Comments by "Ali Malik" (@AliMalik-yt5ex) on "Cole Hastings" channel.

  1. Degree usefulness aside, the people and the connections that I have made in college will benefit me for the rest of my life. I have learned so much about myself, about relationships with women, and about the kind of person I want to be. It is truly an experience. It is what you make of it.
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  2. One thing that helped me and my therapist told me this is to think about your values rather than goals. This does not mean abandon goals but rather than thinking, "I will be happy when I get X", think about values such as integrity, honesty, compassion and try to live every day of your life incorporating these values. These are constant compared to a goal, that when reached, leaves you with this empty feeling such as "What now?". Every time a thought comes to my head about my life, I just ask myself "Does this bring me closer to the kind of person I want to be?" and if the answer is yes, do that thing. It does not have to be a goal, it can be living up to a value. And you are right that getting that job, getting that money does not solve all the problems because it was never the root of those problems.
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  3. Thank you man! I teared up because it resonates so much! Please don't ever stop making videos.
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  4. I was recently watching BBC Sherlock and in one of the episodes, Mycroft and Sherlock are stood inside of a morgue and Mycroft says that 'All lives end, all hearts are broken, caring is not an advantage'. After I got betrayed by a close friend, I started believing this and lived by it for about a month. My life became miserable and I realized I was forcing myself to not care when I really did. Emotions are what make us human and I do want to care.
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  5. Oh my god Cole! You used my University in the intro, that is so dope!
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  6. The thing is that betrayal hurts the most when it comes from a really close friend. Also feels like a tautology because you wouldn't feel betrayed if it came from a person you weren't close to anyway. I still am trying to let go of a friend who betrayed me. I cared too much and she didn't care at all. It's so fucking hard but I'm trying to let it go.
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