Comments by "exnihilo415" (@exnihilo415) on "UNA NOTTE NEL QUARTIERE TRANS DI BANGKOK 🇹🇭" video.

  1. While unfortunately I don't speak Italian, my wife is a Thai ladyboy. The interview English segments were really well done and respectful. Thank you for showing trans people in a positive light, getting to know them and letting them speak about their lives in Thailand. Wishing you the best from my Thai wife and I in California.
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  2.  @capitanandy2535  I don’t discriminate based on gender. I’ve had long term loving relationships with gay men, women and trans women over the course of my life. Like anyone, I just happened to fall in love with a person and she happened to be a Thai trans woman. She’s beautiful, ambitious, hard working, creative and drama free. It’s been a great 20 years together so far. We also don’t want children so we’ll be retiring early to Thailand. Happy to answer any other questions you have. Just ask.
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  3. @@scorrect If that was the case why wouldn’t I choose any of the millions of regular gay guys in the world? Go and ask some actual gay guys if they are romantically and sexually interested in is someone with breasts, long hair, and soft skin wearing makeup. You will discover that gay men are not interested in that. I’m actually bisexual / pansexual. I’ve had long term relationships with gay men, women and trans women over the course of my life. Never any trans men though but that wouldn’t be opposed. I love the person, not the gender.
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  4.  @capacapagir6418  Thank you. We’ve been together for 20 years. It’s been the best decision I ever made. Wishing you the best as well! Thailand is an Amazing place. Be sure to visit often.
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  5.  @fredmoltisanti114  Trans women are women to me. I’m pansexual. My wife is legally female and marriage is a legal license. The country clerk said, “I now pronounce you husband and wife. “ I’ve had long term relationships with gay men, cis women and trans women. I know exactly how gay it isn’t being in a relationship with a trans woman because I’ve been in relations with actual gay men and actual cis women. That seems like a world of experience you’ve never had. If thoughts make you want to puke you should see a doctor. HRT actually changes a person’s smell quite drastically. Clearly you have smelled many trans women on HRT. Trans women smell like cis women. It is androgens like testosterone that give men their musky smell. A trans woman’s skin on HRT is soft just like a woman’s skin since more fat becomes present in the skin. This is all basic endocrinology. My wife’s behavior and actions is very much inside the normal range of women. At the end of the day you can think whatever you like. It doesn’t bother me at all. My wife is a woman to me and that’s all that matters to me.
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  6.  @annikaminina7670  It isn't. Trans women are women to me. What they are to you is up to you. No words you can chain together is going to make me think that my wife is any less of a woman than my mother. Save yourself the effort. I am happy with my wife and my life despite what you think or believe.
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  7.  @capacapagir6418  You should come and visit California. Many parts of California remind me of Italy. Napa valley is similar to Tuscany. Monterey is similar to the Amalfi Coast and Capri. I think you would find a lot to like! You could go surfing near LA in the early morning and go skiing in the mountains in the late afternoon. I’m going to visit Italy this summer myself. I can’t wait!
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  8.  @annikaminina7670  Gender isn’t biology by definition. As such, trans women are women to me. You are welcome to think anything you like, as am I.
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  9.  @annikaminina7670  Nope. I mean exactly what I say. My wife is legally female. Marriage is a legal license. The county clerk said, "I now pronounce you husband and wife." QED.
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  10.  @giovannifalso6342  Actually everyone here has been really nice. It’s not like this everywhere I go online for sure. Lots of folks simply don’t have any real life personal experience with trans women or loving a trans woman so I’m happy to let people know what that’s actually like with whatever questions they may have.
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  11.  @e-zombie  I’m happy in my 20 year relationship and marriage to my trans wife is the point. It is legal and legally valid and is not up for a vote. Rationality cannot tell you who or what you love. The distinction between sex and gender goes back centuries in South Asia and cultures all over the world. The human race is in no danger of going extinct with 7 billion humans roaming the earth. Exactly the opposite is the problem. I am far more interested in helping humans that already exist and than manufacturing new life and new responsibilities. That said, I wish you well.
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  12.  @e-zombie If by ‘shit’ you mean marrying the transgender love of their lives and living happily ever after then that is an unequivocal “yes”. Chances are we’ve been together longer than you’ve been alive.
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  13.  @ot7purplewhale257  Thank you very much. Unfortunately too few guys put themselves out there and stand by the trans women they love. There are so many guys who love trans women on the down low. The main reason I do this is to make the lives of other trans women better by showing other guys that it’s fine to be with and love trans women publicly and not just after dark or in secret. That is the number one complaint I hear from trans women. It’s 2023. Stand by the people you care about and don’t live in fear of the judgement of others: Thanks again for your support! Wishing you all the best in your relationships as well!
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  14.  @ZioTanos  No worries. I'm fine to answer all questions in a straightforward manner, no matter how bad the intentions. I have nothing to hide or feel bad about. They sometimes ask things that others are curious about but are afraid to ask themselves. Thanks for your support!
