Comments by "SaltySiren" (@saltiestsiren) on "Psychology with Dr. Ana" channel.

It's so annoying how we don't listen to kids. Like they're not people. Of course I know a child's testimony can be questionable at best but outside of a legal sense...idk, come on man.
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That's an overgeneralization but it certainly does seem to fit the bill sometimes. I can't tell when I'm being overly cynical or realistic about society anymore
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Or it's like, "I suffered x y and z and I'm FINE so therefore you would be fine if you didn't talk about it so I'm blaming the therapists because they're the ones who make you talk about your feelings and stuff." The whole thing reeks of denial or "copium"
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This way of life works great for some but not all. I think the problem lies with this lifestyle being a requirement to survive in most developed countries.
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My BPD, OCD, and anxiety have entered the chat
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@rebeccabarrand5132 If you didn't have good social skills that might have been a reason why. Being around socially awkward people is physically uncomfortable. And I say this as somebody who can be really socially awkward lol. But otherwise it can be a lot of things. Wearing glasses, having messed up teeth, or a birth mark, or being a BIPOC in a predominantly white school, not knowing the common language very well, being intelligent or a "teacher's pet", being into art, being into geek culture/pop culture, being friends with the kids who are bullied/disliked, being poor, coming to school dirty or smelly, having a disability, constantly being sick with random viruses, living on a farm, being the new kid, and on and on and on....kids are really mean in my experience. They all say stuff. I did too even though I was also bullied and it hurt me deeply.
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I'm assuming the actual emotion here is jealousy? Yeah, the jealousy doesn't fit the facts, but I think it's alright to say that it's understandable why you feel that jealousy because of the issues you struggle with. That's validating but still sits on one side of the dialectical of looking at that emotion and not treating it like it's religious doctrine---in other words, questioning the messages it's sending you and deciding how to act from there. That's where opposite action, a DBT skill, often comes in, but tbh I have yet to get that one down lmao
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I have felt alienated from leftists online and been told I'm a bad person for enjoying Harry Potter or spending money on anything where the money is going to a "bad" person. I've been chastised for being "the devil's advocate for somebody/a group that doesn't deserve/need it" when I try to point out inaccuracies and nuances in the arguments of a leftist/group of leftists. Trying to tell people they have more control over their lives than they realize in spite of the harms our system and economy have done and continue to do gets me called a capitalist lmao. I'm not trying to make myself appear a victim or something because I'm not. But it's no wonder people end up rolling over to the right where they are welcomed with open arms lol. All of us just want to feel included and appreciated. Unconditional respect---not necessarily friendliness or even kindness---mutual, unconditional respect is so desperately needed in the USA and the rest of the world.
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@AnaPsychology In my experience pop culture has exacerbated the importance of social popularity and kind of taught kids how and who to bully. The anti-bullying assemblies and whatnot really did nothing; they were seen as equally lame as the lame kids lol. As a nerdy, artsy kid with no athletic ability and few social skills, a habit of picking her nose and struggling with peeing her pants, glasses, and single "beaver" tooth, I was bullied relentlessly by pretty, so-called popular girls and their boy friends from 3rd grade through 6th grade. About all kinds of things from my interests to my intelligence to my appearance. Things only changed in 7th because that's when we all went to middle school so there was this forced space and suddenly they no longer cared about me. But media like movies and TV also reinforced that my identity was wrong, bad, lame, etc. and I still struggle with these sentiments in my adult life.
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100%, and don't listen to blub-tf6rt. I had bad or mediocre therapy for 14 years before coming to the therapist I have today, and a lot of people tried to tell me it was me. That messed me up, I internalized that belief to the point I still have trouble not believing it. It's not true. I wish I could help you on the matter of finding a good therapist. For me, it was basically luck and persistence. So if nothing else, don't give up, and don't settle on a therapist who's not helping you or who tries to blame you for not getting better (such as claiming you don't want to get better or you're not trying hard enough).
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I got the "tough love" thing a lot lol. Tough love is probably a thing, but if it's causing a kid to begin to fear certain responses from their parents, which is what motivates them into doing the desired behavior, eehhhh.....not so much.
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Acceptance is not a choice that you make once and then try to do it all the time, it’s a choice you make again and again and again every time you catch yourself fighting against things you can’t control. And it takes practice, too. But we will all make mistakes for our all of our time here on earth. Maybe you could try radically accepting that fact? Good luck 💛
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It's sometimes so true, omg. And I used to assume that the father/husband was always the lazy one, but this isn't true. I actually had a childhood friend who I believe experienced neglect and possibly abuse and this is the exact dynamic her parents had. I think her mom wasn't doing well though so I really don't know if I can call it "lazy" but needless to say the marriage appeared to be struggling
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If simply "getting over it" was possible, everybody would do that.
