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  1. Even thought this topic is often used in interviews made in Japan, I'm glad because the more people get interviewed the more opinions people get and get better understanding. I'm sure finding people who are wiling to go in front of the camera isn't easy. Good job.
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  2. I might be one of the few western women to say this but I really love how a lot of Japanese men don't like PDA. I struggled with dating exactly due to people wanting to get touchy fast and everywhere and I felt always uncomfortable, not to mention that touches scare me due to my trauma and abuse so having to touch someone a lot in order to keep them happy is giving me huge anxiety. So to me the fact that my Japanese crush also doesn't like PDA is something I very much love about him. I don't have to feel anxious or stressed that I have to touch him or show affection and we still can have an amazing time together.
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  3. All of these people were so mature and wonderful. Also your comment at the end was really interesting, that you are learning about Japan more this way, from other people. Honestly, open minded Japanese people like you, who are willing to learn from different people will really make Japan a better place.
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  4. Also I'm really happy to hear you will do the international couples interviews. I really want to know the issues foreigners can have while dating a Japanese person because I really do care for making it work out for myself so I want to get educated by people having similiar experiences.
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  5. Honestly dating with Japanese men as a foreign girl might be difficult and often very slow, in my experience which i personally like because i have huge trust issues and I need months for even a normal friendship which is why I struggle dating with people in my own country but I’m very comfirtable with the slow process with Japanese men. But it’s hard to know how they really feel about you since they often aren’t very expresive when it comes to emotions. But all of it is something That’s for me very comfortable. But these are just my experience and not every Japanese is the same. Basically some are willing to be open to foreign relationship which as an international couple will need a lot of mutual learning and understanding and some just won’t bother. It’s still an experience and even though I’m with my Japanese man for 2 years it’s still a lot of learning.
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  6. The english speaking part is so true. Foreigners take it personally when Japanese answer in english but from all the talking with my Japanese friends, even random Japanese people I meet I realized that some Japanese really just want to communicate in english which personally to me is comforting because my japanese isn't good and I need a lot of courage to speak japanese so when my friends only speak japanese with me when I want to really takes off the burden and I feel comfortable with them. I understand that it's annoying for some but for me as a foreigner that wants to talk with Japanese, it's personally comforting.
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  7. It is very scary indeed. We are neighbours to ukraine so having a war this close it really is a scary thing and I'm glad to see that Japanese support them. People in ukraine are very strong and brave. Stay strong Ukraine, we love you and polish, slovakian and romanian borders are open for you if you need help and shelter.
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  8. It's funny when I hear people talk about friendships. I live in western part of the world and even though making friends is easy here and you do share personal things about yourself easily, I could never really depend on anyone when I really needed something. But with my Japanese friends, i have never met more understanding people. The thing is that making friends with Japanese that would last takes a lot of time. It's extremely slow process but in my experience, it's worth it. I could just tell my Japanese friends my pain and traumas and I never got verbal validation but I got understanding and support I never had before in my life. So we all have different experiences it seems.
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  9. It's ironic how people say that wearing a mask is a pressure from other people in Japan but I experienced the same when I actually wanted to wear a mask. I didn't put my mask off, especially in crowded spaces because I just didn't feel comfortable and safe to stop using it and people laughed at me because I wanted to feel safe here. You get pressure from others in western parts of the world too, just in the other direction. Me wearing a mask doesn't hurt anyone and yet I got judgement from everyone around me for trying to be more safe.
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  10. So sad how they got bullied but I felt that. I got bullied and still do in my own country because I'm east european but I'm mixed with more slavic nationalities. It's sad how it can traumatize people. Same with my friends who are from France and are partly italian, we all got bullied a lot and even though we live in Europe we are still being bullied as adults. So I hope all of these wonderful people you interviewed will have more enjoyable life now. Personally my experiences with Japanese as foreigner have been both very good and bad. I have met Japanese that pushed me away and made me feel I don't belong there but at the same time I met Japanese that made me felt understood and gave me a feeling like I belong with them, like nobody else. So if anyone is traumatized but do want Japanese friends, don't give up. There are a lot of wonderful Japanese people that will care for you and will put the effort, just don't let your traumas limit you, even though I know it's hard.
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  11. I agree with the first girl about how to learn japanese. Dating a Japanese person will give you a lot of motivation to do so and to keep learning lol. Even making Japanese friends will help a lot but if you are closer to someone then you will literally desire to learn, been like that for me. Obviously, don't date a Japanese person just for that.
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  12. Wow, all these people are amazing. You interviewed so many different kinds of Half Japanese and it's interesting to see how different everyone's mindset is.
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  13.  @takashiifromjapan  I thank you for being unbiased and asking different kinds of people. Because yes, most foreigners prefer more open and warmer personalities, some don't. Just like the man from india said. Some foreigners are like me and him who aren't into that feely touching dating and don't like too much affection. My first Japanese boyfriend for example wanted more affection and warmth than what he was given by women around him but I couldn't provide that. So now I'm more comfortable with people who are more traditional Japanese because I like to take my time with things, have trust issues and I'm more independent. But at the same time, japanese/foregner relationship can work out only if both sides are willing to accept each other differences and educate themselves because the cultural difference will be there. But keep making great videos and educate everyone. Thank you for your hard work.
