Comments by "exnihilo415" (@exnihilo415) on "Helping A Father Come To Terms With His Transgender Daughter" video.

  1. Being devastated because someone is trans? Talk about fragility. Supporting your own kids just isn’t that hard.
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  2. He literally called Kristin Beck an “it” during the segment. You’ll excuse me if I don’t cry tears for his transphobia literally dismantling his own family live on television. If he keeps this up he won’t have her in his life, at all. While I’m forgiving of shock within the first few weeks, beyond that it’s just active hostility. It seems to me that the father has known about this for much longer than that.
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  3.  @jake42731  Nope. It’s a social construct and identity and the participants are identified by casual visual inspection. No one is administering karyotype tests on the sidewalk before they drop pronouns.
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  4.  @hulahula6182  She’s real to me and many others that support trans people. She can legally change her gender. If she’s not really a woman to you, that’s fine. She’ll never talk to you anyway.
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  5.  @fabianatrindade56  It’s pretty complicated in real life. My father disowned me for being bisexual and dating a trans girl. For him that was the moral equivalent of being a serial killer and I was beyond redemption. I don’t doubt that he loved me in his flawed thinking. The power of homophobia and transphobia can be incredible for some people in some communities.
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  6.  @jake42731  Gender isn’t biology.
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  7.  @Bluecatwing  Hormones do change endocrinology and that is biology. No one is suggesting that trans women can change their chromosomes, obviously. That's not technology we currently have. Trans women can change their legal gender and legal ID however and be treated as a woman legally. Trans women simply want to live their lives as a woman and be treated as a woman by those they love. If some people (clearly you) are not on board with that then fine they're just not a part of the set of people that the trans person will likely associate with. Everyone has people they don't want to associate with in life for various reasons.
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  8. The trouble is, love isn’t enough for some transphobic parents and they end up disowning their children.
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  9.  @hulahula6182  Trans women nearly never get prostate cancer, and the reason is testosterone suppression. Cis women also have a prostate but it's called the Skene's gland and that too can become cancerous. The body works on a fairly simple endocrinological mechanism to differentiate a number of morphological factors. The Y chromosome does a lot less than people presume that it does. Trans women can grow breasts and even breastfeed. If a trans women goes on puberty blockers before puberty and estrogen afterwards her body and bone structure will never undergo the masculinization effects of testosterones, and that includes bone structure. At the end of the day I see gender as social construct, not a biological one. Feel free to see it otherwise.
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  10. How about a harder question: How does anyone know anything? Trans women just want to be seen as women, do feminine things and think of themselves as women and take steps to femininize themselves including hormones. That's all it is. My wife is a trans woman. We've been married for many years.
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  11. I believe he won’t be able to overcome his socially conditioned transphobia and he’ll end up disowning his daughter because of the social shame surrounding him because of her. He already called the other trans woman an “it” on the same show.
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  12. The transphobe’s worst nightmare. It’s not that big of a deal. No matter their gender they’re still the same person, and your child.
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  13. No respect for the trans girl, though. No wonder trans women in Somalia are afraid for their lives and spend their lives in the closet in a depressed state.
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  14.  @blackhammer7400  I encourage you to be as disrespectful as humanly possible. Rest assured, I’ve seen it all. I can take it. Do your worst. My wife is legally female. The country clerk said, “I now pronounce you husband and wife.” I see trans women as women. You’re welcome to think whatever you wish. It’s not going to impact my relationship with my wife and/or how I view gender. I have a lifetime of experience as a bisexual dating cis women, trans women and gay men. I know exactly how gay it isn’t being in a relationship with a trans women because I’ve been in relationships with gay men. Chances are that’s not first hand experience you’ve actually had yourself.
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  15. She can be who she is, but it doesn’t mean that her father will ever come around to accepting it or wanting to associate with her. That’s a reality that a lot of LGBT people face. Not for nothing is the homelessness rate for LGBT people far higher than the general population. The takeaway lesson is of someone isn’t ready to have LGBT kids, then don’t have kids at all.
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  16. Trans people can lead full, productive and happy lives if the people around them aren't discriminatory hateful transphobic jackasses. My wife is a trans woman and we've been happily married for many years. It's not that uncommon these days.
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  17.  @mohammednoor6439  Not that you would ever know about. A sizable percentage of every population are LGBT. They are just hiding it because of hostility and discrimination.
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  18.  @blackhammer7400  My wife is not a man to me. What she is to you is completely up to you. Free will and all. I'm not looking for or are interested in your respect. Despise me with every fiber of your being if you like. Biology is not important to me in the least as a determiner of gender. To me gender is in the mind and not the body. There are even feminine robots and female voicemail systems with synthesized voices which are completely inorganic. They are under the broad umbrella of female to me and to me everyone has the right to self determine their gender identity and express their gender as they wish. I'm going to continue to espouse these beliefs. You have your beliefs and I have mine. You don't get to determine what I say just as I don't get to determine what you say.
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  19.  @CountryWatchdog  We really have no idea if the father actually ultimately accepted his daughter or they went their separate ways. I’ve seen it go both ways, many times. It’s easy to go along with the host on television when you don’t have the language to articulate your anti-trans position. My money is on the father not being able to handle the scorn heaped upon him by transphobic friends and family and he disowns her. His reactions didn’t come from nowhere. It certainly is the most people currently will have a difficult time accepting their trans kids. That said, personal experiences interacting with trans people and a cultural awareness of trans issues will turn that majority into a minority over time.
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  20. I always find it suspect when someone is so unfamiliar with this topic they don’t even realize there are no transgender men in this video. You have the term backwards. Consult a dictionary.
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  21. Because the father obviously knows little to nothing about transgender people.
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  22. There are trans people happily living their lives all over the world. I don’t know why you don’t think it’s possible that trans people can also be a part of God’s plan.
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  23.  jeff Jeffos  Traumatized for life because their child is trans? You don’t see how transphobic that is?
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  24.  @Bluecatwing  Gender for me is in the mind and not the body and it's a social role about how you want to be seen and how you see yourself. As such, Trans women are fully women to me. You can think whatever you wish but I'm going to be here supporting trans people in their gender identity because they are the experts on themselves, not me. Treating them how they want to be treated, seen and addressed costs me nothing and helps them live a life worth living where they are accepted and in the aggregate helps them be gainfully employed because employers can see that others accept them. There is nothing illogical or unscientific about this. I neither know nor care what anyone's chromosomes look like. I simply want trans people to do well in life and not be rejected or misgendered at every turn so it's a life worth living for them.
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  25. The compassion for her was buried under their transphobia.
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  26.  @unknownyoutuber3422  It takes some time but this isn’t the first time he’s known about this. After some point it becomes willful hostile ignorance. I would have had more empathy but he literally called Kristin Beck an “it” during the segment. He’s crossed the line into transphobia at that point. I’d bet they both went their separate ways not long after this. Those strong opinions of his didn’t come from nowhere and I really doubt he’s going to stand up to the endemic trans hostility in his community and risk ostracization himself.
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  27. He apologized?
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  28. The question is, what do you do after? Do you disown your son or embrace your daughter? I’ve seen it go either way - many times. This isn’t comptroller brand new for the father. I think the father is well on his way to disowning his daughter.
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  29.  @goosebump91  In fact he just wasn’t exposed to this on live television. It was recent but he knew about it prior to the show. You’re welcome to empathize with his transphobia causing him such anxiety but I don’t. He called Kristin Beck an “it”. I don’t see this ending well, he just had no language to challenge Phil with his anti-trans position. Not every story has a happy ending. I’ve seen these go both ways, many times. My own father never spoke to me again until he died after he learned I was dating a trans girl. We have no idea how this story actually turned out.
