄
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  20. I've never thought about it that way, that's a good point that you might be less likely to feel lonely in more collectivistic cultures where proximity to family is expected... unless, of course, your family is the type that makes you feel lonely even in a crowded room.
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  21. That's smart lolll
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  22. If you think the skits are bad, you should see the real boy moms they’re based off of 😂
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  23. Absolutely! I should have clarified that self-hatred (and especially when shame gets activated) is also a contributor to abuse.
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  24. Oh I have no doubt, just trying to cover my bases cause abusers are renowned to be litigious
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  25. Just to emphasize this cause I didn’t make it as clear in the video itself as I would have liked: Project HOPE is currently sending help to Ukraine, and they also send help to other places like Haiti and Indonesia. Hopefully that doesn’t impact your donation too much, but I thought it important to make it clear where your money would be going. If you want to give money to a fundraiser that works solely with Ukraine, there are many online, but I couldn’t find any of those on the YouTube charities list and I think Project HOPE is an even better place to donate because of its inclusivity ❤️
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  26. Hahaha I can't keep a straight face around him
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  27. 😂😂
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  28. Everyone in those shows also say "1000%" so many times hahaha
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  29. Cannoli believes he can open the fireplace behind me without thumbs
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  30. Not sure how standing like a flamingo looks but this sounds compelling, I think it will work
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 Another Holland test: https://www.truity.com/test/holland-code-career-test 3. Skills test: https://nationalcareers.service.gov.uk/discover-your-skills-and-careers/ 4. Values assessment: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/tests/personality/values-profile Also, I’m kind of annoyed that I forgot to do a conclusion section in the video, so I’ll do that here: - During career assessment, it’s important to ask yourself the following: What are my personality traits, and what are compatible vocations? What are my interests? What are my skills? What are my values, and what are vocations with compatible values? - Theories of career development usually emphasize either the life stages that influence your career or your personalty traits. Developmental theories start out through exploration, then making a decision, honing in on that career, and eventually putting it behind you. Trait-factor theories focus on goodness of fit between your personality traits and the traits required by certain vocations. - I would argue that learning is a lifelong, continuous, and non-linear process. You don’t have to limit yourself to one thing. It’s okay to pivot to something else. - Don’t choose a career based on what you DON’T want to do—rather, choose, based on what energizes and excites you, the thing you would like to do even past the age of 65. You shouldn’t spend your last few decades on this earth letting your mind disintegrate from disuse; if you can find something you truly love, then keep doing it every single day.
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  32. With such a nuanced topic, I think it requires a nuanced answer: -Everyone should identify what it is that they actually desire (whether it be commitment or lack of if) -Everyone should have the freedom to participate in hookup culture and not be shamed for it if that's what they truly desire -Everyone should feel empowered to not participate or request commitment if that's what they truly desire -If they do participate in hookup culture, they need to also be mindful of the emotional needs of others, and to practice transparency and respect -Everyone should be informed about the potential negative consequences of participating, since these consequences are considerable -Hookup culture needs to stop being glorified as empowering, because it's just clearly another avenue in which the patriarchy exerts itself
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  33. Yes, exactly!! A loving, non-abusive parent would probably feel deep grief over their child being alienated, but I imagine they would take more of an “I respect your choice and I’ll always be here if you change your mind” approach. But a parent who begins obsessing over the other parent, going into toxic echo chambers online, publicly playing the victim, and demanding that the child be returned to them? Small chance they’re a good parent, in my opinion.
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  34. Yes! I thought I mentioned this in the video itself but I must've forgotten
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  35. I think it's awesome that you recognize therapists are multifaceted people too, and I would guess that the type of therapist you're looking for would still be authentic to themselves in therapy! Not all therapy clients see things in this way. This seems to be an area where a lot of young people are diverging more and more from the traditional viewpoint. The people in power making the rules pressure therapists to be "professional" at all times, whereas more therapists and clients are starting to recognize that you cannot divorce who you are personally from who you are therapeutically. We're kind of in a liminal space where there is still the expectation of professionalism 24/7 but more people are starting to question what "professionalism" really entails. I think it kind of comes down to 2 things: 1. finding the right fit between therapist and client where both parties can agree on what is considered "professional" (e.g., if a client doesn't mind their therapist wearing sweatpants in therapy, then there's no problem with a therapist doing so) 2. making sure the therapist is congruent with themselves, meaning it wouldn't be shocking for a client to see how they behave outside of therapy
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  36. I’ve noticed a lot of those women are in unfulfilling relationships where their partners don’t make them feel very secure. It’s muuuch easier to slip into woman-on-woman hate if you feel like your man might be swept away at the slightest breeze.
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  38. Aw I’m so glad to hear you were able to do that!!
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  39. Since recording this, I heard that Justin Baldoni hired a PR firm who has worked with celebrities to (in my opinion) discredit women who have accused them of IPV. I find this choice very interesting indeed. Also, don’t forget that tomorrow is the last day you can get The Mental Health Bundle, which contains 70+ courses and ebooks (including my own, The Connection Course) for a whopping 99% off at $50! Link below: https://www.thementalhealthbundle.com/?sa=sa015969818347f4622da6b3334d0a356f9d6dd54e
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  40. Hi y’all! At 11:12 I misspoke: what I meant to say was that attractive women were viewed more UNfavorably for getting cosmetic surgery than less attractive women who did so
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  41. Hi guys! I totally hear your feedback that the initial title of this video was not quite the argument I’m trying to make in the video so I’ve changed it. To be clear, the point I am trying to make is that beauty does not buy happiness or respect from others. That being said, if you’re going to try to invalidate the research I spoke about in this video by commenting on my appearance, you are literally proving my point 👌🏻 hope you have a great day
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  42. Yup, the research definitely shows the peer pressure is harder for men when it comes to this :/
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  43. He thought he was supposed to look at the camera the whole time 😭😂
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  44. This is such a great question, and something I was also wondering after I scheduled this video. I’m not sure that there’s one universal answer, but rather that we each have to decide, based on our own communication style and our partner’s emotional needs, at what point it is time for some constructive feedback versus just providing support. My guess is that feedback is sometimes necessary, and partners can help each other become better versions of themselves, but that this is certainly not necessary every time your partner wants to process something.
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  45. This made me laugh so hard😂
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  46. Wait yes idk why I didn't use that as an example
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  47. It was actually student > candidate > intern :) thank you so much! The fact that you noticed these little achievements is much appreciated.
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  48. Yes!! This is such a succinct way to put it.
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  49. That makes a lot of sense!! I actually wonder if the young woman in blue might have been there to sort of "guard" the birthday girl from anyone who might try something she had determined she didn't want ahead of time
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  50. Around 4:45 what I was trying to say was that some studies show LGBTQ+ students hook up at a rate 75% higher than straight students, not that they hook up at a 75% rate. Sorry for misspeaking!
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  51. ⁠ @Kivlor  This person is stating their qualifications to give background into their experience with the topic. And the quote from me was pointing out the hypocrisy of Brian’s cheap shot, right after I spent several minutes explaining why appeal to authority is not a valid argument. No one here is doing what you’re accusing them of doing.
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  53. I’m so happy to hear that!! Best of luck to you and your boyfriend😊❤️
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  54. I'm working on a video for cultivating deeper emotional intimacy, hope that one helps!
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  55. I was hoping I'd see examples like this in the comments! I love seeing people realize insights like this
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  56. This 👏🏻
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  57. Exactly lol they even acknowledged she’s a portrayal of “stereotypical Barbie” while showcasing that there are many types of Barbies! It reminds me of the scene in the movie where Barbie got called a fascist just for existing😂
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  58. Definitely!
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  59. 😂
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  60. Ahah no, not unless there's also a physically attractive person there 😂
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  61. After recording this video, I continued diving even deeper into the 0.01% claim. Aside from the claim that this is Gottman’s finding and the claim that this is the Gallup 1997 Poll’s finding (both of which I have found zero evidence for), I found that other Christian blogposts cite a different “source” altogether called The Retrouvaille International Handbook, 2005. For instance, on CouplePrayer.com, it says the following: “In 1980, it was found that couples who were either praying  together or reading the bible together daily, and also attending church together weekly, experienced a divorce rate of less than 1 divorce in every 1105 marriages.” They cite their source as “Retrouvaille International Handbook, 2005.” Retrouvaille is another Christian website that appears to do couple retreats. I could find no such handbook or research on Retrouvaille’s website or through Google as a whole: https://helpourmarriage.org/ However, a different site that cites the same Retrouvaille “study” says the following: “Significant evidence is demonstrating that married couples who pray, study scripture, attend church, and otherwise jointly participate in spiritual activities enjoy significantly higher levels of marital happiness and satisfaction. A national research study in the United States (1980) cited in Retrouvaille’s International Handbook 2005 established that married couples who attend church together weekly and read the Bible or pray together daily have a divorce rate of approximately 1 in every 1,105 marriages.” https://adventist.uk/fileadmin/shared-data/resources/family-ministries/General_Articles/Couple_Prayer_-_The_Great_Untapped_Resource.pdf Therefore, it appears that, even if this Retrouvaille handbook exists, it is merely citing someone else’s research from 1980. It’s not clear to me whose research exactly they would be citing (since I can find neither this handbook nor a scientific article making this claim), and it’s certainly interesting that no one is citing the original study directly. The closest thing to a name that I could find for this original study is "a national research study in the United States (1980)," which is not a valid citation. I would think that such a groundbreaking study, even if it's from 1980, would be name-dropped constantly across scientific communities. This begs the question: Do blogpost claims like these try to make it harder to find the original source? If so, is that because the original source doesn’t exist? And why do the different blogposts cite slight variations of the same statistic? Some say it’s 1 in 1,105, others say 1,150, and others 1,500. Why not just stick with the same statistic? Why are they all citing different sources for slightly different statistics? Let me know what you think. Edit: I made a couple verbal typos in the video that I'd like to correct. At 11:51, I meant Arizona Christian University, not Arizona State University. Also, at 23:03 I meant to say "the claim that Gottman found less than 1% of couples who pray together, divorce," not "the claim that Gottman found less than 1% of couples who pray together, stay together."
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  62. Taylor Black omggg that is the biggest compliment!! I was literally watching his tutorial and cutting my own hair when you sent this😂
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  63. Just scheduled one on improving self esteem! :)
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  64.  @bernadettesavage4786  Thank you for showing us a demonstrative example of how PA advocates try to gaslight and silence victims. The above commenter just explained that they felt their dad was abusive long before the disintegration of their family, and your immediate reaction is, “But kids are often manipulated and just don’t know it”? This person is presumably an ADULT now. They know the circumstances of their life better than you do. No one here is denying that parents sometimes alienate their children, but for some reason hearing people talk about their experiences with abusers weaponizing PA makes you defensive. Why is that?
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  65. I'd argue it has some survival value, but yes I agree with the sentiment :) Live for joy, not just survival!
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  66. Thank you! I had posted the announcement over on my second channel Book & Hearth, since I keep most of the more personal videos on there recently 😊
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  67. I love this! Three strikes you’re out 👏🏻
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  68. Honestly same
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  69. All the more reason for us to stand up for each other!
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  70.  @kidawesomeness123  good to know, thanks!
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  71. Your comments never miss 👏🏻
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  72. Hadn’t even thought about that! Really good point
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  73. So true, especially when we know that being in a secure relationship is the fastest route to self-love and more secure attachment. Trying to get there without any help is much harder
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  74. Right?? We live in an age where readers get mad over the smallest perceived microaggressions in books but those same people turn around and praise Colleen Hoover’s books to the heavens. I don’t understand how the book got turned into a movie.
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  75. That's a good point, my dissertation is focused on the college population cause that's where hookup culture has traditionally been most rampant, but it would be super interesting to look at other age groups, especially as the dating scene shifts moving forward
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  76. Note: I said “I’ll see you on Saturday” at the end of the video because I switched today and yesterday’s videos, but I will be posting on Mondays, Wednesdays, Fridays and Saturdays as usual!😊
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  77. Omg I laughed
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  78. Ooh interesting topic, noted!
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  79. Thank you so much to everyone sharing their own journeys with this topic in the comments. I sincerely appreciate the kind words and feel such a sense of kinship knowing that many of us share similar experiences. ❤️ Also, there were a couple of things I forgot to mention in the video: -Slowing down while eating really helped me listen to my hunger/satiety cues. It’s hard to know when to stop if you’re chewing faster than you can think. I take my time with food now, I savor it, and I check in with myself repeatedly towards the end of the meal. -My relationship with exercise also had to change. I used to work out super intensely almost every day, and I thought it would be the end of the world if I took it slower. In truth, I think I was inflamed from all the constant intense exercise! I feel much healthier now that I just try to move my body more gently. Trust me, the world won’t come crashing down if you go for a walk or some light Pilates instead of HIIT or cardio. I do think it’s important to my health to try to make some sort of movement most days, and I love a good challenge now and then, but it has to come from a place of self-love rather than punishment.
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  80. We are just a playground to her 😂
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  81. Oof yeah, pursuing content creation can sometimes turn into a repetition compulsion if you have a history of complex trauma. Having hundreds of people willfully misconstrue you, read ill intentions, project onto you, make negative assumptions, split on you, etc. is bound to be triggering at the very least, if not outwardly re-traumatizing. People love to make it seem like these things don’t matter if they happen electronically, but the brain cannot distinguish between real interactions and electronic ones.
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  82. I’m thinking of making TikTok reaction videos a series! Please tag me on TikTok if you want me to react to it or fact-check it @PsychologyWithDrAna Also, I just learned that there's a practice called "cake smash" in Australia and "mordida" in some Latin American cultures, so that definitely clarifies what happened at 8:46... If you're from a culture that has this tradition, I'd love to pick your brain about the following: What are your thoughts on this practice? Was the cake smash in question reflective of how it usually looks? I'm specifically noticing that the birthday girl pushed the other woman's hand when she tried to do it a second time, and she didn't look very happy about it, so how would you balance tradition with boundaries in such a moment?
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  83. Thank you! I’d love for more men to watch my content but sadly I think most either don’t care or even claim you can’t listen to a woman’s perspective on dating (yes, men have actually commented that. It’s their loss☺️)
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  84. Yep! The self-aggrandizement is always a compensation for deep feelings of insecurity
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  85. Well apparently a lot of women call into his show for advice! He's established himself as having a tough-love, no-nonsense reputation.
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  86. You’re certainly not the only one who thinks that! I got pretty frustrated when I was blurring out all the kids’ faces, asking myself why I as a stranger am more concerned with their privacy than their own parents. I really appreciated the two TikToks where the moms modeled behavior or just spoke about it. I hope legislation catches up to family vlogging.
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  87. Yup!! Mentioned this in my definition of a shady intellectual
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  88. Absolutely! I can understand writing a novel from the POV of someone who is confused about what she’s experiencing or even normalizing the abuse. But it has to be done very responsibly, where the reader is not left feeling like “oh man, how romantic!” I think many people are falling prey to the romanticization of abuse in Hoover’s books because it’s not super clear what her intentions were with them. An example of a book about a woman who has normalized abusive behavior is Vladimir by Julia May Jonas. The protagonist is a terrible person who enables her husband’s abuse, but I at no point in the book wondered whether I was meant to find it romantic. Themes of abuse are meant for dramas, horror, thrillers, and serious genres, not “romantic” beach reads.
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  89. 😂😂
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  90. I also love how she made it sound like women joining the workforce was something imposed on us and not, like, a right we had to fight for tooth and nail? The suffragettes would be turning in their graves.
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  91. Hi, guys! I have a couple of updates: 1. Brian Hart’s idea of consulting an actual parental alienation expert wasn’t a bad idea! For this reason, I reached out to Tina from One Mom’s Battle, who informed me that the parental alienation industry has turned discrediting victims into an entire business. Since these “therapy” groups and “reunification camps” are often uncredentialed, the “counselors” can make a profit from doing pretty much whatever they want, forcing children to reunify with their rejected parent. I’d love to do a video on these “reunification camps” where I interview children who have gone through them, as well as adult experts. I hope to do that later in the year after my maternity leave. Until then, check out the website Tina created to raise awareness about this topic:  www.alienationindustry.com 2. This morning, my husband was sifting through my Spam folder when he realized that the email covered in this video was not the first Brian Hart has sent me. Four days before the email discussed in this video, he sent me another email instructing me to “detract misinformation.” I will respond to that email below. Hart’s email begins by saying that my “primary citation seems to have been from the ideologically biased Gendered Domestic Violence Law Professor's non-peer-reviewed paper.” His criticism of Meier’s paper parallels the way he criticized my own “lack of expertise” and “bias” on this topic, without actually explaining what is wrong with the contents of her article. In reality, Meier is a professor of clinical law at the George Washington University and a domestic violence expert. Moreover, the article that Hart is talking about in his email is not the same article as the one I referenced. He refers to an article she wrote in 2021, whereas my citation was from 2009. The article I cited was in fact peer-reviewed and published in the Journal of Child Custody. According to the journal itself, “The journal is anonymously peer reviewed with an interdisciplinary editorial board comprised of child custody evaluators, mental health, social work, law enforcement and medical professionals, researchers, attorneys, and judges committed to the safety and best interests of children and families, especially as they relate to various types of court cases.” Hart then disputes the claim that parental alienation is not recognized by professional associations. He references diagnoses from the DSM-5 and ICD-11 that, as I mentioned in this video, could encompass alienating a child, but do not explicitly reference it. He neglects to mention that parental alienation is not explicitly referenced in these diagnostic manuals because the concept was rejected for lacking scientific rigor. Hart provides a long list of articles to support his claim that prominent professional organizations do in fact recognize PA theory as valid. However, many of the articles do not support his conclusion. For instance, Hart states that the “American Psychological Association discusses parental alienation and alienating behaviors 20+ times in its 2022 Guidelines for Child Custody Evaluations in Family Law Proceedings.” https://www.apa.org/about/policy/child-custody-evaluations.pdf However, when I click on this link, I can only find 6 mentions of parental alienation, and 5 of them are from the citations section. The only time parental alienation is mentioned in the article itself is to say, “Addressing parent–child contact problems can be a controversial concept in child custody proceedings (Fidler & Bala, 2020; Nielson, 2018). These problems may be subsumed under such terms as resist–refusal dynamics, alienating behaviors, domestic violence and/or child abuse, restrictive gatekeeping, and parental alienation, among others. While there is a large body of research and literature on this topic, there are also many nonscientific-based texts.” And this: “Child custody evaluators may have overt or unacknowledged opinions about some topics such as alienation, gender, family dynamics, victim credibility or behavior, or high-conflict families. Psychologists strive to familiarize themselves with current scientific studies that dispel such bias, which may interfere with their impartiality, such as assuming joint custody is better for children than sole custody in all cases (Steinbach & Augustijn, 2022).” I am not sure why Hart would try to make it sound like the American Psychological Association promotes parental alienation theory in this article, considering the article acknowledges the controversial nature of PA theory and recurrently emphasizes the need to take abuse allegations seriously. As far as I can tell, the American Psychological Association has only made one official statement on parental alienation, which can be found here: https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2008/01/pas-syndrome It states, “The American Psychological Association believes that all mental health practitioners as well as law enforcement officials and the courts must take any reports of domestic violence in divorce and child custody cases seriously. An APA 1996 Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family noted the lack of data to support so-called "parental alienation syndrome", and raised concern about the term's use. However, we have no official position on the purported syndrome.” Hart also cites an article by the World Health Organization, yet when I click on this article, it is an explanation of why the WHO has decided NOT to include parental alienation in the ICD-11: https://www.who.int/standards/classifications/frequently-asked-questions/parental-alienation Some of Hart’s other citations include opinion pieces, sources from right-leaning Christian organizations such as the Institute for Family Studies, and articles tangentially associated with professional organizations that do not demonstrate the unequivocal support for PA that he’s framing them to have. Honestly, the more I look into Hart’s sources and counterarguments, the more concerned I become with the inaccuracies and misrepresentations I find. I guess the rabbit hole just keeps getting deeper.
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  92. I am SO excited to announce that I've launched a 4+ hour relationship skills course: psychologywithdrana.learnworlds.com/course/the-connection-course For those of you who like videos such as this one and want more, definitely check it out :)
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  93. Sorry you experienced that! Not sure about the age-related question but studies do find that attractive women are penalized by other women in the workplace.
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  94. That’s a good one too!!
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  95. Wow I love this!
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  96. Thank you so much for sharing! :)
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  97. Thanks for the suggestion, I'll add it to my list :)
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  98. Sorry to hear that! To echo what the person above said, I appreciate that you acknowledge this was your individual experience and do not generalize it to the entire field as a whole. There are a lot of considerations when it comes to a person’s presenting concern, therapist style, therapeutic technique, and therapeutic relationship. I’ve certainly had not-so-great therapists in the past, too. It’s really just a matter of finding the right fit. And honestly, I don’t think everyone needs therapy if it’s not for them!
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  99. This comment wins
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  100. Does that work for you? (I realize this sounds sarcastic but I promise I am not intending it that way, I'm genuinely curious)
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  101. Yes I was actually haha
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  103. A HUGE thank you to everyone who already bought the journaling workbook! I woke up the day after to find out that it had ranked #1 Top New Release in its category, as well as making it to the Amazon bestsellers list in every genre where it was categorized :') Words can't describe how happy I felt! Please don't forget to leave a review once you get your copy https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CDNMSYKJ
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  104. I’m with you on that one :( I’ve honestly been pretty upset the past few weeks and needed to take social media breaks because of how much vitriol I’ve been seeing.
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  106. Oh no! I had no idea there are people who don't take friendship breakups seriously :(
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  107. It makes me so sad to think about someone making cakes and giving gifts that were taken for granted. But it sounds like you've done a lot of work to introspect and grow from that :)
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  108. I’ll do a separate video on LGBT issues soon! I’m sorry that the research on this is so heteronormative :(
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  109. I just realized that I forgot another reason why someone might believe in ghosts: loneliness/lack of security. Like I mentioned, I stopped fearing sleeping with my hand on my pillow at age 22, and that was the age that I moved in with my partner. For the first time in my life, there was a sense of security, that there is someone there to protect you even in your most vulnerable state (sleep). For some people, I think fear of ghosts may also be a fear of their own presence, of the silence when no one else is around, of the scariness of their own thoughts.
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  110. I’m sure that must have been incredibly difficult for you, and I agree that no quality person would judge someone for that! That’s why I didn’t recommend avoiding divorced people as partners, only people who do not understand their past mistakes or have not grown from them (divorced or not). I sincerely hope I didn’t offend you❤️
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  111. That’s super interesting and helpful!
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  112.  @bernadettesavage4786  This is going to be my last response to you because I don’t get the sense you’re arguing in good faith. -Abusers are the ones using the term parental alienation. The original commenter used the term because their father claimed parental alienation. -I said at multiple points throughout the video that alienation harms children. My husband also pointed out that children need both their parents and I agreed with him. The fact that you didn’t listen to our words doesn’t make our words any less real. I’m not going to waste more time giving you the exact timestamps because I have a feeling it wouldn’t make a bit of a difference.
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  113. Not a psychologist just yet, but I appreciate it :)
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  114. Oh wow, yeah we don't even know what we have scratched the surface of
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  115. Haha thank you! It's been since August 🥳
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  116. Oh absolutely
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  117. I knew I would need to use humor if I was going to make it through this video 😂
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  118. I feel you! As I was making this video, I didn't have anyone specific in mind, but watching it afterwards made me realize "oh that sounds like [someone I know]" or "damn, I remembered I did this one time." I think it's great to use such opportunities for self-improvement :)
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  119. Love the self-awareness growth journey!
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  120. I felt COMPLETELY the same. Hated her in the beginning for her self-righteousness, but by the end it was completely overshadowed by Walt’s behavior
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  121. Might be even more worthwhile without seeking a quick fix! At least that’s how it was for me
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  122. That's a great suggestion, thank you
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  123. Sorry that the video went black at the end before I got to do my outro! Not sure why this happened, but I was done with the bulk of the content anyway :)
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  124. 😂😂
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  125. The attribution style test: https://tinyurl.com/attributionstylequiz
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  126. I agree that we all manipulate from time to time, but some people do it so chronically that I think it’s important to call a spade a spade
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  127. I see what you mean, but women call “hot” men creepy or different versions of the word all the time. After all, even in Euphoria, Rue implied that Nate was creepy for making an unsolicited move on her at the dance. If a woman’s not into it and a man is too persevering, it’s creepy no matter how he looks. A woman might just be more likely to be into his moves if she’s attracted to him.
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  128.  @hanako4571  they’re a troll, don’t worry🙄 I am not an anti-masker haha
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  129. If you don't stay for the whole video, I highly recommend jumping to 8:07 for an adorable moment ;)
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  130. This comment warms my heart so much, thank you!
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  131. True, there's gotta be a foundation of established warmth and positive regard
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  132. Such a good point!
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  133. I'm so sorry!
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  134. Hi!
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  135. Yep I’ve been there too! We live and we learn
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  136. Good to know! So why put it on dating apps then—just a lack of other photos?
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  137. hahaha am I the only one that finds self-improvement homework fun?
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  138. Halloweek came early this year🎃 Sorry for the extra long intro today but it's for a really important cause!
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  139. To be clear, I don't think there's anything wrong with needing space! If that's the impression I gave in point #1, I must not have done a very good job of expressing myself. What I was hoping to convey is that there's nothing wrong with wanting to spend most of your time with your partner, either. There will of course be occasions to go out and do your thing independently, and that's perfectly great too. I completely agree with you that people sometimes use time spent apart as a way to get even closer to their partner, because they have so much more to share that they did on their own.
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  140. You're correct, and yes you will!
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  141. Hope the ~experimental~ eye makeup wasn’t too distracting, I was headed to a concert😂
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  142. It’s in the DSM-5!
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  143. Such a good point! There’s a reason baby’s cries are called coercive cries, because they’re supposed to get their parents’ attention. It might be unpleasant to hear, but otherwise, I’m sure many parents would dismiss the cries and think, “Eh, I don’t think he needs my attention that badly.”
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  144. Ahh I’m sorry to hear that :/
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  145. The mental health journaling workbook for anyone interested: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CDNMSYKJ Once you receive it, please leave a review! :)
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  146. It’s where dads take their daughters on the verge of puberty to a dad/daughter dance and the daughters pledge to stay virgins. They even get a “purity ring” 🤮
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  147. I agree, unfortunately there is a lot of martyrdom expected of healthcare workers :/
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  148. I think any boundary you’re setting that’s related to not wanting a specific type of partner is valid. People have a right to not be in a relationship with someone who is not living up to their expectations. The way you’re describing it sounds a little bit more like an ultimatum, but I think sometimes ultimatums like that are necessary in communicating to someone your expectations. It can be done in a gentle way, such as, “I really value ambition in a partner. This is something very important to me, because xyz. When you do x or you don’t do y, this makes me think that maybe we’re not a good match. I think we should talk about this and see whether this is something we can work through or not.” And thank you! It’s from Shein :)
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  149. Such a good point about the hypocrisy of saying their behavior is caused by their own parents but their kids’ behavior is not at all influenced by their parenting 👏🏻
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  150. I hope it doesn't drive you as crazy as it drives me that I made a typo for the word "cynicism" at 5:16 🫠 Anyway, hope you're all having a good start of the week!
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  151. I completely get that! On one hand it’s great to strive for the healthiest communication, and on the other hand it’s important to see where your partner’s communication style is coming from. I’m glad to hear you’re doing a combination of both, and it can definitely be frustrating to walk that fine line
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  152. Thanks for sharing!
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  153. The equivalent of a narcissistic, sexist dad wouldn’t look quite like a mirror of this—he might still value his sons more than his daughters, be hyper-controlling and sexualizing to his daughters… Yes, he might see his sons as competition, but he probably still wouldn’t value women. Edit: because narcissistic women tend to use sexism as a tool against other women, whereas narcissistic men tend to see gender as proof that they belong to a “superior” group
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  154. I do think there are valuable and responsible ways to use it, but the average young person has long surpassed that threshold
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  155. I promise this is the last time I’ll be using this mic lol sorry for the bad audio quality
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  156. Thank you so much!
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  157. Absolutely! Modeling healthy accountability can be so refreshing for people that aren't used to it.
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  158. Only $1000 for 800 sq ft? That would be almost $4000 in some of the cities I’ve lived in!
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  159. I wanted to go a little deeper into this around 7:50 but forgot to include it: As far as not giving your partner the impression that telling the truth will result in punishment or judgment, it may be helpful to cultivate an open, accepting line of communication with them. Make it known that you can take bad news and self-regulate, that you won't blame them for things that aren't their fault, that you'll treat them with compassion even for their mistakes. Of course, it's another story if the truth they need to tell you is something very hurtful (e.g. that they cheated on you), and in that case you're completely within your right to be upset. But as far as everyday unpleasant truths go, letting your partner know that you can take it will help minimize them lying to avoid punishment.
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  160. That means so much❤️
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  161.  @JemRuby  oh that’s true! That makes me feel better 😂
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  162. Absolutely! When I said cost/benefit analysis, I was imagining healthy, relationally functioning human beings who base these estimations on (as you said) interests, personality, values, and compatibility. But it's very true that there are people out there who base their estimations on other things.
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  163. I agree, a lot of the toxicity in what I’m describing can be related to the total rejection of any feminine qualities. Like you said, too much of any one thing can be bad
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  164. I may or may not have gone on a bit of a Victorian shopping spree recently
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  165. Yep, I believe “silenced into submission” was it word for word!
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  166. I am SO excited to announce that I've launched a 4+ hour relationship skills course: psychologywithdrana.learnworlds.com/course/the-connection-course For those of you who like videos like this one and want more, definitely check it out :)
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  167. I just realized an hour late that the fundraiser wasn’t connected to the video, but it is now! Thank you so much if you decide to donate ❤️
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  168. I’m sorry 🥲
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  169. We recorded this a while ago but if I remember correctly, the “little b” part was improv 😂
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  170. Yeah it depends on the situation! Are they saying it to shut down discourse? Because they themselves don’t feel the conversation is productive or don’t feel heard? Because they’re not trying to get roped into a debate?
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  171. Yes!! This is why I have a whole template in The Personal Growth Journal where you identify an archetype (of someone who has the mindset you want), and then you list off their attributes and try to embody that archetype yourself. Not only is it effective, but it's also fun!
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  172. My grandma uses that phrase a lot too! :) Love it
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  173. I’m sorry you went through that🥺 Of course children are not born bad! It breaks my heart to read that someone made you believe that about yourself.
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  174. I'm sorry to hear that :/ Hopefully you're able to mask as an extrovert when necessary and recharge as much as possible while staying true to the fact that there's nothing wrong with you
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  175. For any marketing consulting needs, check out Nikolai’s website at www.bonsaiglobal.io 🌳 Also I can’t stop laughing at how hard he was staring at the camera 😂
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  176. This is a good point, and one I hadn't thought of. But if fishing is a person's hobby, why not have a photo of them fishing or out on a boat? There's something that feels a bit primal about holding up a dead animal that you killed. It also makes me wonder if that person feels insecure about his masculinity.
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  177. 🚀 Try the #1 AI powered personal productivity time-blocking tool, Akiflow, today: https://akiflow.pro/ana
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  178.  @kevinschaaf2541  it’s always a combination of nature and nurture, but ADHD is one of the disorders that leans the most toward neurobiological and genetic factors
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  179. It’s the sock method but trust me they don’t look like this all day😅
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  180. ​ @lucasessmantoo  If the original commenter was asking about my own personal life, the answer is no. But even if I did have something to worry about, I don't see divorce as a moral failing. A relationship isn't a sunk cost just because it doesn't last forever.
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  181. That’s a great example of how beauty standards can sometimes go hand in hand with power structures like colorism, thank you for sharing. I’m glad you learned to see the beauty in yourself!❤️
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  182. Visit my sponsor https://zocdoc.com/ana to easily book local, top-rated doctors who can see you quickly.
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  183. You take notes?? 🥺 feel honored!