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They say something happening 2 times is a coincidence, and 3 times is a pattern 😂
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For real, I remember learning this at a young age, especially about ethnic food or food that's simply unfamiliar to me.
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@megt9171 No, people on here deserve to be paid for their labor and it's way more risky to get demonetized than it used to be because many viewers use ad blockers. Plus what's a good reason why she should take the hit? This is a capitalist society and our labor and time ought to be valued more by everybody, and if you think people who don't give it away for free are just being selfish or money-hungry, then I implore you to take on a part-time job for free someday. Many part-time jobs are within non-profits and services that do a lot of good but you don't see them willing to do it for free.
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I don't think she cared about the follower/viewer count, she probably didn't want to post stuff on her IG story only to repeat it all in a text message or phone call. Not excusing her silly response or validating the idea of not talking to each other 1-on-1, but I can see where she might have felt frustrated or irritated.
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I think that she probably was referring to violence in the commonly understood sense or a criminal context. Like the word equivalent of a punch to the face. In reality being called a slur isn't a hate crime—but it is absolutely a violent act in terms of prejudice and discrimination.
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I was JUST thinking about this topic and how I wish I could make a video about it. And then this shows up. Thank you so much! As an introvert, I constantly feel like I'm in survival mode whenever I leave my own bedroom. My nuclear family is also very extroverted as a whole so it was tough growing up feeling a bit like a black sheep. I even had a period where I thought I might have been adopted but that might have been the psychosis/paranoia I had at the time💀
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That Reddit post is so legit. I want to throw my DBT book whenever I read it because it's so invalidating. The language and methods used to teach these skills are just awful. I am forever bothered by the dialectical/paradox of changing unwanted emotions vs. validating emotions. I simply...cannot change my emotions, or act oppositely, or do much regulation. It is so, so, so painful. It's invalidating to change my emotions so I'm stuck in this feedback loop lol. I understand the dialecticals. I just haven't been able to compute it. It just...can't be. I know it CAN. But my brain just can't manage it. It just DOES feel like invalidation and gaslighting. I know it's NOT. It's just that everything you say in the video is very logical but it does not seem true to my brain! I mean no offense lol, the video was lovely <3 Edit: Oh yeah, I wanted to touch base with you on the post about living in the USA as a member of a group notoriously hated by republicans/conservatives. Do you not think it's a fact that BIPOC, LGBTQ+, women, are in danger of being directly or indirectly harmed? I mean...I'm not sure myself. I want to believe in a sense of logic that says nothing crazy will happen...but I also feel like that is a huge amount of cope haha. I suppose I'm not truly asking you if you think this is a fact or not, I'm wondering how you determine whether or not that that fear fits the facts? Or is it coming from Wise mind? It all feels very blurry to me :')
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@ArtsCraftsAntiquity She never did. A truly tiny portion of CA allegations that are claimed to be made up actually are. In court this means around 2% according to the US justice system. Everyone else is making up a reality they prefer more to the one where they are the abuser, the problem, the one hurting others.
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I believe the CIA did JFK in, there's so many signs but no hard proof. There are some conspiracy theories that are less "crazy" than others that I tend to jump on board with or WANT to jump on board with because I am heavily biased against "the powers that be" aka the governments of the world. And I think most people are these days, at least a little.
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Yeah, and coping with them (avoiding them) in ways that are detrimental to physical health. Cries in 6-9 hours of gaming per day and therapy thrice per week 🫠
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She has a couple videos on social matters, otherwise the channel healthygamergg has a lot of content about socializing, friendships, romantic relationships, and so on.
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Where did people used to go for wisdom as young adults
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Understandable!! Thank you so much for risking the suppression to talk about these things because it's SO important!!!
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For real. Sometimes he has on more credible figures, those who try to point out nuance and admit where they are speculating and might be wrong. But idk what's up with that guy. He just gives random people microphones and agrees with them and believes (supposedly) everything they say
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Think of it like this: avoiding ALL stress, or the stress you can't simply cope with? One of these is extremely limiting and not necessary while the other is just dealing with the circumstances you've been handed. I think the reality is only you know how much you can handle. But how clear are you able to see your own limits if you never even try to test them? There might be many internal factors blurring your worldview and/or your own strength and wisdom. You have to be honest with yourself though and that's what many people don't know how to do. Are you really avoiding xyz because you can't, or because you think you can't?