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  14. Thank you for this. I literally came to look at your video because I'm interested in my Japanese friend and I'm looking for ways how to understand him better. I agree with these girls, the language and cultural barrier will be an issue but if both people are open minded, it can work out. Learning about each other's cultures and languages is extremely fun.
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  15. I agree. You have to go through the repetitive process. I strugled so much with katakana, some hiragana and now vocabulary and kanji but I forced myself to repeat it every single day and now when I'm through basics i am so curious about the langauge and everything, I try to read and understand everything I can and it's so much fun for me. I even approach Japanese and try to practice with them now and most are happy to help. But also the mindset is a thing, I was just talking with my Japanese friend how we are friends for a while but despite that our cultural differences are still a thing so it still causes misunderstandings so we are trying to educate each other. Honestly just enjoy the process and learning about different culture and people, the experience itself is worth it. Just like Steve said, japanese is very hard. I'm not native english speaker but learning english, german and other western langauges was way easier for me than japanese so just enjoy.
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  16. Thank you so much for this. I really can relate to the german woman. I too wished I started sooner. Well, in my case, it was about learning. I was learning japanese as teenager but then I stopped because everyone told me to focus on western languages more and live in west. And that's what I did, I gave up on japanese, despite me wanting to go to Japan for a long time and I regret it a lot. Living in western countries isn't for everyone. And the worst part is that there is a stereotype that everyone will fit in there. But I never did, I lived in the west because of the opportunites that my country will never have but I suffered and was unhappy. The thing is that everyone expect to fit in in western countries and those who actually don't will blame themselves that there is something wrong with them. Like in Japan for example people know it's difficult because of the culture and society but if you don't fit in the west you will blame youself why can't you fit somewhere where everyone does and I thought there was something wrong with me for years because of that. So now that I'm making friends from the distance with Japanese and I got back to studying japanese again, I will just wait till Japan opens and just try to come. So I too regret that I was scared of Japan because everyone said so. But then again, maybe if I came when I was younger, I would be probably idiolizing Japan too much like a lot of people do and be disappointed, hard to say. But I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who has similiar feelings in your videos. I see a lot of foreigners with similar mindset like I do and I don't feel so out of place.
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  17.  @sjbsavageink  Yes, a lot of people need touching and PDA to maintain relationships and although I understand that, it's have been the cause of my break ups because no matter how much I was forcing myself into it, I hated it. In my culture touching is perfectly normal so I always feel too abnormal. So to me, meeting Japanese men who don't like PDA is a blessing because I for the first time don't have to force myself to give more affection than I can. And you are right, about putting touches above all being an issue. It's so normalized that for majority of my life I had to force myself to do that just to keep others happy and that messed me up a lot.
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  18. This is interesting. I was actually watching some people who live and have families in Japan and they made videos about some stereotypes. They pretty much mentioned how is living in different cities and how the restrictions are situational. Looks like it's true, you will have different experiences in Japan depending on where you are and on your own personality so basically everyone can find a place in Japan. Thank you for giving us a free tour through Japan and educating us. Kyoto is really beautiful.
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  19. She is amazing. Great video. But I can relate to her. I was brought up in an east european country and even though I'm slavic, I'm mixed with more slavic nationalities so everyone in my country made me feel like I never belonged there. Unfortunatelly for me, I never felt like I belonged in any western country either, despite me living in the west for a longer time. And now with the russia issue it's gotten even worse because I'm also partly ukrainian and lived in west so now people really make living around me hell. Since I'm more open minded due to having a lot of different friends from different countries living in my own home country was always lonely. And I never could fit in in west because exactly because I grew up in a totally different enviroment, my mindset cannot relate fully. I even lived in the Uk but it was hell for me. So since I have no idea where I belong, I'm just trying to meet a lot of different people from differnt countries and see where it takes me. Japan is currently my main goal.
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  20. Well, western men might be a little bit more gentleman like and there is a lot good about them but to me personally Japanese men have their own charms. I don't feel comfortable when the man I'm with is too forward, passionate and puts me above everything else, I feel smothered and my traumas are being triggered so even though I wasn't with a lot of Japanese men, just two because I care more for friendships than relationships and I'm not looking actively for anyone ever, they were the best relationships I ever had. They weren't too focused on me and too much gentlemanly yeah but it made it more comfortable for me. All the teasing and respect I got from them was absolutely beautiful and with the second guy I'm still with, I never felt the same way for anyone ever before. I'm happier than I ever was. I'm basically the loud foreigner that makes him laugh and he is the reserved Japanese who grounds me when I don't know what to do with myself and we complement each other so well. So yeah, international relationships are a lot of work and hard but it's hella worth it from my personal experience, if both people are willing to learn about different cultures and grow together.