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  15.  @lucatetta8359  As I mentioned previously, My wife is legally female and marriage is a legal license. The county clerk said, “I now pronounce you husband and wife. She is legally my wife.
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  16.  @adriana-fe4kc  This video isn't about pedophilia which actually is very much illegal in Thailand. Sex criminals should be arrested and charged. That said, there were no scenes in this video of girls under 18. Obviously there are many young but over 18 sex workers on Soi Cowboy. All those bars on Soi Cowboy make sure the girls are of legal age. That said, it is a red light area and they exist in many countries around the world. Obviously Soi Cowboy and Pattaya are not at all representative of all of Thailand and millions of tourists go there for many reasons aside from sex work because Thailand is a top tier tropical paradise destination like Bali or Hawaii.
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  17.  @rambitomone  Hi, Gianni. She was working in a Thai restaurant that I went to quite often for the food and the chill atmosphere. I could hang out and read there after dinner since it wasn’t that busy. I struck up a conversation with my waitress and we got to know each other since the restaurant wasn’t that busy. Eventually we went out and started dating and we fell in love with each other. Thai restaurants that aren’t that busy is my dating tip. You have a captive audience to make small talk and you can see how they really are at work. Happy to answer any other questions you have. Hope you’re out enjoying the great San Diego weather on Memorial Day.
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  18.  @fredmoltisanti114  You can smell anything and everything you like. You brought up the body smell of trans women and I answered based on my knowledge of trans women, cis women, men and endocrinology about why that is so. I'm glad your days of selling powder are behind you. If you're not into trans women, that's fine. We have different things we like and we don't like in our relationship partners. Live your best life.
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  19.  @fwleoo  Faulty analogy. Toilet water contains harmful organic compounds in suspension. My love for my wife does not. The reality of course is that all water on earth has been through countless previous life forms before it ended up in your water bottle. The realty is that the process of using treated wastewater for drinking water is called potable water reuse and is done by many municipalities.
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  20.  @mikethompson3534  Did you read the thread? We've been together for 20 years already. I'll put her middle aged looks up against the average middle aged woman in the US, with no fear whatsoever. She takes great care of herself. Has little bodyfat. Gets lots of exercise. She never phones it in and dresses like a slob and has great fashion sense. She's not afraid to get a little work done to look her best. The hormones work wonders. Or do you mean what happens 20 years after that when we're in our mid's 60's? As if anyone is winning any beauty contests at that age. Rest assured, when we're both in old folks homes in our 80's I'm sure she'll be turning heads of all the octogenarians in the house. Regardless, she'll always be beautiful to me, and that's really what matters. If I only wanted a feminine form that didn't age I'd buy a mannequin.
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  21.  @emptyemptiness8372  Wow. Thank you for writing that and for supporting and defending the katoey kids in the village. It's a difficult life and it really pains me to think of my wife who (with a different roll of the dice of life) could have been trapped by circumstances out of her control and ended up in the exact scenario you describe. Katoey are amazingly sensitive and creative people and they have so many talents that can be put to better use than selling sex. Here's to a better future where men are not stigmatized for loving trans women and they can be loving husbands that these trans girls deserve. Thanks again for your support, it means the world to my wife and I.
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  22.  @frentiz9209  We’ve already covered this, non thread reader. My wife is legally female. Marriage is a legal license. The county clerk said, “I now pronounce you husband and wife.” My spouse is legally my wife. QED.
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  23.  @frentiz9209  It’s all in the eye of the beer holder, my friend. My wife is as much a woman to me as my own mother. What she is to you is up to you. Gender isn’t biology to me. Think whatever you wish and I’ll do the same. What I’m sure of is no collection of words you can possibly piece together is going to change my mind about my wife. Save yourself the time. I’ve had this same conversation thousands of times. Same result. Wishing you the best. Enjoy your day instead.
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  24.  @ot7purplewhale257  I couldn't agree more! Your English is great. I can barely order one espresso in Italian! Ha! Thanks for your support.
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  25.  @azborderlands  As has been explained comprehensively in the thread I’m pansexual. Thanks for your support.
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  26.  @jimmy23456  Vietnam is just a more conservative society with stronger social prohibitions on trans people than the Philippines or Thailand. The harder it is to be trans in any given society the fewer you will see living openly, up to still fairly low per capita natural rate of trans people.
