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  1. Nick Thorpe hahaha thanks Nick. So I’m just gonna out myself here, I do drink coffee but I use a Koffee Straw (from Amazon). I feel like a goofball doing it but it keeps my teeth from going brown haha
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  2. Ana S and Slayer hahaha great catch!
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  3. And then after Aang stands up to her, she says "you just stood your ground against a [whatever that thing is], and more impressive you stood up to me. You can do this, you're ready!" or something to that affect. The wording isn't exact, but right before his earthbending breakthrough she encourages him and says she believes in him
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  4. Hi Eugenia! Man or woman, you definitely want to calibrate your touch based on the relationship
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  5. Just bought one today! Thanks for your feedback, it'll be better in future videos.
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  6. Totally agree! I tried to pick things that I have specifically seen work well in real life interactions. There are certainly a LOT of things that Liza does that work specifically because it's in video format.
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  7. Haha thanks! I think ;-) We've been best friends for 15 years and I think we've just slowly stolen each other's mannerisms. People always ask if we're twins.
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  8. Hi C! Absolutely plan to do more women as well as men. Our most popular video ever is actually on Ellen Degeneres. Did you like the recent one on Margaery Tyrell?
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  9. What's up everybody! I'll be in the comments for the first hour if you've got questions, comments, or just want to say hi :-)
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  10. That's true, but after Aang stands up to her, she says "you just stood your ground against a [whatever that thing is], and more impressive you stood up to me. You can do this, you're ready!" or something to that affect. The wording isn't exact, but right before his earthbending breakthrough she encourages him and says she believes in him
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  11. Hey Rohan! We used to, now we live in Santa Monica, California. Still in the same apartment building but we've graduated to our own apartments haha
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  12. Noted!
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  13. Hahaha he just did the Dany and Jon video! He's alive and well I promise ;-)
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  14. Thanks man! I was nervous to see how people would respond to me since I'm not the face they've gotten used it. This made my day to read!
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  15. Chaos! Anarchy! Mwahahahaha 😈
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  16. Thanks that's awesome to hear!
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  17. Aku brilliant idea, great way to practice
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  18. Haha my face is my face Lui, for better or worse I'm stuck with it
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  19. Thanks Min! Some people don't like change. It's all good. Appreciate the kind words!
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  20. So question: what traits do you think his Joker has that are admirable or have lessons to learn from? Because I’m 100% with you that the Joker is fascinating to watch and the movie was excellent. I’m just not sure I’d want people acting like the Joker haha
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  21. Thanks Beaver!
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  22. It’s when you work 9am until 9pm the next day ;-)
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  23. Super fair point! I think touch is universally a good thing, but how you touch definitely varies culture to culture, you bring up a great nuance
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  24. Kim Birdwonders haha thanks Kim!
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  25. I'm pretty sure you just got me in a white t-shirt for life haha ;-)
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  26. This genuinely made me laugh out loud when I caught on halfway through. Thank you for this Mr. Bateman ;-)
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  27. Oooooo good question! This changes for me with time but what I've found the most useful is to have role models in specific areas. So I don't really have any role models where I'm like "I would really like that person's entire life and mindset" but I have a lot of people I look up to for certain aspects of them. Tony Robbins is someone I have learned a lot from, both in terms of coaching people, human psychology, and personal routines/habits. Tim Ferriss changed my life by writing Four Hour Workweek. One of my friend's from college Austen was the first charisma role model I ever had and still one of the most powerful personalities I've ever seen in real life. I admire Charlie in a lot of ways and learn a ton from him. Recently I've started reading about buddhism and I've started trying to find role models who can teach me more about just being present and being happy without having to achieve or need any boxes checked. That's been a huge change in my last 3 months. In some way a lot of the people we've broken down are role models. I admire The Rock for his work ethic and ability to connect with people, I admire Chris Hemsworth for how he raises up the people around him, etc. I don't know them personally but I try to learn from the aspects of them that impress me. That's what initially comes to mind, I'm sure I've forgotten a ton of past ones and even some present ones but hopefully that answers your question a little Adri!
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  28.  @ethanlocke3604  To me that was the breakthrough moment. Of course not everyone has to agree with my interpretation. In my mind, if he had stood up to her and she had just said "cool whatever" and walked away, I don't think it would have necessarily been the catalyst for a big breakthrough in earthbending. Of course he's the avatar so he would have gotten it eventually. I just think that moment of positive reinforcement is what let's him break through the struggle he was having prior.
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  29. TheSingleGuy hahaha that’s a great comment. I guess it depends what job you’re leaving and what business you’re starting. And probably your personality. For me it did but you’re so right, some people probably experience the exact opposite.
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  30. I think Charity:Water is solid. Great advice though! They claim that 100% of money fundraised in campaigns goes to clean water projects, because they have separate fundraisers (from the uber wealthy would be my guess) to fund administrative stuff. This is my 'go to' website for checking out a charity's legitimacy, in case you want to check others in the future before you donate :-) https://www.charitynavigator.org/index.cfm?bay=search.summary&orgid=12548
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  31. Thanks Nathan's Art Project!
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  32. Dudes, this was perfect online improv, I legitimately laugh out loud. Well played heightening :-)
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  33. Charlie has a video on this in process right now! Look out for it sometimes next week or the following :-)
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  34. Haha that's awesome! This is definitely not like the Trump bet though. Politics are based 100% on charisma (maybe 90% charisma, 10% policy). Boxing is a mix of mental and physical. Conor is the underdog and should be. I do think he has a very real chance though. Depends what odds you can get.
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  35. Thanks Nader!
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  36. Thanks Alex! I really appreciate your comment :-) I totally get the growing pains and understand where they’re coming from, but it isn’t always fun to read. Comments like yours really bring me up and inspire me to try to make great videos for you :-)
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  37. Yeah being the “new guy” isn’t always easy. Thank you for writing this, it means a lot to me :-)
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  38. Sure! I'm not a pro, perhaps I didn't speak the way a meditation trainer would. That's just how I've experienced it and how I would say it's been helpful to me personally :-)
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  39. Rubicante I 100% agree. I don’t think he’s acting, I think acting helped his habits become awesome Thanks for watching!
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  40. That's awesome! And yeah I think that's a great video idea. Years ago I could've just recording a video of Charlie arguing, would have been amazing! Sadly he's gotten much less stubborn with time haha
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  41. Thanks Sebastián!
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  42. That's Charlie. Can't you tell from his black shirt? ;-)
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  43. Sparky ! That’s awesome that you’re internalizing some of it! Good for you! The “normal” situations will become easier and more fun too I promise :-) Have you seen the Chris Pratt video? He’s a great example of someone who can have fun anywhere. I watch that once every few months myself, it’s one of my favorites :-)
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  44. You know it! Charlie’s working on it as I type this 👍👍
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  45. Thanks so much! Charlie and I were concerned about how people would react to bringing me in front of the camera. I'm stoked to hear you're enjoying my videos too! Appreciate you commenting :-)
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  46. I totally agree with all 3 of your points. This is definitely not like the Trump bet we put $2k on. Politics are 90% charisma, 10% policy. A fight is probably 75% physical, 25% mental (totally making that up but you get my jist) You also raise a great point, which is what happens if the fight starts to go a direction Conor hasn't envisioned. I would guess that similar to the Chad fight, Conor's vision of this one involves Floyd being very, very good and tough to hit and all that. My point was that no MMA fighter should have ANY chance against Floyd in a boxing match but fighting is part mental part physical, and Conor's mental game is insanely tight. Two weeks ago I would have said he had no in hell of winning this, but in the process of making this video I started to believe Conor can win just because he's been so successful at having an "impossible" vision (first man to KO Jose, first two weight champ, making this fight even happen in the first place) and achieving it.
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  47. Thanks! I brainstormed about 20 of them before landing on this one soooo pretty excited to read that haha
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  48. Hahaha I like yours even more than mine ;-)
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  49. Haha touché ;-)
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  50. That's awesome Mike! Hearing that we're making a difference in people's lives is the best part of making these videos so thank you for commenting :-)
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  51. Hey Bananenbauer123! I completely agree, sometimes the best conversations are about the meaning of life, morality, etc. What I was trying to get across with my last point wasn't to avoid those topics, but to filter for people who also enjoy those topics! And for people who don't, filter them out, or find what they enjoy speaking about, rather than trying to force them into a topic they might not enjoy. Not that you have to do this, just that it might lead to being interrupted if you were to try to pick the same topic with every person you meet. Because if you like the universe, and they like the universe, then it WILL be an enjoyable conversation for all involved :-)
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  52. Opheliacinthelake hi! Did you see the Wonder Woman video? Charlie and I don’t have firsthand experience being a woman so to be candid we have to imagine or ask female friends for something like this, but Charlie included something on this when talking about Gal Gadot that will hopefully be helpful!
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  53. Step 1a: Be a hypnotist Step 1b: Be Charles Xavier Boom! You're hired as a video scripter. 3 Ways To Influence Someone Without Them Knowing 😊
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  54. maggithepink thank you! I think I underestimated the amount of critique I was opening myself up to by starting to contribute to the channel, so thanks for saying so :-)
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  55. That's great Collin I'm glad the timing lined up with your situation. Don't feel like you have to do every single thing I talked about here either, it's more like a toolkit you can pick and choose from depending on the situation you're in. Good luck with the conversation tomorrow!
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  56. Pelle Polapo I feel you! I have suffered from all three at points in my life
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  57. Yo Jon! I'm not a huge footballer so don't know much about him but I'll add him to our list to look into
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  58. Haha thanks mwieser! I had them whitened a few years ago and I think they stay white because I just avoid the stuff that stains teeth (ex: I have a Koffee Straw from my coffee). The brushing also helps 😂
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  59. I agree :-)
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  60. Shpitz haha got me smiling just thinking about what I’d answer :-)
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  61. Sorry if this wasn't clear! Posture is super important. What's really really bad is to have poor posture, and instead of focusing on fixing the causes you just actively flex yourself into a position that may look good temporarily but is super tight and forced. Hope that clarifies things!