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  21. Not the topic since I'm a girls but as an european girl I did date Japanese men and yeah, Japanese are open to it, just like some foreigners would try to date Japanese. The differences might be actually complementary and it helps you open your mind more if you are dating someone different. But for a long term, it's more difficult because of all the differences, it will show. It can work out but both people have to be very open minded and accepting to the differences and educate each other about it.
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  22. I honestly love that you interview a lot of different kinds of people. Even those who are from the same country have different opinions in your videos. I love that. Must have taken a lot of effort and time.
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  23.  @chithiennguyen1371  I don't expect a shallow person like you who is probably desperate for sex and affection to undertand what love is lmao Have your own weird expectations of a relationships without pushing it on others.
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  24. I love Oriental Perl so much. She is the kind of foreigner I aspire to be like. One that doesn't stick to her own cultural bubble but want to experience different culture with everything that comes with it. I too am losing slowly my other western friends because we are not having anything in common anymore. I enjoy getting to know my Japanese and Chinese friends and I'm not going to give up studying Japanese until I'm at her level. Congratulations, hope we get to see a lot of videos from the wedding.
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  25.  @seikothechildofGod  They want it just like foreign people want to experience a Japanese person. Doesn’t apply for most.
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  26. Thank you for this. I'm trying to save up so I can go to Japan either as student or working because it's getting impossible to live here at this point and it doesn't seem to get better so I appreciate all the information you are giving us.
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  27. Honestly, I do have hope for Japan that it will get better and better. Japan has always been good in taking good things from other cultures while they are also very aware of other people. As East European living in the west I have been suffering a lot. The too aggressive and individualistic mindset where you have to bulldoze through everything isn't for me. We have destroyed economy, war, so that sort of life style isn't for a lot of us. So hopefully with how younger Japanese are aware of everything, that it will become a nice blend between east and west for people who just want to live in peace and safety.
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  28.  @serenacula3256  YOU ACTUALLY MET FRENCH THAT SPEAK ENGLISH? I WAS WORKING IN FRANCE AND LITERALLY NOBODY SPOKE ENGLISH EXCEPT ONE FRIEND i HAVE TO THIS DAY.
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  29. Wow, you really don't shy away even from difficult interviews. You are amazing.
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  30.  @ruturajgole1850  I disagree. I come also from a developing country and I could never rely on anyone from my country, while people from richer western counries were always acting like they are better instead of helping. Even if you watch other rich westerners like americans, a lot of them don't like living in Japan while few think it's the happiest time of their lives and even got married to a Japanese. So I think it depends on the personality. I struggle with having good friendships with westerners because even though I'm one myself I just don't like how intrusive, loud and selfish they are. While I vibe very well with my asian friends and even Japanese ones. Heck, I met my Japanese best friends the way that I literally asked them for help because my western friends were too busy being defensive instead of helping me. While Japanese, even tough i was a complete stranger, I was met with so much kindess. Granted, some Japanese literally told me they hated me but that happens rarely. So I guess it depends on the individual and on how much time and effort they are willing to spend on a person. Because making asian friends and Japanese in particular takes a lot of time and it's a slow process in my experience but to me it was worth it. I got more help and understanding from them than I ever got from my own people.
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  31. I relate so much the guy from Sweden. My Japanese crush is also very honest but at the same time he is still Japanese so he has that empathy towards other people and I'm absolutely in love with that. You see, among western friends you do say whatever you want but everyone is so focused on their own originality that getting any sort of empathy is difficult. Which is something that comes so natural from him and it's something I have always desired. But despite that there are still a lot of cultural and personality differences so thank you so much for these videos. We both are trying to compromise and learn about each other but I really want to educate myself more on your culture so it's going to get a little easier. I hope all these wonderful couples will have a long and happy life. Everyone is so helpful and amazing.
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  32.  @kuyahkudey3217  that's what most people think. But me and a lot of my friends from other European countries like France, Germany and UK have experienced mostly the hateful side. Europe is not all free and cool as people think. Now with the war it's getting actually worse. Europe is falling back to extremism.
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  33. Japan has clearly a long way to go but I'm so glad that the lgbt people you interview are happy and feel safe in Japan. They deserve to feel safe and happy. Nice interview, Takashii.
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  34. That's actually same with my crush. He is actually more honest but at the same time he keeps a lot inside and expressing emotions for him is very difficult. However when I ask him to be more straight forward with me and when he sees that I can't understand what is wrong he either expresses or just accepts that I can't read between the lines even if my life depended on it. But at the same time he shows he cares for me with his actions so I still feel cared for. The communication indeed is tricky but can be worked on if both parties put effort in.
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  35.  @SamuraiSx19  Yes, I noticed it from all the likes and positive comments I got that I'm not the only one. Which is nice. All of my western friends are too touchy and I always felt like an alien for being different. It's hard to notice because usually you see people complain when dating Japanese that they are cold and stuff and how unhappy they are with them but I'm unhappy with men who need a lot of intimacy because I can't give that to them. So it's nice to see there are people like me too.
