Comments by "MC116" (@angelmendez-rivera351) on "How to Get Kids to Listen | 5 Minute Video" video.

  1. This is just all jumbo not supported by evidence. Historically, authoritative parents have never been successful and have never been considered an ideal type of parent by well-informed psychologists. This so called “expert” provided an example with a teacher, and providing an example is fine and all, but the problem is that what actually happens in real life shows that authoritative teachers are not successful. Children are not really supposed to simply obey everything and period. This is not how raising children works, and children do not like authority. Children are curious. Historically, children of authoritative parents are actually not obedient at all, but their parents are unaware because they’re also secretive about it on top of that. It just completely destroys the parenting. Children want explanations. You have to provide these explanations to them for then to learn and understand and comply to an order. If they get argumentative and are able to pick apart your explanations, then that means your explanations are objectively bad and you’re a bad parent. That’s what it comes down to. If you tell them “because I said so”, that isn’t going to convince them at all. Sure, it may instill fear in them, and some children will react to fear by applying an obedient stance. But most of the other children won’t. If they’re not convinced and you tell them that, they’ll simply lose your trust and keep disobeying your orders, but in secret. And you know what we call it when we use fear as method of governing and ruling? Terrorism. Think about this for a second. Also, you act as though obedient children are rare in this generation, and as though children are intrinsically little devils that need quarantine, but neither of these claims has evidence to support it. Children have always been disobedient.
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