Comments by "Chris Cain" (@buffplums) on "Dr. Tracey Marks" channel.

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  2. I’m trying to understand my behaviour, I’m 54 years old. I don’t think I was ever sexually assaulted as a child, I have no memory of any such thing but I remember having an unhealthy interest in pornography and women generally even as far back as I can remember. I lost my mother at the age of 8 to cancer and am wondering if this is a factor. I had 2 older brothers and an older sister and when I entered puberty and for a year or two later I was obsessed with wanting to see my sister naked. I eventually planned it so that made spy holes in the ceiling of the bathroom so I could watch her in the bath. I was also obsessed with getting pork mags, so much that my friends would get tired of me going on about them. Even around the age of around 9 I was with my dad in a busy city and we were walking in a crowd, there was a pretty young woman walking in front wearing tight jeans and I just wanted to touch her bottom so I punched her in the bottom to try to make it look like I had bumped into her just so that I could feel her. I’m sorry for being so detailed but I am at my wits end with it all, I have no sexual Union with my wife anymore, I guess because of the way I am I can’t turn her on this has lead me to a series of affairs and one night stands and constantly trying to find hook up sites to no avail as most are just scammers, but apart from that I just can’t find any balance. I was diagnosed with ADHD and mild bipolar symptoms a couple of years back if that also has any bearing. I must add, it’s not just about sex, as far as I can remember, I find when I’m talking to a women I know or a stranger with whom I have struck up a conversation, I want to be held by them, held close by them and I guess, and this is shameful to admit more than anything. I want to be mothered but I want that women to be naked too. I want her to hold me close and love me like a mother would love a child but I need this skin bond as well? Does this sound really weird? I guess it does but I could just scream for this attention ..... it just won’t go away and I guess I am confusing it with sex? Oh god I can’t tell you how much I wish I could fix this but I don’t want it to go away with drugs or treatment, I feel that the only thing that can fix me is to just be held close and felt loved like I say, like a mother and her baby. The reason I’m saying all this is to see if you know or what type of treatment you would recommend ? I’m sorry for being so graphic
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