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  27.  @bruttosporcoecattivo  From my perspective gender just isn't biology. It's a social construct, an aesthetic and an identity. Biology is also not fixed as HRT and an orchiectomy has profound endocrinological and physical changes upon the body. My wife is effectively hormonally female. If you don't think that's powerful then you've never looked at NSFW google images of people with complete androgen insensitively syndrome (CAIS). XY chromosomes and they had no idea until puberty. Wide hips. Breasts. Vulva. Female fat deposition and muscularization patterns, et al. So, anyhow, my wife is legally a woman on all her government ID. She's also legally my wife. We're not interested in having kids and so a working reproductive apparatus is actually a liability for us and not a benefit. We're glad not to have it. You are welcome to think absolutely anything you wish about my wife or anyone else, that is your right. I can and will continue to refer to my wife as a woman, which is my right. You are free to disrespect me or think I'm wrong all you wish. That's completely fine. This is not my first day on the internet. Either way, I'm going to continue to be happy with my 20 year relationship with my wife no matter how any conversation ends. I wish you well.
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  28.  @exres4374  I don't mind comments of all types. I've been arguing on the internet prior to web pages. No big thing. :) Thanks for your support.
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  29.  @onnie1968  Many thanks. Hope love finds you as well!
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  30.  @Jay-jb2vr  As has been explained ad nauseam in the thread should you care to read it, I'm pansexual. Rest assured, I'm well aware of what trans women have and don't have. Gender simply isn't biology. As someone that doesn't want kids this is actually a feature. No PMS, no biological clock, no birth control, no accidental pregnancies. Our money is our own and we're looking forward to retiring early in Thailand. Wishing you the best.
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  31.  @bogotario  She’s post op now. I was with her before, during and after her top and bottom surgery which happened at different times and different places. She had bottom surgery in the US and my insurance paid for that as is California law. It’s absurdly expensive in the US, as is a lot of healthcare. She had her breasts done in Thailand just because the knows where a lot of the Miss Tiffany girls get their breasts done and they have a lot of experience doing work on Asian trans girls. Happy to answer any other surgery or sex questions you have, just ask.
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  32.  @Rara-pr9wg  I’ve been over this many times in this thread. My wife is legally a woman. Marriage is a legal license. The county clerk said, “I now pronounce you husband and wife.” She is legally my wife. QED.
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  33.  @spolio8795  You are so welcome! I know exactly how demoralizing it is for trans people reading comments on the internet. I like to be the change I want to see in the world. Too few spouses of trans people speak up and tell the world how awesome their trans partners are to counteract all the negativity and politicization around trans people. Most people don’t know trans people and sadly then take all the negative comments they hear as facts. I’m here to tell my positive story and hopefully it makes people stop and examine their thoughts. Wishing you the best!
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  34. ​ @bruttosporcoecattivo  Cis women are born everyday without a uterus (MRKH) or have PCOS are otherwise, for some reason, infertile. It doesn't make them any less of a woman to me if they are infertile or not or if they choose to have a child or not. Womanhood for me is not at all wrapped up in reproduction, as I have explained. I am not at all concerned about gender ideology and stuff. What I see is an entire class of people who for decades in the west lived depressed lives self medicating with substance abuse living closeted loveless lives because they couldn't actually live their truth in society. That this is finally changing in the west this is an enormous positive sea change for trans people. You can see how much better adjusted trans people are in Thailand because very little hostility falls upon them as trans people have been a part of Thai culture for generations. I wouldn't give Matt Walsh and his disingenuous duplicitous video the time of day. From my point of view, this is the old Karl Rove GOP anti-gay marriage playbook of the early 2000's retooled for the 2020's to gin up and outrage conservative voters and scapegoat a vulnerable minority by pretending the most extreme trans views by bluehairs on twitter are typical ideologies held by trans people at large. If someone doesn't know any trans people personally (and many older conservative people don't) then how would they really know any different. So it goes. I'm not asking that you accept or not accept anything. It's all the same to me. What you do or think is up to you. I'm simply narrating my perspective as someone that has known dozens upon dozens of LGBT people all over the world for over many decades. It seems to resonate with viewers here on this video since most people simply do not run into guys married to Thai trans women everyday.
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  35.  @Mentxhiasleela  Thanks for your comment. It’s for the trans girls out there (and those who love them) that I take the time to comment and take some heat on the internet. I’m going to be fine and my trans wife is going to be fine but as you know trans girls face a lot of hardship and discrimination in this world. To the extent that I can proudly say that I love my wife and it’s fine. We’re regular people living regular lives. For a lot of people their only experience with trans people on the internet is from trans people being upset about something on the news and sadly that’s all that people seem to think that trans people are. Permanently angry and outraged. There is a time and a place for that outrage but the reality of course is that trans people live regular lives in regular relationships and despite the lack of sensational coverage of this, it’s important to show and tell others what our regular lives are like. Only by humanizing our stories and framing them can we win hearts and minds to win substantive change in the court of public opinion and then legislatively. The positive sea change in LGBT lives I’ve seen in my own lifetime has been incredible.
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  36.  @BadApe351  Thanks for your support. I don't mind the haters. They ask good questions sometimes. I've got nothing to hide so I'm happy to answer everything, straight up.
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  37. I’m that fool. We’re happily married and have been together for 21 years. Best decision I ever made.
