Comments by "" (@ronjon7942) on "How to BRING SEX BACK into a relationship: why your woman pulls away" video.

  1.  @МарияК-з1е You’d be at least physically compatible with me, and I detest porn for what it does to the victims. Too bad this is as close as we’ll ever get to intersecting to see if the emotional, mental, and spiritual aspects would be a match.
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  2. I left a sexless marriage after years of both of us being frustrated. I think our drives were about the same, but we could never ‘sync’ up something fundamental that we both had, but couldn’t share for whatever reason. When we did have sex, it was devoid of love; when we had moments of love, it was devoid of sex. Next relationship, we were completely open about sex, and love and lust seemed in harmony. We were on the same page with most things, and I was to take care of her providing security and financial freedom - which seemed to work as she was a great sexual partner, a great companion, and we were best friends. Buuuuut, she got lazy, let herself go, and sex was suffering. When she went from a size 0 to outweighing my 220lbs, I ended it. Dodged a bullet, especially since we were engaged. Next relationship was also highly sexual. We were both around 50, and I wanted the relationship to be permanent with the same love-lust combination, but she either wasn’t at the ‘love’ level or not interested in a love relationship. It was all about sex with her, and me performing whenever she wanted it. At a different stage in my life, this might have been awesome, but we also had personalities that didn’t mesh well. She was a corporate exec and had a need to control, which grated me. I don’t mind being in charge if the situation calls for it and the situation is acceptable to me, but I don’t need to control. However, I reject being controlled - not by a particular choice or because of pride, but because that’s simply my nature. We also were at opposite sides on the political spectrum, and she was into dei at work before I knew dei was a thing, which eventually I found repulsive. Now, for 4-5 years I’ve been on my own, no dates, no hookups, not even holding hands - sexless by choice. I’m far happier because there’s no drama or conflict, although it’s lonely sometimes. I’m not opposed to a relationship; in fact, I very much want one. But my relationship standards are pretty specific, and if they can’t be met, I prefer to be alone. I’d rather be sexless on my own terms than on someone else’s yet still in a relationship.
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