Comments by "FuzzyPanda16" (@fuzzypanda1684) on "How Hookup Culture Brainwashes You" video.

The depression that comes with knowing that you're living in a hookup culture, where you see it all around you, where even your most socially awkward friends are successfully hooking up or finding girlfriends, meanwhile you are in the best shape of your life, are outgoing and charismatic, and have spent years of your life developing your social skills, only to find that any time you go out, you go home alone, anytime you get a girls number, she doesn't reply, and anytime you re-download Tinder, you once again get no matches or messages, is indescribable. It's a special kind of depression that comes along with knowing that everyone else, regardless of if they're attractive or not, if they're fit or fat, if they're outgoing or introverted, if they're confident or insecure, are doing just fine, meanwhile you've spent years building yourself up in all of those areas, and yet are somehow getting a 0% success ratio. I don't want to hook up. I just want to know that if I see a girl that I'm interested in and approach her, there's at least a CHANCE that she'll be interested in me. Instead of the virtual guarantee that not she won't. The example he gives about Mary, where his friends told him Mary wanted to hookup with him, and the party they threw was centered around that....yeah. For me, the one and only time in my life a friend told me a girl wanted to hookup with me, he gave me her number and I texted her. She asked "who's this lol?". I told her who it was and she never replied again. That's my reality. Other peoples realities are entire parties being thrown around them hooking up, my reality is a girl who supposedly was interested in me didn't even bother replying. I applaud Cole's honestly in talking about his inability to get hard, a problem I too have suffered from more times than I'd like to admit, many of them when I was alone lol. But even still, his lowest point was having a girl who wanted to hookup and being physically unable to. Whereas mine is...well, not being able to get a girl that's willing to hookup with me. When the lowest point being described to you is better than your normal...Depression level = maximum overdrive.
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@Brandwein42 That's the problem with anyone with a platform talking about things like this, especially if it's a decent big platform. Just by them having a successful channel, they're automatically more successful than most of the people watching, so it's hard to relate. Thanks for reading my far too long comment btw, I didn't realize how long it was until just now lol.
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@Icarus-l8z If I was still in my 20's I wouldn't be bothered by it at all. I'd say "ok, I'm doing something wrong, what is it and how can I fix it?". That's exactly what I did back then. Unfortunately, now I'm in my late 30's. For nearly 2 decades I've been trying to figure this out, taking honest looks at myself and changing things. I went from a shy, awkward, insecure guy built like a toothpick to an outgoing, confident, fun guy with 6 pack abs and 17 inch arms. As an added bonus I look like I'm still in my 20's. I made a choice to put in the work and become what I felt was a man no sane woman wouldn't find attractive. I've changed everything about myself. Literally the only thing that has remained the same is the results I get. It was annoying before, now it's downright depressing.
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