Comments by "Jack Haveman" (@JackHaveman52) on "NBC News" channel.

I'm in my late sixties. I'm from the generation that this video is talking about where men are supposed to be strong. Yet, I have friends, close friends, a couple that have been friends since my early teens. We know when we're hurt but we don't talk about it unless the hurt person wants to. We're just there for each other. We sit, watch a hockey game, have a beer, talk about work, make fun of each other and we know, deep down, that what we're doing is what we need. It cures the loneliness. I can't talk my problems away. I have to live them away. All I ask from my friends is for them to be there...nothing more. When I had tough times in my life, they were there, not talking about the tough times, but just there and I appreciate that they were there, more than they could know. I try to do the same for them. Sometimes it feels as if I'm failing but every once in awhile, they do the little things that let you know that they appreciate what you, too.
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@zimbabwexx1589 Tough one. The best advice that I can give is to seek the truth. Not YOUR truth, or the popular "truth" or what you want to be true, but real truth, whether it hurts or not. It's not easy because you have to look inwards and you have to honest with yourself, as much as you should look outwards, but it's worth it. You can't make a decisions in life, that will have any value, if you haven't sought out ALL the information available to you. Be true to yourself and to others and you'll have given yourself the best opportunity to have a meaningful life. Life can be pretty tough and there's no magic bullet to prevent the bad things from happening. All you can do is arm yourself with a desire for honesty and that will help you through the bad times because they will come. That and to work hard and take responsibility for what you do, good and bad. No excuses. It's not easy but it's the best way. I didn't find inner peace until I made those things my way to live.
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They get it, too, or at least, it sounds as if they do. Their work is no less significant than the work that Mike Rowe is talking about but it is different. The big problem with the educational system is that it's only placing value on one type of work and will actually denigrate the "dirty" jobs. What we need are those people who, although they're in suits, still know that these blue collar jobs have value and to value those who are doing those jobs and understand that these people also take pride in their work and are proud of what they do. Too often, it's about career as opposed to work. They should be the same thing.
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@IngridRamos-q8z What if you DON'T feel the need to talk? Not everyone is wired that way. What makes you feel better might make someone else feel uncomfortable or even exacerbate the issues that they're facing. Talk isn't the cure for everything. Sometimes it just leads one in circles and may end up causing issues with others that can make things worse. People aren't perfect and we have to learn to accept that
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@syppy7416 There's more to communication than "talk". Having your friend come and visit you to watch the hockey game, when you've suffered a loss, is a form of communication in itself. It's unspoken but we both know that he's there to show you that he cares. He doesn't have to say it. He's showing it. Sometimes it's hard to find the right thing to say but we all understand companionship. A good laugh, some goodnatured ribbing, making plans for the weekend is just that. The loss isn't fixed through talk because the loss won't come back. However, just being there lets you know that you're not alone. Life goes on.
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Now the problem will be the gang members that go on the run. They'll end up crossing into the US at our southern border and welcomed by Biden and Harris. The Democrats have to be voted out.
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