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  30. Just imagine the transphobia it would take to not support your own kids.
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  31. The evidence is that the people with those brains want to live life as women. And they have the backing of every major professional medical organization including the APA, AMA, and WHO supporting them in their transition BECAUSE it leads to better life outcomes than doing anything else. If you have a problem with that, take it up with those professional medical organizations.
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  32.  @Lander02  Every licensed doctor is going to assist the trans daughter in her transition. It’s the current standard of care endorsed by every professional medical organization. AMA, APA and WHO. You do know that, right?
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  33.  @heathertackett7956  Thanks for sharing your story. It's an important one that people don't understand until they have direct experience themselves.
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  34. If you’d disown your kids and conditionally love them, don’t have kids.
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  35.  @lance.da.legend9837  Point being is that that kind of hostile negative parental attitude drives trans kids to secrecy and suicide. Why not simply accept that some kids are trans and support them with a doctor’s guidance so they can grow up in the gender they want to be?
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  36.  @Lander02  How would that even work? Water boarding until female? Have you talked with many trans women before?
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  37.  @datboigonzo879  I’m bisexual. I’ve dated cis women, trans women and gay men. I know exactly how gay it isn’t to date a trans woman because I’ve dated gay men and cis women: That seems like a wealth of experience you’ve never had personally. My wife is a woman to me and to all our friends and family. She’s legally female, all her Offical ID says female. the country clerk said “I now pronounce you husband and wife.” You’re welcome to think whatever you wish. Gender for me is in the mind, not the body. Feel free to disagree.
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  38.  @Uncle4T  Of course anyone can do whatever they want up to the limit of the law but I’m under no obligation to “respect their morals” as you directed. Why would I respect someone that disrespects me?
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  39. A small percentage of the population all over the world is trans, has been trans and will be trans. It’s just the way it is. Not that big of a deal. Just love your child and support them, same as ever.
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  40. No empathy for the trans daughter, I see.
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  41.  @Uncle4T  If I married a black women and the racists I knew didn't agree with that, I'm to respect their racism? Nah. Hard pass.
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  42.  @callmelou5397  Can you explain why? Family would be upset? Friends would be upset? What would happen to you if you stood by your child in their decision?
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  43.  @Iciwitty  She’s a woman to me and to millions of others that support trans people.
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  44.  @lance.da.legend9837  If you aren’t ok with someone’s fundamental state of being then yes you are creating a hostile environment. How tolerable do you think it would be growing up on a home where your parents think you are their “worst nightmare”? Plenty of trans kids decide that it’s just not worth the struggle and take their own life. If you can’t handle the idea of potentially having LGBT kids, then don’t have kids.
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  45. Wicked awesome, that is. Obviously everyone watching the video knows Phil supports trans people. Phil and all professional medical organizations support transgender people and their transitions: APA, AMA, and WHO.
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  46. How would that help anything? She’s just be going to be trans with even less support and more emotional scarring to take through life. Respecting others really isn’t that hard.
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  47.  @mufidamaya6874  We have no idea about their relationship before or what happened afterwards. I’m not giving the guy a break until he demonstrates that he can accept his daughter. You can tolerate transphobia all you like but I won’t.
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  48. Way to have conditional love. Why have kids at all?
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  49.  @DrNordo  Not even. I’m bisexual and I’m legally married to a trans woman who is legally female.
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  50.  @hulahula6182  Ironically enough, if you knew your history you’d know the Nazi book burnings we’re centered on burning LGBT research titles. Look it up. Institut für Sexualwissenschaft. I’m sure you’ll find plenty to like about that.
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  51.  @Iciwitty  Gender isn’t biology.
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  52.  @lance.da.legend9837  I’m a man and I’d be completely fine if my child was trans. I know some trans people and it’s not that big of a deal. Freaking out and disowning your trans child does not make the world a better place, for you, for them and for others in society. Going to the doctor and consulting with them about how best to proceed is the best prudent course of action.
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  53. Because God is a fairy tale and more people are realizing that believing in supernatural foolishness makes you a fool. Burning bushes. Talking snakes. The ark. Water into wine. Give us a break.
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  54.  @mufidamaya6874  My empathy ended when he called Kristin Beck an “it” during the segment. That crossed the line from ignorance into hostility at that point and my charitability ended. We actually don't know the reason that he came to the show. Maybe the allure of an all expenses paid trip to the studio was reason enough. He said he's close minded, sure, but he likely just didn't have the language to defend his transphobic position to a doctor lives in front of a studio audience. We didn't exactly hear that he was interested in being open minded. That "Yes "at the end felt very forced. I'm LGBT, my father disowned me and never spoke to me again and then he died. I understand extremely well how this father and my own father came to be that way. I simply now have a zero tolerance for transphobia policy. If someone is being transphobic then I'm calling them out on it. That's all there is to it. They are allowed to redeem themselves but not before they offer up a lot more than what this guy did on video.
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  55.  @Draeno1  Always a she to me.
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  56.  @uncleshermstick  It's not pretend. Gender isn't biology. It's a social role and identity.
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  57.  @fabianatrindade56  No worries. Thankfully respect for and understanding of LGBT people is increasing every year. Know hope!
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  58. It’s only painful for the transphobic.
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  59.  @hulahula6182  The American Medical Association and the American Psychological Association and all licensed medical professionals follow the WPATH standard of care which includes HRT and SRS for trans people. Look it up.
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  60. You don’t think healthcare providers didn’t try this approach first decades ago? The problem is that it doesn’t work. Only changing the body to match the mind is effective at improving mental health outcomes. That’s why transition is now standard practice. Give doctors some credit. They know what they are doing. It’s literally their job.
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  61. Disowning your LGBT kids is not the right thing to do. Of someone is so fragile that they can’t handle having LGBT kids then they have no business being parents.
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  62.  @lotterylarry7777  Gay men aren’t sexually interested in trans women because they don’t look like men. I’ve had plenty of relationships with trans women and gay men and cis women. I know exactly how gay it isn’t being with a trans women because I have had plenty of experience with everything to compare and contrast.
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  63.  @basedchungus  Shake your head all you like, I’m not giving transphobia a free pass.
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  64.  @ZaaZ420  The shame of your trans daughter living the life she wants to live? You're that ashamed of the opinions of others that you'd reject your own child? Why be a parent at all?
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  65.  @ZaaZ420  There are trans people in every country in the world and have been since antiquity. Hijra in India, Waria in Indonesia, Muxes in Mexico, Native American two spirit people, Fafafina in Samoa, the list goes on and on as you can prove to yourself with a casual web search. It's a developmental condition wherein the gender of the brain doesn't match the body. That's what Dr. Phil is talking about in the video. There is nothing wrong with being transgender. It's simply a developmental difference and the best mental health outcomes say the AMA, APA and WHO are to transition the body to match the mind.
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  66.  @dokthongofficial324  Losing something you don’t want is like taking out the trash.
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  67. To you, sure. Not to those that support trans people. For us, gender isn’t biology.
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  68. Plenty of religions accept LGBT people. No one speaks for all religions.
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  69. Real men proudly support their LGBT kids instead of going into a transphobic moral panic live on television.
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  70.  @arjunamolligoda  I’d fully support her on her transition with the full support of the medical and psychiatric establishment behind me.
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  71. Agreed. Phil does not attract YouTube’s finest.
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  72. You don’t think that trans people are keenly aware that large percentages of the population hate them? Clearly you haven’t talked to many trans people.