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  36.  @alexandraveloso9604  Thank you. It's slowly getting better. The Japanese man I'm with is extremely helpful and supportive in ways nobody ever was before so maybe I'll heal one day.
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  37.  @MariaD.L.  You people have no idea how happy you all making me with your comments. I don't feel so lonely. Each time I say anything positive about my experiences with Japanese men and I get a bunch of people judging me because I feel comfortable with less motional and touchy men. Glad to see I'm not alone.
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  38.  @robobin  I did not say they are all the same. I said it happens with Japanese men way more often than with western men. My first Japanese boyfriend was also into touching a lot which made me uncomfortable. Stop telling people they are assuming while you are jumping the gun yourself. It should not have to be said that every Japanese person is the same. People who have common sense know that they too are all different
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  39. I love how a lot of Japanese in your interviews want to visit other countries but at the same time are content to be in Japan. Considering how the rest of the world falls appart and how dangerous it is everywhere now, it's no surprise.
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  40.  @gnihi1  that’s such a biased article like most people have about Japanese. I didn’t even meet such Japanese yet and I talk with Japanese every day. Most are trying to speak English to help me because they know I struggle but if they see I’m trying to speak japanese they talk normally with me. And trust me, I’m far from a Japanese. Maybe people should stop acting like all Japanese are proud imperialist and treat them like every other person tbh.
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  41. Omg, she is so cute and I'm glad she is doing well. I'm curious about her experiences and her work so another reason for me to create tiktok lol
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  42. Omg, these people said so many useful information. Thank you so much for this video, Takashii.
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  43.  @Maidaseu  ah of course there will be people coming here totally missing the point. No, I literally said in the end that it should not be the main reason. It's not the most enjoyable way because it's the hardest way. Because there will be clash of cultures that won't be so problematic among strangers or just friends, but it will force you to learn to communicate better because you will have to deal with relationship issues and you will be forced to learn how to express yourself better so your Japanese lover will understand you and you will understand them, simply because you love them. I don't know why It needs to be said but apparently it has to be said. This is not to encourage dating Japanese people for any wrong reason, just like foreigners wouldn't want it if Japanese dated them just to practice english.
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  44. Congratulations on getting a sponsor, you are doing a great job. Also I love getting snacks from Japan so I might try them out.
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  45. It's sad but racism is everywhere. I haven't personally got too bad forms of racism from Japanese. Unlike in my home country in Europe where I got spit on, harassed, stalked, sexually asaulted, mugged, being refused service from official authorities, ignored or harassed by police, and the list goes on. Surely that happens to people in Japan too but just saying it sadly happens everywhere, there is no country without racism. But comparing it to other countries, I personally haven't gotten too strong forms of it from Japanese. But do interview people with other skin tones so people can get really different kinds of opinions.
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  46.  @Mig54Ru  Yes, we know Ukraina has been suffering for years. But not everyone knew. So they at least show support now. It's they can do unfortunately.
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  47.  @kuyahkudey3217  I mean, the first biggest crisis in Europe and most European countries jump into fascism and extremism. If that doesn't give you a hint
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  48.  @samuraijosh1595  Well, that depends on the person since not every Japanese is the same of course, just like any other person. And I'm not really into dating in general so I don't date much. But from personal experiences, the best relationships I had were actually with Japanese guys. And that included solving conflicts and break ups.
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  49.  @onzeeotherside3848  you have close minded people everywhere. Foreigners can be as and even more close minded than Japanese. They are people like everyone else, some close minded, some open minded, it's about meeting the right people.
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  50. I really agree with the french girl at the end. As someone who made Japanese friends, I can say that I like the way they do it more. Like she said, it takes a lot of time and effort but when they see you really care and really mean it, it's one of the best friends I ever had. I know it's something a lot of people can't relate to me but I was always very traumatized and I have extreme trust issues so I like the slow paced Japanese style. I always made friends fast but it was always the reason I suffered a lot. I agree it's a little difficult to make japanese friends but as someone who never trusts or likes a person unless I known them at least for 6 months. It's the reason i struggled a lot with even people in my own country because I won't open to people fast. So for those who struggle and want Japanese friends, don't give up, it's a very rewarding experience but it will take a lot of time and effort. The friendships I have with my Japanese friends are the most honest and best friendships I ever had. I believe we all should make friends outside of our cultural bubble, even if it's difficult. It's how we grow as people.
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  51.  @alessandromike9684  Thank you, you too and if you don't find your happiness, it will be still worth the experience. Learning about different cultures and experiencing them instead of being stuck in your own cultural bubble will help you grow as a person.
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  52. I can relate to the guy from Ukraine. As an east european myself, we don't really vibe well with people from west, now with the whole conflict thing and listening people's opinions, even less so I can totally understand him. Thank you for this video, it was very interesting. I think I'm stuck with my japanese now, I guess there is really only so much I can do by myself. I will think about people's advices here.
