Comments by "carcdg" (@callanc3925) on "Addressing FEMALE DISRESPECT: why this is essential to relationship success" video.

Thats why even if your girl has a good relationship with her parents, you need to look at what her parents relationship is. If her dad is treated as a doormat, best believe thats the sort of relationship she will be looking to emulate
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In my last relationship, most of the times that she did something which i openly and communicatively took issue with she would push it aside with "youre overreacting, insecure, controlling etc." After a certain point I decided to just take it on the chin then do the exact same thing she did a few hours or a day later, sometimes word for word. Every single time she started crying bloody murder about me mistreating her and demanding an apology, and only some of the times was she able to accept that I was just treating her how she treated me. Even with that acceptance and a half hearted, forced apology she would still demand that i apologise even though i did nothing other than point out her own hypocrisy.
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The response to that is "If thats your worst, then i dont want you at your best"
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Which is why even if she has a good relationship with her dad, you gotta make sure that he wasnt being treated as a doormat in his marriage. If he was, she will expect a type of relationship that emulates her parents and be habitually disrespectful herself
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The best thing to do is leave actually, if youre not quite at that point then yeah the best thing to do is turn it around but its never fully successful. Got to that point with my ex where whenever i voiced concern about the way she was acting, talking to me, treating me she would minimise it. Id then treat her the exact same not long after, sometimes word for word and most of the time she would cry bloody murder about me mistreating her, funnily enough she would "overreact" more than i did to the same treatment. Sometimes Id get a half hearted apology, most of the time shed demand an apology which i wouldnt give. Turning it around really just breeds resentment from both parties and sends the relationship to where it should be going anyways: down the shitter.
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@sethfyou4750 Nah, always put up a strong and "together" front when youre in public, even if it seems like youre the only one doing it. Relationship issues should be discussed in private and calling her out in public makes you look like the bad guy rather than her. In this situation for example, him staying quiet means that everyones either looking at them like "wow this chick is super disrespectful" or "wow this dude is so cool for not overreacting about this stuff." If he'd called her out on the spot most of the people there wouldve felt awkward and attributed him as the cause of their awkwardness.
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@sethfyou4750 I dont want respect from people who think its a good idea to sort out relationship issues in public.
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If theyre already doing it in initial dating then youre in for a bad ride. People put on their fakest selves when first meeting others in order to look more appealing and attractive. It only gets worse from the first few months. Flaking isnt a massive deal as long as she lets you know in advance, it isnt more than once for a first date, and she has an actual reason why
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