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  184. I want to make a couple clarifications that I didn’t get a chance to make in the video itself: - If your loved one is in serious danger (whether it be refusal to eat anything, potentially life-threatening weight, etc.), your primary focus should absolutely be on saving their life. In those cases, hospitalization may be required. This video is not specific to people who are at an extremely low weight or have an extremely severe disorder; it is for people along the spectrum of disordered eating/eating disorders who are not in immediate danger. - This video focuses on more restrictive eating disorders such as Anorexia Nervosa, Bulimia Nervosa, Orthorexia, Purging Disorder, etc. Issues like Binge Eating Disorder are obviously also eating disorders, but they are not necessarily food-restrictive and require a different type of approach. - Sorry about the botched green-screen! I won’t be filming with it again LOL
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  185. I used to practice primarily CBT. Perhaps I misspoke in the video--what I was trying to say is that, out of all the theoretical orientations, CBT is the only one whose trauma treatment relies on exposure to the traumatic memory and triggers. I agree that it doesn't "push people to disclose their trauma" when done well but, out of all the different treatments, it's the closest one to what Abigail describes, at least in my opinion.
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  186. We met at mutual friends' house party
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  187. She's doing great!! More spoiled than ever. Her latest hobby is peering into the kitchen sink hole for no reason
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  188. Noted
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  189. I knew with this video that it was gonna be VERY obvious who didn’t watch to the end
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  190. Not too much you can do to control another person’s behavior! You can only communicate the effect it has on you and urge them to work on it through therapy/educating themselves
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  191. We might be able to understand it as adults, and I do feel for her, but parents also have a responsibility to consider how their posts on social media might emotionally impact their children at a later time. This TikTok has been viewed by 10 million people.
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  192. Hi all! Just a quick clarification cause I feel like I didn’t explain this clearly enough in the video itself: When I talk about belief in demons as a sign of psychological immaturity caused by early trauma, I was talking specifically about the use of defense mechanisms where we categorize certain people as “all bad,” not the belief in demons per se. Obviously there are a ton of people out there who believe in demons and are not psychologically immature, but the demonization of actual people is a different and more concerning phenomenon. Also, all of us use these defense mechanisms to some degree, but when we use them frequently/excessively is when they are a sign of psychological immaturity. Just thought I’d clarify that cause I don’t to make it seem like I’m pathologizing people who believe in demons :) Anyway, have a great weekend!!
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  193. Absolutely! Just like you said, it's not that there's inherently anything wrong with doing things that aren't necessarily empowering to your group as a whole, but labeling them as empowerment does a disservice to progress
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  194. Aw you're so sweet! <3
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  195. I always like to tell people it sounds like a mix between Italian and Russian! :)
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  196. Woke up today and felt really seen after reading this comment. It's interesting cause I've heard people in professional settings call me "stoic" before. And when I was editing the jump-scare part, I actually turned to my partner and asked, "Is this okay? Does this make me less professional?" He replied, "Therapists are allowed to have fun too, you know." And I really struggle with that, cause there's such a huge pressure within the field to always portray yourself 100% professional cause what if a client sees you when you're off the clock. Anyway, just thanks for noticing and appreciating that I'm a multi-dimensional person. It doesn't go unappreciated. :)
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  197. It would literally just be me yelling at the camera for 20 minutes and then not being able to upload it
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  198. You sound awesome! I love that you can own your strengths like that
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  199. I’m diving into how specific aspects of people’s identities (sexual orientation, race, religion, SES) influence their experience with hookup culture in a later video :)
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  200.  @jjjjjjjjj3000 I’m curious about the use of the word "discarding" to describe choosing to distance yourself from someone who has disrespected your boundaries on multiple occasions. I think the reason this word feels touchy is because, from what I've observed, the people doing the "discarding" are usually the very people who trample over others' boundaries, not the ones begging to be treated kindly. Yes, there are times when distancing yourself from someone is not possible. In those situations, emotion regulation & radical acceptance are probably going to be your best friends. If that sounds very serene and simple, I don't mean for it to sound this way. Coming to a place of radical acceptance is usually a very painful journey, and it requires recognizing that you are trapped between a rock and a hard place. As for the issue of not having enough people to keep around, I’m actually recording a video today on the importance of not approaching friendship with a scarcity mindset! in my experience, all you need is a handful of quality people in your life, because surrounding yourself with the wrong people is far more painful than being alone.
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  201.  @DSS712  Erica’s message is directed primarily at mothers, both in her books and interviews. There’s a reason why even Steven called her out on it. There’s a reason why so many mothers who watched the original interview said it made them feel terrible about themselves (interestingly, I haven’t seen any fathers saying that). Theres a reason why she lamented the women’s liberation movement. There’s a reason why even I, who have the privilege of a flexible work from home schedule and a similar psychodynamic lens to Erica, was put off by her message. She may have backpedaled and made certain caveats in the interview, but her message was pretty clearly geared at mothers specifically. Because women breastfeed and because she thinks being nurturing doesn’t “come naturally to most men,” her message primarily harms women.
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  202. I think you might like my upcoming video on stoicism :)
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  203. A few months ago! Thank you :)
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  204. Small nuance there but I would say responsibility rather than accountability, cause the latter implies blame while the former does not :)
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  205. 😂
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  206. Absolutely! I thought it was interesting that the content creator in the video I referenced said "let's discuss WHY this research is true" rather than "let's look into the research and see IF it's really true"
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  207. For sure!
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  208.  @imrannazir6931  I grew up in such a household for the first few years of my life, sharing a 3-bedroom house with 6-8 other relatives. I don't remember loneliness being a big issue at that time, but my experience also isn't representative of everyone in such situations🤷‍♀I'm sure there's a lot of variation.
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  209. So true
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  210. It's really hard to not absorb the projection!
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  211. Clickbait is promising one thing in the title/thumbnail and delivering another in the video. I delivered what was promised in the title. Unfortunately, the way that the algorithm works is that the same video will hardly get as much engagement unless it's catchy, and that is something I have to be smart about while remaining truthful to the content of the video.
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  212. Very glad you found it improved your life! I agree that divorce often gets demonized and I personally don't consider it a moral failure. However, the research is pretty grim in terms of the psychological consequences for the family, so prevention is a good idea.
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  213. Absolutely! When someone shows you their true colors, be glad there’s one less snake in your garden 🐍
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  214. I love reading this insight!!
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  215. I have a video titled “watch this if you’ve been called controlling” that might be helpful for you :) kudos to you for being proactive about not wanting to hurt others!
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  216. Love to hear this success story! :)
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  217. Didn't come across any of that in either the preexisting literature or my participants' experiences😅
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  218. I really appreciate the compassion with which you talk about your parents!
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  219. I’m planning to also make a video on polyamory sometime soon! However I do want to mention that it’s not true that all people continue to be attracted to others once they’re in a relationship, some people shut off their emotional and physical attraction to others and that’s fine too :)
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  220. Oof that sounds more like MIStreating a child than like treating you like a child. None of these behaviors are a good way to even act around a child. I'm glad you got out!
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  221. I honestly might
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  222. Absolutely! ACT and DBT draw from a lot of Buddhist and Taoist concepts
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  223. Go to http://shortform.com/drana for a free trial and 20% off! Access thousands of the best book summaries for the price of one book per month.
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  224. I think we women have a long way to go in terms of not idealizing men we’ve never met and treating other women as competition. It’s what we’re socialized to do, but it’s once again our responsibility to do better. The world would be a kinder place to women if we demanded it.
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  225. Noted, and thank you very much!
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  226. So when I mentioned “a streetcar named desire” around 5:50, I was actually talking about “A Dollhouse”. Ironic because I was just talking about dolls as a microcosmic symbol right before that!
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  227. These were the results with a silk bonnet😅
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  228. Yep, we all lie somewhere on the spectrum like a bell curve, with most people containing a few subthreshold narcissistic traits, very few people that have none at all, and very few people that meet criteria for NPD. The issue is that people are now conflating NPD with subclinical narcissistic traits and use this as a justification for why they're "not diagnosing anyone." In reality, determining where someone falls on that spectrum is a challenging and complex process that should be done by professionals, especially since we also need to rule out other disorders that may present with similar symptoms.
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  229. Projection is one hell of a drug
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  230. It was so nice meeting you, thanks for saying hi! :) For your sake, I sincerely hope I didn't have COVID yet when we met. (Also, I'm not from Arizona! We drive up from Seattle a lot)
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  231. Sometimes people say things like that as a way of reassurance-seeking when they’re feeling body distress, and the responses they get may give them a temporary moment of relief but then the reassurance-seeking compulsion worsens. Hardly anyone knows not to feed into it, don’t feel bad! You responded the best you could with the information you had. ❤
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  232. Well put!
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  233. Happy birthday!
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  234. Wow I'm glad I haven't seen any of those videos, I must be on the right side of the algorithm. As for woke intellectualism, while I can't speak to what the original creator meant, I would define it as people justifying their hatred of a person by using intellectual-sounding arguments, choosing to frame someone as "all bad" because of their perceived imperfection or mistakes.
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  235. Why do you think it sounds condescending? :) I personally would respond much better to something like that instead of "you never take out the trash on time" but ultimately everyone has different personal and cultural communication preferences.
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  236. My goal isn't necessarily to convince women what to do, just to provide psychoeducation on what the research says and provide support to those who are struggling with this phenomenon. Haven't heard of that channel, I'll try to look into it
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  237. I agree! Thanks for sharing, and thanks for the kind wishes💕
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  238. I don't know the context here, but I thought it was very strange that he recommended people go to MLMs to become "better salespeople".... I just took that part with a grain of salt 😅 What is his relation to MLMs exactly?
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  239. I was expecting this type of comment! I used to provide therapy at an art university, so I saw firsthand how much turmoil it can cause people to suddenly be graded and financially motivated while doing their passion. So, I don't doubt that monetizing your passion has its drawbacks. But for me personally, nothing beats the feeling of spending my day in flow, doing what I intrinsically love. I can feel myself getting physically ill when I spend long periods of time doing something that I'm not passionate about.
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  240. Of course❤️ people need to pay more attention to such an erased and marginalized but wonderful group
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  241. Oh for sure, which is why I think it can be helpful to go into this fully expecting that the other person might not react well. But it can still feel refreshing every now and then!
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  242. That's actually very similar to a technique called de-catastrophizing the worst-case scenario! It can definitely be helpful in some situations :)
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  243. Wrong header card at 4:30 🫠 hope it doesn’t annoy the rest of you as much as it annoys me lol
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  244. I definitely get the appeal of meeting people more organically, and I'm honestly kind of glad that my husband and I met IRL. With that said, I know many lovely couples who met through dating apps and I think technology opens a lot of doors for people, if used smartly.
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  245. It’s funny, I recorded this before that fiasco happened, and I couldn’t believe the synchronicity of it
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  246. I’m really happy to hear that! To be perfectly frank, it’s well timed for me too, as I’m currently catastrophizing internship applications🥲
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  247. That's the conclusion I came to, as well! We need to move to a place where people can do what's best for them rather than being pushed into a specific direction by the culture
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  248. About 9 hours left to get the Mental Health Bundle! Learn about the 70+ courses and ebooks included in the bundle (including my own, The Connection Course) here: https://www.thementalhealthbundle.com/?sa=sa015969818347f4622da6b3334d0a356f9d6dd54e
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  249. TheRisingEmboar so I think it’s normal for some situations to be more anxiety-provoking/debilitating than others! You might just be high-functioning (which I get can be confusing, cause functioning is often used to determine severity of a disorder- just remember that distress also matters in determining severity, and distress is much more subjective and difficult to demonstrate). It could also just be that more “casual” interactions get you more nervous for some reason, which I can certainly understand. For some people, making small talk might be harder than going to an interview, for example!
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  250. Yess, thanks for noticing!
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  251. Breaking intergenerational patterns, I love it!!
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  252. You're very right, a video on boundaries is very important! I'll plan one soon :) Boundaries usually have an if/then structure like you said, so I should specify why it's not the same as emotional blackmail
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  253. I’m so sorry :( when you need to take notes, that’s how you know things are not going in a healthy direction...
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  254. As someone who adores TJ, I can completely see that. The people who work there are incredibly warm but I’ve often wondered if their chattiness is mandated by policy :/
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  255. Definitely a very important question! I'm not sure if there have been studies done to answer this question because there would be a ton of cultural variance at play confounding individualism and collectivism, but I can look into it :)
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  256. Unfortunately I really don't have the bandwidth to add a podcast to my responsibilities right now!
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  257. Thank you for saying this, my head was spinning during the researching and writing of this video too, so that's very validating to hear. And yes, I actually know some people who worked with the Gottmans since we live in the same city and work in the same field, so maybe I'll let them know
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  258. Yep 👏🏻 I totally forgot to talk about how these should be hypotheses, not assumptions, and that it can be equally insightful to see whether your hypotheses were confirmed or not
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  259. I haven’t done a deep dive on her entire life, and this review is limited to her book. Although I stated that some of the stuff in the book can be dangerous, I just don’t have strong feelings on her for some reason. At the end of the day, I don’t know her or the truth about who she is🤷🏻‍♀️
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  260. To tell you the truth, I'm not even sure what that is!
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  261. LOL
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  262. I’ve noticed that too, super gross
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  263. This person self-identified as her friend, so no, they were friends according to him. And there's nothing wrong with deciding not to stay friends with someone, but there's a difference between doing so and actively punishing someone/isolating them from their friend group because you felt rejected.
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  264. You’re proving my point by judging what I have to say based on my looks
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  265. Yeah I’m talking about crying it out vs soothing a child in this video because abuse is never an alternative, but if it were between crying it out and abusing a child, of course the latter would be more detrimental.
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  266. This made me CACKLE 😂
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  267. I’ve heard great things about him but haven’t had the chance to watch his channel! Now I have to look into it :)
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  268. Omg 😂😂
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  269. How is someone sharing their life experiences bragging? Many people, myself included, love watching other people's joyful experiences and find it inspiring
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  270. Thank you so much💗 i don’t feel too overworked, it’s more a matter of how cringe it feels to post my thoughts online but I’m gonna push through because I have big plans for this channel😁
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  271. While I agree that sometimes clickbait is good to rope in a specific audience and surprise them with good advice, I don't think taking part in these behaviors with the mindset of "I'm going to get my ex back" is quite as effective as going into them with the mindset of "I'm going to heal myself as a person." Though I'm sure there are some people who inadvertently heal as a result, and if so, whatever works!
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  272. I have a lot to say on the topic but I frankly feel uncomfortable with the way content creators have been monetizing this case to propel them into a new level of subscribers. Maybe at some point I’ll feel comfortable speaking up about it, but for now I’m just trying to stay out of this
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  273. I can definitely look into what studies there are on this!
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  274. Interesting, was this a fairly aggressive group of people in their communication style?
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  275. Yess, this is an amazing analogy!
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  276. That’s actually one of the distinctions I usually consider—is this person likely to actually change their behavior if I point out what’s bothering me? When I stop to think about the times i decided to finally phase someone out, I had either already expressed my grievances many times and/or had reason to believe this person would not change. And regardless, it is not my responsibility to make someone change, nor do I have that power. I’ve known people who I explicitly told “this is why I’m ending this friendship” and I knew that they would go on to keep doing the same thing with the next person. The effect on me, however, was not great. My resting heart rate went up to 130 bpm, they kept trying to contact me, they told their friends to remove me on social media, etc. It’s just not worth the costs for me 🤷🏻‍♀️
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  277. Those are great things to notice!!
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  278. Women are not a monolith. Every person has different preferences for a partner. If you want to know the general trends, check out my video on "the ideal partner." For me personally, I value empathy, humor, a peaceful temperament, flexibility, hard work, insightfulness, supportiveness, etc.
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  279.  @Nikkers8  There’s expressing disagreement and then there’s exemplifying exactly the mechanisms I talked about in this video. The people commenting that someone they’ve never met is a “narcissistic, entitled brat” have not actually watched the video past the introduction, let’s be for real😂 If they had, they might see the irony.
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  280. Oof I hope she’s familiar with libel laws first!
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  281. I agree that it can be a much more active search and come less naturally than other avenues of dating :)
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  282. Favorite books including The Whole Brain Child: https://www.amazon.com/shop/anapsychology/list/2U86DCGR39MB9 As an Amazon affiliate I earn from qualifying purchases!
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  283. The Personal Growth Journal is out early! https://a.co/d/f4SxSBy Also, I am SO excited to announce that I've launched a 4+ hour relationship skills course: psychologywithdrana.learnworlds.com/course/the-connection-course For those of you who like videos like this one and want more, definitely check it out :)
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  284. That’s an awesome insight! Yes, unfortunately many people think the way to treat children is to mistreat them :(
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  285. Yes, I no longer identify with any political label. I make up my mind about each topic given the information I have at hand. The last thing I want is to swing from one side to the other.
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  286. That's kind of a relief to hear! And I agree, a few years of your life may not seem long in the grand scheme of things and in the context of anticipated rewards, but any extended period of time spent in unsustainable environments is bound to take effect on the body.
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  287. Hence why I said in the video that your gut instinct isn't always about the other person and you have to assess what it's actually signaling to you before deciding how to proceed
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  288. This is a really thought-provoking point. I can definitely see how no parental involvement/ “natural consequences” would be risky in the context of physical safety. I would hope that even gentle parents intervene when that is the case! On the other hand, I do think letting kids make mistakes and learn from the natural consequences is less harmful than micro-managing their every move, in the context of something that doesn’t endanger them physically. Now that I think of it, I realize that my definition of “natural consequences” throughout this video was not quite what gentle parents might mean by the term. When I said natural consequences, I was referring to the parent choosing an appropriate consequence that emulates what would happen outside the home, but I guess technically that wouldn’t be a natural consequence since there’s parental involvement. Here’s an example of what I mean by natural consequence: A child doesn’t want to finish their dinner, so the parent lets them stop eating even though they get hungry shortly thereafter. When they get hungry, they can have the leftovers. This would be very different from forcing the child to eat or making them go to bed hungry, which I would describe as an overly punitive consequence.
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  289. That’s good to hear, cause it was filmed last Christmas 😂
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  290. lunarsnow I’ll definitely note that for a future video! :)
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  291. That’s so sweet! :)
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  292. Coming in a couple weeks!
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  293. I'm not sure I understand the question. Can you please clarify what specifically would worry me about it?
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  294. My literature review and own study found that hookup culture is huge among African-American groups (less so in Hispanic and Asian groups). I'll talk about that in a later video but, as one participant of color described it, hookup culture can be "rampant" among people of color
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  295. Wait you’re hilarious😂
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  296. Sounds like it might be related to attachment style!
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  297. If there’s one thing I know for sure, it’s that the internet has a very misguided understanding of what narcissism is😂 And of course I don’t know your specific situation, but generally yes, it is a form of emotional blackmail and extremely manipulative if someone holds financial dependence over your head as a way to control your decisions.
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  298. Edit: I’m trying to respond to the person responding to OP, but that comment keeps disappearing on my end for some reason. This is my response to that response: I think we’re talking about two very different things here, and it’s important that they aren’t conflated. The first issue is that we should generally believe victims. The second issue is that false repressed memories are unfortunately a very real thing. Study after study shows that memories are extremely vulnerable to influence. These two things are separate. If someone spontaneously and organically remembers a previously buried memory, they should be believed. But repressed trauma “therapy” that encourages and even pushes people into recalling false memories is not trauma-informed. Truly trauma-informed therapy will never push someone into unearthing a memory that doesn’t organically come up. If someone is using the fact that our memories are vulnerable to manipulation as a way to discredit a victim, that’s a total misuse of the fact that false memories exist. You can only claim "false memory" if you have proof that someone pressured the victim into fabricating a memory. Not just because you don’t want to believe a victim.
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  299. You'd be surprised how many people do this even in non-romantic relationships! Sometimes it's hard to stay attentive and attuned 24/7. Maybe you're focusing on something else, you don't know much about the thing the other person is mentioning, you're having a bad day yourself... And yes, like the person above commented, people get complacent after a while.
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  300. Yep, I’m aware that correlation does not equal causation. But as a woman who knows firsthand how beauty standards and gender roles directly cause body image distress, I don’t need a study to confirm that in this case, correlation absolutely equals causation.
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  302. That must have been so hard to witness :( I focused this video on PR campaigns and celebrity hate culture because it's something that's been on my mind lately, but the research can absolutely apply to the "real world" as well, so to speak!
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  303. I love this take!
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  304. Not related in the slightest
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  305. That makes my day!! Congratulations, and thank you for sharing :')
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  306. Hahaha he can't help but be funny
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  307. Noted! One of these days I hope to :)
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  308. ⬆️ THIS ⬆️
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  309. I was thinking the same thing after I edited the video! There are so many different "types" of LDRs and it feels important to discuss the differences. Unfortunately the literature on this topic is limited so I don't know of any studies that examined these differences.
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  310. I told her and she let out a delighted laugh😂❤️
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  311. I agree that resolutions are healthy even if you fail! Resolutions are really just intention-setting on an arbitrary date. There are a lot of reasons why they could fail, but I find it so bizarre to blame the act of intention-setting itself
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  312. Ooh I love this
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  313. Im sorry :/
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  314.  @nickbenedict5774  True. I guess I'd also be wary of any sort of "trophy" photos on someone's profile where it feels like the person has something to prove. I get wanting to celebrate your wins when you graduate from school, win an award, run a marathon, etc.--but wanting prospective dates to know your successes right off the bat seems like a bit of an overcompensation. It would feel more like that self-validation motive than looking for love.
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  315. I actually have a book on my long list of books to get to that is about introverts! After I read that, I will most likely make a video on it
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  316. This took dedication 😂
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  317. I completely agree! My experience has been the same
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  318. Haha don't worry I'm not offended at all, I'm a walking stereotype when it comes t that
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  319. Savannah Harold I’m so glad❤️ that means a lot!
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  321.  @Gracemeetsglobe  Yes, it’s usually quite safe! Elections look like they’re finally settling now, too, and I’d feel more comfortable walking alone through Romania than in most US cities.
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  322. Some videos are inspired by experiences I'm reflecting on in my personal life, but this one is not one of them!
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  323. I'm glad the timing worked out for you!! Hope your brother is able to get diagnostic clarification
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  325. Oh definitely! And unfortunately he passed away a couple of years ago
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  326. I can make a few videos on techniques for social anxiety if that would be helpful?
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  327. 😂
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  328. I have both scheduled. My polls are meant to assess my audience’s interest in upcoming topics, most of which I’ve already decided to release. It’s not a “which one do you pick?” but rather “which of the following videos (all of which I’m likely going to drop) are you most interested in?” It helps me figure out how to schedule them and whether there are certain topics that aren’t worth covering. There are other extenuating factors that I consider in my decision-making, too, such as a video’s time-sensitive relevancy and my own excitement about the topic. So while I completely value my audience’s preferences, it is not the only consideration I need to keep in mind. I encourage you to not assume the worst of people right away.
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  331. Regarding the first question, I’d say when you’ve communicated your needs and the other person has demonstrated on multiple occasions that they are unwilling or unable to meet them
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  332. So true, that's a pet peeve of mine too cause severe OCD can be an absolute torment!
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  333. Your boundaries are valid and it sounds like a breakup was the solution to the problem in that case🤷🏻‍♀️ don’t invalidate yourself or let others invalidate you for having reasonable boundaries!
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  334. Lol! I fell asleep before midnight on NYE 😅
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  335. I'll never forget the day ones!! <3 But I def don't expect 1M
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  336. Thank you!! :)
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  337. Thanks for sharing!! I honestly relate to this a bit since clinical psychology has such a heavy focus on pathology—it takes a more conscious effort to recognize the strengths too. My therapist and I were talking about how certain personality traits that might be maladaptive in one’s personal life could be helpful in certain vocations. For instance, black-and-white thinking could be helpful in research where a finding is either statistically significant or it’s not. Your comment is a good reminder that most of what I talk about in this video pertains to personal life, not vocational!
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  338. Because estimated rates of ADHD are over 2x higher in males vs females, I assume the DSM criteria are normed on a sample that is predominantly male and therefore may not be quite as applicable to girls/women. I'm not sure what people are saying on TikTok about gender differences, but here are the results from a meta-analysis examining gender differences in presentations of ADHD: "Gender differences were not found in impulsivity, academic performance, social functioning, fine motor skills, parental education, or parental depression. However, compared with ADHD boys, ADHD girls displayed greater intellectual impairment, lower levels of hyperactivity, and lower rates of other externalizing behaviors." https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0890856709626125 This might be a good topic for me to cover in a separate video?
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  339. Glad you like it!
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  340.  AwkwardMaskWearer2000  I don't agree with the cynical outlook that's so common these days. It's probably the best time in history to be alive!
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  341. Normally I would not have included studies from other countries, but there are two things to consider here: 1. Like I stated in the video, there is hardly ANY research whatsoever on this topic coming from the US. I mentioned the foreign studies not to draw conclusions about dynamics in the US but because I wanted to see the only research I could find on this topic. 2. The internet is worldwide, and my audience is not just US-based. Only 43% of my viewers are from the US.
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  342. Hahah yess, I also found the theories of emotion somewhat meh but it's better when you can apply something to your own life
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  343. Yes! Video coming next week on a study that discusses the challenges of making friends for autistic girls
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  344. The Connection Course: https://psychologywithdrana.learnworlds.com/course/the-connection-course
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  345. I’m glad they work for you! That was one thing that I forgot to touch on in the video, that therapy systematically helps you feel more comfortable with increasingly triggering content. In that context, it’s very important to take it slow and build on your successes. However, in the “real world,” triggering things happen organically, and I do think predicting & circumventing them altogether is still a form of avoidance. I guess what I’m wondering is, why not just stop engaging with the content once you realize it’s not something you have the bandwidth for at the moment? Especially since the research suggests knowing the triggering content is coming may actually worsen preemptive anxiety.
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  347. Very true
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  348. Make sure to check out Munecat if you haven’t already! Münecat's channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/m%C3%BCnecat Her evolutionary psychology video: https://youtu.be/31e0RcImReY?si=zNL57d3G17KFOB-z Her Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/4OjUhSjVFynp9xZxVtLnht
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  349. It’s not a diagnosis, but it’s a social phenomenon that affects many families. When something takes on a name on the internet, it’s usually a sign that lots of people can relate.
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  350. I would warn against categorizing people into simple dichotomies, as it doesn't do justice to the nuances and complexities of human beings. A trait that may be a dealbreaker for you could be perfectly fine for another person in their life. It's all about finding people who are compatible with your personal needs.
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  351. Joe Dispenza's claims are usually rooted in a glimmer of science, but I feel like he takes them to a very extreme point where they cease to be accurate. Tbh my main gripe with him is the fact that he doesn't acknowledge he's a chiropractor, instead framing himself as expert in several very complex fields (quantum physics, neuroscience, medicine, epigenetics). If he were more open about what qualifications he does or doesn't have, it would feel more honest to me.
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  352. Thank you ☺️
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  353. Absolutely! How well a client is able to open up to their therapist is usually indicative of how they treat intimacy outside the therapy room
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  354. She literally said “dream bigger,” “do not do it,” and “it’s not worth it.” I’m all for not reading assumptions into people’s words, but I’m not quite sure how else to interpret her words.
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  355. This means so much🥺
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  356. Thank you so much 🥹
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  357. I actually posted a video about infidelity quite recently! Obviously I can't speak to these specific cases, but I agree the concept of a "wife guy" cheating may warrant its own separate topic. At the top of my head, seems like marketing yourself as a wonderful partner while cheating on your loved one may be a weaponization of righteous self-image.
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  358. Yupp I've even read books where the author warns readers not to publicly declare they're optimistic because nothing makes people madder 😂 It was a bit late for me
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  359. Here is a photo of the flowchart if you're a more visual person like myself: https://www.youtube.com/post/UgxNmtdh_ik2gvu8Z8x4AaABCQ
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  360. Without faith (in the secular sense), life would be a pretty scary place. People have faith every time they get into a car that they'll get to their destination safely, despite the high vehicular accident rate. Or faith that their loved ones have their best interests at heart. Or faith that they can pass a test they studied for. I'm not a big fan of blind faith, or trusting in something just because someone told you it's true, but measured faith is crucial.
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  361. Aw thank you so much! I’m definitely grateful for the growth I’ve had so far :)
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  362. Exactly, even therapists take a long time to figure out if something is ADHD or not! Personally, I like to refer clients to get more comprehensive evaluations if they're seeking a clear-cut diagnosis because this one is such a tricky and important one.
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  363. Not 100% the same as your suggestion, but video on rOCD and limerence set for next week! :)
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  364. I completely believe you! I can't decide whether that makes me feel worse or better
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  365. Twice a week for now!
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  366. I ordered that one too!!🤣🤣 saving it for a video on Edward Cullen's emotional abuse
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  367. Trying a slightly new editing style, so please let me know your thoughts on it! And The Connection Course is on sale for 20% off using code MEMORIALDAYSALE
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  368. Thank you! Honestly, secrecy is a huge part of the disorder, and I was so hush-hush about it for the first few years of having this channel. It wasn’t until I finally opened up that I realized the secrecy was giving it more power than it deserved.
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  369. Wait, feminism and Eastern Europe can coexist??🧐 mind blown!
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  370. Oh I would venture that’s a completely different situation! Definitely worth its own video :)
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  371. Thank you!! I'm trying to be more engaging (in part because I know that's what helps people learn haha)
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  372. The first wedding was mostly family, but a few of them are coming to the second :)
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  373. I feel that, sometimes I also worry I've overcorrected and become uncomfortable when people ask me about myself
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  374. Oof I’m sorry :(
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  375. I didn't perceive it as her conflating the two, but rather listing a number of parasocial experiences. While I personally don't find it creepy for people to want a selfie with a public figure, a fan giving backlash when the answer is no is absolutely entitled and boundary-violating. It's not on the same scale as stalking and harassment, but it speaks to the same issues.
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  376. Are you okay? My shirt is not low-cut and my chest is not even in the frame
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  378. Haha no one believes in something more than the person trying to convince themselves they don't😂
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  379. I remember that, it was awful. I was going to mention it in the video but forgot :(
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  380. Agreed that everyone has the right to pursue happiness however they see fit, but I think these studies do a good job of highlighting how an improvement in happiness might not always be the end result of cosmetic procedures
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  381. That's so sweet :')
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  382. Naan Bread That was probably just the dementors
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  383. I never DNF a book unfortunately
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  385. Yes, enduring suffering is not unique to Stoicism. Does a concept need to be exclusive for a person to relate to it? I can only speak for myself, but Stoicism being Greek is most certainly NOT the reason why I'm drawn to it. I'm Eastern European myself, so it doesn't seem exotic at all to me. In fact, it completely slipped my mind to let my grandma know the philosophy is Greek when she told me this worldview was passed down to her by her Greek grandma.
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  387. I thought I was explaining it before too 😅 but yeah now I have absolutely nothing restricting my ability to share authentically
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  388. Unfortunately I don't personally know of any self-help books on narcissism since there's a much more lucrative business around demonizing the illness, but I would really recommend therapy for this, especially psychodynamic and/or DBT. It's not that you're stupid, it's just very challenging to change patterns that have been deeply engrained since childhood! Based on your comment, it seems like you have the most important pieces, which are self-awareness and a desire to change.
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  389. LOL I'm here for the self-reflection, most people never turn it on themselves to wonder how they can improve :)
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  390. Absolutely! I’m so glad that worked out like that for you. It sounds like you aced dating apps☺️ I wish I had embellished more on this point in the video but the reason I changed my mind about conforming to respectability is because I’ve met so many men over the years who went on to be incredible husbands that cherish their wives, despite the fact that they unconsciously categorized women into “casual” or “relationship” when they were dating around. I do still think there’s a time and place to challenge society’s biases (and sometimes maybe that comes later in the relationship, when you point out those harmful unconscious beliefs), but it’s really just a matter of what game you’re playing. Whatever your goal is, there’s a way to use appearance to that end.
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  391. Honestly, you’re right that it was a cheap shot and I shouldn’t have said it. In my mind, this guy isn’t even boomer generation so I was just making a light joke about the word choice, but I didn’t consider how it might affect people other than Brian. I’ll take this feedback moving forward!
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  392. Hahaha omg😂
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  393. I wish
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  394. It’s time for a new Q&A video, so pop your questions under this! As always, nothing that would be considered personal advice from me to you, but all other questions are welcome😊
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  395. Is objectifying and fetishizing women considered simping these days too?