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  38.  @IntelligentDiscussion  Ah, I see. You used the word “lifestyle” which is typically used by transphobes to malign any and all LGBT people in one way or another, rather than a lifestyle of lower socioeconomic status. You’re talking about structural white collar employment discrimination. I certainly do agree that this is a significant problem in Thai society. That said, there are actually quite a number of doctors, engineers and lawyers who are trans in Thailand. Even some politicians. An enormous handicap is the complete lack of LGBT law in Thailand, but in this context LGBT employment discrimination law is incredibly weak and has no real teeth. Employers face few consequences for LGBT mistreatment. It’s for this reason many LGBT people start their own small businesses so they can be the boss themselves. My wife is a Thai trans woman and we’ve been together for 21 years. Happy to answer any trans Thailand questions you have. Just ask.
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  39.  @AramZero  Thank you very much! Come and visit California, great wine and local food and coastlines and mountains and deserts. Hollywood, Silicon Valley and rural escapes. No place is perfect but it has it all in one big state. There is no place in the US I’d rather be. It’s like the Italy of the US! 😁
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  40.  @benn2354  Sadly TV and much of the internet has learned the sad lesson that ‘offend to trend’ gets the views and the ad revenue. We have to break this cycle somehow or we’re doomed.
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  41.  @PepeCoinMania  Addressed and answered in the thread.
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  42.  @s1lv3rr  This has all been discussed in the thread. Read it over.
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  43.  @ogonnachukwuchristian7048  I’m to divorce my trans wife of 21 happy years that I dearly love more than anyone else in the world who I also want to spend the rest of my life with, just to make a random internet commenter happy?
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  44.  @ogonnachukwuchristian7048  I do not need or want a child of my own blood. I would rather help existing people on this planet rather than manufacturing new life and new responsibilities. The world doesn't need me contributing even more to global overpopulation. If my parents had made the same choice then I wouldn't be here typing this, which would be completely fine by me since I wouldn't have existed. I see no mistake or waste at all in loving my transgender wife. Trans women want and need love too.
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  45.  @ogonnachukwuchristian7048  I'm not religious and as such quoting Proverbs isn't persuasive in the least. I can and will continue to love my transgender wife regardless of what you or your God thinks about it.
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  46.  @TheTird  I am not interested in salvation and I do not believe in your God. I accept all the negative consequences if I am wrong. Thanks for your concern but no thanks.
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  47.  @jamesdoakes4956  Genetics is invisible, gender is social, performative and aesthetics when reproduction isn’t involved. No one is doing karyotype tests to know any genetic facts about anyone. It’s all casual audio and visual inspection and socialization. As you’ve said, Most people never actually have the experience of knowing someone who is trans so they make all sorts of assumptions and justifications about gender identity based on never knowing a trans person. Human love for one other isn’t served by othering. If both parties are consenting adults and are having fun they’re doing it right. Thanks for your support. Have you visited Thailand? Trans girls in Thailand really are quite amazing.
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  48.  @Karavoxx  Nope. My wife is legally female. Marriage is a legal license. The county clerk said, “I now pronounce you husband and wife. “ She is legally my wife.
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  49. There were trans people in south and south east Asia long before Columbus sailed across the Atlantic. Rest assured, are plenty of butch lesbians in Thailand (Toms) that see themselves as not female. My wife is a Thai trans woman and It's clear you've been sucked into conspiracy theories.
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  50. Ask some actual gay men if they like Ladyboys.
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  51. Most Thai trans women are not sex workers. You can see them working regular jobs all over untouristed Thailand. Of the minority that are sex workers, they were almost always trans first and then sex workers second.
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  52. Truth!
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  53. It really depends on the other country you’re comparing Thailand against in terms of LGBT rights and acceptance. Thailand is good but not great. It’s got a long log way to go in terms of LGBT legal rights.
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  54.  @salvini2809  Thanks, man. The LGBT people I know aren’t really all that different than the straight people I know. We all have the same human needs for love and companionship and to have the freedom to live our best life. Wishing you the best wherever you may travel. If you’re in Thailand, stop and talk to a Ladyboy like ProgettoHappiness did. They’re often very interesting people with captivating stories to tell.
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  55.  @rajibsikder3315  Thank you for your support and good luck with your relationships with trans girls. / Grazie per il tuo supporto e buona fortuna con le tue relazioni con le ragazze trans.
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  56.  @embroideredheathen8825  Thank you. I think they were added later after I started this thread.
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  57.  @coder8515  I encourage you to do so. Make it happen! I’ll be happy to watch it and comment on that one as well, as I do on most Thai trans videos on YouTube which cover the full range from excellent to terrible with a normal Gaussian distribution right in the middle. Look under the videos and you’ll probably see me there. I hope to see you there as well.
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  58.  @rycoleung1179  Many thanks to you! Finding the right person no matter what their gender is really the key for a long lasting relationship. Long term compatibility is hard. Wishing you the best in your relationships as well!
