Comments by "VoidX" (@aus-li) on "Which Couple Has The Biggest Age Gap? | Assumptions vs Actual" video.

The moral dilemma is that the big age gap should be highlighted and discussed in detail, not ignored. These 2 age gaps in this video: 19&31, and 36&20 is morally corrupt. Why? Because the obvious adult should be the mentor, not a sexual, intimate outlet. They’re in different parts of their life, and the obvious adult should be more educated in terms of morals and ethics based on life experiences.
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@sarakolednik4659 Sounds like that “cop” is a pedophile; that’s legit concerning.
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@Rattlsnke That age gap, morally speaking, I feel is still wrong. In my opinion, it has a lot to do with their “age”, which focuses on mostly with brain developments and lack of experiences. I am just pointing out the flaws in your argument, which is scientifically proven that the developing of the brain does matter when you’re a young adult.
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@tiffanimcmillian3058 Your story doesn’t change my opinion or morals on this topic; I still think it’s unethical.
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@justayari Those 19 year olds may appear "older", but that's not true according to science, as the commenter above me stated.
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@marradavis8766 A “normal age” gap is definitely not near 19 or 20, dating someone a decade or more ahead. Waiting a few more years would make a more healthier relationship, even though I believe it’s something I personally would never do.
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@nehsangbong7259 You’re obviously too immature to share a critical opinion, I see. A condescending and passive-aggressive answer proves just that.
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@nehsangbong7259 Can you elaborate on your argument, that a younger individual can “act wise beyond their years”? What does this mean, exactly? How old is this individual? Wouldn’t brain development be a huge factor that only evolves through age, matter more?
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@Floaty8008 I get it, but legality has nothing to do with morality, since laws can be argued and changed many times over. All of my morals are based on research and trauma, so of course I have a strong opinion when it comes to anything controversial.
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@okaight7248 If you’re referring to the US, I’d agree with changing the age differences on those controversial topics. They’re so complex, however, the US uses an already highly outdated system in terms of educating the masses in this country.
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@britt1953 I wonder if we’re in the minority when it comes to our morals in the dating life? Too many people “justify” that age doesn’t really matter…but that doesn’t make sense; when in reality the brain develops in early adulthood to mid-20s. There’s so many factors such as life experiences, phases, and responsibilities that differ from a large age gap. Even education is especially important and should be mentioned, obviously because the older partner (who is 2 decades ahead, for example) would be educating the younger individual in most scenarios. And if so, I’d imagine that to be very awkward, to be on a higher cognitive level, acting as a mentor to that younger partner. Furthermore, this suggests in the first place that the relationship is immorally incompatible.
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@justayari How so? What does your interpretation of a 20 year old being “mature” sound like? When in reality it’s strictly based on cognitive development skills and life experiences.
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@dunyacaliskan7495 Can you please elaborate more? What’s brainwashing about actual maturity and cognitive developments?
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@Floaty8008 The 2 relationships in this video with huge age gaps can be heavily criticized, which I already mentioned earlier. What is the context of “4 years of someone’s age”…how old is the younger individual in the relationship? I think it’s immoral if the individual is 18, and they’re dating someone who is 22, according to your 4 year limit, only because it doesn’t make sense, when it comes to the progression of the older individuals life, where they should be in college, for instance. It’s not synchronized or balanced in the least. I use science and integrity to back up my “morals”. Most people here who are defending large age gaps to barely young adults, are saying “age is just a number”, or “young adults are very mature” as their defining logic, which can easily be argued by how it takes time for the brain to develop as a teen transitioning to an adult.
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@Floaty8008 The brain never stops “growing”. Take into consideration your intelligence, and how you absorb new information (memorization being a key factor) every day, how that changes your perspective on the quality of life. Mental illness (or trauma) can alter your perception, drugs also can, which all inhabit parts of the cognitive side of the brain. Even though the “rational” part of the brain supposedly “develops” fully at the age of 25, doesn’t mean your moral principles can’t evolve and refine after years of hardships that life has to offer. Some individuals never evolve intellectually, which happens if you’re easily vulnerable (brainwashing) and don’t do research.