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  396. Thank you so much! I'm actually going to visit her shortly, so she and I can celebrate together soon :)
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  397. Glad you enjoyed the video! I actually tend to disagree with the second half of your comment. In many countries (e.g. Poland), women still don't have the right for abortion, and even in the US, people are currently trying to overthrow that right. But aside from abortion, I can think of many policy-level changes I would love to see: better psychoeducation on domestic violence (including emotional abuse) for the courts, prioritizing women's safety by criminalizing and punishing online threats and doxxing, taking women seriously when they experience things like stalking and harassment but no physical harm has occurred yet, etc. (Ironically, a lot of these interventions would help men, too.) But you're right that a lot of the progress would also have to be cultural: the general public would have to make a commitment independent of the law to not tolerate when people take part in slut-shaming, harassment, catcalling, and so on.
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  398. Thanks so much!!
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  399. Nooo, my heart goes out to you! I’d heard about Moldova and Georgia but not Bulgaria. Putin’s really staying busy these days, huh?
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  401. It’s technically true that everyone lies, but yes this study would agree with your sentiment that someone who is constantly making wild accusations might not be on their best behavior themselves :)
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  402. What are you talking about? My partner has never experienced parental alienation lmao. I suggest you rewatch that bit
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  403. Good luck!!🍀
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  404. Oh look, a new bot!
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  405. Agreed, a lot of it is taking note of what you don't agree with during your childhood and making a conscious effort to not replicate those into adulthood. It's a very continuous, self-reflective process
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  406. True, even abusers promise not to do it again, but following up with action is another story. 😢 sorry to hear what you went through
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  407. Sorry to hear that🥺
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  408. I’m so so sorry 😢❤ my condolences
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  409. It's for all kinds of relationships, not limited to romantic/sexual relationships and certainly not just straight ones! In the few lessons that are specific to romantic relationships, the research has been shown to be helpful for diverse couple types.
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  410. I’m so so sorry to hear that🥺
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  411. Thank you, I really appreciate it! Her blood work came back fine and she’s a very happy, playful little lady, so hopefully they find it’s benign
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  412. That's so awful! I'm sorry you experienced that. I once heard a high school classmate telling his friends that he wants to visit Ukraine because "all the hottest b*tches are there" and it has still stuck with me to this day. I hope he never went near Eastern Europe.
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  413. So sorry to hear that, I hope you’re able to overcome that :(
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  414. Looool I’ve been hoping for a meal prep company to sponsor me because I really need one in my life right now, but I’m glad you didn’t need to throw your phone across the cubicle 😂
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  415. Oh I know, I stopped using my apple watch for this reason
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  416. Honestly, if something super graphic shows up in an unexpected context like that, I would question why it even needs to exist in the first place. There are so many violent scenes in movies, for instance, that bring zero value to the plot, character development, themes, etc. and are just there for shock value. So I don’t disagree, I just think people need to evaluate their reasons for posting highly triggering content instead of just throwing up a trigger warning.
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  417. Thanks for the feedback, I'll definitely take it into consideration!
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  418. Thanks Ryan! And Skyler, I can definitely understand how it's frustrating to be rejected many times in a row. But like I said in the video, women are pickier when it comes to mate selection, which might not seem fair but isn't women's fault either. And there are a lot of different reasons women go on dating apps beyond finding a date, such as curiosity about the dating market. Getting off on the idea of rejecting men is NOT one of those reasons. I recommend watching this video on self-esteem, because it outlines the stark contrast between men and women's self-esteem in places like the US: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=35aUuEwAkZI&t=5s There is a significant gender discrepancy regarding self-esteem. And, while dating apps lower men's self-esteem because of the increased rejection rate, this actually levels out the self-esteem gap between men and women--so essentially, what you're experiencing now is how women feel every single day. The difference is that you can actually log off of dating apps, but women can't just log out of real life.
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  419. trump voice Good bridge. The best!
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  421. Thank you so much for noticing, yes I'm taking good care :)
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  422. Ooh sounds like a tough one but a good one. What about personality do you specifically want to know how to change?
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  423. You do you! I will clarify, though, that I'm not suggesting you spend all your free time looking for new friends. This is a process that takes years for that very reason, because it's time-consuming. But if branching out socially is a big priority for people, then it must be treated as such.
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  424. In mod sigur, n-am de ce sa-mi fie rusine :)
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  425. Factually speaking, we are :)
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  426. Agreed, thank you for sharing!
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  427. I have not! That sounds like an awesome channel from the way you've described it. While it's probably a good idea to tailor your parenting techniques to the individual child, I agree with you that it shouldn't be used as a justification for overly punitive parenting styles. Research suggests that harsh discipline is not more effective than gentle discipline. A child might just be more combative in their personality no matter what, and being excessively harsh will just add trauma to the list of issues. If a child's behavior is that out of control, there are appropriately proportional natural consequences that still balance empathy and kindness. And yeah, that makes a lot of sense about time-outs! So much of our belief system is based on our past experiences.
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  428. Agreed😂
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  429. Such a great way to put it!
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  430. Not acting on your emotion-urge does not mean ignoring the emotion! In some cases problem-solving is a better option than following the emotion-urge or trying the opposite action. So in this case, weighing your options to see which action gets you closer to meeting your situational goal would be problem-solving. Maybe it would be setting a boundary with your partner that you don’t tolerate x behavior in a relationship, maybe ending the relationship, etc. But if the emotion-urge is to cling to that person even harder, it’s likely to backfire.
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  431. Wow, thank you for sharing! I don't know much about German culture so this is interesting to learn about
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  432. Link to flowchart: https://www.youtube.com/post/UgxNmtdh_ik2gvu8Z8x4AaABCQ
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  433. For sure, I feel like most of Gottman's research applies to non-romantic relationships too
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  434. Wow, I'm really sorry to hear that! I feel like people really ignore the atrocities against Natives and the beauty of the cultures as well... Also, I actually live in IL right now as well :)
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  436. ​ @irefuse2stop  Are you seriously suggesting that me choosing to record this before hosting a party is an attempt at manipulating my audience?
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  437.  @notreallyafamousartist695  Thinking that I voted for Trump just because I no longer identify as liberal is a wild take. Just because I don’t identify with one party, that means I identify with its (very extreme) opposite? Absolutely not, the world is not so black-and-white.
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  438. I actually do the exact same thing and I'm really struggling to stay mindful when eating, showering, getting ready for the day, etc. because of it. It's not good, but something I'm working on. Ironically, when I don't spend time multitasking on YouTube, I end up with a higher proportion of quality content to watch once I actually do catch up with it. Otherwise I'm just sifting through the internet for something to keep me entertained.
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  439. Absolutely!
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  440. That's a really good point, assholes try to bring others down to their level because they refuse to just elevate themselves instead
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  441. Sorry to hear that about your brother :(
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  442. Sorry to hear that about your friend :/ and yeah my voice has been raspy lately, my apologies that it’s not very pleasant to listen to!
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  443. Wow, please don't let anyone invalidate how you feel! Two months is absolutely not a long time and telling someone to "just get over it" is incredibly insulting
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  444. Absolutely, I think religion has played a major role in justifying and perpetuating the shaming of women. But at the end of the day, it’s just one of the many tools people use to justify their hate
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  445. I love Keanu Reeves but his performance in Dracula was sooo funny😂
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  446. Yeah no Bulgarian I’ve met is like this🙈
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  447. Agreed, you put it beautifully!
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  448. I am SO excited to announce that I've launched a 4+ hour relationship skills course: psychologywithdrana.learnworlds.com/course/the-connection-course For those of you who like videos such as this one and want more, definitely check it out :)
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  449. Licensed mental health counselors are real therapists, but this guy is not an LMHC.
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  450. I do have a video on this topic! It's a bit older so maybe a remake is due
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  451. Yess it's the best feeling to be done with a task!
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  452. I have an entire halloween-themed EDM playlist so I can confirm this
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  453. Hahah just being a cute nosy romanian grandma 😂
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  454. Noted :)
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  455. I selected the only two articles I found that were: on my school’s library database, peer-reviewed, available online, and related to the field of psychology (as opposed to IT or other fields). Also, you may want to provide references for your claim if you’re going to accuse me of cherry-picking.
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  456. What I said exactly is, “There are non problematic forms of manipulation, like maybe trying to influence someone to get out of a toxic relationship, and then there are insidious types of manipulation where it doesn’t really matter to you what the other person wants.” Of course, when you twist and completely rearrange my words, it’s going to give the completely opposite meaning to what I actually said. But the good part is that this is a recording and you can play it back word for word😉 Yes, we all influence each other in day-to-day life. In this context, telling a friend that you’re concerned about their relationship, helping them create a safety or escape plan, sharing your own journey with leaving a toxic relationship—these are all examples of trying to influence someone. Of course, you should always ultimately respect the other person’s autonomy. That’s why I specified that insidious forms of manipulation don’t do that.
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  457. Idk man, I love hiking so I don't think so! As long as there are people around loool
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  459. Made an entire generation of girls equate beauty and femininity with a dangerously low body weight. Made the whole month of November very triggering because of the VS fashion show. And also the high-up execs were outed for sexual harassment and ties with Epstein.
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  460. I have never in my life promoted Better Help. I think you have me confused with someone else, because I have ignored their every sponsorship request.
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  461. Like the video mentioned, it largely depends on the kind of stress! The stress of a high-stakes job that you're excited for and find fulfilling is quite different from the stress of working for a tyrannical boss. Not all stress is created equally, and some kinds are definitely easier to view more positively.
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  462. 😂
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  463. I’m so glad!
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  464. Yeah that’s just factually not correct lol
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  466. I'm curious which parts you feel were misrepresented, considering I went through it chronologically and paraphrased almost everything she said. Also, the intro/skits are satire?
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  467. I feel you, it’s hard to speak up against this stuff :( But I hope you know that women like myself greatly appreciate it. And these men calling you a simp? They’re just mad because men like you, who treat women with respect, are raising the standards of how they need to behave.
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  468. I'm so glad you're finally seeing results!!
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  469. I swear the second the ring light goes on, she decides to summon demons
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  470. These days mostly shein, nastygal and forever21 :)
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  471. Yeah there’s nothing wrong with having a personal preference, but that preference isn’t a reason to judge someone. Just like it wouldn’t make sense for someone who prefers to have a partner with sexual experience to go around calling everyone else a silly virgin with no self-respect
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  472. It's so cool to see your honest reflection on here! Thank you so much for taking the time to self-reflect and to acknowledge your initial defensiveness. With regards to your initial point, I am sure that there are certain privileges that women have that men do not. However, it's not the time or place to bring these up when women are talking about their own. Every time a woman tries to discuss her experience with oppression, it gets trampled by men who do not want to hear it and bring up "reverse sexism." I don't think that was your intention, but I'm telling you this because it gets exhausting for women to deal with. For instance, there are lots of channels out there dedicated to LGBT issues, but I can't imagine someone commenting, "Well, what about heterosexual issues?" on their videos. The reason such deflections do not make sense is because, while different groups of people have different privileges, there is an overall imbalance in privilege. I could go through all the ways women are oppressed in patriarchal societies, but I would be here for years typing out an answer. If you are interested in this topic, I highly recommend a book I'm reading right now called "Rage Becomes Her: the Power of Women's Anger" by Soraya Chemaly. Women have been "leading by example" for millennia. What we are asking for is a tiny bit of empathy and support in return.
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  473. Noted, thanks for the suggestion!!
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  474. And even back then, the correct term would probably be “refugee”
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  475. It sure can! I hadn't really thought too much of it in that context, does an example come to mind?
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  476. That makes a lot of sense! I feel like people have different sore points in terms of what's harder to cope with. Maybe the sore points are a good place to practice some of these skills and push yourself outside your comfort zone? Also, sorry to hear about your grandmas :(
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  477. That is a really interesting theory! I just assumed it has more to do with "midlife crisis," but that would make a lot of sense biologically that it's kind of the body's way of getting its last chance at genetic variety, so to speak
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  478. If you feel comfortable sharing, I'd love to hear what your top 3 regrets were from the exercise in the beginning!
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  479. I do have a Jungian playlist but I'd always love to cover more Jungian topics! This year for Halloweek, at least one of the videos will be about Jung's paranormal experiences 😉
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  480. 😂😂
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  483. My grandma always says to learn from the mistakes of others, so if you can do that, I think you’ll have a great advantage :)
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  484. Thank you for noticing🥰
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  485. So sorry for both of your losses :(
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  486. Thank you so much :')
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  487. What other meanings in life did I forget to mention in this video? Edit: I realized a much better description of what I called “achievement/success” is actually “growth/transformation/improvement” :)
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  488. My guess would be that even those who don’t need life to have meaning do, that even they have certain values and things they live for and make meaning of experiences. But that’s just me😊
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  490. Definitely! More autonomy = more responsibility
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  491. I've never seen positive bots (except when they promise "my friend Dave has the secret to crypto!"), is that a thing?
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  492. I am SO excited to announce that I've launched a 4+ hour relationship skills course: psychologywithdrana.learnworlds.com/course/the-connection-course For those of you who like videos such as this one and want more, definitely check it out :)
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  493. Yes, that was one of the four goals, to take an intersectional feminist approach :)
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  494. Gracias💕 son muy similares, es la razon porque fue facil para mi entender español (tambien una idioma muy bonita)
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  495. I suspect I might be a dark winter but it's all very confusing to me, sometimes I also wonder if maybe I'm autumn or summer? Who knows 🙈
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  497. OP, I agree with you that certain policies are harmful. My point is that we should hate the policy, not immediately jump to hating the person. Sure, there might be situations where a person voted for a certain party because they’re bigoted and hate a group that we belong to. But the majority of people vote based on their own interests. I’ve spoken to too many people who voted for far-right candidates because they were struggling to put food on the table with inflation. And the way to stop these candidates from getting elected is not to ice out half the population, but to engage with them from a place of empathy so that they can hopefully see where we’re coming from too. And again, I am not talking about people who are actively hateful here.
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  499. Haha your professor was thinking along the same lines :)
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  500. Thank you for sharing! I'm so sorry that your ex invalidated you like that, it definitely sounds like she was perpetuating some misunderstandings about mental illness.
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  501. Agreed
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  502. Do you not agree that every human has worth?
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  503. There are billions of women in the world, there's no uniform "typical female fantasy" but a lot of the women I know value honesty, respect, kindness, etc. This comment made me wonder what the research has to say about women's preferences in romantic partners, and I found some interesting studies on "the ideal partner" for various genders. Looking forward to turning that research into a video!
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  504. I should specify that I reserve this tactic for people who have proven themselves to be chronically discouraging and negative. If someone who I trust asks me what I'm up to, I'll tell them quite freely. But I also just don't like talking about myself too much so I don't bring up my plans unsolicited.
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  505. A large proportion of my supervisors and peers during grad school were psychodynamic! It's just not the main modality to be showcased in research because it typically lasts much longer than the short-term resources studies can afford. Also, a lot of insurances won't reimburse long-term therapy because they want the client "fixed" in 5-20 sessions.
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  510. Thank you so much for the kind words!!❤
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  511. Hope it helps!
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  512. Unfortunately I couldn't find another expression for doing something without any safety equipment haha
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  513. Definitely! This is all with the assumption that unexpected things will come up and you can always change your mind when new information presents itself. That point was directed at people who have told me to shut up when talking about parenting because I'm not a parent myself. You'd be shocked at how many people think this way.
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  514. Those are both very interesting perspectives! Gaby and Carlos definitely grew over the course of the show, but I honestly just can't get past Carlos' abusive tendencies in the first few seasons. As for Tom and Lynette, I find their dynamics to be super realistic (which is probably why their relationship is so relatable). While they both care about each other and they're not as toxic as Gaby and Carlos in the first season, I think Tom's stubbornness is incredibly frustrating. It's difficult to watch how his stubbornness and inability to take responsibility tear them apart at some phases of their relationship.
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  515. I'm so glad!!
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  516. This is super insightful but not quite the direction I went down! I focused more on primeval fairy legends rather than more modern ones :)
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  517. Agreed on both points! It’s always good to keep an open mind until you have all the evidence. What I find interesting is that sometimes conspiracy theorists who believe in more outlandish theories seem very open-minded to low-quality “evidence,” but they then seem very closed-off to evidence that would disprove the theory. I guess paranoia trumps all other considerations in those situations!
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  518. LOL, this is why I always have youtube in the background when I'm doing other stuff. Ten points deducted for my lack of mindfulness 😅
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  519. Feminism is for equality, Michael. Sounds like there might be some incorrect biases to address there.
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  520. That’s along the same lines as what I was saying, that it’s rare to see a Cluster B personality that doesn’t have some sort of early trauma. And even if we do think we’ve found a purely temperamental case, it begs the question of how we define trauma. An invalidating childhood home is a huge risk factor for BPD per the biosocial theory, for example, though it wouldn’t “technically” necessarily count as a trauma per the DSM’s current definition.
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  521. No, it's more about giving credit where credit is due. Teal Swan seems very well-read about psychology; it's difficult to believe she didn't come across these theories before incorporating them into her own. In any theoretical field, you need to credit the people who inspired the foundation of your theory.
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  522. That's a good point! I selected those two values at random, not because they necessarily seem polar opposites but rather because they seem to be somewhat in contradiction. I would agree that openness to new experiences can be fostered through a foundation of safety. Your comment raises a good question about which values are truly contradictory and which can coexist. In the long lists of values that I've looked over, many of them seemed to cluster around similar themes (e.g. "excitement," "fun," "new experiences" are similar; "integrity," "honesty," "loyalty" seem to go together, etc.). It would be an interesting exploration to see which ones are truly in contradiction with each other!
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  523. Ok
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  525. Hahah no, it’s me who’s romanian😂
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  526. In addition to all the reasons listed, I would imagine part of it is sexual frustration and the illusion of not having repercussions, since the partner is not there to see it firsthand!
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  527. Noted! This is more on the emotion regulation front than the interpersonal navigation front, but I still hope it helped
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  528. Thank you for saying that! It can be a lot to keep up with but I feel blessed to do it :)
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  529. Best of luck with your procedure! And I think you hit the nail on the head, which is that we nervous nellies need to realize our worst fears COULD actually happen at any given moment, and that it’s not worth ruining the quality of our lives over it👏🏻
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  530. Oh for sure :) glad to hear it!
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  531. So glad to hear that!
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  533. I think the line between psychology and spirituality can get pretty tricky to delineate, especially when the focus is on healing trauma in vulnerable populations 😬
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  534. In everyday life, I would agree, but this is a published article and its mistakes are well beyond just grammatical errors. It's a sign of disrespect to one's audience to put so little effort into a piece of writing.
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  535. Always love to see self-reflection! And it’s from shein :)
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  536. I’m so sorry to hear that❤️
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  537. Interesting topic :) noted!
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  539. A pentagram represents the 4 elements and the spirit
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  540. I’ve been considering this for this year’s Halloweek intro… stay tuned
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  541. You're so kind to ask but we don't need anything! Just watching the channel is more than enough :)
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  542. I'm sorry to hear that!! It's a tough economy right now but you got this 💪
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  543. For sure! Had to let out the grief before I found a solution
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  544. I would never encourage someone to stay in contact with family members who are sending them to gay conversion camp. The example I gave was of someone who distances themselves because they disagree on the merits of stress and resilience. Of course no one should be in relationship with someone who actively wishes abuse upon them—but I think I was pretty clear in my video that I’m talking about minor disagreements where a person reaches a bad conclusion because of what are good intentions.
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  545.  @ouo7343  might be a fun topic for my Book & Hearth channel! I think my defining feature is contrast and my secondary is warm. And I just have a personal preference for silver over gold, I don't think I'd ever change my wardrobe no matter what the answer is 😂
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  546. ♥
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  547. That's a great suggestion!
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  548. Definitely not something I came upon in the research, but that would be a very important and fascinating topic for a study!
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  550. Yes, I was thinking that I probably should :) and glad it was reassuring!
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  551. I actually have a running list of hot psychology takes😂 for the sake of minimizing stress right now I’m going to wait longer before I talk about it though
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  552. Or, “what do I do for a living? Uh, I date… and talk about how I date”
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  553. Yeah, that’s not what I’m talking about in this video. I’m talking about people who voted a different party than you because they can’t put food on the table due to inflation, or people who disagree on a specific policy because of non-hateful reasons, or otherwise kind people who are bamboozled by misinformation. These are things that we are all prone to as human beings, not that just one specific group does. The people taking my argument to such an extreme kind of prove my point that we can’t even agree to disagree on minor things anymore.
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  554. Sure! I think positive affirmations can feel dishonest for people sometimes because they sound like an overcompensation. No one needs to keep repeating "I am worthy, I am worthy, I am worthy" unless they struggle with self-worth. I think it can feel a bit "the lady doth protest too much" for people. Like when someone goes on a long tangent trying to convince themselves of something they don't even believe to be true. That being said, speaking to ourselves kindly and positive thinking absolutely can rewire our brains. It just needs to be done in a way that feels honest, not like we're trying to convince ourselves of something we unconsciously don't believe.
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  555. I have a more casual video called "watch this if you want him to commit" (it's clickbait, don't worry!) that goes into your questions more in-depth. Hope it helps :)
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  556. That wasn’t the announcement 😂
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  557. I definitely see what you mean, thank you for sharing. While I think feminism definitely does benefit men as well (and the patriarchy also harms men in some ways, although it also predominantly benefits them), the focus on my feminism is usually to help women. With that being said, the focus of my therapy is to help people of all kinds, which is why I think it's important to also be attuned to men's unique issues.
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  558. The flowchart from the handbook: https://www.youtube.com/post/UgxNmtdh_ik2gvu8Z8x4AaABCQ
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  559. Thank you so much!! :)
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  560. Hey, thanks for the input! Just to clarify, the "mute misogyny" slogan refers to muting misogynists by not engaging in emotionally draining discussions with those who are clearly not open to critical thinking. I definitely agree that ignoring the problem will not make it go away, it's more just about not letting the loudest voices be the most misogynistic.
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  561. The study was actually mixed-gender! That would be an interesting hypothesis though to see if men and women react differently
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  562. That means so much to me, thank you for saying that!
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  563. Interesting, I never knew there was a name for that! I just knew it as an intrusive thought that most people have to an extent and can be severe in OCD
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  564. True
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  565. Thank you!! Haha I do the same, I need to stop
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  566. Ooh, great idea!
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  568. I touch on the psychology of manifestation in my video "the psychology of witchcraft," but it's from more of a traditional witchcraft lens than a New Age lens
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  569. Oh my lord, that sounds EXHAUSTING
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  570. I am SO excited to announce that I've launched a 4+ hour relationship skills course: psychologywithdrana.learnworlds.com/course/the-connection-course For those of you who like videos such as this one and want more, definitely check it out :)
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  571. Wow! I'm always so grateful to people that have been here since the early days, cause I feel like my videos were pretty cringe back then 😂
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  572. My point is that research needs to start with hypotheses that are rooted in qualitative data, such as methods that directly ask participants about their behavior in open-ended ways, and use that as a foundation for quantitative hypotheses. Otherwise, all you get is a bunch of myopic research studies that are out of touch with the actual lived experience of people. And my point is also that quantitative sources of information need to be paired with qualitative sources, such as checking what you hear from researchers with what you have observed with your own two eyes. Otherwise, blindly trusting a study is just as silly as blindly trusting anecdotes. We need many different sources of information, for the very reasons discussed in this video (severe methodological limitations, researcher bias, inability to replicate, etc.).
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  573. omg lol sorry about that
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  574. I'd have to look back at each study individually which sadly I don't have time to do right now, but usually it's physical contact!
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  575. Oh I don’t doubt that it can feel very empowering to have your experience be validated by others, what I meant is that the way others react to your trauma does not have the power to either legitimize or delegitimize it. Someone saying “what you went through was not right” or “what you went through wasn’t so bad” has no bearing on the actual harm that was experienced and it doesn’t change the facts of what happened. It might help or hinder healing after the fact, but a person still experienced what they experienced, regardless what others have to say about it.
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  576. It’s the last couple of days of the Valentine’s Day sale on paperbacks and The Connection Course! Use code VDAYSALE on The Connection Course: https://psychologywithdrana.learnworlds.com/course/the-connection-course And you can find all my paperbacks here: https://amzn.to/3UFzf7c Content creators whose TikToks I reacted to: (not in chronological order) Kylee Rackam The Nameless Narcissist Lee Hammock Nicole Behnam Dammit Delta Anoushka Marcin
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  577. Thank you!!
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  578. There’s healthy narcissism (liking yourself) and then there’s pathological narcissism (liking yourself so much that you put down others). I was referring to the former
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  579. Where exactly in this video did I promote staying in abusive relationships?
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  580. This is a valid point, just changed the title to be more representative of what I was trying to communicate
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  581. Thanks for sharing!
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  582. I have these videos in mind, for sure, but I may wait until I have the time to make a "members only" part of the channel cause i'm not trying to get death threats from p*rn addicts lool
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  583. Very interesting! Do you mind sharing what culture you're from?
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  584. Damn can’t believe I forgot to mention that! I think it’s okay to have a preference as long as you’re not explicitly shaming people who don’t meet your expectations. Like it’s okay to not be attracted to a certain body type, but you can’t be conveying judgment to people cause they don’t exist simply as eye candy
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  585. Beautifully put!
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  586. We have everything within us to help us be happy, including the tools to seek connection with others! Connection is of course very important and it doesn’t 100% depend on us, but we have the ability to seek it out in nourishing ways. :)
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  587. Acting is a generous term for what that was
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  588. 30s is definitely not too late! I don't know that it ever is too late :)
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  589. Thank you, Liam :) Even women struggle with being unsupportive toward women at times, but it's the active effort of self-reflection and improvement that makes a huge difference. Thanks for being so committed to that!
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  590. I agree, but I also think it makes sense for women to have kids with as much genetic variability as possible (i.e. as many partners). It’s definitely more of an investment for women to carry a child though, which is why we’re more picky when choosing sexual partners because we want to be sure this would be someone that could protect the family💕
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  591. I completely agree! If you’ve been on my channel a while, you know I’m a big proponent of the idea that fighting is not normal or healthy. I filmed this video a few weeks ago but I don’t recall suggesting anyone “lean into” fighting, but rather into the passion and the vulnerability of emotional openness.
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  592. Is there anything specific you're interested in regarding social anxiety? :)
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  593. This may or may not be pertinent to your situation, but I have a video coming on growing up with a BPD mom!
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  594. I ran through multiple possibilities to show that we shouldn't jump to the worst scenario. This is not about Blake Lively for me, it's a pattern I have seen over and over again with tearing women down.
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  595. Babycake Moon its definitely more tricky with family... I would recommend going gray rock and interacting with them as little as possible. Be careful not to accidentally trigger their rage, but also don’t establish yourself as a source of validation. It’s hard, especially the closer of a family member they are!
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  596. Noo are you talking about Evy Pompouras? 😭 that’s so sad to hear, I loved her book for fostering resilience. I have noticed lately her attitude on emotions has gotten more and more invalidating, but I didn’t know it was that bad.
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  597. Women are unfortunately guilty of it as well :/
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  598. I’m so sorry to hear that :( sounds like a personal problem with her own rigidity, though I know that’s way easier said than believed
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  599. Thank you so much!💗
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  600. Yes, YouTube sometimes demonetizes videos that cover sensitive topics, so I have to be cautious
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  601. I'm so glad to hear that!!
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  602. My first language is Romanian. That's so crazy that you can detect that!! Most people don't notice anything :)
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  603. I respectfully disagree!
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  604. I know this probably won’t help much in the long run, but I have a video scheduled on bots where I call out some of these scammers
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  605. Exactly, you’re on the right track💕
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  607. I'm so glad you're excited for Halloweek! I have two videos coming out for it at the end of the month :) actually about to film them right now
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  608. To be clear, I’m not talking about anhedonia due to something like depression, but people who just don’t feel like being good friends and justify it through psychology. I have great sympathy for people who don’t have the desire or ability to socialize because of mental health struggles❤️ Also, I like your pic😂 just started rewatching TVD
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  609. Because she loves her papa so much. "The things I do for love"
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  610. I can 100% see where you're coming from with your professor, it can be soo distressing for people to participate in class and professors often don't understand the extent of that distress. I didn't know that about amlodipine, I also have raynaud's disease so that's good to know!
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  611. I haven't seen this particular channel but I've seen other "estranged parent" content and the estrangements seems pretty self-explanatory based on the content. How a person responds to estrangement can be the biggest motivator for never reunifying with that person. If a parent is publicly trashing their child for going no contact, that says it all. Hmm I don't know that there's anything you can really do to encourage empathy in someone who is determined to devalue another person. It's a wonderful instinct to defend people who aren't there to defend their own name, but it's probably not within your control to fix this person's perception. If I were in the position where someone was trashing their estranged child, I'd probably just distance myself or say something along the lines of, "This is making me uncomfortable."
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  612. It’s all downhill from here!
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  613. Hahah I was initially going to title it "how to..." but then I decided a more assertive approach might work best for this particular video
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  614. Die Antwoord but they've since been accused of some pretty terrible things so I would not recommend
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  615. I was a socially awkward 10 year old trying to think of something to say. Can't even admit to making a faux pas 17 years ago on the internet these days lmao
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  616. The first 1,000 people to use the link will get a 1 month free trial of Skillshare https://skl.sh/anapsychology05231
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  617. Vain As Hell no I don’t have a public ig, sorry! Feel free to email me your idea at psychologywithana@gmail.com, although these days I’m so ridiculously busy that I can’t promise I’ll get to it :(
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  618. Aubrey Kraus then don’t watch sis😂 your insecurity is showing
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  620. I hear you, but I reiterate several times in the video that we are not responsible for others’ actions. The thumbnail is meant to convey a sense of control and empowerment, that we can choose high-value partners who won’t hurt us. But like I said, you can’t 100% minimize the risk factors and you can’t control what other people are gonna do
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  621. I've ignored the comments for almost 4 years at this point and they've only gotten worse, so it's way past time to address them. If people hate even harder because of it, so be it!
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  622.  @z01k1  I have a video coming in the next few weeks that sort of touches on family bloggers. But it doesn't touch on arguably the most important part, which is how messed up it is to profit off of kids' unpaid labor and post them publicly without their ability to consent
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  623. Very sorry to hear that
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  624. I’m so glad it worked for him! :)
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  625. Respectability politics and personal preferences work in mysterious ways
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  626. I am a doctor of psychology as of today lol
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  627. That’s so funny😂 completely agree, that’s awesome that she did that
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  629. My bad, I thought it was from a different language category! Thanks for catching that
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  630. Hmm I think it’s important to distinguish between people struggling and people causing harm. You can absolutely be there for someone who’s in a rough place, and you can also set boundaries and distance yourself if their “tough place” poses harm to you
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  631. Hahaha hope it went well😎
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  632. That's a great video topic! Whether or not I make a specific video on it, this will be something I touch upon when I make my upcoming video series on the book "Why does he do that?" by Lundy Bancroft
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  633. I like it😊🤷🏻‍♀️
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  634. Same
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  635. Thank you! :)
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  637. A cheater is called a cheater, not a slut
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  638. I’m so glad! Always love to hear from Jungians. If you want more on this topic I have a video somewhere on psychodynamic therapy where I believe I went into my reasons for shifting modalities in greater depth :)
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  639. That's a great point, dating apps can really promote love-bombing and consequent disappointment! And thanks :)
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  640. This meant so much to hear💓
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  641.  @CertainExposures  I touch on it in this video: https://youtu.be/l9QQ-1Fm4Lk?si=VslYc1gCymswism7 The short version is that my desire to be a full-time author got to a point where it could no longer be repressed. I haven’t felt ready to make a formal video explaining it yet.
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  642. She’s wonderful, I agree😊
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  643. Yeah I bought color contacts cause I ran out of regular contacts and I already used my insurance for new glasses this year 🤓
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  645.  @Cowface  I heard this too, but when I actually looked at the research, I could not find a study that confirms it. In fact, I found studies that suggest the opposite, which was surprising and concerning to me. I can definitely look into this deeper and make a more in-depth video on it if there’s enough interest. If anyone knows of the name of the scholarly article suggesting kids of divorce fare better than kids of high-conflict parents who stayed together, please let me know!