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  73. Biology is biology but gender is a social construct and an identity. If someone wants to act and dress in a feminine way that is their right.
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  74. It’s wrong not to support trans women. They have a difficult life and need our support.
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  75.  @mufidamaya6874  I've seen scenarios like this go both ways many times. Sometimes they reconcile and other times they just go their separate ways. We really have no way of knowing.
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  76.  @maxwellcohen2850  What do you mean by value and to whom? The word value has many definitions.
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  77.  @KaioBaku  On the contrary, I’m an open and proud bisexual and have been for many decades. All my friends and family know that my wife is a trans woman. I’ve had long term relationships with cis women and gay men in the past. All my friends and family know about my prior relationships also. It’s 2021 not 1921. LGBT people exist. Nothing unusual about it.
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  78. You don’t need to hate yourself to transition. You can simply just feel more comfortable living life as a woman.
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  79. God makes all kinds of mistakes. 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. Plenty of infants die of malformed hearts or pneumonia.
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  80. Why would it change if it was his trans daughter?
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  81. Not hard to imagine. My wife is trans.
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  82.  @mialee857  Because God is a sadistic absentee landlord committing criminal moral negligence on an industrial scale every single day. How's that?
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  83.  @Staleycow  This is not the opinion of the medical establishment and all professional medical organizations (AMA, APA and WHO) regarding gender dysphoria. Why should anyone believe you over literally thousands of doctors?
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  84.  @ZaaZ420  Let's say you educated your child as doubtlessly this father did as well, and that dressing and presenting as a male just wasn't something they ever wanted to do. The question is, what comes next. Do you accept your trans daughter or not? What strange things will happen or maybe worse? How many trans people have you actually talked to yourself?
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  85.  @ХалиматЯмадаева28  Wow. Chechnya. This must be one of the most difficult places to be LGBT in the world. I saw “Wecome to Chechnya” documentary which shied some the extreme violence that LGBT people face. Is that film realistic? Has Kadyrov become any less oppressive over time? What are your plans for the rest of your life? Flee? Where will you try to go?
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  86.  @fatemabarwary3839  I’m from various places in the US. My wife is a trans woman. She’s from Thailand. We’ve been together for 19 years and legally married for 6. I’m assuming from your name you’re from Iraq. If so, I can understand that in Muslim communities it can be unusual to see trans women as very few of them come out of the closet due to extreme social discrimination and they suffer in silence that few speak of or ever hear about. Other countries and cultures can and do embrace trans women and they can live lives of decency with family and community respect. It may seem hard to believe but it’s true. If you have any questions, just ask.
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  87.  @G5ro  Step 1. Open any modern English dictionary. Webster, OED, etc. Step 2. Look up the word transphobia. Step 3. Observe definition. QED.
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  88.  @hulahula6182  Whatever bombshell your impotent rage can muster is muted by the AMA and the APA and the WPATH SOC. As such, This is a decision between patient and doctor and not internet commentards. Consequently it doesn’t matter what you or I think. We’re just here fluffing each other which, when you think of it, is more than a little homoerotic. 🌈
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  89.  @azariosantos7820  Sure. If you have any other questions, just ask.
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  90. Transphobia is even sadder.
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  91. Repent for what? Being transgender?
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  92.  @Joonysuke  He literally called Kristin Beck an “it” during the segment. You’ll excuse me if I don’t cry tears for his transphobia literally dismantling his own family and insulting others live on television. If he keeps this up he won’t have her in his life, at all. While I’m forgiving of shock within the first few weeks, beyond that it’s just active hostility. It seems to me that the father has known about this for much longer than that. The father isn’t nearly as accepting of trans people as you’re giving him credit for.
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  93. Close down all schools and universities. Nothing to see there, folks. Make the dark ages great again.
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  94. That's not what I'm seeing. He just doesn't have the language to articulate his anti-trans position on television under the studio lights and in front of a live audience. I think he probably needs a few years of not having his daughter around and maybe he'll reconsider what's really important
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  95. That's a tough spot. My father disowned me for being in a relationship with my (then) trans girlfiend (now my wife). My mom eventually did come around, however. Took about 7 years, though. Know hope but also be prepared for it never to happen. Stay strong.
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  96.  @h4aziq895  Once your reactions are over and you go to a licensed doctor or psychiatrist they are going to tell you that the best way to have a relationship with and support your child is for you to accept their new gender identity. That’s the current standard of care from any licensed doctor in the west. The AMA, APA and WHO all support gender transition for trans people because everything else has been tried and this leads to the best life outcomes. Ask your doctor about it.
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  97. For being transphobic, that’s why.
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  98. Nope. LGBT issues and topics won’t be kept in the closet so you can pretend they don’t exist.
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  99.  @jasonslatt2470  No thank you. I’m here to defend trans people. If you don’t like it, that’s fine by me. It’s my life to waste, isn’t it?
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  100. Why? He has a trans daughter. Not that big of a deal. There are hundreds of thousands of trans women in the US.
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  101.  @blackhammer7400  That assumes all girls feel a particular way at all. That is unknowable. It’s also not necessary. Some people just want to live life as a woman and be thought of as a woman by the people they love. No trans women believes that they are changing their genetics. Why is that hard for you to understand?
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  102.  @blackhammer7400  It's not a lie if you earnestly believe it's the truth, quite obviously. Same as you only in reverse. Kids and everyone else can make up their own mind.
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  103.  @blackhammer7400  For me the truth is that trans people exist and their gender identities are real. The vast majority of western countries legally regard trans women to be women. A significant percentage of the population feels just as I do about trans women. To pretend otherwise is disingenuous and hiding this reality from kids makes them unprepared to see the world as it really exists and that includes the existence of trans people.
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  104. ​ @blackhammer7400  A small percentage of the population in every country around the world are transgender and have been documented historically into antiquity. India, Mexico, Thailand, Indonesia, Fiji, etc. This is a real condition and in many countries there have had a cultural role for trans people since ancient times. To pretend this all doesn't exist and that trans women aren't legal women in many countries in the world is to engage in the very fantasy you claim to be against.
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  105.  @justsaying8  Or God doesn’t exist and you’re believing in fairy tales that provide easy comforting answers to life’s difficult questions and as well as a fictional afterlife to calm everyone’s fears of their own mortality. It cannot be scientifically proven that God exists. In this light, faith is a handicap to scientific understanding in that everything just out of reach is God’s doing. Especially so if the outcome is good but, as always, another excuse is provided when it is not.
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  106. I’m shocked at your negative attitude towards transgender people. Either the father accepts his child as his daughter or odds are he doesn’t have a relationship with his child.
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  107. Certainly so. All the same if this “temporary” period of time goes on for an extended time it’s just toxic and honestly both parties are better off going their separate ways.
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  108.  Haise Sasaki  She’s a woman to me.
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  109.  @DrNordo  Marriage is a legal process and she’s legally female. Gender isn’t biology.
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  110.  @pancho33pistolas28  You do realize bisexuals exist, right? I like all the chocolates in the box, sweetheart. Literally doubles your relationship options. YOLO!
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  111.  @Drainpops  W
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  112.  @JoeMama-jt8qt  Trans people are good, I agree.
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  113.  @code066funkinbird3  No one died, officer.
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  114.  1  i’m bisexual. Gays aren’t interested trans women. Ask some gay guys and they’ll be happy to tell you.
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  115.  @G5ro  Transgender people do in fact exist. Any licensed doctor or psychiatrist will tell you this. It is recognized by all major medical organizations. Denying this basic reality is transphobia.
