Comments by "Judith Holder" (@judithholder2537) on "Simon Sinek: "Strong Thigh Muscles = More friends", This Is Why You Can't Make Friends!" video.

  1. This used to be me. I kept on joining things I believe in - LWV, U U church, 5 book groups, a poetry group, reached out to the children of my parents (who were excellent friends). . .finally am meeting people who truly reciprocate. Hang in there, but DO NOT just stick with the folks who will not.
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  2. Today on NPR was a story of a woman with stage 4 thyroid cancer. She let everyone she knew know she needed them to SHOW her love. She was deluged with visits, phone calls, food, letters. She asked!
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  3. Join stuff! Anything! Volunteer at an animal rescue. Find as many book clubs as you can. Find a church you might like? Then reach out to DO things together. You will find your peeps - even if some are 90 years old!
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  4. My dear dad was a lifelong learner & great at community & friendship. He was healthy until 102 1/2 yrs if age. He was not mobile the last 5 yrs, but his friends came to visit & his care-givers thought he should give lessons in being a true gentleman. He had been in the military & he was born in 1920. Community mattered. I heard his final phone call with his best friend. They talked abt what wonderful lives they had had. They both said, "I love you!"
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  5. Must be expressed with kindness, humility, & understanding.
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  6. Perhaps strong family, but what community?!
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  7. The degree of his sorrow was equivalent to the degree of his love. He was blessed. You are, dear longing heart, missing the point / the joy he had. No one would ever have a dog, if we agreed with your thought.
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  8. Here's what i got wrong & you got right. Glorious. I did some contract negotiating & that was one of our methods - stumbled on out of wanting a solution.
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  9. People from poor countries must rely on each other to live. They understand & TREASURE community. This is a generalization, but is often true.
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  10. ​ @MySimDied wowee - they are other human beings. You certainly are missing out on some wonderful people.
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  11.  @MySimDied  not "friends" -- connecting with people, having fun acquaintances, & certainly not everyone
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  12. The Peace Corps was to be just a first step to National Service. We NEED (not want) this! The young people would meet friends, understand the joy of giving, understand something new about our country, & (ohbytheway) HELP THE U S ! A complete WIN! Excuse me, I now gotta write to the Harris / Walz team.
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  13. Or service - teaching kids to read, helping at animal shelter, political action, Habitat,vetc., etc. can all be wonderful experiences with good people.
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  14. The most successful professional teams often function as friends.
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  15. ​ @rosalvabooksllc354 Then spend it in Big Talk, which is why I love going to Chautauqua Institution, to the U U church, to good (NOT insipid) book groups.
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  16. I have a re-newed friendship. She & I chat at 8 AM every possible Wednesday as we live 10 hrs drive apart. Just lovely
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  17. Yep - but that is life. Get on with it. Get better at it.
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  18. Put on your own oxygen mask 1st. I realllly try to take great care of myself so that I can enjoy LIFE / FRIENDS / COMMUNITY! Note: the only thing given to me at birth was my very own body.
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  19. I am 75 yrs old. I would not have learned much if I had not washed & dried dishes with my mom every evening. We chatted so very much. She gave wise, calm, thoughtful advice.
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