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  646. They're the same thing :) Some people think sociopathy is purely environment-borne while psychopathy is purely genetic-borne, but it's almost never one or the other! There are many studies showing that psychopathy/sociopathy/Antisocial Personality Disorder have both a genetic and environmental factor
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  648. I’m sure men are bullied for their looks too, especially in more appearance-focused communities like gym-goers. But in other places, they are also praised for not putting in effort, such as the trend of “dad bods.” There’s no such equivalent for women who actually carry a child for 9 months and give birth and breastfeed, and those women are instead deemed unfuckable. Most of the female appearance-hating happens behind closed doors rather than to our faces. And don’t even get me started on negging, the new Red Pill trend of insulting a woman while complimenting her to get her self-esteem down. Just the other day, a man commented on one of my videos a paragraph about how I’m “attractive despite” 5 things he listed wrong with how I look. I cannot remember the last time I ever saw a comment like that directed at a man.
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  649. I'm so glad to hear how meaningful your work is to you! :)
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  650. Thank you for your kind words! Wishing you the same 💕
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  651. Angel Morgan You’re very kind, thank you🙏🏻 I will never be one of those YouTubers that shouts “heyyy guyyyys” and goes for theatrics to keep people interested because that’s not who I am. I try to keep this channel chill and professional. If some people perceive that as dullness, so be it🤷🏻‍♀️
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  652. So glad you enjoy it!!
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  653. Thank you for the thoughtful questions! I'm not sure whether hookup culture will disappear anytime soon (although I am noticing that some young women are acknowledging its negative repercussions and choosing to remove themselves). If hookup culture were to disappear, I imagine what would remain is more traditional dating, where people seek each other out for who they are as whole people, rather than only focusing on the physical. I don't expect we're going back to the utilitarian model anytime soon, since our conceptions of romance are quite different these days. What about you? What do you think? :)
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  655. @euthyphro dilemma I made the comment because i felt I didn’t express myself clearly enough on the topic and I don’t want to pathologize entire groups of people for a belief they are entitled to have.
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  656. That's such a good point about getting out of a conversation! and thank you, I'm glad the skits help :)
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  658. You might like reading about Zen Buddhism, ACT or DBT books that touch on radical acceptance, stoicism… On the more woo-woo side, there are some which I found helpful for acceptance but were also a little weird (lol) like The Untethered Soul and The Power of Now. Also, Man’s Search for Meaning (I’ll be making a video on that one soon on my Book & Hearth channel).
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  659. I haven't formally announced this yet, but you might like my upcoming relationship skills course which will include a whole lesson on where and how to find the right relationships. If you're interested, feel free to subscribe for an email notification when it's out: https://www.dranayudin.com/courses
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  660. It's definitely a scary situation, I'm glad you're doing what you need in order to take care of yourself!
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  662. Me too, I swear these cats are my item for “something that brought me joy yesterday” every single day when I do my journaling😂
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  663. I don’t even remember which of the two was striking mischief in this video but either way you are correct
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  664. I'm sorry to hear that :( Hope this somewhat helps!
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  665. I am SO excited to announce that I've launched a 4+ hour relationship skills course: psychologywithdrana.learnworlds.com/course/the-connection-course For those of you who like videos such as this one and want more, definitely check it out :)
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  666. Holiday novel giveaway instructions!! 🎁🎄 1. Take a screenshot of the novel’s cover or synopsis: https://a.co/d/5MWDEoo 2. Post it to TikTok (either story or regular post is fine, as long as I can see the post) with a sentence or two about why you want a free copy of the novel! 3. Remember to tag my TikTok @PsychologyWithDrAna 4. I will announce the winner of the giveaway on December 21st and personally mail a signed, personalized copy of the novel to the winner. Also, both the paperback novel and the mental health journal are 15% off for $13.50 these next few days for Black Friday/Cyber Monday!
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  667. Since learning to self-regulate is a skill that’s learned gradually, I think time-outs are okay for older children/adolescents if it’s done non-punitively during a tantrum, with a “please take some time and come back when you’ve calmed down” type of attitude, but age 5-6 still seems very young to be able to self-regulate.
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  668. These are lovely goals! Thank you so much :)
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  669. Thanks for being here!!
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  670. Wait that’s such a good point! I never thought about a possible correlation but my food choices have definitely gotten healthier ever since I got in the habit of daily gratitude journaling😮
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  671. Aw thank you both so much for the support!
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  672. Oof, this is a really good question and somewhat upsetting to answer. I feel like I just recently heard about a study that said infants who are largely cared for by secondary caregivers tend to experience attachment difficulties, but I apologize for not being able to find the source. Attachment disruptions/ruptures are known to be harmful, but getting help from secondary attachment figures might be better if parents experience less stress/greater support. It might be worth me doing a deep dive into the research on this.
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  673. I drink plenty! I had just eaten something that stained the interior of my lips
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  674. Girl I feel you, but I'm sure you deserve it! Hopefully with time you'll be able to lean into it more. Do you think it has anything to do with doctors being seen as authority figures, too? I feel like newer generations are starting to see how weird power imbalances can be due to something like a professional title.
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  675. Noted!
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  676. Thanks to everyone that watched it live with me! If you missed this one, I'll make sure to do the next one (during Halloweek) later in the day :)
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  677. My novel, The Curse in Their Veins: https://a.co/d/5MWDEoo
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  678. Cognitive-behavioral therapy works on changing your cognitions (thoughts) and behaviors. It's usually more directive, structured and psychoeducational than other types of therapy. It also is an umbrella term for many different subtypes of therapy (cognitive therapy, behavioral therapy, cognitive processing therapy, exposure therapy, exposure and response prevention therapy, acceptance and commitment-based therapy, etc.). Dialectical behavioral therapy is a third-wave CBT technique that emphasizes not only changing thoughts and behaviors but also mindfulness, dialectics, emotions, and distress tolerance. It pulls from Eastern wisdom a bit more and also acknowledges the role of past invalidating experiences a bit more explicitly than other types of CBT.
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  679. Yep, the two are synonymous! And thank you, it really is sad :(
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  680. I’m envious of that
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  681. Thank you! I've been trying to let my silly side come through a bit more, cause the professional version of me is only a tiny fraction :)
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  682. Thank you so much! I believe I have a somewhat older video on self-sabotage, and one on procrastination from a few months ago that might touch on the topic you're seeking :) But I plan on doing more videos on the execution phase of goals in the near future!
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  683. I can definitely see it being a motivator sometimes, which is why I refrain from completely discouraging it in this video, but rather advocate for supplementing it :)
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  684. I talk about this at the end!
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  685. This was not missing from the studies, the participants were presented the same exact CV just with a different gender/name
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  686. Thank you for sharing! I personally respond well to tough-love self-talk, but the key there is SELF-talk. I know when I've expressed my feelings sufficiently and when it's time to keep it moving, but I'd be pretty upset if someone else told me to just jump straight into the "keep it moving" piece while ignoring my feelings. I always hope my message is clear that both emotional processing and resilience are important, so it's good food for thought to hear your feedback.
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  688. Thank you!! It’s definitely much easier to handle when I straighten it but I don’t do that too much these days because of the quarantine. As for body modification, I’d have to look more closely at the research but I do remember from my self-esteem video one study that said overly preoccupying yourself with changing your outward appearance can hinder other types of development. As someone who spent years until recently focused on appearance instead of genuine self-improvement, I’d have to agree with that. Now that I focus on other things, I can truly develop as a person. But I also think how you express yourself through style, piercings, tattoos, hair, etc. can be a great way to tell people about who you are! :) maybe I’ll do a video on it at some point
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  689. I saw there are a few videos on that already, and I've only recently heard about it so I'm not sure how much I'd have to contribute :)
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  690. I strongly disagree with that author! In most cases, emotional intimacy increases sexual desire, unless the person in question is anxious-avoidant in their attachment style.
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  691. If they claim to be a psychologist and they do not have a doctorate in psychology, that's already a legal and ethical offense in most states in the US (other countries have other regulations). And generally, the word "psycho" is a stigmatizing insult, not a diagnosis. If they are not a clinician either in or past grad school, they should not be diagnosing anyone with Antisocial Personality Disorder (the label for "psychopathy") in the first place.
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  692. The journaling method I use: https://a.co/d/cPaAMGx
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  693. I did not say "you must not think in black and white thinking or else." This is a video with suggestions for people who want to minimize b&w thinking to improve their mental health, but you are free to leave it or take it.
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  694. This is an awesome technique, thanks for sharing!
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  695. Yes, it's healthy to cultivate individual fulfillment and multiple sources of connection in your life, but other cultures don't place so much emphasis on alone time like US culture does. It's pretty typical to be living in multi-generational homes, and there's not as much time for parents to spend alone with their friends. I've watched my grandma mourn her husband of 63 years, and while it's devastating, she continues to find meaning in life. Finding such a massive loss devastating is not unhealthy, it's simply a risk you have to take when you share so much of your life with that person.
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  696. I'm sure this is a topic I'll be thinking and learning more about once I approach that stage in my own life! :)
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  697. Thank you so much for the kind words! It means a lot to hear that
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  698. I'm making a video on friendship breakups soon, which is not quite the same as a family member breakup but hopefully will help. Sorry you're going through that :(
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  699. Love a good self awareness journey 🙏🏻
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  700. That is such a good point!
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  701. I would most certainly not recommend you let those issues deter you! Let me list a few of the issues I have seen come up in my cohort of peers: impostor syndrome (HUGE one), anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, trauma, eating disorders, and even problematic personality traits... Although I can't speak with certainty about whether any of my peers have ADHD, I'm certain that we all have our personal struggles to overcome. The most important thing if you are to become a clinical psychologist is whether you are willing to "do the work" yourself. I have known some therapists-in-training who refuse to go to therapy themselves, who lie to their therapists, who make excuses for their behavior--and that is a much better indicator of whether they will be good therapists, in my opinion. In my experience, you can expect about 1-2 papers per class in a PsyD program. In a PhD program, it's likely more MCQ tests than papers. I haven't found there to be too much writing, although I admittedly adore writing. Either way, the advice I wish I'd known when first deciding my career is, "Don't make a decision about your career based on fear." I went into psychology in part because I thought I would only have to talk to people one-on-one, and I quickly learned that I had to give multiple presentations each semester, go on group interviews every single year, give psychoeducational outreach workshops, co-facilitate therapy groups, talk in group supervision, participate in staff meetings, etc. You could go into the wrong career for you out of fear, or you could go for what you're really passionate about and overcome your fears. (I do want to clarify, though, that clinical psychology is a huge and incredibly long commitment, so I do recommend it be something you really love if you choose it.) I promise you, almost every single person in your cohort would struggle with some sort of fear of failure or mental issue. Those that don't fear failure at all or think they have it all figured out are the problematic ones.
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  702.  @kelpieroo  I have no idea what happened in that home and won’t pretend to, but Woody’s actions of marrying his own stepdaughter speak for themselves. I don’t know how anyone could possibly argue that man is not a predator.
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  703. I’m gonna be honest I don’t know what this means
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  704. Regarding OnlyFans- hard no As for the others- I’m honestly struggling to balance youtube with my school and clinical responsibilities as it is, so maybe sometime in the future but I’m definitely not taking on any additional responsibilities right now
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  705. She's considering making one! If she does, I'll def let y'all know :)
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  706. I mentioned that most people believe in at least 1 conspiracy theory, that the definition of conspiracy theories doesn't make an evaluative judgment on these theories' veracity, and that some conspiracy theories are true within the first minute of this video.
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  707. 😂😂
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  708. Omg happy birthday!
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  709. The skills could definitely be helpful with anyone, but ideally you wouldn't need them with someone who's psychologically developed for their age. For example, you shouldn't need to model morality for someone to be moral, or to walk the other person through regulating their own emotions during a conflict. But sure, it can't hurt!
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  710. That’s so wonderful to hear! Unfortunately I have zero time to add an additional podcast into the mix, but I’d love to later down the line :)
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  711. I can try but I’m not a man so I don’t know if I’m the best authority on it
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  712. I never said that employees don't have these traits too, only that it's beneficial to have them if you decide to go the self-employment route. Please don't twist my words. Traits that might benefit employees include a strong sense of teamwork, leadership, social intelligence, and many of the same traits I mentioned in this video: organization, discipline, consistency. I never set up these traits as a dichotomy that one side has and the other doesn't. In fact, many of the traits that could be beneficial in self-employment are also beneficial for employment. The only difference is that, with self-employment, not having the traits I mentioned can mean you don't get paid that month.
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  713. That's a good idea, I'll note that!!
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  714. Hahah I have never heard the words "your hair" and "no frizz" in the same sentence before 😂 To be honest, I had just been staying in a lot before I recorded this so I had it in a braid for two whole days
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  715. I’m sorry to hear that! And thank you, she is definitely loving and sweet ❤️
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  716. Love to hear this!!
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  717. I'm always on the lookout for relationship books to inspire topics I can explore on this channel. In the end, hey I was right about that 🤷
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  718. That’s a really good question! I’m honestly not sure. I’d imagine sexual orientation doesn’t change the circuitry that resulted from millions of years of evolution, but it does take away one’s psychological incentive for taking part in that behavior. Anecdotally speaking, I don’t see this behavior as commonly from lesbians though.
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  719. True, even within psychology there's such a focus on getting the diagnosis exactly right even when there might not be a perfect diagnosis for that person, and the focus should instead be on treatment planning...
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  720. So glad you liked it!
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  721.  @itisjustnas8500  Actually I feel like I've exhausted all I have to say about witches at this time. The topics are: 1) why we're drawn to horror, and 2) curses as a symbol for intergenerational trauma
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  722.  @snowiiiiie  Yes, I agree! I was talking about more random, unexpected appearances of shocking content, like finding animal torture in an unexpected ad for veganism or extremely graphic SA in a movie that’s marketed as light. In situations like that, I question whether the triggering content is necessary at all, but maybe a TW in those contexts is helpful if the creators deem it absolutely must be included. For instance, I once included the threat of sexual violence in a scene in one of my novels. I had to really pause and reflect for a moment on whether it was absolutely necessary for the story, because women are exposed to enough reminders of sexual violence in everyday life. Ultimately I decided that I wanted to keep it in the novel to illustrate women’s vulnerability when a country plunges into disorder. What I’m saying is that some people don’t do this kind of “is this triggering content necessary?” reflection and just use a TW as a carte blanche to be more triggering than they need.
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  723. Yes, it's just a spur-of-the-moment example I came up with. Always tailor boundary-setting to your own communication style and preferences.
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  724. I love this!
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  725. Thanks for sharing! You phrased this so beautifully, I think you answered my own ambivalence about the question I posed.
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  726. I'm not sure what this means!
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  727.  @tee4678  haha I see, thanks everyone for explaining it to me! I feel like I'm always behind with these trends
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  728.  @DavidJones-ot8qu  Please reread my comment because I literally said people’s reactions can hinder or help healing. What I’m saying is that other people’s reactions do not change the facts of what you experienced. If something was traumatic to you, your trauma is trauma whether or not someone external thinks it is.
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  729. It can definitely be hard to find the right therapist! It took me many therapy experiences before I found just the right one for me. When the treatment relies on the relationship between two people, there are sooo many variables that go into goodness of fit.
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  730. Not sure how this was what you took away from what I said, considering at... 4:39 I acknowledge Justin Baldoni has a decent explanation for his directing choices 5:38 and 6:03 I state that I don't think Blake Lively grasped how heavy this movie's contents are But at the end of the day, Baldoni is the director, not Lively. And my main gripe is with the book that started this all.
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  731. I've never really thought of that, cause I don't think it would ever be feasible for everyone to suddenly have a uniform parenting style. Variety in parenting style is probably valuable, but I really do think the world would be a better place if all parents were at the very least high in responsiveness. What do you think?
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  732. I'm so sorry to hear that! It definitely needs to be talked about more often :(
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  733. You are so welcome!
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  734. This comment comes off as backhanded, was that your intention?
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  735. I believe he was actually against trying psychedelics! Kind of surprising haha
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  736. I feel like it depends what type of makeup/hair color :)
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  737. I’m already on it! Video on that coming possibly Wednesday
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  738. Of course, that's the case with any interpersonal issues :)
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  739. These were the results with a silk bonnet, but I’ll try the second tip😊
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  740. The fact that you’re so insightful about this is a great first step!
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  742. It looks in stock on my end! If you ever get the "out of stock- unavailable" message, check back in a couple of hours and it should be back
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  743. Thank you for the kind words! And yes, I sympathize with how frustrating it is. People can be quite flaky these days.
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  744. Honestly the hardest part is coming up with video topics! What helps with that is lots of reading, researching academic articles, going to my own therapy, journaling, etc. The recording and editing itself takes me about 2 days per week, and then the rest of the week I try to focus on writing my novels. I know I’m going to need to make some changes once I become a mother in May 😅
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  745. LOL :)
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  746. I use mersi more colloquially, to mean thanks as opposed to thank you :)
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  747. Aw I'm glad this helped somewhat, of course it's not your fault! Best wishes to you too x
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  749. I completely relate to your sense of relief/validation in that moment. And it's true, what seems narcissistic on face-value could be something completely different going on. We can't really know what that is without doing a full assessment and ruling out disorders or issues that can look similarly
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  750. I think it's perfectly okay to use when referring to yourself! But it does kind of make light of a very serious topic, the term "daddy issues" has more pejorative connotations than "father complex" for example :)
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  751. Yes!! Thank you for highlighting that. People who have never struggled with this might take it for granted, but when you’ve spent years obsessing over food, it feels like such a lifesaver to rarely think about food. And it makes hunger cues so much more trustworthy, where you can just realize, “Ah! I’m having a thought about food, because I’m hungry. I think it’s time to grab something to eat.”
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  752. I completely understand. Some of the hardest things have the most rewarding outcomes
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  753. That's a tough one. I think not answering them initially might be very triggering for them, so I would recommend answering their question one last time but giving them a warning that it's the last time. Something like, "I categorically do not think you look fat, but you need to know that I'm not going to be answering these questions anymore. Your value depends on so much more than how you look, and it's frustrating for me to see you reduce yourself to your appearance. Just know that I'm not trying to be mean by avoiding these questions, I just happen to know reassurance-seeking doesn't actually make you feel reassured in the long run." Because it's true, these questions might not only be frustrating to you, but they also don't actually help that person feel better about themselves!
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  754. I have a list of suggestions for dissertation in my notes, but was thinking about waiting until next year when it's all done
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  755. I suspect we have different experiences due to operating in different cultures :) Personally, most people that I know only pay attention to their sun sign. And in Romania where astrology is super big, it’s only ever the sun sign that gets talked about when astrologers come on TV. I’m sure it’s different in astrology communities where people are more into the intricacies of their chart.
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  756. Thank you so much! I'm witchy all year round though ;)
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  757. This is SO incredibly wholesome😭❤️ thank you for your kind words, I’m thrilled that you and your friends have this little tradition!
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  758. At the top of my head, Mike Delfino from Desperate Housewives is a great example of positive masculinity! That’s a great video idea though. As for toxic femininity, no it’s not a common concept because femininity is not hegemonic like masculinity is. What traits of femininity would you consider toxic?
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  759. Me either :’)
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  760. Thank you, I'm so happy to hear that!
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  761. Never tried to "control the way language works," but there are very real dangers to non-professionals using diagnostic words to label others. How many laypeople appropriate medical terms and label others with those terms? There's no reason why it should be any different for psychological terms. I, too, appreciate many informational videos on this topic. Some are from mental health professionals, some are from people who have survived emotional abuse, some are from people with NPD themselves... They're all interesting and helpful, so long as they're not labeling others or spreading misinformation or stigma.
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  762. I was referring to the fact that she settled for someone in her direct friend group instead of waiting for someone she really liked. She didn’t really hide the fact that she was insecure about being single😄 and she was MUCH more in love with Richard
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  763. The planner I mentioned, for those of you interested: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CXTM6DGB
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  764. Yeah I’m thinking of revamping it, I just wasn’t a fan of my early YouTube way of speaking in front of the camera :)
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  765. I’ve been thinking on doing a video on confidence! Until then, check my videos on self-esteem and social anxiety if you haven’t already :)
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  766. Same exact ones as me! :)
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  767. I’m just a silly, silly goose!
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  768. I'm not sure I know enough about it yet, but I can read up on it!
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  769. Omg your name and picture 😂
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  770. I mean, as the person who experienced it, I knew based on her nonverbal communication and based on her history of deception that she was not likely being completely honest in that moment. It’s always kind of off-putting when strangers on the internet act like they know more about a personal situation than the person who actually experienced it 😅 For a bit of context, this person had a pattern of complimenting people and acting really nice to them, then weaponizing it when the other person fell for it. She once told a classmate to come on a trip with us and then acted shocked when that classmate actually bought tickets, acting like she had never said that. And no, we are not friends anymore in case you’re wondering, but just be mindful that people might not be sharing the whole story when they tell these kinds of personal anecdotes online.
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  771. I have been
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  772. She has olive skin, thick, dark hair (which she's always kept short), round, dark eyes, and a round face :) Just saw a photo of her and my grandpa yesterday from their youth and she looked beautiful!
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  773. Can’t use one when I’m sitting on the floor, sorry
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  774. That’s a good idea, thanks for the suggestion!
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  775. Check out my video titled "a low-risk way to get intimacy" if you haven't already!
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  776. Well I can see how that might be perceived, but an enmeshed family would probably argue that the characteristics of an enmeshed family are actually adaptive. For instance, they might perceive a lack of privacy as increasing the safety of the family members. The things I listed for enmeshed families have certainly been associated with negative psychological outcomes, but that doesn't mean the family doesn't still see a function to them.
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  777. That's so amazing to hear!! Thank you, I hope it helps :)
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  779. Thank you for this collab! ☺️
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  780. I actually do have a video on this! https://youtu.be/4vg0oF-9veY
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  781. I know right??
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  782. I feel like it's always friendship breakup season. But, to be fair, I've noticed a lot of big life changes for the people in my social circle lately!
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  783. Sure, I’m happy to share! :) It honestly was very easy once I replaced post-dinner TV with reading. We usually just watch one episode and then go into reading. Reading while traveling and more on the weekends also helps. Most of them are for enjoyment/curiosity, inspiration for content, and also to improve my own craft as a fiction author. I see it as part of my job to read lots of fiction, get a sense of the literary landscape, and get inspired. Also, I should mention 100 books would never have been possible while I was still in school or juggling multiple responsibilities (dissertation, internship/work, studying, content creation). Now that I run my own business, it’s a lot more doable, but don’t feel bad if you can’t read a ton when you have a million things on your plate. I’m already a little worried I won’t be able to read as much once the baby is born.
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  784. Wow, thank you so much! I really hope you enjoy them :)
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  785. Romanian!
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  786. Hahaha amazing
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  787. Yes, it is :) I hear that a lot, like Italian mixed with Russian
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  788. That would definitely be tough! For me it depends how close I am with that person. If it’s someone I’m close with, I might try to gently tell tell them what the current recommendations are or guide them towards some resources.
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  789. The second one is so good lmao
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  790. Thats a valid perspective, but I remind you that I am not culturally western. And really, I’m not looking at this from a cultural lens but rather a psychological one. Studies have widely shown that staying in unhealthy relationships leads to poorer outcomes, and my aim as a psychologist-in-training is to help people find psychological health.
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  791. Absolutely! Also random but I traveled to Romania through Poland this year and it was nice to catch just a tiny glimpse of your culture :)
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  792.  @gionzlover8940  yes he loooved classical music :) and not a problem, it sounds endearing!
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  793. I would love to! I was waiting for season 2 to come out but I might do it sooner if the premiere is super delayed :)
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  794. Everyone keeps saying he looks like either Stefan Salvatore or Robert Pattinson hahaha I never noticed before this
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  795. Oh, really? That makes more sense then... But the birthday girl looked pretty uncomfortable and tried to stop it the second time :/
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  796. What a disgusting thing to say
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  797. I'm so glad it resonated!!
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  799. Sorry to hear you were harmed by it :( The next video on this will probably feel quite validating
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  800. Thank you for the kind words, I’m definitely grateful of her and I’m sorry to hear your grandma isn’t more open! Although I can see there being some wisdom in leaving the past behind too :)
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  801. True, but are these influencers actually saying "you need to do what I do"? When people share about their life and viewers take it to be prescriptive, it might be worth examining the unspoken beliefs there (that I need to do what others do, that I need to compare myself to others, etc.)
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  802. Hope your day brightens up :)
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  803. I'm so glad it helped you reframe it!
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  804. Yess getting so close now! :)
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  805. I've touched in previous videos on drawing in friends who you feel safe with/accepted by, but this is definitely something I can discuss in more detail!
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  806. Ana’s comment moderator / husband here, they’re hard but I pretty much only listen to Young Dolph, thug, and old gucci. Ana says what I listen to outside of those three are “the depresso aspect”
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  807. I disagree that the psychological community thinks genetics are a bigger predictor of personality disorders than environment! Although there's certainly evidence of a genetic influence from heritability studies, myself and most other therapists I know would say that personality disorders are triggered by trauma. It's the gene x environment interaction that usually causes a disorder, although there may be the occasional case where only one or the other plays a role.
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  808. 15:58 covers this
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  809. I love that you're putting this into practice! :)
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  810. Interesting :) the symbolism is really rich in that movie
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  811. Thanks for the thought-provoking questions, and good luck with your career! 1. I want to mostly focus on relationship issues, anxiety, depression, trauma (especially intimate-partner violence and other forms of abuse), substance abuse, and eating disorders. 2. Quite a lot! It's definitely the orientation I find myself pulling the most from and intend to continue implementing it. 3. You know, I would be open to doing a basic research-based video on ASD such as this one (e.g. "the risk factors of ASD"), but to be honest it's not my clinical specialty so I mostly leave it to the experts in those areas. And don't worry, I usually record in batches! I actually recorded this video way before that person ever commented on my apparel LOL. I don't give much weight to comments that are clearly indicative of people's own inner projections.
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  812. It is a harsh reality they must accept😂
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  813. Yep, I worry about that too :/ knock on wood
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  814. I am SO excited to announce that I've launched a 4+ hour relationship skills course: psychologywithdrana.learnworlds.com/course/the-connection-course For those of you who like videos such as this one and want more, definitely check it out :)
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  815. I've done this before in the past, but tbh they didn't usually do very well despite the effort that went into them :/
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  816. Hi! I looked for charities specific to helping native Hawaiians but could not find any on the youtube fundraiser list. I probably didn’t know what names to specifically look for but I understand your sentiment
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  817. I'm not sure what you mean? The examples I gave weren't about me personally; this topic was sparked by a conversation I had with a close one who was struggling to enforce boundaries. And the topic of the video was delineated early on: why boundary-setting does not work in some situations. Could you direct me to the exact timestamp where I came off with a "misleading and pessimistic generalization"?
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  818. What is fake about saying "it's not for me"? It's communicating the honest sentiment that "I'm not a big fan" while also communicating the honest sentiment that "I'm glad it works for you." Two things can be true at once. Is there a reason why you're assuming the latter would be insincere?
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  819. Yes, I agree! I think a lot of men fall back on this myth that women are too complicated to understand and then invalidate and/or shame us when we do speak up. It's a double bind
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  820. All women experience some level of pressure when they’re single, but no I don’t think all women are insecure about it :) Take for example Phoebe, who never gave it a second thought and ended up with someone who she was head over heels for!
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  821. Whew, I’m sorry to hear how rude people think they can be while hiding behind a screen...
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  822. Omg that's such a good point! Thanks for sharing, and for the support :)
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  823. I appreciate it! As a Romanian married to a Russian-American, what our governments do will never stop me from appreciating your culture and people
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  824. At the top of my head, Heinz Kohut and Otto Kernberg are huge experts in the field of narcissistic personalities. I also really loved "Self and Others" by Hamilton which has chapters on NPD and other personality styles. I need to reflect a bit more before I think about my recommendations on human psychology in general :)
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  825. I’m all for co-regulating, especially when the kids are so young that they don’t yet have the ability to self-regulate. Maybe I should have specified that I think time-outs can be useful for kids who are old enough to self-regulate and have already been walked through how to do it in the moment. It’s impossible for me to mention every caveat and condition when I speak about these things.
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  826. Oh I feel you on that! I wish that were an option, cause I would for sure offer it
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  827. Thank you! And that's actually a great point, I have IRB approval to use the findings of the study so I could totally make a video discussing some of the themes that had to be cut out
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  828. I love that!
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  829. I wouldn't jump to self-diagnosis too quickly :) Most of us have tendencies of certain personality patterns but we don't have them to a level of impairment/distress that qualifies as pathological
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  831. Oh my god! I'm so sorry to hear about your accident. I'm glad you're okay.
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  832. This is an acceptance affirmation I love to use myself🙏🏻
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  833. Hope you and your loved ones are safe!
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  834. It's nothing personal against her, she just kind of reminds me of some people I've known in real life who were very controlling and annoying in that way. And I think she sort of "settled" for Chandler because she didn't want to be single anymore, she didn't really feel toward him the way she felt toward Richard (and that's of course, putting aside the fact that she's out of Chandler's league). If she had higher self-esteem, she might have waited to meet someone outside her direct friend group who she really liked, but I guess one could argue that friends make the best partners
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  835. Which aspect of psychology? I would say neuroscience/neuropsychology is the main one
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  836. Noted!
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  837. 5 😅 and clip-on bangs
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  838. Pretty clear you didn’t actually watch the video, where I explicitly and repeatedly state that you can never 100% control other people’s actions, but that you have the power to choose partners who are less likely to cheat
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  839. This is very smart, and honestly if we're going by guilt alone, I probably am toxic about it
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  840. Aw I'm honored! And that's a great idea
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  841. It definitely feels otherworldly! In some parts it resembles Mars, in some it looks like somewhere out of Jurassic Park, in some it looks straight out of Avatar… i guess that’s what happens when a bunch of volcanoes in the middle of the pacific form a gorgeous tropical terrain🌺
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  842. Thank you so much!
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  843. Yep, attachment style is definitely a spectrum, and it’s pretty universally accepted that your attachment style can change over time or differ based on the type of relationship (e.g., you can be insecurely attached with your caregivers but securely attached with your partner). With that being said, it’s still important to have names for these constructs, as their validity and reliability are backed by decades of research at this point.
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  844. It's definitely a risky rabbit hole to go down! A lot of psychology students initially become convinced they have certain diagnoses once they learn about them, too, because it's human nature to want to compare with our circumstances. Leave it to the professionals to determine if it's actually the case :) Most of us have traits and symptoms from various illnesses, but that doesn't mean we meet all the criteria or the intensity needed for a diagnosis.
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  845. Thanks for the suggestion! This isn't something I've looked into before, but I definitely can
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  846. Nope, I've completed 9 months of 12
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  847. It's from "what we do in the shadows" TV show. Also cause it's October and I love all things spooky haha
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  848. Is it clickbait if the video answers the title though? ;)
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  849. Yes, I actually do!! https://youtu.be/H-byVaxmHeg
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  850. I like school! My biggest struggle has been getting into practicum every year, which I go into a bit more detail in this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WbAY1ZBZvPM Let me know if you have any other specific questions :)
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  851. Haha yep, he's here to call me out and have a giggle
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  852. Congrats!!! That is so exciting, you’re so close to the end!
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  853. I’m actually coming out with a daily mental health journal in the next few months! I have two journaling methods, a daily practice that has really been keeping me centered, and a more complex as-needed format. The one I’m publishing first will be the former, and I hope to at some point also publish the second format :)
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  854. Thank you so much for saying that❤️
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  855. Aw thank you! You can send it to psychologywithana@gmail.com :)
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  856. Oh definitely! The short answer is that it was awful, they lived in poverty because the communist dictator hoarded the wealth and everyone else was impoverished. They would think oranges were a luxury at Christmas time. But she has even more fascinating stories from WWII too, of Russian soldiers coming into her village and putting guns to her dad’s head and them having to flee. She has an incredible life story
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  857. I'm not sure I would equate casual sex to criminal behavior. Either way, video coming out soon about the personal responsibility/cultural pressure debate!
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  858.  @dakaodo  Ah, I see what you mean now! Well, even if it wasn't intentional, your comment was helpful in getting me to reflect on how to do more spontaneous skits next time :)
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  859. Thank you for sharing! That makes sense.
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  860. I may need to scale it back a little starting soon😅
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  861. I have a temporary license and a supervisor, which is enough in the state of WA to open your own practice :) And yes, running a YouTube channel helped support me through grad school, as well as doing work as a TA.
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  862. Thank you so much! Yes the hat made me feel ✨magical✨
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  863. How is taking someone on an exciting, adventurous first date the same thing as being shallow?