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  62. emtomb haha I know right! Also, mad respect to you for taking action and actually trying them :-)
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  63. Charisma for the lazy 😂
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  64. Thanks Jonas! I've got another video coming out tomorrow, hope you like it :-)
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  65. Roop Tiwari thank you!
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  66. Jennifer Micek Merry Christmas to you too Jennifer! Hope you have fun with this :-)
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  67. Whattup Gary! I don't think that's unusual at all. Gary V polarizes people. Some people love him, some like him, some dislike him, and some reaaaally dislike him. He's hit a balance where that pie chart is working out well for him. That said, maybe watching more videos will make you like him, or maybe he just isn't someone you'll like 🤷‍♂️
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  68. I would love to! The issues are mostly around getting a good camera person for it and also making sure we follow all of the California state laws around it + make sure the other people involved are comfortable with it being published. Definitely something I'd like to figure out how to do at some point.
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  69. Hey Alexander! Both will lead to incredibly rewarding outcomes and opportunities. For me, charisma has had the bigger positive impact on my life. But everyone is different. If I were you I would pick what interests you the most and you have the most fun doing / reading / talking about. ESPECIALLY for a YT channel, because when you're on video 150, you'll be very burned out if you don't genuinely love the topic :-)
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  70. Yeah I loved that part :-)
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  71. Hey Daniel! Google "Cialdini, interview advice". He has an interesting suggestion for before an interview. Also when it's your turn to ask questions I suggest asking "I'm curious if I did get the job, what makes the very best [job title]?" They'll start to think about their very best employees and associate them with you. I've had many people write me emails saying that changed the tone of their interview :-)
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  72. Nice idea. I think it's going to involve a lot of reading body language and tone, and reading into what they're saying and past the actual words. It's been so long since I watched it, I don't know if our video on "how to read anyone" would help but that has some similar stuff in it. In terms of how to reach out, I feel like any attempt to reach out and extend some love is better than not reaching out
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  73. Thanks B!
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  74. Not that it matters, but as his roommate I can tell you this is most definitely a true story
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  75. Great one!  I'll put it on the list :-)
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  76. +SecretBandito thanks for your comment! It isn't meant to be a video supporting Trump's politics or political positions (which I personally don't). We tried to stay as politically neutral on it as possible. We chose the topic because Trump is a very useful real-time example of the power of charisma to influence people.
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  77. This comment is excellent
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  78. Hmmm, this isn't my personal experience or what I've seen from watching Gary V, Chris Hemsworth, Tony Robbins, or my most popular friends. I think it may be how/when you touch. Have you seen the Chris Hemsworth video? I'd be curious what you think of it :-) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T5_KFy6qy-A
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  79. Thanks John!
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  80. Thanks Teresa!
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  81. Hey Vitaly! I just filmed a video today that touches a bit on this. It's called "How To Have Tough Conversations". It comes out tomorrow, hopefully it covers some stuff that's helpful here! Let me know in the comments of that video if there's more you want to hear on the topic. If it gets some upvotes I'll talk to Charlie about getting it on the calendar :-)
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  82. Hey Terra! Deeeeefinitely need to calibrate touch based on gender, culture, religion, etc. Did you see the Chris Hemsworth breakdown "how to be popular without trying"? I did a pretty detailed stretch on touch that you might like
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  83. Nope. We get no money from it. Also, the charity execs get no money from it. 100% of money raised goes to clean water projects :-)
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  84. I think he creates that reaction a lot haha For what it's worth I met Gary and several of his employees and team members, and from what I could tell the people I met adore him. I can't speak for everyone at the company but at least the people I met are huge believers in Gary and Vaynermedia and wouldn't want to work anywhere else
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  85. Hey Funnyballs! The English was perfect :-) And thanks! We appreciate you watching 😊
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  86. Appreciate you at least finishing the video! haha Hopefully you still found tidbits of useful advice to take from our breakdown even if you don't enjoy her videos
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  87. Edumacation95 keep your eyes out for Charlie this Monday morning ;-)
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  88. Conrad Carpenelli sorry about that! It works with headphones and on laptop but not on mobile and I have no idea why. I’m working with my video editor to figure it out. Hopefully the rest was okay 😬
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  89. Thanks Jack!
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  90. Carl Wane I agree! I’ll try to get this out in January or February :-)
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  91. Mc Bill thanks!
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  92. Thanks Amy I'm glad you like the content! You'll still get just as much Charlie in your life too I promise haha. He did Dany/Jon this Monday and he'll have another video coming out next Monday as well.
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  93. His next video comes out this Monday :-)
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  94. We've got a Scarlett Johansson video in the works actually, should come out the week Black Widow releases :-)
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  95. It's interesting, recently I've actually been working on raising the pitch of my voice a bit when out so that it carries more through ambient noise. That said, for a deeper voice, I think things like relaxing your jaw, relaxing your chest/back/abs/low back, basically creating less tension, that seems to help. Relaxing, speaking more slowly. If you get tense or speak really quickly, your voice will rise in pitch, so I'm just assuming the opposite is true. I've worked a TON on getting healthy vocal mechanics and getting my voice to carry, but not a lot on depth, so hopefully that's helpful but beyond that I'd say give it a google. Also personally I think that unless you sound like Mickey Mouse, your voice pitch doesn't really matter. Charlie has a voice that is on the higher side of things, and is one of the most persuasive, charming, funny people I know. I think there are much more important aspects like conviction, body language, etc. that will have a more positive impact on your charisma than trying to change your voice pitch :-)
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  96. Tony Scott haha great idea ;-)
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  97. Great point! I think his downfall with Nate was leading into the first fight, he visualized a first round KO. And he prepared like that was going to happen. He bulked up and focused on power. I think this is the one example of Conor not grounding his visualizations in reality. For the rematch, he says he's ready for a dog fight, he's expecting it to go 5 rounds, etc. And I think he visualized accordingly, trained accordingly, etc. I thought about including this but the video got so long I ultimately chopped it. Maybe I should have left it! Haha. That's why I think a huge powerful part of his visualization process against Chad was visualizing getting taken down and surviving it. Hopefully he's grounded himself in reality for Mayweather!
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  98. Fantastic channel to see full interrogations, he does a great job!
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  99. Hey Fei! I feel you, I used to be very negative and sarcastic and I identified as a "sarcastic" person. But sarcasm is just a learned habit, it wasn't core to who I am. I think pessimism is the same, it's probably a habit you learned to protect yourself when you were younger. In terms of introvert vs. extrovert, I would say Charlie is an introvert and still enjoys being social when he chooses to, and I'm an extrovert, but I would say we're equally charismatic. We just have different hobbies and charge up differently.
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  100. Wubster haha thanks! If there's enough people that want it I'll talk to Charlie about it :-)
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  101. I will add him to the list! What kind of show is it? It would involve 5 seasons of catching up so hopefully I like it haha
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  102. I'll add him to the list!
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  103. Haha thanks Zeger. It's hard NOT to have a smaller mouth than Charlie! Appreciate the comment and I'm glad you're enjoying the videos :-)
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  104. This is a great idea!
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  105. Binyamin Tsadik I like this idea! We'll need to figure out a format that works
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  106. Rough :-( The silver lining is, it does't sound like they're in for a very long relationship soooo you'll probably have your friend back soon!
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  107. Hi Kat! Any YouTubers in particular that you think would be interesting to breakdown?
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  108. Ha! I wish. Just a scar from birth, I've got one on my forehead and one on my chest. C'est la vie, it used to make me super insecure but now I don't notice it :-) Glad you liked the video! Appreciate you watching :-)
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  109. There's videos on Ellen D, Sophie Turner, Aubrey Plaza, Margot Robbie, Oprah, and many more. Just check out the main channel page and look for thumbnails you like :-) https://www.youtube.com/charismaoncommand/videos
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  110. Hey Alexander! You should check out Tim Ferriss and his book Four Hour Workweek, and also a book called Essentialism. I agree, different styles for different folks. I personally don't vibe with the grind grind grind work 16 hours a day style of doing things, it just isn't what I enjoy or how I do my best work. If you're similar to me (sounds like you are) I think you'll really dig those two books
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  111. Hey Maddy! Our last two breakdowns were of women :-) Also for what it's worth I do think that the advice on breathing and on vocal range are universal.
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  112. That's awesome Jimmy!
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  113. loveforeignaccents thank you! That comment hurt a bit, I love you for letting me know there are people who don’t feel that way :-)
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  114. Caylie and Tim thank you! That makes me really happy to read :-)
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  115. Thank you! Hopefully you will!
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  116. Totally agree! I thought I said that in the video, that it's fun because it's a cartoon we can enjoy while knowing there's no consequences. I definitely agree with you so hopefully that came through!
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  117. I was thinking of doing this! Do you have any particular scenes that you think highlight it? I haven't watched the show so I'm going to have to binge watch it.
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  118. I missed the Golden Globes so thanks for the reco! I'll definitely check it out. I need to see the Tommy Wiseau clip too, Charlie quotes that movie nonstop.
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  119. iNTEl One haha thanks!
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  120. Dude that's awesome! Super appreciate you commenting
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  121. Do you have any hobbies you enjoy? A sport, music, video game, etc.? I find that going to group things that center around an activity I enjoy is the best way to meet people I like and to enjoy myself around other people. For me that means improv classes (they always have other humans in them!), joining a basketball rec league (they always have teams made of people who didn't have a full team of friends to play with), meetups on meetup.com, etc. There are groups that meet to discuss books, groups that meet to play video games. Whatever you like, there's a group of people that also like it. If you live in a rural area without people, then finding an online community might help too. Hope that helps!
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  122. Hey Pierson! Super interesting question. I haven't put a ton of time into thinking about it but in general I think the idea is to create good emotions in other people. So I'd say aim for short texts that are fun/funny or are about fun plans. But also some people (Charlie for example) hate texting so if you were to send him a funny text with no purpose, he wouldn't respond. It really depends on the person you're sending to and the relationship (friend, potential romantic partner, etc.) . Sorry that isn't an all purpose answer but hopefully it's a little helpful!
