Comments by "Dennis" (@Dennis-nc3vw) on "How rape survivors heal and recover from sexual violence" video.

"For my part, I have always thought the PC line on rape damages rape victims. That line: women never recover from it [...]. I mentioned in the talk that I was raped many years ago. I recovered although some attitudes changed. I recovered by dealing with the situation myself because feminism would have left me a wreck, a victim who defined herself by something done to her by a vicious person rather than by my strengths and accomplishments. [...] I see these shattered women being paraded as 'trophy victims' and it breaks my heart. They need to move on from the experience. Not forget it, not deny it...but not let some vicious SOB define the rest of their lives." - Wendy McElroy
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If you are a rape victim, don't take people in these comments as a representative sample. The people who search out videos like this are those who have had particular trouble healing. Rape is a very personal thing and trauma is highly variable. The people you are seeing here are those suffering the worst. You are not necessarily doomed to that. I have heard people kill themselves because their baby daddy left them, I've heard of a man who was rejected by a girl he loved in High School, and spent the next two decades as a zombie, doing nothing with life but working, eating, and sleeping. Does that mean all people who are left by a lover or rejected suffer that trauma? No. Yes, rape victims need sypmathy, but melodrama is poison. To quote rape survivor Wendy McElroy: "For my part, I have always thought the PC line on rape damages rape victims. That line: women never recover from it [...]. I mentioned in the talk that I was raped many years ago. I recovered although some attitudes changed. I recovered by dealing with the situation myself because feminism would have left me a wreck, a victim who defined herself by something done to her by a vicious person rather than by my strengths and accomplishments. [...] I see these shattered women being paraded as 'trophy victims' and it breaks my heart. They need to move on from the experience. Not forget it, not deny it...but not let some vicious SOB define the rest of their lives."
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My girlfriend was a victim of rape. It was tremendously psychologically painful for the first week. She was bed ridden and felt suicidal. But by the time I met her one or two years later, she was fully capable of intimacy, barely even considered it a sore subject (she was a very touchy person and her temper could be a minefield, yet she was surprisingly open to talking out this), and even made rape jokes. The hypocrisy of political correctness is breathtaking. We're supposed to call people subject to rape "rape survivors" instead of "rape victims" because the latter is demoralizing. Yet you literally have people here calling rape "spiritual murder" and saying victims "never recover." There are things worse than rape (losing children, getting limbs blown off) and people recover from them. Rape victims can recover too, but not if they have saps constantly telling them they've been "spiritually murdered."
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That's terrible, your dad is a monster. You need to find supportive people. What happens to us in life is much less important then how the people around us help you cope with it. If you've made it this far, though, you can't be broken.
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EDIT: Look, you drooling lobotomized monkeys. I am literally echoing the sentiments of the very first person in the video said. I'm literally expressing the exact same sentiments as the very first person who replied to me, who said "rape is one of the worst things" that happened to him (meaning there were other comparably traumatic events in his life). I'm literally echoing the sentiments of rape survivor Wendy McElroy who said, "For my part, I have always thought the PC line on rape damages rape victims. That line: women never recover from it [...]I see these shattered women being paraded as 'trophy victims' and it breaks my heart. They need to move on from the experience. Not forget it, not deny it...but not let some vicious SOB define the rest of their lives." - Wendy McElroy Rape is a traumatic event, but its not the be all and end all of human trauma. People like you pretend it is so you can virtue signal, nevermind how many rape victims you may be convincing to commit suicide or give up on life with your charade. None of you cowards really care about rape victims. When rape is genuinely trivialized, like in Stuebenville, none of you are anywhere to be seen. ------------------------- The politically correct narrative is that they never do. The political correctness tells us to pretend rape is a fate worse than death and that its victims become broken, quivering husks of their former selves, even though that makes no logical sense and doesn't ring intuitively for anyone. No one wants to be the big, mean, rape apologist downplaying the severity of rape. Even if they're speaking true. Even if the narrative that rape is a fate worse than death is the reason people don't believe rape is nearly as common as it is. Even if this false narrative would make it more likely for a rape victim to commit suicide. The fact is, rape is a temporary hijacking of your genitals. Yes, its horrible and traumatic, but if that's really the worst thing you can imagine happening to you...worse than losing a son, worse than being abandoned by everyone you love, you are an incredibly shallow and egocentric person.
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You absolutely can. I've known more rape victims then you would believe. My girlfriend was a rape victim, and also dealt with the untimely loss of her father. I could tell the latter was far worse for her, but even those two things combined didn't break her. Now she's happily married with two children.