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  864. Thank you for sharing!
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  865. His name is super western. And based on the article’s multiple references to England, I assume he’s English. Also, it’s fairly obvious he knows nothing about Eastern European women😂
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  866. Thank you :) I considered it but I think a lot of people have already said most of the things I’d have to say about it too!
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  867. It's about YouTube's rules, I assure you I would not bleep random words if it were up to me
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  868. Being Integrated - Pragmatic Mindfulness that would’ve been my #1 tip, but I’m glad to hear a man saying it :) thank you for sharing! Also- if you ever want to collab on a male version of this, feel free to email me at psychologywithana@gmail.com. Your perspective is always so refreshing
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  869. I'm so happy to hear that, thank you! Although I no longer live in Chicago, it's a place that will always be near and dear to my heart :')
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  870. Haha if I get a second pet I may name him/her Pesto
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  871. Yes, so glad I got to visit those eerie beaches! Love the way you describe the area
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  872. My statement that he's a "pretty good guy" wasn't meant to say that everyone with psychopathy is a "bad guy" or similar to mass murderers. But psychopathy, by definition, is a pattern of disregard and violation of the rights of others. To me personally, I don't think people who intentionally violate the rights of others are very good people. Despite this, professionally, I know any mental disorder can be treated and no individual should be defined by/shamed for their diagnosis; this is the reason I would never say that psychopaths are all bad. I commend your dedication to non-stigmatization of mental disorders, though :)
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  873. That’s so cute!
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  874. Thank you for sharing your experience! Best of luck to you and your groups
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  875. You're very kind! I'm just grateful to have the audience I currently have :)
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  876. Stress is stress; it doesn’t directly cause anxiety. It can definitely decrease your capacity to cope with your own anxious tendencies, though.
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  877. Interesting! Not sure I agree with the "meaningless sexual encounters" though, she seems to derive great meaning from her hallucination with Lily. I've been thinking a lot about the idea of skin-picking as a form of self-harm, though. I mean, technically speaking, it is "destruction of human tissue," so I guess it could be!
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  878. Se pare ca avem multe in comun! :)
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  879. That's a great point, and definitely a possibility! Whenever talking about the development of a disorder, genetics AND environment usually work together to trigger it. So it's very possible that it might have been a mix of the two. As for the last part of your message, I think it's a great idea to find a good therapist and work on these issues. You sound highly insightful and self-aware, which are both indicators of a great prognosis. :)
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  880. It’s just my iPhone!
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  881. She is the CUTEST
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  882. Yes, I’m much better :) thank you for checking in! I’ve been testing negative and just have some lingering coughing/congestion
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  883. Really sorry to hear you're going through that. Having a personality disorder does not make you beyond redemption, and many people are able to find compassion toward those who have hurt them. That includes self-compassion, too.
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  884. Myth making is not a solely male endeavor, women have been weaving tales since the primordial dawn of time. But you're very right, I didn't think about the siren as an anima symbol!
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  885. I’m definitely a big proponent of setting clear boundaries right from the start. I think what Esther Perel meant by the idea I referenced at the end was that jealousy can increase intimacy, but not that it’s something we should aspire for. She mentioned in her book that many people say their partner is most attractive when others are attracted to them. It’s not about feeling insecure or feeling stuck in an abusive relationship, but about acknowledging that you chose your partner for a reason, and that others will also see the value in them, but that you are still the one who gets their loyalty at the end of the day. Hope that clarifies things!
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  886. Thank you so much! :)
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  887. I do have a video on LDRs :)
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  888. Oh wow, I didn’t know that! Thanks for sharing :)
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  889. I know it's in a while but I'm sooo excited to watch this live with y'all!
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  890. Yes, I do! Thank you :)
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  891. I might! Anything specific you want to know?
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  892. I was just thinking the other day that I'm surprised I don't have one on it! I will definitely keep that in consideration, cause it's one of the most transformational books I've read and one I'd like to go back to regularly.
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  893. That’s a good point, I didn’t even think of that! I imagine that, if everyone had the option to pursue their passion, the jobs that no one wants would be paid much better than they are, so people would be incentivized to take them. But of course, it’s just a fantasy, cause where would that money even come from
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  894. Hope you feel better soon :)
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  895.  @DavidJones-ot8qu  I’m talking about the harm that was caused during the trauma itself, not in the aftermath. Being validated hours or years after a trauma is of course a protective factor, but it does not change the harm that happened during the trauma itself. Maybe I’m not expressing myself well here, but it’s starting to feel like you’re willingly misunderstanding what I wrote, so I’m gonna disengage from this discussion now.
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  897. Of course! Dialectics are primarily about human interaction, not things like physical laws.
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  898. Lmk what you thought!
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  899. Nope it's not, I just whip it out now and then :)
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  900. Apparently not, I mentioned some of those studies later in the video
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  901. No, I completely agree!
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  902. I would say so, but it's ultimately up to your definition. For instance, last week was a huge week for me professionally--overall positive changes, and yet it was quite stressful for me! I experienced a combination of excitement and worry. I didn't sleep well, I felt wired, etc. I would call it stress, yet it was also positive stress.
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  903. I have a practice for teletherapy where i see clients who are located in Washington state. I don’t take inquiries through youtube but i do through my website or Psychology Today :)
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  904. I’m so jealous!!
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  905. Thanks for the feedback! Honestly it crossed my mind too, but I got lazy because the captions themselves always take so long. Next time I'll muster the strength to color code them
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  906. Thank you so much! It was a little vulnerable to make this video but I'm hoping others will see they're not alone in the experience. Even those of us who have made a career out of communicating to hundreds of thousands of people go through it😅
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  907. I actually don’t know how to do it so it’s pretty much in YouTube’s hands when they decide to add them or not! But I’m definitely grateful when it works :)
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  908. Hi Alana, thank you for the kind comment! I actually thought the portion of the video where you spoke about your own relationship to Christianity was great, which is why in my video I focused on just the scientific claims from the TikTok videos and the blogpost articles. I love that you've found something that works for you and wish you the best.
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  909. I’m so happy to hear that!!
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  910. Yes, this is SUCH a good topic!
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  911. Aw, thank you so much! I'm so glad it's helpful for you.
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  912. YouTube de-monetizes videos that use certain words. I don't like it either, but I'm not going to risk getting de-monetized just because it irks you, sorry
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  913. When I say “going through something,” I am specifically talking about people who are harming others, which is why those are the types of examples I gave. The way I see it, when someone is behaving in such ways, they’re usually not doing great in life. But I am absolutely not talking about people who are going through a rough patch in general! Should’ve made that clearer
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  914. Yes I will soon-ish!
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  916. I think there are a few factors at play here. Firstly, there are of course exceptions to the norm. Second, like I mention in the video, you can absolutely mask as an extrovert for a period of time. And third, behavior is highly context-dependent; for instance, I’ve been told by a friend that I’m quiet until you get to know me and then you can’t get me to shut up 😂 But as a rule of thumb, studies have shown that introverts tend to be more quiet than extroverts.
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  917. Thanks for the recommendation! And absolutely
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  918. Yes! Although I feel like job security is not that stable, especially in this market :/ People can easily be let off with no warning
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  919. Good to know James Franco :')
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  920. For real! I also listened to a podcast by two psychologists where they were discussing whether out of body experiences are the result of brain chemistry or whether the brain chemistry is just what’s going on during an actual out of body experience. This existential psychology is so fascinating!
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  921. I completely get that, it’s harder for some more than others
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  922. Yeah, I would probably put that under what I said at 8:56. Sometimes people have very valid reasons to be concerned about a relationship with that person
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  923. It certainly can apply to anyone, but women are the group of people who currently get the bulk of objectification, invalidation, silencing, etc. And there are always intersectional factors like SES and race that also play a role
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  924. Muchas gracias! Lo siento, no tengo los recursos por subtitulos en español en este momento :(
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  925. Thank you so much💕 it really is such a great show, it covers a lot of important social topics!
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  926. Haha exactly what I was wondering too!
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  927. Thank you so much!! In the next month I'm actually gonna post a TikTok about how I grew it out after someone chopped it off 6 months ago lol. I hadn't done anything special to it in this video, my routine is just: shampoo, conditioner, leave-in conditioner, hair oil, and sleeping in a braid with a satin scrunchie and satin bonnet :)
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  928. Idk, it's worked for me 🤷‍♀️
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  929. 😂😂
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  930. So glad to hear it helps you!
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  931. That would mean I gotta work through mine first 😂
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  932. I’m Atheist myself. You are completely misinterpreting what I said.
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  933. The course ratings that I've received so far are on my website: https://www.dranayudin.com/courses However, if it's a lot of money for you, I definitely don't encourage you to overextend yourself for it! Please email me at psychologywithana@gmail.com if you need additional pay-over-time options
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  934. No es una coincidencia, rumano es una idioma romantica como español :) y muchas gracias!
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  935. Sounds like you've found a passion that really gets you in a state of flow! :)
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  936. agreed, the ones I've noticed are Eastern European, Middle Eastern, Latin American, and some African!
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  937. You’re not dreaming! I unlisted that video because it’s no longer fully aligned with my perspective
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  938. Good question, I might not have explained this clearly enough in the video We all use most defense mechanisms from time to time, especially when we feel threatened or triggered in some way. After all, entire groups of people have demonized entire other groups of people throughout history. These defenses are often far more frequent in individuals with Cluster B personality disorders, but they’re absolutely not exclusive to those individuals. It’s not the defense itself that is maladaptive, but the intensity/frequency/context within which it’s used (Edit: and yes it’s absolutely sometimes the case that people demonize a group of people that they belong to because they feel threatened and are projecting their self-loathing onto others. I think we all have a habit of judging those who remind us of our worst qualities)
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  939. I had no idea that people wanted audio books so much! Will consider this next time
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  940. I’m so sorry about the shame you’ve had to endure!❤️ anyone that judges you for gender expression is not worth listening to anyway
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  941. She’s in, she just keeps meowing at me😂
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  942. Yes, you're literally describing me ahah :'( and thank you!
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  943. Thank you so much! Good luck to you :)
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  944. AEOversity hahah great point. I’m thinking about doing a video on dating during the quarantine
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  945. Technically, a conspiracy is just a secret group planning to do something ill-intentioned! It's the theory part that's gotta be proven haha
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  946. Whoa, this timing is crazy cause I'm actually reading it right now! I will note that you want a video on it :)
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  947. Ok bot
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  948. YES, I was thinking this too! A lot of the conspiracies being screened in the studies were very outlandish and offensive (e.g. antisemitic ones, 9/11 was a hoax, etc.). I completely agree that we probably wouldn’t see such high degrees of psychopathology if a wider range of conspiracy theories had been tested. Though I do wonder if that might be complicated in and of itself, for researchers to position themselves as authorities on which conspiracy theories are real and which ones aren’t.
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  949. Exposure therapy works quite well for desensitizing to anxiety-inducing triggers, but I personally think a depth-oriented approach is also needed to supplement it for many people.
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  950. This is just false
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  951. That's good to know! This was semi-scripted, not quite improv, since each skit was focused on a different type of communication and my husband wasn't briefed about the content of the video first.
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  953. I have a video on keeping friendships healthy & platonic :)
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  954. That wasn't one of the hypotheses for this study but it's an interesting one to propose. It's worth mentioning that a study cannot account for every possible hypothesis that exists, and 3 different theories within one study is a pretty strong ratio. That being said, the study at no point claims these are the only 3 reasons why people lie.
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  955. Yeah it’s also a component of some types of hypnotherapy! But personally, I think radical acceptance of the past and its associated sensations is the way to ultimately overcome it
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  956. That makes me so happy to hear!
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  957.  @PhoenixtheII  I meant physiologically aroused, not physically :) As in something that gets your heart racing/palms sweating/etc. Something like watching a scary movie
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  958. Thank you <3
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  959. Thank you for saying that :) Happy to have you here!
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  960. Noted!
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  961. Haven’t seen it but it sounds interesting, thanks for the recommendation :)
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  962. Lol oops
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  963. I love the idea of scheduling an email to yourself! I do something similar with letters. I'm glad the video is what you needed to hear
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  964. Agreed, there's a reason why women need more support but it's of course important to support all types of people!
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  965. Oh wow, y'all are already preparing for winter in September? Fingers crossed!
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  966. Oh really? I’m not too informed on this trend, does it promote similar habits?
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  967. I love when people ask me to look into books! Just read the description and it didn't get any immediate red flags, but I'd be suspicious of the coaching too 👀
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  968. I'm collabing with a wonderful male therapist later this week and he will do the equivalent for men!
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  969. Thank you!! Happy to hear it :)
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  970. The one at 17:38 was about praying for your partner, but some of the others I discussed were about praying together. Thanks for catching the distinction!
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  971. I watched the first season and couldn't stand the "not-like-other-boys" internal monologue omg... I'll consider it but my impression of him was that he's Borderline!
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  972. Fae Bailey sorry to hear that :(
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  973. Unfortunately yes
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  974. Thank you!! I finally found a hair soufflé that makes my natural curls manageable 😆
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  975. Thank you!!
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  976. Truee haha
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  977. You’re so kind, thank you!
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  978. That means so much to me, thank you!❤️ I’m glad
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  979. Thank you so much!
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  980. Christian K omg😂😂
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  981. Yes, I think that's fine, as long as you're also emphasizing other strengths as well :)
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  982. Absolutely!
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  983.  @nehalilisays  There's definitely a ton of pressure to speak up in American school systems as well! I've wondered before whether this is determined by how introverted/extroverted a society is, since the US is a pretty extroverted society overall and has little tolerance for introversion. (But introversion sure is helpful during a time like this, with social isolation going on...)
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  984. Very similar to my reasons too! And thank you very much. Sending you lots of positivity on your healing journey✨
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  985. Thanks to both of you for clarifying! Since you are native Spanish speakers, I will defer to your definition of machismo :) Just to clarify where my confusion came from, this is a snippet I recently read in a book by Gil & Vasquez: “So much has been written about machismo both within and outside the Latino community that the word has entered the English language as a synonym for oppressive male supremacy. However, it’s important to be aware that machismo has positive aspects, too. We’ll be referring to this ‘light side’ when we feel you can use it to your advantage in improving things with the men in your life. The light side of machismo is personified in the cabellero, who is a true protector in every sense of the word.” I think maybe the authors were referring to caballerismo as part of machismo and this could be why I was confused? i’d love to hear if you agree or not with this interpretation!
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  986. Most therapists actually do a 10-15 minute screening before taking on a client!
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  987. Yeah, it’s frustrating that I can’t even say certain words on social media or the video gets flagged, and then people get real mad in the comments when I have to censor out said words 🤦🏻‍♀️ Especially since having open discussions is so needed for prevention!
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  988. Emotional reasoning, in the example I gave of someone who is chronically angry, would be like thinking: "I feel angry, therefore the person I'm talking to did something to anger me." Whereas being curious about the emotion would get you closer to the real reason behind your anger, which is that you feel people are mistreating you because you experience low self-worth/entitlement. Our emotions don't always fit the facts of the situation (e.g., you might feel angry even though no injustice occurred against you), but even then, they contain important messages to decipher. Emotional reasoning is like saying “I feel [this] so [this] is true,” while listening to your emotions is like saying “I feel [this]. Let me look into why that is.” Hope that helps :)
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  989. Yup! And all these YouTubers out here promoting dangerous diets under the guise of “health”😉 but god forbid anyone ever try to help those who already have an ED!
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  990. Thanks so much! No English isn’t my first language :) I’m just naturally good at languages
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  991. LOL
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  992. That's so kind of you! And absolutely, I'm glad your friend got out of that toxic situation :/
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  993. I’m not familiar with the book so I don’t think it was me who suggested it! But to answer your question, I think diagnoses are useful for guiding treatment and research. I wouldn’t focus much on a client’s diagnosis unless they requested a discussion of it or there was a very good reason, because I agree that putting people in boxes can be reductionistic and even harmful at times. At my current practicum, we luckily don’t require diagnoses for treatment :)
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  994. Ah I’m so glad!! I’d love to hear all about your experience in the post course eval when you get there :)
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  995. Thank you!! 😊 it is!
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  996. Yes, there are plenty of differences between these religions, but that doesn't mean there isn't a place to discuss their commonalities. I never quite understand this argument that you can't discuss common trends among adjacent groups. Even within those groups, there's tons of variation in how people practice and make meaning of their holy texts. It's kind of like saying "apples and oranges are very different, you can't lump them in together" when someone is saying "it's important to eat several servings of fruit per day." Yes, they have different characteristics and nutritional contents, but they're also quite similar in many ways.
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  997. Good luck!
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  998. Nope, my last video on Shari Franke got demonetized🙃 but I guess exhibiting child abuse in family vlogs is okay!
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  999. It really is!!
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  1000. Thank you!
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  1001. Ah that makes me so happy!! good luck :)
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  1002. More coming!
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  1003. I don’t, the light is overexposing half of my face :)
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  1004. Sorry I'm not sure I understand the question?
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  1005.  @CFChristopherB  Agreed, both uninvolved and authoritarian are low in responsiveness, so that's why I said "at the very least high in responsiveness." When you think about the fact that this parenting style model only has two very broad axes (responsiveness and demandingness), there's sooo much room for variety within a healthy authoritative style. Two parents could both be authoritative and look so different in their parenting.
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  1006. I think really any community where there are images of predominantly thin people can be damaging. That, and also communities where people are encouraging others' disordered thoughts. I think it's fine to be struggling with something, but it crosses a line when you're negatively impacting others' recovery (e.g. by giving them diet tips, by being their "accountability buddy," etc.). Hope this helps, let me know if it didn't answer your question!
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  1007. That's so funny you ask, I actually just recently bought it! Though I probably won't get to it for a while
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  1008. Hahaha sper ca nu prea puternic
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  1009. I have a few videos that touch on that: -why we get so triggered over celebrities -using shadow work to manage self-righteousness But I definitely want to go deeper into this in the future!
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  1010. Nope haha I don’t keep up with that YouTube genre😂
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  1011. I love this idea!
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  1012. I agree with you! I don’t think the criticism entirely derived from envy, only that it’s a piece of what I’m seeing.
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  1013. Oh yeah, I've accrued most of these items over the course of many years, and I honestly use a lot of them year round😂 even just one new item that season can bring so much joy!
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  1014. I don’t think I can play music that isn’t royalty-free in YouTube videos, but I would looove a video like that😭 romanian dance music is my jam
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  1015. Do you feel comfortable sharing in what way you found this topic relevant to decriminalization? Thanks in advance!
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  1016. Worden Roger I’m so glad this helped! Adolescent relational trauma can definitely play a huge role in how we react to the world years later. And I’m actually planning a fun video about my cat soon, so stay tuned 🤩
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  1017. I unlisted it a long time ago--I wanted to focus on just making this channel a positive, supportive space. I still think it's important for some people to make critiques, but I've liked the peace of mind of not having to be that person.
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  1018. I hadn’t thought of people seeking a coach rather than a therapist for financial reasons since the majority of coaches’ rates I see online are about the same as therapists’ rates, sometimes even more😬
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  1019. I disagree. Having a positive regard for your partner, having a passionate relationship and never letting disagreements escalate into aggression doesn’t mean you can’t grow. There will still be times when one or both need support, when one person will need to set a boundary, when partners will have a rich discussion of why they disagree on something, etc. Two people don’t have to be causing each other pain or unsatisfied in the relationship to have meaningful growth.
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  1020. Yes, there really are
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  1021. I'm sorry to hear that :/ Definitely a good reason not to use lists, then! But good luck with everything else❤️
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  1022. Definitely the #1 person I’d invite to a dinner party
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  1023. Thanks for the resource! It's not really surprising to me at all, since women are biologically more picky in mate selection than men. The theory is that it has something to do with men wanting to spread their seed and women wanting to make sure that their partner will be right for them in the long-term
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  1025. Best of luck :) and thank you!
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  1026. 😂😂😂
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  1028. You do you. It's more about acknowledging that you have the potential to do the same thing you are judging the other person of doing. So maybe you still decide to shame them, but shadow work helps you realize if you've been hypocritical and need to forgive yourself for past transgressions, when you could benefit from incorporating a little bit of the trait you're judging, or when you're unconsciously projecting your own issues onto someone else.
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  1029. That still doesn't buy me happiness though
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  1030. 😂
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  1031. LOL I feel like I'd bury my head in embarrassment to see myself as a character but that's a very sweet comment, thank you :)
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  1032.  @erinliannaclare  maybe one day!
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  1033. It's definitely one of the lesser known diagnoses :)
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  1034. Agreed, enmeshed families can cause a lot of harm if the people inside them don't think it's the right fit for them :(
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  1035. It's definitely made me more aware of my own mental health struggles! I don't think it made me have symptoms that I wouldn't have otherwise, but I do think it's made me much more hyper-aware about the symptoms I do have. It's definitely an issue with psychology students too
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  1036.  @Anna-lv8mm  I just watched Dr. Todd Grande's video on her and....yikes. I'd recommend just watching his take on it, since I don't want to give her views by watching her videos and I'm not sure what else I'd have to add to the convo :)
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  1037. Thank you so much for bringing this perspective to my attention! I probably didn't emphasize this as explicitly as I intended to, but I'd like to reiterate something I mentioned in the video: anyone can behave abusively, independent of power dynamics. It's less likely that it will have an effect on the victim if the victim has significantly more power to shield themselves with, but there are most certainly exceptions to the rule--and in any case, abusive behavior is distressing to the person experiencing it. It sounds like this was absolutely the case for you. I started the video by saying that this is an oversimplification of a complex topic, and I think your example really highlights that. I think it really comes down to the fact that "abusive behavior" and "abusive relationships" are two slightly different constructs. Abusive behavior is a collection of hurtful actions, whereas abusive relationships are characterized by the cycle of abuse, the wheel of power and control, and other more complex dynamics we tend to see across victims and abusers. And, like with anything, there are always exceptions to the rule.
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  1038. Thank you!! It’s that time of year when I’m dreaming of auburn hair and it’s such a bad idea logistically hahaha
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  1039. Myself!
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  1040. Yeah that’s why I still wear it anytime I go out, but if I can reduce carcinogens as much as possible with an alternative, I intend to. From what I understand, the research isn’t very clear-cut on this topic at this time.
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  1041. I've seen a couple and figured I had to make one
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  1042. I try, but it’ll be hard now that classes started again😭
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  1043. Asking the big questions! Causality has not been established on this from what I know, only prediction
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  1044. I’d keep a journal tracking when I feel drained and what happened right before!
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  1045. Just answered this in another comment so here it is :) I have a few thoughts but I don't feel comfortable sharing because I'm not convinced the incident wasn't staged. I also feel like I've spoken enough about the Smiths and to make another video about them would just feel overboard. I try to say what I have to say once and then move on, cause otherwise the drama would be endless.
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  1046. I get it, I too cross a line at genuine cruelty--chronically causing serious harm to others or violence of any kind. Just be mindful that it's more nuanced than it may seem. For one, people are capable of perceiving cruelty even when there is none. Secondly, there may be situations where even cruelty merits compassion: the abuse victim who finally fights back, the mourning father who wants to make sure the person who unalived his daughter has a miserable rest of his life, etc. I also think about how this topic brings up the difference between personal values and moral values. I can have a personal value of hard work and also acknowledge that I have no right to judge people who prefer a relaxed lifestyle over hard work (difference in personal values). But I probably also have a set of moral values in which I think a difference of opinion makes someone a bad person, like if they are violent to others. In general, it's a good idea to deconstruct the judgments we have towards others for not falling in line with our personal values. Whether that's true of moral values too, I'm not sure. That's something I'm still reflecting on.
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  1047. Yeah, it really helped me reframe risk when I heard it!
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  1049. Noted! I'm surprised I haven't made a video on that yet
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  1050. Thank you!! I know the struggle, I had to bring my family copies overseas
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  1051. There were still so many to explore for such a small country! :)
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  1052. Honestly, videos where I have to sift through dozens of research articles are not sustainable for me to be doing on a super regular basis. Not only are they very time-consuming, there’s also a limited amount of topics that people are interested in. So while I appreciate that you’re interested in the more research-heavy stuff, those videos have always been and always will remain occasional.
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  1053. Great point!
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  1054. Multumesc mult!
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  1055. I’m so glad!!
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  1056. That she does😂 she’s such a baby❤️
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  1057. I actually have an incredibly soft spot for older people. My grandma is one of my favorite people, and nothing makes me cry more than seeing old people sad. I meant the boomer comment to be a lighthearted joke about what a strange choice of word it is, and I thought it would be fine since Brian isn’t even a boomer, but I wouldn’t choose to say it again in retrospect. I’m concerned, though, that you say I’ve made other such remarks? If you remember what they are, please let me know, cause that’s very far from how I feel and something I’d like to correct.
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  1058. Yes, I'm planning one! Thanks for sharing
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  1059. Thank you, this is exactly the kind of mind shortcut I was hoping to receive!!
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  1060. I'm so glad to hear the bundle helped make the course more accessible for you! This comment means everything to me
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  1061. Me too!! And thank you, happy New Years!
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  1062. True, but there’s a difference between defending yourself and being defensive! This video is about defensiveness where it’s not warranted and it negatively affects relationships, not responding to genuine attacks.
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  1063. Haven't really thought about it, I mostly view marriage as an arbitrary label so the difference between "man-sharing" and "polygyny" seems subtle to me
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  1064. Absolutely, I think that can be a contributor for many people
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  1065. That's interesting! I don't remember ever being tested on it
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  1066. Ayy that means the algorithm likes me again! (It didn't like me very much for a long time this year)
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  1067. Thanks for sharing! Finland seems to have a lot of awesome lore :)
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  1068. Man’s search for meaning is on my bookshelf and I hope to get to it soon! And I’ve already read and loved The Kite Runner :)
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  1069. That makes me very happy to hear :)
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  1070. Thank you for sharing your perspective! I agree with all you said, and that last part made me chuckle a little. Not taking no for an answer is definitely a good way to get an order of protection...
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  1071. I know Dr. Todd Grande, Kati Morton, and Dr. Tracey Marks have all made videos on this topic already, so check those out! :)
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  1072. Yes, I mention this in the video!
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  1073. You know I want to, but it can be a little dejecting to see that my favorite week of the year gets so much fewer views than my other videos which aren’t as dear to me 🥲 I even considered transferring Halloweek fully to my Book & Hearth channel after this year. Regardless, I’ll be posting more similar content on there year-round!
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  1074. I completely get that, I thought I would feel the same way
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  1075. I was raised Christian. Most Christians believe God is all good and Satan is all bad. I don't believe I suggested Christians believe Satan is a god, though
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  1076. It seems like we have different definitions of honeymoon phases. For me it’s the 3 things I listed (passion, idealization, no fighting), and what you’re describing sounds more like an unhealthy dynamic often found in the early stages, but not one I would necessarily say is typical for everyone
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  1077. It can certainly change cognitive patterns, though it does so in a more indirect way than other types of therapy. For example, some forms of therapy might promote a type of cognitive change by teaching skills, assigning homework, filling out worksheets... Whereas a psychodynamic therapist can prompt cognitive flexibility in the client by pointing out defense behaviors that impede cognitive flexibility, modeling cognitive flexibility themselves, helping the client process the emotions preventing cognitive flexibility, getting to the root of what initially caused the cognitive flexibility, etc.
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  1078. Thank you! :) Spanish is one of my favorite languages
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  1079. Thanks so much! :) I haven't heard about the enneagram but the Myers-Briggs is not used within the field for personality testing, to my knowledge. I had a personality professor who told me it's pretty much considered invalid, and judging by the psychometric properties I found online recently, I have to agree
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  1080. That's a great, very interesting topic. I've been meaning to make a video on the topic of racism and trauma, with everything going on lately. All the videos I posted this week were pre-recorded from last week since it's been a busy and heavy few days, so I'm still gathering my thoughts on the best way to approach what's happening right now. I will need to do some extra research before I make such a video, but you gave me a lot of potential ideas. :)
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  1081. Sorry to hear that! I believe you can slow down the speed in the bottom-right corner
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  1082. I’m so sorry 😞 I’ve been there too
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  1083. Aww I'm glad!
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  1084. That's a good idea, thank you!
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  1085. Yeah you’re right, he definitely did some messed up things. I was just remembering him as a victim and in comparison to Walt
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  1086. Agreed, immaturity in adults can sometimes be a dangerous thing for the people around them. I remember one time I was trying to point out someone I knew in the cafeteria to a friend and I asked her to look discreetly. She immediately flipped her head around and stared, and then looked back at me and asked, "That person?" It was a major face-slap moment for me, and sometimes I feel like it's safer for me to not put my trust in people who behave immaturely.
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  1087. Dropped it here :) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c7OCxe2fI-w&t=29s
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  1088. Good luck!! I'm happy to hear that :)
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  1089. Is that from Mad Men? I stopped watching before she started acting out
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  1090. I think there’s nothing wrong with being supportive to others and even admiring their appearance if it’s not the only thing you think they’re good at :) I can tell someone “you draw beautifully” and it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re only good at drawing, much like telling someone “you’re beautiful” doesn’t necessarily mean their only strength is their looks. But when people reduce us to specific body parts or talk about us like we’re not human beings, that’s when I consider it objectification.
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  1091. I would not judge a friend for cheating on their partner; I would try to understand them and treat them with the same compassion I hope they would afford me when I make a big mistake. The only situation that would cross a line for me is any form of abuse or violence.
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  1092. Thanks so much💕 the hate actually makes me stronger, I’ve always been sensitive but my skins gotten muuuch thicker :)
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  1093. Thank you! It's from Garage :)
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  1094. Congrats! :) I speak Romanian and English fluently, French and Spanish conversationally, and I've taken a few years of Russian but I'm definitely very elementary cause I haven't kept up with it. I'd rather keep the language I'm currently learning a secret cause otherwise it'll give away where I'm moving and I'm not ready to share that
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  1095. Ooh I’ll have to check it out
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  1096. The light makes one side of my face overexposed :)
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  1097. Lundy Bancroft's "Why does he do that?"
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  1098. Oh for sure, I think a lot of scam operations work via bots these days
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  1099. Had to look up who that is! You know it's a really bad hair day when I opt for a low bun 😂
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  1100. I almost always get my jewelry from Regal Rose!
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  1101. This advice is applicable to any gender, not just for women to "manipulate" men. And it's not manipulation; like I mentioned, you can't trick someone into liking you. It's only about creating an environment where their preexisting attraction can flourish.
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  1102. Thank you so much! Welcome to the channel :)
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  1103. I’m conflicted on this because, personally, I do find volatile communication to feel unsafe, but the research does not support the idea that volatile communicators break up more. I wonder if those of us who feel hypervigilant and unsafe around volatile communicators actually have a history of being around hostile communicators who use volatile communication norms as a cover-up.
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  1104. Damn, can't believe I forgot to mention EDs! Great points
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  1105. Thank you! No I don't :)
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  1106. The reason why it’s not in digital form is because I want to be 100% sure it doesn’t impact formatting, and that users can actually fill it out. I wouldn’t feel good about selling a product that’s mostly fill-in-the-blanks but they can’t actually fill out. Do you happen to know if this is possible with an ebook?
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  1107. That's awesome to hear!
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  1108. Vidushi Khandelwal thanks so much!!💕
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  1109. I'm gonna need to check out her music!
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  1110. Is it a virtual first date or in real life? You could do something like watch a scary movie (either in real life or on a Netflix watch party)
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  1111. I’m so sorry for your loss❤️
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  1112. Yesss I’ve been thinking a lot about doing a video on this
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  1113. Thank you so much!😊 and I usually flip up the septum in professional settings but for some videos I can’t help myself haha
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  1114. I love these! Thanks for sharing
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  1115. I might at some point! Not entirely related but I have a video coming up on there about lessons I learned that made me less easily offended
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  1116. I've never heard of it but it looks funny so I'll add it to my things to watch LOL
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  1117. That's an interesting theory! It could be
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  1118. Multumesc mult! Mie mi se pare ca am fost cam timida in acest clip ca n-am mai vorbit niciodată cu bunica in timp ce ne filmez😂 așa ca îți apreciez cuvintele
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  1119. Yess that's awesome :)
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  1120. Wait really? They remove your comments about bots?