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  59.  @kuessebrama  There is a lot more detail in other posts in this thread. We are very happy and in love. We’ve been together now for 21 years. Trans girls need love too. If guys like me wouldn’t love them, who would? The reason anyone (in good faith anyway) marries anyone is because of love. I absolutely positively do not want any children. I want to work hard and retire early and we are in track to do that, retiring in our mid 50’s. Trans women are women to me, I don’t feel anything gay about it in the least. That said, I’m pansexual. I’ve had long term relationships with gay men, trans women and cis women. I know exactly how gay it isn’t being in a relationship with a trans woman because I’ve had long term relationships with gay men and cis women. Happy to answer any other questions you have, just ask.
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  60.  @lowellirish  The need to love and be loved?
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  61.  @axspike  Read the thread. This has been covered comprehensively several times. If you have questions after that, just ask.
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  62.  @Nomerci14  Nope. This has been covered comprehensively in this thread. Read it if you’re curious.
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  63.  @Nomerci14  You’re curious to talk to me. Why not read the thread and see it from my perspective? Or not. You do you.
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  64.  @davidalfonso3042  Thai Ladyboys sure are amazing.
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  65.  @levent4972  Clearly your comment has been translated from another language besides English. I can’t even understand what your opinion is, to be honest.
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  66.  @lucachangretta8020  Someone didn’t read the thread.
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  67.  @MrSombrecoeur  Asked and answered many times in this thread already. Read it over.
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  68.  @ayumin8544  Did you actually read the thread or are you making assumptions based on the top comment? Trans women are women. We’re legally married and been together now for 22 years. We’re going be retiring and living the remainder of our lives together in a few years after a lifetime together. How much more committed can it get?
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  69.  @joshuastites3149  Part luck, part skill! 😁
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  70. Nothing wrong with that. Trans women need love too.
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  71. This video has nothing to do with the US. It’s an Italian talking with Thai ladyboys. There have been trans women / gender pluralistic people all over South and SE Asia long before Columbus sailed the Atlantic. Look it up.
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  72. Agreed. Chang, Leo and Singha are better beers.
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  73. Rest assured they very much do want to look like and act like women.
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  74. Careful, you’ll end up married and living happily ever after at this rate. That’s my story. Best decision I ever made.
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  75. Learn about Pre-exposure prophylaxis (or PrEP) and never worry about HIV again.
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  76. There are English subs.
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  77. Depends what you compare it to of course. The view depends on where you are.
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  78.  @ProgettoHappiness  Indonesian trans people struggling within the confines of hardline Islam.
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  79. Nope. A sizeable minority are though. You can see Thai trans women working regular jobs all over untouristed Thailand. It can seem like more to tourists because they go where the market is and that’s in tourist areas. My wife is a Thai trans woman. If you have any questions, just ask.
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  80.  @crsantin  Happy to answer. I realize that it’s outside the experience of most people. It’s really quite traditional, I would say. I’m almost 50, we’ve been together now with my wife for 22 years and we’re legally married now in California. I’m pansexual (bisexual+) and I’ve actually had long term relationships previously with gay men, non-trans women and trans women both in a monogamous and polyamorous capacity. From that POV, it sure is pretty Leave It To Beaver. My wife likes all the really stereotypical feminine things and modes of being. My ex (non-trans) girlfriends all have declared that she’s significantly more stereotypically feminine than they themselves are. That’s not uncommon, actually. She’s never been the top in any relationship she’s ever had. I knew her before, during and after breast augmentation, HRT, SRS and all legal gender change. We don’t have any interest in kids so from that point of view being in a relationship with a trans girl is pretty ideal. No accidental pregnancies, no birth control hassles. Happy to answer any follow up questions you have, just ask.
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  81. Being gay is fine in Thailand. Trans men are also accepted but it’s a blurrier line between butch lesbians and trans men in Thailand. Men make up the demand for sexworkers and few are interested in trans men, so there is little need for supply. My wife is a Thai trans woman. If you have any questions, just ask.
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  82. This is more about trans women than sex work.
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  83. If only! Sadly not.
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  84. Why not?
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  85. Speak for yourself! 😁
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  86. Is this a serious question? Love is love.
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  87.  @lovethelittlethingsinlife  Obviously we're talking about consenting adults here, not sa.
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  88. These words are used quite interchangeably.
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  89.  @TerribleEnglish  Oh, I’m quite familiar. My wife of 20 years is trans and Thai. I’ve heard every possible term from every possible person. I call people what they want to be called as they are the experts on themselves, not me.
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  90.  @TerribleEnglish  Good luck to you as the Venn diagram based vocabulary enforcement police. People ARE going to call themselves the terms they feel comfortable with based on their own understanding regardless of how you feel about it. A singular noun is only a useful guidepost for meaning at the end of the day. Rest assured, I’ve seen every rule and every rule broken in the LGBT community for the last 40 years both in Thailand in the US. It’s all good.
