Comments by "exnihilo415" (@exnihilo415) on "Dr. Phil" channel.

  1. Being devastated because someone is trans? Talk about fragility. Supporting your own kids just isn’t that hard.
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  2. He literally called Kristin Beck an “it” during the segment. You’ll excuse me if I don’t cry tears for his transphobia literally dismantling his own family live on television. If he keeps this up he won’t have her in his life, at all. While I’m forgiving of shock within the first few weeks, beyond that it’s just active hostility. It seems to me that the father has known about this for much longer than that.
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  3.  @jake42731  Nope. It’s a social construct and identity and the participants are identified by casual visual inspection. No one is administering karyotype tests on the sidewalk before they drop pronouns.
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  4.  @hulahula6182  She’s real to me and many others that support trans people. She can legally change her gender. If she’s not really a woman to you, that’s fine. She’ll never talk to you anyway.
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  5.  @fabianatrindade56  It’s pretty complicated in real life. My father disowned me for being bisexual and dating a trans girl. For him that was the moral equivalent of being a serial killer and I was beyond redemption. I don’t doubt that he loved me in his flawed thinking. The power of homophobia and transphobia can be incredible for some people in some communities.
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  6.  @jake42731  Gender isn’t biology.
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  7.  @Bluecatwing  Hormones do change endocrinology and that is biology. No one is suggesting that trans women can change their chromosomes, obviously. That's not technology we currently have. Trans women can change their legal gender and legal ID however and be treated as a woman legally. Trans women simply want to live their lives as a woman and be treated as a woman by those they love. If some people (clearly you) are not on board with that then fine they're just not a part of the set of people that the trans person will likely associate with. Everyone has people they don't want to associate with in life for various reasons.
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  8. The trouble is, love isn’t enough for some transphobic parents and they end up disowning their children.
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  9.  @hulahula6182  Trans women nearly never get prostate cancer, and the reason is testosterone suppression. Cis women also have a prostate but it's called the Skene's gland and that too can become cancerous. The body works on a fairly simple endocrinological mechanism to differentiate a number of morphological factors. The Y chromosome does a lot less than people presume that it does. Trans women can grow breasts and even breastfeed. If a trans women goes on puberty blockers before puberty and estrogen afterwards her body and bone structure will never undergo the masculinization effects of testosterones, and that includes bone structure. At the end of the day I see gender as social construct, not a biological one. Feel free to see it otherwise.
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  10. How about a harder question: How does anyone know anything? Trans women just want to be seen as women, do feminine things and think of themselves as women and take steps to femininize themselves including hormones. That's all it is. My wife is a trans woman. We've been married for many years.
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  11. I believe he won’t be able to overcome his socially conditioned transphobia and he’ll end up disowning his daughter because of the social shame surrounding him because of her. He already called the other trans woman an “it” on the same show.
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  12. The transphobe’s worst nightmare. It’s not that big of a deal. No matter their gender they’re still the same person, and your child.
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  13. No respect for the trans girl, though. No wonder trans women in Somalia are afraid for their lives and spend their lives in the closet in a depressed state.
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  14.  @blackhammer7400  I encourage you to be as disrespectful as humanly possible. Rest assured, I’ve seen it all. I can take it. Do your worst. My wife is legally female. The country clerk said, “I now pronounce you husband and wife.” I see trans women as women. You’re welcome to think whatever you wish. It’s not going to impact my relationship with my wife and/or how I view gender. I have a lifetime of experience as a bisexual dating cis women, trans women and gay men. I know exactly how gay it isn’t being in a relationship with a trans women because I’ve been in relationships with gay men. Chances are that’s not first hand experience you’ve actually had yourself.
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  15. She can be who she is, but it doesn’t mean that her father will ever come around to accepting it or wanting to associate with her. That’s a reality that a lot of LGBT people face. Not for nothing is the homelessness rate for LGBT people far higher than the general population. The takeaway lesson is of someone isn’t ready to have LGBT kids, then don’t have kids at all.
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  16. Trans people can lead full, productive and happy lives if the people around them aren't discriminatory hateful transphobic jackasses. My wife is a trans woman and we've been happily married for many years. It's not that uncommon these days.
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  17.  @mohammednoor6439  Not that you would ever know about. A sizable percentage of every population are LGBT. They are just hiding it because of hostility and discrimination.
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  18.  @blackhammer7400  My wife is not a man to me. What she is to you is completely up to you. Free will and all. I'm not looking for or are interested in your respect. Despise me with every fiber of your being if you like. Biology is not important to me in the least as a determiner of gender. To me gender is in the mind and not the body. There are even feminine robots and female voicemail systems with synthesized voices which are completely inorganic. They are under the broad umbrella of female to me and to me everyone has the right to self determine their gender identity and express their gender as they wish. I'm going to continue to espouse these beliefs. You have your beliefs and I have mine. You don't get to determine what I say just as I don't get to determine what you say.
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  19.  @CountryWatchdog  We really have no idea if the father actually ultimately accepted his daughter or they went their separate ways. I’ve seen it go both ways, many times. It’s easy to go along with the host on television when you don’t have the language to articulate your anti-trans position. My money is on the father not being able to handle the scorn heaped upon him by transphobic friends and family and he disowns her. His reactions didn’t come from nowhere. It certainly is the most people currently will have a difficult time accepting their trans kids. That said, personal experiences interacting with trans people and a cultural awareness of trans issues will turn that majority into a minority over time.
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  20. I always find it suspect when someone is so unfamiliar with this topic they don’t even realize there are no transgender men in this video. You have the term backwards. Consult a dictionary.
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  21. Because the father obviously knows little to nothing about transgender people.