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  1121. Thank you😊
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  1122. That’s very kind of you to say, thank you! :)
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  1123. Yes, it is most definitely my fault
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  1124. Book recommendation video coming next week! :)
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  1125. Yeah very true, I wasn’t even thinking about full-on intercourse to be honest. Like I’ve seen people in relationships starting to flirt or make out with others while partying and then blame it on the alcohol so that’s more what I was referring to
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  1126. It was on the list but we decided not to go cause we heard it was kind of difficult to get there 😫 next time!
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  1127. coked up girl scout I’m considering doing a video on adult ADHD so I’ll be sure to include that :)
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  1128. Fiona Leigh thank you!! I’m wearing a Nars matte lipstick and dark cherry lip gloss from Lime Crime :)
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  1129. Thank you so much for trying your best! I can tell you even women are not exempt from misogyny; most of us have done "antifeminist" things at some point, but it's the active self-improvement that matters most. <3
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  1130. It was a short video topic and I rarely ever have sponsors, so when I do, it’s something I believe in. I truly believe this could be beneficial for people and I have lots of good things to say about the product so🤷🏻‍♀️
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  1131. :(
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  1132. Ooh that’s an interesting topic! Yes I’m pescatarian cause eating meat just feels wrong to me personally, but I don’t judge people who do. The problem is, anytime I mention being pescatarian, the super intense vegans get mad at me and start calling me a murderer lol. I’ll check out the paper you mentioned, though!
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  1133. I'm so sorry to hear that! Anxiety can definitely by a byproduct of such a family system
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  1134. Foil Grim Timmy There are romantic partners (what I’m talking about in this video) and there are platonic ones, but I fail to see how that makes the word utilitarian. A partner is a close companion, and reflects a reciprocal, caring relationship. And there’s nothing inherently utilitarian about being inclusive to different types of romantic relationships. What word do you think is more appropriate?
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  1135. Noted!
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  1136. Omg you did?? 🥺 I'd love to hear your thoughts if you could leave me a review when you're done! The herbs/plants mentioned were depicted to show folk traditions of healing, some of which have since been corroborated by science (e.g., turmeric fights free radicals, cinnamon is anti-inflammatory, etc.), but they were there as fiction not medical advice. I'm not a medical doctor so I will definitely leave the medical remedy advice to those who are!
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  1137. Would that be more on the astronomy side? I took astronomy in undergrad and let's just say it was NOT my forte😅
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  1138. Have not heard about that, would have to look into it!
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  1139. It makes sense, considering Icelandic people are half Irish genetically! :)
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  1140. Amazing!! :)
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  1141. I have no doubt :(
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  1142. I really can't comment on your specific case, since I wasn't there to witness these events nor do I consider myself an authority on what's right for others to do. However, I personally would not expect someone to cut ties with a family member unless there's a very serious reason.
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  1143. I love this perspective! I completely agree that there can be a middle ground where risks are strategic and responsible :)
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  1144. Aw sorry to hear that! Hope it gets better :)
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  1145. Yes!! I also considered including a section on menstrual cycles. Honestly, as a woman who has never really notices major changes across her cycle, I wish I could relate to the ebbs and flows that other women describe. I know PMS and menstrual pain is very difficult for some women, but it seems like such a special way to be in tune with one’s body and the millennia of women before you. 🥺
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  1146. Here are the ones on my bookshelf that I think could be useful: -The Happiness Trap -The Power of Positive Thinking* -Joy on Demand* -The Happiness Project* -Man's Search for Meaning -The Upside of Stress -Mindset -Getting Grit Some of them are on optimism directly, but others are more about meaning-making and perseverance, which I think could also help! *haven't read these yet but I think they might tie into what you're saying
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  1147. I'm so glad you like it!! Happy holidays to you too :)
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  1148. Whew, a partner's ex with these personality traits sounds like a bad combination for you... Wishing you the best luck!!
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  1149. Aw I'm flattered that you want to know that! I'll include it in the next Q&A :)
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  1150. Yes, I'm guessing you didn't reach the part of the video where I discuss the nuances of when you can consider bending the rules
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  1151. 😂😂 In mod sigur nu a întâlnit niciodată o femeie din regiune
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  1152. Thank you! Yep, I also wanted to show that it's okay to openly discuss your struggles and to let loved ones call you out in good fun
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  1153. 😂😂 she has it so good
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  1154. I haven't heard of it, but that's interesting! It wouldn't surprise me tbh
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  1155. It’s so interesting to me how often people say they feel birds are the spirits of their lost ones! And yes, that would definitely qualify as a synchronicity to Jung
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  1156. LOL
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  1157. Avoidants have a need for closeness, too
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  1158. Had a feeling I would catch some people off guard with that😂
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  1159. Means a lot to me!
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  1160. I don't judge people who do that, but I think these industries themselves need to be reformed
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  1161. Hahaha my apologies!
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  1162. Noted :)
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  1163. I would say yes for at least some symptoms of OCD. A lot of people experience ego-dystonic obsessions like hurting others, being a bad person, being imperfect, all because they wish to be the exact opposite. OCD has a heavy neurological component, but we can also psychodynamically conceptualize it as a person's shadow overflowing to the point where it can no longer be contained in the unconscious. When I've had clients with OCD, if I've often needed to explain, "It's not that you're a bad person for having these thoughts; you're having these thoughts precisely because your mind is trying to make sure you're not doing the things that aren't aligned with your values."
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  1164. shy car I’m planning on it! I got one coming up on why Jim is kind of a jerk and one on the psychological deterioration of Andy :)
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  1165. Noted!!
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  1166. Like I said in the video, we are essentially talking about the same concept, but I think a more accurate way of saying it would be "the consequence of someone breaking your boundaries is for you"
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  1167. I gave her the benefit of the doubt because of how much she seems to idealize her late husband, but I also had the same immediate reaction of “hmm is this antisemitism?” just because of how random and bizarre that tangent was. 🫣
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  1168. Just pinned a comment with the timestamps!
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  1169. Absolutely!
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  1170. Thank you so much! :)
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  1171. Placebo effect and optimism are kind of interrelated in the sense that it sounds like your mom believes she will get better from this, so that helps her actually get better. Scientifically, we know that both placebo effect and optimism help people. Another possibility I can think of is that physical symptoms can sometimes be somatizations, so the symptom could actually be created by her own mind and also resolved by what she perceives will cure it. And a third possibility... that whatever witchcraft she had done actually works! It might sound silly, but we really cannot say for sure whether it's a hoax
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  1172.  @deliabors3357  haha yes I am in romania but I scheduled it for the wrong time😫
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  1173. That sounds interesting, what's the youtuber's take on it? I actually have a video on evolutionary psychology int he works very soon!
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  1174. Acknowledging privilege is great because it's the first step to helping the less fortunate, but you definitely can't force someone to see their privilege who is not ready
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  1175. I definitely should’ve, but unfortunately it didn’t come up in my research. Nate was a great example of mistreating sexual minorities (Jules)
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  1176. Ego-dystonic and ego-syntonic are commonly used scientific terms. The unconscious also has a wealth of evidence behind it. As the shadow, it's harder to pin down with research, but I have absolutely found qualitative evidence for it. Example 1: In times of stress, people sometimes show a side of themselves that is very different to who they usually are. The people in their life might say they "don't even recognize them." One way of conceptualizing this is that the shadow reared its head, certain traits that they were keeping underground before. Example 2: I recently underwent a period in which I felt powerless about something in my life. I was tired of always being "nice" and "good." Through journaling, I uncovered a part of myself that was more playful and mischievous. Do I believe that this personification of a shadow person is a real entity? No, of course not. It's just a mental personification of a cluster of traits. But it helped me immensely in coping with a stressor and growing as a person (what Jung called the process of individuation). It might sound woo-woo, but shadow work is basically just balancing out a part of your personality with something you used to reject about yourself, and practicing compassion for the parts of yourself that you still reject. At the end of the day, the concept of the shadow is a way of making sense of something very internal and subjective. We don't need to prove it like how people try to prove "is there a god?" Rather, the analogous question is: "Does this person believe in a god?"
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  1177. Thank you so much ♥️
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  1178. It’s an important step, but treating personality disorders also requires a lot of extra work to deconstruct cognitions, change behaviors, address emotional regulation, and so forth. These things can definitely be a piece of trauma work but also require being addressed on their own
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  1179. He’s a good partner! I just don’t think Monica was head over heels for him, she just kind of settled in my opinion
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  1180. Shadow work definitely relies on a growth mindset, but I wouldn't necessarily conflate the two. A growth mindset is just one of the things that helps shadow work thrive. It's like the chemical flask in which you do chemical experiments!
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  1181. Thank you so much! I have thought about making a video on the psychology of religion, but I'm a little nervous to go through with it haha
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  1182. Wow, thank you for sharing this story!❤️
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  1183. I have a more in-depth video on the shadow/persona polarity coming in the next few weeks! :)
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  1184. This comment brightened my day 😂
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  1185. I'm pretty neutral to them, I think they can be helpful for some but most people do ignore them. That being said, if they're helpful to even a few, that's great! What do you think about them?
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  1186. I have experienced this as well--sometimes exposure doesn't reduce anxiety. I recommend you watch my recent video "Feel the fear, and do it anyway," as I talk in there about why fear will never go away if you are constantly pushing yourself outside your comfort zone. I don't think it's something we need to eliminate, but rather something we have to keep tolerating while we expand our horizons!
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  1187. This is a tough one but I’ll reflect on it and add it to my list :)
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  1188. LOL so true. Cluster B personality disorders are so often an adolescent-type personality
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  1189. We can still define ourselves when necessary or when useful (e.g., you just got a bad performance review and you acknowledge "damn, I need to work on my people skills"). It's more about acknowledging that those labels are temporary, context-dependent, subjectively evaluated, and often abstract, so that we can have more compassion for ourselves.
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  1190. Thank you!!
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  1191. Thank you for your patience :)
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  1192. Thank you!! :)
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  1193. That's not my personality type (last I took the test), but video coming out on the MBTI and its limitations next week!
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  1194. I've definitely heard this from other men, too! Very interesting theory that this might have to do with absent/underinvolved fathers :) probably a lot of truth to it
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  1195.  @Fernadotube  ??
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  1196. May I ask what country you're from? Because the sources I've studied regarding machismo and marianismo were all written by Latin-American individuals (some in English, but some in Spanish as well), and those authors/researchers defended machismo as having some redeeming qualities as well. I could have totally misunderstood, but is it possible there are also differences in these definitions based on which specific country you're from? :) Also, thanks so much!! I'm glad you enjoy it x
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  1197. Thank you so much :)
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  1198. I'm glad you persevered despite those symptoms! It sounds like panic symptoms (not a full-blown panic attack), which I'm sure must have been so uncomfortable for you :/
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  1199. Noted!
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  1200. No I don't think she has any personality disorder, because she doesn't have clinically elevated distress and/or impairment in functioning, which is a criteria for most personality disorders :)
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  1201. For me, I do think it was worth it. I think even very difficult experiences bring important lessons and rewards
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  1202. Thank you so much! That means a lot
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  1203. Nope, these are books I read in mostly 2020 :)
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  1204. I think their relationship isn't the best, Susan tends to lean on her daughter waay too much and treats her more like a therapist/friend than a daughter. It's good that their relationship is based on friendship and (for the most part) honesty, but Susan's parenting skills are really lacking in my opinion. I'm gonna reveal some more details on why I can't stand Susan as a character in my next Desperate Housewives video :)
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  1205. Thanks for sharing! And, in what I've seen, family is not only very tight in some cultures but also highly enmeshed. I've noticed this a lot in my own Eastern European cultures, and I've heard people from Latin American, Middle Eastern and African cultures share similar stories. Unfortunately, in most cultures, the power differential between parents and children makes it difficult to respect children's autonomy and boundaries :/
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  1206. Yes and yes!
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  1207. That's so kind of you!!
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  1208. I asked her for some life advice but I’m gonna keep that one to myself🔐 sorry to hear your grandma has dementia, it sounds like you still have a lovely relationship though
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  1209. From my understanding, Ted Bundy was a pretty clear-cut case of psychopathy. I haven't heard of Diane Downs, what was the case with her?
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  1210. Yes, it felt so refreshing to have a respectful and empathic conversation with him :) I’m lucky to be in a field where those traits are valued
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  1211. PsychoSocialCreation thank you!!
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  1212. I love these!
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  1213. Idk I think the writing’s pretty great! But I see what you mean, it’s frustrating to watch
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  1214. Thank you very much! And just to clarify, I'm not done with my program quite yet, I still have my last internship year :)
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  1215. You’re not wrong
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  1216. That's so interesting! I wonder if an acculturation gap between you and your parents might be related to that. I'm planning a video on that soon :)
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  1217. I'm so glad! I want to infuse more levity and fun into my videos
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  1218. 😂😂😂
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  1219. Yes! Feel free to email me at psychologywithana@gmail.com and we can discuss other options.
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  1220. How so?
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  1221. Thank you, you too! :)
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  1222. An allegation was made against Colleen Hoover's son and I referenced it as part of a pattern in which Colleen Hoover seems to have complicated feelings towards men accused of problematic things. Whether it's true or not is up to a jury to decide, not me.
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  1223. Omg enjoy!!
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  1224. This means so much, thank you!! If you haven't yet and have the time, I'd greatly appreciate an Amazon review :)
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  1225. Haha thank you! 🙏🏻☺️
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  1226.  @ComposerJan-PeterdeJager  That's a good question, I haven't looked at the research on parenting styles in other cultures so I don't have a very good answer. However, even when authoritarian styles were more culturally accepted in the US, it didn't spare kids the negative outcomes. And I know plenty of immigrants who were raised authoritarian in a culturally conformant way but still were harmed from it :/
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  1227. I'm glad you're getting better! Very true, men have mental health struggles as well x
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  1228. Absolutely!
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  1229. Oh wow that is a great point, same thing has happened to me but I never thought of it in terms of the body literally saying “play dead”😬
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  1230. Thank you! It was scheduled to post today :)
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  1231. Flagstaff is beautiful!! And yeah I don’t know how people who live in places without seasons do it 😭
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  1232. I love the edit to your comment! I hope your comment gets more likes, because this is the type of self-reflection the world needs more of.
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  1233. jane haviland ahh thanks so much!
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  1234. Thank you! I’m a Capricorn :) as for skincare, in the morning I use a simple serum (like The Ordinary’s Buffet or Absorbic Acid) and a vitamin e or c moisturizer. In the evening I use retinol, moisturizer and some kind of oil (like CBD or rose oil). And I also use a couple exfoliating and moisturizing masks throughout the week :)
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  1235. He's a lovable character toward the end, for sure :)
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  1236. I'm so glad!!
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  1237. This is SUCH a good point, and one that I realized while scheduling this video that I should have mentioned! While I can see restricting food conceptualized as either avoidance or a compulsion, I personally see it as a compulsion done to cope with anxiety which inevitably turns into avoidance because the absence of a stimulus leads to anxiety
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  1238. Yes! Creating a TikTok made me realize that what I love most about both writing and social media is the ability to transmute the beauty I see in the world into a form of art that makes others see it too :)
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  1239. It's not specific to romantic relationships! Some of the research is derived from couples but I aim to apply the findings to all sorts of relationships. There's only one lesson out of the 15 that's specific to couples :)
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  1240. Check my video on this! It’s a commonly used phrase to invalidate people’s concerns
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  1241.  @aliasalias6123  hahaha thank you!! I'm in withdrawal from having a reason to dress cute with the quarantine happening, so I'm going all out on the videos loool
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  1242. No, it was recorded on vacation.
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  1243. I'm so sorry ❤️
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  1244. It’s actually my go-to hat these days😂😂 thank you!
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  1245. Thank you! This was the photographer who also did my wedding photos in Romania, he's great
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  1246. Me too👻
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  1247. I don't need fake fangs, I got naturally sharp teeth ahahah
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  1248. That is so cute!! My family has a tradition of mostly getting black cats (but not exclusively). I'm not sure if black cats are friendlier, but I have noticed that European cats are much much more sociable than American cats. Chianti is American, so I'm grateful that she has a European cat personality haha :)
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  1249. Glad it was helpful! And thank you, I hope you enjoy :)
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  1250. That’s so kind, thank you!
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  1251. That’s really interesting! Honestly I thought Monica settled for chandler because she has low self esteem and didn’t think she could do better🤷🏻‍♀️ she never loved him like she loved Richard
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  1252. I’ve gotten multiple conflicting comments about this, some saying they’re Greek and some saying Slavic. My apologies, I thought the former but I’m not too familiar with Macedonia!😥
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  1253. I’m so sorry to hear about your cat!
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  1254. Yes, he's awesome! :)
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  1255. So glad to hear that! :)
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  1256. Sure is😊
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  1257.  @DD654-jx9kl since it’s a fill-in-the-blanks journal, I thought it would be kind of pointless to sell it as an ebook, sorry 😔 however I will make sure that the next books do have an ebook version, cause I just learned how unfortunate Amazon shipping is worldwide
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  1258.  @cdthree3805  I’m not sure what that is, are you maybe confusing me with someone else?
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  1259. Thank you but it’s not my birthday 😁 someone else said it’s their bday in the comment, I think that might be the confusion
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  1260.  @codyvanklompenberg6878  ADD just means that you don't have the symptoms of hyperactivity in your presentation, but people tend to also call that ADHD because the full term is "attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder" (and the dash suggests you don't need to have both components for a diagnosis). if you do have both components, it would be "ADHD with combined presentation" :) I hope that makes sense, it's confusing even as I write it out!
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  1261. Aw thanks so much!
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  1262. Thank you so much! Welcome :) And yes of course, I always love taking book recommendations
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  1263. Absolutely!!
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  1264. Thanks so much! I agree
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  1265. Noted!
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  1266.  @stijn6286 thank you for that! I appreciate it
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  1267. Gucci said it 6 years before Mystikal - nikolai
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  1268. I disagree, it is a gender-neutral word and I find it the most inclusive word for dating contexts
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  1269. Thanks for being here!
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  1270. You’re right that a lot of people derive their self-esteem from how others view them, and I hope that’s somewhat reassuring to the fact that you struggle with it! It doesn’t make you a bad person, it’s only human to want social belonging. Thank you so much for your kind words and good luck on internship
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  1272. Ooh, thank you!
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  1273. Thank you❤️ drink water, eat nutritious food, use sunscreen, and find a simple skin routine that works for you (I use mostly the ordinary- it really doesn’t have to be expensive)
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  1274. I’m ok with that😂💕
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  1275. Yes, I'll definitely cover addiction in the near future! This reminds me I once read an amazing article on helping people stop smoking, so I'll try to find that and make a video on it :)
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  1276. Of course!!💕
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  1277. Last few days to use the code MEMORIALDAYSALE for 20% off The Connection Course! https://psychologywithdrana.learnworlds.com/course/the-connection-course
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  1278. Yep! Just now learning statistics on my own time for my licensure exam, I'm shocked at how much better statistics could've been taught to me throughout my education. It's pretty sad how much poor teaching style can make a difference.
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  1279. so true😂😂
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  1280. It's gotta be substantial
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  1281. Wow, thanks for sharing! Glad you were able to recognize that :)
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  1282. My condolences ❤
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  1283. I believe the original research was done with people abusing alcohol and their romantic partners
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  1284. The fact that people are laughing shouldn’t matter, but the fact that this person has been living off their parents’ income for the better half of a decade should.
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  1285. Hahaha yes, cat faces > human faces
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  1286. Just out of curiosity, how far into the video did you get?
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  1287. That's a great suggestion!
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  1288. Absolutely! I was working on my 2024 resolutions a couple weeks ago and already decided to completely overhaul some of them. It's crazy how much can change even in a short amount of time--totally normal for your goals to decide in the span of a whole year. And thanks for the recommendation, I'll check it out! I know of the shedding/growth principle from nature-based spirituality
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  1289. Thanks for sharing! These things definitely have a genetic component :)
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  1290. Glad to hear it! I’m in a witchy mood all year round, so glad this helped you settle into yours😊
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  1291. I totally feel you, I posted a photo of it here https://www.youtube.com/post/UgxNmtdh_ik2gvu8Z8x4AaABCQ Hope it helps!
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  1292. Of course <3
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  1293. Ooh thanks for sharing!
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  1294. Haha de fapt l-am filmat înainte de alegeri! Dar n-ai grijă, alegerile au inspirat alt video care vine în curând… despre bots 😅
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  1295. Thank you so much!! Best of luck to you too :)
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  1296. I'm so sorry to hear that :( It's very common
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  1297. I still haven't gotten to either of them yet!! But you know what's funny? I bought A Treasury of Irish Fairy and Folk Tales last year, and when I went home I realized I already had a copy as a child 😮 I really must get to it!
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  1298. I really want to find a better sound and it’s been a struggle😫 Thank you for the feedback, this is the extra motivation I needed to try harder to find a better sound!
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  1299. I'm not a huge fan of the id/ego/superego model, but the conscious/preconscious/unconscious model is absolutely valid, in my opinion. Obviously it's more difficult to study empirically, but let me give you an example of an experience that highlighted its existence. A few weeks ago, I woke up from a dream in which a song was playing in my head. I initially thought I had made up the song in my sleep, but I later realized it was a song I had listened to one time a few days before. I could not consciously remember anything about the song, but somehow in my sleep I had recreated it completely! It was dormant in my unconscious and inaccessible consciously.
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  1300. You’re so lucky to live there! :)
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  1301. Ooh good luck! :)
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  1302. Agreed, it can be used colloquially but it's also deeply rooted in a culture of violence against women. "You go, bitch!" can quickly turn into, "I'm gonna punch you, bitch."
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  1303. Valeria Sofia yes! I’ll note it for the future :)
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  1304.  @publicline  Of course! I hope to do it as much as I can :)
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  1305. I'm sorry to hear that! There's definitely a ton of stigma and misinformation around anxiety :/
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  1306. Marisol Perdomo it’s coming back! I just get so tired of waiting for the train to pass every 2 minutes, especially when I’m shooting longer videos or many videos per day :(
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  1307. Gucci said it 6 years before Mystikal - nikolai
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  1308. I have a video on that :)
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  1309. Sorry you had a rough week! Hope this helps a little☺️
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  1310. I think I've watched a bit here and there! Not a great series imo but it was very 90s and feel-good :)
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  1311.  @cda6590  That's an awesome intersection! Thank you for being dedicated to it. And yes, maybe at some point I will cover ASD, cause I know it's important to a lot of people and evidence-based information is always appreciated.
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  1312. Thank you so much, it means a lot :)
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  1313. Conozco sus videos! Me parece una persona muy amable :)
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  1314. Recorded with my phone and a VHS app!
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  1315. omg thank you for saying that, it's sooo frustrating
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  1316. I say it at least 3x/day ironically so I should've done better
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  1317. Thank you for bringing up Justin Timberlake, I’ve been thinking about that topic a lot lately too :/
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  1318. That means a lot! :) thank you
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  1319. Thank you! :)
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  1320. I didn't do a Kindle version because it has lots of prompts for handwritten writing--is that something that would still be helpful?
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  1321. Yes! Different theories call them different things, which is unnecessarily confusing
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  1322. You and me both!
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  1323. Thank you so much! <3
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  1324. I'm so glad!
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  1325. I’m glad you liked it, those little mid-video interactions always crack me up so I like to leave them in😂
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  1326. This comment happened to pop up on my dashboard at the exact right time for me to see it :) I actually used the burgundy dye twice, then I dyed it an orange/red tint a few months later, so I am still trying to wash out the red tint to this day lol
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  1327. Hmm I honestly don't know too much about social work, but from the little I do know, social workers need to be quite active in advocating within systems of people, so that could be a bit more depleting for an introvert
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  1328. Thank you!! It was soo much fun for me :)
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  1329. Thank you! And noted :)
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  1330. Thank you!! I'm stoked :)
    3
  1331. It's of course okay to express your beliefs, but I think it's even more integral to acknowledge that other people have their own beliefs and to engage enthusiastically with those. For instance, within the field of psychology there are various "theoretical orientations." I don't agree fully with some of them, but it's important to still able to listen when my peers give presentations informed by these theories. I don't need to believe in them to understand that they make sense for someone else. :)
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  1332. Thank you so much!
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  1333. Your last paragraph made me laugh! And sorry to hear that's what happened with your grandma :/ My own grandma lost her husband of 63 years and she's the strongest person I know, but it's absolutely heart-wrenching when she drops comments about how she belongs with him.
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  1334. Last week! It definitely does, it was hot during the morning and rained pretty much every afternoon :) apparently that’s because the heat from the ocean forms clouds over the mountains which make their way down as the day progresses
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  1335. Still a great guess :)
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  1336. Thank you!! Noted :)
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  1337. ooh that's definitely something to bring up next year in the psychology of demon videos, demon possession was absolutely confused with seizures
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  1338. Thank you so much for all your kind words! Happy new year💕
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  1339.  @dalia782  I'm glad!! :)
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  1340. Yes, I probably should have mentioned everything should be decaf past 3 PM :)
    3
  1341. Thank you! Omg we almost named our cat Snoopy because she's such a snoop whenever one of us leaves the room!! So cute
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  1342. Thank you :)
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  1343. Yeah I did briefly mention it! But the content creator I reacted to mentioned her child is 9 months old, which means there’s probably more at play than just postpartum, and I would never want to suggest that a stranger on the internet has a diagnosis based on a short video she made. It would be awesome if you could also not make assumptions about my own emotions while you’re at it, thanks!
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  1344. Am cateva cu bunica mea! O sa mai inregistrez un video cu ea cand o vad in iunie :)
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  1345. I’m struggling to see how redirecting toward mindfulness and practicing acceptance is bullying, could you please elaborate? I think this approach is totally compatible with an inquisitive attitude toward fear, and wondering what the emotion might be trying to communicate. We can also observe the emotion with non attachment and decide to regulate it if it’s not serving us! :)
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  1346. This video is not about people who accidentally poke you or people who love you despite having emotional issues. It's about haters, people who intentionally seek to cause you harm and chip away at your self-esteem. I would never advise someone to focus their attention on healing someone who is intentionally causing them harm.
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  1347. I’d have to look at whether he said anything about EDs specifically, but I assume he would operate on the same principle as most specialists in that field: that you have to heal the body first before reaching the higher levels of healing such as the esteem traumas usually involved in EDs
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  1348. 🚀Take control of your schedule and boost your productivity with time-blocking! Try Akiflow today 👉🏻 https://bit.ly/ana-akiflow 👉🏻and start achieving your goals! 🎯
    3
  1349. Yay, thank you so much!
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  1350. Sure, noted!
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  1351. 🎉
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  1352. Thank you!! :)
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  1353. Synchronicity!
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  1354. I'm so glad! <3
    3
  1355. Milone Money Mindset thank you :)
    3
  1356. Aw I'm so sorry! I'm just starting my dissertation in the next few weeks, so I'll let you know once I'm in the midst of it :)
    3
  1357. That makes two of us :)
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  1358. lemon scones interesting! I feel like Regina George is more of a narcissist than histrionic. That’s actually a really good video idea, the psychology of mean girls!
    3
  1359. Thank you so much!
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  1360. Neither are about socializing with others. Antisocial behavior refers to psychopathic actions and prosocial behavior refers to acts of kindness :) antisocial is a commonly misused word!
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  1361. Omg enjoy!! :)
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  1362. Oh do authors need to create a page for the book in GoodReads? Some friends have been asking me to join it for fun, too
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  1363.  @work-in-progress  I automatically have my youtube set up to keep links "held for review" because people sometimes post spam, but I didn't see your comment in "held for review" for me to approve! either way, thank you so much :)
    3
  1364. I have not, that sounds like it would make me sad :(
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  1365. Thank you for sharing, I agree!
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  1366. That's very kind of you :)
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  1367. So glad to hear it! And I'm super excited too, I filmed such a gloomy intro this year
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  1368. È una lingua bellissima!
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  1369. I’m so glad! :)
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  1370. Thanks so much! I’m going into my 3rd year, I have 3 more years to go :)
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  1371. This is too good omg😂😂 definitely one of the nicest insults you could give someone!
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  1372. Yep, these are all points I raised in the video! My issue is not with diagnoses, it's with over-identifying with them.
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  1373. Thank you for sharing <3 For me it's a sense of dread, like something bad is happening/going to happen, and even when my worry slips my mind the dread feeling stays there (like a catastrophe is on the horizon). I think it's so interesting how people experience anxiety differently!
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  1374. I'm sorry :( Thank you for sharing <3
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  1375. Haha dont worry, I don’t think from a psychology lens in my personal life unless I see something pathological. We’re not out here manipulating people :)
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  1376. Amazon😅
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  1377. noted!
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  1378. I would looove that
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  1379. People with avoidant attachment styles pretty rarely end up together, which the book explained by saying that avoidant individuals get their style reinforced by knowing their partner is more attached than they are. But when it does occasionally happen, my guess is that there would be some sort of push-pull dynamic that forms (there almost always is in a relationship), though both partners would be more prone to push behaviors.
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  1380. I'm so glad, best of luck!!
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  1381. I’m so glad you enjoy it!! I’ll be thinking of this when I use it tomorrow 🥺
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  1382. Haha I've been sweating in bed for 2 days, there was zero chance of my hair looking good today
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  1383. I'm so glad to hear you have support now <3
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  1384. No, it is not! And that's a good idea
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  1385. It's so much fun!! Especially when the movie is so hilarious
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  1386. Thanks so much!! :)
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  1387. Definitely not intended to stigmatize anyone’s spirituality, i was referring to the link between excessive psychedelic use and lack of reality testing/conspiracy theories. For instance, the Q’Anon Shaman has spoken out about his significant psychedelic use as well as his belief in conspiracies.
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  1388. Sorry, I’m not sure what you mean by this?
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  1389. Sorry to hear that! And thank you <3
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  1390. I was referring to people who frame something like that as a boundary in order to claim the other person can’t question it. People like to say that “boundaries are for yourself, not others” but I don’t entirely agree. Most of the time, boundaries are what we ask of other people, but the consequence is for us to follow through on (typically, removing ourselves from the situation/person).
    3
  1391. Ooh very interesting, I'll note it as a suggestion
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  1392.  @KhaledMohamed-pi9yy  I figured but idgi 🙈
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  1393. Thank you so much❤
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  1394. Thank you so much!
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  1395. That would be next-level 😂
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  1396. He’s coming along! :)
    3
  1397. Don’t get me wrong, I still wear sunscreen when I go out, but I’m curious to look further into this, cause it’s something I initially heard from a physician. When I looked at the research myself, the bottom line seemed to be that some of the chemicals in sunscreen might indeed be associated with higher risk of cancer, but I’m not an MD so i don’t feel confident in my ability to make sense of the body of literature. Is there something I’m missing?
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  1398. Thanks for sharing💕 I’m glad to hear this resonated with you
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  1399. Absolutely! Thank you for sharing ❤️
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  1400. I know, right??
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  1401. He is not
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  1402. That means so much to hear! I'm glad my videos have helped you out, and I wish you the best of luck moving forward :)
    3
  1403. I’m so glad this was good timing!!
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  1404. Both and both!
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  1405. Yes I use the sock method! Thank you :)
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  1406. I have a few videos on self compassion on my channel, and I’d recommend the book Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff
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  1407. Yes it is, and thank you for the suggestion!! 🙏🏻
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  1408. Very interesting! So how might you discern between a demon and a different type of spirit?
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  1409. Some therapists don’t!
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  1410. Thanks so much!
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  1411. LOL the funniest is when we drink Chianti while chilling with Chianti
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  1412. Wow, hope you enjoy it! :)
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  1413. Thank you for the kind words and for the suggestion! I'll keep it in mind for future videos. Tbh this is a topic I myself avoid thinking about because of how scary it is. Especially now during the heat waves of the summer (and as a person with heat intolerance) it's terrifying
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  1414. We have something called the GRE which is a standardized test. It's usually required for reading, writing and math for psychology programs (pretty easy stuff, no hard statistics), and some also require a more specialized Psychology GRE exam. But more and more are starting to get rid of these exam requirements because they're not shown to actually predict later competence in the field :)
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  1415. Sending warm wishes your way❤️
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  1416. The video wasnt directed at any gender in particular. What I was implying was that, if you take a step back and see a pattern of your partner being more disengaged from the relationship, them being a distancer might play a role. However, for me personally, I do appreciate when a man does the chasing, although I understand not all people abide by that :)
    3
  1417. Because youtube de-monetizes videos with certain words
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  1418. I wasn’t talking about something like that. I have a much more severe substance abuse in mind, not just mild substance use
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  1419. I don't believe so, unfortunately. I'd love to get the book in bookstores but I'm not sure if that will be possible. I understand that some people have qualms about using Amazon, but I personally am very grateful to their KDP platform for allowing writers like myself to self-publish books that otherwise might never see the light of day due to issues with the traditional publishing industry.