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"For my part, I have always thought the PC line on rape damages rape victims. That line: women never recover from it [...]. I mentioned in the talk that I was raped many years ago. I recovered although some attitudes changed. I recovered by dealing with the situation myself because feminism would have left me a wreck, a victim who defined herself by something done to her by a vicious person rather than by my strengths and accomplishments. [...] I see these shattered women being paraded as 'trophy victims' and it breaks my heart. They need to move on from the experience. Not forget it, not deny it...but not let some vicious SOB define the rest of their lives." - Wendy McElroy
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What does class have to do with being raped?
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Yet you literally said I was "Judgemental, dumb, ignorant, unknowing, vindictive, selfish, cruel, unkind, alarming, foolish words, and every paragraph an opinionated dictum to mistruth. There is plenty to endure well after a Sexual Assault. Plenty. & on & on it can & does go" for saying people could ever recover from rape and weren't left, and I quote "broken, quivering husks of their former selves."
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My girlfriend was a rape victim a couple of years before we'd met. It was a horrible and traumatic event, and she was bed ridden for a week thinking about how she wanted to kill herself. She avoided her boyfriend for sometime. BUT by the time we met, she was fully trusting and intimate, able to talk about her experience, and would even make rape jokes. If virtue signalling cowards, who refuse to acknowledge there is any greater trauma in life than rape, had gotten through to her, she probably would have killed herself that first week.
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@77777aol I'd love to see you look the most important person in your life in the eye and say "I'd rather you be murdered than I get raped." Unlike basically everyone virtue signalling in this thread, I've known women who went through both (untimely death of someone close, and rape), so don't pull that "argument from authority" bullsh*t on me either. My girlfriend's exact words after telling me about her rape was "I'm just glad to be alive." You insult her by equating rape with murder, saying she'd be just as well off dead.
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@tayclark42 My original response was deleted so I'll keep this short: No where did I say rape was a "small thing." I'm literally saying exactly what the very first survivor in the video said. If anyone's downplaying rape its you since you said rape is "*one* of the worst things I have ever experienced in my life". What were the others? It's quite frankly bizarre you'd put the death of the most important person in your life beneath not only rape but several other experiences.
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@tayclark42 I'd also like to be clear: I'm talking about untimely death here. Although we don't realize it we subconsciously prepare for the death of loved ones as they age. It's when they are killed in an unexpected manner that it is far, far more traumatic.
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@elscourou6654 Jackass, the very first person who replied to me (and got 22 upvotes) said rape was "one of the worst things" he had ever experienced. Meaning he admitted there are things worse than rape that he personally experienced. So if I'm "ignorant", so is he. I'm literally doing nothing but echoing the sentiments of the very first person to speak in the video.
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@lorrainewest7408 The very first person to reply to me said rape was "one of the worst thing" he experienced. Meaning there were worse or equally bad things he'd gone too. So if I'm ignorant so is he you lobotomite.
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@carlosdossantossouza6141 I've intimately known two women who went through both. It's completely differently different when the death is untimely and unexpected. Go tell someone who lost their son to murder "death is a natural part of life."
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@tonyconstable5147 No, you're disgusting. You'd rather virtue signal than let people think rape is something they could recover from. If someone broke into your house and said "Let me rape you or I'll kill your son", not one person in 100 would chose the latter option. So we all know there are worse things than rape, whether we admit it or not. Yet people who go through even those horrors still recover. So victims of rape can recover too.
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@carlosdossantossouza6141 Do you honestly think being raped is worse than, for instance, losing a son? If someone broke into your house, and said "Let me rape you or I'll kill your little boy", would you even hesitate before making the decision to sexually submit? No. No one would. Yet people recover from even the deaths of their children.
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The problem is, people care more about political correctness and virtue signalling than truth or actually helping victims. Deep down we all know there are things worse than rape. We all know people recover from these worse things. We all know that knowledge will help rape victims recover. But people are too sanctimonious to "downplay" rape, so instead they do exactly what you described. Ultimately it's having people around you who love and care about you that really makes or breaks life.
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@itsthemidgetman I've known three women who were raped. Usually they spend about a week "broken", then start acting normal again. Rape is horrible, but there are things worse than rape and people get through them. Two of the aforementioned women I know lost loved ones (a fiance and father) and that was worse for them by a country mile. But they made it through that as well.
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If someone broke into your home and said "Let me rape you or I'll kill your son", not one person in 100 would hesitate before choosing the former. Yet even people who've lost their sons to untimely death recover. Ultimately it's have people around who love and care about you who makes and breaks life. Studies show this, with the primary measure of a person's happiness being their friends and family.
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