Comments by "Koko" (@kokoyaro) on "Dating Expert: "Why Happy Men Cheat" - If You DON'T Want To Get Cheated On, Know This! | Sadia Khan" video.

  1. I dont like this word "cheating". It's not an appropriate word to describe when a man simply b a n somewhere else. It has no negative effect on the relationship whatsoever
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  2.  @JanetMacCallum  As you can see from my pic, I'm a big adult male. I have a problem with your (popular) application of the word "cheating" because it does not account for the fact that men and women are biologically different. Males MOSTLY initiate s3x directly while females MOSTLY seek attention which leads to s3x. In other words, the masculine hyperagency vs feminine hypoagency must be considered when using the word "cheat"/"cheating".
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  3.  @Lyuba999  If it's a betrayal then why not just call it that? a betrayal. Cheating is officially defined by Oxford as : 'acting dishonestly or unfairly in order to gain an advantage'. In a relationship, this can range from baiting one's self for external attention, to manipulating their own "partner" for some type of edge. (A range of acts that are mostly committed by women). However, today the word is used synonymously with "infidelity" and/or "adultery", and there's a reason for this switch. Women innately understood that the aforementioned acts were more serious when committed by women, not only because their sexuality has always been their biggest asset but also because they're instinctively monogamous in their loyalty. Men are not biologically wired like this that's why the word "adultery" has historically connoted some type of female sin, not the male. The other morality you explained made a lot of sense until it devolved into femicentric advice/solutions that you CANNOT apply to both parties : "talk to your partner", "communicate", "get a sex councellor", "break up", etc. Men don't need to do any of that. Again, this is the mindset that unwittingly/subconsciously ignores our differences and superimposes feminine 'non-solutions' on everyone else's psychology. It has to stop. We must start by banning words like "cheating" and force everyone to use the appropriate words
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