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  53.  @2DarkHorizon  I don't know how me saying that such a relationship needs mutual understanding from both parties is blaming asians, or disrespecting their culture but alright.
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  54.  @alessandromike9684  I understand that very much. I'm from east europe, the economy here was always bad so a lot of east europeans know a lot of languages because the only decent jobs here are those for foreign companies. That's how I ended up living in west as well. The pay was good but I always felt lonely. I'm an extrovert and yet unless i was being a people pleaser, I could never keep friendships with westerners, to the point I was so lonely I started with self harm. I hated the food, the treatment I got. Not everyone knows but there is a hierarchy in Europe and you are treated in a certain way depending on where you are born. That's why you see a lot of east europeans and russians in japan. We have destroyed economy, war and a lot of us don't have the drive and aggressiveness that you need to survive in the west. In west you need to buldoze through people or be a people pleaser if you want to be happy. Yes, i could wear blue hair but i didn't fit in anyways. As for your fear, I understand it, look through youtube and see what experiences people have, maybe try to make some Japanese friends through twitter or gaming and think about it if you can handle being away for a long time. As for me, now because of the war, we all have lost everything, you have nothing to lose if you don't have anything and I was always lonely so it's nothing that would be new to me even if it would be hard for me there.
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  55.  @ruturajgole1850  And yes, we also have tight knit communities and everyone is invasive and I always hated it. I hated that everyone around always knew what's up because it was annoying and useless to me. I love my independence while I can rely on people to be there when I need it. Which is what I have with my Japanese friends.
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  56.  @Jordan-inJapan  Yeah, maybe it's the culture. I'm also an emotional and traumatized person so to this day I still end up asking him if he is angry when I feel like he is shutting down and stuff because I can never tell his feelings. But at the same time he is an amazing listener which helps my chaotic and traumatized personality. What I found helpful is to just learn to express your own feelings and just ask how the other person feels becasue in my case I just can't tell, even if I try hard. So it really takes a little bit more effort. Good luck on your marriage. I hope you two will be happy forever.
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  57. ​ @alexanderalwayslate3855  So you are basically American who thinks their country and opinion is the only one valid? Got it!
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  58.  @TheFreshEC  Call me whatever you want if that makes you feel better. Good for you if you feel safe. A lot of other people out there less fortunate and privileged can't relate. I made the mistake of trying to live in western countries to escape poverty but all it did was make me scared to try to live abroad again, despite my country being economically destroyed and impossible to live in anymore. Watching my american friends crying over their loss of children while they thought they were safe in schools, knowing children has to learn how to avoid gun shots in schools, that's not being safe. Visiting yes, if you stay in touristic destinations then yes, every country is safe but assuming every country is totally safe is extremely naive.
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  59.  @TheFreshEC  Also nobody is saying that Japan is utopia, it's just your bias translating comments into that. But it IS one of the safest countries and for people who come from countries who are not so safe, that's a huge plus.
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  60.  @marc9080  Of course it's impossible when you expect to get friends in Japan the same way like in western countries. My japanese is awful and yet I have a Japanese boyfriend and friends. But it took a lot of time. Japanese friendships develope very slow. of course it's not for all but it was in my experiences and with many others. Just because it's impossible for you, it doesn't mean it's for others. Also, you putting every Japanese person in one bag is probably why you can't make any friends. They are people and different like in any other country.
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  61. Thank you for sharing this experience. I would like to ask if it's possible to teach english in Japan even if I have problems speaking in public and my japanese is very beginner level. And I'm not native english speaker either. Would it be still possible to do and is it possible to live off solely from that? I'm from eastern europe and we are used to have at least 2 jobs to make amends and teachers here rarely earn enough to be able to live off teaching so I wonder how it is in Japan.
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  62.  @Jordan-inJapan  Yes, I think it would definitely be useful. I think a lot of people would like to experience living and working in Japan but are scared to do so due to lack of informations. Since you have experience it would be great to share them
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  63.  @Jordan-inJapan  Are there any reliable pages that are able to help find jobs for foreigners in Japan? For those who don't have money to travel back and forth.
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  64.  @rhiannn3416  Thank you. You are really good. Sadly my japanese is worse and my crush's english isn't that great either so we are not pursuing anything more for now. But he as well is extremely patient so I'm still very happy. Patient Japanese men are the best, aren't they?
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  65.  @furo.v  I don't understand the connection but ok lol
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  66. How about you, Takashii? what kind of girl do you like and would you date a foreign girl? Asking for a friend.
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  67. I'm hopeful that Japan will change for the better and slowly open up more. I mean, just from what I have seen, Japanese seems to want to interact with foreigners and other way around more lately. And from personal experiences, the intercultural intearactions are amazing. My best friend is Japanese and I'm from East Europe so he is teasing me about the bad situation here, I'm teasing him about Japanese stereotypes and we both are respectful enough to not drive it too far and it's the most fun interactions I have had. So let's hope everyone will feel better soon. I'll check your channel too. I'm curious about everyone's experiences in Japan.