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  22. There are trans people happily living their lives all over the world. I don’t know why you don’t think it’s possible that trans people can also be a part of God’s plan.
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  23.  jeff Jeffos  Traumatized for life because their child is trans? You don’t see how transphobic that is?
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  24.  @Bluecatwing  Gender for me is in the mind and not the body and it's a social role about how you want to be seen and how you see yourself. As such, Trans women are fully women to me. You can think whatever you wish but I'm going to be here supporting trans people in their gender identity because they are the experts on themselves, not me. Treating them how they want to be treated, seen and addressed costs me nothing and helps them live a life worth living where they are accepted and in the aggregate helps them be gainfully employed because employers can see that others accept them. There is nothing illogical or unscientific about this. I neither know nor care what anyone's chromosomes look like. I simply want trans people to do well in life and not be rejected or misgendered at every turn so it's a life worth living for them.
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  25. The compassion for her was buried under their transphobia.
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  26.  @unknownyoutuber3422  It takes some time but this isn’t the first time he’s known about this. After some point it becomes willful hostile ignorance. I would have had more empathy but he literally called Kristin Beck an “it” during the segment. He’s crossed the line into transphobia at that point. I’d bet they both went their separate ways not long after this. Those strong opinions of his didn’t come from nowhere and I really doubt he’s going to stand up to the endemic trans hostility in his community and risk ostracization himself.
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  27. He apologized?
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  28. The question is, what do you do after? Do you disown your son or embrace your daughter? I’ve seen it go either way - many times. This isn’t comptroller brand new for the father. I think the father is well on his way to disowning his daughter.
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  29.  @goosebump91  In fact he just wasn’t exposed to this on live television. It was recent but he knew about it prior to the show. You’re welcome to empathize with his transphobia causing him such anxiety but I don’t. He called Kristin Beck an “it”. I don’t see this ending well, he just had no language to challenge Phil with his anti-trans position. Not every story has a happy ending. I’ve seen these go both ways, many times. My own father never spoke to me again until he died after he learned I was dating a trans girl. We have no idea how this story actually turned out.
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  30. Just imagine the transphobia it would take to not support your own kids.
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  31. The evidence is that the people with those brains want to live life as women. And they have the backing of every major professional medical organization including the APA, AMA, and WHO supporting them in their transition BECAUSE it leads to better life outcomes than doing anything else. If you have a problem with that, take it up with those professional medical organizations.
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  32.  @Lander02  Every licensed doctor is going to assist the trans daughter in her transition. It’s the current standard of care endorsed by every professional medical organization. AMA, APA and WHO. You do know that, right?
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  33.  @heathertackett7956  Thanks for sharing your story. It's an important one that people don't understand until they have direct experience themselves.
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  34. If you’d disown your kids and conditionally love them, don’t have kids.
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  35.  @lance.da.legend9837  Point being is that that kind of hostile negative parental attitude drives trans kids to secrecy and suicide. Why not simply accept that some kids are trans and support them with a doctor’s guidance so they can grow up in the gender they want to be?
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  36.  @Lander02  How would that even work? Water boarding until female? Have you talked with many trans women before?
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  37.  @datboigonzo879  I’m bisexual. I’ve dated cis women, trans women and gay men. I know exactly how gay it isn’t to date a trans woman because I’ve dated gay men and cis women: That seems like a wealth of experience you’ve never had personally. My wife is a woman to me and to all our friends and family. She’s legally female, all her Offical ID says female. the country clerk said “I now pronounce you husband and wife.” You’re welcome to think whatever you wish. Gender for me is in the mind, not the body. Feel free to disagree.
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  38.  @Uncle4T  Of course anyone can do whatever they want up to the limit of the law but I’m under no obligation to “respect their morals” as you directed. Why would I respect someone that disrespects me?
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  39. A small percentage of the population all over the world is trans, has been trans and will be trans. It’s just the way it is. Not that big of a deal. Just love your child and support them, same as ever.
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  40. No empathy for the trans daughter, I see.
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  41.  @Uncle4T  If I married a black women and the racists I knew didn't agree with that, I'm to respect their racism? Nah. Hard pass.
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  42.  @callmelou5397  Can you explain why? Family would be upset? Friends would be upset? What would happen to you if you stood by your child in their decision?
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  43.  @Iciwitty  She’s a woman to me and to millions of others that support trans people.
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  44.  @lance.da.legend9837  If you aren’t ok with someone’s fundamental state of being then yes you are creating a hostile environment. How tolerable do you think it would be growing up on a home where your parents think you are their “worst nightmare”? Plenty of trans kids decide that it’s just not worth the struggle and take their own life. If you can’t handle the idea of potentially having LGBT kids, then don’t have kids.
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  45. Wicked awesome, that is. Obviously everyone watching the video knows Phil supports trans people. Phil and all professional medical organizations support transgender people and their transitions: APA, AMA, and WHO.
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  46. How would that help anything? She’s just be going to be trans with even less support and more emotional scarring to take through life. Respecting others really isn’t that hard.
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  47.  @mufidamaya6874  We have no idea about their relationship before or what happened afterwards. I’m not giving the guy a break until he demonstrates that he can accept his daughter. You can tolerate transphobia all you like but I won’t.
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  48. Way to have conditional love. Why have kids at all?
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  49.  @DrNordo  Not even. I’m bisexual and I’m legally married to a trans woman who is legally female.
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  50.  @hulahula6182  Ironically enough, if you knew your history you’d know the Nazi book burnings we’re centered on burning LGBT research titles. Look it up. Institut für Sexualwissenschaft. I’m sure you’ll find plenty to like about that.
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