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  123. If you want to go deep into the science, check out Dr Rhonda Patrick. You’ll love her :-)
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  124. Vincent Chapman hahaha. I was going for “with little effort” since touch and sharing praise are easier than other things like storytelling for several minutes straight
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  125. It's because I'm wearing a Ben skinsuit today ;-)
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  126. Hey Caleb! Absolutely! Start with small wins and give yourself permission to feel good about them. So do this morning routine in the morning, and then be stoked with yourself for doing it. Especially the 4 minutes of waking up the body to happy music. You could even just replace it with dancing like a maniac alone while blasting happy music. If you do that with reckless abandon (meaning, no self consciousness) that will definitely temporarily boost your mood. Long-term, it's about what you focus on. Start a gratitude habit. Wake up in the morning and write down three things you're grateful for. Can be as small as that you slept on a bed last night :-) And then I'd say making small steps towards a long-term goal that inspires you. Having a mission or a big dream is really helpful. Also you might enjoy this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vaCFe11vJ4c Hope that's helpful man!
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  127. Hey Carlos! I don't know a ton about addiction, Charlie has much better advice on this than I do. This video might help: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NGeU17Df8cw Also Russell Brand came out with a book recently on addiction, maybe it would be helpful? The best thing I've found for breaking habits like Reddit is to have a friend be my accountability partner, and then pay them a certain amount every time I used the site. Very quickly got me to stop.
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  128. Hey Kai! If you're interested in learning MMA, the #1 piece of advice I can give you is to find a fantastic gym that is focused on MMA. I practiced how my coaches told me to practice so whatever level of intensity they said. And they'd vary it based on how everyone looked that day and what we'd done recently. Amateur MMA is no joke though, almost everyone fighting is trying to go pro. I wish there was a fun playful version of it like rec league basketball, but I wouldn't recommend an actual amateur mma fight to anyone who can't be training 5x a week. That said, jiu jitsu is amazing as well and has a calmer competition scene, and just training MMA without ever competing is incredibly rewarding as well. Hope that helps!
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  129. Thanks DBZ Macky :-)
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  130. No clue! Charlie's filling one out for me right now because of your question :-)
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  131. We've got one on Pewdiepie :-)
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  132. +Mikael Wendt That's awesome! Good for you man :-)
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  133. Yelu C happy to make it! Glad you enjoyed it :-)
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  134. Great catch Angelo! Wish I'd seen it before we published this haha. I'm going to check that out.
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  135. Great feedback Rick! Appreciate the compliment and appreciate the suggestion. I agree. I just couldn't figure out how to cut this video down without losing something I felt was important. That said, on the whole I will definitely keep that in mind and consider choosing smaller chunked topics.
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  136. Working on it!
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  137. Check out the video on Ted Lasso :-)
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  138. Thank you!
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  139. Ahhhh my bad! I meant average in terms of charisma. Scholastically I did very, very well. With people, it was much more of a mixed bag early on haha
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  140. Liam that is in the works! :-)
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  141. Haha I'd call it a tie ;-) I saw your other comment, really awesome to hear it's going well!
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  142. JuQmadrid I think it depends on the person. Often it’s a conscious effort to improve and then over time it becomes unthinking habit
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  143. 1000%! This is a video we have talked about making, it's just a matter of when.
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  144. Thanks Neil! Appreciate you commenting, reading the encouragement in the comments has made my day
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  145. Thanks!
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  146. My pleasure! Thanks for the kind and thoughtful comment :-)
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  147. Hey Mustapha! If the video does well then I can definitely do a second one. I have pages of unused clips and notes to pull from haha
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  148. OMGitsME thanks! I really appreciate you saying that :-)
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  149. Katie M my pleasure :-). I love the guessing game, not just because of the game itself - in general I think it changes the conversation to a more fun friendly vibe
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  150. Awesome question! Have you seen our video on How To Learn Anything 10x Faster? Charlie made it to try to help with this problem. It's something we all face when learning a new skill, especially a nuanced one that involves other people
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  151. Thanks Abby!
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  152. Orcun Ilker that’s awesome!
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  153. Hey Sudain I think you got it! I think in general Pre-suasion is a great place to start. He has a lot of interesting anecdotes and studies that highlight how to prime people. I think you'll like it :-)
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  154. I definitely have this on my list of video ideas! I haven't started brainstorming it yet but the first few things that come to my head are Exercise (can be lifting, basketball, surfing, whatever you like). I believe that stress gets stuck in the body and a physical activity can help release it. Meditate Spend time with people who make you laugh or doing activities that make you laugh (improv, comedy shows, etc.) And definitely keep your eye out for a video that goes deeper on this! I want to make it :-)
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  155. Just ordered a new mic stand and pop filter. Appreciate the feedback, thanks for watching!
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  156. Hey Luis! That's awesome and means you're probably quite confident :-) Not everyone is, which is why it's exactly as you say, you aren't self conscious about it so it doesn't bother you. There are exceptions to this for sure, but for someone still figuring out where the line is, I think it's a good guideline to avoid anything that is both unchangeable and important to them. But exceptions will apply :-)
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  157. Hey Al! That's what I used to do before starting Charisma On Command, I worked at a private equity firm that majority invested in businesses and then operated them for 3-7 years. Some super smart guys worked at that firm, good mentors for success.
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  158. Agreed!
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  159. Appreciate it man! I'm surprised that isn't coming across in the video but I guess this fight has people heated haha
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  160. Haha because of the blinking? I think it's the three filming lights blasting me in the face when I record haha. I honestly don't know how Charlie deals with them so non-chalantly 🤷‍♂️
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  161. Lovely Mishra my pleasure! Thanks for watching :-)
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  162. Hahaha that's definitely not an inaccurate description for some of his clips
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  163. I'll check it out!
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  164. Hey Matthew! It's tough because the show isn't running currently so I'm not sure it would have the same widespread appeal as a GoT or Walking Dead video, but I'll look at the Google trends for it :-)
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  165. Maggie M thank you :-)
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  166. Thanks! Glad you liked it :-) I actually don't know, my sleep schedule is 3am-11am most days 🤷‍♂️
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  167. Hahaha Separate beds. It's clearly the only sane solution 😁
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  168. I wish I had a good one! My morning's are way more ritualized, my evenings are honestly all over the place.
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  169. Hey Jana! I generally don't eat breakfast because I follow intermittent fasting. That said, if you do like breakfast, I would just toss it in after meditation :-)
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  170. Hey Dewayne! I did this one (I said so at the end, I didn't want to kill time in the beginning and lose people's attentions with an announcement). Charlie and I are trying to do a video each so we can 2x the content for you guys :-) His next breakdown comes out Monday morning!
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  171. MajorasMaskMailman this made my day :-)
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  172. That's awesome!
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  173. Glad you liked it!
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  174. Hey azn0180! So this video is very purposefully about how Conor CAN win but not that he necessarily will. Before watching his interviews for this breakdown I thought he had zero chance but now I think if anyone can pull off the upset it's Conor. That said, politics is way easier to call for us because it's like 90% charisma. As many commenters have said, boxing definitely has a huge physical and skill component. So it's not Trump levels of certainty.
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  175. Yep! Just once, for King Of The Cage. That was enough for me haha. It's tough to compete in MMA if it isn't the number one priority in your life. If you aren't competing it's way more manageable as as hobby :-)
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  176. David M. Spence thanks David! I’m really glad you’re enjoying the videos :-)
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  177. Hey Callum! So honestly I would love for the channel to have a Harvey Specter video. Charlie and I just don't watch the show, and it would be a pretty serious time investment to watch the entire thing, then re-watch it again and again. For now that breakdown hasn't seemed like the best use of time since we're bootstrapped over here and trying to do a lot in terms of improving Charisma University and the business part of CoC. But I'll see if I can convince Charlie to do it ;-)
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  178. +toni g you might like this article www.wallstreetoasis.com/blog/how-to-get-a-job-over-equally-qualified-or-even-more-qualified-applicants
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  179. +toni g I wouldn't mention it. Just as likely to hurt you as to help you. Better to just go off your merits and the current version of yourself. In terms of technical questions in interviews, this is my favorite guide: http://www.ibankingfaq.com/ Hope that helps!
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  180. Yep, we're actually about to release a ton of content related to charisma and business.  If you haven't already, hop over to www.charismaoncommand.com and sign up for our emails, that's where they'll all get sent out (some will be public on YouTube, but not all)
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  181. +TM Nóbrega I'm honestly not sure I could do the topic justice in a 6 minute video without it being super basic / surface level. We've got a little $3 Kindle book on Amazon I could link you to if you're interested.
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  182. +SelphMade sure thing! This should give you the slides: https://s3.amazonaws.com/charismaoncommand/Wharton_Nov+2015.pptx
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  183. My pleasure! Happy to be here :-) I know the feeling, I had a roommate who did it constantly when we first moved in together. Hopefully this video helps the situation.
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  184. I don't know! I don't follow him haha. But I'll check out his videos for sure, I enjoyed making the one on Liza Koshy so it'd probably be fun to make one on David too. Any videos in particular you'd recommend if I haven't seen any of his before?
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  185. Hey JeagerBomb, unfortunately being under 18 does complicate things because you don't have legal "independence" yet. That's a bummer and I'm sure super frustrating. I think the best thing you can do is go in with Facts & Feelings, try to avoid triggering any defensiveness, and try to come to a mutual understanding where if nothing else, you and your father could accurately explain the other person's feelings on the issue. Good luck!
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  186. Dr. Rhonda Patrick agrees with you, I just do this schedule because it's much easier for me to skip breakfast than to skip food late in the day, and it's what John Romaniello recommends. But for sure skipping dinner is just as good.
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  187. Great question I don't know the answer to, I would love to know if anyone has studies this!
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  188. cartmann227 haha thanks! I wish it had a cool story but it’s been there since I was born
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  189. Thanks arif ahmed !
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  190. CircuitsMadeEasy hahaha perfect
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  191. Hey Mohammed! We did, I had the calls already, super super fun. Sorry you didn't get chosen - it wasn't my fault, blame gleam.io! ;-) I may do something similar in the future so keep your eyes out for that and maybe we'll try again!