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  116.  @G5ro  If the father wasn't transphobic he wouldn't be so upset that his daughter is trans and he wouldn't have called Kristin Beck an "It" at 1:26 Either the father accepts his trans daughter or they drift apart. I've seen it go both ways many times.
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  117. Can't stop. Won't stop. She's a woman to me.
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  118.  @hulahula6182  It’s not my channel nor do I own YouTube. Direct your impotent rage against the parties responsible, at least. I’d be happy for you to showcase your LGBT ignorance at expository length.
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  119.  @Iciwitty  There is nothing wrong with being trans. To think otherwise is transphobia.
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  120.  @dcc-randomstorieswithmel7424  Not real to you but from where I’m standing gender is between your ears, not between your legs. Trans women are women to me. Feel free to disagree.
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  121.  @Frombeyondthehorizon6860  Literally millions of trans people around the world have supporting and accepting parents. Why is this so hard to imagine. Have you ever talked with a trans person before?
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  122.  @Frombeyondthehorizon6860  I fail to see what’s silly about using one’s own freedom to dress and act the way you want. That’s the whole point of freedom. Supporting your own kids shouldn’t be a difficult task.
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  123. There have been trans people for hundreds and hundreds of years in native cultures all around the world. India, Pakistan, Thailand, Mexico, Indonesia, Polynesia… Abrahamic religious imperialism is the reason it’s been suppressed for so long. Gender pluralism is as old as time. Has nothing to do with biology.
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  124.  @azariosantos7820  The farther back you go, the worse the historical record is. These cultural roles for gender diverse people in various cultures have been observed by travelers and recorded as well as native written records read by historians. Carbon dating provides little cultural clarity here on such sociology. Read “Gender Pluralism in Southeast Asia since early Modern Times” by Michael Peletz for an academic overview.
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  125.  @azariosantos7820  India has some of the oldest historical record keeping. As such, if you look up the “Hijra” you’ll get a lot of resources. “Historical Evolution of Transgender Community in India” for example.
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  126.  @azariosantos7820  It’s a vast topic that includes those with various intersex conditions as well as more philosophical gender identification. There are no one size fits all answers to describe literally millions of people and the ontologies around them. The ethical treatment of LGBT people in society by organized religion has a fairly poor track record, but that is not always the case of course. My wife is a Thai trans woman. We’ve been legally married for many years now and she’s legally female.
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  127. No one has to do anything. They can also never talk to each other ever again. Very few trans people this age decide to detransition. Then it becomes accepting your trans daughter or disowning your son.
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  128. Plenty of trans women in Indonesia doing it just fine. Have been for hundreds and hundreds of years.
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  129. @James Brennan You do realize the irony that stopping opinion forcing is itself also an opinion, right? Comments are open to the public. I like to comment and will comment, nothing you can say will change that. Trans people are worth defending and so here I am. You're welcome to boost the popularity of this thread and my comments by replying back and forth to this comment and then even more people would have it shoved down their throats. :)
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  130.  Micheal Sudan  No one needs to do anything. She doesn't need to put up with the father's point of view either. They can go their separate ways and never speak again. Is that the best outcome?
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  131.  @sylvesteruchia5263  Spoken like someone whose father didn’t disown him for being LGBT.
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  132.  @JayTowers901  What does the T in LGBT stand for? It's unknown what actually happened after this video was over. They may have gone their separate way never to speak again. We have no idea. If someone couldn't love and stand by your kids before, during, and after transition if they were trans then, yeah, don't have kids. I honestly see no loss to morn. If their gender assigned at birth was causing my child this level of distress then good riddance to that bad rubbish.
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  133. If he keeps calling her his son, then he’s already lost her. Accept it or lose her, his choice.
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  134.  @BullyGarfield.  Gender doesn’t depend on chromosomes. It’s how you want to live life socially and want to be viewed by your loved ones.
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  135.  @nintruendo6411  Not even. Gender is a social construct, it isn’t biology. There have been multiple genders in various societies around the world since antiquity. Hijra in India, Waria in Indonesia, Muxe in Mexico, Fafafina in Fiji, etc. Basic sociology.
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  136.  @serenarichmond8120  On the contrary, you’re the one that should repent for your judgemental transphobia. Trans people exist and are doing nothing morally objectionable.
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  137. big, girthy and rapturously tumescent
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  138. Not really, the father is just having a transphobic pity party for himself on live television instead of accepting that he has a trans daughter and making the most of their relationship. The way he’s was going at the end of the video it wouldn’t surprise me if he disowned her.
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  139.  @Joonysuke  And the point of my comment is that I’m unpersuaded to have much sympathy for his transphobic frustrations. No doubt many anti-trans comments are from religious nuts.
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  140. ​ @vengefullight4665  False equivalency. If you don't like it, take it up with the APA, AMA and WHO.
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  141.  @vengefullight4665  Take it up with them. At the end of the day your impotent rage online does nothing to stop trans people from accessing trans related healthcare from their healthcare providers. Myself, I'm going to continue to support my LGBT brothers and sisters. Their gender identity and sexual orientation is worthy of my respect. Feel free to disagree.
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  142.  @user-tl4ly1fk2p  Good luck. This video is about trans people and family acceptance. Take your Atlantian advocacy to a video about Atlantians.
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  143. Jesus is coming! Look busy!
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  144. The question is what happens next? Accept your trans daughter or never speak to your son again?
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  145.  @JohnSmith-it6hj  Gender identity isn’t biology, by definition. It is a social construct, an identity and an aesthetic. She’s under no illusions that her chromosomes have changed, nor that she suddenly has a uterus. It’s a social role and how she wants to be addressed in society. You are missing the point.
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  146.  @JohnSmith-it6hj  Gender isn’t biology. Consult any modern dictionary.
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  147.  @JohnSmith-it6hj  Trans women are women to me. What they are to you is up to you. I respect them and their gender identity. Gender simply isn’t biology. There have been gender pluralistic people in cultures around the world since antiquity.
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  148.  @GoddessBlueYozakura7  Original comment I replied to referenced hatred, which is what I was responding to. That said, not accepting another person by class is a form of hatred. Just as it is with racism and anti-Semitism. That said, hating people isn't illegal. Feel free to "not accept" or hate whoever you want every hour of every day if you like. Knock yourself out.
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  149.  @emiliou6898  Hate is complicated. It’s not just being red faced and angry. It’s about a world of indifference that structurally makes trans people’s lives more difficult. Transphobia is a type of hatred.
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  150. ​ @emiliou6898  Hate is far more complicated than this. The cloud of public non acceptance casts a shadow over the lives of trans people in many negative dimensions. Bread is simply not the same as an intrinsic part of your being, the expression of which is fundamental to your pursuit of happiness.
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  151.  @simonacland9028  Sure it is. Defending vulnerable trans people is always worth it.
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  152.  @gregoryg1303  No one has to do anything. You can disown your daughter and never speak to her again. Feel free. My father did that and I survived. She would too. That said, why wouldn’t you be happy to support her and the woman she loves. What’s wrong with that?
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  153.  @BossQueen  All that anxiety because someone is trans? Really? Have you met a trans person before?
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  154.  @roddyjarrar728  This is an incredibly charitable read on someone who articulated next to nothing during the segment. I think he was hoping Dr. Phil would ask her to live as a man and forget this entire transgender thing entirely. He literally called Kristen Beck an “it” during the segment. There is a great deal of transphobia in his actions that you’re not addressing. I think he apologized because he had no language to articulate his anti trans positions.
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  155.  @tioriapasaribu1920  Those two sentences are incomprehensible.
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  156.  @Drainpops  Nah. I like it here.