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  68. As someone who struggles with kanji, go for it. It's hard but actually fun to learn. If you go slowly with it, you won't feel so overwhelmed. Good luck.
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  69. Thank you for making interviews with so many different people. It really educates people a lot and I'm always happy when I see you post any video.
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  70.  @Greenforrest7342  i'm not blaming anyone. I literally said it's difficult because of the cultural difference, which means it goes for both parties but okay lol
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  71.  @1412Bunny  Yeah, like few countries. With all the wars, poverty and mass shootings it's hard to notice.
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  72.  @acolyte1951  Right? I would like to know in what kind of alternative reality they live or how priveleged they are when they think the world is so safe lmao. I haven't known peace my entire life, there is just violence abroad, war is surrounding my borders. It's funny to see people this naive.
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  73. But also I usually love your videos but like many people already pointed out, I don't think it's fair to make few people in questionable area of Tokyo represent a whole country on such an already stereotyped topic. You would do this to a similar city and area in any other country and you would get the same exact responses. It really can give people the wrong idea.
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  74.  @Jordan-inJapan  I'm from east europe, if I can get paid enough to support myself and have a decent life while learning about a different culture, that's good enough for me. I originally wanted to try to study in Japan but I don't think I will be able to save enough money for that so working will probably be more important for me. Would japanese or english profeciency tests be helpful in this or it wouldn't matter? And thank you for your help, I really appreciate it.
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  75.  @gnihi1  of course. I was scared to make Japanese friends because of the negative opinions and my first experience was bad with them but it’s just few really
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  76. I actually disagree that westernized Japanese are better to get along with. I saw westernized Japanese who were the most close minded people, but also those who were really open minded. And the same with those who aren't westernized. I think it depends like in every culture on the personality. I don't get along with my western friends so to me talking with my Japanese friends, even when they can't speak english is very refreshing. They are willing to learn about my culture and behaviour and I do the same from them. So I think it really depends on the person and their personality. But then again, I enjoy being around people who complement me, rather than those who are like me. I mean, the way my Japanese best friend who always listens and tries to translate what I say in english when I have a mental breakdown and even when he struggles a lot in english, he makes me write my problems and makes sure he understands me and comforts me. I have never seen anyone going that far for me, ever. It means the world to me. It gives me a drive to learn more Japanese faster so I can express myself properly without causing troubles to him.
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  77.  @maegalroammis6020  I don't really care about that since I have been back stabbed by a tons of non Japanese people so I have huge trust issues anyways no matter who the person is or where they are from.
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  78.  @LMLification  And this mindset is exactly why you people have no Japanese friends. You don't want to be generalized but you have no troubles doing it to others. I saw you speak for 5 seconds and even I as a non Japanese wouldn't want to be your friend lol.
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  79.  @Jordan-inJapan  Alright, thank you very much.
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  80.  @Jordan-inJapan  Thank you so much
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  81.  @daniellemonte1228  Thank you
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  82. I like how the guy with foreign friends said it straight that people cheat a lot in any country. Which is true. I know I will get people getting upset on my comment but I have experienced more cheating in my own country than when I was dating Japanese guys. I know I was never cheated on while being with a Japanese so cheating to me is not Japanese problem, it's world wide problem. So glad some people are making it clear. However the prostitution thing not being seen as cheating is very different from other countries, that is why it's important to make it clear about rules what is cheating to you if you do want to date in Japan or in a different culture in general. Also I will not answer or look at any comments. Since I am in a happy relationship with a Japanese guy and I'm tried of being strereotyped and judged constantly from people not knowing or caring about that. Just saying my two cents because it has to be said so any comments will be ignored. I literally just straight up told my partner early on that it will hurt me if he will be with anyone else ever and he has never done that. I was always the only person he prioritized.
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  83. Japanese guys, have more confidence. Yes, there are foreign girls who aren't interested in dating Japanese men but a lot of them are and find you cool and attractive. Don't be scared of us.
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  84. @WhAtEveRrr Maybe try to be less condescending? Just a thought. I didn't agree on the tight knit communities being always a good thing, not about his indian culture. I'm not indian so obviously I can't say much about that. But it's an answer on my comment so i obviously will state my opinion. I got more help from Japanese than from my own tight knit community so obviously I will have different experiences. If others have different experiences, then good on them. Nobody asked me if I agree or not just like nobody asked about your opinion and here you are. We don't always get what we ask for.
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  85. @WhAtEveRrr You are right, this conversation is indeed stupid when you think disagreeing with someone is a personal attack on them. I thought people are free to agree and disagree with other people. Lol my bad. Have fun proving my point even further. I literally just explained that I disagreed with tight knit communities aren't always good for everyone because of everyone's different experiences and yet you read it as some sort of attack. Maybe take your own advice and go read what you are saying instead. But yes, this is stupid so I won't bother with it anymore. Have fun.