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  91.  @TerribleEnglish  I get that you think that it is the case there are such rigid boundaries. For some trans girls and their admirers it is, and for others it isn’t. Your view depends on where you are.
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  92.  @blindmown  Thanks for commenting. Too few of us out there making the case for having healthy relationships with Thai trans girls.
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  93. I call people what they want to be called. Doesn't cost me anything.
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  94.  @jean-claudelol563  Ok, your Royal Highness. See how easy that was? Problem solved. Doesn't cost me anything.
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  95.  @jean-claudelol563  Respecting your title unfortunately does not entitle you to my assets, Royal Highness. You are welcome to think I'm rude and disrespectful. That's completely fine. One's right to swing your arms ends just where the other's nose begins, as it were. I'm still going to call you want you want to be called.
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  96.  @jean-claudelol563  Choosing to respect someone’s title and reasonable accommodations therein does not obligate anyone to slavery, your majesty.
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  97.  @jean-claudelol563  Not at all. I call people what they want to be called. That’s what I said in my first reply. You can do exactly as you choose, your majesty.
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  98.  @jean-claudelol563  I will provide people with their title and what I deem to be reasonable accommodations, your majesty.
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  99.  @jean-claudelol563  Nope. It’s a balance between respecting your wishes and respecting my own wishes by providing reasonable accommodations as I deem fit. You are welcome to see that as hypocritical and meaningless but I do not.
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  100.  @jean-claudelol563  I do mean what I say. Trans women are women to me.
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  101.  @jean-claudelol563  Certainly so. We’re all just trying to live our best life.
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  102.  @jean-claudelol563  I have said nothing at all prescriptive in this entire thread, your majesty. This is about what I do and how I choose to address and treat people within my own limits of accommodation, your majesty. You are welcome to be as hateful and hostile as humanly possible towards trans people and call them absolutely anything you wish and to set whatever comfort limits you wish, your majesty.
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  103. Gender identity and sex are completely different things.
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  104.  @monitudor1050  Not at all. Treating LGBT people with respect goes back to ancient times. It’s only modernity that has taught the world to hate others for how they live and love.
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  105. Load them on trains, eh?
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  106. Why is that?
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  107.  @epsilonxvi5675  I'm in the US with my Thai transgender wife. Rest assured, there is wide range of beautiful and ugly trans people in the US.
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  108. Even Bonobos engage in sex work. It’s as old as time.
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  109. Sure but not equal density everywhere.
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  110. It is pretty great. Especially if you don’t want kids, like myself.
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  111. Sad and grotesque? Why so hostile?
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  112. There are subtitles.
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  113. Peace and Harmony is a two way street. People get what they give. To pretend that Thai stores and Thai social media and Thai schools don’t have pride related events happening and ladyboys using the women’s bathroom and trans women transitioning during adolescence is to simply not be paying attention in Thailand. The difference is that in Thailand one political party is not trying to gin up their base by scapegoating LGBT people to get voters outraged and and to the polls. It’s Karl Rove’s anti gay marriage campaign of the early 2000’s in new clothes.
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  114. On the contrary, trans women have vastly lower risks of prostate cancer because of HRT.
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  115. Don’t threaten me with a good time! 😁
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  116. Actually very few trans women have prostate cancer because of HRT.
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  117. Here’s to hoping. My trans girl and I have been waiting over a decade to be able to legally marry in Thailand. Know hope!
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  118. There are English subtitles.
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  119. As wrinkled as the other 75 year old women in villages.
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  120. You’ll detect 90% but the rest you won’t. By definition if you can’t detect you’ll never even realize.
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  121. Thai trans women are pretty amazing. So much so I ended up marrying one. Best decision I ever made.
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  122.  @Ashis_Kumar.  It is true. Ask me anything. I have lots of marriage pics but they aren’t on the internet. Too many haters out there.
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  123.  @Ashis_Kumar.  If you are curious one of the top comments on this video is mine and therein I answer bunch of common questions. Cheers.
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  124. What impact does that have? They have the freedom to live as they want, same as you.
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  125. Take Prep. Problem solved.
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  126. Only if you're lucky.
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  127.  @jackdoe3889  Seems pretty unlucky to me. My wife is a Thai trans woman and we've been together 21 years. Marrying her was the best decision I ever made. That said, if you're having fun no matter what you're doing, you're doing it right. YOLO!
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  128.  @jackdoe3889  That’s a stretch. I said it was unlucky to me. I also said if you’re having fun no matter what you’re doing then you’re doing it right. I fail to see the intolerance evidence presented.
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  129.  @jackdoe3889  I will not stop merrily jesting about the sexual practices of others. You should learn from this and develop a sense of humor.
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  130.  @jackdoe3889  No, Ask yourself how you could feel reading a comment that Ladyboys are a real pain in the ass. I tried to deflect it into humor and you’re still being a shrill killjoy maligning Thai people in the process.