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  157.  @Drainpops  Help me into the grave with those never ending tracks? I kid. I do like some prog rock that has drive and isn’t just 20 minutes of endless time changes and modal noodling.
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  158.  @user-tl4ly1fk2p  Check your reading comprehension.
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  159.  @blackhammer7400  So that then anyone answers you can just tell them they are lying and they believe in fantasies (as you have to me previously) and that you live in reality? That's not good faith, that's just trans-baiting.
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  160. You’ll get a corpse back. The Taliban are not exactly LGBT friendly.
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  161.  @chadbrad8100  Gender isn’t biology but she is she’s hormonally female. We’re all cosplaying our gender and social identities.
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  162. There are trans women in countries all around the world and have been for hundreds and hundreds of years. Plenty of evidence in the anthropological record. It's simply natural human variation. Some folks are gay or lesbian. Others are trans. Not big percentages but they're there.
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  163.  @justsaying8  God sure is a negligent and vain landlord. Always there for the praise but never to be found when a massive percent of pregnancies end in miscarriage due to no fault of the parents. It’s almost if he isn’t there at all and it’s all just biology at the end of the day. The God of the gaps of human understanding.
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  164.  @justsaying8  There is good behind infant leukemia, Down syndrome, or congenital heart defects? Good luck defending that position. If God actually existed it would be far worse than if he didn’t, since he’s presiding over a swamp of human misery with the ability to prevent all of it and yet doing nothing as millions of kids die of malaria and diarrheal diseases from unclean drinking water in poor places around the world. This is cosmic criminal negligence. If this is the “light in the heart” and the “right path” you can count me out.
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  165.  @Pesions  If you’re knowledgeable and familiar with trans people and know other trans people it’s really not a big deal. You just love them and support them, same as ever. How many trans people do you know?
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  166.  @HamzaAltaani  Quite obviously I want to comment to every person who doesn’t like trans people, including you. Can’t stop. Won’t stop. Why can’t I waste my time the way I choose? It’s my life to squander, isn’t it?
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  167.  @someordinaryplayer209  She’s a trans woman to me.
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  168. He knew she was trans before he got there. Why have kids if your love is so conditional? Why take the risk?
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  169. @pristineslayer Who cares about gender? It’s your child. If you don’t want to support your kids, don’t have kids. Easy as that.
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  170.  @hruaizelachhangte2051  Tell us you don’t believe in God then.
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  171.  @hruaizelachhangte2051  To the shock of no one given that this line of argumentation most often comes from the religious. That’s what Evan was implying, your underlying unstated presuppositions.
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  172.  @hruaizelachhangte2051  And thus inductive reasoning was born.
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  173.  @hruaizelachhangte2051  Only Evan can save us from this quagmire. Save us, Evan. You’re our only hope! Lol.
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  174. Easy to imagine. Tax time is right around the corner and the government always gets their share.
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  175. Not just white folks.
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  176. Imagine that an all powerful God couldn’t make trans people. No deception about it, that’s just how she is.
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  177. Treatment for gender dysphoria includes supporting the individual's gender expression or their desire for hormone therapy or surgery. This is literally the standard of care for trans people.
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  178.  @mrhecker129  Yeah. It’s really tons of fun having your father that you love never speak to you again. Ranks right up there with his funeral which I wasn’t invited to. A laugh a minute. Maybe I’ll get the same cancer later in life and die horribly which would be downright hilarious. Have fun playing nihilist on the internet.
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  179.  @mrhecker129  Just stop being who you are? That’s like stopping breathing. You try not being heterosexual for the rest of your life and see what it’s like.
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  180.  @lidiagizaw3828 Uh huh. Somehow always the LGBT kid's fault, I see. Clearly their fault for being born into an anti-LGBT household.
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  181. You can say father daughter relationship, it’s 2022.
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  182.  @JohnSmith-it6hj  Gender isn’t biology, chromosome fetishist.
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  183.  @fade1473  I know many trans women and I absolutely do understand how transphobia, especially from family, impacts their lives.
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  184. That doctor you see is only going to help her transition. You do realize that all professional health organizations from the AMA, APA to the WHO support trans people in their transition, right?
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  185. Depends on how you look at it. The Golden rule of treating people the way you want to be treated goes back to antiquity. Just because transgender people were few on the ground in the west in ages past, doesn't mean that old people automatically have a bias. Plenty of older people are as accepting and supportive of trans folks as the kids today are.
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  186. Ah, yes. Not having a public discussion is clearly the best way for the public to engage with these real issues.
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  187.  @Iciwitty  Somehow you know more about the outcomes of trans people than the APA, AMA and WHO. What’s it like having that level of arrogance and hubris? Your transphobia is making you blind that you know more about trans people and their healthcare needs than all professional medical organizations.
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  188.  @nicoyreid1003  Stuff transphobes say.
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  189.  @sayzar9474  You're happy to have any and every opinion of me you like. I support the AMA, APA and WHO who support trans women transitioning and the WPATH SOC. If you think you know more about what's good for the trans community than the professional medical establishment then submit your findings to some peer reviewed journals for consideration.
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  190.  @sayzar9474  I'm just calling out the father's transphobia dismantling his family live on television. You're welcome to feel any way you like about that call out. The father is certainly allowed to redeem himself but I don't see much evidence of that in this video. It just seems like he lacks the articulation to express his anti-trans position to Phil and goes along with him at the end. I hope he does come to realize that trans people are not something to freak out over. If and when I see evidence of the father not freaking out over his daughter being trans and calling other trans woman an "It" I'll be happy to reconsider my opinion with new evidence. As the facts change, I change my mind.
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  191.  @Frombeyondthehorizon6860  It’s inconceivable to you that in a world of 7.9 billion people that literally no parents could accept their trans children, despite literally thousands of YouTube videos showing exactly this? That was your previous comment. Now I believe that it’s inconceivable for you to accept your trans kids but translating that into the entire population of the planet is a different matter. Sure, If you’ve had exactly one hostile interaction with a trans person it can seem like every interaction with a trans person will be hostile and end badly but does that not deny a huge spectrum of possible outcomes?
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  192.  @Frombeyondthehorizon6860  They are indeed a trans woman so there is no pretending at all. Gender isn’t biology, it’s how you dress, act and want to be referred to by your loved ones because that’s how you feel most comfortable going through life. Freedom is meaningless if you can’t actually use it. Transition is supported by all major medical and psychiatric organizations from the AMA, APA to the WHO because it has been shown to lead to better life satisfaction for these people than any other course of action.
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  193.  @chasemathes931  Think whatever you like. Trans women are women to me.
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  194. Disowning your kids is always the right choice, after all. Why have kids at all if you won’t support and stand by them?
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  195.  @mistyydagoat  That’s what all the transphobes and homophobes say.
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  196. Why have kids at all since there is a chance they could be LGBT and then you’d just disown them?
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  197. So just disown your child right on the spot, then?
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  198. There have been trans people in cultures all around the world since antiquity.
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  199.  @mistyydagoat  So it is a rare but natural part of the human existence since antiquity.
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  200.  @MGrey-qb5xz  Human existence is up to the individual so long as you’re not breaking any laws. Eliminating transphobia is also a good direction given that trans people are a basic and benign feature of humanity present in cultures around the world since antiquity.
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  201. ...at being transphobic. Nicely done!
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  202.  @iy4563  Not agreeing with transition or not engaging with trans people is just simply transphobia by definition. Being transphobic isn't against the law. It's fine to be transphobic if that's what you want. Gods are the stuff of fantasy so the non-existent entities can't be transphobic, only their followers. No one is forcing the father or the daughter in the video to ever talk to each other again. Still, they are both there for a reason because they want to try to still be a family. Hard to say which way it went from the video but my money is on the both of them going their separate ways.