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  86. I love this interview so much. Yes, I'm sure a lot of Japanese elders aren't this nice and open minded but I live also in a country that's getting older. Not because babies aren't born here but young people are escaping my country so interacting with older people is very normal here and it's unbearable anymore. The desire for people to go back into socialistic regime and extremism by literally anyone is really hard to handle. So I'm always surprised that these interviews with Japanese older generation is so heart warming, and it's not just your interviews, it's most interviews by other youtubers I have seen as well. So to me personally it just warms my heart. Again, yes I am aware it's not all, for those who want to be negative but I just loved the vibe and the advices the people gave. Thank you.
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  87. Right? I watch her for a long time now and watching her, it just pushes me to through the parts of my japanese where I'm stuck now. I love how she is inspiring us all.
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  88. But you are right about the fact that at least you don't have kids in the slums like this in every city. My country reached economical bottom because of war in ukraine and people have nothing to live from so a lot of people end up like this or they are commiting mass su*cides so honestly, keep that positive attitude that it's not as awful as elsewhere.
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  89.  @ninanana337  No problem. Kanji is hard so i think we all need all the encouragement we can get lol
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  90. I totally agree. That's what i was saying. Not every Japanese person is the same. It depends on their upbringing and where they live and on overall personality. Of course not every Japanese is nice and open to foreigners and of course it's not easy. Even for me it took a long time till I got close with my now best friend who is Japanese. It takes a lot of effort and work from both sides but if it works out, it's worth it. I mean, the first Japanese friend I ever made told me she hated me after few months and I experienced both sides. But usually every time I asked a Japanese person for help, even when we were strangers, they always helped me. But everyone has different experiences and that's okay.
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  91.  @smollilbean  Oh I didn't know that. That's interesting.
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  92.  @ElanaVital83  Bro, I'm on asexual spectrum and know myself what I like and don't my whole life. Mind your own business instead of comparing my love language and intimacy to stuff like alcohol and camping. Shows how bad your therapy is going when you can't even know the difference between these things. Pityful.
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  93. Nice to see your friends. Say Hi to him. He is cool.
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  94.  @bokumo7063  I totally agree to this. I have had good and bad experiences with Japanese and none two people were the same. Sure, there are certain aspects that are tied to culture that make them certain way but it doesn't mean everyone is the same.
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  95. This is very educational because I'm deciding if I want to get student or work visa. I'm fluent in english and I'm working on getting the highest exams to prove it right now but I'm still not native english speaker. So if I don't manage to go via an international company, I might take the advice of the italian girl and go as student first. Thank you very much for this video, it helped me a lot.
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  96.  @serenacula3256  😂😂😂😂 but I can’t speak French at all. Lmao I died
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  97.  @gnihi1  really? I’m glad. I don’t read comments because I don’t trust YouTube community. Just stating what I see people talk. It’s especially painful when people are like to my friends who are the most tolerant and understanding people I ever met and people judge them just because they are Japanese. I also get people complain when I say something positive about them here so I’m glad most people in the community are nice
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  98.  @SevaryeaDuh  Well right now, Japan only allows people to get into the country on student or work visa. There are universities that accept foreigners as students or find a job there through internet. YOu are native english speaker so english teaching job or something should not be so hard for you. And go from there
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  99. I love how different opinions Japanese have about America. We have a war between Russia and USA right next to us about to happen so our country is really torn between the two sides so I can completely understand their views. But yes, it's a good thing you want to travel and try to live elsewhere because that's how we educate ourselves, by meeting a lot of different people. Some people feel good in USA, some don't feel safe there. I hope your dream comes true and good luck.
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  100. Also I think he said you look like your mother because you are so handsome, Takashii.
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  101.  @FSVR54  Lol how exactly me sharing my personal experiences is putting everyone into one mold? Like you all don't assume things about me just because I have different experiences than others commenting here. Maybe mind your own business instead of getting offended over things that doesn't concern you. I shared my personal experiences, if that offends anyone, that's honestly not my problem.
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  102.  @FSVR54  Hmm, pretty aggressive for someone who says they are not offended. Well, thank you for proving my point in my comment lmao If the shoe fits, wear it.
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  103. Omg, that is a real thing?
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  104.  @chey6073  my brother in christ. I'm not calling them shallow for that, I'm calling them shallow for saying my relationship is loveless and that my boyfriend is my father just because my love language is different then theirs. What they said is uncalled for. Go call out someone else for bullshit and mind your own business. That person is clearly an asshole and I am not sorry for saying that.
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  105.  @chey6073  Maybe instead of trying to get offended when someone calls a biased butthole for what they are just because your biases match with theirs or whatever you call a well covered issue, try to actually look at how judgemental people actually are. You don't like how Japanese men act, cool, don't date one. Some people do and they prefer it, plus not every Japanese is the same and realize that Japanese are human beings too and some do like different love language than others and that is ok, but insulting someone's relationship just because it's different than theirs is a shallow move. But that's just me, you people do you.
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  106.  @kerryholland4822  God, I relate so much to this. In my culture being touchy is such a norm and I suffer so much because of it.