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  1420. I'll include her in an upcoming video on "5 types of friends from Desperate Housewives" :)
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  1421. Coming next week! :)
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  1422. Thank you, I'm so glad!
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  1423. Noted, thanks for the suggestion :)
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  1424. Thanks so much! It's normal to have some maladaptive personality traits. Whether it meets the threshold for clinically significant distress and/or impairment in functioning is another thing :)
    3
  1425. External circumstances definitely play a role too. I know I talk a lot on this channel about factors within our control, but I've been considering making a video on the importance of riding external circumstances (avoiding oversaturated fields, picking the right time to enter a field) for success. Hope that would be helpful.
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  1426. Haha I'll miss it too but I feel it was time
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  1427. Thank you! I can't stand that show because of the sexism, but from what I've seen, they appear to be on the Autism Spectrum
    3
  1428. Thank you so much! :)
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  1429. I've been considering changing the intro music recently, may I ask what you dislike about it?
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  1430. Of course, always!
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  1431. I took it for a couple years and loved it but my Russian is very, very broken. These days I only get to use it while attempting to communicate with my grandparents-in-law!
    3
  1432. DollsKill I believe!
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  1433. You're so sweet, thank you! :)
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  1434. Yes, duolingo is such another great example of the same thing!!
    3
  1435. Aw thank you!! :)
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  1436. Could be, but it got up immediately after we walked away😂
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  1437. Same to you! Thank you :)
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  1438. Thank you so much!
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  1439. Good point
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  1440. So sorry to hear that! What a horrible thing to say
    3
  1441. That’s what the video is about, figuring out how each person customizes the meaning of their life
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  1442. Absolutely!
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  1443. Yes, Oedipal and Electra complexes have been theorized to be about more than just sexual desire. I do not view psychology from a psychoanalytic lens, so my explanation is likely not the best. I will be the first to say that I disagree with the vast majority of Freudian theory. I don’t believe in the validity of either the Oedipal or Electra complex; I was simply referencing them as related to this topic but they are not what this video is about. As for the issue of an absent vs toxic father, I was “daddy issues” usually conflates the two. I completely agree that they are two very different situations and should be treated as such. Because definitions of “daddy issues” are not clear-cut, the information I reported encompasses both topics, with a focus on absent fathers because that is the example from the TV show.
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  1444. That's just my hair! I sleep with it braided. But don't worry, it's incredibly difficult to tame so you're not missing anything😭
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  1445. Haha yess
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  1446. I love this!
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  1447. I’m so glad you liked it! I love it there too🥰
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  1448. I don't love Chandler so I don't think I'm going to be making a video on him, sadly!
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  1449. Thank you so much!☺️
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  1450. Where did I say there’s something wrong with self-isolating to avoid getting hurt?
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  1451. Hey, no I haven't heard of it! I'll keep my eye out for it :)
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  1452. I got a "5 types of friends" video coming up that involves them :)
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  1453. I'm so glad, thank you! You too :)
    3
  1454. Thank you, that means so much!
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  1455. It’s hard but you got this🙏🏻
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  1456. Yep! I wish I’d worded it better but that’s why I said “people who self-proclaim as being self-made and their families.” My point was that privileged people often deny that privilege played a role in their success. Whether or not the Hadid sisters agree with their dad, the headline exemplifies that lack of acknowledgment of privilege.
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  1457. Absolutely :) Glad you enjoy it!
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  1458. Thanks, Kyle!
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  1459. That makes me soo happy to hear!!
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  1460. ilomilo e. They really are!
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  1461. The early loss of a parent can absolutely have effects years later, but it depends case by case!
    3
  1462. It'll actually be another year before I can call myself doctor because of internship year!! That's a difference between PsyD and PhD
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  1463.  @Lanashmeyshmey that makes me sooo happy to hear!!❤️❤️
    3
  1464. Wow, this warms my heart to hear! I can definitely see how this would be the book for you :) Enjoy!
    3
  1465. I started the first episode but couldn't get into it, might try again later
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  1466. Thank you! Maybe some day :)
    3
  1467. Noted!
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  1468. I hope 9:48 helps a bit!
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  1469. Capricorn!
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  1470. Thank you so much! It's been recommended to me but I rewatched it for fun a few months ago and didn't take any notes, so I'd probably do it further out in the future when I feel like rewatching it :)
    3
  1471. I believe it's a Nyx matte lipstick, I've had it forever!
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  1472. 4 ani!
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  1473. Yes, that sounds about right. I think the positive reinforcement should only be for adaptive modes of communication, like if they ask for support/advice/your full attention in the way that everyone occasionally asks for others' full attention. If it's over-the-top attention-seeking, then you would probably want to set very clear boundaries and punish those behaviors (through asking them to talk at another time, through ignoring their dramatizations, etc.)
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  1474. Aww good for you for taking a leap of faith <3 Cats are so much sweeter than people give them credit for. I don't even mind when Chianti bites!
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  1475. Omg that's intense!
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  1476. I had been studying psychology for 9 years at the time when I posted this video. Students can be professors and TAs long before that; one of the best professors I've ever had was still in her doctorate program at the time of her course. But I'm so curious, now that I have my doctorate and I stand by what I said, does that assuage your doubts? I'm guessing not 😊
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  1477. I have a video on psychedelic-assisted therapy, including the changes people notice :)
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  1478. haha yess she's the real star on this channel
    3
  1479. Interesting, thanks for sharing!
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  1480. I’m not a native English speaker, but he most definitely is😂
    3
  1481. I see what you mean. interesting perspective!
    3
  1482. Thank you so much :)
    3
  1483. 😂😂
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  1484. Like family vloggers?
    3
  1485. It's so funny cause Youtube automatically uploaded captions in Dutch to this video and I was trying to fix it but they won't do it in English! I never know how to get them to do it :(
    3
  1486. Yes, I actually have a hair video coming on my second channel, Book & Hearth, tomorrow!
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  1487. I'm sure, it seems like the kind of thing I'd watch for fun
    3
  1488. I believe INFJ
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  1489. Haha thank you! She appreciates the attention
    3
  1490. Hahah the latter. we had just visited Italy and had a lot of Chianti the week before we got her
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  1491.  @poornimajha644  I see! I would imagine he was inquiring about memory loss because trauma is definitely associated with memory loss and dissociation. I'm sure OCPD tendencies can also exacerbate this in some circumstances. But the questions a practitioner asks about this have to be really open-ended, because heavily implying to clients that they have repressed memories of trauma can actually create false memories which is very dangerous
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  1492. I believe I touched on personal responsibility in my Liam Payne video, but it’s definitely a good topic to address further!
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  1493. Whatever works for you! This is just the mindset that works for me :)
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  1494. Thanks so much! :)
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  1495. Thank you so much! It's a lot of fun for me too :)
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  1496. Planning on it! thank you :)
    3
  1497. It's in the pinned comment! :) https://taskiehusky.com/anapsychology
    3
  1498. Omg best of luck!! ❤
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  1499. Ugh I’m so sorry to hear that 😞
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  1500. I recognized it too, then I realized the videographer is based in Bucharest! :) and no, the visuals are royalty free videos
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  1501. So glad to hear it!!
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  1502. I'm so glad! Hope you have a nice day too :)
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  1503. Niko 😂💕
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  1504. I periodically unlist videos if they no longer live up to my standards for youtube videos, it's kind of a problem 😅 Sorry that it's no longer available but I'm glad it helped when you saw it! And thank you for sharing, that sounds difficult to go through
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  1505. Wow, that's incredible!
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  1506. That’s incredible, have fun!!
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  1507. My parents decided to move there when I was little (and my grandma mostly raised me during that time), then I joined them when I was 4. Wasn’t really my choice!😄
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  1508. Aw thank you very much! Honestly a lot of it is my inability to relax, which is not a particularly healthy habit I would recommend 😅
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  1509. Got one in the works!
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  1510. Interesting, I hadn't thought of that but it makes sense now that you mention it. I've definitely noticed that older Romanian generations are preoccupied with "what other people will think," which I always assumed is a relic of Communist paranoia. They want the younger generations to be safe, and during the dictatorship, a disapproving neighbor could prove very dangerous.
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  1511. Thank you so much!
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  1512. I completely agree! The cyclical nature of life is beautiful
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  1513. <3
    3
  1514. That means so much, thank you! Happy new year :)
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  1515. Most of what I know is from Abbey Sharp's video on her weight loss journey. Her diet culture-promoting TikToks really don't sit well with me, and I get the sense that sharing her journey publicly can be very triggering for people at risk of an eating disorder (or in the midst of one). There's also a great discrepancy between what she preaches (self-love, self-acceptance) and the actions she takes. For instance, she once made a video talking about how she felt the need to go on a juice cleanse for a few days following a vacation binge. Juice cleanses are infamously unhealthy but beyond that, it's completely inappropriate to share that with impressionable followers and to even encourage them to follow in your footsteps. I get that we can all slide down a slippery slope when it comes to eating habits, and I have a lot of compassion for people who do slip, but my compassion ends when someone promotes their unhealthy eating habits to others and brands it as healthy. Just curious, what was your take on it?
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  1516. Oh noo
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  1517. I absolutely agree!
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  1518. Ana is the correct spelling of my name
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  1519. Thank you!🥰 it’s a joyous time for sure
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  1520.  @meis7  I meant that's why I had to tie it up in a bun haha
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  1521. Hahah what color do you think it is?
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  1522. Fair😂 I think it’s pale green but I can see how it’s ambiguous
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  1523. It's funny, I get that comment a lot when I post a video! :)
    3
  1524. So glad you like the Halloweek videos! :)
    3
  1525. It can be tough!!
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  1526. That’s a great guess!
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  1527. Thank you :) Ideally this is no way to diagnose anyone, I'm actually releasing a video tomorrow on how to PROPERLY diagnose people
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  1528. Thank you very much! :)
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  1529. I usually try that and it still sticks, do you think adding a thin layer of flour on top of the oil would help?
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  1530. True
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  1531. Hahaha most definitely 😂
    2
  1532. Thank you so much :)
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  1533. Awesome tips!! I’m glad CBT and DBT have worked for you. I actually have the DBT manual too and I’ve been using it in a DBT group :) gonna make videos on the modules at some point soon
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  1534. Thanks for sharing! I agree that sociology is a lot like social psychology :) And I can totally relate to what you mean about Slavic culture being enmeshed, I can identify a lot of the things you list in Romanian culture as well
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  1535. Thanks so much! :)
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  1536. I haven't had the chance to watch his stuff yet, what is he famous for?
    2
  1537. Yes, it's quite common!
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  1538. Black cats are lovely!🖤
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  1539. Just did a couple days ago!
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  1540. Congratulations!! So glad your consistency has paid off :)
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  1541. Thanks so much, you too!!
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  1542. Noted! Definitely an important topic :)
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  1543. I'm sorry to hear that!
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  1544. I actually filmed a video breaking down her and Johnny Depp's phone call, but there was waaay too much speculation and too many blind spots so I ultimately decided not to post it
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  1545. Of course!
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  1546. 😂
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  1547. Thank you so much! :)
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  1548. No I didn't know that there was even such a feature!
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  1549. Thank you! :)
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  1550. It's called Church of 8 Wheels by Otis McDonald! I got it from the music library in YouTube Studio so I'm not sure if there's another place to find it.
    2
  1551. Omg good luck!!
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  1552. Oh awesome, thanks for the recommendation!!
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  1553. :')
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  1554. I'm so glad to hear that! And thanks for sharing, I've been considering making another video on attachment style
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  1555. I've never heard of this person until today! What do you think is making you feel conflicted?
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  1556.  @madarauchiha-xx5gp  Not sure why I’d have a favorable opinion of someone who’s anti-women but I’ll take a look if I ever have the time!
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  1557. Tell me you didn’t watch the video without telling me you didn’t watch the video
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  1558. Hey, thanks for the feedback! Can you give me an example of what kind of jargon you mean?
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  1559. I made one on that since then! :)
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  1560. Thank you, I agree😻
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  1561. I haven't heard that exactly, but it sounds about right :) In the sense that unresolved grief can definitely trigger a disorder
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  1562. Thank youu, I agree :)
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  1563.  @7Z-t  I may have been reading into your question too much, I guess my answer is that you’re right about that
    2
  1564. I'm so glad! And I don't actually track my progress, that was another idea from the CBT booklet I just bought. But I imagine if I did track my progress, it would depend on the nature of the goal. Like, if the goal is to add more clients to my schedule, that can easily be done in the same space as a daily planner/agenda. But if the goal is, for instance, to eat more veggies, then a separate notebook might be useful :)
    2
  1565. Love that
    2
  1566. That’s probably because it’s still a very small channel! Hopefully once I have more videos on there, it’ll be easier to find :)
    2
  1567. 23, why do you ask?
    2
  1568. Hahah it's def possible!
    2
  1569. I've tried the pineapple method and the curls still flatten :( and I use a silk bonnet already
    2
  1570. Yess I’m so glad to hear that, I love using it on both my clients and myself :)
    2
  1571. Thank you! :)
    2
  1572. Yess it's a rough time period, but my fingers are crossed for you!! Hope this helped somewhat :)
    2
  1573. What do you mean? I haven’t heard of it
    2
  1574. Thank you!! I try to always record the day after washing my hair, the other days it’s a different story 😂
    2
  1575. I was going to but I didn’t want people to get offended over how much I dislike most of the characters😂
    2
  1576. I'm so glad to hear that! :)
    2
  1577. I don't think I'll ever discuss my spiritual/religious beliefs except maybe if I stop doing clinical work/retire one day, because it's such a polarizing topic and I don't want to alienate a huge chunk of my prospective/current clients. Honestly, if it weren't for that, I would be very open about my beliefs, but I just don't think it's wise at this moment. As for ghosts--no, I don't believe in them because they logistically don't make sense to me, but I believe that something could potentially change my mind :)
    2
  1578. Thank you! I'm actually taking a whole week off work starting today, I'm super excited :)
    2
  1579. Thank you so much!
    2
  1580. Youthful and healthy skin😁
    2
  1581. I have a few thoughts but I don't feel comfortable sharing because I'm not convinced the incident wasn't staged. I also feel like I've spoken enough about the Smiths and to make another video about them would just feel overboard. I try to say what I have to say once and then move on, cause otherwise the drama would be endless. But your last sentence does sound like a great topic!
    2
  1582. That means so much to hear, thank you ☺️
    2
  1583. Thank you!
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  1584. Hi Mickey, unfortunately I don't have the power to provide the other content in the bundle, since my course is only a fraction of it! My hope was that those who have already taken The Connection Course will still benefit from the 99% discount on the other resources in the bundle. Totally understand if that's not for you, though.
    2
  1585. Thank you! 😊
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  1586. He definitely experienced periods of psychosis in his life (like when he wrote the Red Book). It's not about him getting a pass--just a fun topic this time of year from a man who gave us many insights into psychology!
    2
  1587. Your words are so very kind, thank you🙏🏻 It makes me happy to hear you find benefit in this channel!
    2
  1588. Oh no, I would not ever recommend suppressing a feeling. I’ve mentioned the beach ball metaphor quite a few times on my channel (“emotions are like a beach ball—the harder you push them down, the harder they pop back up”). “You should not feel fear because of the logical reasons” was not the message I hoped to get across in this video. Rather, I hoped to convey: “This is what fear is. This is what anxiety is. This is how anxiety becomes maladaptive for some people. And here’s how to relate to your anxiety differently through mindfulness & acceptance.”
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  1589. I'm glad!! Yeah it's a fascinating topic :)
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  1590.  @samanthagupta  I will, just filmed one today!
    2
  1591. Thanks so much!
    2
  1592. Thank you so much!
    2
  1593. Nope! This is probably just a one-time thing or very rare occurrence :)
    2
  1594. I'm considering doing one on him, but I haven't thought of an angle yet! Any ideas?
    2
  1595. Haha forgot to schedule it for 11AM instead of 12 AM🥲
    2
  1596. Hahah yes, no two people are alike :) when I was listing that “character’s” identity, I was mostly calling myself out, cause I do have she/her pronouns, I do identify as an intersectional feminist, I do care about animal rights even though I’m not fully vegan
    2
  1597. Yes I have, thank you! :)
    2
  1598. That's true, Gunther and Emily's characters are really interesting!!
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  1599. Thank you! have a great day
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  1600. They definitely all helped! I still use many of the more CBT-related skills when journaling and coping on my own.
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  1601. Doing something for enjoyment is not what we’re talking about in this video though. This video is about succeeding at something by making a living from it, reaching the top in the field, etc. Sure, everyone should do what they love in their free time! What I’m talking about is trying something for years as a career and seeing worse and worse results.
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  1602.  @sabrinag9610  I agree! I remember Mean Girls was super influential for me growing up so it would be interesting for sure
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  1603. Noted!
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  1604. 😂😂😂
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  1605. I’ll look into it, thanks for the suggestion!
    2
  1606. You too, happy holidays!
    2
  1607. Thank you! I’m very glad
    2
  1608. I stopped paying attention when watching TVD a few seasons in, so I don’t really remember her character tbh😅
    2
  1609. Brian Tes haha yess
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  1610. I did not realize there was an incorrect way to do it??
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  1611. My main sources have been Continued Education courses, consultations with attorneys, ethical guidelines, supervision with other professionals, and discussions with peers.
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  1612. 😂
    2
  1613. Thank you!
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  1614. 😂
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  1615. Ah that's too bad! You should celebrate it anyway ;)
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  1616. Yup same with Romanians
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  1617. Multumesc 💗
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  1618. So sorry to hear that :( I have a video on social anxiety if it helps at all!
    2
  1619. Thank you so much, happy new year to you too!
    2
  1620. Thank youu! I think it was from NastyGal :)
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  1621. I'm so glad!!
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  1622. Thanks so much! I'm glad :)
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  1623. Of course! Hope it helps :)
    2
  1624. Thanks so much!!
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  1625. I can totally see how the “psychic vampire” prototype could stigmatize people who have a deep interest in certain topics… I hadn’t even thought of that, but it’s definitely how they’re portrayed in the media :/
    2
  1626. Garage! :)
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  1627. A ~countess~ of sorts :)
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  1628. Ooh good luck, you got this!
    2
  1629. I touched on that in this video. It’s not an exact comparison since daddy issues don’t just refer to a daughter desiring her dad sexually
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  1630. Made it private cause I didn't feel like dealing with the negativity anymore. Two days of people calling me a dumb/biased feminist bitch was more than enough lol
    2
  1631. I’m so sorry to hear that :( I’ve seen firsthand people who want to force a diagnosis of bipolar when it’s clear that a client has never even had a manic episode, it’s extremely misguided.
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  1632. Thank you! I’m so glad it resonated
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  1633. Thank you!
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  1634. I actually made a video on him but his army got pissed and I didn't feel like dealing with them forever so I made the video private
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  1635. Bine ai venit🥳 multumesc mult, la fel și tie!
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  1636. I would but I'm not sure how that would work!! sorry
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  1637. It’s so nice to hear you’ve found your own path to healing! 💖
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  1638. And side note, I have indeed heard people say things like “I need you to watch my kids for me” as a “boundary” then get upset when it’s not “respected”
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  1639. As thank you so much🙏🏻
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  1640. That’s too bad!! No I didn’t, what is it?
    2
  1641. Amalia S. Artist true! That’s part of the reason why it wouldn’t make sense to diagnose him based on a documentary alone
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  1642. Thank you! And I just recently made it private because I changed my mind about a lot of the things I said. I may make a revised edition next Halloween! :)
    2
  1643. Very good point! and thank you :)
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  1644. Thank you for the recommendation! I wear a bonnet at night and I haven't had any issues with light colors yet, but I'll watch out for staining :)
    2
  1645. Glad it was helpful! :)
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  1646. Thanks for the suggestion! :)
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  1647. Noted!!
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  1648. Thank you so much!
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  1649. Someone else's actions are indeed outside of our control, but there's no denying that our actions also play a role in how others will react. I'm not saying it's ever anyone's fault if they get cheated on, only that we have the power and agency to pick quality partners. And as for keeping an eye out for red flags, I think that's something we should do in any type of relationship, no matter how healthy it is. We have to continually ask ourselves whether people are positively contributing to our lives, because relationships most often die out unless you pay attention to them and make a conscious effort to improve them.
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  1650. I was saying that people who are sensitive to direct depictions of emotional abuse and indirect discussions of physical abuse may want to exercise discretion. Hope you enjoy it!!!
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  1651. Fixed mindset= "Your natural capabilities are what determine success" Growth mindset= "Constantly growing and improving and practicing is what determines success" What I'm suggesting = "The work you put into something is a more important determinant of success than your natural capabilities, but it would benefit you to also pick something that you're naturally fast and skilled at." Like with most things in life, I believe the truth is yes/both rather than all/nothing
    2
  1652. Yes! I actually just started a Parenting playlist this morning :)
    2
  1653. Wait this sounds like a hilarious book to read/review, is it worth it do you think?
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  1654. Ooo thanks for letting me know!
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  1655. Thank you for sharing!! :)
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  1656. Noted, this is a great topic :)
    2
  1657. Thank you!
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  1658. Thank you <3
    2
  1659. She’s the goodest 🖤
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  1660.  @eugenekrabs3837  you’re absolutely right, I was screen recording on my laptop this time cause it worked so poorly from my phone last time and I only realized afterwards that the usernames weren’t on there. I’ll try to edit this comment tomorrow and add them!
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  1661. I think the prompts I had written were something like this: -what changes do I want to make in this new chapter of my life? -then create a list with major bullet points (e.g., be healthy, be tidy) and more specific sub-points (e.g., eat nutritious foods, do a deep clean once/week) Hope this helps with your exciting move!!
    2
  1662. Thank you so much for sharing this with me, it really made my day 🥺 If you have any financial restrictions with the course, I'm always open to finding a fair compromise. Just shoot me an email at psychologywithana@gmail.com :)
    2
  1663. It was a beautiful place! However I didn’t feel terribly connected to it because the 25 deaths due to the witch trials were a tiny fragment of the 50,000 people that died in Europe during the Middle Ages, and none of those accused were actual witches. If anything, it kinda reminded me of the pitfalls of fundamentalism :/ but the people there were cool!
    2
  1664. In the works, maybe even in the next couple months
    2
  1665. Thank you! And do you mean friendships?
    2
  1666. That's a great idea. I briefly touch on it in my "mental illness pandemic" video but I could definitely go into more depth
    2
  1667. Yep, that's the rubber band analogy I mentioned in the video! There is only so far you can take the placebo effect, and positive thinking works best when combined with an actual treatment/intervention, which is why the suggestions I gave in the second half of the video were all paired with some sort of action.
    2
  1668. I'm so glad! :)
    2
  1669. Thank you!! Do you think you could give me a refresher on her relationship with her parents? All I really remember is that her mom was super critical of her
    2
  1670. Le-ai recunoscut!😄
    2
  1671. Aww sounds cozy
    2
  1672. Thank you so much!💕
    2
  1673. Yes because my title technically changed 😁
    2
  1674. Three times a week!
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  1675. Привет :)
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  1676. I’ll add it to my short list, after I finish my Desperate Housewives and Friends series :)
    2
  1677. I'm so glad! :)
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  1678. Never heard of it!! Gotta look it up
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  1679. It’s not gossiping to talk about the events and interactions in your day-to-day life with your partner. I’m glad I’m with someone who thinks it’s weird to brag about your wife’s looks as a way to score brownie points in a social interaction. That was the context of him telling me: not to disparage someone’s looks, but to point out how ego-driven the comment was.
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  1680. Multumesc mult!!
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  1681. Coming this week!
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  1682. Just physically speaking, she’s obviously a very attractive woman and I don’t personally think Chandler is on the same level. But that’s actually a great point haha they both tend to have equally low self-esteem
    2
  1683. That’s a really good point, I hope that’s why. But on the other hand, it seems like a lot of the forbidden words are commonly female-related, like issues surrounding sexual assault, abortions, domestic abuse, EDs... When you look at it cohesively, it kind of seems like trying to silence women from discussing their most intimate challenges. Plus I’ve still seen ED “thispo” on here, I think they should do more than just de-monetize when people are actively perpetuating EDs.
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  1684. yay I'm so glad! :)
    2
  1685. That's for sure important! This habit is definitely not the only thing that long-lasting couples do; it's just one thing that has been found to predict relationship longevity, but usually there are multiple variables involved (probably more than have ever been researched).
    2
  1686. There will be another witch-related video on Halloween!
    2
  1687. Close, INFJ :)
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  1688. Oof yeah I can only imagine! You got this
    2
  1689. I'm so glad! :)
    2
  1690. Thank you so much!
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  1691. Yeah I made it private because I couldn't deal with his army for more than two days
    2
  1692. I hadn't thought of that, but that is exactly the vibe I'm going for!
    2
  1693. That came SO out of nowhere I’m crying😂
    2
  1694. Thank you so much!!
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  1695. You might be less prone to this, then!
    2
  1696. Aw thank you!
    2
  1697. I don't think I will, simply because she's a person who I don't think deserves more coverage. I've seen some commentaries to her video and I thought they missed the mark, to be honest. It would just be hard to parcel out who she is as a person with her specific views on dating
    2
  1698. Sorry about that :(
    2
  1699. Damn, you really guessed a bunch of what research found to be true!
    2
  1700. That does sound really interesting, thanks for the suggestion
    2
  1701. Here you go! https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/parenting-neuroscience-perspective/202006/reshaping-empathy
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  1702. Hahaha I admit being very cold isn’t my favorite thing but it does have a beautiful grit to it😂
    2
  1703. Thank you!
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  1704. Thank you, you too!
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  1705. I live on the West coast and luckily I make my own coffee at home haha
    2
  1706. Thank you so much!! :)
    2
  1707. I’m so happy to hear this!!!
    2
  1708. I respect her a lot and sought out that video specifically to see what she has to say about it! Unfortunately I didn’t find her conclusions to be reassuring enough for me to continue with tretinoin
    2
  1709. This comment means so much to me, thank you🥺
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  1710. Cognitively I know that, but to be honest my fear of them doesn’t reach the level of a phobia to the point where it interferes with my life, so I haven’t really had a reason to deconstruct my fear too much :)
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  1711. Buna! Multumesc mult, cred ca probabil vorbesc in romana cu accent american desi sper sa nu fie prea pronuntat hahah
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  1712. Thanks so much! I agree that she's a cutie :)
    2
  1713. Aw that makes me happy to hear! Thanks for sharing
    2
  1714. Thank you!! What reddit feed was it?
    2
  1715. It is! :)
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  1716. That’s great to hear!! I’m glad you like it :)
    2
  1717. Damn, I'm sorry to hear that!
    2
  1718. I’ve come a long way since the days when I wasn’t sure whether I could use that term😂
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  1719. Thank you so very much for your kind words! 💗 I really do appreciate it
    2
  1720. I’m glad you found a place where you feel safe 🌻
    2
  1721. Haha how so?
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  1722.  @Nick-kf3io  yep, every day!
    2
  1723. Thank you for sharing <3 Journaling is amazing for mental health!
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  1724. Exactly, I'm sure you are very strong! <3
    2
  1725. Thanks so much!!
    2
  1726. :)
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  1727. <3
    2
  1728. Most studies show that both genes and environment play a role, but how much of a role each plays depends on the specific phenomenon being researched. Hope this helps!
    2
  1729. Thanks so much!!
    2
  1730. Absolutely! But therapy sure helps
    2
  1731. How come?
    2
  1732. Thanks so much!
    2
  1733. Yeah I was really surprised to see ketamine categorized as a psychedelic too! I’ve looked into ketamine treatment research in the past but it never occurred to me that they’d be studied alongside LSD and MDMA
    2
  1734. Therapists do diagnose when billing for insurance. Are you a mental health practitioner? Can you cite where you're getting this information?
    2
  1735. Love that it helps you!
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  1736. Nope, romanian!
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  1737. That's rough, hope it gets better very soon <3
    2
  1738. Yess it’s a struggle 😂
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  1739. This means everything to hear🥺 thank you so much! I have lots of manuscripts almost ready to publish (just waiting to hear back from some agents), so just make sure you’re signed up to my newsletter to find out when the next is out: www.dranayudin.com
    2
  1740. I think that is exactly what this video is about! :)
    2
  1741. Wow that’s a great point, thanks for bringing it up!
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  1742. Muchas gracias!
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  1743. Sorry to hear that. I would still try the same exposure therapy technique- try to alternate between doing something that provokes your anxiety and then practicing relaxation, then start over again
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  1744. Lori Lee thanks so much!
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  1745. Aw I'm sorry to hear that! And thank you :)
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  1746. That’s a great idea!
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  1747. Thanks for the suggestion, I've added it to my list :)
    2
  1748. Fixed it! Thanks for noticing
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  1749. I watched her video on one of the studies I mentioned and didn’t find her conclusions to be reassuring enough for me to continue with tretinoin 😅
    2
  1750. I picked the word entities because emotions are like people we have relationships with, and yet of course they’re not people. Maybe there was a better word I didn’t land on, but I still can’t think of it. Phenomena, maybe?
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  1751. Awesome, thank you! Hope you enjoy :)
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  1752. Thanks for the suggestion! Noted
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  1753. I'm not super into archetypal psychology but what does "women who run with the wolves" mean? :)
    2
  1754. Justifying hate is one of the slipperiest paths you can go down. A person can justify their hatred and frame themselves as a victim in almost any situation; there is no limit to what the human mind can distort to preserve self-esteem.
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  1755. Yes you can actually write on it! And amazon LOL don’t judge me
    2
  1756. Yes, I’ve been engaging with commenters of all kinds in the comments! The findings of this meta-analysis remain what I said in the video, though, so I’m not sure why a critique would change what I communicated in the video.
    2
  1757. That's perfect!
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  1758. I have a video on that! :)
    2
  1759. Oh for sure! Fights can be silent too
    2
  1760. Oh wow, you're so lucky!! :)
    2
  1761. I just read Richard Schwartz' book No Bad Parts and it wasn't for me, but I'm glad it works for you! I've heard great things about IFS from many people. I think where he lost me was in the claim that "parts" aren't just metaphorical personifications. I can see people taking their "parts" a bit too far if they think they're genuinely real. From my perspective, mental personifications are just the way we make meaning of clusters of traits within ourselves, not actual spiritual beings inside us.
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  1762. I usually turn the volume up a bit but I can definitely turn it up a bit higher! Thanks for the feedback
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  1763. wait i think she just deleted your comment hahaha
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  1764. I’m romanian! :)
    2
  1765.  @celinaguerreropicon9685 wait wym?? It’s not sold out😅
    2
  1766. Ooh that's a big one, I hope this video helps!
    2
  1767. I'm so happy to hear that!
    2
  1768. Yep, I agree with you! Prescribing medications is not my wheelhouse but I talk about psychotropic medications with clients who I believe would benefit from it or who seek it out. My channel is more for the psychological piece than the psychiatric one.
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  1769. Thank you so much!
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  1770. So cute!!
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  1771. Noted, I'll try to change this!