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  131. 2nd floor of Nana comes pretty close, no?
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  132. Americans too. My wife is a Thai ladyboy.
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  133. Trans people are people too.
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  134.  @nixworld767  That's wonderful. How long have you been visiting Thailand and your Cambodian ladyboy girlfriend? I know that can get really expensive really quick going back and forth from the west. Are you a digital nomad or retiring to Thailand? I know employment can be difficult for Cambodians living in Thailand and doubly so for trans women. I hope that she's able to find a good job there. Trans girls are amazing girlfriends, in my experience. Wishing you the best.
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  135.  @fwleoo  We get it, your job in this thread is to disparage and diminish the lives of trans people and those who love them. Why is my marriage to my trans wife or nixworld767’s relationship with his trans girlfriend worthy of such venom?
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  136.  @brucenatelee  Stick around long enough and you’ll discover instances of everyone hating everyone. Men abuse and attack trans women more than anyone else and rest assured because of this plenty of trans women meet your description.
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  137.  @bettycocker2226  As I mentioned previously in this thread, they weren’t there originally on this video when I posted the comment.
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  138.  @azhidahaka2844  Transcending gender, ethnicity and culture. It’s certainly kept things interesting over the years. Best decision I ever made. Thank you for your support and I wish you the best as well. I know the Netherlands has always been on the vanguard of LGBT rights, being the first country in the world to legalize same sex marriage. Without people like you in the Netherlands that got the ball rolling it could have been a lot longer before laws changed much later in the US. Thank you again.
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  139.  @bettycocker2226  No worries. I’ve been at this thread for a couple months already. Cheers.
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  140.  @coder8515  Perfect is the enemy of the good.
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  141.  @coder8515  Is there room for improvement? Yes. Is this a perfect video? No. Are most commentators reacting positively to the video and learning positively about Thai trans women? Yes. Is that better than nothing? Yes. Thus the perfect being the enemy of the good.
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  142.  @yaylah7314  I had no idea you could ski in Sicily. Thank you. Can’t wait to check it out someday. I’ve never been south of Rome.
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  143.  @marcosborges5117  My wife is legally female.
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  144.  @laurapaolino212  Thanks for your support. Thailand is an amazing place, I hope you can go back and see someplace new in Thailand. So many cool places to visit from northern jungles, to southern islands, eastern farms and urban cosmopolitan living. I know the word ladyboy has as completely different negative subtext in the west but it's something of a homegrown English word that Thai people have put together from English words they already knew. Lady and boy. It's just an easy compound noun (like mailbox or doorknob) for non native English speakers to remember and say although transgender is becoming more commonly used now.
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  145.  @kimchi_b  There are indeed a lot of trans women per capita in Thailand. Of course it’s worth putting this “a lot” in context. In my estimations, we’re only really talking about a percent or two of the population, 1 or 2 in 100. Sadly, there are no actual trans (or LGBT) stats in Thailand so what we have are just guesstimates. A lot of tourists mistakenly think it’s a lot higher because it does sure seems like it on walking street, Nana and downtown Bangkok where trans sex workers congregate there from all over Thailand. If you go to a Thai fishing village it can seem like all Thai people are boating and fishing experts after that, but the reality is very much otherwise. As for why Thailand has as many trans women as it does it’s a combination of factors. High Thai Social tolerance over a long period of time and in other counties low social tolerance over a long period of time. The real question for me is why have so many other counties treat their trans citizens so badly over the prior decades. Thailand is also 95%+ Buddhist and was never colonized by an intolerant Abrahamic religion.
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  146.  @kimchi_b  I’m pansexual. I’ve had long term relationships with gay men, cis women and trans women. My wife was very early in her transition when I met her. Most people were not clocking her as a woman at that time. That said, I don’t really feel particularly romantically differently about someone who is an effeminate gay guy and a femme trans woman. Generally, They’re generally both the same sensitive souls with similar modes of expression that I find attractive on their own merits. For me people often exist in a femme and butch spectrum regardless of biology. I can make things work with whatever you have in your pants. I’m romantically compatible with a huge percentage of the population at the end of the day. If you have any other questions, just ask.
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  147.  user-op8lh8nr8i  Not even. Read the entire thread for all the details.
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  148.  @Ruben-it3lk  Then I highly recommend visiting Thailand. If you want some Thai trans girl dating advice, just ask.
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  149.  @malachia8590  No worries. Thanks for your support. I've got nothing to hide or be ashamed about so it's no big deal answering all questions and comments as they come.
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  150.  @elsenordelhambre1977  It depends on the trans women and cis women you’re comparing against each other. Your experience is not my experience.
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  151.  @annettespradlin4945  You’re describing every government and corporate board on earth. 😁 Obviously sexwork is doing that by definition but most Thai trans women are not sexworkers. You can see Thai trans women working regular jobs all over untouristed Thailand.