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  192. Great question! I think that degrees are overrated. I think if you want to be a good coach you need two things: expertise and the ability to coach. The expertise is a tough one, in our case that was hundreds of hours 1.) studying the topic from books and educational videos, 2.) breaking down and modeling the people we thought were the best at it, and 3.) personal experimentation and experience. In terms of learning to coach, the two best resource I found were from Tony Robbins. One was his audio series 7 Steps To Create Lasting Change and the other was his RMT 100 hour program with Cloe Madanes. Those two taught me a LOT. Also if you are interested in coaching and already have the skillset, Prosperous Coach is the best book I ever read on how to become a professional. Hope that helps! Also also - thanks for the love on the videos! They're super time consuming to make so I'm glad they're interesting and helpful :-)
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  193. Leading Muscle I agree :-). Hormone optimization seemed like a part of both worlds, same with posture. But don’t worry, I don’t see us becoming a workout channel :-)
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  194. Thank you!
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  195. Thanks VenomTheCat that's awesome that you're liking them :-)
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  196. Hey Sleepy Heals! I gave a little intro at the end :-) It's awesome that so many people want to know more about my story. I didn't want to bore people who wanted to go straight into the topic of Tough Conversations. I'll have to figure out how to introduce myself more than we have.
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  197. I totally agree! Charlie and I would get dominated by Floyd in a boxing match 100/100 times. This is definitely not like the Trump bet where we put $2k on it, because politics ARE based 100% on charisma (maybe 90% charisma, 10% policy) My point was that no MMA fighter should have ANY chance against Floyd in a boxing match but fighting is part mental part physical, and Conor's mental game is insanely tight. Two weeks ago I would have said he had no in hell of winning this, but in the process of making this video I started to believe Conor can win just because he's been so successful at having an "impossible" vision (first man to KO Jose, first two weight champ, making this fight even happen in the first place) and achieving it.
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  198. Jodaku that’s awesome, I’m glad you enjoyed it :-)
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  199. Hey Erfan! He's still making videos, he actually just released the James Bond one from Monday :-)
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  200. YUhave2Bawsome 30 :-)
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  201. Hey Rango! I'm Ben, I co-founded Charisma On Command with Charlie. If you skip to the end of the video you can catch a bit of my story :-)
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  202. Do you have specific suggestions? We’ve done a several people I wouldn’t personally consider attractive but I’m not going to name them haha
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  203. How was the Liza Koshy video? I used a new pop filter on that one :-)
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  204. Oh you should 100% check out our other videos at https://www.youtube.com/charismaoncommand/videos you're going to love! Several Trump videos and a Barack Obama breakdown as well :-)
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  205. We appreciate it!
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  206. Wow thanks Vitaly! Super appreciate this comment!
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  207. Nice! I love reading that
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  208. Haha it's not new but you are not at fault for missing it. I normally just wear long sleeves
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  209. Working on it! Hopefully it'll be released in August :-)
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  210. Thanks Allison! Me too :-)
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  211. Hi Yumi! Yes, the advice in this video is going to make sure your body provides the optimum level of testosterone, rather than being held down by deficiencies. But it won't make you suddenly grow chest hair or have a deep voice. The only thing that's different is I believe the fasting window for women may be 12-14 hours instead of 16, but I'm not positive. I should have mentioned that in the video, sorry about that. Dr. Rhonda Patrick is a woman and she is a big fan of IF :-)
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  212. Genuine question, did you watch the video? And if so, do you still feel this comment holds as a critique after having watched it? Just asking because the advice isn’t based on the fictional character so much as it uses Sherlock as inspiration and some visualization
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  213. Hey Ayrton! I've never done no fap so I can't make an honest video about it, I'd just be parroting other people. Glad it's been giving you what you wanted from it :-) I think 2 hours is waaaay more time than you need in the gym. If you spend 1 hour in the gym 4x a week, that's fantastic. That's enough to bulk or to cut, as long as you spend that time well. I workout every day because I enjoy it, but those workouts range from 20-60 minutes. Unless it's surfing, then I just go until I can't paddle any more because I love it haha
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  214. Thanks Lee!
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  215. Hahaha that's amazing. I went surfing all last weekend and wear sunglasses in the water. I hadn't even noticed until you said something! I'll have to even that out hahaha
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  216. JangJangBoomBoom that’s really bizarre. Can you try again today? If not, email me at Ben @charismaoncommand and I’ll see what’s going on
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  217. For dating I can really only give advice from the perspective of a straight man, at least until we get other people in as research assistants or writing the videos. But I'd say 95% of our videos work for all genders, it's probably one every 15-20 videos that's specific to dating
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  218. Hey Eli! So I'm definitely not saying everyone should bet the house on him like we did with Trump. Trump v. Hillary was a political rivalry, so it was 90% based on charisma. Much easier to predict based on psychology. That said, I do think people are giving Conor way less credit than he's earned. We should never count Conor out of a fight, because he consistently pulls of what others consider impossible (KO'ing Aldo, two weight champ, even making this fight happen).
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  219. Suzanne Miller I feel your pain! I promise with time it gets easier. No need to force it, just do as much as you can :-)
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  220. Dang Juan! Way to make my day man :-) Seriously appreciate the comment and I'm really really happy to hear it's had a positive impact on your life
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  221. Thanks Carnell!
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  222. Second! ;-)
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  223. Thank you!
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  224. Thanks Mytitoune! Comments like this make my day :-)
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  225. Hahaha that's fair. I was aiming to express that it's lower effort habits than having to be charismatic by telling amazing 5 minute stories. Chris conveys a lot of confidence and charm without needing to be center of attention for a super long period of time :-)
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  226. Hey Jay! Have you seen my video on how to not get interrupted in groups? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ikAfrKf5A8I My delivery sucks since it's my first video, but the content might help haha
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  227. Thanks Kitty! Charlie and I are each working on a breakdown right now, so there should be 1 or 2 coming soon :-)
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  228. Himanshu Ranjan this makes my day :-)
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  229. Haha thanks Skilanator!
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  230. Thanks Landon!
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  231. That's a bummer! Reach out to Audible support, they should be able to take care of you :-)
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  232. Thanks Filip!
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  233. Thank you Bissan! That's awesome :-)
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  234. Thanks Brian that's awesome!
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  235. Bobby Ranger great question. It really is in making it a request and not a demand. No one has to do anything for you. Simultaneously, you don’t have to stay with anyone (friend or dating) who doesn’t give you what you feel you need. I feel like a “demand” is an attempt to force. Asking is just asking, and they can say no. And even if you leave them, it won’t be out of anger. Just out of a desire for something that isn’t them. Hope that helps!
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  236. Thanks Cebby!
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  237. I promise we aren't getting paid to do them :-) I wish we were!
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  238. My pleasure!
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  239. Hey Sophie! Try setting your alarm on it's loudest setting, and then putting it 20 steps from your bed. For example, I leave my bedroom door open while I sleep and leave my phone/alarm in the kitchen. By the time I get to it I've moved so much that it's hard not to be at least a little awake :-)
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  240. Hey Munyaradzi! So it’s a long answer, we answer it in the first several emails of our email list. But the short answer is to work in other details, like Why as well as just What, so people learn more about you and have more material to ping back on :-)
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  241. Anthony thank you so much man! This made my day :-)
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  242. Sophie thank you SO much for this comment. That was a mistake our team made, and your comment allowed me to catch it and have them fix it
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  243. ricotheweddingsinger my pleasure, glad you liked it :-)
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  244. Glad to hear it Marcelo!
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  245. Thanks for watching our videos :-)
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  246. Hey James!
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  247. Thanks! Alex was a great interviewer, I really enjoyed that one.
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  248. Hey MS! Do you mean like vlog style content of Charlie and I throughout the day?
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  249. Big mistake by our team, thank you for pointing it out, we've gone back in and fixed it now
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  250. Thanks very much Danielle I'm glad you find them so helpful!
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  251. Caboose I’ve been singing this for days since making this video haha. I had finally stopped and your comment has me right back to it ;-)
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  252. Thanks Van!
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  253. This is a great idea :-). We mention him briefly in our Bill Gates video but I'll keep an eye out for if he pops up in the news again so we can do one
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  254. That's awesome Autumn!
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  255. Awesome! I aimed for something that fans and people who had never heard of Gary could both enjoy and learn from so that's dope to read
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  256. Matthehuman Landmark Forum :-)
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  257. Totally fair opinion :-)
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  258. I think his loss to Nate is the one time he didn't ground himself in reality. He spoke of knocking him out in the first round. When his power shots didn't knock Nate out, it went against everything he had visualized. Compare that to his rematch, where he talks about seeing the fight as a dog fight and a 5 round war. I think he grounded himself back in reality, which is why he was able to pull off the (super close) victory.
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  259. Do stuff that you enjoy or that's centered around what you enjoy, and also wear what you like on your sleeve and bring it up in conversation. For example, I love to surf. I'm in California and whenever anyone brings up living near a good surf beach I will ask "Oh, do you surf?!" I've made a few friends that way. Also going to meetups or events centered around what you like (whether it's yoga, meditation, sports, video games, reading certain books, etc.). If that doesn't exist, start one. We co-founded the New York Personal Development Meetup with a friend and ended up with 100+ people attending who shared our interests. You can also join clubs or teams. Shared interests are a great way to connect, and if you follow that plan then your worst case scenario is you're doing something you enjoy and meeting people who also enjoy it. Hope that helps!
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  260. Thanks Rishini!
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  261. Absolutely will do! This one is a matter of "when" not "if" :-)
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  262. Thanks Mikkel! I wish I could say I've never been "on the flipside" but I have - I think we all have. I'm glad you enjoyed it!
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  263. Haha thanks Kathy! Glad you liked it :-) On the shirt, I actually just got it off Amazon: “MODCHOK Men's Casual Long Sleeve”
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  264. Thanks Red Rocket Resells!
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  265. Thanks so much! I'll definitely keep creating :-) Also if you have any video ideas you'd like to see, feel free to toss them into the comments. I try to let upvoted topic requests guide my thinking on what to create. Cheers!
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  266. Thanks Aleksandar! I felt the same way at parts. My first breakdown, the others will be faster ;-)
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  267. Did you beat me?? That's impressive
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  268. Great point, I'm sure they do!