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  203.  @JustKelso1993  It has a meaning, you just don’t care about it’s meaning.
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  204.  @Popunoodletest  You shush. No one ever was helped by any YouTube comment. He lost my empathy vote when he called Kirstin Beck an “It” during the segment. Maybe he stopped being a transphobe after this segment and came to understand his daughter but I sincerely doubt it. Until such a time when I see evidence otherwise I’m going to remain unchill about his transphobia dismantling his own family live in front of a studio audience.
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  205.  @Popunoodletest  He’s the one in the wrong here with his transphobia wrecking his own family and I make no apologies for pointing it out. Feel free to disagree.
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  206.  @Popunoodletest  Are you going to be happy too when he doesn’t change his mind and they grow apart and don’t speak to each other because he’s unwilling to see her as his daughter?
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  207.  @Popunoodletest  Either do you, but that's not really the question. You're going to be happy IF he doesn't change his mind and they grow part and don't speak to each other?
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  208.  @pauloFCP12  Not sure how many people you’ve spoke with that have disowned their LGBT kids, but I’ve spoken to a quite a few including my own father. These is always love AND prejudice. It’s not mutually exclusive. The question is, which one wins out. Love is not always the winner, I can tell you.
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  209.  @dcc-randomstorieswithmel7424  Do whatever you want. Think whatever you want. I’m simply going to point out the father’s transphobia dismantling his own family on live television. If you think it’s great that the father is on the path to disowning his child then that’s your business.
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  210. @random s#it post I’m here to defend trans people. That said, you have the liberty to be as insensitive or as hateful as you want. The father certainly loves the daughter but love isn’t often enough to keep a family together. Sometimes transphobia is simply too strong. Hard to say what happened in the months after this video was taken.
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  211.  @TheJuiceor  Cool, transphobe. You have every right to be transphobic. Revel in your casual transphobia.
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  212.  @JayTowers901  No one died. Just because someone dresses feminine and wants to act and be feminine doesn’t mean you’re having a funeral. They’re still going to like all the things they currently like. Lasagna isn’t going to stop tasting delicious. Basketball isn’t going to stop being fun to watch. Walks on the beach aren’t going to suddenly be awful.
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  213.  @JayTowers901  I know that if my child transitioned I would love them before, during and after transition and no one would need to hold a personal parent pity party funeral for the gender that was making them miserable. If you wouldn't love your LGBT child unconditionally then do us all a favor and don't have kids.
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  214.  @mc.9839  Take it any way you like. I'm going to continue to point out transphobia no matter the outcome. If that leads to global thermal nuclear war, awesome. Can't wait.
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  215.  @mc.9839  I wouldn't have it any other way, pal.
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  216.  @mc.9839  Whatever Makes you hate me more is what I’m interested in. Thanks.
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  217.  @ryanrobin12  It really isn't. Gender has many definitions in the Oxford English Dictionary that have nothing to do with biology. Female mannequins for example. There is no science I disagree with. It's simply that gender for me isn't biology. If it is for you, that's great.
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  218.  @mrsTraveller64  Nope. I do not. Gender isn't biology to me. I've known plenty of trans women and they're as real a woman to me as my own mother.
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  219.  @ryanrobin12  Gender isn't the same thing as biology. It's an identity, performance and a social construct. There are female mannequins and female voiced-by-a-computer voicemail systems.
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  220.  @thecurryman5077  And proud of it. If you can’t handle the thrills and spills stay off the jungle gym.
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  221.  @aroqga6085  Be as transphobic as you like, pal. I’m not your mom. Not all religion is against trans people. No doubt that yours is, but that’s on you for adhering to it.
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  222.  @TheShapeshiftingReptilian  Gender is social aesthetics not biology. It’s about wanting to look female and be treated as a female by your loved ones. If you don’t se me it that way, fine. She does and that’s how she wants to live her life with or without her father.
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  223.  @volcanoksa1082  Not even. Gender isn’t biology.
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  224. I wouldn't. Trans women are women to me. Pro sports are just a waste of time to begin with.
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  225. Any licensed psychiatrist will only help her transition. It’s the standard of care. Every major professional medical organization supports transition because it has empirically proven to lead to better life outcomes.
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  226. @kittyrandomvd x Not to you. Trans women are women to me.
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  227. That's a pretty generous read of a guy saying exceedingly little. Maybe he was just expecting Phil to take his side and convince his daughter to detransition and he didn't have the words to articulate his anti-trans position on live television so he went along with it. He did call Kristin Beck an "It" during the segment. This is more than just confusion. That was lashing out. Makes me wonder what happens when the cameras turned off and when they went home. Did they actually grow together as a family or was he afraid of the transphobia from others and disowned his daughter. I've seen these stories go both ways, many times.
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  228.  @sonnieandjacob  That's because I have a vast amount of personal experience over many decades with many trans people and their interactions with their families to draw upon. How about yourself?
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  229.  @MultiUnreal  No professional mental health organization considers gender dysphoria a mental illness. Not the APA. Not the WHO. Look it up.
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  230.  @volcanoksa1082  Against her will, Dr. Mengele? Electro shock therapy and waterboarding after that? Why not just leave her alone to live her life the way she wants to?
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  231.  @volcanoksa1082  Odds are her hormones are normal and that she’s simply transgender. She obviously doesn’t want to look more male. Why can’t you respect her choice to live and do what she wants?
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  232.  @volcanoksa1082  I know all about it. The point is, she doesn’t want to look masculine. Exactly the opposite. Why are you suggesting things she literally doesn’t want? You can’t imagine that someone is transgender?
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  233.  @iamURHO  I’m talking about the reality that some people will always be trans no matter what the parents do.
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  234. No empathy for the daughter, alas.
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  235. So just disown your child then and there and never speak to them again? Why be a parent at all if this could happen?
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  236.  @brox6077  A small percentage of the population will always be trans no matter how they are raised. It’s been true in every culture and country across the world since antiquity.
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  237.  @serenarichmond8120  Trans people are not confused. They know their gender. You’re trying to tell them otherwise. A small percentage of the population has always been and will always be trans. It’s been that way since antiquity. The only kool-aid here is your venom for trans people just living their best lives.
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  238.  @chrisjackson6149  Beautifully stated.
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  239.  @AzazelFox  I have a lot of downtime during the day to reply to messages and defend trans people. No worries!
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  240.  @MultiUnreal  Let’s make a deal. I won’t pretend I care what you do or don’t do and you don’t pretend to care what I do or don’t do.
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  241.  @MultiUnreal  lol. I have a job and certainly wouldn’t feel bad about not having one. Maybe you can get a white collar job someday that doesn’t keep you busy every minute of the day.
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  242.  @MultiUnreal  Like I said, let’s not pretend to care about each other.
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  243.  @MultiUnreal  Obviously. Then why would you care enough to provide input on my employment status? You don't care if I live or die anyway and the feeling is mutual.
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  244.  @Tripixium  Or the father could have been could be glad they gained a daughter. He literally called Kristin Beck an "It" during this segment. You're giving him way too much credit. I don't see any real signs of acceptance in this video. He just didn't have the language to articulate his anti-trans position to Phil when under the spotlights. It's not like this wasn't known before the show aired. The trans daughter is the same person as before only their gender presentation is different. It's not some kind of traumatizing experience unless the person is transphobic. Plenty of people who have trans kids do not have a mental breakdown over it. Trans people exist. It's just not that big of a deal if you're not transphobic. Given his reaction here I'm leaning heavily on the side of him disowning his daughter.