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I lost interest in people and get annoyed by them very easily as well. I know being a recluse isn't good for me but I just can't help it. Socializing even casually is unbearable. So you're not alone in that. I don't know if mine's from trauma though. I have been through some "stuff" in the past decade including severe mental illness and the "stuff" is related to that.
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@aratneerg3699 Yeah that's true too.
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That's the thing though! The moms who were using the hashtag were often just like this. Not all, but many.
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That would make sense. It's frustrating because in trying not to mistreat or stigmatize people with chronic illnesses, especially psychological ones, we over-corrected on some accounts and so patients have suffered for it.
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It's not that I experienced learned helplessness but I have experienced indifference either immediately upon meeting someone or after a month of dating them but kept up an act of affection regardless because I didn't want to hurt them and I was pretty sure I wasn't going to feel love ever again (I'm still not super optimistic—I can't even find it in myself to care about friends sometimes) so I was best off trying to play my hand with somebody who at least liked ME. It sure felt better than casual sex and situationships anyway. Plus affection is nice. It wasn't easy to GIVE though. I had a lot of sex I didn't truly want to have. After keeping up an act and lying to myself with one person for 3 years I knew I had to stop seeing people romantically because doing what I was doing was dishonest not only to them but myself.
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@brendarudman8806 It's not too late for anybody in my belief.
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I want to delete 26:26 from my memory lmfao, that is some WILD rationalization for wanting to [redacted] children, dude. 😬 Especially the antisemitism thrown in at the end 🥴
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I value novelty, creating things, and recreation. I want to become a digital nomad, at least for a while. I hesitate to make friends or date because I don’t really value these things. I don’t value people very much. My family if anything is more important to me than groups of friends or partners. I’m bad at keeping long term relationships of any kind and not valuing these relationships makes it way harder to do so. Sometimes I fear I’m seen as selfish for how often I isolate myself or put my needs before others’ needs. This is just who I am and how I live my life.
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My mom is my best friend but we definitely don't tell each other everything or invade each other's privacy or anything like that. If anything we have too much emotional space but that's another issue entirely 😂 I've actually never had a friend of whom I could share almost anything with or lean on emotionally but that's a me issue 😅
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It's not even hyperbole but I've hated people and been angry at the world since I was 9 or 10. My dad has a tattoo that says "Everybody Sucks," lmfao, I swear it's genetic (well, the anxiety and depression certainly is)
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@Kgrjbftiihgz Do you mean like "sewer 🛝" and things like that? It's awful but these terms are used across social media for the same reason; maybe acronyms of some sort would be better though
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And what the heck is that, pray tell, that even the APA has not acknowledged?
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It's making people's cynicism and nihilism worse too, which includes myself. I try to be a voice of nuance and hope in my politically left circles but I am often shot down. I continue to enjoy things like Harry Potter and am labeled a TERF or transphobe, or just as bad as J.K. Rowling. That's just not true! I am lonely for all these reasons and some of it is absolutely my fault and responsibility to make right. But when I am so quickly alienated from people with whom I identify with...well, it certainly doesn't help my existing trust issues 😂😂❤ Thanks for talking about these things.
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Idk why Diary of a CEO mixes in people with such crazy claims and few legitimate sources to back them up, with people who are way more credible in their knowledge. I think everyone has valuable perspectives via their experiences but making factual claims based on houses of cards of "evidence" isn't where that's at. Podcasters and YouTubers absolutely have a responsibility to mitigate misinforming the public and Diary of a CEO hasn't been doing very well at that in its relatively short life.
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Lmfao she never even claimed that 🤣🤣
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90% immediately threw me 💀 That's the kind of language the layperson uses in casual conversation with the awareness they are wrong or purposely using hyperbole to make their point stand out. This is SO much worse than I imagined, but I had a suspicion the term "parental alienation" came from something akin to a "professional" who misunderstood and then bastardized any and all concepts of CA regarding both the victim and CAer. Like I said, SO much worse than I imagined. I have had more men than I'd have ever liked to tell me they or their friend were sabotaged in court by the mother/wife and that court always takes the side of the mother/wife in divorce cases. I'm sure these things happen but their rate of occurence have got to stop being blown up to appear so prevalent. A majority of cases?! Not at all!!
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I'm genuinely asking in good faith: does it matter much if that woman is a bigot? I'm not really referring to only celebrities and other public figures, but women in general, or I suppose people in general. Actually, can you make a video about respect and to whom we owe unconditional respect? Frankly I'm really not down to be nice to white supremacists, homophobes and transphobes, discrimination and genocide deniers, etc. Are we obligated to be respectful to them (to any extent)?
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Wishful thinking and well-intentioned but you have to be realistic too.
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