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@Rattlsnke Yea, everyone deals with abuse and trauma differently. I dealt with it by being “numb” to any romantic interest, not even knowing who I was for so many years because of the trauma I faced. But I guess it all comes down to my moral principles and how I sense that something feels “off”; I can attribute that to my horrible anxiety I’ve developed through the trauma I experienced. Anyway, I wish nothing but greatness to you and your partner, and thanks for telling me more about yourself :)
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And it’s sad how some people in the comments are “normalizing” this…
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@Floaty8008 Yes, I agree, some teens can indeed be more rational and “smarter” than an adult, vice versa. I’m not even referencing “Wikipedia”, this is literally based on common sense, a general well-known fact that the brain itself is developing at a rapid rate throughout the first quarter of your life. It doesn’t stop there, but it’s the most essential period for the later part of your life. You’re not getting my main point, that morals (the philosophy of a human being) take time to develop, and as we get older, we self-reflect and introspect on our past all the time, even more so as you age. The “science” of the brain is pretty fundamental, that it’s constantly developing, or changing based on our environments and the people we interact with. That’s your opinion on the 18 year old, but a lot can happen in 4 years.
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@Floaty8008 I've been backing up science this whole time, lol. Well, to clarify, I say "theory" because most scientists say the age is "25", but I believe 23-25 is the most important years, so it's really a culmination of years that reach that "peak" area of judgment and reasoning in that part of the brain. But as I said, the brain keeps devioping beyond those years. Yea, if you're 17, I'm sure when you're in your 20s, you'll look back at your life and think differently...moslty everyone does.
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Well, in our society, your age gap doesn't really make sense. You're still in high school...and he's in college, so I can see why everyone thinks it's creepy or alerting. Obviously I'd think he'd be more of a mentor than an intimate partner. So I'd have to unfortunately assume he's into younger girls if was talking to you that young.
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@Floaty8008 I never said it was “disgusting”, I said it was immoral, meaning toxic or dysfunctional. I think the blame should fall on the older individual in the relationship, since they would theoretically be the “mature” one, based on years of life experiences. What you’re saying is factually wrong and poses as pseudoscience, if you think someone who is 18 or 19 is truly “mature” for their age, when according to science, it take additional years to figure out who they are as an individual. Never mind acquiring critical thinking skills, making difficult life choices, and just further research on education as a whole. I also said the “4 year age gap” should matter if the individual is still in high school and is seeing someone who is a junior or senior in college. It doesn’t seem to match up in terms of age progression.
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Because, they’re in fact highly immature themselves.
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It comes down to basic moral principles and common sense when the age gap is too wide, that you can feel a vibe that sometimes is amiss. I’m referring to the 2 age gaps that obviously shouldn’t be a “thing” but supposedly is supported in this video.
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@Floaty8008 Of course I think the brain develops over the course of a lifetime, but I do agree with that theory of finding your individuality around 25 somewhat makes sense, since I think it relates to how I was fully confident of who I was around that time. Yea, I understand where you’re coming from, even though I personally disagree with that relatively small age gap in that point of your life. Yea, I’ve realized that, but the federal system is such a mess (very outdated) when it comes to consistency and transparency, that I don’t really have much of an opinion on it, lol. I myself have a 3 year age gap in either direction when it comes to the dating scene, and I’m 27; for me, that age gap clicked in my head pretty quickly, because I’d want the individual to be on the same level as me.
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@ptralx3122 What are you talking about?
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@miaflores9706 Morally, it’s very concerning, and I don’t put the blame on you.
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A lot of them could be considered “grooming”, however, especially in the context of the 2 older individuals dating a younger individual in this video. You could say that you have a “healthy” relationship, sure, but in my opinion, I feel like it’s unhealthy in terms of brain development and being in totally different places in your life.
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@Eastcoastsurfer24 I said it could be “considered”. Also, lying about their ages is automatically a “red flag”.
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There's a lot of people nowadays who have a corrupted moral compass when it comes "normalizing" giant age gaps to underdeveloped young adults just starting adulthood. It doesn't matter if it's in the dating lifestyle or the hook up culture, it's creepy and can easily be identified as "grooming".
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@alexlol152 We’re talking about the “adults”.
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