Comments by "Pob" (@goodlookinouthomie1757) on "PsycHacks" channel.

Honestly this is what destroyed my marriage. I had no idea why my wife was so determined to squabble about every little thing. And the thing in her case was if I did show any anger it immediately switched to "Now you're raising your voice" etc etc. My marriage seemed like one 15 year long shit test.
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It varies. My ex wife apologised to me one single time ever and that's because she had been an absolute b**ch to me and both her best friend and her mother told her as much. That was the one single time. Contrast that with other women like my sister or a very good friend I have... two women who are remarkably humble and self aware. You take pot luck with women.
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I think there must be some evolutionary reason for it. Women are all about social standing and I think it puts them in a very vulnerable position to admit fault. Men on the other hand ancestrally had to prove themselves with tangible results and there was no covering your fuck ups. This is why men respect other men who take their lumps and learn from mistakes. Just mulling over theories because I've known several women who are actually really good people, but for whom it is incredibly painful and traumatic to admit they were in the wrong.
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@RussellDeacon It's literally not possible that he is living his fullest life if he makes a point of harassing you. The human mind is like a computer, we only have so much bandwidth like the guy said. If he's using some of that bandwidth on you then that's because it's left over from shortcomings in his own affairs.
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@treenincove1726 As it happens I would get married to her again, but that's on the basis that I would be the man I am now and not the man I was back then. She protested that I was controlling and overbearing, when the truth is that's probably what she needed me to be.
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I used to think my wife was some kind of bad person because she never apologised for one single thing in all the 15 years that I was married to her. She was bang out of order on many occasions, but in every single case there was a mitigating circumstance such as I did something that made her react that way or what was I complaining about her actions were perfectly reasonable. I came to realise she simply couldn't apologise because it was too painful to do so. I mean she actually felt real physical pain in any situation where she even came close to having to admit fault.
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