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  107.  @samaraisnt  I believe I know better than you what I like and what is comfortable to me and what not. I'm not dating the person who said that, I was talking about my personal experiences as well. A touchy man can never be respectful to my boundaries because it contradicts what I'm comfortable with. Don't take it so personally, darling. If you like being touchy, good on you. Have fun with people who like same stuff you do. Also, people who don't like PDA aren't about keeping a face, it's about what they are comfortable with and what not. Don't let your judgemental mind fool you lmao.
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  108.  @samdatech  not every man looks for a slave like you do lmao. A lot of them actually want a relationship. You are in the wrong comment section. Bitter and lonely group is elsewhere.
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  109.  @vetiarvind  That's actually a view point I never thought of. I always saw it as me not fitting anywhere. But as much as that is true, I'm also able to belong wherever I want. In my own country I don't fit in because of my mixed Slavic roots. And when I was traveling in western countries I didn't fit in because of my same roots and different mentality. Maybe thats why I'm so comfortable with my other Slavic and Japanese friends, especially my Japanese crush the most. I'm comfortable to stand out, to be on my own while very, extremely slowly developing bonds with people who interest me instead of desiring a lot of affection and validation from others. Thank you, somehow I have seen it only in negative way all this time.
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  110.  @yo2trader539  That is exactly how I feel. Just like most people from central and east europe you just feel that people in western parts look down upon us and it IS very hurtful. But at the same time I see how behind we are. Just by actively living and working in western Europe and making friends abroad it caused I no longer fit into my own society. Now it's even worse than before because there is a huge anti west propaganda in my country and I'm exhausted from it because in order to survive we have to adjust to western world but my country still refuses to move on from communism. But all our issues that make us suffer are completely weird to western world because of the black and white thinking. So yeah, you do seem to have valid points.
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  111. No, except of all those brainwashed russians who support the slaughter and rapes in Ukraine. A lot of russians are good but a lot of them are brainwashed because of the regime in russia. I get from all your comments that you hate Japan but idolizing one of the most aggressive nationality isn't the way. You clearly know nothing about russians or know just few at best or are feeding on the desinformation that is so common for russians. And before anyone comes at my ass, I'm from a slavic country, we have been dealing with russians for ages. There are a lot of good russians, especially those escaping from russia but a lot of them are extremly vile and cruel because of all the brain washing putin's regime is doing. Young men are literally coming to Ukraine just to murder, plunder and rape Ukrainians.
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  112.  @furo.v  Some people are just plain stupid, no matter in what country you are but In russia if you say anything wrong about current leader you will get instant jail time. If you even dare to show empathy to someone or wear specific colors that are tied to ukraine, you get jail time. Im from east europe and the moment I showed some empathy and sadness over the war here, which let me tell you, it's not fun to hear bombers every night, I was told that east europeans deserve it and that we all deserve to die. In every english and russian chat, every where, over and over again I was told we all should just die because we doesn't matter. Yes, some Japanese are like that, but you get that in every country. Americans being overly proud of their countrie's crimes are awful, same with chinese who support their regime, same with russians who support the current war crimes are awful. You have those a lot in other countries too. Except in a lot of other countries you get killed or into jail for saying that. Yes, I have seen some dumb stuff said in Japanese chats but comparing to other countries it wasn't as bad or as common. A lot of the time those people got even called out, while I got laughed at in other countries for suffering. Yes, imperial Japan was awful and it was a mistake, every normal person knows that, however those things happening during that period are still happening in the rest of the world even to this day. I see that every day here. and Ironically it's actually Japanese who showed empathy and kidness for my suffering. That's why you see so many russians and east europeans in Japan. We are at war, we suffer both from war cruelty and poverty. West takes us neo nazis and we don't matter. I lived in UK and it was the worst time of my life. Desite me living in europe, my documents were thrown away by officials and I was denied every help. In west they take us as neo nazis because we are white, while they have more racism in their countries than we have here, in our own country we suffer, russia is harassing us, we do know how it feels to not belonging anywhere. Heck, the only things I can order online are from Japan because everyone else, usa and europe including has a ban for shipping here anything. So a lot of russians and est europeans seek refuge in Japan because west is too aggressive for us and we just want peace and it's impossible to live decently in our own country. I do understand how your experiences upset you but Japanese saying you are not Japanese because you hate imperialistic Japan equals to americans being overly proud of their flag, screaming I MATTER BECAUSE I'M AMERICAN, same for russians and their brainwashed brains sucking up to Putin, etc. You have those everywhere but that doesn't mean everyone in that country is the same. Japanese may not be so expressive but everyone is different, everyone is unique in their own way in every country. Sorry for the long rant
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  113. But then again, this is a common mindset. Japanese hating their own country and thinking the grass is greener on the other side and idolizing russians, americans and europeans is the same thing like westerners idolzing Japanese. People need to experience different things to figure out what works for them and what not.
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  114. Oh I have to get into Jujutsu Kaisen too.
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  115. Wow, Kyoto is so beautiful.
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