Comments by "Adam Kidd" (@AdamKidd1972) on "Bo Refec"
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When BO was walking in the park, I was imagining the beauty of the fall colors around mid-October. Places to explore in Bucharest are The Kretzulescu, Antim Monastery, Arch of Triumph, Casa Capșa Hotel, CEC Palace, Charles de Gaulle Square,
Cișmigiu Park Bucharest, Herăstrău Park, House of the Free Press, and The Kretzulescu Church. Visiting some of these places in the proper season will increase your visual experience. Any festivals or events your viewers may enjoy. I am certain your partner may have a few suggestions. Just visit places when you have the time. Simple videos on daily life in Romania can motivate viewers showing the difference. In general they are way to many positive things to focus upon instead of the negativity overseas. I always tell people never let a few minutes of negativity ruin the rest of your day.
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I always say, the life you deserve is the one you're willing to create. Each day is an opportunity to improve yourself.
At the age of 29 in 2001, I suffered a stroke and was diagnosed with Lupus and Catastrophic Antiphospholipid Syndrome. My life changed drastically—I went from being on a feeding tube and needing diapers changed to achieving almost a full recovery and regaining my independence. Despite doing all the right things, I experienced yet another stroke on December 13, 2024. This was a sobering reminder that tomorrow is never guaranteed.
Despite life's challenges, I retired to Thailand in 2013 at the age of 41. I am now happily enjoying more life for less money. I'm debt-free, saving more than I spend each month, and living a life of peace and fulfillment. My journey might not be the right path for everyone, but I know that if I had chosen to stay in bed pitying myself, I most likely wouldn’t be here today, still kicking and breathing.
My point is simple: life isn’t fair, but you have the power to change it for the better.
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Scaling your business by putting others first is about building strong, lasting relationships with customers, employees, and partners. By prioritizing their needs, you foster loyalty, trust, and mutual growth, which can lead to sustainable and long-term success. Through a customer-centric approach, empowering employees, creating value-driven partnerships, and delivering social impact, you create a positive ecosystem where your business thrives by helping others succeed. This approach not only accelerates growth but also enhances your reputation and builds a loyal following.
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Seeking validation is like living in a prison you built for yourself. The moment you stop caring about what others think, you start truly living. Confidence comes from knowing who you are, not from likes or approval. Stop explaining, stop apologizing, and stop waiting for permission—live for YOU. If this hits home, what’s one thing you’re doing for yourself from now on?
🔥 How to Stop Seeking Validation & Start Living Life 🔥
1⃣ Realize the Cost – Every time you seek approval, you give others control over your happiness. No amount of validation will ever fill the void of self-doubt. Only YOU can do that.
2⃣ Ask Yourself, "Why Do I Care?" – Most people are too busy worrying about themselves to judge your life. The pressure to seek validation is just conditioning—break free from it.
3⃣ Stop Explaining Yourself – You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your life choices. The ones who truly support you won’t need one.
4⃣ Build Internal Confidence – Real confidence comes from doing things because you love them, not for social media likes. Spend time alone, take action without seeking approval, and focus on what you want.
5⃣ Expect Resistance & Push Through – Some people won’t like the new, independent you. That’s okay. They benefited from your need for validation. Keep moving forward!
✅ Final Thought: You get ONE life. Do you really want to spend it worrying about what others might think? Or do you want to actually live? The choice is yours. Start now before you have a lifetime of regrets.
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Reclaiming Your Identity in a Chaotic World:
The world is full of distractions, expectations, and pressures trying to shape you into something you’re not. Reclaiming your identity is about remembering who you are, defining your own path, and blocking out the noise. It’s a powerful act of self-respect and independence.
Here’s how you can take back control and live life on your terms:
1. Disconnect from the Noise
Modern life bombards you with information, opinions, and unrealistic standards. If you don’t step back, you risk losing yourself in the chaos.
🔹 Take a Break from Social Media & News Overload
Mindless scrolling is an identity thief—it fills your head with other people’s lives instead of your own thoughts.
Set time limits for social media use. Try a “digital detox” by taking a break for a few days or a week.
Replace scrolling with something productive—read, go outside, or have a real conversation.
Example: Instead of waking up and immediately checking your phone, start the day with a walk, journaling, or a quiet cup of coffee.
🔹 Get Away from Toxic People & Environments
Some people drain your energy, push their agenda on you, or make you question your worth.