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  269. I totally agree! That's what I was trying to say in the video. Don't do it as rudely as Rick, for sure that's a recipe for disaster. I was just highlighting that there are positive traits wrapped in with his horrible ones, and that we can cherry pick them
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  270. Thanks Eduardo! Appreciate you saying so :-)
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  271. That's awesome!
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  272. Hey Younes! Someone asked something similar below, here's what I wrote to them. That said, depression can be a serious issue and you might want to talk to a professional in person about it as well. Start with small wins and give yourself permission to feel good about them. So do this morning routine in the morning, and then be stoked with yourself for doing it. Especially the 4 minutes of waking up the body to happy music. You could even just replace it with dancing like a maniac alone while blasting happy music. If you do that with reckless abandon (meaning, no self consciousness) that will definitely temporarily boost your mood. Long-term, it's about what you focus on. Start a gratitude habit. Wake up in the morning and write down three things you're grateful for. Can be as small as that you slept on a bed last night :-) And then I'd say making small steps towards a long-term goal that inspires you. Having a mission or a big dream is really helpful. Also you might enjoy this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vaCFe11vJ4c And this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uMbUa0nfzk8 Hope that's helpful!
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  273. Grimmlocked appreciate you watching! That’s awesome
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  274. Nico Pare thanks Nico! Full credit to our video editor André for those :-)
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  275. Definitely! He talks about visualization at length in a lot of his interviews. He also mentions having read about it. I think Conor is a huge, huge believer in the power of visualization and "the law of attraction"
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  276. He's working on it right now actually :-)
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  277. Thanks a ton that's awesome to read!
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  278. Thanks Giulio!
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  279. Yitz Goldberg agreed. Watching him to make the video made me like him even more haha
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  280. Soooo much more! I'm also incredibly protective of it now too. You really learn to appreciate something when you are forced to go without it.
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  281. Thanks Anna! Me too, these are way more work than I realized haha. I hope he comes back at some point but in the meantime I think he's earned a break so I'll keep trucking
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  282. Monday 7am PST ;-)
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  283. Thanks Sergio! That's awesome that you feel that way, really appreciate the comment :-)
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  284. Haha thanks DeJake!
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  285. Carolina Borges haha I’ll take that as a compliment :-)
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  286. lol thanks Matt :-)
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  287. Hey James! I feel you man. Start small, work on one new habit at a time. My friend James Clear has a great blog on this if you want to learn more on the subject :-)
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  288. They sound super interesting! I'll check them out :-)
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  289. Charlie will be back Monday morning!
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  290. Thanks Brooklynlady! I used to beat myself up for any/all failures and imperfections, so really wanted to include that part of the video to help people realize that part of having a morning routine is sometimes not doing it 😂 I've never done tai-chi but my mom does it and absolutely loves it. And it has been incredibly helpful for her overcoming some health stuff, so it's great in my book.
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  291. It looks fantastic! This breakdown got me excited for it :-)
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  292. Awesome!
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  293. iggy5895 sleep nude, I’ve never heard that one! Interesting, I’ll give it a google
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  294. Haha you got it Dorotea!
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  295. Haha thank you Mary! Charlie did his when we hit 1 million subscribers, maybe I'll do mine when we hit 2m :-)
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  296. Thanks Tiago! Integrating as a new speaker on a channel where subscribers are used to only Charlie has been an interesting experience. I appreciate your comment :-)
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  297. Great questions! I'll talk to Charlie. I don't want to join the growing list of YouTube channels that are just exploiting the situation for views, but I think these are interesting topics you've brought up that would be worth a video
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  298. I'll keep that in mind for next time!
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  299. This is awesome
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  300. Haha I took a surf trip to San Diego for the week before this video and I wear sunglasses when I surf. Didn't notice until the comments.
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  301. Thanks Franco glad you liked it!
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  302. Sorry to make you sad :-( Charlie and I felt like we were rushing to meet the schedule and needed to build out a team in order to keep it up. So we stepped back to alternating on Mondays while we hire an editor, researcher, etc. to try to take some of the process off our plates Appreciate that you enjoy our videos!
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  303. Haha I'm glad! Also thanks for your comments. Def made me smile
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  304. Hi Biel! Habit Bull tracks your daily habits, and Headspace is my favorite meditation app. I've heard good things about Calm as well but never used it personally. Hope that's helpful!
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  305. Hi back at you!
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  306. Haha thank you Ada! And thanks for subscribing, love reading that you're enjoying the channel :-)
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  307. Thank you! As long as people keep liking it and getting value from it, we'll keep making videos :-)
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  308. Hey Tochukwu!
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  309. Haha I love that I get this question. I don't have a crazy secret, I had a dentist whiten them ~2 years ago and now I just avoid things that stain them (and I bought a Koffie straw to drink my coffee and wine through). Also, thanks! Haha
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  310. Great question! I get my tea from a place that specializes in tea BUT I order my matcha from Amazon. So maybe Amazon has what you need?
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  311. Patrick Gracia lol thanks Patrick :-)
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  312. Nice!
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  313. My100010001000 great question! So that will be determined by how much you eat during your eating window. If you get the same amount of calories in during those 8 hours, you won’t lose weight :)
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  314. Actually it's right after Aang stands up to the big creature and then stands up to Toph. She says "you just stood your ground against a Saber-tooth moose lion, and more impressive you stood up to me. You can do this, you're ready!" or something to that affect. The wording isn't exact, but it's the scene where she encourages him and says she believes in him
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  315. Thanks! I’m glad you liked it :-)
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  316. Happy birthday Ashish!
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  317. Macerzov it's shockingly common. I for sure had it bad haha
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  318. DeJake thanks! That’s awesome to read
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  319. That's fantastic! Thank you for letting me know :-)
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  320. Ha! I'm not mad at this :-)
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  321. $0! I bought one today, so all future videos will be pop filtered
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  322. Suits
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  323. Haha thanks Fish Freak!
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  324. Thanks Roberto!
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  325. Thank you so much! I will keep it up for sure :-)
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  326. Hey Sarah! Yeah, I think the microphone might have been too far away. I'll make sure it's louder next time.
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  327. D Francis thanks! That’s really cool to read :-)
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  328. You'll have him every Monday ;-)
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  329. Thanks! Charlie's done two videos that aren't exactly that but I think you'd like them: A breakdown of the toast masters national champion: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k8GvTgWtR7o And "How To Give a Killer Presentation - With No Notes" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gaoxXFju6uo
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  330. Hi Alex! It's me, Ben. Charlie and I started Charisma On Command together 4 years ago, I've been doing other stuff in the business but recently started making YouTube videos as well so that we can get out more content to you guys :-)
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  331. I'd imagine if they're your friends then there must be something about them you occasionally admire, or a kind thought you have about them at times (whether they're thoughtful, funny, etc.). If so, just share that thought whenever you recognize that you've had it. If not, then you can just get them the gift of your full focus and eye contact when in conversation. Either way I hope I made it clear in the intro, but you don't have to do all 6 in order to be charming. So if you don't like #6, you can pick from the others that hopefully resonated more with you :-)
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  332.  @MSordernature  I recognized your name from the podcast comments, that's why I wanted to respond :-) Thanks for being part of the Patreon!
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  333. It's not just you! I'll set it up to be louder in the next one.
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  334. Thanks Obay Ibrahim!
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  335. Hey Pedro! Honestly man I took a ton of Portuguese lessons and got up to being conversational, but watching native speakers speak to each other felt like being in a whirlwind of words haha. I don't think I'd be able to do a breakdown in another language at this point unless it was on non-verbals like body language. My favorite Brazilian celebrity is definitely travel photographer Raul Aragão :-)
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  336. Thanks Kai!
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  337. Not at all! One of the most charismatic people I have ever met was "guilty" of laughing at his own jokes allll the time. And he was one of the most likeable people I've ever seen :-)
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  338. We most certainly will! Keep your eyes peeled for that sometime this month or next :-)
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  339. +toni g okay that's not my take on it but it's your call, you should do whatever you think is right :-)
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  340. Hey Chaz, appreciate the "huge" comment my man!  Especially from someone who trains public speakers.  Glad you liked the vid :-) I totally agree that a MASSIVE part of storytelling is speaking in first person AND speaking in present tense.  That way anyone listening can relive the emotions of your story as you felt them.  Throwing in some "you" is simply a little trick to re-engage any wandering minds and really ensure you capture the listener. The event was Michael Bernoff's Human Interaction Technology training.  It was quite good, and sounds like it'd be right up your alley. 
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  341. Absolutely, I think that's one that a lot of people will benefit from
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  342. Loved this one bud! Suggestion for your next one: this video here - where a professional athlete shows what it looks like to have true confidence and conviction in yourself https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Af2OARIYc8E Most people would be waaaay less honest and transparent than Brendan Schaub. But he just owns it, and it makes you like him more. Then again, I could just be biased because I love the guy ;-)
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  343. +Charisma on Command the very beginning. Brendan just got a pretty brutal knockout loss, and then Joe Rogan pretty much blasted him to his face on his podcast. This is his reaction when on his own podcast, and it's very low ego, low BS, and emotionally open / vulnerable. Made me like him more because of how he reacted
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  344. This is a great point! I think the message is "don't take advice on how to get fit from someone who isn't fit, and don't take advice on how to get rich from someone who's only source of money is to teach how to get rich". But to learn from someone else's failures is 100% on point. I think it's more like, don't let someone who isn't successful claim to teach you from their success experience.
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  345. +airlopez21 Absolutely. Read The Four Hour Workweek for an introduction into automation. For outsourcing, check out Fiverr for cheap jobs and Upwork for jobs that require more skill. Those resources should get you started in the right direction :-) Good luck!
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  346. The hardest part of a charisma breakdown is finding the source material. Send over an email with a bunch of videos showing him in action, and maybe we can make it happen. At the cost of millions and millions of lives and atrocities, he certainly was very charismatic.
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  347. Minh Đoàn Công thank you!
