Comments by "Mat Broomfield" (@matbroomfield) on "'Female Freedom Has an Expiration Date': Being 35 and Single | Op-Docs | The New York Times" video.

  1. So much hatred from bitter little men below. She discovered she wasn't cut out for married life but doesn't want to be lonely. Is that such a big deal? If the MGTOW movement demonstrates anything, it's that people DON'T have to fit within the conventional marriage paradigm, so why all the vitriol when a woman feels the same?
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  2. +alexolife Why is it crazy? People in general are getting married later in life as they reject the traditional time frames and discover better things to do with their youths. But it seems to me that your entire language here bespeaks prejudice. If you keep photos of your kids growing up, they're not "on file". If you keep videos of you and your long time partner they're not "creepy", so why do you want to paint this woman as some kind of pervert cataloguing her conquests simply for wanting to retain happy memories? I wish her the best of luck. There must be lots of lonely men out there who would happily make a commitment to a smart, sexual woman who offers the same, and the fact that she's had lots of sexual partners will hopefully make her a better lover. It really is simply a matter of perspective. If you come into this looking at women as the villains, you'll find a way to make it true.
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  3. +MikeBNumba6 She dated men who young and exciting when she was young. Now she's older, she wants a man who is willing to show the same commitment she is? What on earth is wrong with that? "Fault" is hardly the issue. It's like you choosing to do drugs in your youth, then deciding not to do it when you get older and being told that you should carry that stigma the rest of your life.
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  4. +Grant Myers SJW? Nothing could be further from the truth, but I just get sick and tired as soon as a woman wants the same choices as a man, she is castigated or mocked for it. Unfortunately, a lot of men's activism videos reduce women to their sexual attractiveness (and men to their ability to provide), when human relationships are far more complicated than that. The world is full of unattractive women with dumb, poor, cowardly men. The fact that you see female promiscuity as a sign of her being damaged suggests that you may be stuck in conventional paradigms that have not always been true. I agree that both genders still see promiscuity that way, but it denotes nothing other than a healthy liking for variety. Please tell me why nightly monogamous sex is good, but sex with multiple partners is bad? That said, you did raise many other good points, among which the most compelling was your closing point about her potential fidelity, which would of course be a deal breaker for any rational man looking to settle down. Clearly, her past actions would speak far louder than her words.
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  5. +Reegish That's true enough, but that risk can be minimised by using protection.
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  6. +Jackman LeBlanc Respectfully Jackman, given that your views are shaped by patriarchal bronze aged values, you are hardly an impartial commentator. That said, you made some fair points in your first paragraph. Nevertheless, I find it incredibly unreasonable that men can have dozens of sexual partners in their youth, and if they have not had at least ten before settling down are considered inexperienced, yet when a woman does so, all kinds of negative stereotypes kick in. I certainly take your point about STDs and damage, but these are the products of CARELESS sex, not sex per se. As for this woman collecting trophies, it is weird, but only because society deems it so. You keep trophies of far more trivial things - places you've been, events you've watched, so why shouldn't she keep remembrances of men she's enjoyed time with? As for your own status, I wish you and your partner a long happy future together, but I do not see your lack of sexual experience as a plus. Chances are, first time on your wedding night will be quick, inept and disappointing, possibly even painful for her. Hardly the magic you are imagining, and without wider experience, your availability of sources to educate you to be better lovers is zero, so you will be fumbling around trying to work out how to pleasure each other for years, never realising how much more amazing it could be. I don't see that as a good thing.
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