Comments by "Christian Baune" (@programaths) on "The Psychology of Emotion" video.
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Exception, you also need "mirror neurons" to ease interpretation. The flip side is that you can usually recognize people by their demeanor miles away, even if you can only see the silhouette while normal people don't.
And of course, it has a huge impact on social life as you don't pick up cues passively. You may for example speak for 10 minutes straight without seeing that your interlocutor want to say something. You may end up timing yourself and actively looking for cues or letting blanks in your speech to get people to speak if they want. In the beginning, that land for weird situations to which people don't know how to react and this, in turn, is some noise in your learning ^^
That's quite an handicap, but in the end, you develop strategies and that includes cold reading ^^
This also lead to what is called "masking".
Now, you may also be describing emotion numbness: https://www.healthline.com/health/feeling-numb#causes
That's obviously another ordeal! For that one, it's important to consult specialists!
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@louisrobitaille5810 You should consult though, that advice still hold. It's not bad to see a psychiatrist and neurologist. Those can really pinpoint the issue if there is one besides "no luck, missing some mirror neurons".
If you are generally appreciated by people, that's even more vital to consult.
At worse, you'll lose a bit of money, at best, you may find out that it can be fixed!
As an example, I was diagnosed with autism early on, when it wasn't really well known. In parallel, I was lucky to be gifted. That means I was able to compensate and be functioning. Though, when I entered the workforce and started to forcibly meet people, I encountered many novel situations in which I didn't any set of rules to follow. So, back to cell 1 and I acted "funny" and was also puzzled by people. Then I consulted a psychologist who evaluated me and told me that I just have to be patient as I internalized some behaviors (behaviors I exhibited without being able to explain besides "it's what is expected, right ?" and that I didn't do purposely)
No medicine, nothing. So, you shouldn't be afraid.
And even a diagnostic that sounds bad is not necessarily bad. As an example "psychopath" looks really bad, but there are good psychopath.
The worse is just ignoring it and moving forward, it can develop in more troubling stuff that could be prevented by acting on it. As an example, I know that I am a bit paranoid, so my first response to any situation is seeking intent (and that mechanism also helps me to understand people), problem is that I have a bias for "bad intent". Because I know that, I can act on it and give a second thought to counter it. Left unchecked, I would resent everyone for no apparent reasons and turn crazy.
Flip side: I became much more critical and objective.
Really, would be good to consult.
I wish you good luck!
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