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  152.  @CRS8392  Thanks, Sergio. There are really two parts to this. Part of it is internal about realizing that being different is ok and realizing others having different opinions of you is also ok. One changes hearts and minds by example. The other part of being able to have this level of freedom is external and is shaped by the attitudes of broader society. I purposely moved to a very progressive place in California because it is vastly different from the very LGBT hostile place where I grew up. It’s all well and good to be your own person but if you life somewhere where you’re openly hated and a small percent of people around you would rather see you dead than alive then being open and carefree is monumentally idiotic. My father was one such person. When I came out to him about my (then) girlfriend he never spoke to me again and went to his grave thinking terrible things about me. I understand the closet very well and the suffocating toxic safety it provides and vowed to live my life elsewhere where my wife and I can live in relative safety with honesty in our community.
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  153.  @desertrose88  It is within your rights to feel as insulted as you wish about my wife for existing as a woman in this world. That certainly is not my intention to insult you. For me gender simply isn’t biology and biology isn’t what defines realness. Trans men are as much a man to me as I am. Trans women are as much a woman to me as my own mother. I’m not asking you to understand anything. You’re absolutely welcome to think anything you like, as am I. If you really want to understand why so many trans women think so from their perspective then I encourage you to get to know more trans women personally so you can hear it from them.
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  154.  @ginger_breadman  Read the thread and you’ll find out all these details and more!
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  155.  @ginger_breadman  Says the person asking for comparative c0ck measurements. Oh, I know, you're too busy curing cancer over there. :)
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  156.  @enzobevilacqua6328  Nope. As has been comprehensively explained in the thread my wife is legally female, marriage is a legal license and we are legally married. The county clerk said, “I now pronounce you husband and wife.”
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  157.  @GS-en1nz  Anytime. Laughter is the best medicine. My trans wife and I laugh together all the time. Happy holidays.
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  158.  @maurice2014  My wife and I have been happy together now for 22 years. What’s the problem, officer?
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  159.  @joshtaylor4517  That's quite a compliment. Thank you!
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  160.  @pete531  Read the thread to find out.
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  161.  @moonjumper66  What is wrong with our world? Oh my that’s a tall order. Poverty, disease, a lack of educational opportunities, greed trumping charity, the list goes on and on. I fail to see how my 22 year relationship to my trans wife falls into this category. I’m happy. She’s happy. What’s the problem, officer?
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  162.  @someoneelse6934  Already asked and answered previously in the thread.
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  163.  @asiantaurus1424  I consider ladybugs to be small beetles. 😁 The words ladyboy and trans are used interchangeably and non-pejoratively in Thailand.
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  164.  @nomadicsouls3290  Thanks man! Appreciate it!
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  165.  @Redcouriercat  Correct. Already covered many times in the thread.
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  166.  @esthersanchez5261  Many thanks for your lovely comment. Wishing you the best!
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  167.  @antonellacozzi408  Gender identity isn’t biology. It doesn’t fall apart when looking in a mirror at genitals for me at all. A pre-op trans woman is as much a woman to me as my own mother. You’re welcome to believe that bisexuals and pansexuals like myself do exist but it’s pretty clear to me that you have very little experience with LGBT people in real life.
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  168.  @seanjosh4857  Many thanks, Sean.
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  169.  @gilbertokoxx3559  I do IT for a living so I’m infinitely patient with insane user requests. It isn’t for them, it’s for any trans women reading this that they are seen and respected and that there are decent guys out there who can and will love them for who they are. It’s also for those guys who are actually curious to know that life with a Thai trans woman is like. Cheers.
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  170.  @JamesSheba-l2s  I’m honestly disgusted by transphobia but to each their own.
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  171.  @jessicatovar7190  Why thank you for your support.
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  172.  @Foreignmonk34  Exactly right. How straight is it to want to date someone like Buck Angel? Heh. Thanks for your support.
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  173.  @maxwilliam5240  It certainly has been. Is that funny to you? If so, why?
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  174.  @sayansen0361  Many thanks to you for saying so. Here's to wishing you all the best in your relationships as well.
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  175.  @sofiaglove  I’m glad that you liked it. Here’s to wishing you every success in your relationships as well!
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  176.  @kateron6711  Read the thread for all the details.
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  177.  @JulieWillard-v2y  I would agree! Italy is a beautiful country.
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  178. Exactly. Also a lot of fun to hang around with.
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  179. Not to me.
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  180. Have you spent much time in Thailand? This is the term most often used there. I understand it’s pejorative in the west but really isn’t in Thailand where it’s an easy world for Thai novice level English speakers to say and pronounce. You can hear Thai trans women in Thailand using the term all the time.
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  181.  @sandralarwin2023  I’m simply married to a Thai trans woman. This is not my channel. I’m just telling you how it is in Thailand.
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  182. Ok, if you insist.
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