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  245.  @karin8152  lol why should I?
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  246.  @ravirana2001  I would take my son to a psychiatrist for proper treatment. You seem to think that gender dysphoria is a psychosis. It is not. Consult every professional medical organization from the AMA, APA and WHO and they will tell you that people with gender dysphoria have the best outcomes when they transition. I support that the medical establishment knows better than I do.
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  247.  @ravirana2001  Pretending that you or I know better than the entire medical establishment is absurd. I don’t pretend to know more about heart disease or cancer than specialist doctors, do you? Are you going to perform bypass surgery on your kitchen table with a steak knife? I would leave it up to medical professionals and psychiatrists to tell me the best course of action for this individual hypothetical case.
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  248.  @veteranpg3d156  Please dislike me all you wish. I don’t and won’t respect people who are intolerant of trans people for being trans. I don’t care what “vision” that is. I’m not asking for your support. Hate trans people with every fiber of your being if that’s what you want to do. Feel free.
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  249.  @veteranpg3d156  I have no interest in understanding any “visions” that disrespect the gender identity of trans people. If you do, great. I’m not asking for your support.
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  250. Did you order the code red?
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  251.  @Pesions  What environment are you talking about? I’ve seen trans people come from every environment.
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  252.  @heatheri9724  He literally called Kristen Beck an “it” during the segment. If he wasn’t transphobic he wouldn’t be having an emotional meltdown on live television. He would have accepted his daughter and this would be a totally different show.
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  253.  @veteranpg3d156  I don’t have to imagine. I’ve known many trans kids and parents of trans kids. No one is giving up anything. They’re still the same person.
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  254.  @veteranpg3d156  No one calls someone an “It” unless they are being pejorative.
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  255. No need to play armchair psychologist. Just treat people the way they want to be treated. Easy as that.
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  256. There is nothing wrong with being trans.
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  257.  @MetalArms16212  There is no god or sin. That’s all make believe nonsense. There are only people and laws.
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  258.  @gamerinatrance3618  I think the saying is even older than that. Maybe George Carlin?
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  259. ​ @bruble14  I have no interest in looking good. My anger is my own and I wear it proudly. Everyone seems to have rose colored glasses on about this segment, but I don't. I can and will express my opinion about it. He called Kristin Beck an "it" during this segment which is never a good look either. You can question all you like, and so can I. I don't see much from this guy except a whole lot of unarticulated feeings that look to me like he just doesn't have the verbal capacity to defend his anti-trans positions live on television. I see him shutting his trans daughter out of his life not long after this segment. I hope I'm wrong, but I've seen that happen many times in life contrary to what you see on TV. There is a time and a place for doe eyed optimism but I don't see that here. Feel free to see it differently.
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  260.  @joshuaservin1942  Always a she to me.
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  261. She's early in transition. Takes time.
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  262. You do realize that sexual orientation and gender identity are different things, right?
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  263.  @jakeblitzcoffie4859  Noah's ark? Talking snakes? Burning bushes? You can count me out.
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  264.  @jakeblitzcoffie4859  Exactly the opposite. I’m not interested in supernatural fairy tales.
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  265.  @jakeblitzcoffie4859  We all have our own agency about what we consider to be cool or uncool. Put me down in the “uncool” bracket when it comes to 2000 year old supernatural desert tall tales. You’re welcome to think they are ultra cool. Doesn’t move the needle for me.
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  266.  @jakeblitzcoffie4859  I don’t believe in supernatural things. It’s not necessary to be religious to have a rich and fulfilling life. Every religion in the world has it’s own fictitious cosmology and assurances of some sort of afterlife to hold our hand like a child and make us feel better about life. It’s simply not necessary. God is really just a god of the gaps in our own scientific and cultural understanding.
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  267.  @jakeblitzcoffie4859  Sure it does. Reducing anything to how cool it is or how much one does or doesn’t hate something is a bumper sticker not a nuanced ideology.
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  268. Take a gender, leave a gender.
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  269. The reality is that gender and biology are not the same thing.
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  270.  @emiliou6898  Have all the hateful beliefs you like. It’s not illegal.
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  271.  @emiliou6898  Not accepting trans people is transphobia which is a form of hate. Feel Free to disagree. You’re free to hate / not accept whoever you want. It’s not illegal.
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  272. ​ @zaingamingtv2242  Not at all. Just as it is with racism and anti-semitism, transphobia is a form of hatred. That said if the only kind of hatred for you is Yosemite Sam-esque rage then that's your point of view. I don't subscribe to it.
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  273.  @francribaj6506  Nevah! Trans people exist in every country in the world and they deserve love and respect as the gender they want to be. I’m going to champion that idea until I die.
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  274.  @lidiagizaw3828  Correct. I hope you're making a bronze statue in my honor as we speak. We're all just here fluffing each other obviously.
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  275. Was it? Or didn’t he have the language to articulate his anti-trans position? Just minutes earlier he called Kristen Beck an “It” during the segment.
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  276.  @beatriz.bresolin  Not all of these stories have happy endings. The community the father is a part of may be so transphobic that he’s not willing to challenge them and he consequently ignores or doesn’t support his daughter and she moves away. Surely there is love there but is it enough to override the sacrifices that have formed the father’s own transphobic outlook in the first place? It’s hard to say. My father disowned me for getting into a relationship with a trans woman and he never spoke to me again and died 10 years later. The power of transphobia can’t be underestimated. I see a lot of doe eyed optimism that love always wins. It does not.
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  277.  @Omar87728  What’s wrong about having a trans daughter?
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  278.  @fade1473  It can only sad if you think being trans is wrong or bad. It could also be happy for a different trans accepting father in that the trans daughter has realized and actualized an important aspect of herself.
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  279.  @fade1473  How can it be neutral when sadness is unambiguously negative? That’s the point. See what I mean?
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  280.  @Omar87728  Nothing at all. Trans women deserve respect. Nothing at all is wrong with having a trans daughter.
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  281.  @kskhas6750  And proud of it. Defending vulnerable trans people is pretty important to me. Expect nothing less.
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  282.  @keeganmayers6925  It is not.
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  283.  @keeganmayers6925  Being trans is not a crime. Theft is a crime. Thus they are are not comparable. Trans people have the freedom to dress and act the way they want. That’s what freedom is all about. No laws are being broken.
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  284.  @keeganmayers6925  A crime is a wrongdoing classified by the state or Congress as a felony or misdemeanor. A crime is an offence against a public law.
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  285.  @keeganmayers6925  That is a lot of words to describe the fact that you desperately wish being trans was a felony or a misdemeanor yet it is not. In fact, supporting trans people in their gender identity is very much a human value leading to better mental health outcomes which is why transition is fully supported by every professional medical and mental health organization from the AMA to the APA to the WHO. Transition is literally the standard of care that all licensed mental professionals follow for patients with gender dysphoria. You don’t need to believe me. Look it up in the DSM or ICD.
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  286.  @keeganmayers6925  Where are you from?
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  287. Either that or accept your transphobia. Take your pick.
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  288.  @gregoryg1303  This is about accepting your daughter or having no relationship with your son. It’s the father’s choice.
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  289.  @gregoryg1303  What exactly is wrong with being a lesbian? Spell it out.
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  290.  @gregoryg1303  That is not answer to what you think is wrong with being a lesbian. What are your reasons for disliking lesbians?
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  291.  @gregoryg1303  And I’m asking what is it about “what they do” that you dislike?