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  348. Haha thanks DarK
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  349. Mc Bill thank you! Appreciate you saying so every time haha :-)
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  350. Totally. This isn't meant to say Conor will 100% beat Floyd. I just think Conor has a very special mind for fighting and for creating almost superhuman self belief, and that he has more of a chance than people are giving him. Floyd is the favorite for a reason, I don't disagree with that :-)
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  351. Not at all! In the beginning I mentioned, this is helpful to both men and women. If you are a woman this isn't going to suddenly give you chest hair and a deep voice. It's about getting your body to function optimally. If a woman has a nutrient deficiency or is sleep deprived or is very stressed, her body won't produce as much testosterone as her female body should. This is definitely not advice for men alone. The only thing that might be different is the # of fasted hours (I believe for women it's meant to be 14? But Dr. Rhonda Patrick is your best guide there).
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  352. If you're interested in that subject, I highly recommend the book Anti-Cancer. That Sugar Film was also interesting.
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  353. Great point
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  354. David Bass thanks man!
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  355. MrTrykster thanks man!
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  356. Nope but I guess I look it if you're asking haha
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  357. One of my favorite books of all time :-)
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  358. My bad!
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  359. That's fantastic! Glad you think so :-)
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  360. Thanks!
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  361. Dude you're 15, you have PLENTY of time to figure it out. Don't stress, enjoy life, try to learn cool stuff that interests you (whether that's coding apps or painting or how to shoot a jump hook). We didn't start Charisma On Command until we were in our mid 20's. If you're 15 and even THINKING about this stuff, then you're ahead of the game haha
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  362. My pleasure Abhishek, glad you enjoyed it :-)
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  363. Nice! Glad you think so :-)
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  364. We did! I think it gets published tomorrow :-)
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  365. loveforeignaccents thanks! Thought it would be a more personal thank you than just staring at an end screen haha :-)
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  366. Haha fair enough! Good for you man, that's an early wake up. Jumping rope by the moonlight ;-)
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  367. Noted :-)
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  368. Thanks Patrick!
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  369. Ivan Yamil Lopez great idea
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  370. Anna Birch thanks Anna! I tried to structure it so it would be easy to watch and remember
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  371. BoliTePicka the wall angels will help :-) It forces you to put your head in the right position against the wall
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  372. I have heard of nofap but don’t know anything about the science behind it so I can’t comment 🤷‍♂️
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  373. Thanks Axel!
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  374. TheApril1610 only since their diets turned to garbage haha. You’re 100% right, the supplements aren’t magic, they just fill in nutrient deficiencies. If you have a diet that’s full of tons of different vegetables and some good fruits and get all the right nutrients and minerals from food, you don’t need any supplements. Unfortunately the reality is that that isn’t the average day for most people
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  375. kelsang chopag thanks!
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  376. Thanks!
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  377. My pleasure Ella, I'm happy it was helpful!
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  378. Antony J,P thank you :-)
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  379. Haha we normally don't but I decided to today :-) What do you mean by "tough time"? If you give me a specific situation, I'll brainstorm on it and see if there's a video there!
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  380. vl8962 sure! Any suggestions?
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  381. MajorasMaskMailman lol I wish it was purposeful :-)
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  382. Sudain my pleasure!
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  383.  @jaychaudhary2867  Charisma On Command
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  384. Ha! I wonder if there's been a study on climate and demeanor. That would be fascinating
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  385. Blood_Hound hahaha I wish! Well played :-)
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  386. john p that’s a completely fair point. A lot of what we teach is universal but I’m very open to being told that some of it only works in certain societies
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  387. Thanks Andrei! I'm psyched you feel that way!
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  388. Hey Agatha! That's awesome that it resonated :-) Looks like a fantastic morning routine, I hope you have fun playing around with it! If you find it's hard to stick to, cut it down so that it's easier to do. Vishen's meditation is awesome but it's 20 minutes. If that's daunting, just start with 5 minutes of sitting in silence and bringing your focus to your breath. No need to jump to 20 minutes right away.
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  389. Hi Bushido Brown! From what I've read there is a difference in how your body digests it, and the quantity is different in meats vs. processed foods. I personally don't eat mammals unless sourced from certain farms, but in general from a purely testosterone optimizing standpoint, I believe the main culprit in depressing your body's functions are the man made trans fats. That's my impression from what I've read at least. Hope that's helpful!
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  390. Hey Jesse! The main thing is to have A morning routine that works for you. If coffee and a 10 minute video get you feeling good and primed for a good day, then it's perfect :-)
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  391. Thanks ZombieDragons! And I'm actually trying to figure out what my next breakdown will be sometime today! It'll release in two weeks :-)
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  392. Davewhch :-(
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  393. I actually credit JCS at the end of the video, ironically using very similar language to your comment’s first sentence :-)
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  394. Thanks Ema! I'm happy you liked it. I'm aiming to do one every Thursday :-)
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  395. Thanks April Thomas ! Glad I read the full comment :-)
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  396. 😂
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  397. Thank you! Not gonna lie, I was really happy with this one :-)
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  398. Lucas da Matta thanks man!
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  399. Thank you!
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  400. Thanks Buffy!
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  401. I didn't even realize there WAS a premium version. I just use the free app. I'm glad you commented because my goal was to give a free tool, so appreciate you warning people.
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  402. GoldenBoy I'm so glad it was helpful :-) It's our pleasure
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  403. Horus7 these are great suggestions! You should help us with our content calendar haha 😁
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  404. Thanks Anna!
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  405. P thanks glad you liked it! And yes, Terry Crews is a fantastic idea :-)
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  406. Hey Tyler! People seem to want this video so I will definitely make it!
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  407. acer.b a totally valid alternative. I find it harder to do but whatever IF schedule works is great
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  408. Thank you :-)
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  409. Thanks Chai! Comments like this are why I enjoy making them :-)
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  410. Thanks Mist Holley :-)
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  411. Sorry to hear that you weren't a fan of the vid. Charlie just did a James Bond breakdown this Monday that you might like :-)
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  412. Անթերի Համակարգիչ thanks! My pleasure
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  413. My pleasure! And as someone who doesn't go to sleep before midnight...no I cannot haha
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  414. Sorry to say that that is there to stay! It's been there since the day I was born.
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  415. Working on it!
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  416. My pleasure, glad you liked it!
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  417. Haha I’m not positive but I’m pretty sure it’s Express
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  418. Thanks Saul!
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  419. Haha thanks Adam! So are you ;-)
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  420. Thanks Ryan!
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  421. TheyCalledMeT hahaha great comment. Honestly for me it did, but I can totally imagine a world where a different type of business or a different personality type would find it very stressful.
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  422. Haha thanks! Mizzen & Main. I like them because they're great for travel.
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  423. Nice!
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  424. Thanks Rochester Oliveira!
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  425. Hey Agnel! He just did Monday's video on conversation starters and is working on something for James Bond for next week :-)
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  426. FunkyMan3333 appreciate you watching! I did get the tests done at the same time each day. I was working with an MD; like any good doctor would he made sure I did that. I️ didn’t test each variable one at a time, what I did was did these 5 things and saw results. My MD even asked me what I had done. So I do think some combination of these things was helpful to me and will help others
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  427. Great point
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  428. Thanks Kristel! It's a pleasure, I love running this company. Glad the videos are helpful!
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  429. Thanks so much! Glad you enjoyed it :-)
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  430. Carlos Peredo-Muniz thank you!
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  431. Kleo3392 haha thanks! It’s a scar. Life has left a few on me
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  432. People seem to want it so I will definitely make it!
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  433. Галина Холмецкая I’m glad you liked it :-)
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  434. Thanks Bruno!
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  435. Noted :-)
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  436. Thanks for the feedback. We can't change it now but I'll keep that in mind for next time. Does the time stamp list in the description help?
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  437. Still me!
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  438. Thanks!
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  439. Thanks! Glad you liked it :-)
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  440. Thanks Tom Maloney appreciate the comment!
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  441. Haha thanks Hendrik!
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  442. Thanks Vale Tudo!
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  443. Hey Oliver! That's actually what we created Charisma University for. To be that 6 week program with daily actions. Here's a link if you want to learn more: https://www.charismaoncommand.com/c-university Great question by the way! So many people are content to just watch videos without implementing them. I appreciate that you're focused on improving yourself :-) I think you're dead-on. The key is making it habit so that you don't have to use brainpower on it and can be present.
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  444. That's really awesome that you feel that way, thank you for saying so :-)
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  445. Thanks Raphael!
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  446. Maybe he's my long lost brother! ;)
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  447. Thanks RedZMatrix!
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  448. That's awesome Meg! And I know exactly how you feel, a lot of the examples are pulled directly from my life or Charlie's life, so apparently we've all faced similar conversations :-)
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  449. Interesting! What is Imago Therapy? I have not heard of it but I'll give it a Google. I'm curious, what would your 1-3 sentences on it be?
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  450. Thanks Andre!
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  451. Hey staaproved! I'll look it up on Google trends and see if people are looking for videos on it :-)
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  452. Haha thanks man glad you liked it. Music is an interesting idea I'd honestly never thought of. I'll think on it!
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  453. Hey CutieLaPech, I'm great! Thanks for watching :-)
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  454. Siddharth Borkataky haha no offense taken ;-) And super interesting idea! I think his wrestling persona is a bit special because he’s playing a part and doing things that we wouldn’t necessarily want to do in our day to day lives. But it would be fascinating to look at. I’ll add it to the breakdown idea list :-)
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  455. Rawr x3 nuzzles how are you pounces on you first, great name haha If you aren’t trying to lose weight, then same quantity of food just in a tighter window of time :-)
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  456. Rawr x3 nuzzles how are you pounces on you maybe the best solution for you would be to move your eating window forward to earlier than mine. It doesnt have to be 12-8pm, you can do whatever is the most convenient for you :-)
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  457. I almost had color of clothing in here as one of my points! There are some pretty interesting studies on the color red, but they were unsuccessfully replicated so I didn't trust the study. Still, some interesting stuff out there on the topic for sure
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  458. Tim Ferriss and Brene Brown
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  459. Thanks ScruffyTusks ! Glad you enjoyed it :-)
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  460. Thanks Norbert! Appreciate the comment :-)
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  461. mate53 there will be more topics around “nice” guys for sure! Just doing them one topic at a time :-)
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  462. DontFuckWitDreDay I had a piece of it tucked in and didn’t realize hahaha. Whoops!
