Comments by "bakters" (@bakters) on "Why WOMEN DON'T APOLOGIZE: understanding the nature of the problem" video.

  1. I tried to search for what is the "consensus" on narcissism among genders. So apparently, there are many more narcissists among men than women, and the article (in Psychology Today ) that starts with this premise states the following: "People who are high on the trait of narcissism tend to be self-focused, exploitative of others, low in empathy, and in need of attention." Self-focus - I've never had a male friend who tried to c*k-block me. It's *always the case with the female friends of the woman I'm after. exploitative of others - So, who's expected to pay on a date? And later in life? low in empathy - That one rings true. Men are lower on empathy. need of attention - no need for a comment. Further they say: "a person high on narcissism is likely to expend a great deal of energy on looking good to others, which, in turn, requires a certain amount of preening and prepping. Narcissists, indeed, do like to look at themselves in the mirror and invest excessive amounts of time and money on their appearance." That's an obviously female trait. Later they realize how it looks like, so they try to smear the picture with focusing on men buying shoes... I mean, seriously? Like, women don't buy shoes all of a sudden? Something's fishy here... Now you tell me that it's common for women to not apologize, which means they feel no guilt for the wrongs they've done. Something does not add up here.
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  2.  @msc8382  It seems we disagree when it comes to the core of the issue. I believe that genetics plays a major role in what kind of a human we grow up to become. With that said, I do believe in parenting too. It's just that I'm absolutely convinced that it can't be used to explain the majority of the differences we observe among people. It was actually the surprising , hence somewhat trustworthy, result of long term studies on monozygothic twins raised apart. But that's beside the point of what I'm interested in here. I'm simply puzzled, how come narcissists are expected to be more common among men, while at least three out of four major traits they display seem to be more prevalent among women. So, it literally does not add up for me.
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