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  292.  @gregoryg1303  Why is it that you can’t explain what you don’t like?
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  293. ​ @rogersgirl10  I'm enormously judgmental and exceedingly proud of it. I'm not giving transphobia a free pass. I'm only going on by what I see here in the video and in this video I see the father's transphobia and I'm commenting on the video. The father has the agency to do whatever he wants, I'm simply not agreeing with his transphobia. If I see video evidence in the future that the father has changed his mind and accepted his daughter then I'll change my judgement. Feel free to disagree or not care. Think whatever you want and I'll do the same.
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  294.  @immeahad9811  No one died. Accepting your child, no matter their gender, shouldn’t be this difficult unless you’re a raging transphobe to begin with. Who cares what clothes someone wears and what pronouns they use. They’re the same person.
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  295.  @TheJuiceor  Being trans and gender dysphoria aren’t the same thing. Gender dysphoria is also a condition not a mental illness, according to the APA and the WHO whom are the world authorities on mental health. Consult the DSM-V and ICD-11 respectively. I’m also solidly Gen X, so you’re incorrect on that count as well. Supporting your kids just isn’t that hard. That’s why you have kids in the first place, right?
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  296.  @Tom_Tom829  Because I wouldn’t disown my child if they were trans?
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  297.  @paullee3996  Trans women are women to me.
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  298.  @Sam-lq9ln  No parent failed because their child is trans. Some people are just simply trans. That’s it. If someone can’t handle the possibility that their kids could be LGBT and support them then they have no business being parents. Get a dog if that’s all someone can handle.
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  299.  @milkystraw15  Many thanks!
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  300.  @sabbutthesabiruone9082  If I see transphobia, I’m going to comment on it. Nothing you say or feel will change that script as comments are public and open. I’m also not interested in your respect. Feel free to hate my comments with every fiber of your being. I stand by all my comments. The father’s transphobia is tearing his family apart, as we have seen. People with this level of transphobia should think long and hard before they have kids in the event their kid actually is trans, if even selfishly for their own mental health. If I saw evidence that the father had come to respect and accept his daughter then I’d be happy to acknowledge that and his newly non-transphobic ways. I’ve seen this type of situation go either way many times with such distraught parents. Unfortunately that isn’t what we see in this video and I’ve been unable to find any kind of follow up on this. Feel free to see whatever you see in this video and comment upon it but changing my mind about what I see here is simply not going to happen.
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  301. @August None of us know what happened after this segment was taped. I hope you’re right but in my experience with people who need to apologize for calling people an “it”, it’s not the safe bet to think that acceptance of trans people is the usual outcome.
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  302.  @lilianthuo8446  Supporting your children just isn't that hard. We're all humans. Someone's gender just isn't that important that you should 'die' on the inside. Just support them and love them, simple as that. That's the point of having kids.
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  303.  @zaingamingtv2242  I can and do expect people to love and support their dependent minors and talk to them. Just about anything else is a form of abuse. Why have kids at all if your love is so fragile and conditional? Get a dog instead and just save your money for your own retirement.
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  304.  @zaingamingtv2242  Ok, father of the year. Have fun disowning your LGBT kids.
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  305.  Reinoud E  Feeling uncomfortable and dealing with difficult situations IS parenthood. It isn’t for the weak. If someone can’t handle this, they shouldn’t be having kids. Full stop. Loving your kids and supporting them is the job. Otherwise get a goldfish.
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  306.  Reinoud E  If someone can’t handle the possibility that they’ll have LGBT kids, they shouldn’t have them. If LGBT people are persecuted there and you have LGBT kids then you move your family to a better place.
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  307.  Reinoud E  Parenthood is uncomfortable and difficult, as has already been established. That’s the point of it.
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  308.  Reinoud E  Parenthood is uncomfortable and difficult, as has already been established. That’s the point of it.
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  309.  Reinoud E  Parenthood is uncomfortable and difficult, as has already been established. That’s the point of it.
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  310.  @anthonyperez382  You’re free to be as transphobic as humanly possible. Knock yourself out if you think that’s a good look for you. I’m simply defending trans people. Division is good. That’s what democracy looks like, tis a war of ideas all the way down. Feel free not to care at all about what I say. I’m not paying you to listen.
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  311.  @quigonjinn3567  let’s go with the Roman god Sterquilinus. 😀
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  312.  @quigonjinn3567  Hard to argue with that.
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  313.  @blackhoodie4170  Not on the least. I’ve been fighting LGBT discrimination in society since I was very young. You, on the other hand, need to get some help for your transphobia.
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  314.  @Nova_Jan  Yep.
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  315.  @urlocal_grape  Have you ever known any trans people personally? Transition takes time and it's pretty clear what's happening along the way. It's not as if they're happy and well adjusted in their gender one day and then bang then they aren't the next day and are cross dressing. Discovering your gender identity is a lengthy process and this certainly wasn't the father's first time hearing about this.
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  316.  @JacobM.S  Not interest in having kids. I'm bisexual though, no reason I couldn't. That said, comments are open and I'll defend trans people because they are worth defending.
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  317.  @VaxKuAra  Elaborate if you want to actually have a conversation. You’re jumping in the middle of a huge conversation with a one liner.
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  318.  @JohnSmith-it6hj  Gender dysphoria is a condition not a mental illness, according to the APA and the WHO whom are the world authorities on mental health. Consult the DSM-V and ICD-11 respectively. There have been gender divergent people in cultures all around the world since antiquity. Hijra / Kinnar in India and Pakistan, Waria in Indonesia, Bakla in the Philippines, Kathoey in Thailand, Mahu in Hawaii, Muxe in Mexico, Native American two spirit, etc. The list goes on and on. It is only people like you who mock trans people and call them mentally ill that make the world unlivable for them. Trans women are women to me and I will always continue to support them in their gender identity.
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  319.  @NataliaSeesIt  The father is deeply hurting the gender identity of his daughter. It is her freedom to live and dress as she wants. You call it narcissism. I call it freedom.
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  320. For not supporting his child and having a nervous breakdown on live television because his daughter is trans? I mean, come on. How hard is it to support your kid. What’s why you become a father.
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  321.  @Drainpops  That’s a non answer as to why someone shouldn’t take a doctor’s advice and accept their own trans daughter.
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  322.  @Drainpops  Sorry to disappoint you. Maybe next year, if you’re lucky!
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  323.  @Drainpops  Just copy / pasta some album recommendations in a new comment!
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  324.  @user-tl4ly1fk2p  Articulating your bad faith interpretation? Yes. That’s what we’re here to do. We can talk about LGBT people in 1921 all you like, though. Where should we start?
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  325.  @blackhammer7400  You’re not asking the question in good faith to start with.
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  326.  @blackhammer7400  Thanks for proving that your question is being asked in bad faith. There are no 'good answers' to your question that disagree with you, as you have proven already by your prior responses.
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  327.  @blackhammer7400  It's not entirely a science question. People have strong innate preferences to be introverted vs extroverted, to be generous vs stingy, to be trusting vs cautious, etc. There are trans women in every country in the world that want to live their lives as women and be seen by those they care about as women. The APA, AMA and WHO all have confirmed that transition leads to the best life outcomes vs any other approach.
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  328.  @blackhammer7400  For these people gender is about gender identity not biology. You’re going to a great amount of trouble to not understand this basic fact about trans people. How many trans people have you talked with personally?
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  329. Plenty more needs to be said. The lord and other supernatural nonsense doesn't exist. It's a fairy tale told to fearful people to calm their nerves with simple stories to later extract money from them to perpetuate their existence. Hard pass.
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