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  463. Glad you think so! And you got it, that is definitely on the calendar for 2018 :-)
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  464. That's awesome!
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  465. Start small! Wake up, water + green tea, make your bed. Do that for a week or two. Then add in two minutes of jumping jacks. Do that for a week or two. Then add in two minutes of moving around to get your body loose. Two months from now it'll be effortless for you to hydrate, make your bed, and wake up your body. It's a great start :-)
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  466. Haha I thought people might like to see Gary V :-) . I actually probably have enough for a second one down the road too. So much there
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  467. Thanks Lokipower!
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  468. What's Giraffe Language?
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  469. Thanks Wasi Saleem !
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  470. Don't forget to ground your visualizations in reality Ted! ;-)
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  471. Hey Jesse! Check out Cialdini's book Pre-suasion. You'll love it.
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  472. Thanks ToSi_Dr!
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  473. Haha thanks Phoenix Rising!
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  474. Thanks Caleb!
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  475. I guess it’s Ragnarok with a philly accent haha
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  476. That’s Tristan Engeler awesome! This makes my day to read :-)
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  477. Erfan Taghvaei ha! I wish. That would be a better story :-)
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  478. That's awesome Allan! You're going to love it :-)
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  479. Michael Ares haha you are not alone there. I was kind of hoping this would help people with family, high school people they run into while home, etc. Hope it helps make things more fun!
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  480. Agreed! I'm surprised they do that because their founder lives in Colombia. Hopefully they expand internationally soon
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  481. Greg Champine our pleasure :-)
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  482. Thank you Safran Bin Kader!
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  483. Hi LiPOTO! We try to alternate between breakdowns and talking heads. Some people like one, some the other, most seem to like a mix. If you want some recent ones that are on specific topics, I've linked to them below. Hope you like them :-) 6 Ways To Massively Increase Productivity: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=daZJae_gi1w 5 Steps To Win Any Argument: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=smhta1x_OfA&t=371s 3 Easy Ways To Start A Conversation With Anyone: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cbyc7mscFlA
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  484. That's awesome Adam!
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  485. dismas28 phew! Glad I clicked read more :-)
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  486. itzrew thanks :-)
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  487. That's awesome Eugene!
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  488. Thanks Marijka!
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  489. Daravan Daro thanks! :-)
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  490. Thanks teamSC!
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  491. Nice!
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  492. Glad to hear it!
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  493. That's awesome! That's why we do it :-) What do you mean when you say what is the best way to meet new people? Like where should you meet them?
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  494. The Magic Potato great idea! Any actors or characters that come to mind that fit the bill?
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  495. SpearMinti if you do this 5x a week you'll notice a difference within a month for sure
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  496. Thanks Marco! I appreciate you saying that. It was a big decision but I've never regretted it :-)
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  497. The clips that play with volume or the b-roll that plays while I speak? Can you give me a time stamp? I’d love to know which moments you mean. Thanks!
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  498. TheSuperNats awesome thanks!
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  499. Thanks Marta! Happy to hear it :-)
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  500. Thanks Matthew!
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  501. Thanks Norman that's awesome!
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  502. Thanks!
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  503. Thanks Amir!
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  504. Haha thanks! I'll take this as a compliment :-)
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  505. Thanks Julia! Super appreciate you saying so :-)
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  506. Haha thanks Sugunesh :-)
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  507. Thanks Vy that's super nice of you to say! I'm glad you enjoyed it :-)
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  508. Check these ones out: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W_TSvENWQDc https://youtu.be/lIqSNhDTDUs
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  509. Thanks! :-)
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  510. What does this mean?
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  511. Leading Muscle thanks!
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  512. Renan Colombini thank you :-)
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  513. Ms.Gonzalez89 check out the videos on Ellen, Oprah, Liza, Margery, Sophie Turner, Emelia Clark, etc. If you go to the channel’s homepage, select videos, and then search for women in the thumbnails, you’ll find them :-)
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  514. Thanks Hova!
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  515. Thanks Tan Ozerk !
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  516. Hi Nikhil! I'm Ben. Glad you're liking the videos!
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  517. Jasmin Schmitz thanks for the feedback! I'll keep that in mind :-)
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  518. I'll work on that for the next video
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  519. He's still doing videos every Monday like usual :-). He just released the Dany/Jon Snow breakdown.
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  520. Thank you and my pleasure :-)
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  521. Gabriel Inspires that’s awesome! Glad you’re loving it :-)
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  522. Donghyun Kim that’s awesome!
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  523. Just purchased a new mic stand and pop filter. It'll be better in future videos :-)
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  524. We actually moved out to Los Angeles. YT capital of the world apparently haha
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  525. VytenisR1 thanks for the comment! I could be wrong, I'm not a doctor. My impression from researching it for myself was that (and I'm stealing this word for word) "Over time, this will develop into a constant forward head posture. Your neck vertebrae will start to creep out on an angle so that your ears are always in front of your shoulders. The muscles in the back of your neck will lengthen and weaken and their fascia will thicken, leading to soreness and knots. The muscles in the chest and front of the neck will shorten. You may start to develop neck pain, headaches, or tingling in your hands" I think tight traps can pull your head into poor posture but that strong mid-neck erector muscles lead to good posture. There are so many muscles in the neck (and even high front neck vs low front neck) that I'm sure various forms of bad posture can be created by having tightness+weakness imbalances. In my own experience it's weak/loose back of neck muscles that let my head go too far forward
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  526. Hawawa Büschbüsch thanks for the comment! I could be wrong, I'm not a doctor. My impression from researching it for myself was that (and I'm stealing this word for word) "Over time, this will develop into a constant forward head posture. Your neck vertebrae will start to creep out on an angle so that your ears are always in front of your shoulders. The muscles in the back of your neck will lengthen and weaken and their fascia will thicken, leading to soreness and knots. The muscles in the chest and front of the neck will shorten. You may start to develop neck pain, headaches, or tingling in your hands" There are so many muscles in the neck (and even high front neck vs low front neck) that I'm sure various forms of bad posture can be created by having tightness+weakness imbalances. In my own experience it's weak/loose back of neck muscles that let my head go too far forward
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  527. Sarah A. Glad you liked it!
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  528. Hi Golden Emperor! Charlie (the usual guy) and I are both making videos now so that we can get 2x the content out for y'all :-)
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  529. Thanks! I really appreciate that :-) Charlie actually has a great video on this if you want to check it out. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gaoxXFju6uo My method is that I create a skeleton / outline. Then I write what my ideal script would be. Then I make sure that I can take a blank piece of paper and re-write just the outline / main points. And then I try to get as close to that ideal script as possible, but I give myself permission to miss certain small points or to go off on a tangent as long as it isn't too long. It's actually nice, by doing it in one take I kind of force myself to structure the video in a way that makes sense. Otherwise I can't remember it all. If I miss a big point, get lost, or go off on a tangent that's too long, I'll just stop and trash that version. Normally I use the first take that hits the main points well. I had vocal cord surgery 8 months ago to remove a polyp (thankfully benign and just from overuse), so unfortunately I don't have the luxury of infinite takes.
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  530. skyfloater007 thank you! That’s awesome :-)
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  531. Spoderman I've heard great things but I've also heard there's a small risk of severe issues. I wouldn't do it without a doctor's suggestion and supervision, but I'm fairly risk averse when it comes to my spine. I have a Nubax and like that
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  532. Thanks Rehan!
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  533. There's one that's just called "yoga" by VGFIT that I like :-)
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  534. I guess that's where my eyes go when I'm thinking. You'd be surprised at how hard it is to do a 16 minute video in one take haha
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  535. Patrick St-Pierre if I get hungry I do :-)
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  536. Thanks Filipe! It took a few tries haha
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  537. Phyllis Crickette my pleasure! I’m stoked you liked it
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  538. Thanks Peg!
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  539. Haha aiming for sometime this month!
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  540. I'll think on it! In what situations do you wish you were more approachable?
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  541. redsoxakc thanks!
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  542. Thank you!
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  543. Thanks Torulez! Seth Meyers is a great suggestion, I'll watch some stuff now and see what I see :-) (And yes on the haircut haha)
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  544. For sure, I'd highly recommend the "waking up your body" part of this video, as well as a cold shower :-) 2 minutes of jumping rope to the music that makes you feel happiest + a cold shower = you will definitely be awake haha
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  545. Hey Liamcam! He did the Bond breakdown that came out Monday :-) He's still making videos every week, same as before. I've hopped in so we can make twice as many videos for you guys
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  546. My pleasure, glad you liked it!
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  547. Hey! First of all, I'm stoked to hear you're loving the online courses! In terms of shooting on myself, normally I help Charlie structure them and brainstorm on them, but just the way our responsibilities ended up split years ago he tends to do the courses and I do more of the marketing. The one course I could see myself doing would be related to the workplace, just because of my background. So if we ever do something on networking, interviewing, or work relationships, you may see me in the courses more :-)
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  548. Alan Arjona thanks Alan! It’s all from books, papers, videos, and self experimentation. Dale Carnegie, Cialdini, etc. For this video it comes from Tim Ferriss, John Romaniello, Dr Rhonda Patrick, plus my own work with my doctor. I think the key to learning is to study other people, take the best of it , mix it up, experiment with I️t, and eventually start to add on top of it with your own lessons learned and experience Hope that helps!
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  549. Thanks Brendan!
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  550. Thanks Maria!
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  551. Haha fair question snuggly face! The study I read had more to do with if that person was actually physically warm or cold. So your sweater and fluffy hat would do you more good if the other person was wearing them. You can just wear what's comfortable :-)
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  552. Jerzey First yep that was my fault, I thought he said “he” and didn’t google to confirm who she was. That’s my bad. I edited it out. Sorry!
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  553. Steven O'Connor yes, squats, deadlifts, pull-ups, all good ones :-)
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  554. Thanks so much Steven!
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  555. Thanks Mac!
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  556. Madhu Suthanan thanks!
