Comments by "Goldenhawk583" (@Goldenhawk583) on "Crime A to Z"
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@goodgurl1996 True, not everything is worth making a fuss over.
But that is not what that person said. I only have the words from that one comment, and that comment makes no distinction.
My interpretation of that, is just as valid as yours. You choose to believe that this person meant "smaller" problems. I choose to think that this person meant exactly what he wrote. All other problems are petty, compared to hers, and we need to be ashamed when feeling bad about them.
I do not think the person really meant that being abused is a small problem, I think the person did not even consider that some problems are anything but petty.
Your first examples though? Having your car break down, when you can not afford to fix it, and you depend on it for daily life. You really agree that it is shamefull to feel down because it happenend? Starving and becoming malnourished because you cant afford proper food.. just accept it, it is a small problem.. ?
I too have lifelong trauma, lol , that is not the problem here. The problem is first, That person did not THINK before writing that comment. And unless you know this person, you can not possibly know what they meant exactly.
I used to do like you , pretend that people always meant the best. Now I just pretend they mean what they actually say. Much easier, and I get disappointed a lot less.
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@goodgurl1996 Ah, you are setting the premises as well, You exclude everyone that does not have friends with cars, access to public transport, can not / have not got , a bike, etc. You are talking about whiners with a reasinable ok fiancial situation, in the subirbs or cities. Everyone else is not inclided, or ignored.
Fasting willingly is fine, not being able to eat due to lack of money, is NOT fine. More so if you have children, children need to eat every day.
I agree with you on whiners, but I refuse to throw people with real problems under the bus, because some whiners are loud.
There is always a way out... so you are blaming people with real problems for having said problems. I think that is called victim blaming. Having problems does NOT mean people are not doing their best from day to day. And I never saud the world is a bad place. Of course, that depends on what parts of it you are talking about. Some parts of it is worse than people are willing to admit( corruption among politicians in charge, is one example), and one does not get mental issues from seing reality as it is.
And why are you making this about ME? "The fact that you are able to type and respond and interact with the world shows us you're still here and you've made it out somehow ".
This is not about me, it is about seing that there are more people with more issues, and that one person being fantastic, does not mean everyone else has to feel shame over finding their situation difficult.
I am not angry, why are you assuming I am angry.. just because I do not agree with you? And the last part.. you are now saying that it is not important what people say or mean.. even if you started it all by telling me off for not "understanding" what they meant.. make up your mind, if it didnt matter, you wouldnt have responded to me to begin with.
I have to understand... I have to understand exactly what I said in my last comment?
You seem to project a lot of stuff on me. Anger, lack of understanding that everyone has individual thoughts and ideas..?
Heres a thing for you to ponder. I asked a person what they actually meant, giving a couple of examples. I ASKED because I know people often throuw out words that sound differently than they are actually meant.
YOU told me what that person meant.. assuming you knew their mins as well as they do.
Npw tell me again why I have to learn that people are different, and why it doesnt matter when you do it, only when I do it?
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