    2
  1772. Same
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  1773. Haha thank you :)
    2
  1774. Random Penguiness 😂
    2
  1775. Hahah damn I need to start closing the door all the way
    2
  1776. We had a rental car and there was lots of parking but definitely hard to find during the weekend. Uber might be the way to go! Favorite activities were eating at the good restaurants and hitting up the witch stores :)
    2
  1777. Happy October!!! This video is a bit of a soft launch for Halloweek
    2
  1778. Absolutely, it basically does induce at least a temporary psychosis, but in rare cases it can trigger something lifelong
    2
  1779. I'll definitely cover polyamory at some point, hopefully soon! :)
    2
  1780. Maiaheee, maiahoo
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  1781. Thank you for sharing❤️
    2
  1782. That's an unfortunate reality in many places. I recommend talking to your support system, reading books about the particular psychological issues you're working through, journaling/writing, and using platforms like Youtube to learn as much as possible about a topic. Best of luck <3
    2
  1783. Ashley Tupper noo that would suck!! It’s such a distinctive personality disorder
    2
  1784. Ashley Tupper still idk, it has such an important link to somatic disorders and I feel like it’s not quite BPD. Will be interesting to see where the DSM-6 goes
    2
  1785. Thank you so much!! :)
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  1786. Thanks for noticing! I was very overdue for a new phone lol
    2
  1787. Thank you so much :)
    2
  1788. So sorry for your loss <3
    2
  1789. 2.5 years
    2
  1790. Aww this makes my day to read, thank you so much for sharing!
    2
  1791. Thank you for sharing!
    2
  1792. Haha did I slander him?
    2
  1793. I don't love that show tbh, what are people saying about the character?
    2
  1794. This was something I learned from my anthropology courses in undergrad, so unfortunately I don't have the specific reference for that. But this is the argument: "Because natural selection acts directly only on phenotypes, more genetic variation within a population usually enables more phenotypic variation. Some new alleles increase an organism’s ability to survive and reproduce, which then ensures the survival of the allele in the population." (https://bio.libretexts.org/Bookshelves/Introductory_and_General_Biology/Book%3A_General_Biology_(Boundless)/19%3A_The_Evolution_of_Populations/19.2%3A_Population_Genetics/19.2A%3A_Genetic_Variation#:~:text=Because%20natural%20selection%20acts%20directly,the%20allele%20in%20the%20population.) Also, there was a comment somewhere on this thread about how women's sex organs how evolved to permit sex with multiple partners one after the other in order to increase genetic variability. Of course, carrying a child full-term and giving birth poses certain major threats to women, and this is likely why women are more picky when it comes to choosing mates (because they want to make sure their potential baby father will be someone who can protect them and stick around). So it's not clear-cut, but it still makes sense that women would want genetic variability just as much as men do.
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  1795. 😂
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  1796. That's awesome!!
    2
  1797. Its definitely related to empathy! But I think it’s more than that, it also has to do with one’s intentions
    2
  1798. <3
    2
  1799. Aw thank you so much!
    2
  1800. Made it private cause I didn’t want to deal with his army of followers insulting me for all of eternity
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  1801. I'm so glad!! It's my favorite week of the year
    2
  1802. Thank you!
    2
  1803. Thank you!!
    2
  1804. Thank you so much😊
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  1805. Adorable!!
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  1806. I haven't, what is it? And thanks so much :)
    2
  1807. Sounds like it would definitely be an interesting read for you!
    2
  1808. Thank you for the SuperThanks! Glad it helped
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  1809. Not at this time, sorry!!
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  1810. Sorry to hear that! It can definitely be a difficult conversation, but I don't think it would be detrimental in the long run for you to better understand her situation :)
    2
  1811. Oh, do you know her personally?
    2
  1812. Ooh where would I find info on different clans?
    2
  1813. Isn't it so random and cute!?
    2
  1814. Thanks for the advice :)
    2
  1815. Aw thank you :’)
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  1816. I believe the consensus in the research was no more than 3-5, but I honestly have dozens and haven't had an issue with this approach. It really depends on your needs--if resolutions make you nervous, sticking with fewer is probably a good start!
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  1817. Noted! And thank you so much for the support :)
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  1818. Noted!
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  1819. That makes two of us :')
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  1820. 😂
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  1821. Great example!
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  1822. Was probably her landline then
    2
  1823. Thank you very much! I’m so glad this video found you and resonated with you
    2
  1824. Thank you!
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  1825. Thank you so much! She is definitely a cutie :)
    2
  1826. Yes! Here’s the link: https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/44707528.Ana_Yudin
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  1827. But do you feel anxious at the same exact moment as you do those loving things? Genuine question, cause for me one usually drives out the other
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  1828. Brenda Gaia Santos Aw, thank you so much for sharing❤️ my condolences, and I hope you heal from this as soon as possible
    2
  1829. It's just a pashmina my friend gave to me, sorry I'm not sure where from!
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  1830. lol I considered including some but the progress is so gradual that it’s almost laughable at the moment 😂
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  1831. I'm so glad!!
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  1832. Ooh yes!
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  1833. Definitely!
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  1834. You’re very kind, thank you🙏🏻 I’m not a psychologist quite yet though!
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  1835. I have one on trans relationships and I'm planning one on bisexual ones soon!
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  1836. Thank you! I'm bringing all of them, I only threw out one book😅 I think you can guess which one based on my recent videos
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  1837. Aye me too!! :)
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  1838. I'm so sorry that you're going through that :(
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  1839. She really is🥰
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  1840.  @loren.a5600  will do!
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  1841. Yes, exactly this!!
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  1842.  @iuliaionelapetcu1411  multumesc mult! Nu cred ca ma voi apropia niciodată de vreun subiect Reddit ca știu cum as primi amenințări 🙄
    2
  1843. Oh yikes I was not aware of that
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  1844. I haven't seen much of 30 Rock, what do you suspect her character has?
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  1845. Thank you so much <3
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  1846. My initial theory is contextual factors in the summer?
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  1847. I'll have to rewatch it sometime! Sounds like it might be a good character analysis, but I hardly remember anything from it
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  1848.  @NicolesBookishNook  That's amazing! what genre?
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  1849. It's not new but thank you!! :)
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  1850. 😂
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  1851. Thank you so much! Same to you :)
    2
  1852. Thank you so much!!
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  1853. Oh wow, I did not know that about her... I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt and not make any assumptions about her political leanings, but that about clears things up.
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  1854. LOL yeah let's just say it was not a good hair day :)
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  1855. Very true, if only Sarah Jessica Parker's character weren't so annoying.. :/
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  1856. Thank you! And I'm not too sure, I think maybe INFJ or something like that but the test isn't very empirically valid so I wouldn't give it too much weight
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  1857. Yes I’ll be touching on it for sure😊
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  1858. Muchas gracias!! :)
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  1859. Aw no, I’m sorry!! The song that was playing in the background was supposed to be royalty-free but then someone made a claim for it. I think they have since removed the claim but I don’t wanna risk it :/ hopefully I can make a new one in the future. In the meantime, Michael Sealey is a good alternative!
    2
  1860. Thank you for sharing your perspective!
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  1861. That's amazing! I'm sorry to hear you're dealing with that :( But good luck in your career <3
    2
  1862. I'm glad to hear you've gotten better! There's definitely always the threat of relapse, which is why constant exposure is so important
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  1863. I haven't seen it yet, but I'll add it to my list! :)
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  1864. Thank you for the super thanks! Yes, it’s pre-recorded similar to the videos on youtube
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  1865. Aw thank you! You too:)
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  1866. N G if you want to email it to me it’s psychologywithana@gmail.com :) no pressure though! I can cover all phobias at once
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  1867. Thank you so much!❤️
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  1868. Thank youu :)
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  1869. Thank you :)
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  1870. Wow, really?? What's the thinking behind that?
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  1871. Thanks so much!
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  1872. It's coming this week!
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  1873. LOL
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  1874. I'm not sure what the specific neuroscience is behind it, but the PFC is involved in all decision-making so I'm willing to guess that those with poorer decision-making (and its neurological correlates) might be more prone to cheating!
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  1875. Not at this moment cause I’m trying to focus more on letting go rather than productivity, but thank you so much for the kind words! Is there a specific related video you’d like to see?
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  1876. Oh man, I haven't heard of him but I wouldn't be terribly surprised. The concept is pretty simple; it's basically a video-form vision board with music for added emotional effect
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  1877. Thank you so much for letting me know, and I hope you enjoy the course!! :)
    1
  1878. Noted! So sorry to hear about that, bugs suck :(
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  1879. Toni Idowu good catch :)
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  1880. Did not know this, thank you for the tip!!
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  1881. Multumesc mult!!😊
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  1882. Aw thanks so much!🥰
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  1883. Yep :)
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  1884. You can either click “notify me” or watch it after the live is done ☺️
    1
  1885. Since it's a planner where people need to jot down their own to-do's, I don't know that an ebook version would work, which is why I made this video instead for people who can't access Amazon shipping!
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  1886. Hehe thank you :)
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  1887. Love this! I agree, I think the journey of self-improvement is exciting in and of itself, regardless of the outcome :)
    1
  1888. So many things to love!
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  1889. Ooh thank you!
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  1890. Damn, why do you suspect they’re a vampire?
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  1891. Thank you :)
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  1892. Thank you! What's the harry styles reference? This is just a random poncho I got haha
    1
  1893. Sure! I'm planning a video on common misdiagnoses so I'll be sure to include that :)
    1
  1894. ?
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  1895. Haha I think I was wearing colored contacts, I was fine but thank you for the concern :)
    1
  1896. No I haven't!! How is it different from the original?
    1
  1897. Thank you!! I also said yes to a smaller podcast, I'll make sure to announce when these go live :)
    1
  1898. Noted!
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  1899. Yess true!
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  1900. Thank you so much for the kind words and your interest in my books! They should be available in Europe, though I think sometimes they appear out of stock in some countries. Which country are you hoping to ship to? My novel should be available to order from Barnes & Noble too, though I’m not sure about the journaling workbooks
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  1901. *heard
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  1902. For people who struggle with insomnia, a non-addictive pill like melatonin or NyQuil can be very helpful. Not for everyone, of course, but people have different reasons for their insomnia. It shouldn’t be every night, but it can help you get much-needed sleep for once
    1
  1903. That’s actually so observant of you! This is something we also felt while recording and talked about afterwards. It’s strange even to act out contempt in a relationship where it’s not present.
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  1904. Thank you for letting me know! I just tried it from my iPhone and it didn’t work but it did work from my laptop. I’ll pin a comment so people know :)
    1
  1905. Aw, I hope it looks up for you!
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  1906. Thank you so much!
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  1907. Aww I'm so happy to hear that!
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  1908. Thanks so much!!
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  1909. Thanks for the recommendation! What's it about?
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  1910. Thank you so much!
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  1911. Courtney Harvey I totally understand! Same to you😊
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  1912. It’s a dimensional illusion, the candles are in front of the cabinets not under them :)
    1
  1913. Thank you!
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  1914. Amazing, I wish we’d had AP Psych at my high school
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  1915. Thank you so much, wishing you the best as well! :)
    1
  1916. I totally get that
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  1917. Thank you!! I think so too :)
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  1918. I’m so glad! :)
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  1919. Thanks so much!! And yeah I agree :)
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  1920. I don't think so, she definitely showcases empathy for her daughter over glory/achievement. If anything, she's more in line with BPD because of her intense fear of abandonment by Nina
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  1921. I have a video coming out later this week talking about the differences between eating disorders, disordered eating, and dieting, which I hope will elucidate some of your questions :)
    1
  1922. I mostly shop at Sephora!
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  1923. Very true!
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  1924. Capricorn!
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  1925. I'm glad you enjoyed it :)
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  1926. The Curse in Their Veins and The Personal Growth Journal are both available in ebook form! :)
    1
  1927. Sally Listle that’s such a compliment, I really admire Dr. Grande!! :)
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  1928. Thanks so much!
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  1929. Thank you!
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  1930. I’m using a matte red lipstick just from the drugstore and a lime crime lip gloss, don’t remember exactly the shade but it’s wine colored :)
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  1931. Haha I've heard that before!
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  1932. Thanks so much!
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  1933. Anita \ thanks so much! :)
    1
  1934. Congratulations on law school! And of course, I doubt most people go into law school immediately mastering legal writing
    1
  1935. What a synchronicity!! I'm happy that video led you here, too :)
    1
  1936. I agree that a lot of the abstinence-based programs for substance abuse have serious flaws... I'm more of a harm reduction person, although I agree there are certain people who should aim for abstinence
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  1937. Any topic in particular? :)
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  1938. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️ and thank you for the kind words!
    1
  1939. Yes, posted one a couple weeks ago! :)
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  1940. Ooh thank you for the suggestion!
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  1941. He’s so far gone he’s not even relevant for me to talk about anymore
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  1942. Don't have too many thoughts on it!
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  1943. I haven't read evolutionary psychology articles on this topic, but that sounds interesting! Do you have any suggestions?
    1
  1944. I’m sorry to hear that! Reach out to your loved ones and seek therapy, both are very important
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  1945.  @btez31  Aw thank you!
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  1946. I'm so glad! :)
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  1947. Thanks so much!! :) one a day during the quarantine
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  1948. Thank you so much!
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  1949. I don't send newsletters very often, when I have an announcement really! But I talk more about my writing process on my second channel, Book & Hearth :)
    1
  1950. Thank you so much for your kind words!
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  1951. Why?
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  1952. I’m not too knowledgeable about it, but Dr Kirk Honda is :)
    1
  1953. I thought so too!
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  1954. Hmm that’s strange, I’m not sure what’s going on! What happens when you try to click submit?
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  1955. Yes, I privately messaged her. That was the call out
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  1956. Hahaha me too
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  1957. Thank you so much!! Enjoy :)
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  1958. Aw thank you so much! :)
    1
  1959. Like I said in the video, past infidelity increases one’s chances of future infidelity, although not everyone is doomed to this if they’ve grown from the experience :)
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  1960. Definitely! I would argue it’s quite foundational
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  1961. I’m so sorry for your loss!❤️
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  1962. That's so great to hear!! :)
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  1963. That would be amazing!
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  1964. Thank you!
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  1965. Such a good point!
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  1966. Aw so cute! :) thank you
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  1967. Thank you! I hear this song every other day LOL
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  1968. Thank you!
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  1969. No, what’s that?
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  1970. Noted!
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  1971. Awesome, thank you both for your input :)
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  1972. She put it beautifully!
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  1973. Thank you so much!!
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  1974. I talk about that at the end of the video, how this is only a short-term way to get someone attracted to you rather than anything feasible in the long-term :)
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  1975. That's so sweet, I think it does get monetized extra if you let ads play out but I'm not sure. Either way, thank you for the kindness! And I agree, getting exposed to something you're afraid of is the way to stop fearing it. Sounds like being around snakes did that for you. (I could probably give myself some exposure therapy when it comes to snake, but I don't really see the point since it's not a debilitating/everyday fear)
    1
  1976. Welcome to the channel!! :)
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  1977. The research on this specific topic deals with self-reported data, but you can easily verify that most of my videos are about human behavior.
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  1978. Thank you!
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  1979. Thank you so much <3
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  1980. I'm so glad to hear that! 🥹
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  1981. I believe it was The Body Keeps the Score :)
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  1982. LOL
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  1983. I was briefly out of stock I believe but it should be back now!
    1
  1984. So sorry for your loss! <3
    1
  1985. Thank you!!
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  1986. Yes, you can absolutely cultivate them! And that's awesome, I feel like remote jobs are so tough to find these days
    1
  1987. Have you ever looked into anthropology? I wonder if something like being an anthropological professor and researcher might be interesting to you, analyzing students' essays about the cultural and biological underpinnings of human behavior, going into other cultures to write ethnographies, etc.
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  1988. Nope!
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  1989. Aa stii, nu m-am gandit la asta... Se poate folosi ca jurnal si pe Kindle?
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  1990. Thank you! This is kinda embarrassing but it's from forever21
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  1991. That means soo much to me!! Thank you for expressing that
    1
  1992. Cause thats how long it took to get through my 23andme results 🤷🏻‍♀️ not really something I can draw out
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  1993. Yess best of luck :)
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  1994. I actually did record reactions to Too Hot To Handle... to three episodes, actually. And the owner claimed it was a copyright issue and wouldn't let me post it. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that my thumbnail said "stereotypical and hypersexualized," idk
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  1995. She will make it happen
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  1996. Hahah my partner joked that I’m as white as the wall behind me😂😂🥲
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  1997. I've heard several definitions of it, what do you mean by lovesickness? :)
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  1998. Thank you so much!
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  1999. I have a doctorate in Clinical Psychology, which makes me a doctor. Hope that helps!
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  2000. ^exactly, I only do therapy through the agency where I work, since I am still not licensed yet and need to do therapy under my supervisor’s license. I recommend you find a therapist nearby you, since there are also laws that prohibit doing therapy across states!
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  2001. Yes, it’s out now!! :) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DNJ2YGWG
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  2002. Aw I'm so glad you like it!! I wear the merch around the house all the time tbh, they really are comfy
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  2003. Thank you so much! I'm still waiting for the microphone I'm planning to start using to arrive with the rest of my moving boxes, hopefully that will help too
    1
  2004. Aw thank you!!
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  2005. That’s a great goal!!
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  2006. This comment means so incredibly much to me❤ I’m sorry for your difficulties and humbled that my videos could be a part of your healing journey. 🥹 sending my warmest wishes!
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  2007. placek thank you!! Cluster A is the odd/eccentric cluster and Cluster C is the anxious cluster. I love talking about personality disorders so I’ll definitely make more videos about them in the future :)
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  2008. Absolutely!💕
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  2009. Thank you so much! I don't see myself doing an audio book at this time
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  2010. 😂
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  2011. I'm so glad to hear that!! Hope all works out :)
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  2012. Thank you, hope you enjoy!!
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  2013.  @magicme39  That's a good point!
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  2014. I’m so glad!!
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  2015. There’s a chapter in The Connection Course on where and how to find connections, though this isn’t one of the tips I mention in the course, so there isn’t much overlap there!
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  2016. I’m so glad to hear that!!🥹
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  2017. Unfortunately I do not, please see the disclaimers in the description
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  2018. Love that!
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  2019. Carlos Julian Rivera that’s so cute🤩 sounds like borderline feline disorder
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  2020. Haha :')
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  2021. It's a type of Italian wine! :)
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  2022. Thanks for sharing!! And yes I think I pronounce it weird because I’m Romanian—didn’t realize it was the incorrect pronunciation but my accent comes out in the most random of moments 😂
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  2023. Yes! Like when someone is convinced that another person hexed them and they end up self-sabotaging or even inducing somatic illness because of it
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  2024. Not sure I follow what you’re saying about cats and dogs. As for the other thing, this is my voice and personality in a professional setting. I’m not gonna be loud and energetic on screen because 1) it wouldn’t be authentic to who I am, and 2) it’s not super professional. My voice is more in line with therapy than it is with a run-of-the-mill youtuber
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  2025. Oh noo, I had no idea! Hope you can somewhat celebrate indoors/on a small scale
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  2026. 😂
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  2027. I was joking about that!
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  2028. You're very perceptive :) Yes, I do have a personal connection to the topic
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  2029. What’s IFS? Excuse my ignorance😅
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  2030. Thank you! :)
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  2031. Oh it’s not that, I just want to introduce myself and my channel for people who are new :) I was considering some kind of pre-recorded intro actually!
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  2032. I'm so glad! Welcome aboard :)
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  2033. I'm so glad to hear that :) Thank you!
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  2034. Aw I'm so glad! Thank you :)
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  2035. No haha half of my face was just overexposed from the direct sunlight. And thank you!
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  2036. Van Nguyen thanks so much!!
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  2037. Cailey Macdonald thank you!! :)
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  2038. Hahah valid point. I think this is more for convincing someone that they're attracted to you in the first place
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  2039. MoralLess thank you :)
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  2040. Thank you so much!! :)
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  2041. What about them? :)
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  2042.  @Chernandezpe  oh I just meant it’s not an ideal place to find a partner because it’s not a great place to learn about someone’s true character :)
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  2043. Noted
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  2044. How long did it take you to learn? It was sooo hard the last time we tried to learn it
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  2045. I think it depends what personality measure you use, as most of them account for things like empathy and agreeableness :)
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  2046. Thank you so much! Many blessings to you too
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  2047. Multumesc mult! :)
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  2048. Noted it!
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  2049. The screenshot? Yeah I was also surprised that a lot of the definitions I found pertained to anxiety, since I feel like it's more about unconscious pain than anxiety
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  2050. It’s LED, but thanks for looking out for me!!😆
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  2051. Thank you!😊
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  2052. Yes I love it!!
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  2053. Thanks for the suggestion, I'll have to check it out!
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  2054. A response to what? I'm discussing a psychological phenomenon and providing examples, but there's no one incident that this is in response to.
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  2055. Thank you so much! All the best to you too :)
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  2056. Thank you!
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  2057. Thank you!
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  2058. Very true!
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  2059. Thank you so much!!
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  2060. Love Bulgaria! :)
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  2061. Yes haha my boyfriend had it long before any of us knew how problematic Kanye is😅
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  2062. Nope, not me :) 10 years ago I was 13 hahah
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  2063. Thanks so much!
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  2064. Definitely doesn’t replace therapy, but i hope my videos do help☺️
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  2065. You're very kind <3
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  2066. That's an awesome video idea!! Thanks so much :)
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  2067. LOL
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  2068. I'm so glad!!
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  2069. As with anything in psychology, context and nuance are important. There are definitely times when expressing room for improvement can further the other person's development, and I think it can be done in a compassionate way that preserves intimacy. :)
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  2070. :)
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  2071. YouTube's stringent rules around covering sensitive subjects
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  2072. Thank you!
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  2073. I feel that offering an ebook for this journal would be doing customers a disservice because so much of it is meant to be filled out on the page itself and the everyday template repeats itself for 90 days, so I don’t want people to buy an ebook and be disappointed in what they can do with it. However, there will be an ebook version of the next mental health journal I come out with next year! That one will have a variety of journaling templates/rubrics that don’t rely so much on using the page itself.
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  2074. I never got really into Gossip Girl!
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  2075. Haha yes exactly, I bit my cheek
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  2076. Thank you so much! Hmm I don’t believe I do, though that might be related to any videos where I covered feelings of anger
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  2077. Golden SVAN cuteee
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  2078. Thank you!!
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  2079. It’s coming soon😉 make sure you’re subscribed to the newsletter! www.dranayudin.com
    1
  2080. Ooh that's a really good idea
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  2081. I think it could be! Although I usually hear it in reference to men who string women along emotionally
    1
  2082. Interesting topic, noted!
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  2083. Yes, I loved it!
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  2084. Thank you for the super!
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  2085. Noted!
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  2086. So sorry to hear about your mom <3 My condolences
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  2087. Ruth Anne Van Eeden damn I just read the description and it looks super interesting. I’ll add it to my list (but I doubt I’ll have time to get to it anytime soon😔)
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  2088. Love you💕
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  2089. Thank you!!
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  2090. I show the author at the end, if it is truly him then it looks like it’s a white man with an Anglo-Saxon name
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  2091. People use those specific words in multiple contexts, and I don’t think it’s always sexist. It was just one example. With that being said, it is a word quite entrenched in violence against women. ”you go, bitch!” among friends can very quickly turn into “shut up, you bitch”
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  2092. No reason to feel embarrassed! :)
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  2093. My husband is the only person who knows I’m aware of this specific situation. There are thousands of SoundCloud rappers in the world.
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  2094. To my knowledge, almost all psychologists believe there is a biological/evolutionary component to human behavior, although there are certainly different theories about how exactly evolution impacts us!
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  2095. Sending you both warmth and happiness❤️
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  2096. Could you explain what you mean by that a bit more? Introspection is just looking to yourself for knowledge--is there a specific aspect of that that feels difficult? I imagine you already do it quite a bit!
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  2097. Taytay Queen damn did she? I saw the thumbnail for it but didn’t get a chance to watch. That’s disappointing
    1
  2098. Thank you!
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  2099. This means so much to hear!!! I also hope you make a happy update to this comment :)
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  2100. Thank you!! :)
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  2101. I haven’t seen it, but it sounds super interesting!
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  2102. Not sure why that was, either! Thanks for sharing though :)
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  2103. So sorry to hear that :(
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  2104. Omg who was the YouTuber?
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  2105. Yes
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  2106. Happy Halloween!!!
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  2107. Aw thank you so much :)
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  2108. Definitely!
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  2109. Ashley Tupper thanks so much!! :)
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  2110. So exciting!!
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  2111. Will do!
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  2112. Avoidance and rumination can both be types of mental compulsions (regardless of whether or not a person has OCD--many of us engage in compulsions to some degree). So in a sense, both avoidance and rumination are responses to anxiety that further fuel the obsession/anxious thought.
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  2113. Thank you so much!
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  2114. Foil Grim Timmy lol what? You’re conflating talking about a diverse group of people with talking to one specific person. Obviously I talk to MY partner using his name, pronouns, and our own pet names. It seems like you’re grasping at straws and you haven’t actually given me an alternative word that applies to a broad population.
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  2115. Thank you!
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  2116. Well, it's true that men having sex can cause a conception to a far greater degree than women having sex, but that doesn't really change the fact that women are also evolutionarily programmed to seek out diverse partners and maximize their chances of pregnancy. At the end of the day, though, although there is a biological reason behind some of our human behaviors, humans have executive functioning and are not helpless in the face of their biological predispositions.
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  2117. So sorry to hear that <3
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  2118. That’s for sure😬
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  2119. Thank you!
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  2120. Aww I’m so glad to hear that!
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  2121. That's a really good question, and probably more complex than I can really answer! I think we tend to imprint on people who we perceive have ameliorated our lives, whether it be through music, Youtube, writing, friendship, etc. And we put up a lot of defenses to prevent our cognitive dissonance, because it's hard for people to understand that someone they admire also has imperfections. It takes a lot of emotional self-awareness to be able to acknowledge that someone can be both really problematic and have helped us in the past. In psychodynamic psychology, it's called "splitting," where people are either all good or all bad. In reality, we are all multifaceted and imperfect.
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  2122. Thanks for sharing! The intrusive nature of thinking about it afterwards sounds like an obsessive-compulsive type of anxiety. I get similar intrusion symptoms if I see a photo of a snake, I’m pretty much guaranteed to have nightmares about them that night
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  2123. Thank you! And I know, I was kicking myself for it!!! I always forget at least one or two important things in each video haha
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  2124. Full video coming on this on Monday!
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  2125. Sorry to hear that! And don't sweat it, good luck in Boston :)
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  2126. I'm so sorry to hear that... I haven't really looked into many grief resources, but I'm sure there are a plethora of either self-help or fiction books on this topic that might help you process <3
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  2127. Thank you!! :)
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  2128. Very mixed feelings about that book, I was contemplating making a video on it but idk
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  2129. Thank you! I talk about that in the placebo video
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  2130. <3
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  2131. Thank you so much! Good luck with your music :)
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  2132. 😂
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  2133. I will probably make a TikTok about that at some point!
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  2134. I got it from Red Bubble, hahah had never heard of it before but it was the only place I could find this quote printed on a shirt
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  2135. Noted!
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  2136. I have a few on eating disorders, one specifically on how to help a loved one with an eating disorder. Hope it helps!
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  2137. Thank you so much!
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  2138. Ooh yes that's an interesting one!
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  2139. Nope, year-round
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  2140. Aw thank you, hope you like it!! :)
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  2141. Thank you!
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  2142. Haha thank you! I've been wearing it in the car a lot and I feel a lot less weird about wearing it now
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  2143. No I haven't, what is it about?
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  2144. I'm so glad to hear that, and thank you for the Super! Due to the format of A Season of Life where the daily prompts are the same for 90 days, I feel it would be a disservice to have it available in ebook form :/ I don't want people to feel disappointed when they purchase the journal and realize it has to be completed by hand. If you have any suggestions for how to circumvent this, feel free to email them to me at psychologywithana@gmail.com
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  2145. Thank you very much!
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  2146. Nope, it was a premiere!
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  2147. Of course!
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  2148. I’ve never heard of such a link, why do you ask? :)
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  2149. Aw I’m so glad 🥹
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  2150. Thank you so much! :)
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  2151. You can find the silver lining in an unfortunate situation after acknowledging and working through your painful feelings about it. What I'm suggesting has nothing to do with all-or-nothing thinking, it's a way of redirecting yourself to gratitude when you'd rather sulk for a prolonged period. For example, last week I had a really unpleasant interaction at a car rental place. Didn't end up getting a car and had an interaction with someone really rude. I expressed and processed my anger about the situation, but what helped me move forward was eventually saying, "Well, at least this saves me the money I would've spent on the car rental." It's not about denying painful truths, but rather about moving forward from them.
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  2152. All references in description
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  2153.  @markbalki  I have never in this video stated that someone cheats because of their gender, just stated statistics. There are of course a multitude of motives behind cheating and, unless someone is justifying it because of their gender, they are not cheating due to their gender directly. But let’s avoid intellectualizing and devaluing empirical evidence, it’s a good first step in exploring the more qualitative mechanisms at play. “X group of people cheats more than Y group” is a step towards identifying why exactly that may be the case.
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  2154.  @LLaP5898  That warms my heart to hear! I hope you enjoy it ☺️
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  2155. I look at studies on psychology databases and psychology websites like PsychologyToday to see if I missed any major research findings or conclusions!
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  2156. Thank you very much!
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  2157. Thank you so much!
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  2158. I have a video on that!
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  2159. I love your definition of happiness! And thank you so much for the kind words about the journals, I’m thrilled that you find them useful🙏🏻 It absolutely makes my day to hear that. If you have a chance to leave an Amazon review, it helps me immensely :)
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  2160. It's one of the big 5 personality traits, it basically means how likable/nice you are
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  2161. Thanks so much! :)
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  2162. I haven't, but thank you❤️ :) sending positivity to you too!
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  2163. Ooh good luck! And wow I had no idea, I'll look into that
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  2164. Aw thank you <3
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  2165. It should be available again! Sorry for the delay, usually it shows up as out of stock for an hour or so and then restocks.
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  2166. Thank you!! I'll give it a try
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  2167. I’ll have to check it out!
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  2168. I’m not sure what it was called, sorry!
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  2169. GuidetteExpert interesting topic! I’m not sure I’d have too much to offer on the subject right now since I haven’t personally worked with anyone with Antisocial Personality Disorder, but I did touch on it a bit in the Shallon video. I’ll keep it in mind for the future :)
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  2170. Aw thank you! :)
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  2171. Then she will get a million pets a day :')
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  2172.  @kamallb4650  Thanks so much! :)
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  2173. Yes! :) what specifically about them?
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  2174. Of course!
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  2175. Any mental health professional that judges you for suggesting you have anxiety should not be in this field. Don't worry about being scrutinized, there's a difference between someone coming into the office saying "I believe i have [this specific anxiety disorder]" and someone saying, "I feel a lot of anxiety in situations xyz." I can't be sure from such a small snippet, but it definitely sounds like anxiety is a component here!
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  2176. Thank you, hope you enjoy!
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  2177. Oh yes, it’s Halloween all year round here😂
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  2178. I'm glad to hear that! And no, I am not on the spectrum
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  2179. She's a Bombay :)
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  2180. Thanks so much! That's a good idea :)
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  2181. Did you watch the first minute of this video before making this comment?
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  2182. I love these! I feel like you can totally do something with self-care (like opening a spa or something) or content creation
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  2183. It really is! :(
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  2184. I'm so glad!!
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  2185. Thank you! I can look into it :)
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  2186. I don't feel like I really have enough information on her! But thank you :)
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  2187. Women definitely perpetuate toxic masculinity, but I'm not sure I would agree that they want fuckboys. Usually when this happens, it's due to manipulation and deception rather than someone actively seeking out "bad boys." I know there's the saying that women don't want nice guys, but I disagree with that based on what I've seen. It's not that women don't want nice guys, it's that we're often too willing to make excuses for men and believe that they actually are a "nice guy" even when they've shown their true colors. On the other hand, you're totally right that reinforcement would fix this if we women simply stopped tolerating this sort of behavior altogether. There would be no incentive for men to behave this way (except for male bonding). But because of the manipulative nature of fuckboys, the tendency to keep excusing shitty behavior, and society telling women that it's just "boys being boys," it doesn't happen as often as it should.
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  2188. PsychoSocialCreation thank you!!
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  2189. Noted, thank you! :)
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  2190. Thanks for the recommendation, it's a good one! And yes I did, it's in my "everything no one told me about a career in psychology" video :)
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  2191. jason sitruk not at all, glad you found it!!
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  2192. I'll consider this for the future!! As of right now I don't have plans to make an audio book
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  2193. Amber Heard is the one exception where I agree, it was at least equally directed by men, but for the most part it’s women I see participating in this sort of behavior. Men generally think celebrity pop culture is stupid and reserve their aggression for more direct forms like threats of sexual violence when it comes to the internet.
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  2194. Her name was Vivi and she was cute🥰
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  2195. Love that!
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  2196. lunarsnow of course!! :)
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  2197. That's great to hear!! Thank you :)
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  2198. Sure! Are there any particular phobias you're interested in?
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  2199. I’m looking at my phone where the screenshare of my results are
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