Identify who brings value to your life and who only brings negativity.
If someone constantly makes you doubt yourself or feel small, distance yourself—even if it’s family.
Example: If a friend or coworker always puts you down or manipulates you, start setting boundaries. You don’t owe anyone access to your peace.
🔹 Make Time for Solitude
Being alone isn’t loneliness—it’s self-discovery.
Take silent walks, meditate, or journal your thoughts without distractions.
Ask yourself: What do I truly want? What makes me happy? What would I do if no one was watching?
Example: Instead of forcing yourself to keep up with social plans that don’t excite you, spend a quiet evening reflecting on your own goals.
2. Remember Who You Were Before the World Told You Who to Be
As we grow up, we’re shaped by society, family, and past experiences. Sometimes, we lose sight of who we truly are.
🔹 Ask Yourself:
What did I love doing as a child before I started caring about what others thought?
What beliefs are truly mine, and which ones were forced on me?
If I had no fear of failure or judgment, how would I live my life?
Example: If you used to love painting, writing, or being outdoors but gave it up because it "wasn't practical," try reconnecting with those passions.
🔹 Reignite Old Passions
Go back to the hobbies, interests, and activities that once excited you.
Even if it’s just for fun, it can bring you closer to your authentic self.
Don’t let society tell you what is or isn’t “useful”—if it makes you happy, it matters.
Example: If you used to love working with your hands, start a small DIY project or craft something just for yourself.
🔹 Let Go of Labels & Expectations
You don’t need to fit into a box to make others comfortable.
Forget society’s script—write your own story.
Be who you are, not who others expect you to be.
Example: If people always expected you to be “the responsible one,” “the quiet one,” or “the funny one,” allow yourself to break free from those roles.
3. Define Your Own Values & Principles
If you don’t define your values, the world will do it for you. Stand for something—on your own terms.
🔹 What Do You Stand For?
Write down the core principles you live by.
Integrity, independence, kindness, resilience—what matters most to you?
These values should guide your decisions, not trends or peer pressure.
🔹 What Do You Refuse to Tolerate?
Manipulation? Disrespect? Dishonesty?
Set boundaries and don’t let people cross them.
Example: If you refuse to be around negative energy, learn to say no to people who drain you.
🔹 Live Authentically, Even If It’s Unpopular
Some people won’t agree with your choices, and that’s okay.
A strong identity isn’t about pleasing others—it’s about being at peace with yourself.
Example: If you choose to live differently than society expects, own it. Maybe you prefer a quiet, simple life instead of chasing status and material success. That’s your choice.
4. Strengthen Your Mind & Body
A strong sense of self requires a strong foundation—mentally and physically.
🔹 Take Care of Your Health
A well-fed, well-rested, and physically active body supports mental clarity.
Eat well, exercise, and get enough sleep—your body is your fortress.
Example: Instead of fueling yourself with junk food and stress, focus on small, sustainable health changes.
🔹 Master Your Mindset
Doubt, fear, and insecurity are mental roadblocks—train yourself to overcome them.
Read, meditate, or practice mindfulness to develop mental toughness.
Example: Replace negative self-talk with affirmations like “I am in control of my life.”
🔹 Develop Skills & Independence
The more you can do for yourself, the less you rely on others for validation.
Learn a new skill, start a side hustle, or educate yourself on things that interest you.
Example: If you always wanted to start a business, take the first step—research, plan, and take action.
5. Live on Your Own Terms
At the end of the day, reclaiming your identity means living for yourself, not for the world.
🔹 Stop Seeking External Validation
You don’t need permission to be yourself.
The opinions of others do not define your worth.
Example: Instead of seeking approval, ask yourself, Do I feel good about this choice?
🔹 Make Bold Choices
If something isn’t working, change it.
Life is too short to stay stuck in situations that drain you.
Example: If your environment, job, or relationships are holding you back, start making changes—one step at a time.
🔹 Build a Life That Feels Right for You
Whether that means living in a quiet village, traveling, starting a business, or simply finding inner peace—do what makes you happy.
Your life should be a reflection of your choices, not society’s script.
Example: If moving overseas, working remotely, or living off-grid brings you peace, don’t let people’s doubts stop you.
Final Thought: You Are the Author of Your Story
The world will try to write your story for you. Don’t let it. Take back the pen, reclaim your identity, and create a life that reflects who you truly are.
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