Comments by "" (@ronjon7942) on "Do you ONLY WANT SEX?: what women don't understand about their relationships" video.
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I brought this up in a new relationship, and she understood its importance. I said I also require: being wide open and discussing lovemaking like we discuss the book we’re each reading; and that she tell me exactly what do to to please her, even - actually, especially - while we’re performing. And give me feedback on how it felt or feels. I told her how important it was in my relationship. Ultimately, we need to have conversations about it as freely and open as the emotional, spiritual, and mental aspects that we both need.
I didn’t do all of this at once, of course, but when I did it, I was explicit. Seemed to work. For me to enjoy sex, I need her engaged and present and fully aware that while I’m lusting over her body, I’m pouring my feelings of love, respect, and on, into as intensely mentally as I am physically.
Anyway, she’s aware that I, personally, have no desire for just sex. I enter into a relationship only with someone I see a long term connection possible. To me, sex is the ultimate physical expression of love, lusting is deeply intertwined with lovemaking, and it must be present to build and maintain our emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual bond. The woman must know, believe, and fully accept my loving, my connection, and commitment require a sexual relationship to help seal and maintain the bond. It’s just as important as respecting and loving her with my mind and soul and heart - take any one of those away, the relationship will die. Relationships are hard, cuz they have to be constantly maintained and fussed over - I guess that’s why they’re such a huge commitment.
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