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  557. Thanks Mateus appreciate it!
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  558. Thanks Abdulrehman Mahir!
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  559. Thanks! Appreciate you saying so :-)
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  560. That's awesome! I didn't know that.
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  561. sliceoflukas thanks for watching! We appreciate you :)
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  562. Ernesto Martinez I used to be the same! The best thing I did was start watching comedies in large crowds (movies, standup shows, improv, etc) and almost forcing a laugh out of my body. Not if I didn’t think it was funny, but if I did. Get used to making any sort of laughter occur. If you’re like me you’re in your own head / in your own body, and will benefit from practicing expressing it externally
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  563. Thanks Shiv! Appreciate it :-)
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  564. meimei any suggestions? Celebrities are nice because there’s footage of them in a variety of situations. I’m definitely open to suggestions :-)
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  565. I would love to. Anything specific you want to hear about?
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  566. That’s awesome! Thanks Alice :-)
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  567. Wow! Thank you so much for letting me know Dinae, that's awesome!
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  568. Rentaro89 I think the advice in this video is applicable to everyone regardless of gender :-)
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  569. My life was destroyed by memes what’s the name of their channel? I’ll check them out :-)
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  570. Abby Slug I’m actually a velociraptor dressed up in a human suit. The “scar” on my forehead is actually just where the costume seals from ;-)
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  571. Bought one today!
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  572. emilyannewagnertucke why thank you ;-)
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  573. Wow Mika these are some heaaaaavy questions! I respect that. I wish I had good answers but how to overcome addiction, shame, and guilt, those are huge topics. I think our emotional mastery course does a good job helping with it but I don't think we have any quick videos or blog posts on the topic besides the instagram vid (Instagram Is Ruining Your Life). Have you read Russell Brand's book on addiction? I think Charlie liked that one. Also the book Feeling Good on cognitive behavior therapy is fantastic. Helped me a lot with my guilt issues
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  574. I completely agree Mika :-)
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  575. It's a birthmark :-)
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  576. So was mine! It's definitely something you can change if you want to. I actually just did a podcast on that exact thing. You definitely don't have to. Just saying, if you wanted to, it's not hard to expand your humour :-)
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  577. Hmmm. If you send me an email I can send you screenshots of the bloodwork. But then who's to say that that isn't just photoshop? If the topic interests you I think the best thing is to just get yourself tested and then experiment with it and see 1.) how your number moves and more importantly 2.) how you feel. At the end of the day, the goal is for you to feel better, that's the real metric that matters
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  578. I agree! No workout videos, only when it really intersects with charisma, like the posture video. This channel is charisma on command and we'll keep it that way :-)
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  579. mrlegkick666 not if you eat the right amount of good foods during your eating window. If you’re trying to gain weight you just eat a lot during your eating window :)
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  580. Hazzmati I️ do 8 hours for eating, 16 for fasting. John Romaniello has more info on I️t if you want to learn more :-)
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  581. That's fantastic!
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  582. Top Kek there’s a chris Evans video that Charlie did a while back on hand movements :-)
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  583. Touché!
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  584. I don’t believe we’ve covered Jamie Foxx before. Can you link me to the video?
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  585. If you've been wrongfully accused then 100% stand up for yourself. I definitely didn't mean to imply you should never stand up for yourself. Only to own it if you did in fact do something you wouldn't do again.
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  586. I think his loss to Nate is the one time he didn't ground himself in reality. He spoke of knocking him out in the first round. When his power shots didn't knock Nate out, it went against everything he had visualized. Compare that to his rematch, where he talks about seeing the fight as a dog fight and a 5 round war. I think he grounded himself back in reality, which is why he was able to pull off the (super close) victory.
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  587. Thanks Evan glad you think so!
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  588. vaidas dagys that’s fantastic!
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  589. Interesting idea! I'll think on it
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  590. Okay but you have to promise to subscribe ;-) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dVLERJ5IdrA Enjoy!
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  591. Hahaha it's tough to compete with Charlie on that one! And thank you :-)
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  592. Sometimes, they'll think you aren't listening and get more heated. Sometimes, it's EXACTLY what they really needed, and it will make everything 10x better for them and between the two of you. I wish I could give a clear "do that when [blank]" but unfortunately I don't have one for this. That said, it's definitely worth keeping it in mind because in some situations you'll find it's the #1 way to de-escalate the situation. Great idea.
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  593. Haha thanks Wesley!
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  594. You think? I linked to the warmth study in the description, and the others come from a well respected PhD (Dr. Cialdini). I think they're grounded in some good data 🤷‍♂️
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  595. Haha Gary definitely polarizes. Some people love him for being blunt and swearing, other people feel differently. Reddit and articles like this one (http://fortune.com/2014/12/08/is-gary-vaynerchuk-vaynermedia-for-real/) showed me that people feel strongly in both directions. Which weirdly I think Gary is actually aiming for. He said he loves when people dislike his public persona, meet him, and then like him as a person and get confused haha
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  596. Thanks Cortez The Conqueror!
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  597. Douglas San Miguel I already vanquished Voldemort, what else was left to do! ;-)
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  598. MacPerfid I'm not an educated A/V guy. Can you explain more what you mean? Happy to try whatever will improve video quality! Based on comments I've gotten a pop filter, carpet to kill echo, etc. So if something else can make the video quality better let me know :-)
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  599.  @SNinjaQK  Thank you :-)
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  600. ​ @shrim6161  all good Shrim! I don't feel attacked, although I do appreciate the kind comment! If this video does well we already have another avatar video in mind about Zuko's transformation. It'll really just come down to if a lot of people watch this video and enjoy it :-)
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  601. Peter Grabas hey Peter! It is partially the alcohol, that’s why I recommend limiting the amount of drinks to 0-2. The big thing to watch out for is drinking many many beers in one night. The switch from beer to other alcohols is because I’ve read that hops can have a negative affect on testosterone production. Hope that’s helpful!
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  602. Hi from Charisma On Command!
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  603. I agree :-) Did you see the latest video on How To Have Tough Conversations? Curious if you like the examples in that one.
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  604. Bernie Sanders agreed!
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  605. Haha thanks OroNero!
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  606. Thanks Traugott Bauling!
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  607. Hey! Hopefully this was clear but I’m not saying anyone in this video is a bad person or even the bad person in the relationship. It’s just about the specific behavior in that moment being used as something to learn from and watch out for
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  608. TOUCHING THINGS haha I️ can get behind a Harvey Spectre breakdown. When does the show come back on?
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  609. Hope it's helpful! Makes a huge difference for me
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  610. I'm really surprised that some people are listening to this and hearing "Conor will 100% beat Floyd". It's just a video about why he CAN. I don't think it's impossible for him, and I believe that based on what's in this video. That's all. This isn't like the Trump prediction we put $2k on. It's just a reason not to dismiss Conor as if he's hopeless.
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  611. Haha that's hilarious. Charlie and I have been best friends for 15 years. I guess we've just stolen each others' mannerisms over time :-)
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  612. Sarah A. My pleasure! Glad you liked it :-)
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  613. Also, thanks! Glad you enjoyed the video :-)
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  614. PhrenicDemand haha the lights felt bright yesterday :-)
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  615. Great idea Tyler!
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  616. Makes total sense :-)
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  617. That's awesome!
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  618. Tom Walker no I meant working 9am until 9pm the next day. It’s not a pleasant experience haha. I realize now that if you’re not in the industry it might not make sense, but we called that a 36 hour “day”, meaning it starts when you enter the office and ends when you leave. That wasn’t a weekly experience, just a special treat when things got extra saucy haha
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  619. Mahmoud Shatnawi thanks Mahmoud!
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  620. I'm in talks with Thought Catalog to do some videos for them on this subject! Not sure if it'll happen but their site does a lot of content around dating for women - maybe you'd enjoy it
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  621. saidutt sharma thanks!
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  622. Thanks Marina! I'm glad you enjoyed it :-)
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  623. Hey Carez! I think you may have to fight off that nap with a coffee for a few days until your body adjust.
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  624. Catie Simpkins thanks so much! I’m happy it was helpful
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  625. Great point! I think this was the one time Conor lost his grounding in reality. He visualized a first round KO, a bold bold thing against a Diaz. In the second fight he talks over and over about visualizing a dog fight, a 5 rounder. And I think that meant when Nate took a shot and didn't crumble, it didn't shake Conor. Because THAT was how he actually saw it playing out the second time. At least that's how he spoke of it in interviews for fight 1 vs. fight 2. I think that's why he didn't dive on Nate when Nate got wobbled in their rematch.
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  626. I definitely Floyd is and should be the favorite. Two weeks ago I thought Conor had zero chance. After watching him talk about all of his past fights, seeing how clearly he visualizes them (so much so that he can accurately predict how they'll go), and seeing how his unstoppable confidence has made other fighters fight far worse than they should (Eddie Alvarez) I think he can pull it off. I'm definitely not saying everyone should bet the house on him like we did with Trump. But after studying him, I do think we should never count Conor out of a fight, because he consistently pulls of what others consider impossible (KO'ing Aldo, two weight champ, even making this fight happen).
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  627. Will do :-)
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  628. Interesting, that's the first I've seen him suggested! I'll look into it
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  629. Kat Anne nailed it haha :-)
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  630. Dave Lee Charlie makes videos every Monday and I make them every Thursday :-)
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  631. Agreed Eduardo :-)
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  632. Sure! I have this on my list of video ideas so hopefully I'll have a more in-depth answer to this later this year, but the first few things that come to my head are: Exercise (can be lifting, basketball, surfing, whatever you like). I believe that stress gets stuck in the body and a physical activity can help release it. Meditate Spend time with people who make you laugh or doing activities that make you laugh (improv, comedy shows, etc.) Hope that helps!
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  633. Thanks Rhonnie!
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  634. Ishaanstube thanks a lot I super appreciate it! Now I need a topic for the next one haha
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  635. Haha thanks!
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  636. Well that would be great news! I guess everyone would like everyone more haha
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  637. Thanks Rachel! I'll keep her in mind for future videos :-)
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  638. My pleasure Seth! Glad you liked it
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